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The 5 Types of Imposter Syndrome: Origins and Coping Mechanisms
Familiar with that nagging voice telling you you're not good enough, despite your achievements? You're not alone. Our latest episode peels back the layers of imposter syndrome, a challenge that over 70% of high achievers battle with. I open up about my own struggle and debunk the myth that success is a fluke. We journey through the origins of these feelings and why they're more prevalent among minorities and women. Across our discussion, we identify the classic profiles - from the Perfectionist to the Expert - and I offer up my own tales and insights from experts to help you spot and tackle imposter syndrome in your own life.
As the holiday season looms, we understand the pressure can mount, especially for those donning the 'Superman/Superwoman' cape. This episode doesn't just highlight the problem, it provides actionable advice. We confront the deep-rooted need for overachievement and the relentless pursuit of expertise, stressing the importance of boundary-setting and embracing the learning curve. Whether you're a 'Natural Genius' feeling the heat to get it right on the first go, or an 'Expert' in an endless quest for knowledge, this conversation is geared to empower you with strategies to break free from these constraints and confidently claim the success you've earned.
ERG 위한 and welcome to a new energy crew podcast. I want to thank everyone out there for tuning in to the energy crew podcast Again, if you're enjoying these. We try to discuss entrepreneurship, mindset, personal coaching, personal development, marketing, whatever kind of topic that's interesting to me on how to kind of what I'm working on to improve myself or what I see out there that can help others through conversation and kind of falling back to what I've been talking about, what I've been focused on the past, not just throughout. You know one of my, one of my youth crews right here, right there, my youth crew business, which is executive coaching that deals with imposter syndrome, this kind of just. It's important to continue talking about this because this is a subject that a lot of people face and it's perfectly normal to face this.
Speaker 1:The imposter syndrome is a feeling, it's an experience that over 70% of people experience. Imposter syndrome is, if they did a study in the 80s, that 70% of high achievers or people in leadership positions deal with imposter syndrome on some level to some degree. And that's the feeling that where you are at in life is a direct result of luck, of you being a fraud, of you being a phony, has nothing to do with your, with your achievements, your successes or your effort, and I think that's BS and that's something that I'm dealing with and that's what I'm talking about today, so you can deal with it too. All right, so, but I think, before we kind of discuss on how to kind of like this, this, this episode, is not going to be about how to how to fix your imposter syndrome. It's going to be the first step in your imposter syndrome, which is understanding your imposter syndrome is understanding where it's from and you know, after you know researching and listening to you know some books and kind of reading articles. The positive syndrome does stem from our childhood and this is going to be a childhood. Oh, mommy, this daddy that Everyone, I guess, is doing as best they can. However, imposter syndrome does stem from childhood or your environment and actually, whether it's minorities and women are affected with imposter syndrome more based on, I guess, culture, cultural environment, situations.
Speaker 1:So let's kind of get over them and when we're going to talk about the different types of imposter syndrome, we're going to go over for each of them, the first off the top, what they are, what they're called, the description of them, an example of this, maybe a real world example of this kind of how I've kind of kind of relate to this. You know, the kind of the origin of this, the potential childhood origin of this type of this type of imposter syndrome, how to manifest in adults and also potential coping strategies. So this might give you a little bit, but, if anything, we're just going to kind of go. I love talking about imposter syndrome. It's something that I think is not talked about enough and that's kind of why I dig it and I think it. You know, I do get a lot of feedback that it is helping people and people are identifying with this. So let's get into it.
Speaker 1:So I think it's one, two, three, four, five yes, the five types of imposter syndrome, the perfection list and when we're listening to this, see what you can identify with any of this, even a little bit. I know I can identify with a couple of these, but see what you can too. All right, the perfection list, the soloist, the superwoman or Superman, the natural genius and the expert let's see what you can identify with. And we're just gonna gotta maybe rapid fire these and kind of talk about this, all right, so let's start off with the perfectionist, all right, so the description is perfectionist, set excessively high goals wait, where is yeah, excessively high goals? And how small flaws can make them question their own competence? All right, do you know anyone like that? Can you relate to that? That people just have to. We actually just had an episode about goal setting and realistic goal setting before, but the perfection list they always set these hold themselves accountable to these extremely high goals and any flaws or any change in plan or detail affects them personally. They are attached to their goals. They're attached to their, to kind of what they're involved in. So any flaws and I can relate to this I can relate to this whether it comes to even kids crew. Kids crew is an event that we bring kids to learn about energy, promote STEM and again, this is a kids event and when you're dealing with a kids event, it's not gonna be perfect. However, my imposter syndrome experiencing life thought yeah, I could play in a perfect kids event with 70 kids in a room with science experiments and I would really get wrapped up in that. I would get so wrapped up in every if it had to go perfect. It had to go perfect and where it actually drawn me down to take away from the impact and the fun of the afternoon and really just gotta trust the process.
Speaker 1:So an example is is a student who believes they must achieve top grades in all subjects to be considered successful. Does anyone know? Can anyone relate to everyone? A straight, a student, but they get that one B and in rooms they see that one B over all those A's. That's the perfectionist, all right. Where is a STEM? Where is a STEM?
