Have you ever found yourself stumbling over the simple words, "I'm sorry," even when you know an apology could mend a fence? Grab a seat and join us as we unravel the complex fabric of apologizing in our everyday relationships. Apologies do more than just admit a fault—they affirm the value we place on our bonds with family, friends, and colleagues. Throughout this heart-to-heart, we'll share candid insights into why apologizing can sometimes feel like a Herculean task, touching on the emotional hurdles that can stand in our way, such as feelings of inadequacy and the fear of guilt. With a blend of personal experiences and actionable advice, we'll navigate together how to craft apologies that ring true, avoiding those hollow promises that can do more harm than good.
As we turn the page on conflict, we also celebrate the strength and growth that come from a sincere apology. Not only do we offer tips on how to express genuine contrition, but we also ponder the ripple effect it has on trust, respect, and the healing process within our relationships. Remember, a well-articulated 'I'm sorry' has the power to not only smooth over the present but also fortify our connections for the future. So, whether you're hoping to patch up a misstep or keep the peace in your life, this episode is a treasure chest of wisdom for anyone looking to master the art of the apology.
FOR MORE INFORMATION ABOUT THIS TOPIC CLICK HERE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200207/the-power-apology
Have you ever found yourself stumbling over the simple words, "I'm sorry," even when you know an apology could mend a fence? Grab a seat and join us as we unravel the complex fabric of apologizing in our everyday relationships. Apologies do more than just admit a fault—they affirm the value we place on our bonds with family, friends, and colleagues. Throughout this heart-to-heart, we'll share candid insights into why apologizing can sometimes feel like a Herculean task, touching on the emotional hurdles that can stand in our way, such as feelings of inadequacy and the fear of guilt. With a blend of personal experiences and actionable advice, we'll navigate together how to craft apologies that ring true, avoiding those hollow promises that can do more harm than good.
As we turn the page on conflict, we also celebrate the strength and growth that come from a sincere apology. Not only do we offer tips on how to express genuine contrition, but we also ponder the ripple effect it has on trust, respect, and the healing process within our relationships. Remember, a well-articulated 'I'm sorry' has the power to not only smooth over the present but also fortify our connections for the future. So, whether you're hoping to patch up a misstep or keep the peace in your life, this episode is a treasure chest of wisdom for anyone looking to master the art of the apology.
FOR MORE INFORMATION ABOUT THIS TOPIC CLICK HERE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200207/the-power-apology
Good morning, good afternoon, good evening and good night. Wherever you are and however you are listening, welcome to Fruit Blenders podcast. On today's episode, we will be covering the topic of apologizing, what it means to apologize, especially in a relationship where there's friends, families, parents, siblings, relatives, your coworkers, your peers, leaders, anybody, your bosses, whomever and why it's important to apologize, especially in a relationship. Knowing and how to apologize can help Apologize. To apologize it is really important and it should come from you and it should come from your heart. It should really come from your heart.
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Apologies can be an important way to mend interpersonal relationships, but it is also normal to have complicated feelings about them. Some of us were forced to apologize as children when we hurt someone, and some of us apologized freely and felt immediately better after doing so. Some people feel ashamed by apologizing, while others feel ashamed until we have done so. There are many articles, magazine books, tv shows and movies from decades ago declared that love means never having to say you're sorry. Never apologizing in a relationship is a sure way to risk of losing it, and that's true. I mean, if you never apologize, you're gonna lose somebody. But I have ways to explore and why apologizing is so important and how to recognize when you say you're sorry. I'm also going to discuss why apologizing can be so difficult and tips for making it easier and more effective.
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When you apologize, you get a lot of benefits from that. We may have learned about apologizing when we've heard a friend, accidentally or otherwise. There are several important reasons why apologizing is necessary when social rules have been violated. Some of the good things that may come from sincere apology Okay, there's a lot of good things that come from that. Apologizing establishes relationship rules. When you've broken a rule of social conduct from cutting in line to breaking the law reestablishes that you know what the rules are and agree that they should have been upheld. This makes others feel safe. Knowing you agree that hurtful behavior isn't okay. Apologizing reestablishes dignity for those you heard. Letting the injured party know that you know it was your fault, not theirs, helps them feel better and it helps them save face. Apologizing helps repair relationships by getting people talking again and apology makes them feel comfortable with each other again. It also helps convey the value that you place on that relationship.
