Ever wondered what it's like to juggle parenting, celebrity gossip, and maintaining a work-life balance? Well, strap in as we peel back the curtain on our chaotic lives. From our hilarious attempts to rhyme Travis Kelsey's name to the adrenaline rush of last year's Super Bowl, we've got a whirlwind of stories to share.
One topic that's been on our minds lately? Body image. As a mom of two, we get up close and personal with plans to get a boob job and fears about implants. We delve into the pressure to meet postpartum body expectations set by society, and how a casual comment on Instagram can send you spiraling. But it's not all serious; we also share a few laugh-out-loud moments about our upcoming shift to multi-generational living.
In our final act, we wrestle with the challenges of managing client expectations while maintaining personal boundaries as independent contractors. From dealing with demanding clients to finding time for self-care, we share our hard-learned lessons. Plus, get ready for a surprise ending as we share our excitement about moving in with family, and how it's actually a blessing in disguise. We've got a lot to unpack, so pull up a chair and grab your favorite wine and join us for this rollercoaster ride!
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Ever wondered what it's like to juggle parenting, celebrity gossip, and maintaining a work-life balance? Well, strap in as we peel back the curtain on our chaotic lives. From our hilarious attempts to rhyme Travis Kelsey's name to the adrenaline rush of last year's Super Bowl, we've got a whirlwind of stories to share.
One topic that's been on our minds lately? Body image. As a mom of two, we get up close and personal with plans to get a boob job and fears about implants. We delve into the pressure to meet postpartum body expectations set by society, and how a casual comment on Instagram can send you spiraling. But it's not all serious; we also share a few laugh-out-loud moments about our upcoming shift to multi-generational living.
In our final act, we wrestle with the challenges of managing client expectations while maintaining personal boundaries as independent contractors. From dealing with demanding clients to finding time for self-care, we share our hard-learned lessons. Plus, get ready for a surprise ending as we share our excitement about moving in with family, and how it's actually a blessing in disguise. We've got a lot to unpack, so pull up a chair and grab your favorite wine and join us for this rollercoaster ride!
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Hey, welcome back to the cast, to the podcast. What episode is this number? Three, two, oh, my god, four. No way, we're counting your first one. Counting my first one. Yeah, it's four, but counting together it's three. Okay, well, three for us together. It's been a little minute, has it like two weeks? Yeah, I think so. Yeah, I don't know, I was gonna say a lot has happened, but not really a lot has happened. So, just kidding, just life, just life.
Speaker 1:Let's talk about our drink that we have. Oh, shout out to my clients. I laugh because I feel like somehow they'll find this, because they found me on TikTok. You know this girl's talking about our wine. No, but my clients went to Greece, so fancy and then at closing they gave me a bottle of this wine and they were like, yeah, you should open it up and you should drink it, and then you should let it sit for 15 minutes in another glass and you should drink that. It's going to taste completely different. I don't know if that's true. Well, we're going to try it and I definitely let mine sit out. I feel like a little bit yeah, I've drank it. So I guess I'll maybe try and let my other ones sit out, maybe I don't know if I'm going to get 15 minutes, but no, it is. It's really good. It's a really good red wine. I'm actually impressed. Yeah, it's really good, it's a really good red wine.
Speaker 1:Shout out to Roger and Ann. They're the cutest. They bought their first house. I'm so proud of them. That's so nice. I know they were the best. Let me see if I can find my.
Speaker 1:What are we talking about today? Can we just talk about Taylor Swift and Travis Kelsey for a second? Taylor, I'm obsessed and I Taylor. It's all that I can talk about. I know I love it, though Like it's so out of her element and it's like so, like not her, and that's what I love about it. I know, because somebody commented no, they didn't comment.
Speaker 1:I just was scrolling through TikTok and all the people that are all the guys on podcasts are like it's really weird, because Taylor Swift, what did they say? They're like Taylor Swift's not like a sex symbol and he exudes like he's like very manly and like not sex, but like girls think he's attractive. And the guys were like we don't, we don't. Look at Taylor Swift and feel like I don't want to have sex with her. Why, I know, but they're like no, we just think she's more, like, they're impressed by her, like her career, but they're not like, oh, I would have sex with Taylor Swift. Yeah, yeah, that's literally what they said. And I'm like I don't know, I think she's beautiful and stunning and I think, like I just love her, like she I am. Yeah, she's the best. Yes, she is, and I just really hope. I think I think she's just having a good time, but I like that it's just out of her element.
Speaker 1:I saw, I saw this TikTok and I don't remember her name, but it was so funny. She was like in the car and she like made like a parody. She was like sitting on the bleachers. I saw that, yeah, I'm dating the football player. Like this whole yeah, whole song about Someone was like this is just like. They're just doing this so that she'll have some new music. I'm like, maybe, but it will be fire, so I don't care, I know, but yeah, that's cool.
