Ever found yourself sweating bullets over picking the perfect Christmas gift or planning a birthday bash to remember? We've all been there, and this week's podcast is a treasure trove of tales, tips, and laughter as we navigate the choppy waters of relationship celebrations. From the agony of striking the right balance in gift-giving to the joy of simple pleasures over material extravagance, we're unpacking it all.
Dive headfirst with us into the dilemma that plagues many a relationship: managing expectations without losing your mind or your wallet. We swap stories about friends and listeners wrestling with the pressure of lavish birthday expectations and reflect on whether true romance can really be priced. Our chat traverses the emotional landscape of underwhelming gift reactions and the subtle art of knowing when a walk in Hampstead Heath is worth more than the shiniest bauble.
To round off our heart-to-heart, we serve up some sage advice on keeping your relationship's financial heartbeat healthy. We're not just discussing the value of frugality; we're cracking jokes about the perils of telling your partner about that new budget lifestyle. Through the laughs, we touch on the serious business of compromise, financial responsibility, and the perennial dance of give and take in love. Whether you're trying to impress your significant other or just looking for a good chuckle, you won't want to miss this episode.
Ever found yourself sweating bullets over picking the perfect Christmas gift or planning a birthday bash to remember? We've all been there, and this week's podcast is a treasure trove of tales, tips, and laughter as we navigate the choppy waters of relationship celebrations. From the agony of striking the right balance in gift-giving to the joy of simple pleasures over material extravagance, we're unpacking it all.
Dive headfirst with us into the dilemma that plagues many a relationship: managing expectations without losing your mind or your wallet. We swap stories about friends and listeners wrestling with the pressure of lavish birthday expectations and reflect on whether true romance can really be priced. Our chat traverses the emotional landscape of underwhelming gift reactions and the subtle art of knowing when a walk in Hampstead Heath is worth more than the shiniest bauble.
To round off our heart-to-heart, we serve up some sage advice on keeping your relationship's financial heartbeat healthy. We're not just discussing the value of frugality; we're cracking jokes about the perils of telling your partner about that new budget lifestyle. Through the laughs, we touch on the serious business of compromise, financial responsibility, and the perennial dance of give and take in love. Whether you're trying to impress your significant other or just looking for a good chuckle, you won't want to miss this episode.
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Speaker 2:
I promise you, the president has a big step. But I'm telling you now, and not an old mate me now, if you want to say it as in front of him, he will go right to the very top, right to the very top.
Speaker 1:
If that is not a great tip, that's his job. Ooh, I'm in agony, funko's.
Speaker 2:
Wow, back again. It's that time again. Another agony funko's segment.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, now this one has got the potential to be a barn burner.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, this one got sent in by your mate. It did. Are we allowed to name who it?
Speaker 1:
is no, absolutely not no categorically. They said don't name them.
Speaker 2:
Right, let me set this up. Dear Sam and Jack, I'm a long time fan of the show. You're welcome, good man. I wanted to get your input on something.
Speaker 1:
This man is clearly reasonable. He's a genuine. I think we're only Sam and Adler, so what's going on now?
Speaker 2:
Okay, my girlfriend is lovely and an amazing person, but Go on Every bit after your Christmas we end up having fights. I like these celebrations, like most people, but they are mainly for children, in my opinion. Excellent. Once you're an adult, you buy your own stuff.
Speaker 1:
Pushing an open door with me here.
Speaker 2:
No need for these crazy displays of affection like expensive weekends away or fancy restaurants or drinks plus presents. She is already telling me to set up the next big one, but if you know me and she does I tend to organise at best 48 hours before I do anything Same for Christmas. It has to be hairway or the highway and it gets really tiring. So my question is am I an asshole or is she being overdramatic by these celebrations? Please guide me with your infinite wisdom and keep up the good work, guys. I mean I like this guy. I already got you Right. He's talking about nonsense.
Speaker 1:
Cut along so short he's being reasonable.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, that's right. See you next week guys. So, I mean, that's a bit of a grim if I'm being Really yeah.
Speaker 1:
Why is it grim? I don't know.
Speaker 2:
Grim's the wrong word. Spend some money on your girlfriend, don't you?
