Esteban Baez
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Fate Shifter podcast. My name is Esteban Baez, your host, and today I have with me Martin Arthur, and we're going to be talking about how to untangle your life map. Hey, Martin. How's it going?
Martin Altherr
Hey, I am fine, thank you very much. And it's cool that we are together again today talking about untangling your life map because that's such an important, really important thing. Most people have not even a clue that it exists.
Esteban Baez
So what is a life map?
Martin Altherr
The life map is how you are embedded in the system of your family, with your ancestors, connected on subconscious levels and on conscious levels, and how you balance that or try to constantly balance everything that was not good in the family's past.
Esteban Baez
It sounds like the life map has to do with your genealogy, right? Your biological line...
Martin Altherr
Yes, for sure. And the untangling of the life map has a lot to do with untangling things where you're entangled in or where you are struggling with, which is then mostly something that is holding you back, from reaching what you're actually looking for to achieve.
Esteban Baez
...Because I understand that when you're going through a process of healing, sometimes you're carrying stuff that you may not even be aware of. Right? And this stuff, are you saying that this stuff could be something that is passed down from our families to us and we don't even realize that it's there?
Martin Altherr
Yes, absolutely. I experience it with my clients mostly like that.
They come to me and say:
"Hey, listen, something is constantly holding me back. And something is like, I'm unseen, nobody sees me. I am every time overseen by whatever I do... be it in business, or in life situations like private life and relationships... I'm always overseen it's like I'm alone in a capsule as if I'm traveling through life alone and nobody's seeing me."
And when I hear that in, let's say, that kind of articulation, then it makes for me already very much sense that there must be an Entanglement, but it can be, of course, also imprints. We were talking in another episode before about it, but mostly it's an Entanglement. And that is why also my system goes from "crack your code", to "untangle your life map" in order to "manifest your genius". Right?
And since we're talking today about this untangling your life map, we are talking actually about how you detect what is in the subconscious and what it means being in your family systemically entangled, because most people have never heard about being Entangled in a family system and they don't know what it means.
Some can maybe imagine, okay, I know that I have my mother-in-law or my father-in-law, and we have some troubles, and we are hooked in troubles that are common. But when we have suddenly entanglements that are going backwards in time maybe to a situation you are not even aware of.
How is something like this possible? And most people when I start to talk about it, want to switch off and say that's bullshit. And I understand that because it sounds so crazy, it sounds so incredible that most people say that's impossible.
And I only can say bear with us today and listen to the end because you will hear something you might never have heard and you will start to realize when you research about it "Oh holy crap, that's the truth. There is something that I never, ever have considered that could massively influence my life.
Esteban Baez
So what's an entanglement, Martin? What is that?
Martin Altherr
Okay, a very remarkable example could be the experience of a family, that forwarded a tragical entanglement over generations. That is one of my favorite examples by the way.
In a family, every time the second-born son at the age of 24 shot himself after his birthday. There was a guy who realized by studying the family's story that this happened again and again already over two generations.
While studying this he heard about family constellations and all that stuff and he started to get into that and he suddenly realized his brother is turning 24 around Christmas and he would be the next then if this family systemic theory is true. So he was very afraid about that and very concerned about that.
So he went to somebody who does family constellation and he was asking that person...
...actually systemic, the family systemics is the correct expression for that because what I do with the systemic entanglements is a bit a different way, but let's stay on track...
He went to that person who does family constellation and said: "Listen, I realize in our family already for two generations, every time the second son 24 years old after his birthday shot himself. My brother is turning 24 around Christmas time and I'm really concerned that something bad can happen to him. Although no sign is showing that something bad is going to happen."
The person who deals with the family constellation was saying: "Yes, your brother seems to be truly in danger. And they made a kind of mapping and they figured out yes, there must be a danger.
So that guy went back to his brother and said hey listen, brother, we have to seriously talk. The brother said, okay, what's going on? The guy said, Listen, I realized that in our family story, every time the second son turned 24 after his birthday shot himself. And I'm concerned that you maybe might be also involved in something like this.
And the 23 years old, turned pale and said, you know crazy that you remind me of these stories. I knew them but I kind of put them away and just last week I went to buy a gun and I don't know even why...
Esteban Baez
...Oh wow...
Martin Altherr
...So they went together back to family constellations and then they started to figure out what was the story behind what happened there. They started to check out what exactly was the hook, where it started in the family and then they untangled it and it was gone. So he had his 24th birthday and he didn't need to die and a different life took its path.
That's a story that shows how crazy something like this can happen.
I like to show also a simple thing to give a more simple example. When you are in your family and something unright happened like somebody got excluded as I told you in the beginning about somebody who feels always overseen... It often can be that somewhere in the past there was, like a child that came into a family but got kept secret because there was a betrayal. And so the father or the mother had a child outside of the family. And this child was then kept secret from the whole family. Like we don't talk about that. We exclude that child. We totally exclude this person. And then in the following somebody in the ancestral line later goes to balance that unrighteousness by living actually again the same story or a similar story in order to balance it, in order to pay for it.
