Join us for an insightful, slightly embarrassing, and hilarious episode of Life Unmastered, as we play a version of "The No-So-Newlywed Game" and give you a closer look into our life, our relationship, and who we are as a couple.
As the laughter flows, the stories unfold, and the unexpected surprises emerge, you'll witness the authentic, heartwarming, and sometimes comical dynamics that make us unique.
From remembering our most embarrassing moment as a couple to discussing each other's annoying habits, this game will put our love, communication, and connection to the ultimate test.
Tune in, have a laugh with us, and learn some relationship tips along the way in this delightful, lighthearted, and heartwarming episode. Love is the game, laughter is the prize!
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Join us for an insightful, slightly embarrassing, and hilarious episode of Life Unmastered, as we play a version of "The No-So-Newlywed Game" and give you a closer look into our life, our relationship, and who we are as a couple.
As the laughter flows, the stories unfold, and the unexpected surprises emerge, you'll witness the authentic, heartwarming, and sometimes comical dynamics that make us unique.
From remembering our most embarrassing moment as a couple to discussing each other's annoying habits, this game will put our love, communication, and connection to the ultimate test.
Tune in, have a laugh with us, and learn some relationship tips along the way in this delightful, lighthearted, and heartwarming episode. Love is the game, laughter is the prize!
Thanks for joining us for your weekly dose of confidently unqualified advice!
Let's keep the conversation going! Connect with us below!
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Hello everybody and welcome back to Life Unmastered. Today we are going to be doing something extra fun and I'm really excited about it.
Speaker 2:I'm excited about it too.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah. We have been married for eight years, together for ten, and today we will be playing the Not so Nearly Wet game.
Speaker 2:I'm so ready for this game. I've been preparing for eight years now.
Speaker 1:Good job. So, basically, I have a list of questions that I'm going to ask and we're going to answer them.
Speaker 2:We'll go through them as if we've been here before.
Speaker 1:And we have for eight years All right ready.
Speaker 2:Let's do it.
Speaker 1:Number one who is the better cook in the relationship?
Speaker 2:I feel like this is an affair question.
Speaker 1:Why.
Speaker 2:Because it's not even a contest.
Speaker 1:Because you don't cook, I don't. I know I had to start with a win.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you definitely wanted to put one in the win column for you.
Speaker 1:Well, my mom taught me how to cook, so I know how to cook, but I don't necessarily enjoy cooking. Like every night, I dread cooking dinner.
Speaker 2:I don't think you dread cooking, you dread cleanup.
Speaker 1:Oh, I mean a little bit of both. I feel like the kids go a little crazy while I'm cooking and it's just like the act of having to get up and do it. I'd rather just have dinner ready.
Speaker 2:If only right.
Speaker 1:Yes, but also too. The cleanup is not fun either, but I do enjoy baking.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I've noticed that when it comes to cookies or brownies or cake, you have no problem getting in front of that oven.
Speaker 1:I mean, yeah, everyone loves a good treat. The kids love baking with me too, so we do that often.
Speaker 2:Which is adorable.
Speaker 1:They really got into Masterchef.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was something that snuck up on our family for some reason. I was just started binge watching it and then we found Masterchef Jr and we're like, oh, this is okay for the kids to watch, there's nothing horrible in here. All of a sudden the kids started calling everybody Masterchef.
Speaker 1:Well, we were on the couch sick for two weeks.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah.
Speaker 1:That's how that started. We had all kinds of dreams for what we were going to do after we were done being sick. It's so funny now because when you do cook now a little bit, you've learned to cook this year, yeah.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, my goal was to learn to cook this year. Everybody else, I made not a New Year's resolution, but like a New Year's goal. I learned how to cook steak on a pan. I also learned how to cook tri-tip on a pan. They use the same ingredients except for the steak and the tri-tip.
Speaker 1:So really we learned to cook one thing.
Speaker 2:They're two different things.
Speaker 1:That's true. I will say you do both well.
Speaker 2:Yes, I do.
Speaker 1:I enjoy them. But now, whenever we cook anything whether it's your delicious steak, which the kids call Ramsay steak, what we all do, and because of Gordon Ramsay, MasterChef but when we, Even if we cook I'm not a big fan of Hamburger Helper, but Michael grew up on it and the kids love it, so we do have it and even when we cook something like that, Carter will turn around and be like Mom, MasterChef, this is amazing. You did so good, MasterChef.
Speaker 2:To the next round.
Speaker 1:Yes, I'm like well, thank you, I just tackled that. Hamburger Helper.
Speaker 2:You had all the ingredients. Yep, it was perfection.
Speaker 1:I did so. Yes, I do when the better cook, especially when I'm cooking things like Hamburger. Helper.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, that is like a kid's meal and I just never grew up, which is why I love it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you do. So bonus question what is your favorite home cooked meal?