Speaker 1:You can rhyme a lot of things with Travis. Travis Lavas Like what? Wait, I'm just kidding it was. I was being sarcastic. I'm really trying to think. I don't know. Ravis, are there any words? That's actually a hard name that is to rhyme with what's his last name Kelsey, kelsey, melsey. This is trash. She picked the wrong one. At least we'll know what she's talking about, because she's gonna have like we'll know which person she's talking about, because she'll have to have to throw some sports in there.
Speaker 1:You know, watch the documentary of his brother on Hulu, maybe, maybe in Netflix, I don't know what it is on, but I love his brother. I haven't watched that, but I only know who he is because of his brother, because of Travis. So I'm like, oh my gosh, michael is not into, like football at all, but I want to do this on my brother, just to see. Have you seen that trend? Yes, it's so funny, I want me and Michael are talking about it. My brother is like the biggest football, like, yeah, oh my gosh, and I want to do it because he, my brother's so like into his own world, like he's not into social media, like in his own sports playing world, and so I want. So, if you ask, if you said that, and you'd be like be like, what is this? Do you see? That's so good for him. Taylor Swift put him on the map.
Speaker 1:Who is this? I mean, but literally I didn't know who he was. I mean, I actually the only reason I had heard of him and his brother was because of last year when they played it Super Bowl with the mom, where the shirt like she had the shirt and it had two different jerseys on it. I still don't really know them. I just knew that they were brothers that like played against each other. Yeah, but if you haven't watched the documentary of his brother, it is really good because it shows it's about that like shows them playing against each other and like his story and his wife's, so like down to earth, it's like very refreshing. Oh, yeah, I have to watch it. She's really cool. But yeah, anyways, that's how I'm like, yeah, I didn't know about them till that and then I was like, oh, I guess I'll watch this documentary about this guy. So, yeah, I don't like it. I'm like cool, this is cool.
Speaker 1:Leo, maybe Travis will have another one with Taylor Swift Not really, she's not that type of person, but her. But him and his brother have a podcast together. Yes, and that's like that's blowing up too. I'm like Taylor really is actually helping you. Let's be honest. Now they have like almost million likes on their videos of like the podcast talking about Taylor Swift and I'm like, yeah, that's the Swifties. Yes, it is Not your fans, it's me. I'm a big Swiftie. Yeah, I definitely like that video, so you're welcome for support. Yeah, anyways, I hope they don't break up, but if they do, it's okay. I think they will.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think there's a matter of time like no, but I don't want them to because she needs to settle down and she doesn't need to settle down. But like, I feel like she's dated a lot of people. Which more power to you? I don't, I love that, but I'm like dang, I would love her to like have a little family. If she would be such a good mom. I think so too. She would make really pretty kids. Yeah, but I think that my only thing is like she is such in the public eye. Like there's when you're in that big you're dating somebody that's in that big of a public eye.
Speaker 1:All of your old interviews, like all everything. People are going to go searching for that. So he's known to be like kind of a meathead, you know, yeah, do you see the interview with his ex? No, yeah, like he's his ex-girlfriend like came out of the woodworks and was like I dated him first. She was like hating on Taylor Swift. And I was like, girl, you're gonna get shadow ban, you're gonna like people are gonna hate you. Why would you do that? Why would you hate on Taylor Swift? I know, because everybody hates you now.
Speaker 1:No, they interviewed her. They interviewed her and they were like of course they didn't. She said that she was like yeah, he was a player and I changed him. And then he broke up, yeah, and then she's like they were like are you happy for? Are they like what do you? How do you feel about Taylor, taylor and him dating or whatever? And she's like, yeah, that's cute, but I had him first. So it's like, girl, you're looking desperate right now.
Speaker 1:But anyways, they did interview her. Has she heard Taylor Swift's song better than revenge? Yeah, probably not, but she did. She was like I do love her music, but she was just sort of hating on her. I'm like, nah, you're not a, you're a hater, a hater. But yeah, I don't like her. I don't even know her, I don't even know her name. I would, I don't care, I would never tell Taylor Swift is so big. Well, I mean, she probably blew up because of that. She got probably got a lot of clout, but that's on the wrong end of the clout. No, people are probably hating on her. Yeah, like, and people, some Swifties are crazy. They are. They are crazy like, true, probably center death threats and stuff. You know, they take that stuff very personable.
Speaker 1:Love you, taylor. Send us some free tickets for you, bro. I want to go to her concert. So I know Michael, my god, he's. He's such an ass, but he's so nice at the same time. Because he goes, did you see what's coming out in theaters in October?
Speaker 1:And I just I don't even want to do that though. No, and that's what I said. I was like there's, it's gonna spoil it. If, like, I ever do get to go, you know, but won't be the same, it'll be like, not the same, like I don't want to have a preview. No, I want to just be surprised. Yeah, I don't want to go, I don't know. Plus, I saw, like girls on tech doctor, like this is what you can wear if you didn't get to go to the concert, this is what you can wear to the movie theaters. And I'm like listen, no, no, I'm not, I'm not wearing these outfits to the theater. I love you, taylor Swift. I'm not doing it. No, but I could go, I would drive to a concert far, far away. Oh, yeah, I would too If I had a ticket. Yeah, I would too.
