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Confronting the Energy Vampire: Personal Benefits in Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

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Picture this: You're running towards a goal, your heart pounding with every step. But there's a weight on your back, it's your imposter syndrome, and it's holding you back. Can you imagine that? Join me, JP Warren, in this very personal episode of Energy Crew, as I share my very own face-off with this so-called energy vampire. I'll unravel how my imposter syndrome shaped a stressful existence, a hamster wheel of fears, anxiety, and perfectionism that was eating up my happiness, success, and even time with my family. 

But this isn't just about the darker hues of my journey. Listen to this transformative tale, where I stepped up to conquer my self-limiting beliefs and recreated my life story. Learn how I taught myself to reframe my thoughts, how I pursued a coaching certificate and even started a business. Understand how luck plays a part in our lives and why it's essential to believe in yourself. So, tune into this episode and find the inspiration to banish your own imposter syndrome and set yourself free.

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If you think that this is fun, don't write it down in the Commentsbox. 파벀, and welcome to a new energy crew podcast. I'm your host, jp Warren. I want to thank everyone out there for tuning in and again, this is a another new series, I guess, of energy crew podcast. All about where you put your energy. I want to make sure you put your energy in the right places.

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This one, so part of my journey of being a coach is sharing with those out there Things that have helped me, because things that have helped me whether it's you know, starting a company, things what I noticed when I, when I see other professionals try to achieve, and, honestly, this one kind of hits close to home because I'm going to talk to you. I think I spent the last podcast talking to you about my experience with imposter syndrome and kind of how it restricted me, how it kind of held me back, and the challenges and the struggles that I face, that I face. Honestly, I want to talk to you kind of today on the other side of that coin, the, the brighter side of that coin, on the the benefits that when I really started taking my imposter syndrome serious and when I really started kind of looking into my limiting beliefs and kind of, why do I? Why am I always self-dating myself? Why can I never feel achievement? Why can't I feel success? Well, why do I? Why does everything have to be perfect? Why am I so controlled? And why this? Why that? When I started compounding all these traits, I started kind of I, I, I, I started to. I needed to look into myself a little more. I needed to find out what was going on in this. In this episode will be kind of a journey for those out there and also for me to kind of share a brief kind of tip of the iceberg experience when it comes to me, kind of dealing my own imposter syndrome. So I guess you know from the last podcast we all know what's going on. We knew that. You know I started my company two years ago.

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I was a constant stress ball. I was, you know, I wasn't fun and be around with. You can ask my wife about that. I was constantly stressed, waking up in the morning. So I really kind of started getting real serious about looking at, you know, my imposter syndrome and kind of what would? Why was I being driven by these fear-based emotions, by anxiety, by professionalism, by not professionalism, perfectionism, that's a, by my isolation, by my self-doubt. Why was I being driven by these bullshit emotions? That did not serve me, that didn't help anything, that would. Constantly I would be spending time away from my daughter. I mean, you know we have my wife and I have my daughter. You know, half the time, and you know the last day I'd be spending time away from her doing bullshit work I would be doing. I would find myself, hey look, if I was in front of the computer typing away doing something, staying busy, then I was accomplishing something. I had to do that, if not I would fail. And I don't want to fail. I'm going to get into, kind of I'm going to get into, kind of I'm going to get into, kind where I was.

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And then what happened when I started? Kind of pursuing, um, this, pursuing how to me, stopping and reducing and reframing my imposter syndrome, my limiting beliefs, um, I guess you know, starting off my career, uh, you know when I was, you know 25, 26,. You know my limiting beliefs were pretty much. You know there's other people getting promoted, other people making more money than me, other people, you know, moving up the ranks faster. I always equated that my limited beliefs were kind of fine. There was like, ah well, you have to be lucky, you have to be the, you have to be in the right people, you have to be in the right shoes. Um, I know that's kind of true, you know. However, I never thought to myself, well, why can't I be that lucky person, why can't I be in those shoes? Um, I just accepted it. It was a period of accepting my, my limiting beliefs. Um, however, that beast.