Speaker 2:Tacos. No question, I love tacos. I told you very early on into this relationship that we could eat tacos three nights in a row for dinner, and if you asked me on the fourth night what I wanted for dinner, the answer was still going to be tacos.
Speaker 1:This is true. We actually had tacos tonight. We did, yeah, and last night.
Speaker 2:The hardest part of you being pregnant was when you made me go without tacos for nine months.
Speaker 1:I didn't do it on purpose. I truly had an inversion to Mexican food. I don't love Mexican food on a normal day, but when I was pregnant, I, just I couldn't even stand the thought of Mexican food. And we, we did. We went nine months without eating Mexican food.
Speaker 2:That was terrible. I think you just did it despite me.
Speaker 1:I really didn't, I promise yeah.
Speaker 2:So what would your favorite home cooked meal be?
Speaker 1:I would say Either salmon bowls, which are amazing, or the Chipotle chicken pasta.
Speaker 2:Yep, yep, that's one that gets cooked, often.
Speaker 1:They're both so good.
Speaker 2:They are good yes.
Speaker 1:I, we do, we have. We kind of have this thing where, like I get into, I find something that I really like and I cling to it and so I want to cook it often and Michael will be like. Can we take a break from the Chipotle chicken pasta, because I feel like we've been eating it like once a week and it's a bit much but it goes two nights, so it's two times a week for a month straight.
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah and I Do that kind of on purpose, because then that's like one night I don't have to cook.
Speaker 2:Yeah, microwave does the work. Yeah, I get it, I get it.
Speaker 1:Okay. So question number two who is the more spontaneous one when it comes to planning dates and outings?
Speaker 2:Again, I feel like these are stacked questions. I.
Speaker 1:Just got them off the internet.
Speaker 2:Everyone knows that I Can not do something unless there's like a full weeks notice ahead of time. So if you're trying to hang out with me on a Friday night, you better not ask on Thursday, because I just won't pick up.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you're a true introvert.
Speaker 2:Yep.
Speaker 1:But not really, because when we make plans, you spend the whole week leading up to it dreading it, trying to find a way out of it.
Speaker 2:I do. I get sick so much right before we have to do things not wanting to do it.
Speaker 1:But then we get there and you always have so much fun and you're talking to everybody and you don't like. You're like Not nervous at all, everything's fine.
Speaker 2:Well, I'm good, it means social. I just don't want to I.
Speaker 1:Know, but you have like like true anxiety leading up to it, just to like get there and be completely fine.
Speaker 2:I don't like the idea of having to do something like I want, which is weird because the question like you would think that would make me spontaneous, but it's actually the opposite. Like I want to be predictable in my laziness.
Speaker 1:We should actually try that. I should just bring things on you so you don't have to spend a week worrying about it.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, I won't worry about it, but somebody might be sleeping outside, okay, okay. So Finally, I get to ask a question.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Who is more likely to get lost while driving?
Speaker 1:me again.
Speaker 2:But not in a good way. It's not a win.
Speaker 1:I do, I have it. I have a terrible sense of, of direction and I I get this from my mom I Don't know if she'll agree to this. I feel like. I feel like she knows this too. But yeah, we, just we we don't know how to find our way, and I'm actually really glad that I live In a time where we have maps on our phone.
Speaker 2:It's so unfair. I can remember when we went to visit our family in California and we had to drive to your dad's work to meet him there, but your mom was driving and you were navigating and I was stuck in the back after being lost for about Probably 30 minutes because his building moved. Finally, you guys called on and he says let me talk to Mike. And he first thing he says to me when I get on the phone Is just starts laughing and says is it as great as it sounds from this side? Because he knew exactly what was going on Between the two of you. There's no way we were ever gonna get there to be fair, they literally moved the bill.
Speaker 1:I mean, they didn't pick it up and move it, but they changed buildings. So we had the wrong address. So we you know, the cards were stacked against us.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't think that's all that was stacked against you.
Speaker 1:But yes, I do have a history of of getting lost. I remember one time in my early 20s I was trying to head towards Anaheim and Somehow I ended up at the Long Beach Airport and I had. I was by myself, I had no way, I had no idea where I was, and this was before maps were on the phone. Yeah, and. I had to call my dad and give him two random cross streets and he was able to pull it up on the computer and walk me through how to get home.
Speaker 2:I just picture you in tears in Long Beach, like why am I here?
Speaker 1:That's pretty much how it happened. I'm like I don't even know where to start. I keep trying, thinking I Kind of find the freeway and then when I did, I'm like which way's north See, that's, that's that's the direction, part of it.
Speaker 2:It's easier now, I think, for us that we live in Colorado because we literally live next to a giant mountain range that is always going to be to the west of you. Yep so you cannot confuse it.
Speaker 1:I feel like I'm great at directions now.
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, where are you next to the mountain?
