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Have you ever felt like an outsider in your own success story, constantly questioning your achievements? Join me, JP Warren, as I lay bare my struggle with imposter syndrome and how I've learned to arm myself against it. In this candid discussion, I steer away from the traditional interview format and instead have a raw, unscripted conversation about the transition from a structured questioning approach to more fluid, natural dialogues on my podcast. It's a tale of transformation—how letting go of rigid frameworks and embracing uncertainty can lead to personal growth. I express my gratitude for the support and comments from you, the listeners, which have been a guiding force in this journey of authenticity.

Navigating through the depths of self-doubt, we uncover strategies to build a fortress of confidence, starting with the potent phrase "I am." These affirmations have the power to reshape our self-image and embolden us to occupy our space in the world rightfully. I reflect on leading an executive group, highlighting how preparation and mindset can alter the entire dynamic of a room. And while a nod in a magazine can be heartening, the episode emphasizes the importance of constructing our own pillars of validation, rather than relying solely on external approval. Listeners, this is an invitation to join me in rejecting the inner critic and fostering a supportive internal dialogue—because we all deserve to step into our roles with conviction and genuine self-assurance.

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tough the la and welcome to a new energy crew. Podcast Me or host JP Warren. I want to thank everyone out there for tuning in today. This is the second Saturday of the new year. I want to thank everyone out there for all the we've got to get some really good feedback and support, a lot of good comments about, kind of some of the subjects we've been covering over, at least recently. It's been you know the subjects, you know some of them have been pretty vulnerable, which which been you know the five. You know Poster syndrome. It's been some conversations about, you know entrepreneurship. It's been conversations on networking, kind of tips and tricks about that, and I want to thank everyone out there for tuning in this round. We're the episode today. I'm going to try. I've been trying stuff out rent.

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We want to remember when I first started my first podcast. Again, this is all about kind of being comfortable and keeping things interesting for myself, keeping things fun for me. So when I first started my first podcast, I would always start off with five questions and I would ask the guest five questions and it would just kind of it would be a great conversation. Don't get me wrong, however, it would really kind of get stale to me and I'm but I was comfortable with those five questions. I was behind a microphone for the first time I was behind a camera Wasn't really comfortable. So if I had those five questions, I had a guidebook. Well, after a couple of months they started getting boring doing the same questions, doing the same routine. So I changed it up. I asked maybe two questions of that of those five and I kind of left room for it to grow organically. And then I got to a point with my podcast where it's like I really didn't want any preparation. I kind of wanted to have a genuine conversation with someone and be interested and not have preset questions. I usually find those are the conversations that I get the most out of, those conversations I find the most valuing because it's it's a conversation with someone that I really don't know much. Don't know much about and we're diving into the details.

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So this go around previously on the podcast that I that I was doing solo I would prep out big time. I would really kind of list out what I want to do on this. I want to say I got to say hello to my, to my wife, my mother, who are tuning in on the uh, I'm doing this on Instagram live so you're, if you're listening this on a release date, so they're tuning in now. So I got to say hello, but the last couple of podcasts that I've done, I've really kind of mapped out what I want to talk about. It may not sound it because I still use a lot of filler words, but I did map it out. So today I kind of jotted down what I want to talk about.

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However, I am not going to. There's not really a lot of plans here. So, again, being uncomfortable is kind of one of those things I'm pushing myself into this year. I recommend you do the same thing, because that's when we grow, that's when we find things that we maybe we find interested and we discover, and that's kind of when we test ourself. And that's kind of what I try to tell my daughter is to kind of be uncomfortable in situations, because that's where you find your voice. So the podcast, the episode right now we're going to talk about.

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Right now I kind of want to discuss a get back into the imposter syndrome side of things, because there has been a lot of feedback that I received from whenever I do the imposter syndrome podcast. It's usually positive, it's usually like hey, you know I'm going through this. I got a nice message from someone that I was talking to that actually used to work with my first job. She reached out that you know her and her husband were talking about this and she really appreciates the content. So look again, at the end of the day, if it helps one person, that's the goal of this, so, but I know it's probably helped more people than that because that study that was done 1980s. What is it? If you've listened before over how many percent of people suffer imposter syndrome or experience at one point in their life? That's 70%, so it's majority of people.