Because we live in our system, our family system, through order, balance, and bond. And we are very grateful for the gift of life and we are really grateful to our system that brought life to us.
So we are giving our life to balance unrighteous things and we don't even need to know about those things. they work subconsciously active within us and they just hold us back from being who we truly are.
So untangling your life map means nothing else than finding out if something is holding you back. Is that an entanglement? And if yes, then we untangle it.
Esteban Baez
Here are some of the questions that came up in my mind as you were telling the story about the 23-year-old that bought the gun and didn't even know why.
The question is, does this have to do with a predestined future that's inside of us that we think we have to fulfill, that we may not even know or be aware of?
Like he bought a gun but maybe he wasn't even thinking about killing himself maybe on that day he probably was going to do it. Is that what would have possibly happened if he didn't discover that there was an entanglement?
Martin Altherr
He would have shot himself for 100% sure. The point is only it was not a kind of fate but it feels like fate because it's the unrighteousness that was in the family system and through balancing it or trying to balance it and through the bond to the family, he wanted to overtake it and to continue it in order to make it visible.
Like, here's the unrighteous thing I pay for it and let somebody see it, and let's change it forever. The problem is nobody knows it. Nobody understands that this is going on that track, so nobody's going to change anything.
And actually, when you look at something, when you carry guilt from, let's say, in your family system, and you carry that guilt and you try to solve that guilt, imagine the following.
Let's say this ball pen I hold in my hand. Here is the problem. I give it over to you and you overtake it. Can you solve that problem now or can't you?
Esteban Baez
I don't know. It's transferred to me, but I don't know what it is. I don't know what I'm supposed to do with it.
Martin Altherr
Exactly. You cannot change it because you are not the one who is the origin of it. You are not the one who experienced it. You are not the one who made it. You are not the one who brought it to life, but the one who follows later and tries to balance the unjust in the family system overtakes it as if it is his or hers, and tries to bring this righteousness back by paying for it.
And here is the problem now when that person has it in her hands or in his hands, nothing can change so actually you have to give it back and let it go in order that you can live and thrive in your life. That's the first thing and if ever somebody could change something, it's only the one who did it and not somebody else, right?
Esteban Baez
So if it was my great-grandfather who passed away that did something let's say I discovered that I have an entanglement that started with my great-great-grandfather how would we even know that it started with him? How would we know that?
Martin Altherr
You would not know it, you would not even be aware of it. But since I have systems and techniques, some I have overtaken by Bert Hellinger, the founder of Family Constellations.
I was honored to learn from him and have developed it in my way and brought it into my self-transformation code. I would go with you through specific scenarios and techniques to detect it. And then when we figure out what it is, then we're going to dissolve it and then it's gone forever. It is solved for you and for your soul, and it's solved for the family system.
Because finally, and that's the funny thing, we believe all the time we have to overtake from Ancestors to make it right, but actually it's the opposite. We should actually live our lives to make it right. Because that's the wish of everyone who has children, that the children can thrive in a well way, right?
Esteban Baez
Right.
Martin Altherr
And we see only the unright and we believe we can do something for it, we overtake it and we do something double bad for ourselves and that happened already anyway so we have already two times unrighteous in the family system, right?
But if you're not aware of it, what can you do? You just live your life. You just bump either into the wrong person every time in relationships, or you every time split up at the moment where it could actually become a good part and et cetera, et cetera.
You do many things like sabotaging yourself constantly in order to fulfill that promise to the family, to balance something unright. But actually, you should thrive. And this process we do then in our sessions to make it happen, that you're untangled from the entanglement.
Esteban Baez
Martin, thank you so much for sharing this information. This is extremely valuable and I hope that our listeners and viewers got massive value from today's episode.
If you would like to learn more about Martin's work, please visit martinaltherr.com that's martinaltherr.com.
Martin, do you have any closing statements for our viewers and listeners?
Martin Altherr
Always and gladly. I understand so much. When you hear that the first time, it's like blowing your mind and you think, come on, that's impossible. It's like you will feel it like impossible until you experienced it, until you saw it, that it really exists and that it's really true.
That's the first thing. And the other thing is, just imagine again, as I said before, when you carry something in your heart, in your subconscious that doesn't belong to you, and you try to balance through this unjust in your family system, you can only give it back to the one who has the origin, who did it, who was in it.
And if that person didn't live anymore or doesn't live anymore, you have to give it back and honor that person and that person's fate. And this is going to shift your fate.
And the next thing I want to say is to try to explore your family system. Be a bit, of Sherlock Holmes. Figure out what happened in your family system up to the fourth degree of ancestors and check out if there is something like war. Is there something like abortion? Is there something like children that are lost, children that are given away? Are there some fathers who didn't inherit to the right person? Or is there a betrayal in your family system? Is there something that really went wrong? If yes and you believe your life is not really running smoothly and successfully, it might be that you are in an entanglement that should be untangled.
Esteban Baez
Thank you so much, Martin, and thank you, guys, for tuning in. And we'll see you on the next episode.