Speaker 1:
Come on Right. So I've chatted to this person and he's a good friend of mine.
Speaker 2:
Right, okay, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:
He's a friend of the shows.
Speaker 2:
Oh yeah, of course.
Speaker 1:
By the way, people may think that some of these agony funcals are bullshit and we make them up. They are all legit. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, yeah, that we ask our friends and their friends are friends to basically just tell us what's going on. So this is very much true, and I've discussed this with this person, right yeah? And he said to me that normally on a birthday or whatever, he will spend about 150 quid.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
Right, which I think is very reasonable.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, absolutely yeah.
Speaker 1:
But he didn't put this in the message, but her. Okay, I don't want to say too much here, but she may, by other people, maybe by her parents or whatever, maybe have spent more like 600 quid?
Speaker 2:
Oh, that's unreasonable.
Speaker 1:
Now that, now do you know, what I mean.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:
So whenever I've had birthdays with girlfriends and things like that, it will literally be like maybe a small present.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
For example, one girlfriend got me a little speaker that's probably 20, 30 quid, along with a meal, and I think that's great.
Speaker 2:
That's lovely.
Speaker 1:
Don't need any more than that.
Speaker 2:
No, what is she asking for? Is she asking for like?
Speaker 1:
Live by the chisel, die by the chisel.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, of course. Yeah, because then you don't have to get much back. Then do you? Yeah, exactly, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1:
It's genius, yeah, but the thing is, is that if you take someone out on their birthday, right, you are spending? It's at least 100 quid Of course you are.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, You've got a plan for that, really yeah yeah, yeah. If you have a meal, you have to come out and do something nice. Mcdonald's, that's 28 quid. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:
You know if you round up to a meal. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2:
Donate to charity, which I like to do? Yeah, of course.
Speaker 1:
But no, but like I've never, really I've never been into that big spending thing like wanting, like giving or wanting it.
Speaker 2:
No. So what you guys are saying is yeah, I can answer 10 from his agony uncle thing, please. Yeah, she, in his opinion she's been unreasonable. Yeah, and wanted him to book big things. However, he did say earlier he thinks celebrations that are just for children.
Speaker 1:
I empathize with him, yeah well, okay, going away somewhere probably disagree. I think going away somewhere is probably nice, like if you say like right, we'll book a trip somewhere.
Speaker 2:
What do you do? What do you do they go out during the week or do they want to do?
Speaker 1:
I know other than this. They have a nice relationship yeah, but take her out on a birthday to me, fucking out if it is taking her out on a birthday is doing stay, it's not like he's going all I his milk shake and you can fuck off. That's the way that you're framing depends what she wants.
Speaker 2:
Does she want like?
Speaker 1:
she, she wants, she wants like a lot of money to be spent on.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, but what she doing for it, though, there?
Speaker 1:
you go the same thing?
Speaker 2:
is she doing something for him?
Speaker 1:
that's a good point. I didn't ask him yeah.
Speaker 2:
I don't think so also, even if she is, does he have to do the same for her? That's her choice, I mean that was her choice, that was her choice yeah quote Mark up yeah, yeah, yeah, I have to give me a bit more backstory about the full thing, because let me read this thing again. So every better.
Speaker 1:
I know that it happened recently, like it was. It was a maybe, maybe or maybe your birthday is coming up. I can't remember that it's happened or it will happen.
Speaker 2:
Bit of a chiseler. You buy your own stuff. No need for the crazy displays of affection like expensive weekends away off. What a romance. She's already telling us to set up the next big one. Wait, so he does go on one, then he be gradually see your guns, or don't? I feel like, come on, if you know me and she does, I tend to this best for him, for, yeah, I was before, but it has to be here. Where are the highway? She sounds high maintenance as well. They both sound like it's getting tiring.
Speaker 1:
It's getting, I'm definitely leaning more on my mate's idea.
Speaker 2:
I knew that from the day said I'm a big fan of the pot.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah, if you want to skip forward 20 minutes, is we're gonna say, is right, yeah, let's just play a bit devil's advocate. It gets tiring. So I question am I not so, boyfriend? Or is she being overdramatic with the celebration? All depends on what she's trying to do now with like, please, romance is dead if you don't, if you don't like, spend a bit time, but you don't have to spend 500 quid on something every. It's just what's the point I mean.