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And again, um, if you catch the first, uh, the first episode where I talked about, um, imposter syndrome, um, I named my imposter syndrome For those of you out there that have seen, uh, what we do in the shadows, the TV show, colin Robbins, the energy vampire, that is my imposter syndrome. That's what I think of when this dude starts barking up saying, hey, you can't do this. Hey, you sure you want to send this out? Don't post that yet. Make sure it's perfect. Spend another 30 minutes on that and not with your daughter to make sure that color is perfect. On that graphic. You're going to post in social media that someone's going to see for maybe four seconds, so, okay.

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So probably when my imposter syndrome really started kind of taking shape, colin Robinson really started taking shape. Um, probably, I want to say, about a year ago. That's when kind of my wife uh, she kind of, you know, I was having these constant conversations with her saying, oh, like I think we're going to be okay, I think the company's going to be okay, I think I think it's valuable. Now I was kind of doubting the value of what I was doing. I was doubting kind of everything and, um, I always it was always one of those like pet talks that I'm sure it doesn't sound fun to pet talk someone who always has self doubt Like, oh, are you sure it's going to be good? It's like, yeah, it's going to be fine. Like we do something else. I have this worry himself, doubt talk husband, okay, honey.

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So I really started kind of looking into this, probably about last year, probably about this time and, um, and it was, it was interesting. It was one of those things where at first I had to realize I just set several things down. Number one, that I was not my imposter syndrome, the feelings that I had that I wasn't good enough, that things had to be perfect, that I was, that I was, you know, lucky. Um, you know, I really wasn't offered anything Shit. I wrote a kid's book that you know that I published and I was proud of and all this and I put it out there and it was very well received and I could not feel any sort of positive emotion that was attached to that. I could not feel any success, I could not feel any pride and it was this like. It was more like okay, what else do I have to do? What else can I do to prove to everyone that I'm worthy? And uh, you know, I really started kind of looking into this and you know, obviously I had to separate myself from Colin Robinson.

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I had to realize that my imposter syndrome, my limiting beliefs, that weren't me, that was just some shit that was ingrained in me, probably from my childhood. You know, all of our parents probably do the best that they can. I'm not taking anything from my parents, but again, that's what I'm doing. I'm sure I'm doing something to my daughter where she's in the grove. She's like man. I wish my dad did, but look, I'm trying my best too. So I had to realize that my failure, my inability to feel success and inability to feel achievement stemmed from my childhood. And again, that's something that like look at the end of the day, that is what it is Like I can't, I'm not going to go back and change. But who can I change today? Me, I can change me today, not me back then, or my parents back then or whoever back then, or my coach back then, who probably did pick me first. Whatever it was, it doesn't matter. I'm looking at myself right now and saying, hey look, colin Robinson, you're not a part of me now.

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Once I separated myself from Colin Robinson and began started doing and again, this is all part of the, the coaching program that I put together, and again I just got certified coaching. I'm super excited to get involved and I think part of the process of me actually helping others out there is me sharing my story with an impossible syndrome in self-loan and beliefs in how I pushed through not only pushed through, but how I conquered it and how I still conquer it on a daily basis and um, yeah, so, uh, man, that's why I hate doing this live stuff, because I really forget where I was. But I had to separate myself from my imposter syndrome, my, my Colin Robinson and once I started doing that, I started kind of taking up a personal accountability on things where I was at my life because there's no one else to blame. It couldn't be my imposter syndrome, it couldn't be Colin Robinson, it couldn't be my dad couldn't be. My mom couldn't be. You know, my coach couldn't be anyone growing up, it had to be me. I was in control of kind of who I was at that moment. So, first thing, first separate, separate my imposter. And I had to realize I tell myself I still tell myself this to this day that I am not those living beliefs, those little beliefs aren't attached to me. That's just some narrative BS, that's sort of kind of spinning in my mind that's stuck. So it's time to kind of like shave that callus off and not think like that anymore.

