Hey everyone, and I’m back. This podcast is more centered around humor and dating in my 40’s and things I’ve experienced. These podcasts will range from 5-10 minutes.
Okay, so this is going to be a fun chat and I can even include a personal story here about a guy I was chatting to early on.
I’ve mentioned this before in past conversations but dating in general has a lot of unknowns, and a big unknown is whether or not the person you’re interested in or fancy is already in a relationship. This isn’t just a problem with online dating, this is a problem with meeting people in person too. Especially when you hit a certain age it’s hard to tell if someone is actually available or just bored with what they currently have.
Let me share a personal story. There was a guy I was chatting with and we had talked for almost a month and every once in awhile he would call, but he would only call around a particular time which wasn’t convenient for me and it would always be in his car. So one time I said, “can we chat after this time?” He said yes, and he called at that time and he was again, in his car. Another time we chatted he called and he was again in his car…now I’m getting suspicious, why does guy keep calling me when he’s in his car? What is with that? This time he started off the chat with, “I can’t talk long because I have an 8:30 meeting” and I asked, “Oh, are you working with some folks in APAC” because I understand this, sometimes I have meetings late at night to talk to my counter parts on the other side of the world.
First of all, he sounded really surprised that I would ask that and he stammered and said, “Uh no, that’s just when everyone could meet.” Now…I ask you…if you aren’t working with international folks why the hell are you having a meeting at 8:30 at night? At that point my suspicion felt more justified.
There are other flags though that can make a person wonder if the person they are chatting with is taken.
- Always giving an excuse why you can’t go to his place
- Not hearing from him for days or not picking up the phone if you call, which totally happened to me with the other guy because I would call him and go straight to voicemail every time
- Only responds to text at work
- Won’t FaceTime at home or only when he’s walking the dog
- One person told me that the guy she met up with was actually wearing a wedding ring and he said, they wanted to see if she would notice. -_- Please. He obviously forgot to take it off
- Look for that tan line on the hand
- He’s rarely available on weekends or days he has off, unless he has kids, there’s really no good excuse to meet only after work
- Only talks or texts late at night, probably when the significant other is sleeping
- Video chat in the bathroom…claiming it’s the only place they can get reception, yeah…this is a real story
- You see him on multiple dating site and the info doesn’t match. Like one site may say single, other says divorced, and another says separated
People are ridiculous. There’s no way around that…even though I’m taking a break from dating apps, I’m still hopeful that someday I’ll meet someone who will be honest, value me, and love me for who I am.
Take care everyone, have a wonderful week and talk to you next week.
