Ep 60: Reclaiming Mind: Stop Lying to Yourself

In Episode 60 of the "Reclaiming Man" podcast titled "Reclaiming Mind: Stop Lying to Yourself," Michael Beckwith initiates a conversation on the complexities of self-deception, prompted by personal experiences with his daughter Lucy's school challenges and the partial truths she shared. He explores the human tendency to lie to oneself and others to avoid disapproval or to enhance self-image, connecting this to his past behavior and general human inclinations. Michael discusses how repeated self-deceptions can solidify into perceived truths, affecting one's self-image and actions.

Brad shares his experiences as a single father, discussing his son Brixton's school behaviors and his own past struggles with addiction and self-perception. He highlights the destructive nature of lying about one's capabilities and the therapeutic potential of aligning self-perception with reality, rooted in spiritual growth and self-acceptance.

Preston reflects on the professional and personal implications of self-deception, especially in creative fields like music, discussing the pervasive issue of impostor syndrome and self-doubt among artists. He also shares anecdotes about parenting challenges related to managing children's behavior and self-expression.

Together, they delve into the importance of honesty with oneself to foster personal growth and better leadership, suggesting that acknowledging and confronting personal limitations can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling life.

Transcript

Michael: 0:05

Gentlemen, episode 60, coming at you live from the Commute Polo Podcast. Today, we'll have Brad Pitton and Dawson Preston, the Southern Connecticut Radomski, and myself, Michael Beckwith, bringing some conversation around Reclaiming Mind. And, haven't had a polo podcast in a while, but sometimes circumstances dictate that we must take creative measures to to get out the podcast on a weekly basis. That being said I was thinking about a good topic to discuss relative to some recent experiences I've had with parenting and particularly my younger daughter, Lucy, over the past several years, a few years, unfortunately has gone through a bunch of different, challenges at school that involved bullying and, we switched schools for her, done some other things, and the whole time Really trusting our, daughter that everything that she was telling us was generally true. And then coming to realize over the past year anyways, at least, and it doesn't necessarily mean that she's always been lying to us, but that the whole story wasn't, told to us, right? And so getting a bit of the additional context from her teachers that didn't line up with some of the things that she was telling us helped us, come to the realization that there was. Some lies that she was telling us. And so I was thinking about this and I was like, why she was lying to us or why she felt like she needed to lie to us. And she came up with the, reason of, well, I didn't want to disappoint you and I didn't want to be a bad kid. And so I didn't tell the whole truth. And so I was thinking about that in the context of myself and how I've often communicated with people with. Especially I would say a lot more in the past with the various shades of the truth, but always having situations in life where I felt like, I didn't want somebody to think poorly of me. So I'm not going to tell the whole truth on this or I'm going to embellish this story a little bit or whatever it is. There's a lot of cases where I realized not only was I lying to others but, also lying to myself. And so that's what the topic of the day is. I'm going to talk to you today about how to overcome the lies that we tell ourselves. And in other ways, I've heard those phrase, from Tony Robbins or other motivational speakers of talk about motor limiting beliefs at the root, limiting beliefs. Most of the time our lies, we tell her some ourselves something enough times until we believe it's true. And so I just wondered what are some of the lies that you've told yourself over the past year or. Over the past 10 years, how have those become truths? And, there's this really interesting threshold and I'm not sure what it is, but like at some point, you're telling yourself a lie. Maybe it's that, Hey, if I change how I tell this story, my status will be elevated in some way. People will think I'm funnier or people will think I'm, smarter, or people will think that X, Y, Z, you fill it in, something different about you than is the truth. And, in and of itself, that might have some, a little bit of truth in it, but at the end of the day, again, it's a lie. It's a lie that we're telling ourselves that by not being truthful, we might somehow, temporarily improve our position in the eyes of somebody else, or in the eyes of ourselves, and it's not true. So, I have been thinking about that with myself, and I was especially considering it when it comes to the perception that I have about what my limitations are. When I'm running, as an example, and my mind says, Oh, I don't think you can go farther. I don't think you can run longer than this. Your leg's going to get injured or whatever it is. I have started to realize that there's a lot of, there's a lot of lies that I've told myself or that my body is, Also encouraging me to believe, oh, you can't do this again today, your body's too sore, you're too tired. All these excuses that, I think at the end of the day, they're ultimately lies. If there is the motivation to do it, you can overcome your body. You can overcome your environment, and you can still hold on to some of these dreams that most people would say are not worth holding on to because it's just not real. Not reality. I know that was a lengthy introduction to episode 60, but Preston, Brad, interested to hear what your thoughts are. I have some more comments I can make, I'm sure. But, Lion, have you found yourself in the past, or as you reflect back on the past year, or past few years, Several years. Have you found any of those lies that you've identified? And by, identifying them and bringing them into the light, have you been able to find freedom from those lies and thus reclaim part of your mind? So let's hear it.

