Have you ever found yourself juggling the chaos of two careers, or caught in the whirlwind of office drama? Imagine mixing cocktails by night and selling floor coverings by day, all while fielding the curveballs of workplace dynamics. Our guest, a spirited sales associate with a talent for mixology, joins us to share tales from the trenches of managing multiple roles with finesse. We dissect the art of scheduling around personal life's demands, from childcare to career growth, and swap stories about the subtle, and sometimes not-so-subtle, ways we navigate the politics of the workplace.
When the conversation takes a turn towards the personal, we don't hold back. You'll hear heartfelt experiences from the LGBTQ+ community, including our guest's own journey, celebrating the profound victories in marriage equality. We peel back the layers of how career decisions ripple through family life, and even have a laugh about the tactics employed to maintain boundaries on the job—like wearing a ring to fend off unwanted attention. From candid confessions to aspirational anecdotes, this episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone striving to strike the perfect balance between their professional and personal worlds.
Have you ever found yourself juggling the chaos of two careers, or caught in the whirlwind of office drama? Imagine mixing cocktails by night and selling floor coverings by day, all while fielding the curveballs of workplace dynamics. Our guest, a spirited sales associate with a talent for mixology, joins us to share tales from the trenches of managing multiple roles with finesse. We dissect the art of scheduling around personal life's demands, from childcare to career growth, and swap stories about the subtle, and sometimes not-so-subtle, ways we navigate the politics of the workplace.
When the conversation takes a turn towards the personal, we don't hold back. You'll hear heartfelt experiences from the LGBTQ+ community, including our guest's own journey, celebrating the profound victories in marriage equality. We peel back the layers of how career decisions ripple through family life, and even have a laugh about the tactics employed to maintain boundaries on the job—like wearing a ring to fend off unwanted attention. From candid confessions to aspirational anecdotes, this episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone striving to strike the perfect balance between their professional and personal worlds.
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Speaker 1:
this is ridiculous. Now I gotta get it up on here. All right, gotta get it to go, I gotta connect it. This is gonna take some editing this time.
Speaker 2:
Huh yeah, a little bit that sucks yeah, the lives gonna be horrible, yeah, I don't care about that as much.
Speaker 1:
There we go. Boom, be cool that we got both interviews separate, though be easy enough to deal with connect post details. Oh, I gotta write something on here. Post details. I think Jessica's here now part to Jessica said she was gonna be late. She was dealing with some stuff you might have.
Speaker 1:
She might be here now that's an hour early oh, she said she's gonna be late, then that's not her if she's an hour early. Yeah, she said she's gonna be late. I think she has something going on. All right, okay, we're back on now. We're good. You see us over there, gino nope damn and I should have got coffee while I was relaxing. You wasted enough time, damn it man, it should be there, it should be up, should be happening, I would imagine. So we just had her in here, we were talking to her. You're, you were, you just got another job, humberton yeah, what is that like as?
Speaker 1:
sales associate, but also like reception work reception work, but you'll be selling to though. Yeah, oh yeah, do you get commission?
Speaker 2:
I do. I don't know the details of it yet because I'm still in training. I've only been there for five, six days so far, so what are you selling?
Speaker 1:
floors oh, ted's floor covering, and how'd you end up wanting to get into?
Speaker 2:
that actually, somebody just told me that he was looking for somebody and I was like, oh, I could do something part-time somehow ended up being full-time. So here I am, stuck between a rock and a hard place why is that? Because I like bartending. Oh, I already told you I didn't want to quit bartending. That's why I tried to drop down to one day a week that's possibility, but one day is.
Speaker 1:
It just depends on the day. You know that's the problem. I have too many people like that, you know, like Mariah's only like two days a week. You know what I mean. There's so many of those and I it's, you know. And then now Haley wants one day a week, you know like and what. And everybody that got the one day wants to cream the crop. Right? No, not particularly. No, mariah does it, and Mariah knows I won't give them to her. So Mariah's thing is we sweet, I made the deal with her. She can get every other. So one week I'll give it to Amanda, the next week I'll give it to Mariah. You know what I mean. Like, that's just how I've always done it.
Speaker 2:
You got other girls popping in trying to. Oh, he hired a new girl for one day a week yeah yeah, actually I know Haley from going up to Maple. I hung out with her outside of work too. She's pretty cool. I've even gone up and seen her at doghouse yeah, everybody loves her we've wanted her here for a long time.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I've wanted her to come here for a very very long time. I've asked her on multiple occasions, but she's always been afraid to come over here. So I think after she works there she'll be.
