Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the paradox of choice in your quest for romance? Join me, Renee Richel, as we tackle the complex world of modern love with wit and wisdom. We're peeling back the layers of what seems like an impossible task—finding 'the one' in a sea of options—and discovering that sometimes we are our own biggest obstacle. Drawing from firsthand accounts and the sharp acumen of my matchmaking team, we'll share how self-reflection and personal growth can lead you to the love life you deserve. Expect to walk away with a fresh perspective on how to align your heart's desires with the reality of dating today.
Now, let's talk strategy. The art of a first date doesn't have to be a daunting affair. I'm handing over the conversational keys to unlock the secrets of genuine connection, from crafting discussions that dig beneath the surface to recognizing the transformative power of a good old-fashioned phone call. We don't just stop at breaking the ice; we're building the foundation for a relationship that stands the test of time. With a blend of intention and faith, we'll guide you through the labyrinth of love, ensuring that when you're ready to take the plunge, you'll do so with clarity and confidence. Whether you're a hardened skeptic or a hopeful romantic, this episode promises to be your compass in the pursuit of a partnership that's more than just a swipe away.
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the paradox of choice in your quest for romance? Join me, Renee Richel, as we tackle the complex world of modern love with wit and wisdom. We're peeling back the layers of what seems like an impossible task—finding 'the one' in a sea of options—and discovering that sometimes we are our own biggest obstacle. Drawing from firsthand accounts and the sharp acumen of my matchmaking team, we'll share how self-reflection and personal growth can lead you to the love life you deserve. Expect to walk away with a fresh perspective on how to align your heart's desires with the reality of dating today.
Now, let's talk strategy. The art of a first date doesn't have to be a daunting affair. I'm handing over the conversational keys to unlock the secrets of genuine connection, from crafting discussions that dig beneath the surface to recognizing the transformative power of a good old-fashioned phone call. We don't just stop at breaking the ice; we're building the foundation for a relationship that stands the test of time. With a blend of intention and faith, we'll guide you through the labyrinth of love, ensuring that when you're ready to take the plunge, you'll do so with clarity and confidence. Whether you're a hardened skeptic or a hopeful romantic, this episode promises to be your compass in the pursuit of a partnership that's more than just a swipe away.
Hi, I'm Renee Richel, the founder and president of 1 True Match. I'm here to help you find and cultivate the love of your life. For over a decade, I've dedicated my life to the importance, purpose and dynamic of human relationships. My team and I are disciplined by faith, love and integrity to help our clients find the quality relationship they've always dreamt of. Each week, I will be sharing the tools and tips I've learned that have rooted my success as a matchmaker with other leaders around the world.
Speaker 2:
Hello, loves, and welcome back. I am so excited to talk about this next topic that I feel is being asked all over the place over and, over and over again why is it so hard to meet a love in your life? In today's day and age, where we have unlimited amount of resources and connections and opportunities, as well as platforms and apps and there's matchmakers, things like that, why is this so?
Speaker 2:
hard to find and look today? That's a great question. I wanted to come on and talk about this because the reality of it is that I always say it's almost like everybody has too many options now and they've really taken away the art of dating to what has now become such a mundane routine that either people are fed from it, they're exoptive of it, they would never go on a path. So how do you meet people today when, back in the day, when people are reading in the niche or as you read, or reading them in the community reading?
Speaker 2:
them in the neighborhood. You're meeting them at school, you're reading that work professional event and things like that and networking. There's a lot more larger corporations that people are coming into instead of working at home today. So I'm here to tell you, first of all, that you're listening to us. I'm excited. I've never met you before. I want to. I'm excited to be a part of moving your journey, to give you the right tips and the right advice and pass it along to many friends then maybe looking for good advice and how to meet the love of their life.
