Well, Ya Ought To

Today, we celebrate!!!  Happy One Year Anniversary to Cydni and Sher Podcast!  We have learned and grown so much this year.  Thank you for being here with us.  We love you!  We celebrate Sher’s mom’s birthday today as well with a topic she would approve. When Sher thinks of her mother, she thinks of things we ought to do.  Above all things, we ought to serve one another.  Join us today as Sher inspires us with the life her mother lived.  May we all serve the way we ought to!  Today's episode is “Well, you ought to!” dedicated to Sher’s mom.  We are so glad you are here!

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In honor of Sher’s mom, we challenge you to serve someone this week because we ought to do it!

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Sher: 0:01

This is Cydni and I'm Sher, and each week we get together to share with you a message of hope.

Cydni: 0:06

It is through our own study and our personal experiences that we offer the reminder to not only seek the light, but be the light, you can find peace and there is hope and as long as one of us is slightly caffeinated, there will be laughter. Today's episode is well yet to yes, sir. And we're so glad you're here.

Sher: 0:33

So today, Cydni, we're going to talk about, well, ya ought to 2 and before we explain it, I am going to take us off track instead of you today. Don't take my job. No, I'm doing it because, sydney, did you know that this episode is our first year anniversary? No, happy anniversary, sydney, on your mom's birthday On my mom's birthday.

Cydni: 0:53

Oh, it's almost a sign for us to shut it. She's like please, for the love of everything, how many times do I tell you to quit talking? I'm on the phone. Share.

Sher: 1:02

Oh my gosh, I feel like I'm 10 again, but I have a very lovely quote for you. Okay, in honor of our anniversary. This is from Annie Oakley. Okay, aim at a high mark and you will hit it. No, not the first time, not the second time and maybe not the third, but keep on aiming and keep on shooting, for only practice will make you perfect. Finally, you'll hit the bullseye of success. And I just want to say, sydney, if we keep shooting, maybe we'll actually hit the target paper. So keep shooting, sydney.

Cydni: 1:33

Here's to another year or so. We could do this, that's right. Happy anniversary Happy anniversary. Hey, thanks everyone for listening those who have listened.

Sher: 1:42

Yeah, you guys are awesome for putting up with us. Paris Strokenall Horrible sound effects.

Cydni: 1:47

Those are going to get so good. It's probably going to be what draws people in. It probably will. They'll be like that. Can't be her. She wasn't that bad before at sound effects. She's so good now giving lessons and masterclasses on sound effects.

Sher: 2:00

It's true, and I can't wait to add a couple of them to our board here so I can use them often.

Cydni: 2:04

The power you have with our editing situation.

Sher: 2:07

I haven't really wielded it, but I think this will be a year of me wielding sound effect power.

Cydni: 2:13

I'm excited for this year and terrified.

Sher: 2:14

All right, so today's episode is Well, you Ought To, and Sydney was really super nice, and she allowed me to choose this topic in honor of my mom's birthday today.

Cydni: 2:24

That's because Cher said all the equipment's in my basement, I'm the one who knows how to edit. So if you don't do it, then what? And I was like, yes, ma'am we ought to do this exactly how you would like us to do this.

Sher: 2:34

That's exactly how it didn't go down. Cindy was like oh, that's so sweet.

Cydni: 2:38

I did say it was so sweet. Cheers to your mother.

Sher: 2:41

For some reason, the way you said cheers to your mother, I think my mom would have hit you on the back of the head just then. Really yeah.

Cydni: 2:47

She needs to get back here and raise me yeah she's a little feisty.

Sher: 2:50

But anyway, the reason we chose the title Will you Ought To is because that was a phrase that my mom used. She would say something like hey, did you clean your room? And if you said no, if she responded with well, you ought to, that was like last call, before I get mad at you, my brothers would have got a shoe, a shoe. Yeah, she never did that to me, it was just the boys. For obvious reasons I mean they're boys.