Speaker 1:
well, I can tell you that from these experiences, there's like pressure around, because I had a girlfriend once and bear in mind, we split up like three days after, like one of my birthdays, or not a week after, whatever like, but she made me a cake that's nice it was very nice, right, and it had a little jiu-jitsu thing on it, like my brown belt on it, like.
Speaker 1:
However, one of the stipulations around this cake was the fact that it had to be eaten that day and I was like, because of the cream that she used or whatever she's like, it's going to go off. Oh fucking hell. And I was like, well, I don't want to eat a whole cake. I was like I'll have a bit for breakfast, thanks.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, and then bin it.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, and then we went on this long walk along Seven Sisters like you know, the cliffs in Eastbury. Yeah, yeah yeah, and it was like I made you that cake and you did and I said I don't want to eat an entire fucking cake, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:
And then make them feel guilty for that. Yeah, I'm not having that at all. Don't use that cream. You know what's funny?
Speaker 1:
That was the most reasonable girlfriend I had to swallow. She had the buns. She was the most reasonable. I feel like you're that guy who does that chart?
Speaker 2:
you know where they go. Good, looking to crazy. Yeah, you got like. You got right on the edge of the coin.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, Remember that thing I told you yesterday. It's like when a woman's being absolutely outrageous. Yeah, like she's saying something that you point blank disagree with, where you could be sat at dinner and she's going like well, you know, you know they're letting too many of them in.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
And then that internal monologue goes well, how hot is she. And then you have to wear them. She goes it's just really hot. You go all right, we'll keep it going yeah.
Speaker 2:
You know what this is. A gripper, gripper man. Stop doing things for people and expecting too much back just because you did it. It was your choice to do it, that was their choice. No but it is. She didn't have to make. It's very nice that she made the cake but she can't force you to sit there and eat it afterwards.
Speaker 1:
Eat an entire cake full of cream and, bearing in mind I'm a man that likes a diet, yeah, no, but she knows that about you, obviously yeah. So it was like I had. So then it was like she kept on nudging me to be like oh well, that cake, otherwise it's going to get thrown away.
Speaker 2:
That's so selfish.
Speaker 1:
But this is my birthday.
Speaker 2:
That is so selfish.
Speaker 1:
This is. Do you know what I was saying? Just as a separate thing, my dad last year.
Speaker 2:
Right, Let me tell you something about my dad God, because he's a reasonable man as well, right, but what was this wise age got to say?
Speaker 1:
about this. For my 30th, I went and visited him in Bournemouth.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
And he went. Oh, you know. So me, like stepmom and stepbrother and sisters, and like you know, we planned a big walk for you. It's about six hours and I went, but you'll have to get up at seven today. I was like, well, I don't want to do it.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
And he was going you are what he's going. I've got a fucking lazy kid and all this and I was like, look, when it's your birthday, you do a six hour walk. Do you know what I mean? Thinking?
Speaker 2:
about the selves.
Speaker 1:
I just want to go to the pub.
Speaker 2:
I didn't ask it, yet Not asking you what you want to do.
Speaker 1:
I want to get mooled at the pub. In fact, birthday or no birthday, I want to get mooled at the pub.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, no, no, 100%. Yeah, I hate when people do that.
Speaker 1:
I was like dad, like it, just like. And then okay. And then it's like my stepmom talks to me about it. She's like well, he said that he was saying this and some like just tell him to fucking get over it. Like, like it's an outrage, Like I was like, yeah, when it's your birthday.
Speaker 2:
I'll go on the walk for your birthday, if that's what you want to do for your birthday.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, but I don't want to get up at. I like getting up at nine o'clock.
Speaker 2:
I said this to somebody recently. I was like what do you want to do? Because my birthday was a couple of weeks ago and it was like because I was in New York for anywhere. But it was like do you want to do something when you get back? And I was like, no, not really, that's boring. And I was like, well, what do you want me to do? Then you tell me what you want to do Is this a woman? Yeah, it was. Yeah. You tell me what you want me to do.
Speaker 1:
Yeah.