Speaker 2:
I was listening to the podcast downstairs actually when you guys had Mariah up here about the Amanda thing and somebody told me that too when I first started oh, don't do it, his wife's gonna fire you because you're pretty, and blah, blah, blah, like what what? And Amanda never gave me that vibe at all what the? Fuck, I don't know. I don't even remember who told me, but there was people, because you're pretty what the fuck?
Speaker 1:
where did that? People just make up shit I. It has nothing to do with anything Amanda did or I did. It's just people just make up shit. It's just ridiculousness. There's no reason for that. That doesn't make any sense. So, like when you work there, what time do you get off over there?
Speaker 2:
Five, except for Thursdays. Um, I'll be there from 12 to seven, so every other day will be 10 to five and then Thursday 12 to seven. I'll be rotating Saturdays with the other girl that works there and they're closed on Sunday, so I'll have Sundays off Spend time with the kids. No, you got to work here, so not yet. Yeah, no. I said I would work any day, so for Thursday and Sunday here. For that reason, because if I, if I'm going to be working, a day, a week here, then I would be leaving there and coming straight here.
Speaker 1:
But my biggest problem, though, with that is the five o'clock start. That's the problem, biggest problem, because I need three o'clock starts. Yeah, I have enough people that can start at five o'clock. It's the three o'clock that.
Speaker 2:
I have nobody to let me go at three o'clock.
Speaker 1:
Because that's what we need to do, which I don't know how that's going to work exactly right now. I know, like Daniella that just started, she can't do any three o'clock except on a weekend. Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:
She just told me yesterday she felt like she was screwed because she couldn't work the patio. Yeah, I like her. She's pretty cool yeah.
Speaker 1:
She's awesome. Yeah, she seems like a good worker. Yeah, for sure I like her. And then this other girl, megan, that's coming. I think she will be able to work pretty much anytime, I think I think she's going to be open availability, so that's a good one. No, she hasn't worked. She hasn't worked yet.
Speaker 2:
I did see her the day that she came in and got hired, but other than that I was just high and by that's, yeah, that's my buddy Johnny's daughter.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:
Oh, I met her.
Speaker 1:
Goddamn yeah the one that was up here. Yeah, yeah, she seems like she. I think she'll be open, I think she'll be good, but she has no experience yet. None.
Speaker 2:
So we're going to be teaching people how to make long islands and yeah, that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, that's right, I like that, though I don't like trying. I don't like experienced bartenders. What I hate experienced bartenders, it's just so hard to train.
Speaker 2:
I mean, as a bartender training and an experienced bartender, you literally have to start from scratch. They don't know. So what when you came here, was you experienced bartender or no? Yeah, I started bartending when I was 21. So where I started at Brown Bag, that was in Lorraine. They're closed now, but then.
Speaker 1:
That was more of a restaurant.
Speaker 2:
It was, but it was more of like a craft beer kind of bar. They had like fancy mojitos and stuff. But then I ended up at Harry Buffalo. That's where I got most of my background, from bartending, moved over to Bullfrogs. That's a huge bar. So that was a lot of running around and keeping up with things.
Speaker 1:
So yeah, I just enjoy bartending, so why go and do the other thing?
Speaker 2:
I need something a little bit more stable with my kids. Like, if I'm supposed to be off at five, I need to be off at five because when I leave work I do have other things that I have to go do when I leave work pick up the kids, get them home, cook them dinner Whereas if I'm bartending every day, all of my chefs I'm not leaving here until after six Still have to go pick the kids up. By the time I'm getting home and making dinner it's already eight o'clock and that's my boys go to bed at eight thirty. So I feel like I have like this much time to spend with them.
Speaker 1:
Okay, I see a little bit more stability. I thought maybe your husband didn't like it. You bartending.
Speaker 2:
He's. You know, he's always said something about it, but I just told him I don't really. I mean, I care about what he says, but I was a bartender what? My God sounds like you really don't care what he says. No, I love him dearly and he's a great guy, but like I was a bartender when we got together, that's that was the thing he'd come and hang out at the bar when I was working at Harry Buffalo. Like you, can't teach an old dog new tricks.
Speaker 1:
Well Gido. Whenever I told him I said, I thought maybe it was your husband. Gido was like she's married. He didn't even know, he had no clue.