Speaker 1:Speaking of that, almost let us get scammed because I forgot about that. Oh my god, that was bad. Yeah, I'm glad we looked. I looked up on Google. Oh my god, if you didn't know so Keely, found this lady that was selling tickets for tickets for scammers.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was for tickets for how much? They're like 450 each, very cheap, but they weren't. They weren't good seats, no, they were like nosebleeds was just like normal. She was smart, she was very smart, yeah, which was kind of like normal, but it was for, like, the Miami show next year. Yeah, and next year. Like, you have, like you can only get in if you like approved to whatever Ticketmaster verified, and then they had to choose you. Blah, blah, blah, yeah. And so she said that she had them and then she was gonna transform through Ticketmaster.
Speaker 1:I don't know something just seemed really weird about it because they were so cheap and I was like, how would you still have these available? And I was Like we need these, yes, but I don't know. And she's like I don't know either. And then Hannah went to the Google yes, and so I googled, like how to know, and they asked. It literally says to ask them Is it on the red side or the folklore side? And that's not a real thing. And like if you buy a ticket, obviously you know it's not a real thing. And if they they're on Google, it says if they respond yeah, then they're fake. And she responded what she's full. She responded so fast too. That's how I knew.
Speaker 1:And like immediately when she messaged me, I was like yes, and then, obviously, like she had them posted for how many days? It was a couple days. Like there's no way if those were real, they'd be gone. She posted again after that, after, like I realized she was this game. Like two days later I saw her post again and I'm like I this, I wanted to call her out, but I'm like I don't have energy for this, like I hope you don't scam anybody, but I was ready to send her like thousand something. No, yes, and they do that all the time.
Speaker 1:When I, when we were looking for a rental house, like long, long time ago, like right after we had James and somebody there was, there was a rental house, yeah, and like posted on Facebook marketplace. It was perfect. Yeah, they wanted the right price. You know we need listings and do that. Like. And they pretended to me and someone made a profile, took my picture and made a profile with my name. And then people found my real account and they were like, messaging me like this you and I was like, no, and they're like, oh well, they have an account with your pictures on it. Yeah, and they were. They literally were saying that they were an agent, pretending to be me, making me look so bad and now so people would text me and I had to tell them You're being scammed. It was so awkward.
Speaker 1:I don't know why people like, but to go to that extent, I'm like you're obviously gonna get caught if you're like, pretending to be I have better things to do with your time. Like I don't have time to do that. Like why? And also like, what kind of person does that? Why do you want to scam people? Do you get joy out of your day To do that? It doesn't make sense to me. I don't know. No, I'm working in neighborhood right now in Gainesville. Actually that's Leasing houses. It's brand new houses and I'm working. I'm like the least agent. Um, it's oh, my god, I don't even know just grab it. It's like pretty close to the hospital, kind of close to the hospital, okay, but they're like in brand new house. They built the neighborhood to rent it out, so like brand new homes. So I'm leasing them out and People constantly are calling me like are you a scammer?
Speaker 1:You're scamming me. And I'm like no, I'm not. Like this lady Called me yesterday and she was Matt. She was like angry and I literally, I literally told her I'm like the money that you're Paying because they are really fast, like they approve you really quickly and then they send a lease and they want you to sign it Within 24 hours. And that's just because they have not quote us to me and they want you to sign and they they pushed me to get them signed too. But they're like you're approved, here's your lease, sign your lease. So they think it's a scam because it's like really, really fast. And then, like the only person they talked to is me, and this lady was like you're being really shady and I haven't even met you and I don't know. And I was like whatever money you've paid, like I don't even get it, so I don't know why you're mad at me. She was like screaming at me on the phone.
Speaker 1:I was like and we're not scamming you, like they're legit houses, girl, like you're good. So it was it's a real thing. Like I mean yeah for her. Like I mean she, yes, people. I mean it's sad that that's how we have to like be in this world. We have to always be on guard that people are somebody scamming us. It's so sad. Yeah, like I hate that. Yeah, so sad. No, so I like felt for her. I was like, no, I get it, but like I've literally given you no reason To think that I'm a scammer. Like I text you and I called, like I talked to her. She was like I thought you were an AI bot, cuz I'm like girl. No, like, no, I'm a real. See, they are blue. Yeah, so I met her this morning and at the house just over the house Okay, you're a real part. She literally the first thing she's ever, she got the car. You're a real person. And I was like, yeah, like I literally want it to be like. I'm like, yeah, you're welcome. Yeah, real thing.
Speaker 1:Mom's body image. I feel that I know everybody talks about the dad bod and everything, but then there are also his mom bod. And the dad bod is a cool thing. Yeah, it's like Pete. Yeah, michael, michael literally was on tiktok. He's like look at this, look, and a girl was like dancing and they were like when you know how they go to the sides on what they like and like a guy you know, like you run to each side. Yeah, and one of them was like a dad bod and the girl chose it and she's like a young girl or whatever. Michael's like. Look at this. I haven't seen this before. I'm like a honey, I love you and your dad bod.