Brad: 5:56

What's going on? Lieutenant Dawson, here. Reclaiming Man Podcast. Hulo, on the go, episode. Love it. I assume that you'll just record these and we'll get them out there. Yeah, first I want to recap after last week, about the funk I was in and, we say this too shall pass and, as long as we don't make things worse and overreact to our emotions or our feelings or whatever we have going on or, my perceptions, it did, it passed, that funk I was in has passed. And so that's a testimony to. Sometimes you just have to ride it out, but yeah, on the on the topic of reclaiming mind in the sense of, and thanks Michael for your. Your intro there Kids can be tough. I have an 11 year old son For those that don't know his mother Was not part of his life. I had full custody. Well, she was part of his life. I had full custody She was in and out of his life Up until last November when she Tragically passed away she struggled with alcohol and addiction and Drug addiction and PTSD and some psychological problems and, around Thanksgiving last year, they found her dead in her car. And, I've raised my son by myself for the first couple of years. And then with my wife, Abby, since Brixton was about three years old, when she came into our lives. And so I've experienced some of the difficulties with, just with raising a kid and for you kids. And some of the. stuff that's happened with at school. Brixton, my son's name is Brixton. He's had a, he had anything from like one time when he was really young, I want to say he was in kindergarten or first grade. He he pulled his pants down. He said he was gonna expose himself to the other kids. And I remember thinking how Bad as this was and My gosh, like what are we gonna do? And oh my gosh, it turned out it was a one time thing and He was very young at the time you know, he I Can't remember the reasoning he had for it, but certainly it wasn't a Perversion right but as a parent, you know, you freak out you think this would be a huge deal Had some issues As well. However, now I think my son is probably more of a bully that he is bullied. I don't think he's a bully in this in the, traditional sense or the extreme sense. But there's times where he gets picked on by some other kids and there's times where he picks on other kids, so he's in the middle there. But you never get the full story from, the child, right? I, don't think. Valuing, the, teacher's input and stuff like that. It's super important. You want to believe your kids, you want to think they're innocent and all of that. And I joke around and I think I joke around and say, they be little assholes, man. Like they're little people, they're innocent, but they're developing manipulation and, they're experiencing getting through life at a young age without being developed and having to work their way. I try my best to be understanding of all that, but sometimes it's just not right, and how to correct them and all of that. Anyway, so the lies, I've got some stuff to talk about with that because, being a recovering alcoholic and addict, I think at the root of that is the disease of perception we talk about. So what is that? That's that you don't see reality. For what it is. So really everything's a lie in your head, right? It's the constant comparison to you the constant comparison of yourself to others around you. And one of the sayings that I probably said before on here is, we are constantly comparing our insides to other people's outsides, and so how we feel, we then compare to how someone else looks and everybody else always seems to look like they have it together or the opposite extreme is there is present when, somebody is, extremely wrong and it's. And it's very obvious, but I have a defective character, which will constantly compare myself to those around me. And I'll tell myself one of two lies, I'll either tell myself I'm better than everyone else. Or I tell myself that I'm worse than everyone else. What I struggle with is, being a right sized, I really struggle with just going, Hey, you know what, like I am who I am and some things, I need work on and some things that, I'm really good at, but for some reason, I'll tell myself this lie that I'm not good enough. And I think this is the lie that, permeates humanity, right? Is that we're not good enough. Somewhere in there we got this imposter syndrome or this secret, that we're going to show up on the job. And even though we were hired and we were qualified that somehow everybody's going to figure out that, it was a big scam and I really don't know what I'm doing. And I think we all suffer from that. And it's really a devastating lie to tell yourself. It can create paralysis, where you don't take any action. You don't do anything because you don't feel you're worthy. You don't feel you're good enough. And and this is where God comes in because God loves you unconditionally, right? And no matter what, you do have this sense of, like, belonging or this sense of worthiness that's just in you if you really pay attention to it. And, to me, that's God. Something's always getting you through and even if you do fail sometimes if you can recognize that there's a, most of the time there's a lesson in there, right? in that hardship, there's some growth and some opportunity to see where you're flawed and where you can improve. And, yeah, so today I tell myself some lies. I tell myself that, I have this one with drumming, because I'm playing at a professional level and clearly I'm good at what I do, but I'll. I'll focus on, some other drummers or what they're doing and how good they are. And I'll tell myself that, man, I really suck at this instrument. I'm not good enough and, it's such a lie, but there's some truth to that because the reason I usually think that is because there's one area of my playing or something that needs work and I'm most of the time. I'm not willing to put in that work. And that lie can be telling, I don't need to tell myself negative information, or negative. I don't need to, talk down on myself. I just need to go, okay, well, if you don't feel like you're good at drum solos, then you need to focus on working on drum solos. And that, if I'm candid that's, the one thing that, I feel inadequate about, but am I over here practicing soloing every single day? No. So. What do I expect? So I'm just not too hard on myself and I tell myself, okay, I'm gonna start to do some work and try to take some action. Physical fitness is another good example. Michael, you brought up is like, Can I go another rep? Can I go another round? When you want to start going to the gym and, I've gotten to a place where I'm, pretty competent in the gym and I feel good about going and I participate in some classes there. Well, I've heard from some people that they're, scared to go to the gym because they're embarrassed of what people might think of them. And it's a lie because no one in the gym Maybe there's some people but typically nobody's judging the overweight person A matter of fact if I see an overweight person in the gym, i'm like super stoked for him i'm always like man good for you. Like you're in there trying, and I have a lot of respect for him. So there's lies we can tell ourselves there. And, for anybody that's looking to grow, trying to, reclaim any of these aspects of your life. And ultimately, have personal growth, there's some accountability there. But also love yourself, and take action. And when you take, action, you move forward, you can build self esteem. I mean, the only way to build self esteem. Self esteem, I was taught is through esteemable action, esteemable acts. I'm a huge action guy. I'm a huge proponent of if you don't like something or something isn't working, take an action. We talk about massive imperfect action on, Reclaiming Man and, that's huge. It's just the action that you take doesn't have to look right. You don't have to feel good about it. You're not, you're never going to be 100 percent ready to go to the gym. You just put on the gym clothes and you go. If the workout is not great, it doesn't matter. Improve on it, build on it. And you'll slowly start to build that confidence and they build on each other and it multiplies and that confidence will, increase and but not to say that you won't ever have, I think that's just the human condition. You'll have those negative thoughts, but it's, what do you do with them? And what kind of relationship do you have with the universe? God or whatever your higher power might be, that you can lean on and you can trust it's going to pull you through and carry you through some of this stuff. So, I have struggled a lot with, lies. Reality can be tough. And so a lot of times we lie to ourselves to avoid situations, people, places, things. But I think that's my take on it for now. And I'm going to head out. I've got the church event tonight. And, and then I've got a gig downtown. So I've got a busy night. Love you guys. Thanks for letting me jump in on here and, hope you guys have a good rest of your day.