Speaker 2:
The number one reason why I feel people aren't meeting the right person and I say this again over and over and over again I can't seem to please listen to some other topics that we have and like dating and single tips and things like that is we stand in our own way and a lot of that has to go into the root of where that comes from. So time and time again, when we talk to our clients and we're constantly like getting our life story and really trying to hear the relationship, the relationship experience where they find their childhood, just all the steps in life, their journey that God has led them to, at this moment to truly be ready to say I want to give it to an expert, I want to step away trying to do it on my own and I want to trust my heart with human Lord. The next step that usually comes with that journey that we put every client through in a loving and caring way is diving into not only the past, talking about the present, but also thinking about the future. And not just thinking about the future and do singly in our own single mind, but also thinking about what a future will look like with somebody. So it's important before you start dating, it's important before you even come to us as a client and when you're filling out a profile it's a match Is to really think about what it is that you know you definitely don't want in a relationship, but also things that you now know that you need in a relationship.
Speaker 2:
You know we work with clients all different ages. We learn from mid twenties all the way up to late seventies, right. So we're dealing with multiple different personalities, all different age ranges, all different stories, all different talents, all different skills and all different designers. And so many times we'll hear over and over and over and over again as they just can't find somebody that obviously they could with that's like, minded to be shared the same morals, values, beliefs and just, I guess I would say, mission of togetherness that is so lost in today's DNA age, as the more and more time we spend single, the more and more we get independent in our ways and our expectations. And so if you're somebody that has not dated in a very long time, or ever dated, I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and also say what is it that I can do better for myself to be able to allow the right person to come in my life?
Speaker 2:
And maybe, that being maybe we're being too critical, maybe we're being too judgmental, maybe we're being too hard on ourselves because the world always wants to tear us down, which is thin, and our Christian obviously believes right. And so how have we gotten ourselves into a place where we're allowing those bad mindset traits to come into the forefront of our life, to not be able to overcome those hurdles? And so it's really important? Or if you're somebody that you know, you date a lot, and you're just wondering, like, how come I keep going on these same dates and keep getting the same result, which was exactly my journey and my whole story. Why I ended up meeting you in the beginning was I know it's like to be out there. I know what it's like to date at absolutely 100% with you and the challenge that it does have and it does take our spiritual spirit, your energy, your thought process, the way that you live your life and the things that you do. But I'm also here to tell you that it does truly exist and that that right person, god is preparing for you as well as preparing them to meet you at the right time at the right place and as a matchmaker with a lack of resources. Community love angels, prayer warriors I mean our team matchmakers and just our referrals with clients and matches that people get us because they're all there testifying and giving testimonies of their true love and people wanting it more and more. The reality of it is is you've got to get involved in trying different things to create a different mindset, to create a different person and 100% get out of your own way of what has been clouding you to be able to find this right person.
Speaker 2:
Now, again, if you're somebody that doesn't want to do online dating, right, because there's that fear, or maybe there's that constant rejection, or and you know, study just came out with 75% or 70% of men that are online are not finding their true love. Right, because there's also more men online than there are women. Because, time and time again, when we surveyed and asked those questions, it's because how else would they need somebody? And they're not going to go up and approach somebody in a public setting not knowing anything about them, which I also feel like going back to the old school way. If you're interested, and you're, you want to get to know somebody. You're just going to job to them. But again, that's maybe a little bit more extroverted of personality to that is you Try to think of different ways when you're connecting with people, to go at it in a different approach.
Speaker 2:
So one thing I would always love to share is like when you're out there dating you know it's match makers we ask all the basic questions, which again kind of gets you into a mundane routine and you go on a date and then you can't wait to either hate to say it for me or like kind of excuse yourself and then you go on the next day. You can go on the next day and start to almost always hope by going on so many dates. So my not number one, but one of many tips is to go on less dates instead of more but have like a dry reversal run before you even start going on the dates. Some of the questions I love to ask or share with my couples when they're going out in dates for the first time are like one question Instead of the same routine questions that of course we asked everybody prior. So our clients feel like they're on the third or fifth date by the time the action is moved. That person and their relationships that have been together for four or five weeks and they feel like they've been together for four or five years in very long and exciting way, because we got out of the way and worked for them to truly, truly know somebody. We got to all be tied the questions up front, so there's no big moments or things that happen six to nine months down the road because we got more out of the way. And why they go on so quick when they need the right person is because, a God has prepared both of them to meet at that moment. B they both have done the work that it takes to truly know and do what God wants them to do, which is to fall in love and be ready.