Speaker 1:exactly.
Speaker 2:Well, and everything in Colorado Springs it's it's not like perfectly straight north and southeast and west, but there's really only like two main streets and everything else just kind of connects to it. So you know like okay, well, if I need to go north and I just got to get to Woodman and then I get home from there. Or like, oh, if powers is to the east and that's how I get home, or all the mountains are on the west, no big deal. Or oh, there's the south, but no you know they don't go south ever, ever do not go to South Springs.
Speaker 1:It is not a place to be mm-hmm. Okay, so we Shawn is not good at directions. You won one.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Do you want to ask? Ask the next one, or you want me to take it?
Speaker 2:I'll let you handle this question, okay.
Speaker 1:What are each other's most annoying habits that we've learned to live with?
Speaker 2:okay, so oh no. Yeah, I I. The first thing that comes to mind and I don't know if this counts as an answer, because I very much have not learned to live with this it's the constant interrupting while trying to tell you a story about my day, about an article I read, about anything, because you want to ask well, who is it? What's it about? What did happen? Did they say this? And I'm literally about to answer those questions. If you would just listen to the story.
Speaker 1:I didn't interrupt you at all just now. Yeah, let's just point that out. I just need more details. You tell a story in a way that is just like very quick who, what, when, where, why and I just need like I need to know what they were wearing and they seemed frazzled.
Speaker 2:You don't?
Speaker 1:And where they were going and why they were going there. I know I need these details. And if you would just provide these details. I'm going to have to stop you to gather this information before you continue, I can deal with that.
Speaker 2:What I can't deal with is, say, I have a conversation with somebody about plans for the weekend. You still need all that information and I did not ask for that information. So now I'm in trouble because I don't know what they were wearing or if they were frazzled or how they took my comment, because I didn't ask them.
Speaker 1:Well, now you know I need those, so you should be asking those things.
Speaker 2:Okay, well, I will work on it.
Speaker 1:Eight years, Mike.
Speaker 2:Yeah, apparently I wasn't as ready for the test as I thought.
Speaker 1:All right, anything else that you actually have learned to live with?
Speaker 2:There is one.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:That is secret.
Speaker 1:So I don't know about it.
Speaker 2:I don't think you know about this one.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:So every night, when we get ready for bed, we share a bathroom. You have your sink, I have my sink, but we also have one set of drawers and your drawer is the tippy top drawer and my drawer is the middle drawer, directly underneath it. Well, I start to get ready for bed before you, so I go to open my drawer and there's my toothbrush and toothpaste. So when I reach my hand in to get it, you decide you're going to start getting ready, open your drawer and just cut me off. And it's literally at least four times a week. And I don't know how you don't know this, because I stare daggers.
Speaker 1:Okay, first of all, getting really worked up right now. Second of all, why have you not said anything? How am I supposed to stop doing it if you haven't said anything? And third, I do not do that.
Speaker 2:Yes, you do. Yes, you do. Every time I just like chop your hand off. You just open it and then you know what gets me is you don't close it. That's, that's what gets me. It's like your drawer needs to remain open because when you're done brushing your teeth, you're going to put the stuff back in it. If you closed it, then I could close mine and everything would be good. But you leave it open.
Speaker 1:But then I have to open it to put the stuff back in.
Speaker 2:Well, I can't put my stuff in the drawer. I closed the drawer.
Speaker 1:Like I never walk away from the drawer, so I'm just supposed to sit there after I finish waiting for you to finish to put my stuff away. I mean you basically just leave everything on the counter anyway Because I can't get to the drawer. I cannot believe you are so heated about this right now and have never told me.
Speaker 2:Well, I guess I have just learned to live with it.
Speaker 1:I feel like now I'm just going to do it on purpose, now that I know.
Speaker 2:That's probably. I thought you already were, so I guess it can't get much worse so you've been staring daggers at me.
Speaker 1:I had no idea.
Speaker 2:All right, well, lay it on me. What's my annoying habit?
Speaker 1:Gosh, there's just way too many to pick one.
Speaker 2:How dare you?
Speaker 1:I would probably say you're constant worrying, you're going back and forth, like you can't make a decision. You think you made a decision, I think you made a decision, but then we didn't make a decision. We need to talk about it again, and then we make a new decision. And then you come back to me 15 minutes later and we're going back to the original decision.
Speaker 2:Yep, and then what wait?
Speaker 1:we need to do some more research and then we move forward on it and we've settled on it and now we got to return it because we're not doing this anymore.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:Like it's. And this is not just a single thing, it's not big decisions, it's not only small decisions, it is all decisions.
Speaker 2:It does, and I go back and forth. So much, you are correct.
Speaker 1:It drives me crazy and I'm just like I don't. I don't freaking care, just make a decision, I don't care.
Speaker 2:It's, it's, it gets pretty bad.