Preston: 17:00

Dang! Episode 60. Brad, I think this is your first polo podcast. I think. I could be wrong. Well, no, maybe it isn't because I feel like I, well, maybe I did an intro for one a few weeks back, but all right The concept of like not lying to ourselves man there's a lot i'm like listening to these as i'm driving home and i'm not able to like take notes, but Oh, and just on the topic of your drum solos, Brad, I mean, I freaking love your drum solos, especially like the few times we played with Ryan and he'll make you do like, he'll have you do one. And then he's like, all right, give me another one with cowbell or give me another one with just snare. Or I remember there, you're really good at drum solos. There's when you're doing them, there's such an element of just kind of who you are and who you are as a player with every drummer. Whatever is whatever you're doing. Like I remember the last time we played and you were he was having you do those You weren't paying attention to the people behind you because your back's to the audience on broadway But because he made you almost do like it felt like five minutes. It was quite long and Like the whole street there was like 50 people like watching you in the street. It was really freaking cool So you're doing great on that. That's not to say like don't think about them and practice that so stuff. I'm the same way. It's like, I've got elements of my play and we're like, I always feel like an imposter. It's like, there's, there's so many musicians in the world that get to sort of work for a living, so to speak. But there's, there's only really like one sort of Eddie Van Halen, there's, clones of him or there's people that came after him that are in line, but it's, and that, so none of us are really imposters. It's like, we're just, We're being artists. We're just being creative. And what we're doing is speaking to people. So I totally relate to that imposter element, I guess, in a sense where maybe we're to the idea or the concept of like the line where it's like, we sometimes maybe lie to ourselves and tell us, tell ourselves, maybe I know I'm guilty of that. Like, ah, like, should you even be wasting your time doing this? Like you're not even that good. And the reality is that I'm like, I'm lying to myself because. I am that good. I'm not saying that in like a conceited like type of a sense. I know my limitations and I know what I'm realistically capable of. And so, you just can't believe your own self doubt, so to speak. It's so funny with your son pulling his pants down at school. I mean I don't think that's bad at all. Like that's fucking hilarious. If you ask me, especially that age. I mean, if he was like 17 and like in 11th grade or like grade 12 or something like that, and like did that in front of the cheerleading squad, it'd be like okay, we need to, I mean, that would still be, funny to some extent, but you just can't do that kind of stuff nowadays. It's not the seventies where you guys ever watched the movie Porky's. Do you remember like that movie? We're just different time back in the day. But, yeah, I think our kids, how are they like, it's, I don't know what, I mean, there's, I think there's an element of us being authority, authoritative, authoritarian, like we have authority over them in a good way because we're trying to keep them alive. We're trying to keep them in line and it just doesn't always translate the same way as when, I see how my kids will like maybe open up to like their uncle, like my wife's little brother. Cause he's like a goofy Uncle Grant and like his buddy Tyler. What do we used to call him back in California is we called Tyler Uncle White Claw because they would always, they wouldn't always come over, but when they would come over, like Uncle Grant and Uncle White Claw would, have a handle or whatever and spend the night and just be goofy with the kids. And they're, not there being that sort of on a daily, I hate to use the word disciplinary. Person in it because I'm not trying to say like we, these crazy disciplinary people to our children, my wife and I, nor you guys, but there's just a different relationship there and they know they're safe and loved by us and by their uncle. But it's there's a, they can open up in a different way. And sometimes maybe I'm getting a little off track, but I feel like I'm going in some direction where it's like, it's not so much that they want to lie to us. It's just, they're like, they're not sure. It's like, ah, am I going to