Cydni: 3:16

Can I tell you what we had? Yeah, because we did get whooped if we needed it, which we did, but mostly my brothers, especially the middle child. There was a man in our neighborhood who sold paddles and it was imagine, a cutting board with a handle and he sold those to parents every oh my gosh. And my brother, grady, got it the most because he was out of control most of the time. So he took one for the team. Honestly, his bad behavior outshined our bad behavior. So he got more whoopings with that paddle than anybody, but he would autograph his name every single time.

Cydni: 3:48

I would love more than anything to know where that is, because I remember Grady was written all over it. He just would get a whooping and he'd sign Grady. I loved that about him. What a little turd. Oh, it was amazing. He's like bring it on, is that all you got? Anyway, I really love him. If I even threatened my kids if I said I will spank you, they'd probably laugh at me in the face. I'm weak. I'm like I will take away those gummies. You won't get any gummies, and I'm serious about it because I'll eat them, and I mean that.

Sher: 4:17

You tell them Sydney, so my mom, if she was still here.

Cydni: 4:25

I was trying to channel my mom. What would she want a podcast episode about? That's why we brought the Ouija board in. Today we're channeling spirits in the basement. Okay, I'm editing all of that.

Sher: 4:32

You're not Keep it in. No, it's out. Keep it in. That was some mind-to-mind.

Sher: 4:39

Okay, if I can get through this. I thought if my mom was still here and she could choose a topic, I think the topic that she would choose would be about service, and so I wanted to read a scripture that reminded me of my mom, and the scripture is in Matthew 22, 37 through 39. Thou shalt love the Lord, thy God, with all thy heart and with all thy soul and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment, and the second is, like unto it, thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. I think that my mom used the word love and service. I think that they were interchangeable to her. How she showed love was through service. Thou shalt love and serve the Lord, and thou shalt love and serve your neighbor. I think that's how she looked at it, because that pretty much sums up her life. So we're going to talk about service today in honor of my mom, because service really was her jam. That was like her superpower. So our will you ought to is serve God and your neighbor, because you ought to. Yes, so the first great commandment is to love and serve God.

Sher: 5:40

I often saw my mom reading her scriptures, praying. She made sure that all of her kids said their prayers before we went to bed, that we read our scriptures every night. She got us to church. My dad worked on Sunday until I was a teenager, so my mom is the one who got us all to church every week and she made sure that we participated in all the things and all the activities. She made sure we had family home evening and that we had our family prayers. We drove a lot and when I was in the truck with them for hours upon hours, my mom one of her favorite topics was talking about God and history and heaven and spiritual stories from her life and the lives of my grandparents and other ancestors. But she served God the most by serving others and she had an order of you ought to when it comes to service.

Cydni: 6:29

Can I just say the mom talk in the car. That's everything. We have had every serious conversation and special talks in a car driving it's because the kids are trapped.

Cydni: 6:39

Because the kids are trapped, can't get out Exactly. I don't want to listen to stupid kid bop, so we have to talk about things of the heart. And so there was a time that we had a minivan and it had little TVs in it that were touchscreen so they could play games on it. And I had to get rid of that because we never talked. They always wanted to play the game. We had to get rid of it and upgrade to a SUV.

Cydni: 7:05

Not because of any other reason except for I just wanted to have better conversations with the children. So that was the only reason I said Ben, we need to get rid of this minivan. It wasn't because it was an ego hit and I couldn't drive in the snow and I cried a lot, nothing like that.

Cydni: 7:16

It was just I wanted to have better conversations and so when the option for this luxury SUV came up, it had screens as well. I said now Really, so we've got to have those conversations, and now they all have screens that are portable, and so it doesn't matter. Good job, you're welcome. Anyway, those conversations are good. Turn the radio off put down your screens. Try to talk, break up the fights.

Sher: 7:38

One of the things my mom and dad both like to do is sing, so we sing a lot in the car too. Who needs a radio? That was all there was then a radio. We just sing our little hearts out. I ought to not sing.

Cydni: 7:49

So we do not do that.

Sher: 7:51

All right my mom. She served God by serving others and she had an order of you ought to's when it came to service. She taught us that family comes first and make sure your family is okay. Serve your family, make sure they're good and then extend out from there. Family was everything to my mom, and I found this quote from Elder Neil A Maxwell.

