Enlighten & Elevate with Kelly
Thank you for being here dear soul! My name is Kelly and I am a Reiki Master, mother, wife, and lover of all things spiritual. Come with me on my quest to find tools and knowledge for continued spiritual growth. It can be tough to navigate the world as a human and parent. Dive in with me for enlightenment and ways to empower your life! We will explore many topics such as spirituality, holistic healing modalities, and metaphysics.
Enlighten & Elevate with Kelly
Unlocking Inner Potential and Collective Healing with Kimberly Spencer!
Hello Beautiful Souls! Discover the transformative power of storytelling and soul alignment with our special guest, Kimberly Spencer, an award-winning high-performance coach and founder of CrownYourself.com. Kimberly opens up about her journey from a turbulent family background to a dynamic career that spans screenwriting, Pilates instruction, and business coaching. She shares profound insights on how embracing diverse experiences and aligning with one's true purpose can lead to a fulfilling and impactful life. Join us as we explore the narratives we tell ourselves and how they shape our transformations, illustrating the importance of pursuing our passions despite societal pressures.
In this enlightening episode, Kimberly also discusses her visionary idea of creating a school in Austin that fosters entrepreneurship and self-reliance in children. We dive into the significance of holistic education, understanding the energy body, and the karmic wheel, emphasizing the transformative nature of life and death. Through heartfelt personal stories, we highlight how pursuing one's dreams can inspire children and create a ripple effect of positivity. Kimberly's experiences underscore the essence of living authentically and passionately, leading to projects that bring joy and creativity into our lives.
Finally, we examine the evolution of work culture, emphasizing the shift from traditional office setups to flexible online opportunities. We discuss the importance of inner work, personal accountability, and the profound impact of self-love on achieving happiness. Kimberly and I share our thoughts on breaking generational cycles, healing on a cellular level, and the power of collective positivity. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom, offering practical insights into entrepreneurship, education, and the potential of AI as a co-creative tool. Join us for a heartfelt conclusion filled with gratitude, optimism, and a message of community and positivity.
Thank you for listening!
0:01 Empowerment and Soul Alignment Journey
7:48 Passion, Joy, and Entrepreneurship Empowerment
15:19 Collective Healing and Self-Discovery
19:44 Personal Growth and Self-Reflection
30:03 Self-Love, Happiness, and Transformation
41:45 Education, Entrepreneurship, and Creativity
48:38 Gratitude and Lightworker Support
To get in touch with Kimberly:
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https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crown-yourself/id1452686389
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Hello, thank you for being here. Dear soul, my name is Kelly Matthews and I am the host of Enlighten and Elevate. I am a Reiki master, mother, wife and lover of all things spiritual. Come with me on my quest to find tools and knowledge for continued spiritual growth. It can be tough to navigate the world as a human and a parent. Dive in with me for enlightenment and ways to empower your life. We will explore many topics such as spirituality, holistic healing modalities and metaphysics. I'm so glad to have you on this journey with me. I wanted to mention that I also love using Reiki to help me in my life.
Speaker 1:Reiki is spiritually guided life force, energy. Life force. Energy flows through everything and everyone. It's what causes us to be alive. Quantum physics proves that we are all connected. This is what Einstein referred to as spooky action at a distance. Reiki transcends the illusion of space, time and distance to bring calm, stress relief and ignite the inner healing that resides within each and every one of us. I am now offering distance sessions. Check out the links below in the podcast notes and feel free to reach out to me with any questions. I would be delighted to help you. Thank you again for being here and enjoy the episode. Hello everybody, soul family, I'm so excited I have Kimberly Spencer with here with me today. She's an award-winning high performance coach, amazon bestselling author, founder of crownyourselfcom. She helps visionary leaders transform their self-limiting stories, build their empire, stand out fearlessly and make the income and impact they deserve. Welcome Kimberly.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much for having me, kelly. I'm just I'm so excited for the conversation we're just going to dive in. I just know it Two passionate women about like enhancing and bringing soul to life. It's going to be magical.
Speaker 1:It is and Kimberly. You also have two podcasts that are just amazing.
Speaker 2:It's Communication Queens and Crown Yourself yeah, so the Crown Yourself is associated with my coaching business. We've had that for four years now. Five years, oh my gosh, for five years now, and I've just. It's really about the conscious leadership principles and soul alignment in your business so you can actually have fulfillment and purpose. And then Communication Queens is really about how to leverage your voice and how to speak and leverage podcast to be a client and lead generator for your business.
Speaker 1:Let's dive into a little bit about you. How did you you know what makes you who you are today? How did you get here?
Speaker 2:oh, star dust.
Speaker 1:I love that so much a rocket ship.