Speaker 1:But you know, like it's just weird, though, I feel like it's a lot of girls that haven't had kids that are like I like a dad bod, literally. You think, yeah, I like a lot of girl. I feel like a lot of girls that are like younger, like we're not all over younger, but like girls that haven't had kids yet they're like I'm like, I guess, I mean totally, you have your marriage. Well, I guess maybe different. Well, I guess maybe they associate like a dad bod with like a dad and like they want like the love for kids and like kids, and you know who doesn't like a man with a baby, you know, so maybe they associate it with that, but I think that the we, there's so much pressure To.
Speaker 1:Everything I see is how fast somebody's body bounces back right after pregnancy or like right after having a baby, like there's no time, like there's so much pressure for us to look a certain way right after we have a mom, but then also for ourselves, like you look in the mirror after you have a baby, yeah, and it doesn't look the same, like everything is so different and it's like sad and it like sucks. And then you're like, okay, I have to work even harder to do, you know, get it back. And then, if it doesn't go back to that, you know, yeah, and so then there's more pressure of, like you know, getting your boobs down or getting yeah stuff and taking care of and everything I don't know. I think I, I just wish you would go away. Yeah, I, I, and I like my mom gets like on to me all the time. She's like, hey, no, you don't need to do that. I'm literally, I am getting a boot job. Yeah, it's something that I'm gonna do. The next after I would like to have another, another child, and then after I have another child, then I want to get my boobs done. Okay, I'm gonna do it. Yeah, so I'll probably be before you because I'm not having more kids, so I'll tell you how it goes. And, yeah, give you all the tips. No, my mom's done it a couple times, so, okay, okay, yeah, well, my um, well, I don't want to do implants.
Speaker 1:I'm afraid of implants, like they're right out, because I just heard like I follow a lot of Influencers that got them out because they were like sick, like what? Yeah, like bad, like literally, like their eyes turning yellow, like being stepped, yeah, and I think they've come a long way, I think they've gotten better. That's crazy. It freaks me out that like you could be putting something in, because you're putting something into your body that's not Not. It's, I mean, it's not a natural, like if you're adding something, it's just not. I don't know. So I think what and when I get a boob job because I'm gonna do it one day, I'm not gonna.
Speaker 1:But I have pretty big boobs, like I like I think after you have kids they might not be as like perky and like mm-hmm, they look a little deflated, but that's why I feel like they're in size, like I don't think I need implants. I think I just want a lift and like I have major side boob and I don't love it because I can't wear like Frickin huge. I can't wear tops, that like. That's why it's why it's doing that. I don't know, I Know I, um, yeah, I have major side boob and I'm like if I could just they could just pull my boobs from like the side to the front, they would be bit, they would be huge. Yeah, cuz, literally like they.
Speaker 1:People don't know I have big boobs because I don't wear like I've won push-up bra and I don't love it, I hate it. Like I'm like I don't want to wear a push-up bra. So I'm like if I had a boob job where my boobs like sat up, I wouldn't wear a bra still, but that you would know I had them because they're like up here. Yeah, yeah, I'm doing it. Yeah, tristan's like and supporting if you want to do it, but I can tell he's like you don't need to do it. I'm like, yeah, but like it's for me, it is and that's what I tell my mom and she's like why are you doing that? I'm like for me myself and I like Michael loves me the way I am. Like I don't have to impress, I have no one else to impress, but it's for me, like I and not to say I don't feel confident looking in the mirror but it's something that I want you know, and I don't think that there's anything bad with that yeah, you know, there's not, I think.
Speaker 1:I Think that people need to understand that a postpartum body goes through like a significant change during pregnancy and it's not just gonna bounce back right after and there's such a media presence that like pushes and it gives an unrealistic Expectation. You know, but like so unrealistic I don't do anything. So I have a lot. I get a lot of comments on my Instagram that are like I'm about to do a wine burp y'all, it's not gonna be big, I just like in my throat Like it, feel it coming up. Um, so no, I get comments that are like what you? Literally as soon as I post something someone's like and this isn't to be like my god, I look so good but Because I did post a video after I had the twins where we were putting their baby swing together and I got the same comment where people are like you're pregnant again, like I had.
Speaker 1:So I had a bodysuit on, I had like a Black bodysuit the ones that are like all attached, and I looked like I just had a C-section. It had been a couple weeks, but like I feel like, because I've had a vaginal birth in a C-section and like I recovered way fast, my stomach looked way better after vaginal than a C-section I so I look like I was still recovering and I didn't affect me. But it was just so funny to me because it was like all women and they're like, oh my God, you're pregnant. And oh my God you're pregnant. Like just not even asking, just like, oh my God, like it's assuming. And I was like y'all know that I just had twins like four weeks ago, like I'm not pregnant again and I'm recovering, and like that was a top, like I just think people say stuff like that and they just like don't even think. Like that. That's kind of offensive. That's like going up to someone and being like you're fat, like it is. Yeah, actually, that's what that is. So, yeah, I had that comment.