Speaker 1:And you're like well, let's just talk about this, but but if I don't pick where to eat, oh my goodness, it is the end of the world. How dare I not pick where we were going to go to?
Speaker 2:eat. Well, to be fair, at least I'm making some sort of progress. Like you, we don't even make it out the door when it's time to like pick a place to eat.
Speaker 1:What do you mean?
Speaker 2:Because you never make a decision.
Speaker 1:Well, I don't understand why I'm responsible for making the decision where we eat.
Speaker 2:We all know why. Look, I'm a man out there knows why.
Speaker 1:No, I'm going to pick sushi every time.
Speaker 2:Oh gosh.
Speaker 1:Every time, that's it. You don't even need to ask sushi for days and then I pick it and you're like, well, I don't want sushi, so I'm like, ok, well, then you pick.
Speaker 2:Well, I guess we starve.
Speaker 1:I am, I am not. If you pick anything other than Mexican food, I'm happy you. Just you don't want anyway. So this goes back, though, to you not being able to make a decision. That includes you also don't want to make the decision about where we eat. But in addition to that, I know you know that that is one, and that's very true.
Speaker 2:And, to be fair, she's right. Like my indecisiveness goes from as far as do you think I should shut the sprinklers off? To anything as simple as like I don't know. Just horrible things like that are so easy that anybody could make sense of, and it's not even it's like should I turn the sprinklers off?
Speaker 1:Well, the neighbors still have their sprinklers on. Ok, I'm going to turn them off. Oh, it's going to be hot tomorrow. Oh, the forecast says this. Like it's like I. I just drives me crazy.
Speaker 2:So anyways, I also haven't learned to deal with that.
Speaker 1:I just kind of like try and tune you out.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's fair.
Speaker 1:But another one that really doesn't bother me it just makes me laugh is that every single time we leave the house, michael has to stop the car, get back out, because he can't remember if he locked the door or not.
Speaker 2:OK, listen every time you used to give me such a hard time about this and you have become a good sport about it. But I will say one time, when I was 17, I got out of my car door at the grocery store, walked halfway into the store, went, did I close my car door, walked back to the car and it was open. So now I check every time.
Speaker 1:I mean I I've never heard of that.
Speaker 2:So this is why, as we back out of the driveway, there's a 99.9 percent chance that I'm going to stop the car, put it in park, walk out and see if our front door is locked.
Speaker 1:I need to just get in the car and start recording you and then when you're like, did I lock the door? I can just like pull up a video. You should, you should, I should, but I have better things to do.
Speaker 2:Yeah Well, the kids are there and they're distracted. I'm worried about the dogs running out. I got to make sure you get in the car. I don't know.
Speaker 1:Okay, do you remember when you were in your apartment?
Speaker 2:I know what you're going to say.
Speaker 1:So in Michael's old apartment you it was like it was. We called it the crack house because it was just it did.
Speaker 2:It looked like a prison, like there were these long hallways with no windows to get into the apartment complex and it had, like this, brown and like kind of yellow two-tone paint job. And not only that, but like the apartment doors face each other, like directly next to each Other, but the hallway to get into your apartment couldn't have been wider than three feet.
Speaker 1:No, if you guys, if you and your neighbor tried to get out at the same time, you'd totally run into each other. Your butts would touch as you're turning around it like yeah lock the door, um, and, but I read my remember you would do the same thing there. Yep, remembering if you lock the door or not, but also you. You named the neighbors, the DeLong's. I don't, it was that even their name.
Speaker 2:No, it definitely was not their name. But I saw their last name on like this plaque that they hung out on like their back of their door, but I never got a good chance to look too long because I didn't want them to come out at me. Then it started with a D and there was an L in there, so I just called them the DeLong's and it stuck.
Speaker 1:We still come yeah to this day they're still the DeLong's but that we were about to walk out of the apartment and I literally run into Michael's back because he stopped and closed the door. Like what is happening? He's like I think the DeLong's are coming out, so we're standing there and he's like looking through the peephole and we have to wait for the DeLong's to come out of their apartment and lock up and then we have to wait a reasonable amount of time before we don't want them to know, like they already knew.
Speaker 2:But oh, there's one that's so much worse. Like my my front door habit started back then in my car used to be parked like in the parking lot which was a good ways away, like it was like a two minute walk to get to your car versus the door. And so I remember I like got in my car, turned it on and was like did I lock my front door on my way to work one day? And so like I ran in because I was running late and ran down the hallway and like did my whole, like Just to make sure that the door is locked, you kind of pull the handle and then press against it with all of your body weight? And like I did that, and then I heard the door behind me open, the DeLong's were coming out and I panicked, so I just ran.
Speaker 2:Like I didn't even like turn around and say anything, I just ran. And so those poor DeLong's were like looking at me, like what kind of a crackhead are we living next to? Because I didn't explain anything. I was pressed up against my door. What do they think is going on? You just body checked your door.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I was like oh, this is what I'm living with.