Speaker 2:I mean, my dad always joked that that he found me in the backyard out of an alien spaceship, so that's not true. I've seen the birth pictures, but I grew up with two entrepreneur parents in a highly functioning addict home. On the one hand, growing up with an addict, you learn a lot of risk tolerance and, on the other hand, growing up with entrepreneurs, you learn a lot of risk tolerance, and so starting a business was a very natural thing. At five years old, I was split testing price points, selling bags of glitter water for five cents or $50. And then it just evolved.
Speaker 2:I always knew that I wanted to tell stories and I was always telling stories as a kid no-transcript. There's no perceptions of like what's quote unquote realistic there's no, I can do this. There's no perceptions of like what's quote unquote realistic. Like we were talking about before we hopped on the podcast of like oh, you know your realistic dreams and I don't know how you can get paid for that. And I'm like I get paid for talking to people on the internet. Like it's just like it's. There are crazy things and I think when we can go back to what are those things that we wanted to be when we grew up and remember those things and then align with that honest version, before we received and accepted all the plagiarized programming from society or caregivers or family et cetera. That that's when we can actually find that true soul purpose pulling forth from us in a greater, grander purpose. And so that was what I did. Is I just?
Speaker 2:I started out my career in screenwriting, started a business teaching Pilates as a side job, ended up turning that into a brick and mortar Pilates studio in LA, and that my first feature film got produced, distributed Lionsgate, netflix picked it up and then my I was only 80% fulfilled and I was like, ooh, I want more, I want more fulfillment. Like what is it that I want? And so I then hopped on being the president of an e-comm company for two years, got bought out of that and then started my coaching business promptly thereafter and then during over the past two years. Then, when I had my second baby, I figured why not start a second business as well? So it's.
Speaker 2:It's this because the whole through line whether it was Pilates or e-com, or coaching or screenwriting, or you know, getting our clients book for our agency communication queens on podcast interviews lives, because the stories that we tell ourselves are a lot of times not true and so often getting in the way of what our full potential is. And so how do we rewrite the narrative that we tell ourselves? And also, how do we share our narrative with others so that it makes an impact and truly lands and creates transformation in others?
Speaker 1:Absolutely Well. Thank you for sharing that. That's a beautiful. I love all of that. I mean it's just really beautiful. You've evolved into so many different things. I mean that's you've done and I think that's just a true testament to all the people who are listening that you can do the things that you're passionate about, that you do not listen to people who tell you or judge you for chasing something that they can't see and I saw a meme today that made me think. I thought of it as soon as you said that is, the people judging you for chasing your passions are the ones who don't have their stuff together, so they're not there, they're not in that energy, they can't see it, but somebody like you, you're like no, no, no, no, no, we can do this, you can do this.
Speaker 2:You will never be judged by someone doing more than you. Like someone who's higher level, who is, you know, making more money. They will never be spending their time like judging. They may give you feedback or mentorship, but they won't be like oh, why are you doing that Like? Because they are. They understand there is I mean there's I'm not a big fan of the word hustle, but like there is. There is a, a trueness to respecting the hustle of someone who's just choosing on this physical plane to go after those desires of their heart and manifest them into their physical reality.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. I feel like it's it's aligned action. So when you're taking those aligned steps. And you know it like you know. You feel it in your body, you feel it in your soul. It's those things that just you just can't wait to do it. You're so excited about it.
Speaker 1:And you know, and then, when you're, it's like you're in it and you're just, you're just, you're there and everything is falling together and you, you know. And then, when you're, it's like you're in it and you're just, you're just, you're there and everything is falling together and you make the amazing connections, you have the amazing breakthroughs and, you know, realizations and all these things in your life just come together and there are lessons along the way. You know they're great teachers. I mean everything is a teacher for us, right on that path but it's just really beautiful how that works and right before we jumped on.
Speaker 1:So Kim and I were talking about how we need to share this with the younger generations and how important it is, and she was talking about a school that she wants to start eventually in an Austin area which is based on entrepreneurship, which is based on entrepreneurship, and I think that that is. It's just such an amazing idea and that is really knowledge that kids need to know. I mean, if you can come up with your own business and be successful, that's self-reliance.
Speaker 1:You know, I mean and it gives you purpose and your passion. And I mean there's so many things in that you know that would be wonderful for children and I also told's so many things in you know that that would be wonderful for children. And I also told was telling Ken that you know I'm super passionate about kids learning about the energy body, the karmic wheel. Why are we here?
Speaker 1:You know that we're only here for a certain period of time and that we never die, that our you know, our energy just transforms, and I, you know we were both talking about how powerful that is for people to understand and learn, because maybe it'll make you less fearful, because you've only got so much time. So absolutely use it and stop being afraid. And you know, the other part of it is, you know, there is really nothing to be afraid of because we never die. We just transform into something else.