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So I'm going to kind of share kind of personal experiences this week alone what happened with the post or syndrome and how I kind of dealt with that, and also kind of give you the framework on kind of whenever you have the imposter syndrome kind of popping up or those negative, limiting self beliefs that are total, bogus, all right, then you don't have to pay attention to, all right. So you have to realize that's not you, it's a voice inside your head, it's a character inside your head that you don't have to listen to and you kind of tell the truth and you gotta tell them who you really are. So the first experience so there's been kind of I think probably four experiences that I can name that I felt that my imposter syndrome kind of stand up and scream and when that happens I've gotten really good just because I've kind of done the work. I've done the work when I got to face these self-looting beliefs, when I face these discussions, that I had these internal discussions, these internal monologues of myself where it's like, oh, you're not good enough, oh, you can't do this, who are you? No one's gonna listen to you. Like who the hell wants to listen to you, jp? So I have found a way and again, this is part of this isn't why I got into coaching, but this is something that I enjoy about. Coaching is helping people with their self-looting beliefs and their imposter syndrome. So I kind of want to go through and kind of the internal monologue that was going on, what I did and honestly it can help you too. But again, it takes work and it doesn't matter how much work you do, it's still there and it's still a fight that you have to take. But anyway it's worth and it's enjoyable.

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So this week we kicked off exec-fru and exec-fru for those that don't know is a new mastermind executive development program that my wife and I kicked off with our first meeting on Wednesday, and it's one of the things where my imposter syndrome was really kind of going off. Before I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm learning. So, for example, before I probably would have worked all night on the presentation to make sure it's perfect. I would have spent hours and hours and hours looking at the font of the forms that the members are gonna we're gonna start doing them together and all that stuff. I would have dialed in these details so much because, remember, if you listened to previous podcasts, one of the types of imposter syndrome is perfectionism and that's what I was going for, and actually I did a good job of saying you know what? This is good enough, this presentation is good enough. Yeah, I can spend more time on this away from my film, but this is good enough. The forms, they were good enough. So when it got to the professionalist side of me, I was able to release that.

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However, when it got to my role in that meeting, that's when my imposter syndrome popped up. It was. So exec-fru is a mastermind executive development program. We have 18 members and I think there were probably 13 in this meeting or 12 in this meeting and in my mind I was thinking, well, who the hell am I to leave this meeting? Who am I to stand in front of these? You know founders, these executives, you know these leaders, these achievers who the hell am I to stand up here and kind of bring them together and not only that, coach and share some professional, professional, personal and professional development strategies and also setting goals together? Who the hell was I? That was going on in my mind. You know I've never been in this position before. You know I've been listening to. You know I've always seen Tony Robinson but never really heard him by downloading his book, and I was thinking who the hell am I I'm not Tony Robinson in front of these people. This is the first exec crew I've done and my mind really started racing. However, I quickly noticed that that was my imposter syndrome chiming up. And if those that listened before, my imposter syndrome's name is Colin Robinson, for those that know what we do in the shadows, colin Robinson is a character that lives with the vampires and he's an energy vampire. He's just negative and just kind of one of those people that you don't want to invite to a dinner party necessarily. You definitely don't want living inside your brain telling you that you're not good enough. So I immediately identified that that was Colin Robinson.

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Step one is identify when it's happening. It takes self reflection to identify when these negative thoughts are coming up, when these limiting beliefs are kind of piping in. So I initially started feeling a little self doubt and then it started kind of snowballing and then it was like, well, who the hell am I? Who the hell am I? I stopped myself. I said Colin, you're in the room, welcome, sit down. I'm gonna put you over here and I'm gonna explain to you. Is the second step? I'm gonna explain to you and provide evidence why I belong up in front of that group, why I belong, sharing this information with all these executives and founders.

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So step two was separate myself and realize all these negative voices and all this, this negative limiting beliefs, wasn't part of me. I was just ingrained up here from probably growing up. Whether it's not making a team or whether it's not making an A, whatever, it doesn't matter where it came from, it was there. So the first part was kind of identifying. The second part was separating, realizing that wasn't me. And then this is kind of the fun part where we're not a lot of people are known. This is kind of something that I encourage you out there to do.

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Whenever you start having these negative, limiting beliefs and then you start, that imposter syndrome voice pops up in your head. It starts kind of chirping at you and kind of poking at you on why you're not that person. Hey, you're not that guy. So I immediately started kind of putting down evidence of why. No, I was that guy, colin. Like, let me explain why I've got my certificate, colin. I've created this course. Not only that, I've used all this stuff in this program to help me achieve my goals and to kind of give out of my rut. So all this stuff that I'm talking about works.