Speaker 2:
It's like that's boring. We could do this, we could go to the picture, and I don't like going to the picture, I don't like going to. I sound miserable now, right.
Speaker 1:
But it's great though.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I want to go sit in the pub. That's what I want to do.
Speaker 1:
Absolutely. That's all we want.
Speaker 2:
So back to Our agony ankle segment. We're 100% agree with you.
Speaker 1:
Yeah.
Speaker 2:
I mean I told you I've. We said skip forward.
Speaker 1:
I know this guy and he's a, he's a, he's a reasonable bloke.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I mean. It all depends on, like I said, the unreasonableness of the of the claims, like you shouldn't have to spend fortunes on each of it so. I'm, and maybe some people. Maybe he's with a girl who's got a rich family and they're used to doing that sort of thing.
Speaker 1:
So she expects that but it's sort of like Do you know what I mean? Like if you have to have that to have fun. Yeah do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:
Can't you just enjoy you? Yeah, I suppose they have a life, but life's a bit for like, let's say, per se like let's say you live in London, can't you be?
Speaker 1:
like let's go for a walk around hamster teeth.
Speaker 2:
I mean, you're in the best of the public. I don't, I've been, no, I've been no bones about saying this. You're in one of the best cities in the world.
Speaker 1:
Hmm, you can go anywhere you can, literally you, you can. If you wanted to, you could have a day out for like 20 quid?
Speaker 2:
Yeah, exactly, coffee, bottle of wine in the park. Bang the tube as well.
Speaker 1:
Exactly.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, uh.
Speaker 1:
Buy a yogurt from little something.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, it's like some people like to spend their daughter to think the gestures of. That's how the show love like gestures.
Speaker 1:
It's. It's really just been one of the things that I've I've never wanted, or.
Speaker 2:
Jewelry would never get me doing anything like that. I just think it's, it's, it's Ridiculous.
Speaker 1:
I told you that story with the first girlfriend. I had the bangle, didn't I? Sure I did. I think so, yeah, but where I basically it was like 60 quid for like a very thin white gold bangle. Yeah and then, like she like was very underwhelmed when she opened it, and then she went upstairs for a bit and then her mum came back down and was like, oh, it's not that bad, and I overheard it and I felt so offended.
Speaker 2:
I know that's how I mean don't do anything for anyone. Yeah, that's probably a schedule that I think.
Speaker 1:
I'm not a psychologist, I was. I was so offended by that yeah. And I actually I got a load of gifts. That's so when I that was when I was 17, that was for her 18th.
Speaker 2:
And I probably spent the same as the girl being offended for the cake, though, Um, do you know what it's the not not liking?
Speaker 1:
it isn't actually like the real issue.
Speaker 2:
It's the fact that the tacklessness of the mum to say that in my yeah, that's right, yeah, that's the problem with it, yeah, yeah, because if she don't just say to you I thank you so much for getting me it. Yeah, it's just not for me. Can I swap it for someone else?
Speaker 1:
Yeah, of which you're always gonna be a little bit offended, but really, if we're all about fairness, yeah we just have to take that one on the chin and go to the more fair than that.
Speaker 2:
We live by the chisel, die by the chisel, yeah exactly.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, but it was the mum's tacklessness of like saying it's how loudly.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, that is like I was just like oh, mums of the worst, I like girlfriend's mums. Could we do an episode on girlfriend's mums? Absolutely.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, absolutely that effect. You're right the minute actually. Yeah, yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 2:
I think this guy should Really think about what like the baby should meet in the middle right. She sounds very unreasonable, by the way, if she's making him do all this stuff, like he's get it to the point where he's getting tired of it, like it's becoming he's had to bring in the big dogs to give him some advice. No doubt I mean, so I would just leave that. Yeah, just leave it tomorrow.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, fucker I don't mean nothing, do you know?
Speaker 2:
it's just anyone as well Make sure it's your birthday and then leave her after that, so you don't have to buy something for her birthday, and then you sorted what was really funny Was that my cousin, right, he was going out with someone something really similar like a year ago.