Speaker 2:
He comes up every once in a while.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, good dude, she seems like a real good guy with them.
Speaker 2:
I've seen him.
Speaker 1:
I ain't really met him but I just didn't know we're married. Yeah, I just didn't know. Do you have a ring? Yeah, she's got a ring. You don't even look for rings.
Speaker 2:
Huh, that's the time, the promise rings, you don't really know what's going on yeah it's all bullshit.
Speaker 1:
They're just rings they put on, so nobody hits on them.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, they see a guy they like they take it off. I've never seen a girl take a ring off because I've seen a guy that they like.
Speaker 1:
No, you've never seen that.
Speaker 2:
No. I've seen guys do it. I haven't seen girls do it.
Speaker 1:
You've seen a guy do that. You've actually seen a guy do that.
Speaker 2:
Well, you know what? There's those guys that come in here from Michigan, don't put no names out there.
Speaker 1:
Go ahead, put it out there. Look at Jimmy talking about don't put no names out, he's a name.
Speaker 2:
He put posters up at people. No, I would check. I mean they would talk about some of them and talk about their wife. Some of them want it, but like that's just a normal thing. You're just looking to see if there's a ring on their finger. And then I heard the other one talking about the other one was married and I was like, well, where's his ring? And the whole time their, their wives, are somewhere else. They're not around here. So you're living in a different state or a different city and while you're working away from home and you don't have your ring on, I'm going to have to call some bullshit on here.
Speaker 2:
No, I've seen it.
Speaker 1:
I'm going to call some bullshit, but you've seen them take it off. I'm saying I'm talking about no, no, no, no, hold on, hold on a second.
Speaker 2:
Hold on, I'm going to call some bullshit here. Ok, I've asked her one time if she was married. She said no, that's a long story.
Speaker 1:
It was. She was in a mood that day, maybe no, no, no, that's, I am not lying for a little bit.
Speaker 2:
We did split up for a little bit we but you were still married. No, we never legally got married.
Speaker 1:
Oh, so you're not married we had a whole wedding.
Speaker 2:
It's a really confusing situation. I'm confused myself and it's my own situation.
Speaker 2:
We had our entire wedding. It just worked out better that we waited a little bit longer before we did like the actual legal marriage, because I had a huge shoulder surgery coming up and he didn't want to affect my insurance at all. So we did that. We waited after my shoulder surgery. You know me, that's a woman's dream to get married. I was like, hey, I'm ready, everything's done. And he was like, well, wait till after your physical therapy. And then we did that and once it was done, it was like six months for all of my physical therapy and everything. Once it was all finished I was like, ok, we can get married now. And he was like I kind of just like things how they are. That was like the hugest disappointment in my life.
Speaker 1:
So that's why you guys were fighting.
Speaker 2:
Then some other things, but we didn't end up splitting up and he went and he got his own place elsewhere and we lived separate, he but he's moved back and now now we are actually going to get married and I just want to wait a couple months and see that everything sorts it.
Speaker 1:
So far, so that ring.
Speaker 2:
This is actually the actually fake right now, but no, because I have my wedding band on over here. I got them both on, they're just not together because I'm not legally married.
Speaker 1:
So, I got that, but wait a minute, you're not supposed to wear the wedding band until you're never supposed to wear it, not have it on the wrong hand, you're just not supposed to wear it.
Speaker 2:
We're at the altar and actually, like, set our vow. While we didn't say our vows we had somebody else say it, because I don't like being put on the spot like that.
Speaker 1:
Like you are right now. Yeah, I was like, let me grab my water because I've got anxiety now.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I'm going to need a shot after this one.
Speaker 1:
When I asked my wife to marry me, I did it on Christmas.
Speaker 2:
He did it December 23rd.
Speaker 1:
I did it Christmas morning. I had it in the stocking, but when I, you know, I did the whole thing, I got pulled down and I, you know, and then she tried to look. The point I'm trying to get to is she tried to look inside the box to see what the other and it was the wedding band actually and I said, and I clicked it closed, like it looks pretty, it looks pretty dicky on the tape. When you watch the film it does look dicky. Amanda's like. That was kind of rude.