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I am an entrepreneur, I've been in business for going on three years, and so I started listening evidence of, no, I do belong in front of that room. And second, and then I started kind of listening. Well, not only that, but these people that are going to be in the room, they signed up for this, didn't they? They made a financial commitment and investment to be in this room. So they have faith in you. You got to have faith in yourself.

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So again, I started kind of listing all this stuff, listing all these evidence-based reasons why I should be in front of that group and doing what I envisioned when I first, when we first had this idea of exec group. So again listing evidence as to why. Then what you do, you take all that evidence, okay. So that kind of Again you're in court with yourself, You're trying to prove to your imposter syndrome that they're full of blood yeah, we're doing live, they're full of baloney, all right, and you're not. So again, separate, first off, reflect, separate, then list the evidence and then that's when you start making the statements, that's when you kind of start being your own coach. That's when you start making your I am statements. So the I asked who I am journey, which is what you know, what I'm focused on when it comes to you know, you know my coaching Services. I am trying to help people separate from their imposter syndrome and realize it's not them by creating for the is To the I am journey. So this part of it, I start taking that evidence and you start making Affirmations call it after marriage, call whatever, but I am.

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I think the this, the sentence I am, is extremely powerful because that is such charged up that you're talking to yourself Subconsciously, consciously you're saying I am this. So my wife and I even my, my daughter we are very again, we talked about this another podcast we are very against negative self-talk, even as a joke. I've caught myself slipping a couple times, making like self deprecating jokes. Try not to do that. Try to pull back because at the end of the day we don't know subconsciously if we're being serious or not and we don't need to be negative towards ourselves because Oftentimes words and how we talk changes our realities, changes our perceptions, which is our reality. So I start, you start, I start, you start.

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Whoever is in the situation facing their post syndrome Start making your I am statements. I am this person that should be up here. I am a certified coach, I am someone that has used all this stuff and that's so. You start kind of talking to yourself and then you make your statements and you start telling yourself these statements. By the end of it, the energy that should be coming through you and how you're talking to yourself and the way you're talking to yourself Should be, if anything, a cheerleader. It should be a coach. You know what JP get out there. You're gonna trust you're gonna do it.

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It got to the point where I was so confident In myself to lead that meeting again Because I've done the work. I've had these feelings I was able to separate real quick. So by the time the meeting started I was so confident to get up that meeting. I knew there was nobody else in that room to do that. I was that person. I told myself I am this person, I am that guy to lead this meeting. You start telling yourself this these, these affirmations, you believe them. So I felt after that meeting I felt like I was in the zone, I felt in the flow, I felt in control, I felt confident, it felt good. And that would have been a very different Result or very different energy that I put in that meeting or leadership ability, if I walked in already doubting myself, if I walked in already thinking, if that little you know, they'll call in Robinson on my shoulder saying, hey, jp, you're not this guy staying your lane.

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So again, number one, identify number two. Separate number three. I don't know whether the number three identified number three. Sorry, something on my screen. Number three, you put your evidence down. You bring, you bring your imposter sooner, record and tell why they're full of shit. All right. Number four you create your I am statements. I am is one of the most powerful sentences out there. What you put after that holds so much power. So, again, you create your I am statements to say them out loud. Don't just say them out loud, you believe them, you feel them out loud and that changes the energy. So that was the first thing and, honestly, I'm leaving that room and I was charged up. You know, I'm still charged up. I'm still waking up at 4 am In the morning thinking about that experience. I mean it would have been a very different experience if I actually let Colin Robinson come in and drive that meeting. Second thing that happened Today Again, this was something where someone reached out to me and said hey, jp, your name came up with all stuff.

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We want to include you and we want to do an article interview of you in a magazine, Whenever this happens. This is such. This is a cool experience because I remember when I first started Connection crew, my first company, when I first started connection through you know some of the things that I put on the whiteboard. You know, again, I'm a big believer in dreaming big. I'm a big believer in chasing those dreams and just having visions. Go for it. Just dream big and just put on the board. Who cares what? So no one's gonna say no, only you're gonna tell yourself no. So on the board.

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I thought a big achievement was, you know, to, to, to get recognition and what. What that looked like. That looked like speaker engagements. That also looked like you know preps, magazine articles. So I got an email requesting me an interview magazine article and Again, calling me popped up on my shoulder.