Sher: 8:11

Obviously, family values mirror our personal priorities. Given the gravity of current conditions, would parents be willing to give up just one outside thing, giving that time and talent instead to the family? Parents and grandparents, please scrutinize your schedules and prioritize in order to ensure that life's prime relationships get more. Prime time and I think that sums up both of my parents perfectly is nothing was more important to them than their family, and that includes their parents, their brothers and sisters, their kids, their grandkids, their nephews and nieces. Their family always had prime time.

Sher: 8:50

And one more scripture that made me think of my mom is in D&C 126, verse 3. It says and take a special care of your family from this time henceforth and forever. Amen. I really think if my mom was here and she said you ought to, to everyone listening, it would be take care of your family from this time, henceforth and forever. That was always her number one priority. Even when I was a teenager and I had a choice of being with my friends or my family, I'd always get the well. You ought to be with your family. We got that a lot growing up as well.

Cydni: 9:24

When you told me about this originally, my heart was really touched, honestly, because I had so many thoughts running through my mind. One was what will my kids say would be a scripture that could sum me up, and I was more along the lines of something like whoa, whoa, whoa, but I would love for them to say something as sweet as you say about your mother. Another reason I loved this topic so much was I feel really inspired by your family and your extended family. I didn't grow up with extended family and I don't know my cousins well still to this day, and so it's really beautiful to see what your extended family does together. You guys get together for so many occasions, you hang out together, and I think it's good to hear these success stories, even in the chaos, to know that it's possible. So is it possible in my life now with extended cousins? Probably with some work, but what it does for me is it helps me to know that's possible for my family now that we can create something that you guys have, and I know some of your family feels like I'm just trying to jump in to your family and I would just like to say that's true. So, except for the canning, I don't want to do any of that, but I would like a can of soup, but I don't want to help. But listen, haley. So what that I'm trying to join your family? I'm sure they would love to have you. It's just beautiful. It's beautiful to see because some people have grown up where maybe their parents were so wonderful out in the public eye but then at home they did not give you prime time, they gave you what little they had left and there's compassion there that if they worked all day and they were stressed with finances or their marriage, that sometimes being at home was very stressful. And to know that you could say about your mother that she gave you the best of herself at home is the most inspiring and beautiful thing I could possibly hear as a mother myself, and that's in the last year that we've become friends. I think that's.

Cydni: 11:16

One of my favorite takeaways from this is to see how beautiful your family is and you guys genuinely love each other. You want to spend time together. You do it freely and it's amazing. And I adore my brother so much and I wish we were closer distance wise, because we have a pretty fantastic chat group and that works for us really well, but I just feel very inspired, as a mother myself, to be watchful of how I am out in the public and am I giving my children prime time or am I not? And it made me reflect that when I was doing Instagram every single day and night, I was loving it because I was getting great DMs day and night. I was loving it because I was getting great DMs that were like you're so funny, your family's so lucky to have you. Can I be your best friend? All of that which you want to read and hear.

Cydni: 12:01

But the truth was I couldn't figure out a balance between loving my family, giving them attention. My little kids would come up to me and I would say hold on, I'm posting something. And God slapped me in the face with a fish. Can that be an ongoing joke forever? Okay, but God did slap me and he was like wake up yo. And I had to let go of Instagram. I will tell you there was this one time that I had a good joke and I wasn't on Instagram or Twitter anymore. So I said it to my kids and Titus laughed. So hard.

Cydni: 12:32

And I thought, wow, that laugh from my little six-year-old meant way more to me than a retweet or a reshare. It was everything, and I realized I was just giving my prime self elsewhere, not at home, and so I love the reminder to give your best self at home. It's where it matters the most.

Sher: 12:51

It's true, both my parents really felt that way. They loved prime time with the fam. If they could have it every single day, night, evening, all day long, they would take it. They really did enjoy being with their family.

Cydni: 13:05

Well, I hope to be that person. I'll try hard.