Speaker 1:
But my cousin and bearing in mind the bloke that we're who's written in? He's he's got money like he's not, he's not like the. My cousin, like he got a little bit of cash like and His his ex, but the one he's with son at the moment, but the one before. Basically she was like, well, my ex-boyfriend spent like two thousand dollars on me and blah, blah, blah, and he just flat, he just burst out oh, it was goes. Well, I'm not fucking.
Speaker 1:
So like it's so horrible and entitled that, like what he paid to, as if I, as if he's meant to be gone. Oh yeah, go on, then I'll spend three thousand yeah that, yeah, it's that ball. It's such a piece of shit manoeuvre aggressive yeah like what a way to live life is. That's the highlight of things are going out on your birthday.
Speaker 2:
You've met the wrong person there.
Speaker 1:
I think as well, like you know, I've said before that People that describe their wedding day is the best they have their lives.
Speaker 2:
Oh yeah, the losers the door has been pushed up on me there.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, just one wide open but people who treat like their birthdays or Christmas or like there's a real like narcissism around that about like those things, yeah, oh, massively like, like people.
Speaker 1:
All right, they're like, oh, I'm doing this, I'm gonna get my, so my haircut for my birthday and I like I think it's nice that you have a day where your friends and your family are a bit more obligated than usual to kind of come and see you, right, yeah, but that's what it's about. Okay, that's fine you to be a little bit more of a social focal point, but it's like when people do you know, there was a phase as well where women kept on saying, after COVID, they go oh, because COVID didn't, a COVID happened. It doesn't really count that I had my birthday. I heard that all the time. Like people actually said that. People said that loads, I'm like shut up, you loser.
Speaker 2:
I think that, yeah, it's making. I mean, the narcissism in the world has got got out of hand anywhere. Yeah, but I don't know, I don't know. Are we, are we being killed? Joys, is it something to look forward to that?
Speaker 1:
No, we're not being no, Well no, but the real thing is just get a better life.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, but like it's easier said than done, it's a bit, it's not yeah but everyone's got the same light as in.
Speaker 1:
Everyone's got access to the world.
Speaker 2:
I know be curious about it, don't yeah, but they're like, let me just keep reading, so I'm not.
Speaker 1:
I'm not misquoting them, okay you're met, yeah, a bit like you as said, celebrations are mainly for children.
Speaker 2:
No, that is unbelievably chiseled. They're like like that's. I mean, yeah, that's fair, you can buy your own stuff. Yeah, but what's the fun in that?
Speaker 1:
No, but really like the jet, the gesture is nice. If someone said I have planned a day out and it's this, this, and it doesn't Necessarily have to have money spent on it, though, does it. But I think for him the focus, he's saying that the money is the yeah.
Speaker 2:
She's the main culprit as well, he. Point there has to be hairwear or the highway and it gets tiring.
Speaker 1:
Yeah.
Speaker 2:
I don't think you're being unreasonable. I think I can understand why you've led that way, because it seems like she's pushed you down. This thing he's so far.
Speaker 1:
He's talking to me or him To him, right.
Speaker 2:
I can understand why he's been led down this road to believe this stuff, because he seems like he's been pushed that far having to spend all this stuff.
Speaker 1:
Here's another question have you been in that scenario or you're with someone who's got wacky beliefs, where you're like? This really doesn't align with me.
Speaker 2:
In what sense? Like I was with a girl not too long ago, I was rolling to star satins and stuff Fucking hell, like really into them.
Speaker 1:
Well, marry, you know what I say.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, how hot is she Like?
Speaker 1:
you just say that and you do the Grattonheimer calculations and bang your way. You're an.
Speaker 2:
Aquarius and I'm a Capricorn, so it's not really meant to work, but it just said that I'm like, oh, no, definitely. Yeah, mercury is in retrograde. I'd like to know this girl's his Mrs T. How long have they been together?
Speaker 1:
A couple of years, I think, a couple of years.
Speaker 2:
So, yeah, he's already knows what she's like and he's getting to him a bit. My advice to him would be to talk to him and just say what is more important here in this relationship? Are you only interested in spending too much money? Do you love me for me, or I don't know if it's that deep.
Speaker 1:
I don't think you can say do you love me?