Speaker 2:
So some of the fun questions that we ask or suggest when you're on a first date is like what are three things on your bucket list, right? How fun and exciting is that? It gets you off the top of the top? You know the next, never talk about the next, never talk about the past. When it goes to the next, at least for the first three or five days, because you already know you're going to get to a fourth thing who wants to air on your 30 long rail on the first date? Right, we got some of the fun questions.
Speaker 2:
If you say what are, like, the top two adventures you've had in your life, you know, what are things where you can kind of see are they adventurous or are they more like reserved? Does it align with your life? What are two things that you regret, which that can also show humbleness? Are they, can they admit to things that they've done wrong? When people don't? That's a huge red fly rate. Nobody is perfect, even don't matter how old you are you're going to hear in their 20s. There's things that you're going to regret because you know that you've done that. Your parents probably got on before right, or like friendships that change or just life happening, and so, like, asking that question is really, really important. And what are the hardest life lessons to learn? So, like, what is like? What is the hardest life lesson you've had to learn? And what I mean by that is that will also again put somebody into a vulnerable topic of conversation to share with you who they are. You know what's on their mind and their experiences, without diving to deep or any type of relationship, maybe trauma or things that have happened, but also how they overcame those scenarios. That will show you how they'll overcome the future and the present. It's gonna give you a really good you know, obviously vision of what the two of you would look like Not together, but yet what partnership or the person you are thinking about dating or being in a relationship would be.
Speaker 2:
Another question is like what is one of your child, like, what is one of your childhood memories right, and that's maybe a good idea. You know, diving too deep and too much, making people feel uncomfortable. In a way, that's fun, it's playful. You kind of get a good idea of like do they have a good childhood? Were they loved, were they loving? Do they have their relationships with their family and you know, or in friends of super important? You know, people have great relationships with friends and family and they also keep relationships long term.
Speaker 2:
Another fun question that I always love to say is arguing to do that. Do you love what you do? Right? These are great questions to be asking on these first dates and what would you consider today being your greatest success? And some people, depending on what age you are, that can maybe be like a difficult question, but also, if you don't know yet. See, maybe this is something that I would love and I'm working hard towards that. You need to be my greatest success or my legacy in life, right?
Speaker 2:
So I think dating is so hard today because there's A to my options, there's B to many people that are judging way too quick, there are, like C, so many people that are not prepared and rich before they actually go out on a date, and so it really narrows down the window.
Speaker 2:
And so how can we be a better dater in today's day and age?
Speaker 2:
First of all, reach out to us, but that's a message he involved in a group or a community, and we are so excited we have so much coming up this year with just more community involvement for our pervers, our singles, obviously, as well as our dating each couples and things like that.
Speaker 2:
But going back to why it's being so hard today, it's because our lens is clouded with all the stuff out there. So date with priority and intention in mind, and when I say priority, I just mean don't just go on a date with a bunch of hot, attractive people because they look great, they sound good, but you haven't asked any great questions, because then all you're doing is chasing after an image, a one-dimensional profile and something that probably you can get to a second or third date because it was missing, all of the development prior to meeting. Now there is science, proven, of people meeting for the first time, never seen a picture, never seen a profile, and they take flight faster because there's something about that and energy and what chemistry that happens in person, which I'm a full believer of.
Speaker 2:
But in today's day and age, I could never do my clients to go out with somebody without a picture, without a profile, without a connection. And that's truly because I also think that it's important that you hear, obviously, who somebody is, because they're also not hiding behind a lens of what somebody's seeing. They're actually being more genuine and organic and just thoughtful with their feelings, which science will also prove that people actually can get stronger and deeper on a level when they hear each other's voices. Another tip get off texting. Everybody texts you so much, which don't be wrong.
Speaker 2:
I know that our entire business is mostly communication, texting, phone calls, all of this right. But when it comes to the importance in showing somebody that they're important, pick up the phone, schedule a phone call. I hear it all the time. I don't want to schedule a phone call. I feel like it's work.
Speaker 2:
Well, we need to schedule a phone call because if we don't respect somebody's time, how are we ever going to have an engaging conversation? So how do they excitement when you're actually in person? And we have so much research done. When we introduce our clients to matches and then, of course, below their life, it's because of that powerful conversation that they had prior, leading up to the excitement when they actually met in person, feeling like they already knew that person and were excited to meet a possible new best friend that the goal is to turn into a romantic relationship. They're asking some of these questions that are just fun, that are inter-interreding and are making different to really getting to know somebody off the boring generic questions and then adding in some of the additional questions that will just come up naturally in conversation.