Speaker 2:I know you're a little bit crazy.
Speaker 1:It's, it's, it's bad yeah, so Anyway, I think we need to move on.
Speaker 2:So many people feel bad for you right now. I see the point of this game. I see what's going on here. I promise I was not my intention. Yeah, these questions are skewed a very particular way.
Speaker 1:Okay, here's one that well, I'm sure We'll put us on even ground. So what is the funniest or most embarrassing moment that we've shared as a couple? So, like, no matter what, in this question, we both lose, because this is us as a couple.
Speaker 2:Well, I don't know about funny, but it it's definitely embarrassing, and this happened recently.
Speaker 1:Okay, what? What are you thinking about?
Speaker 2:The clothes and the washer. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:I still can't believe this happened or that you want to talk about it down here.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, they need to know.
Speaker 1:Okay, so our washing machine has its front load and it has this cool feature auto dispense for your detergent. So you just pour your detergent into it and then, whenever you put in your clothes, it detects like how big the load is and it dispenses the appropriate amount of detergent.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it saves like money and time and all that fun stuff.
Speaker 1:So Michael had started complaining that he thought that the towel smelled funny and we're like okay, well, since it's front load, maybe we're just not leaving it open enough to air out, or maybe, yeah, you're supposed to leave it open to kind of dry so you don't get that like mildewy smell in your washer, and that wasn't working.
Speaker 2:Like it was a good amount of time Before where I was like researching, like the bombs that you can throw in it and, granted, it's new, like it's only a couple years old now. So like I would think we'd get further along than this, but like we were, we could not figure out what was going on and so we're like, okay, well, let's, let's run itself cleaning cycle, let's do all the things.
Speaker 1:And then this went on for a while a good amount of time, I mean I would say at least a month now.
Speaker 2:We kept getting thrown off because in all the hustle and bustle of the day it wouldn't be uncommon to forget. Oh, I had clothes in the wash which can leave an extra mildewy smell.
Speaker 1:I will say I am very guilty of running a single load of laundry multiple times.
Speaker 2:Yeah, all the conservation goes out the window.
Speaker 1:Correct All that, all that auto dispense.
Speaker 1:Means nothing. So I would have to like I'll get distracted and forget to change. I'm like, okay, it's been sitting in here A little too long, let me just run it again. Well, because of that me running it again, it was just making the problem worse, yeah, which didn't make sense. So one day, after like four weeks of this, I come downstairs and I tell michael I figured out the problem. The auto dispense had somehow been turned off so for four months, even though it was full of detergent now four weeks, not four months, thank you for four weeks, um, I've been cleaning our clothes and doing laundry and rewashing the same load, um all without detergent.
Speaker 2:Yep.
Speaker 1:So this was during the school year.
Speaker 2:Oh, those poor kids.
Speaker 1:We were sending our children to school smelling like Death, like mold and mildew what killed me is like, all of a sudden, you could smell it everywhere.
Speaker 2:Like we went to their their uh drawers and we were opening them up and I was literally like Throwing their pajamas into the hallway, saying this smells like death. This smells like death. Like, how did we? It just sat there lingering Mildew in.
Speaker 1:What we should have done is just pulled everything out and washed it, but instead michael sat there and took a deep sniff, sniff of everything and would gag like oh this is, this is terrible.
Speaker 2:You were fighting me on every piece. You would smell it and be like this. One's not so bad like we're, just Because you didn't want to send redo the laundry.
Speaker 1:Oh, she's trying to conserve.
Speaker 2:We'd already washed the clothes and like for four weeks in the same mildewy pit and you were just like, oh, this one's not so bad.
Speaker 1:Because you're just, you were asked, you were throwing.
Speaker 2:I might as well have been emptying the drawers in the hallway. You, that's exactly what we did.
Speaker 1:So I was just trying to prevent myself from having to wash, fold and hang 12 loads of laundry because basically we had to wash the entire kids wardrobe and our wardrobe and all of our towels again, yep. And I wasn't looking forward to that much longer. I don't. I don't look.
Speaker 2:I don't like that much laundry on a normal day the good news Is, after a month of this, we finally figured out that the kids didn't dookie themselves, it was just their clothes. Because I got tired of walking by, I'm going. Do you guys have to poo?
Speaker 1:poo? What is happening? I mean, I didn't really smell like poo, it smelled like mold or mildew, like which kind of has a little bit of that poo poo smell. Okay, anyways, I'm just I wonder what their teachers thought of us.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they think we're terrible, but they don't go to that school anymore, so we don't care.
Speaker 1:I know, but I feel like I should have been like afterwards, I should have been like so you know, just fyi why? Because I, just, I, I don't know like what would you think if you had a kid coming to your house every day and they smelled like death?