Speaker 2:
for me, I mean, that's sort of but say it anyway, just cause a bit of a ruckus.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, cause a ruckus. Yeah, film it and then send it into the pot. That'd be brilliant.
Speaker 2:
Just say, you know, in fact, as an experiment, just say I'm not spending any money as an experiment, as an experiment.
Speaker 1:
Oh, do you know what we would fund you?
Speaker 2:
any fallout, yeah yeah, no, I'll pay the, we will compensate any future dates.
Speaker 1:
You need to go on to find a new girlfriend.
Speaker 2:
So if you let her book all the trip right and then just cancel it and just say, no, I'm not, I'm not spending it, what are you going to do? And then film it and then let us watch the fallout?
Speaker 1:
Do you know? I just got one more thing on that like, is that a few years ago, one of the lads at Jiu Jitsu right, it was a Monday night two years ago when it was Valentine's Day Five or six of us training, and they're all single lads apart from one. Everyone went, oh, you've done all right to get away to come training and he was like, yeah, no, it's fine, it's fine. And then his phone went and he got a text and we just saw his face and then we were like what was it saying? The text said I have no words.
Speaker 2:
Really.
Speaker 1:
And then Fucking hell.
Speaker 2:
I have no words.
Speaker 1:
I had to go and buy some flowers, and he said that he bought them in his lunch break. Oh, I want a whip. I have no words.
Speaker 2:
And then he took her out on like a really expensive holiday, Like after that it was like he's like everything's all right now.
Speaker 1:
Oh, like the kids will be all right, jesus Christ. That was funny, though. Everyone was like mate, well, like you've done well to get here to come and train. And he was like, yeah, no, I'd be fine. And then he was just like I have no words, so funny, no that's fair.
Speaker 2:
People are so unreasonable with each other's time and expectations. Yeah Well, you're in, you're trapped at here.
Speaker 1:
I mean, I was saying this to you yesterday, but I really like that. There's a lot of things really quite enjoyable about life and I don't think a relationship is one of them.
Speaker 2:
No, just enjoy your life, do stuff. Don't let somebody tell you that it's like, well, we should be doing that. We're seeing my mom this weekend.
Speaker 1:
No, but do you know, what's brilliant is just like I'm not saying like relationships are out and out bad or whatever like, but I just think that Like, if that people just do them sort of going for the motions of doing them just, rather than really it's like you, it's really horrible and cliche, but this sort of sounds like Matthew Hussie, a little bit right, but Like if you, if you can have, if you can enjoy life by yourself, you know, you've that, you've made it.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, you do, well, you do not need anyone else.
Speaker 1:
If you can't enjoy it by yourself. You're screwed.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, all right.
Speaker 1:
So what we're saying to your mate is just try a bit of time on your own, yeah or do an experiment, film it and we definitely want you to film the out the fall we want you, we, yeah, we want you to film telling your girlfriend that you won't spend any money.
Speaker 2:
Yeah so really see, you shouldn't have to spend fortune.
Speaker 1:
It'll be like the deer I.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, you'll come into you know wherever you know him from with a black. I was gonna say You'll see him next time like a black eye and a fucking prime pan mark on his head, do you mean?
Speaker 1:
band.
Speaker 2:
But yeah, my advice is to is it's yeah, you don't have to spend that so much on money to be with somebody like do you?
Speaker 2:
Yeah yeah, absolutely. Five, six hundred quid every time. Holidays like I, have a nice holiday and Take, enjoy time with each other and take each other out and stuff. You should enjoy each other's company like that, but it shouldn't have to cost you a fortune, and stop spending money for the sake of it. We're gonna be in a recession soon and then you'll be like Then, then then should be like oh, where's all the money gone? And you'll be like yeah, you know, we went to be muted for two weeks.
Speaker 1:
I mean.
Speaker 2:
Yeah and now you'll be at fault.
Speaker 1:
Correct.
Speaker 2:
Yeah right Enjoy your day, I'm like problem solve. What's your advice? Son, give me a bit of advice. Just just stick to what you believe in yeah, stick, stick, stick to what you believe in, stick to your guns.
Speaker 1:
Stick to what you believe in, unless she's really good-looking.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, she had an compromise. Yeah, compromise, compromise, compromise.