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All right, I started working on myself. And what did that look like? I Went from the, the hustle mindset, where I always had to be busy, where I always had to be constantly around things, doing work, pumping out emails, doing graphics. Hey, I had a free day. Hey, you're an entrepreneur, that's what you're supposed to do. It's have three days and chill. But no, I wasn't chilling at all, any free time that I had. I was plugged in front of my computer on Canva, brainstorm, dreaming whiteboard. I was bringing work from behind the computer constantly to the dinner table. I was bringing work constantly to my family, the stress, the anxiety, everything to the hustle Constantly. I couldn't turn it off. That was the perfectionism, that was the hey JP, if you'd stop. That was Colin Robinson saying hey, jp, if you stop working, then you're gonna fail. Guess what your competition is gonna get ahead of you. Okay, thanks, colin, you weren't invited here anyway.

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So, um, I was waking up extremely early. I was stressed out. I wasn't really, you know, connected to my wife, connected to my daughter and you know, like you know, we had Saturdays and Sundays and they'd be playing and I'd be like on the couch with them, you know, or wherever, with them, but I'd be on my computer and again, that was something that, like, I didn't. I didn't like that feeling, but I felt like I had to do it. I Didn't like being always attached to my computer, but I had to do it. Um, I didn't like always talking about work, but I had to do it. My posture center was telling me you better keep talking about you, better stay stressed about it. You better not enjoy any feeling of achievement, success or calmness, because that's when you know that you're a fraud, everyone's gonna find out that. But you better say hustle, all right. So Again, couldn't identify with my. Success is about that stuff.

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So after my wife finally got tired of me having these same conversations, that kind of spurned out of blue what is a nice afternoon, I just kind of sit up and cook, stir off on the distance, be like, oh, what is that, honey, we're gonna be okay, right. I mean, this is why. So we got this goal, we got true club happening. True club's good. And finally she's like stop, you really have to face what's going on here.

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So I started to face what's going on and that's kind of so it wasn't sustainable. It wasn't suitable for me to stay in this stressed ball zone and again I visualized just being like a stressed ball for a long period of time. It wasn't sustainable. So I had to really take a look at myself and kind of find out what I was doing. The number one avoid or shut Colin Robinson down the unhealthy way. And I was drinking, I was boozing a lot, there was no why would he get to do? It's? You know my, you know true club is, you know, hosting events. It's hosting these little intimate, private, you know exclusive networking events and that's what you do there. So I really started thinking about that. That was sustainable for me to continue drinking at these things. So I started taking myself serious. I started kind of kind of realized and like I did have value to this. This wasn't just people getting together and having whatever.

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So what happened when I really started focusing on on attacking myself, beliefs and this again, this kind of this isn't a pitch, but this does tie into my coaching program, my coaching journey and what I want to do to help people, because I've been there, I've been through that mud, I've been through that rut of waking up early, constant being stressed can't get out of my own way. Not getting out of your own way is most frustrating things. So, anyway, so what happened when I really started facing my hypothesis? When I started and that the whole point of my coaching thing is reducing your posture syndrome and reframing it and this microphone is so weird I have to go like high to go. So it's it focused on reducing your posture syndrome and reframing it. All right.

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So the first thing when I started reducing it, I started kind of putting more weight, more cargo, onto the cruise. I was like I started believing it a little bit more. I realized that, hey look, you know, I started kind of putting down evidence-based reasons why I was where I was at. I wasn't, I didn't before, I was faking it, before I was a fraud, before I was getting by on you know smoke and mirrors. I started putting evidence based on what I was doing. So this many people are coming to your events, this level of people, this people want to. I started providing evidence on where I was at because of where, what I was doing Again. Then I shifted into the reframing everything. And so what happened?

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So I once I really started diving into this journey of identifying limited beliefs, reducing it and reframing it. I stopped drinking. That's February, probably the end of February. I just decided to say, hey look, it's not serving me. I'm waking up with anxiety. I have these. I have two or three events a week.