Speaker 2:I mean to be fair. We did too, so they just thought our house smelled like that.
Speaker 1:I know, but we? That's true, but we work from home, so when it's like we were around coworkers or drop them off.
Speaker 2:We dropped the kids off at school.
Speaker 1:Yeah, anyway. So I would say that's definitely Are most definitely the most embarrassing one and pretty recent. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, funniest one. Funniest one would have to be the greatest joke I ever pulled on you.
Speaker 1:Oh, how do I, how do you choose?
Speaker 2:You're just I know they belong in a museum, don't they? Well, let's try to do it justice, oh.
Speaker 1:Okay, so which one, which of your many, are you picking?
Speaker 2:very early on into our relationship. I would drive you to work because we worked for, or your car broke down or something like that. But we worked very close to each other, like down the street. So, I would drive to work and drop you off and then pick you up on the way home and one day on the freeway, one of those raised jeeps with the exhaust that goes up the windshield and then kind of like snorkels out the top so you can go through puddles and stuff.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it looked like a snorkel for the car, yeah, but I was like, what is that thing On the car? And you're just like you were so quick, I asked the question and you had an answer for me. You're like, oh, that's one of those things that they made so that you know they can drive on the floor of the sea to go to hawai. Now, I did not, you know, wasn't I think, because maybe it was so early in the morning, my brain wasn't turned on all the way, that's possible that's I'm gonna go with, but I was like not even thinking about like how deep the sea is.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you thought it was totally normal.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and so I was like, wow, I didn't even know that that was a thing. And you just like went on spewing Nonsense and I just like, all right. Yeah learn something new. And then we were like almost to work. It was like a 20, 30 minute drive and I'm like wait a minute, that's not right, like they'd have to at least like float for the snorkel thing to like. I started like piecing things together. I'm like are you messing with me? And he's like I am embarrassed for you that it took this long.
Speaker 2:Yeah, little by little you picked my argument apart, but I did have a good lie for every bit of it you didn't, even when I, as I first started picking it apart, you had some lies for it.
Speaker 1:So yeah, that's not my finest moment, but again I'm sticking with. It was still early in the morning, yeah, and I will say, now that we are, you know, this far into our marriage, now I don't fall for that anymore.
Speaker 2:I can't even. I. I've tried to deceive you like this since then and you just instantly spot it from you. Just tell me to leave the room and get out.
Speaker 1:I think this is for a collection of reasons. One You're just not as funny anymore.
Speaker 2:Oh, you wound me woman. And two you just like can't hold in your laughter like you used to but to be fair, as like, I became a dad, so now my jokes are more in line with other dads.
Speaker 1:You're a very dad joke funny.
Speaker 2:Yes, and I think I'm hilarious always have.
Speaker 1:Okay, so next one. We've got this one and one more. Who is the more organized one in the relationship? I'm gonna start on this one okay, I will say that when it comes to planning something, house organization, all that kind of stuff, it would be me. But when it comes to finances, bills, schedules, stuff like that, you definitely win.
Speaker 2:I wouldn't say you were necessarily organized when it comes to the house.
Speaker 1:Yes, I am.
Speaker 2:Look, we have different definitions of organization.
Speaker 1:To you, being organized means you buy containers to hold things that came in a container prettier containers no, and everywhere and containers that stack nicely on top of each other, you can fit more in the pantry. Okay, I love containers. Yes, I will admit to this, but for good reason.
Speaker 2:I feel like no, the cereal comes in a box. That box fits on the shelf. You can put two boxes right next to each other.
Speaker 1:Yes, but how many times does the bag not get closed all the way and the lid on the boxes flailing open and it just looks so messy. I feel like you're describing the commercial for these containers also, I can fit a bag and a half into the one bucket, although then I have to store the extra half bag. But we don't, we just pretend, that doesn't that's in the garage or my cast ago?
Speaker 1:Yeah, got it so, but I'm very organized and people come over all the time, like your pantry is so organized probably the same people that told me the lawn looks good. They were lying about that, but they're not lying about. But okay, I just need to know right now, other than the container thing, you do think I'm organized though.
Speaker 2:In your own way. Yes, Hmm. You're very good at getting containers and making a space look organized, and I do think that you have that Freaky wife thing where Everything is where you say it is and I so much so that I think it's witchcraft and you just make it appear because you'll be like I need ketchup. Can you get the ketchup? And I'm looking and I can't find ketchup anywhere in the fridge and you could literally walk over with your eyes closed, reach in and pull out ketchup.
Speaker 1:Well, that's my fault, because I put it right in front of your face, so obviously couldn't find it.
Speaker 2:Oh, I hate it and I know I'm not the only guy that has this problem, but like it's with so many things, I feel like, hey, babe, do we have toilet bowl cleaner? Yeah, it's underneath, the kids sink behind like the soap and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah and it's right there. But when I go to look for it, it is not there.
