Spa Days and Special Moments

Welcome to Episode 15 of Love in Focus: Building Community with an Only Child! In today's heartwarming episode, I'm excited to share a special experience that my amazing Olivia suggested - our very own weekly Spa Day! Olivia, at just 6 years old, had the brilliant idea for us to have a regular spa experience together. It's a reminder that parenting an only child can be filled with unexpected joys and adventures. So, fellow mums with an only child, whether it's a spa day, a nature walk, or another treasured activity, let's celebrate the unique connections we share with our only little ones. Tune in for inspiration on how you can create your own special moments, making memories that will last a lifetime.

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Hi, my name is Four and welcome to The Love and Focus, the podcast for moms where we explore, discover, build community with our only child. Let's get going. Okay, you know what I mean. Let's start with the program. Oh my goodness. Going to the spa. Yes, SPA spa. Well, my daughter today after school, we're going shopping, and she said, Mom, how about every Mondays you and I go and have a spa? Like go go to the spa every Mondays. I want to go with you. And I looked at her and I thought, why don't we do something like that? Why don't we do something, treat ourselves, pick a day of the week when her and I go to a spa. And then I thought, darling, I haven't been to a lot of spa places where um I feel like it's awesome, and maybe because I I just haven't had time in our routine, or there's not, I'm sure there's lovely spa places in our area. I just I don't know why that I haven't explored more. So if you're listening to this and you're like, hey, um, maybe you should try this and this if you go to this area, but when I do go on vacation, and if I can find some, you know, a moment where I'm able to get a foot massage or a back massage, I don't really like so much my face being touched. Um, that's just me. I mean, some people find it relaxing, someone massaging your face. Me, I don't like it. They just like, hey, don't squeeze it too much because it might give me wrinkles, but I'm like that. But I love it if they massage my hand, you know, a full body massage, and that oh my gosh, I have so much funny stories about that as well. Uh so and getting my nails done, and I think of only other than we do our nails at home, where Olivia loves to paint my toenails, and you know, we put she puts, you know, all these designs on my mixing two colors together on my toes. One is blue, uh, blue toe, you know, toenails, and the other has like three different color, you know, nail polish on on the other. And so I'm practically going with a beautiful rainbow of toes, and I'm like, okay, well, you know, my daughter beautifully decorated my toes, and I'll just keep wearing them till the paint comes off, and then she does it again, and I love that. So um, I was thinking about this episode is because she's six years old, uh, and she said it herself, the things that she is wanting to do together, and because she knows, um, like, oh, I love to we love, we really enjoy painting each other's nails. How about we go and find someone that does it for us? And I thought, she is so loving that she wants to spend time with her mommy where we where we can both relax and enjoy someone else pampering us. So, as I'm saying this, I didn't tell her I I'm gonna pick a day of the week where we both have time where she's not doing her activities, and I don't have any meetings or anything I've got to run and do. Her and I can just take some time, like an hour. Okay, I'm saying an hour, but after we get our nails done, we love to go and either eat, meaning she likes to get her apple juice and maybe like uh a dessert we both share, and me, I'll have a coffee or a nice hot cup of tea or lemonade. So I think that'll be like it'll be like a two or three hours, you know, uh something we're gonna do a week, or maybe even two weeks. So the reason why I'm sharing this with you is because maybe you have a child that's um you know a lot, you know, a lot older, and I'm gonna say six years old for me, you know, a similar age, and you might find something that you both enjoy that's relaxing, that they wanted to do, which you couldn't do when you they were a toddler. Uh, unless you have a toddler and they like enjoy doing like their nails, I mean that's awesome. But for me, um it was just the suggestion for Olivia to say that on her own, and she said, make it a weekly thing. I thought, you know what? I'm so looking forward. So when you're a teenager, no, she's not a teenager, maybe she'll suggest it okay. Oh, you know, I will replay this episode and will I be saying, oh my goodness, but maybe she was six years old and she wanted to have a spa, you know, um uh a week every time weekly with her mommy, and now she's a teenager, she just wants someone else. Yeah, but I'm gonna keep going with her and I doing you know fun things together, and so I wanted to encourage you. Um, if you're not at this stage and your child is still a baby or a toddler, um, and you're going to the park, or even if you're doing things and you're I'm now looking forward, not that I didn't look forward to it before, but I really appreciate this season in her life with her and I where I can enjoy these type of activities together. And maybe you're like, well, you know, you can do your nails at home, yeah, and we can put cucumber on our face, and or you know, some people actually put egg whites. I remember watching it back in the day, when you just put the egg white on your face and it gets really hard, or if you have a mask, like you make your own mask with yoga and honey, or the more I think about these things, I'm like, oh no, maybe these sounds like breakfast food refreshing. You know, I really encourage you maybe um ask your child, is there something that they enjoy doing and you enjoy doing, you just haven't had time yet. That it's your special thing that you do together and whatever it is. So, and it and I don't know if we're actually gonna do it every week, eh? Because um you know, getting your nails done, we don't really need to do it every every week. And I don't know how much it costs to get your nails done here at my local town, it could be like 15 to 20 dollars, and that's including the tip, depending on where you live. Here in the States you typically tip, um, so if it costs$10, you might give an extra two or five dollars on top of the price. In other countries, you don't need a tip, but um, or you know, maybe it's for example, baking. You don't have time to bake, you