Sher: 13:13

So when I think of my mom in service, her number one go-to to serve others was with food. She grew up with nothing, and so I'm pretty sure she learned how to make gourmet meals using dirt a whole bunch of butter and a little bit of water, and then she could just make whatever. One time I went to her grave and there was a wax paper that had been wrapped around butter that was stuck to the headstone and I was like mom's been here.

Cydni: 13:34

That's amazing. I think we should say you butter, do this, you butter, because you ought to. You ought to do it, you butter, do it. Something like that. She'd totally love that.

Sher: 13:42

Anyway, she would cook and she would always make way too much, and then she'd get mad at you that you didn't eat enough. She would set huge amounts of food in front of you and you would eat till you were sick and then she'd like you haven't even touched it. That is a joke that will never end. We still laugh about it as a family. The other thing is, dinner was always at the same time every single day. Dinner was always at 430. My dad would leave to go to work early, which meant he got home earlier, and we had dinner about 30 minutes after my dad got home. The family was expected to be there and there were no exceptions. Dinner was at 4.30. It didn't matter what you had going on. There were no exceptions to missing dinner. So we always had family dinner together. That included me. When my brothers were out of the house, like no exceptions, I was there eating dinner with my parents. So I got a lot of one-on-one time with my parents, which, as a teenager, I thought was the worst thing on the planet.

Cydni: 14:34

My kids will never feel that way.

Sher: 14:36

But the thing that I think is funny about this is it didn't matter if you were friend, family or foe. If you came to their house, you did not leave the house without something, and it usually included a meal, baked goods, something she'd canned or bottled, something she'd baked. Whatever, you had to leave with it as well. So not only did you have to eat while you were there, you had to go home with it to make her feel fulfilled. The other thing is she and my dad. Both could sew. My dad did upholstery, so the two of them would make quilts together. They'd make blankets together. My mom would make clothes. They'd made furniture together, and they were all about giving that to anyone in the family that needed it.

Sher: 15:14

If someone needed something and if something needed to be built, sewn, created, whatever, they were always there and they wanted to make sure that their family was okay. They wanted to make sure, through their service and through their skills, that their family's needs were met. Their immediate and extended family I think she called her sisters every day. There were five girls in the family. I don't know if you remember the day when there was long distance charges. I do. Yeah, well, she's calling her sisters.

Cydni: 15:42

How did she talk to all five sisters? Paint houses, build houses and make food from dirt and butter.

Sher: 15:48

My mom never slept ever and I don't know how she did it. My parents had more energy when they were sick than I do. I don't know how they did it. They never sat down. Hyperactive little builder creators I want that.

Cydni: 16:00

Me too, I'm tired after I wake up. I'm like that was a lot of work to open those eyelids. I know it. I should close them again.

Sher: 16:07

That's how I am.

Cydni: 16:07

My parents were just so inspiring.

Sher: 16:09

Oh, they're ridiculous. She did talk to her brothers quite a bit too, but her brothers lived closer to her Five sisters and how many brothers? Three brothers that is a family. That's a big family. So a few weeks ago I opened my shed to get my lawnmower out and it had mouse poop all over the place. The mice had got in the shed and they made the biggest, grossest, most disgusting mess. I just wanted to throw up.

Cydni: 16:32

Well, you know, you opened up your doors in the wintertime to mice and that is a form of service. You're so loving and kind. No wrong, You're like Cinderella. And then she found a dress and some glass slippers that the mice made. It was amazing.

Sher: 16:47

We had a moment where we sang and it was so beautiful. And then I got rat poison and killed them. Anyway, when I opened this up and I saw this mess, I had a flashback, because this had happened before. It probably happened, I don't know, maybe 15 years ago or so. I remember it was so gross then too, and I called my mom and I was like Mom, this is disgusting. And blah, blah, blah, whine, whine, whine. And then I hung up the phone and I went out to start cleaning the shed and before I mean I literally just opened the shed, I heard my mom's voice at the back gate and she was like share, open the gate. And there's my mom putting these big, thick gloves on and my dad was standing behind it. They were ready. I'm like how did you guys get over here so fast? It was like instant. But that's just how they were, whether it be a sporting event, a sad event, a work event. I don't know how they had the energy, but they found a way to do it. Especially when it came to family, they always had the energy to help and to be there.