get in trouble for this? Or. They just hold, stuff close cause it's just sort of them in their thoughts of what they're doing, maybe so to speak. So I definitely understand where you guys are both coming from with your kids in that, regard. I've had to deal with the bullying situation with Jackson. Actually it was about a year ago and he was him and his, he's got a few buddies that they play Minecraft together and, they, one of their friends. Dads built them like a server like a you can build your own servers to go on so you can have and invite your own people to be a part of that server and have certain games and things like that and They hit they had it was my son and a few of their buddies and like one of his buddies like older cousins was on There not like super old like they're say they're seven at the time I think she was like maybe 10 or 11 12 Like, kind of young ish teen and somehow they'd figured out one of the kids. They were, learning how to multiple spawn, certain things and just do goofy things that would mess with the world. But it was sort of fun to them. And all of a sudden, like one day, like my son didn't want to play Minecraft anymore. Like him and his buddy, like every morning they'd get up and they would FaceTime and play Minecraft together for like an hour. Like first thing in the morning. They just loved it. They would laugh their guts out, walking these chickens and weird things around. And then one day he was just like, all Finn wants to do is play Minecraft. Like, I don't want to play Minecraft anymore. He like had nothing, wanted nothing to do with it. And it was like, like, at first it was just Oh, I get it. Like you maybe are sick of that, but then it got weird and it was like, well, well, what's going on? Like with, this situation, so to speak. And, I guess it ended up like one, one of them, cause they were able to like type to each other and stuff. And someone ended up calling my son. I don't even remember who, but they were, basically just, I think said something like go away idiot. Cause he was spawning like a ton of cows or like something that like, he wasn't. Dick, but he just like, it was hilarious to him that he figured this thing out. And so it really hurt his feelings and he didn't want to play anymore. And it was like that first, it was very interesting because it was a, sort of a dip into what people are talking about with the kids and the internet and like internet bullying, it wasn't that he was lying to us about what had happened, but he just did not want to, like, it just took a while for it to like us to get it out of him because I don't know if he was embarrassed. It's still just sometimes hard to talk to your kids about things like that because they just are, just And eventually, yeah, he was just like, I just felt dumb and it was embarrassing and hurt my feelings. I mean, obviously I'm sure none of us are going to make it, to the age of 80 without our kids intentionally lying to us about going out with a girl or something that we did once as young boys or young girls. But sometimes they're just Lying to us because they're either maybe embarrassed or just not really sure how to, what to do in that situation. And just being honest is like really the easiest part. And if we show them that and talk to them about that, then it becomes much easier. As far as lying to myself for like a while, I feel like I've just probably not since I've been 30, but I just not really been honest about, I almost have like this backwards body dysmorphia where I feel like I, I still look like I'm. 40 pounds lighter than I am when I really need to get my health in check and do something about that. And so I've almost feel like I've been lying to myself about that for quite a few years where it's like you're, you're not that heavy. Like you work for FedEx, like you, you're walking around all day and, but it's like, the reality is, like, I need to be eating better, healthier and exercising more. And I've been in the last year, I've been going through spouts of like working out a lot more, eating a lot better. Then I stray away from it for a bit, dip a little bit back in my old habits and get back on the wagon and it's just finding my way to doing that permanently as our, my older body just doesn't metabolize and do and react the way I was when I was, 25. So yeah, I like this topic. I'm curious what else you guys have to say about it. So what say you, Matthew, you were mentioning you had a few more things you were keen to talk about.