Speaker 1:And then I get the people that are like, oh, you look so good, would you do to lose the weight? And I'm like not telling me that I look like I'm still pregnant. They're like oh, how'd you lose the weight from having your babies? And you look so small. And I literally just laugh because I'm like nothing. Well, I feel like you're small, but you're a small person anyways. You know like you're built small.
Speaker 1:But like people will ask me, like what do you eat, what do you do? And I'm like girl, I went to the gym. We go get met flurries at 1 am. I'm like not shit, like literally I could. And it's so funny, though, because like there are people that not I mean influencers, non-influencers that are like this is what I did, here's the exercises I did and this is. And I'm just like I'm not even about to like lie to you. I'm like here's what I do and here's my, my workout routine and here's my nutrition, because like a girl still eats like shit.
Speaker 1:I'm trying to do better, but like I would probably look a lot better. I probably could have and I'm I feel like this sounds so cocky, but I probably could have the same body I had before I had kids. Yeah, if I ate good and I worked out. Yeah, I, the body I have now is different. I'm still skinny, but it's a different kind of skinny. Yeah, and it feels different and I do look different.
Speaker 1:So I'm like I could, but I also don't care, like it's so hard just having babies. Like to even find time, yeah, and energy to go to the gym. It's like more power to you, yeah, because if I could be at the gym I actually could be taking a nap, or I could be like you know, or I could be doing other things, yeah, and then also you're working, and then also that's where the mom goat comes in, because you know, while I'm at the gym I could be spending time with my child. You know I could be doing so it's conflicting, but then you know, you always hear, you always read, you always. You know any advice is you have to take time for yourself in order for your, you know, mental health. I have one of my really good friends. She literally works out every single day and it's like her escape and like she loves it, and I want to be that person. No, it's totally that for me too.
Speaker 1:I think that's what like, because I used to run a lot before I had Easton, and like when I met Tristan, I was running like miles every morning, yeah, and I loved it. And then I got pregnant and I think it also was like a mentality where a lot of women feel like when they get pregnant, they aren't supposed to work out or like aren't supposed to do, but you're supposed to keep doing the things that you were doing. So I easily could have run, I could have kept running miles through my whole pregnancy, but it was my first child and that no one was telling me like you're good, like keep running. I just stopped because I'm like I feel like I can't like keep running like this, like it's hot, I'm like I feel like it's not good for the baby, but it's actually really good for that. But I don't feel like a lot of people realize that. And yeah, like I don't know.
Speaker 1:No, I had, I had a coach when I was in middle school and she was pregnant and she was like an avid runner, like ran so much and she ran like a marathon, like six months pregnant. Yeah, like a marathon, and thought of that when I was six months pregnant. No, but that's what she did. So she, her doctor was like continue to do it. And then there's this girl that I've known since I was like younger and she has like a tick tock in Instagram but she like put she's like a very big workout person and so she posts like her pregnancy workout videos and like she's she's pretty far along. If I'm not mistaken, it's like seven modifications. Yeah, and she does, obviously, yeah, but she still like has a really good workout every single day.
Speaker 1:My doctor, when I was having the twins like no one told me it's like I didn't have a great doctor and I had a sim but my dog cause I saw so many doctors with the twins they were like if you're lifting weights before you get pregnant, you can lift these weights all the way through, like heavy weight, like if you're used to it but you don't want to be like, oh, I'm going to go out and like start lifting weights now and like die. But no, you can like and I don't think a lot of people realize that Like they're just like I feel like I need to take it slow, but if you continue to like run and work out or whatever you do throughout the pregnancy, birth is easier and then your after bod is going to be easier to get back Cause you're not like shoot, I haven't worked out cause I like with the twins I didn't work Like. I literally worked out like maybe twice in the beginning of my pregnancy and then, like that shit hit me so hard, like I was like extra tired, like so tired, way more tired than I was with Eastern and just like, oh, never got sick, I think, cause I had boys and it's like they were easy. But like I was tired I didn't work out and my back hurt really bad. My back never hurt with these things, but I think because there was just two of them. Then I was like I don't have room, so I didn't work out, cause I literally would be like making Tristan rub my back, cause I think if I worked out it would have put me, it probably would have made me feel better. But I thought like if I go try to work out, I'm going to like mess my back up. Yeah, that's going to be bad. So I wish I would have kept working out, because now I did a leg workout In my living room. Literally I didn't pick up one weight.
Speaker 1:I searched on YouTube. I was like I'm going to start working out and I was like home leg workout, like body weight workout. I did a 20 minute workout and literally the next day I could not walk, like my legs literally were. So Tristan was dying, laughing because I was not kidding Like I literally couldn't walk and he was like kind of massage me and I was like crying. I was like this is so painful and literally all I did was lunches and squats. I was like body weight squats and I was like, oh my God, I'm never going to be able to lose weight again, because that was it was like a week that I could literally was crying in pain. I was like, oh my God, like what am I doing? My legs hurt so bad. Yeah, so don't stop. Yeah, I was saying it like I was walking around our apartment complex and sprinting just a little bit and then bouncing on a ball for hours.