Speaker 2:
you know about feeling and kids and life and what they do and where they're from and all of their stuff. But starting it off with some of these questions that I just mentioned are a great way to start the energy right, are a playful way to kind of respond and obviously ask the questions out and also just kind of share that positive energy that you have inside of you. And I think too many times today is that people go into dates with the wrong mindset. So they're hopeful in the beginning and as they continue to go on dates and then they kind of just get to a point where this is just a routine, while just you know, I'm going to stop thinking about this person in a romantic way, I'm just going to go on this and kind of get through it and it's lost and obsessed. So if you're one of those people that are exhausted and burnt out from dating, please take a pause and stop dating. Figure out who it truly is that you need in a partner relationship.
Speaker 2:
I know, we've done tons of podcasts in this. The reason why our clients are so successful today is because, truly, they took the time out to have the conversation with God and really genuinely not just in the best figure out how the world's values, beliefs, characteristic traits and details not down to like the clothing and the exact look and their eye color and all that I mean the details when you spent time thinking about and envisioning the energy, the spirit, the heart, the things that you're doing with this person, so that it will be that much more clear when you're actually choosing a conversation to meet with somebody today. The thing is, we're all going to age, we're going to look different. It's important to find somebody that's going to grow with you forever, that has the same life, the same needs, the same passions, the same ambitions, the same desires in life and to not be down when it doesn't work out or give up that's not the right thing either.
Speaker 2:
But to go down the right avenues of places where you know there's no like in our man's speaking world, obviously connecting to us, where we've got just a huge support community and you know, put yourself in the right places to prepare yourself, because when God knows you're ready, as he's been preparing the other person, which sometimes they're more than you, or vice versa and when our clients share those stories, it's incredible how, like couples that are married today, they should have had a year earlier.
Speaker 2:
They should have had six months earlier, but for whatever reason, I thought it was 50 now, with the impossible task to make the impossible for the two of them. It was worth the wait and it was because truly they've gone through the ups and downs and the journey that God has wanted them to go through. So I hope this has been helpful and beneficial, and I'm so excited when I get these questions. I hope that this is helping you to think about ways of whether it be the questions I've already suggested, suggested, or sit down and listen to some of our other podcasts and not to really figure out the roadmap to God, the roadmap to your future wife or husband, and then the roadmap for continuing all success forever.
Speaker 2:
And it begins with you getting out of your home life, spending time quality with God and really being. I don't want to worry about it because mine is like prioritizing who and when the right time is to meet somebody, and not just do it because you feel lonely, but truly do it because this is when you know that you know it's the right time to focus on being the best version for you, but also be the best version for a mate to come into your life so that the two of you can be just this power couple together in all things that are so much better than you can ever imagine. And one last thing is all of our clients say who they started their life with after we introduced them is so much better than they could have ever imagined. So when you think they're going to be a certain age or going to be sort of height or in a certain way or in luck, it's never usually what that is. So they were older than you or younger than you or whatever.
Speaker 2:
It's never what you would probably imagine, but jump into trying to be in a relationship with somebody that you wouldn't typically date, so that you have a different result and please promise me that you will go at least on three to five dates with somebody, if you're both having that curious mind because you're asking the questions that I suggested, so you need to actually get into dating somebody instead of just one first date. So I hope you found this helpful and beneficial and please keep writing, and we have so much more to come tune in every Thursday, so we have a new podcast coming out and I can't let you for some new guests that are coming in this year and just topics of things you are asking for us to talk about.
Speaker 2:
If you share this, please obviously listen to our podcast and have a lot of results so that I will send this to a friend because we want to match every incredible Christian single heart that is ready for love to the love of their life. We're going to love it and leave you and hope you have a blessed day.
Renee Richel:
It's been another great talk on this episode of 1 True Talks by Renee Richel. I look forward to our next chat. Please write in your questions and comments so I can be sure to talk about whatever it is you want to discuss in our next upcoming episode. Lots of love, God bless. Thank you.