Speaker 1:I tell my kids that it's often the things that we, that are insignificant, that are truly the most significant thing. The energy you bring into the world, how you treat people, how you talk to people, what you bring into your everyday existence, that really matters and it changes things, it changes the people around you, it changes everything and it's it's so powerful how that, how that contributes to the collective. So I know people like you, kim and so. But you're helping the adults right. So you're helping the adults right now who are going to be then passing a lot of this on to their children, and then you already have a place to the next generation. So how cool is that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I remember I was in a conference in 2017 and some like we're asked like we're in, you know in heightened state, like we're asked like we're in you know in heightened state, and I was asked you know, like you know what? What is the big mission? I said I want to transform and grow the next one million entrepreneurs, starting with kids. And they were like don't you coach adult? And I said yeah, because we got to work with the parents first, absolutely because, as a parent, I think there is no greater gift that you can give to your children than not blaming them for why you're not doing what you want to do, because so often parents, they treat their kids like the excuse and thus there's blame and resentment toward their children, unconsciously. That thus creates a negative energy with your relationship and a negative paradigm that you are then teaching your kids to not go for their dream because, oh, it's going to make you know they're going to project that onto theirs, and that is the last thing that I want for my children, and so I think the greatest gift that you can give if you are a parent is to truly go for your dreams. Start small. It's okay with being small, and it's okay to start where you're at Like. You have everything you need right now to start exactly where you're at Like.
Speaker 2:There's this thing called the internet and it's crazy how it works. And I'll give you an example, because when my first son was born, he was scared of his farts and I wrote a little poem book that I was like, oh, it'd be so cute and fun to like produce this just as a fun project. And my husband constantly was saying like, oh, you don't need like another thing, like you don't need another product. And I was like but there's something to this. And so this past, like just this past month and this is how quickly things fall into place when you're in alignment I just was having a moment where I was like get that workbook, I'd really like to just put that out there and have that bring joy and laughter and giggles in the world. And I just popped on LinkedIn and I was like children's book illustrator First one that came up. I was like Ooh, and I then looked at her work and I was like Ooh, and then I sent her an email and then a couple of weeks later she emailed me back and I was like okay, we had a conversation both two boy moms, and she was like I totally get farts, like let's do this. And I saw her at work. She totally vibed and I was like, great, send me the contract, let's do this. So I'm now working with the amazing Amanda Swift of Doodle Plug Creations to produce this fart book by the end of the year, for Christmas, and I cannot tell you how many people that I have posted on social media.
Speaker 2:I've had no one that's like that's not in alignment with your brand and no one, no one has said that they were like how do I get this? Put me on the way, let's. This is so fun because passion is sexy and passion is that sexual transmutation of energy, of the masculine and the feminine coming together, where there's a little bit of structure and then the feminine gets to flow and people want to be a part of that. They passion is sexy and it's an energy that then you bring out into the world and burst new creation and people like it. Our base need creation is our base need. Whether you're birthing a baby or birthing a business or birthing a book, like and when you, when you have that and get to fulfill that of that, that desire to create, it's a game changer and it brings forth others into your space because it shifts your energy into one of more joy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and joy. That is what we should all be. We're here to be creators. We're here to live in joy. We're here to love ourselves and be authentically who we are. That's what we need to do, and you know, and live our truth, speak our truth and be our truth, and that's what we're here for.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 1:I love the fart book. I have a six-year-old and she's a girl, but her favorite book right now is Nobody Likes a Fart. So I can't actually wait until yours comes out, because that will be a Christmas gift for her, so I cannot wait. I'm very excited. I'm going to be watching for that one. But yeah, that's my daughter's youngest daughter's favorite book. We were looking for silly books and that one came up and it's yeah, and everyone, every kid loves all that kind of stuff. So I can't wait for you to watch it. That's going to be a huge hit. I can, I know it.
Speaker 2:Thank you. Yes, I mean and see, like that's this inaction of like passion just being contagious? Joy is contagious just as much as fear is, and actually more so because they've done studies with resonance and when people are resonating at a higher vibration, even if there's less people, then vibrating at the, let's say, the vibration of courage, even if there's less people than vibrating at, let's say, the vibration of courage, even if there's less people, it still is tipping the consciousness scale, like because it's literally vibration is exponential.
Speaker 1:That's right and it's holding there for all those other people. Yeah, that's awesome. I love all of that, and it just made it just when people are in their passion and pursuing, just that's when the magic happens, and everyone feels it.
Speaker 1:You know, and you're right, it is magnetic. So when you're living your joy and when you're so happy and you're just bringing that energy into everything you do, everybody's like what does that? What does she have? Because I want some of that, because everybody wants that in their life. They want to be happy, they want to be joyful and you know what it is possible to make a good living doing what you love. It's possible. You don't have to be miserable. You know, I think these are. There's like so much old, like you were talking about earlier. There's a lot of old programming that you have to do the job and you have to work for a company and have your you know your clocking in and clocking out. But I've seen change a lot just in the last five years so many people offering working online, doing things of that nature, and they're offering things that people want, people want, they want help, they want those things. Yeah, hey, buddy, sorry, that was my, my six, oh sorry it's okay.