Speaker 2:
You know, I go that's for later and just like I fully did not expect him to ask me to marry him. We were together for a year and we had lived together. We moved in early together. When we first got together it just worked out for the both of us that we got a place together. But he proposed to me down at the lights and Cleveland two days before Christmas and I did not expect it. I just got off at work. My hair was crazy. I was still wearing my work clothes. Actually, that day I tried to avoid going to the Christmas lights. It was kind of yucky outside. I sat at work and I just let time go. I was like I really don't want to go here, I don't want to do this, and he was not taking no for an answer. So finally I went home. We gathered all the kids and I was wondering. When we were on our way there. I was looking at him like why are you so?
Speaker 2:
stressed out right now. My friend showed up. She kept trying to show me something up in the background. She was like let me take a picture of you guys, so we get underneath this cute little arch. She's like Brittany, look up there. And I'm looking. I was ignoring her at first like no, hurry up, take the damn picture, I want to move on. And then she said it like five times. Finally I look up, like what the hell is she talking about? I'm cussing in the video that she's talking about up here and I turn back around. I was like oh shit, fuck, this is real.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, my wife I don't know how she didn't realize her best friend stayed the night Christmas Eve. My mom's there, her dad's, everybody, nobody ever is there on Christmas Eve staying the night. You know what I mean. And she didn't grasp what was going on. You know what I mean. It didn't even dawn on her. She just thought oh, this is great, everybody's coming to hang out for Christmas. Oh, yeah, for sure I had her convinced that that would never happen, can you?
Speaker 2:
imagine me asking a girl to marry me. I'd be like yeah, no.
Speaker 1:
You want to, I'll be mine. It might be so romantic.
Speaker 2:
You want to marry me or not?
Speaker 1:
No, Well, you know what? There's a lot of people in this country that are married for convenience anyways. That didn't go through the whole I fell in love thing. They've been together a long time.
Speaker 1:
They're like well, make sense for insurance or make sense for this or and that happens. And that doesn't mean they don't love each other or nothing like that. It's just they had already been together so long and then just did it. For that reason, you know, especially now, like all the gay people that are married, because they, you know, they've been together for years. There wasn't a big why. No, I'm not that. They've been together for years, there's no romance. You know, it's not like it's like something new to them or something you know. I mean, they're just basically you know what do you call it? They're basically legalizing it or making it legit, whatever, I don't know what you would call it, but yeah, they're just basically like legit.
Speaker 2:
Why would you say that? Because it's just so easy to offend people these days.
Speaker 1:
Well, I'm actually specifically thinking of my gay mother, who got married to a woman she's been with for a very long time after was legally allowed yes, my mother's gay. I have a get out of jail free card with a gay community.
Speaker 2:
No, you don't, yeah you do my mom's gay.
Speaker 1:
I could say whatever I want, go ahead. No, she's married to a woman. Yeah, but they were together forever and actually once they legalized to get married they weren't going to do it. They weren't like. My mom at first was like, yeah, I'm not doing that, you know. But I think that it just makes sense. I mean, when you especially them. They have a home together, they, you know. I mean they should have some protection with each other as far as buying things. You know, that's a big part of it, like you know, I mean, you own stuff, you build it together, you get it together and then if it's all in one person's name or something and they get the, you know it. Just, you know, right, right, right, right. So it kind of protects both parties. And especially when you get older and you're going to, you got to worry about health issues and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:
But well, I've seen, like a lot of the younger gay people, like I mean, we all know quite a few gay people, but it was like once it was legalized that they could get married, it was such a happy moment for them that they jumped on it like, yeah, we can finally do it, so let's go do it yeah.
Speaker 1:
So, yeah, my mom wasn't one of those. When it first happened she's like, yeah, I'm not doing it, like she just did that, like I don't know, but for whatever reason changed her mind, you know. But yeah, she was, we were here, right, we were in the bar when she got married. I think I had to bar when she got married. I think I did, yeah, but okay, all right. Well, I'll let you get back to the no customers down here.
Speaker 2:
Is there still nobody?
Speaker 1:
done that? It's not really not. No, I don't know what the hell's going on.
Speaker 2:
Summer up at summer's turn. Oh, summer's here, send her up. What the hell Summer.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, summer, if she'll come up. She's been up already. She's wearing her St Panties. Say stuff, she might yeah, she might yeah. You could send her up, that'd be cool we can knock them all out today. I would say send Jess up when she gets here, but it sounds like she's got some shit going on. Definitely sounds like she's got some shit going on.
Speaker 2:
Every other month she gets some more, you know what I'm going to do.
Speaker 1:
I'm going to end this and then we'll go back on again right after this with summer, so we'll take a quick break and then we'll be back. All right, all right?