Speaker 1:I do think that made my delivery a lot faster. So I do agree with that. I don't feel like I did anything with these things and he was pretty quick and I wouldn't say I was sprinting because, being that pregnant, I was definitely like a light. It was probably some nice fast walk, but I for sure thought I was sprinting because I was so out of breath. I should have kept. I should have kept running.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, what do you feel like is how? What is your biggest like? I don't even know how to word this interview. How do you well, I, just how you have three kids, I have one. So I feel like there's a there's a big difference and you work like a full time job and you do fully support, like your whole family.
Speaker 1:So how do you find your work and life balance? Like, what would you say, is your like trick, I guess, to being able to balance it as best as you can? This is going to be a dumb answer because it's like not really probably the answer a lot of people want to hear, but I don't. I don't think that there's a balance, I don't think there's a way to balance it, because I think that you just have to fully like there's there's months where I'm 80% working and 20% with my family and then there's months where I'm 20% working and I'm 80.
Speaker 1:Like I, like I don't think it's a daily thing, I don't think it's a weekly thing, it's like my season of work and then like season of life. Like I have a busy season with work and it's starting to slow down now, which is really nice because, like the holidays are slower, yeah, and spring and summer are really, really busy. So I get a lot of like the summer is hard because the kids aren't in daycare or because they do school, the school schedule. So like that's hard because I wish I could spend more time on that, that time with them. But like it's impossible because if I don't hustle and work in the summer season then I don't have money for the off season, when the slower season, when I get to spend time with them.
Speaker 1:So I like mentally, I'm just like, okay, I'm not going to see them a lot in the summer but I'm going to make as much money as I can in my business so that in October, november, december, even until like January and February, I have a nest egg of money where I can like like a just just told Tristan yesterday I have a lot of closings in October and if you're, this is like work stuff probably knowing is F about, but like if you're in real estate, whatever you do for the past, like 30 to 60 days, is what you're going to see later. Like whatever I did in July and August, I'm just now starting to see money wise, because it takes 30, 45, sometimes 60 days to close and get money. So like I had to hustle through the summer so that October I have a lot of closings, so that I can literally, if I didn't close another property and I didn't work for the rest of the year, we would be fine, like we would have enough money where we could like do Christmas and like we're getting married, and like we could cover all that stuff and still be fine, which I'm not just going to stop working, but the pressure is like okay, I can slow down a little lighter, yeah, yeah, like I can slow down and not hustle and just take, like clients that call me or reach out to me, versus like trying to go look for business. So I don't know, I don't think it's a balance. I think it's like You're just always and as a mom, you're always gonna feel like you're working too much or you're not working, in that Like you just never stop feeling that way. But you just have to realize, like when I'm at work, I'm working and I'm focusing on work, and then when I'm at home, I try to just be at home, yeah, because I think Easton's starting. It's like because Easton's starting to realize that I'm not like when I'm on my phone you can tell that he knows. I feel like there's no, there's not, I don't. I think the balance thing is like a false like. I don't think it's a real thing, because I don't think there's a way to like perfectly balance it, and I think you just have to like be present where you are and you're always gonna feel guilty, no matter what. Yeah, yeah, I don't know. I just try to like limit as much as I can. Because I don't work in nine to five, I try to like not be on the phone, which has been a really hard thing to learn, but I've gotten better at like.
Speaker 1:When clients text me later in the evening, I straight up will like text them really late. After all, the babies are asleep, so they feel really bad. So I'm like sorry, it'll be like 10 o'clock and they text me at like 5.30 or 6. And like normal working hours, people's like nine to five. So I'm like listen, I have to get my kids from school by 5pm. So usually at like 4 or 4.30, I have them and then like I didn't see them since like 6am. So like I'm gonna take them home, I'm gonna hang out with them, I'm gonna make them dinner, I'm gonna like give them baths, get them to bed, and it's gonna be like 9.30 or 10. And so I'll text people back that late and I'll be like sorry, just not responding to your message. But, like I have kids, like they know I have kids. So I'm like, yeah, I don't blow you up, unless it's like something it's an emergency, I will text you and I will try to get ahold of you. But, like they will text me the most random things and I'm like I've had to learn to be like this is not an emergency, I'll text you later, like, and then they learn. They usually learn like at night.