Speaker 1:Yes, it is. It's like. It's like with the kids. Mom, I can't find this. I can't find this. I'm like if I go up there and I walk right to it, I'm be annoyed that you didn't even like try on looking. I walk up the stairs. It's literally. I literally run right into it.
Speaker 2:It's a mom trick to get out of being bugged for the day because, like you're, like that's your one, I'm not helping anymore. So, like you, just smuggle it up there under your shirt or something and just put it on the Shelf, I know, it.
Speaker 1:Nobody has time for that I don't?
Speaker 2:yeah? Oh, look at you smiling over there. I know what's going on. No, no.
Speaker 1:But anyway, I am very organized and I do Love to organize, so I'll all randomly like reorganize a space, like I get a bug. Yeah to clean out and reorganize. It turns into this like whole day project, but I'm very happy about it when I'm finished.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and afterwards there's like 90 containers in that shelf. That's awesome. I will agree about the bills and stuff like that, though, because we for the longest time shared a Google calendar to keep track of all our bills and, for whatever reason, I Don't even know how this happened it's just like gradually transitioned to me paying all the bills.
Speaker 1:It's because I stopped working. So when I was working I was on top of this stuff, because I was on a computer every day and I was looking at you know the calendar and doing all this and it was easy for me. And then I stopped working and I was just playing with a kid all day and I was like computer, what's that?
Speaker 2:So ain't nobody got time for that.
Speaker 1:And so I was just like this. You're already doing, you're already staring at a screen. Why don't you take this over?
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think I got tired of asking you to pay the bills.
Speaker 1:It was just easier because you were already online. I would had to anyways. It just that's so. That's how that happened.
Speaker 2:Okay, I Just got tasked with. It is what you're saying.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I just, it just worked out that way. Yeah right, so anyway, yes, you ended up taking over the calendar and there was a little bit of a struggle with that transition.
Speaker 2:I mean, besides me not knowing how to work the calendar.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I, I have the Google calendar like family calendar setup so we have a different color. So you know, you know what's what we have bills on there.
Speaker 2:We have different colors.
Speaker 1:Are you for real right now?
Speaker 2:There's different colors.
Speaker 1:What do you think the colors are when you're looking at the calendar?
Speaker 2:didn't know. I thought they were just fun colors.
Speaker 1:No, junimally thought that I was like oh, it's pretty, like that's all. I thought it was no. Like when Jace has like, specifically, he had his assessment, he's got his a doctor appointment. Everything for him is in blue, I'm in pink. Us as a family, like if we're all going to a barbecue or something. Our family is purple, like every. Our bills are gray because gray is boring and awful like everything. That's why it all has a color.
Speaker 2:I can't wait to look at the calendar tomorrow.
Speaker 1:Oh, my goodness Michael.
Speaker 2:I have been doing this for easily Four years now six years Six, oh my goodness. Oh.
Speaker 1:Apparently, we still have calendar struggles. We're learning so when he first took this over, he didn't know how to add things to the calendar. So he'd asked me to add them. I'd add them, and then he'd like open up and look at it. Well then I started adding things, knowing that he was at least looking at it, but apparently, because I was adding things, you weren't looking at it. I don't know, it doesn't make sense.
Speaker 2:They. You can only see bits and pieces of the reminder. You have to click on it and I just assumed it was all the usual noise on those days.
Speaker 1:I didn't realize you were adding stuff that you wanted me to look at right, so I would add reminders to the calendar because he's I mean, he is Crazy about, you know, making sure all the bills are paid on time and yeah, if there was a lock on that calendar, I'd be checking it by the minute. Yeah, so I would put Nonsense, remind, not nonsense, but like little reminders on there like cancel my free trial for XYZ, okay you put a reminder for you, but you wanted me to read the reminder and then remind you correct, because you're looking at the calendar.
Speaker 2:But you didn't tell me that you put a reminder on the calendar to have you cancel something.
Speaker 1:I know, but you're like so concerned about every single penny. I would just assumed you didn't want to get charged.
Speaker 2:Well, I noticed as soon as we did Too late. And again, I think this is one of your mom tricks, where you wanted an extra month of free books or something and you were just like oh Well, we already paid for it. No, I really genuinely thought let me sneak on to that calendar and put this I had it on there. You didn't remind me. Yeah, I believe the words out of your mouth were this is your fault because you did not remind me.
Speaker 1:Oh, my goodness, you just like make me sound like I'm just this evil, conniving, like Plotting, just constantly plotting things.
Speaker 2:It's not evil, I, it's just like a fun little life hack, like for all you, for all you wives out there. Just put it on the calendar and then say it's always there.
Speaker 1:No for all the wives and moms out there. They all know that we don't have time to be sitting around plotting just little schemes.