Speaker 2:No, never apologize for being an awesome mom like my I'm I you didn't hear it because I have a good mic, but then the the babies were like at my door and they're like is mommy there?
Speaker 1:so completely get it, mama I think it's awesome too you're passionate about, you know, because you are a leader and you are showing your children the way. And that became abundantly clear to me within the last year that I came here with a mission and a purpose and if I don't live my mission and purpose, that my children won't live their mission and purpose, because that's how tied we are to our children and to our soul contracts and to all those things like if we don't do, if we don't hold up our end of the bargain, there's so much ripple effect there you know, and it's so we're so powerful and the vibration we can hold of positivity.
Speaker 1:Like I tell my kids too, because I mean the world as we know it it's pretty. It can be pretty scary and ugly, but I said, just because the world is scary and ugly doesn't mean you have to be, you don't have to be that, we don't even have to. Really, I say, you know, hold the love and light and send out the good prayers and you know, hold that vibration. You know people just sat in for, you know, five minutes a day and focused all of the white light going towards peace. I mean, could you imagine what a wave, how things would change if people could just take five minutes to do that, or maybe even two minutes?
Speaker 1:Let's start there, let's start with, you know, and I really think that's that, that's because there is so much out there that proves the power of prayer and the power of holding those, those positive thoughts. It's really amazing to me, I mean. I think it's funny to me too that science is just kind, is just finally catching up with quantum physics, and there's so much out there for people who need that bridge. They need to see the science and how it all works. It's just really interesting to me that for thousands of years you know that they've talked about how we are all connected and oneness and all of those things and it's just all coming together you know.
Speaker 2:That's why, when you witness the world's shadow showing its face, the greatest question that you can ask is how did I contribute to this?
Speaker 1:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:Because we're all connected and so, even though you may not be in the country that's currently facing war, you may have had divisiveness in your heart, you may have contributed to gossip, you may have, you know, projected some things that have some unhealed shadow where you don't want to face your grief or your anger or your pride, and when we can look at those, at everything that's going on in us, and I have a very simple principle that I live by, that is, that which is conscious manifests happily, that was, which is unconscious manifests unhappily, and when it's unconscious and it manifests unhappily, because I truly have, I believe I'm the creator of my circumstances, co-creating with source.
Speaker 2:That because of that, then, okay, if I unconsciously created this and this is what I created this for my own healing, even though I don't like it. And so what do I need to see within this situation, whether it's a personal thing within, like my interpersonal relationships with my kids or my husband, or my businesses, or a global event where I'm like how did I contribute to this? And thus, what actions do I need to take in order to rectify and heal the harm that I have projected out into the world, which was obviously not intentional, but where I get to participate in the collective healing and I think the collective healing gets healed with our individual self-discovery and awareness and healing.
Speaker 1:I totally agree. It starts with each and every one of us and all we have to do is just start doing some of that inner work and, like you said, meet yourself where you're at, just start small, start small. Even with that, you know. You know, just do little things and you know, work through it, because the outer world is a reflection of everybody's inner world. That's why there's so much chaos.
Speaker 1:And if everybody starts to take full accountability for their actions, for their own well-being, and work on the things that that are tough or hard. You know it's. Maybe it's just like I think too. It's perception, right, everything is perception, how we perceive it. So how we're looking, what lens are I always? I talk to my kids too and I say, ok, what lens are we going to use to look at this today?
Speaker 2:You know, I love that question, I love that framework.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I, I have to sometimes give my own advice, and sometimes my kids are the biggest mirrors for me and I need it too, because they'll have to say it's back to me mom, what is the lens we're going to use today to look at this? And it's really powerful. And I, I, I always say children are some of our best and greatest teachers.
Speaker 2:And I completely agree.
Speaker 1:You know they're so creative. They seek joy. Naturally. They want to have fun and be joyful all the time and they ground, they connect with nature naturally. They do so many things that we just need to embrace as adults. We're too serious.
Speaker 2:I think we all need to laugh more. I completely agree. I think adults in general and I think we all need to go outside and play like warrior. That's great. If we're going to have a tea party which, even though I have boys, like I was like I'm saving these American girl dolls, they will come into good use and they, they, they my boys now have like they. They cook for their date, which is so cute. That's what my husband's the chef in the family, so they cook for the girl dolls that are just like sitting there, like mangled in the corner.
Speaker 2:But it's like kids become who they learn. They don't learn by what we say we're going to do to go back to like what doing your dream as a grown up and as the adult and as the leader. They're role modeling who you are and so, looking at that like I'm, I and they also can see ideally where the things that I don't want to role model because that was very much how it was for me where I saw my father and I was like there. He was definitely by far my greatest influence in my life, positive and negative. That being said, like there were many things that I wouldn't, I'm like the buck stops calls it the one where you just you know like you are here to break some generational cycles and to be that next iteration that's going to change literally the DNA for your family.