Sher: 17:42

So, after your family was taken care of, her next well, you ought to was to serve in the community. I don't know how my mom did this. She just had a gift of knowing when people needed a lift and she was so good at when she was prompted at calling somebody, sending food, over, texting somebody, doing whatever she could. When she had that prompting, she always acted on it. During my teenage years, I think that I was delivering food to half the neighborhood and I hated it as a teenager. I'd get home from school and mom would be like, hey, I need you to run this over to this person and run this over to this person, and I was like I don't want to. But she said, well, you ought to. So I did. You ought to have. You're correct, I should have had a better attitude, but anyway, I also think that all of my parents' neighbors have something in their house that my parents made for them. They constantly had a project going on. And also my parents volunteered for the Olympics when they were in Salt Lake City.

Sher: 18:36

If you watch the opening ceremonies, a lot of the costumes were made by my parents. That's amazing. The kids that were at the medal ceremonies. They had these big, white, puffy coats. My mom and dad made every single one of those. I have to Google this you do. It's really cool. I have to show you the costume that my dad designed by himself.

Cydni: 18:56

What Did they?

Sher: 18:57

make your school clothes. Yeah, my mom made my school clothes.

Cydni: 19:03

I think I finally was able to stop wearing homemade clothes when I got to middle school. How was that for? You, because Ben also had to wear homemade clothes, and he has feelings about it. I think that's why he's addicted to nice clothes. He has great taste, though.

Sher: 19:13

I don't really think I cared, I just wanted to be comfortable. If I was comfortable, I would wear it. If I wasn't comfortable, I wanted it off my body immediately. Respect, thank you.

Sher: 19:24

Another thing that my mom did that I think is super cool is she, on election day, would always work at the voting booths. When I was in elementary school, the elections were held at the elementary school and so she would wake me up early, get me ready and then she'd bring blankets and pillows for me and stuff to do. I'd wait on the blanket until school started and then, when school was over, I'd go back to the blanket and wait till she was done. But that's something that we would do every year. We did that for years. They also got into making wooden toys for children in other countries. They made wooden blocks, cars, trucks. They also went on a service mission helping people that needed food and the basics, and they loved doing that together. So I think serving God and serving family and serving their community is what made my mom and dad happy and that's what gave them fulfillment and purpose. I did a little research project, sydney.

Sher: 20:16

I was thinking about how many episodes we've done that the answer or the secret ingredient to help you with whatever it was you were struggling with, for example, if you're struggling with faith or anxiety depression, just trying to figure out who you are and your connection to God and your divinity everything.

Cydni: 20:36

Even family history. Yes, it almost feels like almost every episode talks about if you want to be happier or anything then you've got to serve.

Sher: 20:45

Usually, the answer is somewhere in there. It felt like it was always one of the answers, so I actually just looked it up and, granted, my counting may be off, but this is our 54th episode and this is the 24th time that we've talked about service as being the secret ingredient to whatever is ailing you. That is 45% of the time the answer is service, and I think that's a really good reason why my mom would say to all of us well, you ought to serve.

Cydni: 21:14

That reminds me of a Joseph Smith quote, actually, and I'm just going to change this quote a little bit because he's not here to stop me yeah, why not Just go ahead and change what the prophet said? Sydney, I'm just going to combine Joseph Smith with your mom and say this quote together Okay, I can see the lightning coming behind.

Sher: 21:31

It's okay, keep going All right.

Cydni: 21:34

You ought to feed the hungry. You ought to clothe the naked to provide for the widow to dry up the tears of the orphan. I love this and I will say, with the ought to, I've reflected on it a lot, even from the first time you've mentioned it in a podcast. I've reflected on it because to me it feels like when you say you ought to do something, it feels like a godly direction for me that if you're going to say you ought to do this, I just feel like it can't be something bad after. If you ought to do this, it has to be for something that's good.