Speaker 1:From childhood origin, growing up in an environment where only top achievements like grades or sports victories were praised or recognized, I don't know if I can relate to that, cause. I didn't really make good grades, unless you're my daughter. Then I made it all A's, all right. Yeah, just one of those things is just kind of like your name you never feel satisfied. You never feel accomplished with your work, even if it's a great job. People praising all that stuff. You never feel satisfied. It's always oh, I could have done this better, something was wrong with this and that's tough.
Speaker 1:So one coping strategy for the perfectionist out there is again. We had a podcast about an episode about this earlier is focus on your progress, focus on your efforts, focus on your goals towards your progress, towards your goals. As a perfectionist, this is kind of something that we're trying to do, this more as a parent in our house. We're trying to recognize effort over achievement, over outcomes. Let's say, my daughter's trying to play basketball or baton soft, whatever it is and she doesn't. We want to celebrate her efforts in trying her hardest versus getting a grand slammer dunk whatever sports reference we want to go with. Again, set realistic goals and measure your progress and celebrate yourself on that progress, on headed towards your goals. For the perfectionist All right.
Speaker 1:Number two the soloist. I can identify with this and I hate this. I hate that I get identified with this. All right. The soloist believes that they must accomplish tasks alone and seeking help is a sign of weakness. Does this relate to anyone out there? I know it does.
Speaker 1:For me, when I started this company or any of these, whatever, as a solopreneur, it's like you have to wear every hat, whether it's whatever it is, and that's okay. That's okay to wear every hat because you're learning the business. You're learning what makes your business tick. However, as you grow and as the business evolves and as the business moves forward, you still have to have control over everything. The soloist still has to have control over every single aspect of the business and this is a point where I'm at personally right now. I'm at kind of this crossroads right now where I need to start delegating. I need to relinquish some control and trust the process. Trust that it's gonna. Just because it's not gonna go how it looks up here, it's still gonna be okay, all right.
Speaker 1:So an example is an employee struggling to delegate tasks. Hey, I just talked about that, feeling they must complete all work independently to improve their worth. Yeah, I also get very attached to the results of a Crew Club event or I get attached to the outcome of a kid's crew or how executive is in a row. I am personally attached to this because I put so much effort in working it All right and so that's kind of a challenge for me. That's a goal for me in 2024. Right now was to learn and trust how to delegate and, honestly, even if things do go wrong, it's gonna be okay. It's not the end of the world, all right, that's part of it, man, that's part of life. That's never perfect, all right.
Speaker 1:Childhood origin where does this stem from? This is potentially a child raising an environment where independence was overly valued and asking for help was seen as a weakness. So maybe your parents couldn't be bothered, maybe you couldn't ask them for help, maybe you had to figure stuff out on your own. And again, none of these are bad. Okay, I was saying that None of these are. We're all human, we all have traits of human. We're all products of our childhood, all right. So again, these are just things to identify.
Speaker 1:I think the first step to identifying and tackling your imposter syndrome is number one realizing it's an experience. It's not you, okay, you are not the fraud. And another thing is self-reflection. So what kind of imposter syndrome do you feel, do you resonate with? So so far I can already hit on two Adult manifestation difficulty and teamwork. So you have a tough time working with others. You kind of want to take control on everything. You feel fraudulent when unable to handle tasks solo. Oh. So when you are handed a task, you kind of feel like a fraud when you can't accomplish that task, all right. So again, coping strategy for the soloist out there is to learn how to delegate, trust the process, understand and appreciate teamwork and the value of it. All right, and again, recognizing that seeking help is a strength, not a weakness. And this also every good leader always says you don't want to be the smartest person in the room. So, again, if you're having a tough time decoupling yourself away from all the tasks that are required for you and you're having a tough time delegating, just think first off, realize it's gonna be okay, but second off, understand that every good leader out there delegates, all right. Every good leader out there is not the smartest in the room.
Speaker 1:The superwoman all right. Number four, number three, yeah, number three. The superwoman, superman All right. This is individuals who push themselves to work harder than others to prove they're not imposters, often neglecting their own well-being. Yielding yo this, okay. So I can identify with the superman, the soloist and the okay, that's cool, oh, cool, okay, all right. Well, sorry, monica, all right.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, the example is professional work, successive hours across multiple roles, work, own personal life to prove their worth. So it's someone that cannot say no. It's someone that is taking on every single task, that's trying to outwork you, that's trying to do this and oftentimes just like yo, like chill, like you gotta take a break, like you were working too many hours at the office, you're neglecting your, whatever that is, so, anyway. So the superman, superwoman, can accomplish every task on their own All right. So where'd the stem from?
Speaker 1:What childhood would a superman or superwoman come from? It's coming from a background where being the best in multiple areas was heavily emphasized. So that's kind of being like the all-star child who's the valactorian, also the star quarterback, or whatever like that. So it's someone who's success is we're celebrating not just one, but across multiple different. That's a lot of pressure. That's a lot of pressure. All right, adult manifestations. So how can people see this? It's burnout, it's stress, it's feeling like a fraud and not excelling in every area of life. Does that sound familiar to anyone out there, especially before the holiday seasons? I'll bet so. So coping strategies Again.