Speaker 1:That is one of the most beautiful things, because, as you have done, that, you heal for so many people moving forward Because they have all this information now on cellular DNA and how we carry it up to seven generations.
Speaker 2:And that's literally from the Bible too, like that's been written about in ancient texts long before science discovered it.
Speaker 1:Yes, isn't it? It's wild, and you know, then you start to think about that stuff and then, you're right, there's so many things where you can say you know what that does stop. And then you know I'm going to speak my truth and live my truth and be my truth, and that is so powerful. You're right, that is so.
Speaker 2:You're not only giving with having your podcast and sharing your voice with humanity and the power of your voice and the power of what conversations and relationships can do, and just expanding in curiosity. I think if we all just got a little bit more curious and a little less, with a little less need to be right, this world would get better and improve and heal its shadow very quickly.
Speaker 1:And why does anyone have to be right? That's the thing I get. So I look at all these things. You know everybody's ready to tear each other apart or do the tear down, and it's like why can't we just hold our values, respect each other and move on like I just? Like can be that simple if you don't have to tear another person down because they don't agree with you.
Speaker 1:I mean but you could still love people, like still love your neighbor and love the people around you. Like how boring would it be if everybody agreed and everybody did the same thing? It's boring, you know. You know, and everybody believes what they believe for a reason. They have had their life experiences and their. You know what they've grown up and done in their life and you know why can't we just get back to the simple things let's respect each other, let's just it really is. I feel like it goes back to the golden rule. If we all really did treat each other the way we want to be treated, or better. You know, it's really that simple.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think also, if we treated ourselves the way we say we want to be treated, especially for high achievers and for high performers that I work with, that's one of the harder ones. They may be really good at treating other people well, but they suck at treating themselves. And I say this as a recovering professional flogger, basically, where I use my husband's like I have never seen anyone as hard on themselves as you are and I've had to learn what grace is, because being hard on myself was my survival mechanism and it got me very far. But I know for where I'm going to go that level of hard. I had to trade in for a standard of excellence instead, which those two are different things.
Speaker 2:Just being hard on yourself to beat yourself up puts you in the villain role of your own story versus choosing a standard of excellence and saying no. There are certain things like here is my boundary of the behavior that I will tolerate and what behavior, also from myself, that I will tolerate. Will I tolerate my own excuses and my own flavor of bullshit? Will I tolerate me blaming my kids anymore for not fully going for my dream Like? Will I tolerate these behaviors that I've had when we can draw that line and hold ourselves to a greater standard of excellence. That, I believe, is divinely in alignment with who we were created to be in this lifetime to follow that mission with courage. That tips the scale. And then it also teaches powerful lessons to your kids and to the next generation. Whether you have kids or not, you are that example and that testimony for what's possible. And every time someone gets to see someone go for their dream, my favorite thing is saying if she can, I can too. If he can, I can too. There's a quote from Florence Scovel Shinn who says she says a great affirmation is what God gave him or her, he also gets. He gives me 10, 10 times as much and more. And so being able to, to, to just honor that, like that's just a reflection of my own golden shadow. Anybody else's achievement where I'm, like you know, even had the slightest twinge of jealousy, you're like, oh, it must be nice for them. I had, like that was a big mindset shift that I had when I started looking and saying, oh, I'm only saying that because I actually want that and I'm denying myself the permission to actually say that I want that. And so what if I just accepted that, okay, I've been blessed with this purpose on my heart to have these certain things like being a multi business owner, like being mom of multiple kids, like, like having multiple podcasts I think multiples are just in my future. I'm sure a third podcast will be as well. I think things generally run in threes for me, but that experience of being able to just honor that like yeah, that's kind of always what I've seen myself as wanting and having.
Speaker 2:And any fear, like I, definitely, around my second child, had some fear like no, should we COVID? We were stuck in Australia. We were those Americans stuck abroad, living by the beach for two years and, you know, having those fears, and I was like whoa, this is always like. I looked at literally at my Trello board that has my vision of all the different things that I want to, you know, achieve, receive experience in this lifetime and I was like no, living in Australia is definitely one of them and having another child definitely one of them Like let's do it.
Speaker 2:And once I but it came from that realigning, away from looking at all the whys and the reasons, because your conscious mind will always give you reasons as to why it's not the right time. Maybe you wait, maybe at another time. And I'm like the only time, if anything that I've learned over losing three family members and two family friends within one year and having a baby and moving twice in one year and having that amount of catalystic transformation, is that life is really really really short and all we have is now, and we have this present moment to fully live. And the greatest question we can ask ourselves is did we grow today? Did I get better today? And it could be in the smallest way. It could be just being a little bit more kind, being kinder to yourself, being kinder to your kids, speaking with a bit more explicit communication instead of like implied or passive aggressiveness. It's those small, micro improvements that, consistently, are realigning you fully into who you were created to be.