Cydni: 22:13

And I thought that it feels like sometimes God tells us we ought to do something and you don't want to do it, like you're saying clean your room, but you ought to because it's the right thing to do.

Cydni: 22:22

And that is what I thought with you ought to, from not growing up in the same home when I heard you ought to, you ought to do this because it's the right thing to do. And that is what I thought when I read this quote from Joseph Smith If there is a need and you can fulfill it, you ought to. And I like that a lot because I think sometimes, when there's something we feel we're supposed to do, the words come to us such as I can't, or I don't want to, or you're fearful. But if you think of you ought to do this as a responsibility for the greater good, that changes it. To me, the word ought puts responsibility in doing what you need to do, what needs to get done, and it will be for your own personal benefit, for your family's benefit and for the community's benefit. So I really like it. I'm going to tell my kids they ought to do some things.

Sher: 23:13

Then they'll have the same thought. I was like, ooh, I ought to, or else I'm going to get in trouble.

Cydni: 23:17

I need to bring some of that into our home.

Sher: 23:23

I'll be like. You ought to laugh at more of my jokes. My brothers that are listening are probably waiting for a shoe to hit them right now.

Cydni: 23:27

Maybe you should do a trigger warning for your brothers you will not be hit with a shoe. You're in a safe space. You ought to listen and you ought to share this with your bro friends, but you ought to, you know the thing is I want to make this really clear my mom and dad were not perfect people. I'm sure they'll appreciate you making that clear now that they're not around to defend themselves. A heavenly shoe will fall from the sky right now.

Sher: 23:48

It probably will. I probably will get hit with the shoe, but my mom was really snarky and she could hold a grudge with the best of them. I just ask any one of her kids or grandkids. There was something that all of us did at some point and she never let us forget it. But with that the reason I'm telling you this none of us are perfect, but just like all of us, she was trying so hard to follow the example of our Savior. She was trying to love God and serve God more. She was trying to love and serve her family and she was trying to love and serve her community more, and that is the example she left us. You know it's funny to talk about her snarky comments and her grudge holding. We still laugh about it. But the example she left was service, which I'm very grateful for.

Cydni: 24:34

All of this reminds me of a story that Emily Bell Freeman shared and she runs Inkling on Instagram. Shared and she runs Inkling on Instagram. And my once upon a time eighth grade teacher, pam Jones. Eighth grade teachers, they're the best They've been your life. I think it was eighth grade. I'm sorry if you weren't, but as far as I'm concerned, it was my whole life. So thanks for being there my whole life.

Cydni: 24:56

She was also my young women's leader for a very long time and I spent a lot of time in her house and I just wanted to be exactly like her, which I still feel that way. That was a long introduction, but she's recently sent me something on Instagram and she said I just felt like you would like this and it did take me like four weeks to listen, just like it would take me to turn assignments in. I just try to keep things consistent. So I just wanted to refresh her memory of the C's I got in her class, but anyway, finally did listen and just one part I wanted to share because, president Freeman, she shared an experience that she had when she was in Jerusalem. She was with a tour guide and she said she likes to stand up right next to the tour guide and learn as much as she possibly can.

Cydni: 25:38

They were talking about grace and she said in her mind she thought well, grace would be different for someone of the Jewish community than it is for somebody who is Christian, and so I had to find out what does grace mean to him, because it means something different to me. When I think of grace, I think of Christ on the cross. And what does he think? And so she asked him what does grace mean to you? And she said he took a long time and he was thinking about it and he was trying to explain what grace meant to him and define it. And he finally said grace is boots on the ground. And she said okay, why would he say that? And he was trying to explain what he meant by grace.

Cydni: 26:18

And it's kindness, but it's deep kindness. It's the kind of boots on the ground kindness that makes you have to work, it makes you have to sacrifice. You throw those boots on, you put them on the ground and you go to work is what it means to him. It's compassion, it's love, it's sacrifice, and everything I'm hearing about your mom makes me feel like she was a boots on the ground kind of woman, and your father too, that they were willing to roll up their sleeves and get to work with what needs to be done.