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Apologizing men's trust. A sincere apology allows you to let people know you're not proud of what you did and won't be repeating that behavior again. That lets people know that you're the kind of person who is generally careful not to hurt others and focuses on your better virtues rather than on your worst mistakes. Relationships can be great sources of stress relief, but conflict can cause considerable stress, which takes a toll. Learning the art of apologizing effectively can significantly reduce the negative effects of conflict and relationship stress. Apologies can help us put the conflict behind us and move on more easily.
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Many benefits come from forgiveness in terms of happiness and stress relief. Being adept at apologizing can appropriate can strengthen relationships, as you all know, reduce conflict and bring forgiveness. It can be hard, but it's well worth the effort. It is it's worth it. It's worth the effort. So give it some effort when you are apologizing, put your energy into it. Now, as we all know, apologizing can be difficult. It can be very hard to apologize, or come out of that door and apologize, or that face. It's just hard. Let's all face that and let's all discuss why apologizing is so hard.
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Apologizing can be very difficult for a variety of reasons. How people interpret the need for an apology can play a significant role. Apologizing can create feelings of inadequacy. For some people, an apology often feels like an admission that they are inadequate, that, rather than having a made a mistake, there is something wrong with them. Apologizing may apply imply guilt. Others believe that offering the first apology after an argument is an admission of guilt and responsibility for the entirety of a conflict that involved wrongs on the part of both parties. They think an apology for them will allow the other person to take no responsibility for their own part in the conflict. Sometimes an apology seems to call attention to a mistake that they may have gone unannounced or unnoticed. However, in the right circumstances, a well-delivered, appropriately sincere apology will generally avoid all these issues and will merely serve to usher in a resolution, reaffirm shared values and restore positive feelings. You just have to know when and how to deliver your apology correctly.
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When apologizing is a good idea. If something you've done has caused pain for another person, it's a good idea to apologize, even if whatever you did was unintentional. This is because apologizing apologizing opens up the doors to communication, which allows you to reconnect with the person who was hurt, and I'll tell you why. I'll give you reasons why you should consider apologizing. Included. Included include all these things Okay, you hurt or insulted someone, you behaved in a disrespectful way. You judged someone too harshly or unfairly. You engaged in a behavior you were once knew you were wrong, unfair or hurtful. You failed to keep a promise. It also allows you to express regret that they have been hurt, which lets them know you care about their feelings. This can help them feel safer with you again. Apologizing allows you to discuss what the rules should be in the future, especially if a new one needs to be made, which often is the case when you didn't hurt the other person intentionally. Creating new rules for the relationship can help you be protected from getting hurt in the future. If you care about the other person and the relationship, you can avoid offending behavior in the future, and apology is usually a good idea. And if you won't be able to apologize, this is what you should do to avoid when apologizing. Avoid doing this when you want to apologize to somebody.
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It is important to note that apologies can involve. Empty promises are a bad idea. One of the most important functions of an apology is that it affords the opportunity to re-establish trust, resolving, not to repeat the offending behavior or to make whatever changes possible. It is an important part of apologizing. If you promise to change but then don't. The apology merely calls attention to the fact that you've done something even you agreed is wrong, but refuse to change. Don't make promises you can't keep, but do try to make reasonable promises to avoid hurting the person in the future and follow through on those promises. If the other person is expecting something unreasonable or impossible, perhaps you're taking responsibility for more than you need to, and I'll give every single gentleman out there, lady out there, a few tips on apologizing, so tips for apologizing.
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An insincere apology can often do more damage than no apology at all. When you are apologizing, it is important to include a few keys ingredients so you can apologize sincerely, meaning take your time, be patient. They should help you to maintain healthy, happy relationships with your friends, family and loved ones. Make reasonable apologies to make it sincere. Also, take responsibilities for your actions. That's the most important key is to take responsibility for your actions. Knowing what you did is why you're apologizing and fix that mistake.