Speaker 1:Self-love is so important and we have to love all of our parts, all the things right, everything. And that's such a beautiful part of the journey is learning to do that. And then too, I think you know we're responsible for our own happiness. No one else is responsible for that. Like, my happiness is my responsibility. It's not my husband's, it's not my kids, it's not, it's for me, it's, you know, for it's not my kids. It's not it's for me, it's, you know, for me to take care of, and just as it is for them, on an individual basis as well, to take care of their own. But it's not that we can't all contribute to people's family.
Speaker 2:How do you teach that to your kids?
Speaker 1:I don't. Well, I guess, for me, I just, I just follow my passions and I talk about it and I, I just I just follow my passions and I talk about it. And I recently, within the last five, I, I've been podcasting a year now but I, just I, I've been learning different healing modalities and I share that with my children and I'm really working on finding a way to transition to do what I really passionately love full time. So I'm really working on, you know, and I just dive into all my interests and all the things that I am interested about I talk to my kids about and I try to live it, I want them to, I bring them to sound healings. I, you know, I do.
Speaker 1:My youngest fell asleep when we. It was. It was really cute, you know, and I wanted to experience things, things be open-minded, because I think, if you, you should just go experience, try things out, you know, and I, I want them to do that, so I try to do that as an adult too, you know. So I think, like you said, we can talk the talk, but if we're not living it, then we're not really teaching them the truth and because actions do speak louder than words, and what we do really, you know, really impacts them and how we treat others and how we treat ourselves. Also, like you said, that's so important and I think sometimes we all. I know that I am my own worst critic sometimes too, but I try to live by this thing where, if I wouldn't say it's my best friend, then I shouldn't be saying it to myself, because there's things that we'll say to ourselves, would never say to another person, even person we don't like. We wouldn't say it, you know, but we're saying it to ourselves, you know. So how, you know, it's just, you know, taking a step back and be like, hold on a minute, because we do have to.
Speaker 1:Like you said, grace is really something that does have to be learned and giving ourselves. Even, I think, for myself, as I've evolved and grown on a spiritual journey, you, I can think back to up to times when I was more judgmental or, you know, thought in different ways, and, I think, to my cringe, you know, like I cringe about those things or when I learned about, you know, the after we, you know, cross over the life review and I thought to myself, oh, wow, there's a lot of things that I'm embarrassed about going into the life review. But then you just have to give yourself grace because all of us on our journey are evolving and growing and sometimes we're doing the best we can with what we have. But as you grow and evolve, then you just you know better and you are better and you choose better and you move forward in a different way, or you view what you're going through in a different way. You just don't look at it the same, what you're going through in a different way, you just don't look at it the same. And then you just you know, can, you know adapt and you know work through a situation in those ways.
Speaker 1:But that grace piece is so powerful, actually really everything you've talked about, extremely powerful. You know how do you work with that, with your clients, do you just so? Is it a lot of reframing and mind work? And what's that like for when you work with people on a coaching?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so it is a lot of reframing. It is like I always start out my clients with through the process of timeline therapy, which is a combination of hypnosis and neuro linguistic programming, where you don't actually have to go into any form of trauma, but you, we do go through the top negative emotions anger, sadness, fear, guilt and shame and then any other limiting beliefs that may have popped up, that are in the subconscious, and we just it through the process. It teaches them to trust their subconscious mind, which is directly tied to higher consciousness. So our conscious mind always likes to interject, which our conscious mind has. A wonderful place it. It has a great place of logic and reason. But the problem is is that if we are only taught to trust what's up here, then we forget what's to trust, what's within the rest of us, our heart, our intuition, our gut, like everyone, at those little niggles and nudges it's like you should do to just recognize. Okay, thank you, conscious mind for like, giving me the reasons of like. Okay, I appreciate that. Um, conscious mind ego, it's the one that's that gets like common sense and it has its place because definitely the world could use some common sense, sometimes Some basic common sense. But, that being said, like when we are able to listen to the intuition.
Speaker 2:So I put them through the process of timeline therapy first and foremost, and then it is a lot of reframing along with giving them some structure and guidance. So we go through if they're coming to me for business and for high performance and they're in their business and career, then we go through my queen bee curriculum, which is their mindset, their skill set, their systems and branding, their marketing, because every piece of that is going to be a reflection of who they are and we look at where are they congruent and like, where are they saying one thing especially look at their values, because so often, like in the corporate world, values are like a hot buzzword and it's like oh, here are our core values and it's like but do you really believe those? Because if you're telling me, as a person with your personal core values, that you deeply value family, but you're working 80 hour work weeks and not seeing your family, then you don't actually value your family Like your actions of state. Well, when we look at your schedule and we look at how you're actually value your family Like your actions of state, well, when we look at your schedule and we look at how you're actually living your life. That's going to show what your values are. It's going to show that maybe right now you might be valuing complacency, you might be valuing fear, and that's okay. It's okay as long as we are aware of it, because once we're aware of it and we're actually honest with ourselves, that's where we can actually transform. We can't transform from a lie, so we have to be really honest with ourselves and say, okay, this is what my actual habits are actually saying that I value Like, for example, I value health at a very high level. We have like our own like farm garden here outside of Austin. Like my husband cooks mostly farm to table.