Speaker 2:I know how this works. All of you are like, yeah, don't tell them that you hide the stuff under your shirt, and that's why it gets right where you said it was yeah.
Speaker 1:You're so crazy I'm moving on. Okay, last question, getting serious now what is the best piece of marriage advice you've received and have implemented in our relationship?
Speaker 2:I would say that the thing that stuck out the most to me, that somebody actually gave us as far as advice was in our premarital cancelling, and we were told not to bash your spouse to other people.
Speaker 1:I agree, this is a good one.
Speaker 2:So what we mean is basically don't talk bad about your significant other to other people, whether that's your mom, your friends, your brother, sister, whatever it is, Because whenever that person meets them next, all they're going to remember or know about them is what you the bad things you just told them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean we talked about this, we touched on it briefly in episode three about fighting fair and marriage, but I think we tend to seek advice not really advice, but we just want to vent.
Speaker 2:Something's bothering us. We call it venting, but it usually turns into just talking behind someone's back, basically.
Speaker 1:Exactly so we feel like we are wanting to vent and get this off. Let somebody else kind of feel our frustrations and be like, yeah, I go through that too, like we want that, but it ends up putting our spouse in this really bad light. And if we also have this habit of only talking about the negative things because that's when we really need to get things off our chest or whatever and so then our parents or our closest friends are only hearing the bad things about our spouse, and then it really does put you in this bad light. And then when your friends are around, like your spouse, all they know and hear are all these really bad things that you've been venting to them about.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I can't believe he said that to her, or I can't believe he expects that from her, or whatever it might be. It just sounds bad.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like you're gossiping about your spouse kind of yeah, which you shouldn't be. And I'm not saying that you shouldn't ever have somebody that you confide in. Maybe it's a therapist, you know, who's not hanging out with your spouse or whatever. But just trying to be like knowing that we're trying to be mindful of that, I think is helpful, because then we're not, you know, we're not just like.
Speaker 2:Set to go off for me. To me it makes sense just because if you go, like if I went to work and all day at work I was upset at you and complaining about you and like I can't believe she does this or I can't believe this and oh, she's so terrible here Well then, when I get home, like all day I've been in this mindset of like Shana is terrible. So the first like that, anything that happens is going to set me off, because I'm like ready to go and it's right on tip of my mind and I'm not saying that everything obviously. Oh, don't worry about it, just let it go. That's that or bury it. That's not what I'm saying. But feelings can become real if you let them. So, if you're constantly feeling something or working yourself up about something, then when you get home, even if it's, it's real to you and it might not be real in the situation.
Speaker 1:So I think that for you and I because this is something that we learned during our premarital counseling it's been something that we have kind of tried to implement from the very beginning.
Speaker 1:And I think, because we don't we try not to talk badly about each other to other people it forces us to have those conversations with each other and confront each other with things that are bothering us and annoying us and kind of like talk those through so that we can figure out why this is happening, resolve it and move forward. And sometimes we have to have these conversations all the time and we do and we've kind of talked about this a little bit Like it's not really. It can kind of feel like nagging sometimes, like because some things we're having to bring up over and over and over again, but I feel like along the way, things start being like oh, this is coming up again, maybe I do really need to be more mindful of this. And I think sometimes too, in the beginning, like the first one, two, three times things are brought up, or like you're being dramatic I don't always do that, you know and then, as it keeps coming up, you're like, oh, okay, maybe I really need to be.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the longer you live with somebody, the more aware of how imperfect you are.
Speaker 1:Right, and so think about if every time this was coming up. You're talking about this to somebody else, you know.
Speaker 2:I also like that it closes that door.
Speaker 1:What door?
Speaker 2:The door of bringing in somebody else, because it doesn't matter and I'm not saying it always happens this way, but if you and I are working out our issues, there's less chance for handsome Joe to be like. That wouldn't happen with me, you know? Like I'm just saying the enemy is out there, close all the doors.
Speaker 1:Yes, that is very true.
Speaker 2:So was that the last one? Did you keep score?
Speaker 1:That was the last one and I did not keep score, but if I did, it would probably be me who came out on top here.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I feel like you definitely stacked the deck against me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, if it wasn't my intention, I actually think that it was pretty even.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean everyone got to see how crazy the man you live with is.
Speaker 1:That's very true. So then I guess I actually did come out on top yeah and now everybody knows that our doors are always locked. Very true Safety. First, yeah. All right. Well, that was actually really fun, and I think that we're going to have to follow this up eventually with the part two, because I have lots more questions.
Speaker 2:Good, I'm looking forward to it.
Speaker 1:So if you guys have any weird, quirky, embarrassing stories or weird things that you and your spouse do, we would love to hear about them. You guys can send us an email to lifeunmasteredpodcast at gmailcom and you can stop by and say hi over on Instagram at lifeunmasteredpodcast. But until next time, we'll see you next week, see ya.