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I can't keep entertaining, drinking and doing this that much. I can't keep doing this with all this self-doubt in me, with all these limiting beliefs and this voice Colin Robinson telling me that I'm faking it, that I'm a fraud, that I'm a phony, that I'm a piece of shit. All this stuff that my imposter syndrome was telling me started going away when I quit drinking. Now here's don't get me wrong, I'm not on top. You need a quick drinking too. Not at all. This is my personal story. Y'all do y'all's own story. No, don't get me wrong, I still have a martini every now and then, but it's probably on a special occasion. It's probably very rare that I'll have a cocktail or a glass of wine or something like that, but that's what. Every four, six weeks, eight weeks maybe, but yeah, so, anyway. So quit that. Quit nicotine.

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I was a huge zen dude and I hid in that jewel, but again, that was part of you know that behind the scene stuff I would cope. It was my nervous tick and all that stuff. Quit that Once. I started kind of facing it again and reframing it. I started kind of getting more confidence, I started getting more motivation, I started kind of believing, I guess, myself a little bit more. So I not only quit all that bad stuff for me, I started doing good stuff for me too.

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I started this besides morning, I'll get into the business stuff, not my morning routines and all that stuff but I started another company, exec Fruit. Where's Exec Fruit? Exec Fruit? I started Exec Fruit and that's something that's kicking off in January 2024, but again, I would have done that if I, if I an executive crew, no way would I have believed that I could do that. If I was listening to my Colin Robinson for the past you know, three years no way I would have said, yeah, let me, let me get around a room full of executives and founders, um, and all that I'm organizing because, yeah, uh, I'm not a fraud. No, I started believing myself. Let me do this.

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Not only that, I pursued a coaching certificate. So I believe to myself, and before I mean, who is I to talk to a CEO about how they navigate themselves or how they run a company, or how they manage a team? Who is I to chat with any founders about what they're going through or anything like that, or guide? Who is I to coach anyone? Um, this is this is a, this is like a one person shop. Like, who am I to coach anyone about leadership? Um, however, I talked to, uh, uh, joe Synod. I talked to a couple of other people and, um, again, I reduced Colin Robinson saying hey, look, you have no business coaching people. I refrained that, saying, no, you actually do. You've been there, you're vulnerable, you can connect with people in your and, contrary to my wife, thanks, I'm a good listener too.

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So I pursued my coaching certificate and I just that was a six month process and I, just this past week, um got certified graduate Um with crew club. I put together a newsletter. Why? Why is that a big deal? Cause, before I thought no one really had it gave a shit what I had to say. Before I thought no one really cared what in this, regardless of anyone cares or not, I'm still doing it. I'm you know what. It's one of those things where it's like I believe in myself enough where I'm just going to do it and if one person likes it, great. If no one likes it, that's fine. I'm not going to have, but if one person likes it, I'll take it. Um, what else? Um, uh, I can't even read this Um. I pursue my coach, the energy crew.

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Oh, I started, I started this podcast up again before. I mean, before that I kind of let this podcast um again sit behind the mic talking to people, talking to strangers and all that stuff. It's it's it's very time consuming, it's fun, it's very time consuming, though, but it's also one of those things too, it's like you really kind of have to believe in yourself that other people want to hear you talk. Um, again, I started this up. Not only that, what am I doing is, past three podcasts, I'm having these ones where I don't have a guest on, it's just me talking.

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Um, and again, I become comfortable being uncomfortable, and that's something that I try to tell teach my daughter, that's something I try to tell. A lot of people get uncomfortable. It's okay, it's okay. The worst thing that can happen is you learning to embrace being uncomfortable and think about that. So, anyway, so I don't think I would be where I'm at if I did not, first off, without my wife getting tired of me and telling me hey, look, you need to start facing this. You do need to start facing what's going on with you.