Speaker 2:But for most of last year I slipped on my exercise. I had some deep seating limiting beliefs. I hit an upper limit problem after we manifested our house and had all of this like this, like fear come and suddenly my body processed it as like heightened cortisol and the doctor was like um, you, you have, like you do have mono and like you have to stop exercising, basically as hard and like hard. And so I was like okay, and I, so I borrowed that belief system, forgetting that exercise is something that has always been like home for me.
Speaker 2:It's like coming home to my body and actually like what I actually needed, even though I took a period of rest I took too long of a rest so I looked at my habits and I was like, wow, my value shifted. My value of fearing getting mono again took over, rather than actually honoring my body for where she was at. Once she'd processed the mono, she was fine. I could have gone back to my exercise, but I didn't, because I wasn't. I was stuck in a fear in a past moment, and so, with my clients, we are constantly looking and recalibrating as far as where are they at, where are they saying they're at, where are they actually at, and how do we get them into that alignment so that they actually go where they want to go?
Speaker 1:Absolutely, it's powerful, and I think it's sometimes you need a person like you to kind of help them to see that, to get that self-awareness. It's really powerful how you know, sometimes we can not see what's right in front of us or what you know, what we are living, and you just have somebody sort of say it to you in a way that totally makes you rethink, like oh gosh, maybe, like, like you said, you know, holding on to that fear. Ok, I am in a fear place and I'm doing this out of comfort or something you know a way to, I don't know. Hold on, who knows. I don't know what I'm trying to say, but I'm not using a really good analogy here, but we do like to hold on to past identities, that's for sure.
Speaker 2:Like it's very scary when we're going through an identity egoic death and like I really wish that we would like to go back to teaching kids. Like when you're going through that teenage time you're actually going through a spiritual awakening, awakening, and had someone who told me that when I was 16 and struggling with this super anxiety and depression and I was realizing that the system of the education system, like it, just wasn't making sense for me. And even though I was a very high achiever I did very well in school, I knew how to play the system it just didn't feel like I was fitting into the right box, like it felt like I was trying to fit into it. It didn't feel like I belonged. And when I like looking back and hindsight, I'm like, oh, I was having a massive spiritual awakening and I didn't know it because nobody was kind of guiding me of like this is an awakening to your soul, saying there is something more and this is not the box you're actually supposed to be in in the first place. And when I finally listened to that, after I graduated and dropped out of college two weeks before I was supposed to start for an acting class that actually fueled my soul and made me heal my emotions and heal this relationship that, like cause, I used to not feel anything. I would shut down and suppress it and repress it. And that's where my 10-year battle with bulimia came in and that was the physical manifestation of my avoidance and my feelings and my bottling my emotions until they would explode and basically vomit back up. And that acting class taught was the beginning pieces of my own healing. But it was because I learned to trust my gut in that moment. And then I also had the support, like, even though my family was chaotic because of my dad's addiction, like at the same time, they were also really, really supportive and they knew that you know, they weren't scared if I dropped out of college, because it helps.
Speaker 2:Being two entrepreneurs, there's a higher level of risk of understanding and they said well, we know that you hustle and you will go for what you want to go for, but it comes from that learning to trust yourself.
Speaker 2:And that's one of the greatest pieces of feedback that I've received from my clients is that they, through the process of working together, they learn to trust themselves and they learn to listen to that voice of their intuition. I think a lot of coaches, especially business coaches, project a strategy onto someone that doesn't quite fit. And when you can start to find, and help someone find the strategy that fits for them which is similar to the exact model that I want to put forth in the school that we're going to be creating in the next five years when you can teach people how they best learn, how they best do business, by saying, hey, these are these clues, these are these patterns, here's the pattern, here's these common denominators with this pattern, and that's really your blueprint for success. It's not that you need to do like the 15 funnels and have your webinar and all that, because that's actually not you. You just need to go talk to people, you just need to go be in relationship or something different like that. It's being able to honor the person's natural wiring.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, and how powerful to teach that to kids too. You know, I mean, you're right. And the way school systems are, you know, it's not set up for everybody to fail. Everybody doesn't have to go to college. Everybody doesn't have to do that. You don't have to do that to be successful or intelligent or any of those things you know. Like those are, I think, societal programming. That needs to go away too.