Brad: 27:48

What's up guys? It's been a day, and I've been thinking about some of the stuff we've been talking about and figuring out how to contribute again here. I don't know how long we're gonna be, doing these polos before we decide to upload them, but just thinking about, everything we've talked about so far with kids and, tying this into, I mean, mine. I kinda thought about leadership. Cause we're, leading our kids as fathers and we want to, lead people, right? What we're trying to do here and this podcast through our experience and through our example, we're going to lead people into a better life. And it's not that, we have some superior life. It's that we've been through some things and we've had some experience and found a way to, to overcome that and work through it. And then we've also voiced and talked about how we're going through things currently. With our kids or our families or our jobs or any aspect of our growth. But, I was thinking about in, in, in a mental capacity, how we need to remove the mental blocks and we often define ourselves, by limitations. And we tell ourselves, for example, I'm not a creative person. Or, I'm not a healthy eater. Or, I'm not really a gym guy. I'm not really, I don't really work out. I'm not really a gym dude. I'm not really a reader. I don't, really read. All these things that we say, right? Oh, he's really creative, but I'm not. Or, he's a leader, and I'm not really a leader. And I think, behind those limitations is our potential. And I kind of stole this from him. Craig Groeschel, I attend Life Church. If you aren't familiar with Life Church, it's the leaders, the senior pastors. Craig Groeschel, he's a New York Times best selling author. He's also got a podcast about leadership, so I don't want to claim to have come up with this on my own. But I thought this was really good. And, We need to stop telling ourselves those things. And so What we could do is what? What would I do if I were a reader? What would I do if I were a gym guy? You want to be fit, but you tell yourself you're not a gym person. Well, what would you do if you were a gym person? You would go to the gym soon as you go to the gym. You're a gym person, right? Oh, I don't pray. I'm not, really a prayer, you know? So what do you do? You pray and now you're a prayer person, right? So I think we set up these limitations in our. In our head of what we are not and I think that's all part of call it the enemy call it if negative thinking or whatever it is, whatever it is you want to do It starts with action, right? So You go do it and if it's imperfect Hey It's fine. So Really just wanted to share that You Little tidbit. And yeah I hope, hope to hear for more, some more from you guys on that and see if they can get the wheels turning and we can talk about that a little more. Sorry, the audio was a little weird there. I had my air conditioning on. I was driving on the freeway. It's a little clearer now. But just to add to that, once we take those steps and once we take that action, Then we set an example. People see what we're doing. People see the action that we're taking. So if we want to be good leaders, we start by managing our own lives, right? We start by doing the things that we would want to see others do rather than be influenced by others. I mean, others need to lead us too sometimes, right? You guys lead me. Craig leads me. My sponsor in AA leads me. Every leader needs a leader, right? I think God's the only he's the top of the pyramid, right? So, so we're not God. So we all need leaders, but We all need to be leaders and the best way to become a leader is by taking exact taking action and, setting the example. And when you do that's attractive, right? That's a, that's, that will attract people. Yeah really good stuff. Just remove these limitations. That we've put on ourselves. Because they're not really true. I mean, we say, we, define ourselves by what we're not. But the truth is, we can't really define ourselves because we don't really know who we are. And it changes. It's always changing. And, it'll change today when, You pick up a new musical instrument. Ah, well, I'm not a music I don't play a musical instrument. Well, if you pick one up, now you do. And it does take commitment. You gotta stick with it. But you've gotta start somewhere, and so every journey starts with that first step. So, Figured I would just add to it a little bit. And I do wanna hear what you guys have to say on this. So, I'm passing the baton.