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Apologizing doesn't mean you need to take responsibility for the things that were not your fault. You can express regret at an unintentionally hurting someone's feelings, but you don't have to say you. You don't have to say you or you should have known better. Don't say that you should have known better. Don't ever say that to your partner, friends, family and loved ones ever. If you truly feel there is no way you could have known your actions would hurt them, then you're not thinking straight. You're not thinking well.
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In this situation, creating a new rule can help. For example hey, I'm sorry I woke you up. Now that I know you don't want people to call you after 8pm, I will be careful not to do so, because some people got work in the morning or they have a meeting or an important appointment, so you don't want to wake that person up in the morning or 8pm early. Let them wake up in the morning. Taking responsibility also means specifying what you did that you believed was wrong, but can entail gently mentioning what you believe was not wrong on your part. In this way, you protect yourself from the feeling that if you are the first to apologize, you are taking responsibility for the whole conflict or for the bulk of it, everything. Don't forget to say sorry. Say that you're sorry. Don't make excuses or try to qualify your apology. Instead, just say I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
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Avoid turning the apology into an argument or an opportunity to criticize or continue an argument. I don't Keep the argument away. Be firm, be calm, be gentle, keep it simple. An apology can include a simple statement such as I'm sorry that you felt that way. That's where you start. Hey, I'm sorry that you felt that way, but this is how I feel, I'm sorry.
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An apology does not necessarily involve stating that you did something wrong. Instead, it may be an acknowledgement that you hurt another person. So be careful, be gentle with that person and mean it. Watch their feelings. Sometimes, when you don't see eye to eye with another individual, an apology will turn into an argument I'm sorry, but exactly you can avoid this kind of circular argument by acknowledging someone else's feelings and that you hurt them. Acknowledge it, be gentle, be kind, courteous, respectful A word from very well. These are not always easy, but saying you're sorry can be important for healthy interpersonal relationships.
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If you've hurt someone, whether unintentionally or intentionally, consider how apologizing might help mend the pain and help you both move forward. And this is an important subject and it's very important. We've all been through situations where we must apologize to somebody. We must and we can't avoid it. If you don't apologize to anybody, you're going to hurt their feelings, you will hurt them deeply and apology means so much to somebody else it does. So let's all, just you know, sit here and be honest. Okay, you're on the couch laying on the bed, you're going for a drive or going to work I hope you're listening because this is an important topic and let's just say that, yeah, we've all been assholes before when apologizing, it's true. I mean, I'm the biggest asshole.
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When apologizing, I really am, especially if the other person's not accepting it. I'm like, okay, fine, whatever. But hey, I am deeply, truly sorry. I'm not even at your eye to eye. So make sure you make eye contact when you're apologizing and look at them, straining the eyes. Hey, I'm sorry, I really am. I will make it up to you. What I did was a mistake. I hope you heal and recover, but I will apologize and I really mean it. Personally, when I apologize, I like to give somebody flowers, a gift, a present, a unique note or a painting or something. When apologizing, that's just how important it is to me, how important that person is to me, because I am fully invested.
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When apologizing and let's just say the other person is like, oh, you know, whatever you don't really mean it, then fine Me, if I apologize to you and you don't want to take it, then that's on you. But I will give you time to recover, heal, you know. Just be healthy all over again, get your mind right, get your mental state, get your mental state of mind right, and that's on you. But if you don't take my apology, I'm sorry but that's going to take it or leave it. That's on you, that's on you.
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So, whether we're all, we've all been assholes or not. Let's just remember that sometimes some people are really sensitive, like they're really really sensitive. So take it easy on them. You know, we've all heard, we've all heard people in the past. We've all disagreed with an argument or an apology. So might as well just you know, vice versa, reverse it, because sometimes we all be like, ah, you don't really mean it. You know what I mean. You're not apologizing for you, you're just apologizing just to. You know, get out of here or whatever. So make sure to be easy and calm. Hey, be careful out there, be safe out there, stay healthy, happy, committed to everything you're doing. Okay, keep pushing that engine and if you ever hurt somebody, make sure to apologize deeply and sincerely. You have to mean it and also give that person time to heal, because sometimes some people cannot take an apology apology within a day and be okay the next day. It takes them time to recover, heal and be healthy again.
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