Speaker 1:You know and I almost I know we talked a little bit about this before we jumped on but schools do kind of kill creativity in a lot of ways. Everybody has to, you know, do the math problem this way, or they have to, or you know, I mean it's just, you know it's not teaching people to really use that creativity piece, and we should. People should be going after their passions, use that creativity piece, and we should. People should be going after their passions and don't think that we should be telling every child that the only way that you can ever be successful is if you go to college. If you do this, how many people have you known that have gone to college and then still are lost and don't really know where they fit in? Or they find later in life where they did and they probably didn't need all those years of school and debt to figure that out. But you know, that's the path that we all were taught. You got to go to college, got to do the things and you know.
Speaker 1:So I think what you're teaching people and then like and then it's also how they best work in business, how it's like it's tailored because everybody doesn't learn the same way. Everybody shouldn't be sitting in a chair for eight hours or you know, doing that sort of thing. So I think there's so much power in that. I mean, that's really. I think you're really on to something and it's just a really brilliant thing. Oh, I know that that's going to take off because it's. I believe that's the way of the future. I actually think entrepreneurship and heart centered, spiritual entrepreneurship is the future. I really, really believe that in my soul. I believe that is the way the world is going to go and that there's going to be like this evolution, where people are just all going to realize you know that they want to live their joy and there's ways to do it, and more and more. I've seen so many people do it and what's beautiful about people like you is that you're showing people that it is possible.
Speaker 2:It is. I had a great coaching call with a client of mine and she we were just discussing monetization of you know how, how she could monetize what she wanted to create and she's like I don't know like a book. She's like I don't know, but I don't. I don't know if that's like going to be for me and she's like the idea of writing and I have ADHD. And I said it's called chat, gpt and it's called talking. I said you, literally, you have the book in you. You just literally need to take a recorder out, have a friend ask you some questions and I said, well, we'll work on it during our coaching program together, but like in the interim as well, just talk to someone, have somebody there and talk out your book and get ChatGPT and say this is kind of what I want to talk about and ChatGPT will be the integrator to your visionary. It will give you a system, it'll give you the structure. You'll have the book done in 10 weeks.
Speaker 2:And she's like I never thought of that. And I think when we can start thinking outside the box, because AI is going to blow up the box. And here's the beautiful thing that I love about AI the way you speak to AI is you have to be commanding, specific and you have to tell it exactly what you want. And so often, having coached leaders for now, for nine years, most people don't know what they want. So what AI is actually concurrently teaching us, just like our children teach us. It's teaching us how to be specific and state what we want, which is the foundation of manifestation in the first place.
Speaker 1:That's. I love that and I love that you're talking about it in a positive way, because a lot of people you know can talk about AI negatively. I have a firm belief, like, whatever energy you bring to something, like that's where your focus goes energy flows. So if you're going to look at it in a negative way, well then you're going to manifest that. But AI is there to be our friend and you can co-create with it, and I've actually seen a lot of people create music and beautiful imagery and blogs and different reels, and I've seen such beautiful things. You know that people do it and it helps others and it lifts others up, and so I really have. I. I totally agree with you. It's going to blow up and then these younger generations, that's going to be their future and they're going to learn to work with it too. If they are learning those things that you talked about being specific and all those things can you imagine the leaders that we're going to as we had for it.
Speaker 2:I mean that's they're going to be clear and decisive and they're going to know what they want, because they are literally having to train robots with how to how to know what they, how they need to have clarity on what they want and then feed it back like it's. It's this I am so excited for the next generation and for the the future in the next 20 years. I think we are living in the most exciting time in human history and human consciousness as we are evolving, so far as we know about human history.
Speaker 1:Oh, absolutely, I totally agree about all of that. Yeah, absolutely. Well, kim, this has been such a really beautiful, wonderful conversation. Where can people find you?
Speaker 2:If you love podcasts like this and you want to learn more, then head on over to the Crown Yourself podcast at crownyourselfcom. Forward slash podcast. And if you want to learn more about leveraging your communication skills and leveraging the power of podcasts to share your story, then head on over to communicationqueenscom. Forward slash podcast.
Speaker 1:Kim, what is a final thought or closing thought you'd like to leave with the listeners today?
Speaker 2:The greatest shift that you can make is when you start realizing how powerful of a creator you are under circumstances, and when you start taking ownership for everything in your life and having such radical responsibility. You will see such a radical transformation in your circumstances, in your financial, in your health, in your relationships. When you take responsibility for how you show up to every relationship, including your relationship with money, your relationship with kids, your relationship with your business, your relationship with your spouse, your relationship with your friends, with the earth, with community, like you will see such a radical shift within yourself and your own world that you will be contributing to the consciousness of it and the evolution of this planet, and that is the greatest thing that I think that you could be doing period.
Speaker 1:Well, kimberly, thank you so much for your time today, and I, the beautiful, beautiful, Thank you so much, kelly.
Speaker 2:Right back at you. I'm so excited for you sharing your voice on this podcast and the platform that you are bringing to so many leaders and lightworkers who are. You're giving us such a wonderful gift and I thank you for that.
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