Preston: 33:43

Well, Lieutenant Dangle, I think you hit on something very important there. I mean, I've heard, I think I've heard it like, like said, like, don't let your past define You I'm not a reader. Well, what would a reader do? I find, When I've dipped into doing something like 75 hard where I'm forcing myself on a day to day basis to, work out twice a day, drink a gallon of water, read 10 pages, like do all the things you're supposed to do during that program that I maybe normally wouldn't be doing on a daily basis. After I do it for a week, it's starting to become something I do after I've done it for a month. It's like, Oh, I like reading. And I've become a reader, and then when I'm not on 75 hard, like I'll take a few days off. And it's really easy to get out of the habit of doing that. And then I think, well, why am I getting out of the habit of doing that? Because when I was forcing myself to do it, do to do it every day, I loved it. It became something that I really enjoyed the working out as well. I've never been a gym guy. So when I do 75 harder workout, like I don't go to a gym. I have my own routines that I set up at home with kettlebell things on YouTube or yoga and weight stuff or rucking. And I think you're, right. It's like, what would I, or what would you do if you were that reader or that guy that goes to the gym and just do that for a week and see where it gets you because it's, we're so adaptable as sort of human beings. Not sort of human beings, we are human beings, but we're, we just, we can adapt to any sort of situation. And we live in this era of comfort, which is nice. Don't get me wrong. It's like, I like being able to grab a couple pepperoni garlic crust pizzas on the way home from work and not cook a dinner. It's comforting. It's comfortable. It's easy, but it's much yummier when I stop and get some meat and like season it and either make a steak or make a homemade pie. So, I definitely like where you're going with this Lieutenant. Lead on, brother.

Michael: 36:26

I do totally agree with Preston's assessment. Brad hit it right on the head with those limiting beliefs or the self imposed limitations, the lies that we tell ourselves. Those are exactly what I was getting at when I was referencing. Talking about lying, because most of the time when we think about lying, I feel like we're thinking about lying to other people, and it's impacting other people, but we don't often think about lying to ourself, and what the outcome of that is, and you touched on it, because if you simply believe the limitation, or the limiting belief, or the lie that you're telling yourself that you're not a reader, then you will not be a reader, so then it will become the truth. However, if you do the thing and have the power, as Ralph Waldo Emerson would say, then you will become a reader, or you will become a, maybe not an athlete overnight, certainly not overnight, but over time, you will become the thing that you thought you couldn't be. Be surprised how that fundamental shift happens. and thinking how powerful it is when you consider what you're complaining about, for instance, and then you start to reframe what we're complaining about in the light of or in the context of, what can I change or what can I do differently about this? We have more control over our future because we can choose today to do something that's different than yesterday. We don't have to live by the pattern of yesterday or the past year, which is very easy to happen. And then years blur and your kids are out of the house and maybe you didn't get the chance to be as good of a parent as you theoretically could have been, but again, you can start being. As soon as today, as soon as you start to do the things that a good parent does, talk to their kids more regularly, let them know that you love them, that you're proud of them, that you're there for them. Like you can do these things very easily and change the narrative. So I think that's my hope is that this episode encourages people to think about their thoughts and think about the lies that they might be telling themselves. Because if I look at my life for a long time I spent my innermost, maybe subconscious or unconscious thoughts believing that I wasn't worthy of greatness or a great life because I had done bad things and my past wasn't what I hoped it would have been, but that doesn't have anything to do with necessarily, doesn't have to have anything to do with my future. So I hope that, our listeners are considering what are the beliefs that we have about ourselves. And to your point, Brad, I think in many cases it is the enemy. It is an opposing force that is trying to keep you down in life and keep you from achieving the fullness that you might have if you changed those lies to the truth. Truth being that there's a lot more potential that you have than you know, or than you currently or previously have experienced. So I'm not sure if there's anything else that you guys have for episode 60 here, but I think that's a great episode. A lot of good content for our listeners to think about and consider. And hopefully y'all have a good evening or morning or day. Take care.