Cydni: 26:46

And we live in a time that does feel a little bit different. I feel like a lot of us can live inside with our shoes off and that you could just spend time on social media and feel somewhat of a connection without truly being connected. What I'm gaining from listening to these stories about your parents, and especially your mom, is that she is a boots on the ground woman, that she's willing to get to work and help others and not be embarrassed if you don't know the right thing to say or if you don't know the right thing to do for a neighbor or a family member who is in deep sorrow trial. That sometimes we don't know what to do, but it feels like that never stopped her. She wasn't afraid of serving others, that she would put her boots on and she'd get to work, and I really love that.

Sher: 27:29

Both my parents would love that. Boots on the ground that does describe them. Man, put on your boots, put on your gloves and get to work. That's them.

Sher: 27:36

I have one more scripture at my mom's funeral. I thought it was really cool. Her bishop got up to say a few words at the end, which is customary. But then, after the bishop, the stake president also got up, which I thought was really cool. He had been my mom's bishop. He wanted to say a few words about my mom and he read this scripture because he felt like it described her.

Sher: 27:58

This is found in Enos 1, verse 27. And I soon go to the place of my rest, which is with my Redeemer, for I know that in him I shall rest and I rejoice in the day when my mortal shall put on immortality and shall stand before him. Then I shall see his face with pleasure and he will say unto me, come unto me. Ye blessed, there is a place prepared for you in the mansions of my Father. This is what my mom would want for all of us. Her ought to would be you can rest later. She would totally agree with that. Put on your boots, get to work and work hard and serve hard so you can hear one day come unto me, ye blessed, and I just want to thank Sydney for letting me do this and thanks to everyone for indulging me with this episode and letting me talk about my mom. I just want to tell my mom happy birthday.

Cydni: 28:46

Joan of Arc said every man gives his life for what he believes. Every woman gives her life for what she believes. Sometimes people believe in little or nothing, and so they give their lives to little or nothing. One life is all we have, and we live it as we believe in living it, and then it's gone. Your mom lived her life in service to others, to her family and to the community, and it's affected lives long after she has passed. So our challenge this week is to be parented by Cher's mom.

Cydni: 29:18

There is something out there that you ought to do. Maybe it's reading your scriptures, maybe it's kneeling in prayer, maybe it's serving somebody, but there is there that you ought to do. Maybe it's reading your scriptures, maybe it's kneeling in prayer, maybe it's serving somebody, but there is something that you ought to be doing. Our challenge this week is to do it. Figure out what that thing is. And, in honor of Cher's mom, we invite and challenge you to serve somebody this week, whether it's someone in your home or someone in your neighborhood or your community. We challenge you and ask that you serve somebody for her birthday. Well, you ought to. Happy birthday and happy anniversary. Happy anniversary. This is our prayer from Sydney Inshare.

Cydni: 30:12

I'm just going to sit here and listen to your family stories. Oh geez, no, I'm paying attention. This is my paying attention face. Great, I did some ridiculous things, but then I held it back because it didn't feel right. So now I'm trying to have self-control right now, and it hurts, okay. That got me. Sydney.

Sher: 30:28

Oh good, I don't want to make you cry, I'm emotional, abusive Down that mountain dew, if it's so deep mountain dew. I feel like my brothers had a huge influence on me, more so than my parents, when I was growing up because my brothers were cool, my parents weren't cool.

Cydni: 30:40

And I'm sure my brothers would say the same. They'd be like Sid was so cool. Your mom would be a little bit proud of you. I doubt it.

Sher: 30:46

I said a little bit.

Cydni: 30:47

You're not crying, you just have allergies.

Sher: 30:53

I have such bad allergies. My allergies Sydney are so horrible Okay.

Cydni: 30:55

Imagine your mom is over you with a shoe. If you mess it up, she is going to hit you in the head.

Sher: 31:00

She really would I could see her. She's probably right there Hand on her hips.

Cydni: 31:04

Quit crying, get to work, put those boots on and read the scripture.