know, we're all busy moms and we're doing things, and uh so you might want to do it baking with your child once every say once every two weeks or once a month, and it's just something that you do together, and they do most of the baking, like they're putting the ingredients together because at their age they can crack an egg, they can pour in the flour, they can do the measurements, and you're there just giving them the ingredients, and you're sharing stories, so that could be something else too, something fun, and then when you bake, um when you're baking, not only you can share the yummy, you know, the the thing that you made, but you can also share it with others. You might have a friendly neighbor or someone or a grandparent or someone in your community that you can both write a card to. I don't know, these are all suggestions that when you do something together, you know, you're creating a beautiful memory, and you're just sharing it, and it could be your special thing that uh the moment, and it could be tradition. So Olivia and I we enjoy, for example, when her and I go on vacation, we enjoy swimming together. Every time our family goes on vacation, Olivia and I, we she is my swimming buddy, and that is our thing. So we don't often her and I have not even done a spa, so maybe there's something new we would add that on. Um so yeah, so with the swimming, her and I know we just love going swimming together, and when I say love, we will swim if we're you know at the hotel two or three times a day. If we can catch another swim time in there, we would do it. I mean, we will wake up at seven o'clock in the morning, we will swim for an hour, and the water's always cold, and we're like, but it's so refreshing. Then after breakfast, we'll swim again if we if we can get another one in, depending on what we're doing on vacation. But I'm thinking, I think she wanted to have a spa because um because we love swimming together, we laugh a lot, we talk about so many things in the swimming pool, and we we're such pranksters to each other. She wanted, I can see why she wanted to continue on um, you know, coming home and still having that, you know, mom, I love doing things with you, but how about we do something else? Because playing toys, you know, playing with her Barbie dolls and horses, you know, um, is not always gonna be like, yay! I'm like, and if you're listening to this, Olivia, I'm sorry, but but the spa once a week is gonna be something we both enjoy. So I hope you find something. Uh yeah, and maybe you might have to be creative and think about it, depending on where you live, like how how can you get to the location? So for me, um, you know, there's quite a few now salons, which is a five-minute drive, so it's easy for me to pick those locations, and it doesn't cost as much. So that'll be something that we will mean me will be looking into it. So I will keep you posted on that adventure. So I guess the now salon um that's her interpretation of having like a spa treatment. Um, would I find somewhere? Um, I mean, because as I'm thinking about it, is there a kid's spa? Maybe there is a mummy in me. I can find, you know, some spa salons. Why am I saying spa salons? Some spa, I don't even know what they're called places that um have a mummy and me day or mummy and me experience. Yes, I'm talking about that, that'll be fun. So I'm sp I'm sure they do for Mother's Day. Someone in my area has got to have a mummy and me thing going on where um you can enjoy something like that. So if you know of you know, some spa places that do have things like that, or you have ideas that for you and your child, and they're similar age to Olivia, she's six years old, you know, and you do something a week or once a month that is special for you and your only child. Please, I would love to hear that because you know there are mums around the world that are listening, and we want to share and you know, hear those ideas. And so, once again, mom, I just want to tell you how wonderful, truly, truly wonderful you are, and you are doing the best you can with the time that's given, the love and care that you pour into your child is so valuable, and the kindness, and I say kindness of words that you speak into your family, and how you look at yourself. I mean, you are so valuable. I tell my I told my daughter today, uh, you know, darling, you are a wonderful friend because you are a friend, you're such a good friend, you're a good friend for mommy, and because you're so kind and loving, I appreciate the kindness that you show. Because you know how we speak into our child, they carry that, and then it just overflows into other people, and so I just want to say that to you as you're listening to this podcast, this episode, you are a wonderful person, and I hope that you see that in yourself, Miss as you're getting ready in the mornings, or you're cooking dinner, doing the washing, you're playing with your child, you know, you're brushing your teeth, or you're doing the vacuuming, or you're hanging up those washing, you know, the clothes on the washing line, then you bring them in because it's wet, it's raining, then you got to take it back out and out and out, and then uh you're serving your husband and your community. You know, I pray that you hear my heart that you are the best mom for your child, you're the best wife, and what you're doing at work matters, it does. Um, I'm entering in the workplace, and so I'll be talking. This is a new season for me as an own, you know, as a mom with an only child, having a job, a part-time job. So I'll be talking about that, sharing my experiences in the you know, later on in this podcast. But I wanted you to know that to also remind yourself to be kind to yourself, because you are the best mom, you truly are. Listen to me, you are the best mom for your child, and you are such a wonderful person, and I pray you hear my heart, and the love of these words flows into you and over you and around your family, and so I just wanted to say that God loves you and we see you, and I mean we yeah, the mums who are listening to this, we see you and we appreciate you, and I appreciate you, and I want to say thank you for listening. So this is four, and I so appreciate that you took the time to listen to this podcast, you know, and thank you for loving and subscribing it and leaving a comment, and but most of all, I wanted to say I pray that you love yourself and be kind to yourself. Thank you for listening to love and focus building a community with an only child, and this is for the building love and focus one episode at a time. You'll hear from me in the next episode. Take care, bye.