Speaker 1:If you're a superman or superwoman out there with a face of this type of imposter syndrome, one of the things that you can do is set some boundaries. Set some healthy boundaries. Again, I think scheduling is gonna be a big task for me in 2024. I think this is kind of a tool to use for the superman Take your schedule and set boundaries. I'm leaving the office here. I'm making my kids the recital here. I'm doing this. It's okay to take a step away from work, because work's probably gonna be there when you get back to it All right. So now we're gonna go keep moving along to number four, the natural genius.
Speaker 1:The description here is people who believe they must master skills quickly and feel ashamed if they need effort or time to learn. This is not me. I definitely don't feel ashamed. You should have seen me before I set up all this podcast. I took me a lot of effort, time to set up this lot. I know it's silly, this simple stuff. So anyway, the natural genius is they don't. What is it? They must master that skill, so it's constantly going back. It's the people, it's the teachers in college that have never really went to the real world. They just stayed in the professional world. Not all of them, obviously, but it's a musician who feels they must pick up a new piece, a new piece of equipment, and they're embarrassed to kind of practice. So actually they won't practice that equipment if it takes a long time to learn, childhood origin on this is praised only when showing immediate competence and new skill, leading to belief that needing effort to learn is a sign of failure.
Speaker 1:Man, that's, that's imposterism. Right there, you can't show any effort in learning something. All right, adult manifestations avoidance of challenges, feeling like an imposter, not instantly, instantly successful. So sounds kind of like a short fuse right there. All right, so if you're a natural genius, a coping strategy is embracing the learning process, embracing the time and effort it takes you to learn that skill. And understanding hey look, I learned the skill. It kind of helps my portfolio of skills. So, understanding, just because you're not learning something right off the bat or you can't master a task right off the bat, it's not a bad thing, All right. Last but not least, the expert. So, recapping, and tell me which ones you're that you can identify with, you have the professionalist, you have the soloist, the Superman, superwoman, the natural genius and finally, last but not least, the expert.
Speaker 1:All right, these are individuals who feel they need to know everything before they are qualified or credible. So it's kind of similar to it's kind of similar to the natural genius. An example is an academic who feels compelled to earn more degrees of certificates to value. So it's the person that's constantly going to get certified. It's the person that's constantly asking for that, constantly asking for that. You're constantly adding badges or those walls of certificates to the wall behind them. This probably was brought up, raised in an environment where expertise and extensive knowledge were highly valued Okay, that's not bad and adult manifestations. You're constantly seeking more training. You're feeling fodder when you're facing unknown topics, so again. So there's, yeah, so I mean all this stuff. I mean. So that's kind of it for this episode.
Speaker 1:I think you know, taking this imposter syndrome journey and just kind of understanding, decoupling yourself from these negative, self-limiting beliefs is important. It's also important, too, to kind of do some self reflection and to start learning more about yourself. It's so easy to be looking out outwards, right. Whenever you're faced with a challenge or a situation or you're in an imposter syndrome environment, we have to step up to the plate. However, it's the whole point of this podcast, the whole point of the imposter syndrome journey the IS to the IM journey is to not look outwards, it's to look inwards. So what type of imposter syndrome you are, it's easy to know.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, I feel I feel this way. Why do I feel this way? Oh, it's because this is why in sixth grade I didn't make this basketball team and this that makes sense. That little thing you know 30 years ago is affecting me today and how I walk in and give a presentation to a meeting. So it's important to take a self reflection, look at kind of your backgrounds and you're kind of who you are, what makes up your fibers, so you can kind of better understand where your imposter syndrome experiences are coming from. And once you know that, then you can turn that to a strength. So, again, I can identify with several of these through different areas, whether it's through setting up crew club, whether it's content events, whatever it is business dealings I can identify with a lot of these.
Speaker 1:However, I've found that once you identify with it, once you kind of understand your imposter syndrome experiences because it's very normal, okay Once you kind of figure that out, then you can start kind of decoupling those self-limiting beliefs all right and those reasonings why you have to be at the office and miss your daughter's game or you have to take on this certification, to add to your long list one. Once you start understanding that, you can challenge yourself, you can decouple and actually turn those feelings of fraud into a strength, and that's something that I'm very passionate about doing and that's kind of why we're having this conversation. So, hey, look, I want to thank everyone out there. Happy New Year Again. If you're enjoying these, please subscribe, share.
Speaker 1:We'll be dropping a lot of these, these 15 to 20 minute episodes, that kind of go over mindset, personal development and all that fun stuff. So again, if you are one of these five, or you do relate to some of these five preposterous feelings, you're not alone. I am in the same boat as with you, I'm probably the captain of that boat and that's it. So it's normal, and I guess you are not yourself living beliefs. You're anything but that. So I want to thank everyone out there for tuning in and we'll see you soon on Energy Crew Podcast. Put your energy in the right direction To get your second target, week one. Next time. Take that fourth target low boat broadcast. Live you.