Speaker 1:So I think, like when you have your own business or whatever, technically I'm just an independent conch. I don't have my own business, but I'm an agent, so I don't know I'm. I just tried to like draw the line with my clients and I've gotten better about it this year since not being on a team because I don't have working on getting an assistant that can like do that stuff for me. But like right now it's just me and I'm like I cannot. Yeah, like you have you know that I'm free. Like I don't have my kids from 7am until 5am and you couldn't call me or text me for those out like that long part. Like it's just like bro, yeah. So I think you just have to like learn. I guess I don't know if it's easier if you have like a nine to like you get off and you can like leave your work. Like I have friends that clock and they clock out and they're like, yeah, that's maybe a little easier. I don't know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's totally random, but I wonder, I wonder how Taylor Swift manages her work-life balance. Taylor give us her secrets, like serious, but honestly, she I have kids? No, I guess not, but she also is a human like I don't even know how she, I don't know. No, she, I feel like she is working all the time, like she's straight, hustling, yeah, like she has so much music all the time, like she's always like she and every nobody's ever not talking about her. You know, like I feel like and I don't know that would be a hard life to live, but then, at the same time, like I was watching like old interviews, like when she first started, this is what she wanted, yeah, and you know how you see some like like famous people or whatever that are like oh, I can't deal with the paparazzi, she loves that shit. Like she eats it up, she loves it.
Speaker 1:So I think her work-life balance is she's like you're either in it or you're not. You know, yeah, I think I would thrive if I was her, me too. But she doesn't take a glamor shot, no, but like she doesn't have a husband. Yeah, love ya, but it's like you don't, because you can feel guilty about like not spending enough time with your husband or like not giving them enough attention and having kids. It's like okay, so if I'm not giving my kids attention, I'm not giving you attention, and like giving like feel guilty when I'm giving myself. Like I have so many people, including myself, that I have to take care of. It's like I am freaking exhausted. So if I was her, yeah, she's living her best life. Yeah, like, listen, date your man, don't marry him, don't have kids. Like it's just, I mean, it's a you know, if you want to, obviously it's a good thing, but it's just like, yeah, it's I don't know, like I miss.
Speaker 1:I had a friend over yesterday at our house and she like kept me company during the day because Tristan was working, yeah, and we were just talking. And she's like, yeah, I feel like I can tell you this, but like sometimes I wish like I didn't have kids and I was like just my like old self again and I'm like girl, I love these little bitches. I'm like you're like morning, the old you, yeah, and you, you lose your old self Like you really truly do. You lose different person you are. You lose your old self and it's really hard. There's like small glimpses, like that. I see my old self like.
Speaker 1:Last weekend I went out with one of my friends. I went and stayed with her where she lives not far from here and we went out. We had, we went to dinner, like her, her um, soon to be husband as a cop, so he was working, and so we went and I saw like a small glimpse of like myself for a split second, like I was like in my own element and I was like wow, like I haven't felt this way in like a really long time. You know, like having fun and feeling, you know, but you get those and I love my kids, like I love Jameson and I love my husband, and it's not that I would want to change anything, it's just sometimes you're just like where did that person go? You know like where. I'm just not that person and sometimes and good, that person I've grown so much and become like a way better person than I used to be, but then also sometimes it's just like man.
Speaker 1:You know I do miss giving any cares in the world and you know, just living life. Yeah, it's exhausting. Yeah, being a mom is exhausting. Yeah, I don't know. You're always so worried you're going to mess something up, you're doing something wrong. Yeah, no, I just look back and I'm like you thought you were tired when you didn't know. I'm like how am I even alive right now? Like I sleep like four hours a day and I'm get up early and it's like and then I work all day. I'm like how I'm dying, but no, it's I don't know. You do you have to like more in your? You like die and then you come back to life as a mom. You're like this is not me anymore, but I don't know.
Speaker 1:I feel like there's a I guess it's I'm, I don't know being a mom like you're going to do it. You know like you're not going to not take care of your child, you're not going to not be there. So I guess I won't sleep. You know, yeah, and it's not forever, I think. If you like, think about how fast it goes to. It's like it's crazy. He's six months of my life and it's fine.
Speaker 1:Yeah, jamison's about to be five and Michael and I were talking about it and we were just watching him today and he was like playing and we were like, whoa, you know, where did our baby like? All of a sudden he's not a baby anymore and he's like a big kid and it's a weird. It's really weird and he's so funny he calls. If Michael and I were to say like a bad, and his bad words and our bad words are way different. But like if I say stupid or if I say dang it or something, he's like mommy, bad word. And I'm like, okay, I'm sorry. Yeah, he keeps his account of what's so funny, but he's old enough to do that now. It's so weird. No, we need to get better about that, because we'd be saying real, actually real, bad words. And he starts saying them and I'm like, oh my God, you're going to go into Buford and be like fuck. And he does and I'm like it's my fault, I'm so sorry. Oh, no, that would be a really funny phone call.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it's like because Tristan's dad works as like a principal assistant, I'm like that's the office he's going to go to and his grandpa's going to be like Easton. No, you know you can't say these in public. You're so lucky that that's going to be your yeah, no, that's like that's the office you're going to go to, and he's just going to laugh at you. I'm like, oh my God, that's not a good thing either. I'm like you need to just spank him. Oh my goodness, yeah, oh my God.