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My imposter syndrome is said who the hell wants to listen to you? Talk, jp. I couldn't agree more. That's why I'm doing this podcast. So immediately it was the same approach, but it was a different message I was telling myself. So again, my imposter syndrome. I identified it. It immediately popped up and was telling myself that who the hell wants to read about you in a magazine and all that stuff. So I shut it down, put calling in the corner and I started putting evidence against calling. All right, I say, okay, you're gonna tell me that no one's to hear me. You're gonna tell me that no one's to listen to me. All right, well, here's some evidence. Well, even if no one listened to me, but why I don't belong in this article. Here's some evidence why. So I started listening. Well, I'm doing some pretty cool stuff over here that I do wanna talk about. I've been in two or three I was in Oilman, oilwomen's and also Canvas Rebel magazine before, so I've done this before. So I started kind of listing evidence to tell Colin, to tell my imposter syndrome actually, whether people wanna listen to me or not, I belong here.

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I am the person for this article. I am someone that has some pretty cool stuff going on that I do wanna share and I am someone that if I'm asked to do this, it's an honor. There's someone to put it out there and whether someone reads it or not it doesn't matter, it's still a cool experience. So again, I was able to separate list evidence why I was that person. That should have been that article and then I started saying the I am the affirmations and then I started believing I still haven't done that magazine article yet, just cause I'm allowing a little space get all this other stuff done. But I am gonna be approaching that tomorrow. It's on my list to do, on my task list, and I will be approaching that. I'm doing it and I'm confident about it and whether it's a good article, a bad article, I'm fine with that too. It's gonna be. Look, it's a cool experience that I can show my dog. How about that? All right, the third, you know. Actually, the third thing was very similar.

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There was a committee, an energy committee, that reached out to me that asked me to speak at a conference and again that goes back to that vision board that I had. That imposter syndrome was saying who the hell wants to listen to you at energy conference? You know, again, I separated listed evidence. Okay, well, here's the first evidence that somebody asked me. So that's number one. Number two I've spoke before about the subject that this person wants. So obviously I know something about this subject. So I am someone that's capable of talking and I am someone that they want at this. So that's, you know two pretty big pieces of evidence.

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And then I started kind of going down and then it kind of came to realization. It was like I am someone that, even if I am this person or not, I want to do this experience because it's uncomfortable. So you are this person. So I started telling myself I am this person, so again, I'm jumping on that, whether I'm the person or not, for that it doesn't matter. I'm telling myself I am and I'm going to do the experience regardless. All right, the last, not the last thing. Well, yeah, this was another one, again, to kind of beat the dead horse. I was reaching out to a different pool of members, sponsor what I want to call it for my crew club, my operator producer, networking events, and again I felt like a little fish out of water, little fish in a big pond, whatever you want to call it. Again, it got to the point where it's because I've done the work and this is the work that we can do.

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That I asked you to do is realize that separate yourself from those self-stalls, put evidence against why you, against your imposter syndrome, telling you that you shouldn't do it or you're not that person, and then you literally beat that imposter syndrome with I am affirmations and you get to the point where, even if you say you don't feel it, keep saying it, because by Something builds, something builds with you. So you gotta get into it, you gotta feel it, you gotta feel it, keep talking to yourself, get energized, and you say those I am statements. And I guess the final one I gotta say is that whenever I look at my wife I wonder am I like? Who is this JP? Who are you? Well, I start putting the evidence game. I am someone that deserves this. I am someone with a wife that listens to the podcast. I am someone with a wife that listens to the podcast that I better plug and give her a shout out. So, yes, so that's it. I wanna thank everyone out there for tuning in for Energy Crew podcast day.

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Again, if you're facing these self-limiting beliefs, totally get it. It's completely normal. A lot of people have it. You know, I sit in rooms with all these leaders and executives and founders and all this stuff. Everyone faces these self-limiting beliefs. Everyone faces these feelings that they aren't the person, the right person, that should be in the room or at the table. It's, that's all bullshit. Listen to yourself and understand that number one that is not you. You are the person that should be in the room. You are the person that's ready for that role, ready for that opportunity, and you are that person that's okay with being comfortable.

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So again, provide, throw evidence, pour your side, defeat that imposter syndrome, put it in its place and it changes your attitude, it changes your energy, it changes perception and, at the end of the day, it gives you the best results. So I employ everyone out there to try it out and again, keep fighting that fight against your imposter syndrome. It is not you. You are that person. You can do it and you can achieve and you can succeed. So thank you everyone for tuning in for Injury Crew Podcast and I guess, if you're enjoying this, please like share. Share on Instagram wherever, linkedin wherever you're listening to it, and I guess that's it, and leave a review and all that fun stuff if you want. But again, thank you for everyone out there. Hope this helps and y'all have a good day. Don't forget to Like Share andSausage.