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But why am I so passionate about helping others? Um, when it comes to imposter syndrome and, um, they're limiting beliefs, reducing the limited beliefs and not only that, reframing what their self talk. Um, I'm passionate about that because it works, it matters. I'm thinking about this. You know I was talking about why. If I'm like, oh, you know what? If I, how do I communicate the emotions with? You know, sometimes people don't like talk about emotions. How do I communicate the emotions, you know? Uh, from imposter syndrome to, I guess, where it kind of makes business sense, where it makes economic sense. Well, I guess the best way to say is this if I was in a room and you know, and I was, you know, the leading a board room, and I have, you know, 10 people in the room, well, statistically speaking, seven out of 10 of those people have some sort of self limiting beliefs that are not allowing them to achieve the levels that they could. Why not introduce ways for people to reduce the self-limit of beliefs and increase how they reframe their personal self-talk? It's helped me out tremendously to the point where I was just going to the crew club, just doing dinners, just having cocktails every night, just coasting by.

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Once I started really identifying my limiting beliefs, I was able to look at myself. I was able to set goals, achieve goals, continue pushing myself, not in a way that was before. My motivation before was for people to feel, oh my God, this guy's a fraud, I better start doing more stuff. No, my motivation now is more. I know I can do more. I know because I believe in myself versus I don't believe in yourself. You better keep putting shit out there Again. This was a wonderful journey for me. It's also one of those things where it's like I'm still battling this, but it's a lot more fun now. I have been a lot more kind to myself mentally and honestly. It's worked.

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I remember again, I just shared this story in the last podcast but it's such a perfect example because this whole program, this IS to the IAM journey, this imposter syndrome, to the IAM journey. This thing that you crew is creating, that I'm building, is something that's helped me. I'm living proof of it. I remember it was last week or two weeks ago. I was in again for those watching right there.

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I was in a lobby. I was out of my zone. I was a small fish, big pond, no business being there. I immediately recognized Colin Robinson when he walked in that door, when he walked in my, when he walked down, sat next to me and started yapping in my ear you're not ready for this, jp? Hey, you're not good enough, get out of here. Fraud, you're going to fail. These people talk to presidents and CEOs all day long, but hey, I stopped myself. I was able to identify Colin Robinson, my imposter syndrome. Now I was able to immediately shift, provide evidence, personal evidence, why I was there.

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Not only that, I took that imposter syndrome and turned it to the IAM. I am ready for this. I am a badass, I am invited here, I am their guest, that they want me to be here. I changed my attitude, my, my, my, my, my confidence, my being assertive in the meeting, me walking through that door in that meeting had a completely different energy, completely different vibe, because I was able to stop myself and reframe my imposter syndrome. So I know that's a lot, but I want to. I want to thank y'all for kind of hearing that and and hearing me ramble for another 21 minutes, but I'm really enjoying it Again. That was part of my journey when I'm dealing my self-limiting beliefs and again I'm there to help others now face theirs and battle theirs and beat theirs, beat their limiting beliefs, beat their imposter syndrome so that they can achieve the goals that they want to achieve, achieve their aspirations.

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So I guess, if you're sitting there listening to this, grab a sheet of paper, honestly think about this. If you were to identify your self-limiting beliefs, the, the voice in your head that says, hey, you're not good enough, or you shouldn't be here, or hey, you're a fraud. What would that thing look like? What would that person look like? Name it, because it's not you. Give it a name, give it its own voice and whenever you start hearing that, put the thoughts in that voice, because it's not you Always talking to. It. Could be, you know, the Danny DeVito in the penguin, Colin Robinson, that's, that's mine. Feel free to take that too.

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But what annoying character. Because it is annoying. Let's not make this like a Henry Covell walking in and being like you're not good enough, like damn right, henry, I'm not, but take someone that's annoying. That is your imposter syndrome, because your positive is not you, it's just that annoying little thing that's kind of grown, that's attached to you Time to time to sever. So thank you, opportunity and energy crew. I want you all to put your energy in yourself in the right way and we appreciate everything. Talk to you soon.