8. Compassionate Curiosity: Being Kind to Yourself

In this episode of Emotional Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success, I define compassionate curiosity and explain how this is the Sage path--the one of self-love, the Divine inner Self that loves us no matter what. I talk about how we often screw up and listen to the Judge's negative chatter that leads to us beating ourselves up. I then explain that doing PQ reps to stop the Judge in its tracks and choosing the Sage path is ultimately what serves us and others. We may have acted in ways we regret, but we are perfectly imperfect human beings. We can imagine ourselves as a young, innocent child and as we show compassion and empathy toward them, we can learn to deliver that same compassion and empathy to our current selves as well as to others. Further, we can don the hat of a curious anthropologist who is observing--without judgement--behaviors and attitudes to see what might be going on underneath the surface: a trigger? Bad mood? Hangry? By choosing the Sage path we weaken the Judge's path and truly become free.