Speaker 1:Wait, I have notes when, when I had James and I was just so not in the space to have a child, yeah, and I didn't really know what was going on and I didn't really have like, I had people that supported me, obviously, and I was like we had a good support system, but Michael was still in school. I didn't get to stay in school. I mean, I had to work, like, but Michael, the choice that we made was Michael was getting a full ride for college and so you know he's going to do that. So I had to work and so I feel like I got so caught up in working so hard and me doing everything. I really did lose myself, and you have all the hormones on top of that.
Speaker 1:And then, after I had Jameson, I remember sitting on our floor in the apartment and I was, I was, I was not okay, like I could not stop crying and I was just looking at this child and I was like I do not feel, I can't feel attached to you, I don't understand what's happening. And I remember calling my mom and just being like I don't know what's wrong with me, but something's wrong with me and I don't understand what's going on. And she came and got me and that's when they let me sleep. I mean I hadn't slept in like how many days and like I was not. So I really truly feel that and you know everybody's different. Some people don't feel that way. Some people are like I never felt, you know, postpartum depression. I never felt. I me personally I felt I did.
Speaker 1:I do feel like I did have postpartum depression, but there was such a stigma on it and there was such a like why would you feel that way? And I didn't? I didn't seek help with that and I feel like if I did, I would have. It would have made a whole lot better and I would have got through it a lot easier and there would have been a lot less tear shed and I would have. There would have been a lot less like unknown.
Speaker 1:So I feel like if you're going through anything like that, or just to be self aware and not be afraid to ask for help and not be afraid to reach out to people, and if you have friends that are pregnant or are or just having a baby, just text them and be like, hey, thinking about you. Even it takes two seconds, but just to know, like just to, I had a few friends that did that and it made me feel less alone, you know, and so I really like the mental health aspect of like postpartum, because you're, there's so much that, so many things happening. You have a new baby that you have no idea what the heck's going on, your body's changing, you're, you feel gross, you haven't showered, you haven't slept, you, you know all your hormones are trying to align and then you also have either a husband or like there's so much going on. I feel that you just have to be self aware and just ask for help, because if not, sometimes it can, for some people it can go into a spiral and that's when you have really bad situations. You know, I think you have to think about who you hire as your your OBGYN, because literally, like I guess technically with Easton, when I had him I came here I didn't really have a doctor but with the twins, my my OB was so good and I didn't even have postpartum depression. But I went to my six week follow up and she talked about it and she offered me medication, like if you have any of these, like did a sort, you know, like I filled out a survey of like I didn't do that she. So I feel like like you think that researching and finding a doctor is just like who's gonna get my baby out of me the safest and who can just like get me through this. But like I feel like finding somebody that you know maybe you get a recommendation from people like who really Will talk about that and will address it and will Ask how you're feeling.
Speaker 1:Because I went to my six week appointment, of course she like made sure everything was good, like physically, and she's like how you're good. And then, because I had a C-section, to like look to my scar, all that. She's like you're fine, like it looks good. And then she like when I went in I had to fill out a whole thing and I don't think I had postpartum depression, but she actually and like another thing she did was she visited me in the hospital, like she didn't deliver my baby because she wasn't on call that day.
Speaker 1:Somebody else like did my C-section. That's in the network. That's really nice of people. But she came, she was doing rounds one day and I was in the hospital for like a week after my C-section because you're there Longer and so she knew I was. I just had the babies. So she just really like popped in one day when I was in my room and she was like I know the babies are in the nicoo like how'd the C-section go? How are you feeling? Like what's, what's going on?
Speaker 1:And I, like my mom was there when that happened and like I told her how I felt and I think I was like Getting depressed, but I not post, I don't feel like it was postpartum because I was getting depressed because like I couldn't See it up and like go be with my kids. Like it was more like I'm depressed because I'm stuck in this bed, like I literally can barely walk, like I this was my first C-section, I didn't realize it was going to be so hard and like I was struggling with like Not seeing them, myself trying to recover, and then like Easton not being there, tristan not being there because he had to take care of Easton. So I was like alone and except when my mom came, I had her, but like I didn't have my immediate, like I didn't have Tristan, I didn't have Easton, my people, like people I was used to, and then I didn't even get to see my new Babies. So and then when I had to go back into the hospital For mastitis, when I got hospitalized for my infection, I was there for like five more days and it was like the week after I got discharged, like my Life literally was like I left, I got home and then I was traveling back and forth to see the babies in the nikyu and then I got sick and the day we were supposed to bring I think it was Cohen first, we were supposed to bring Cohen home was the day I got admitted back to the hospital.
Speaker 1:So I was like so excited because I was gonna like go pick him up and take him home. And then I got literally on the drive to the hospital I had 103 fever and I was like, okay, well, I guess, instead of like picking up our child, I need to go to the ER because, like I'm, I have a high fever. My boob was hurt, like I knew it was mastitis and so they had an antibiotics for like six days. It was crazy. But like that period of six days in the hospital they visited me. My doctor came and saw me like three times and had the talk with me of like do you need, are you depressed? Like do you need? Because I was like just so Shut off like I was like I'm sitting here like With an infection, I'm sick, like I'm a fever. I can't, I can't see anyone. Like I hadn't seen Tristan Because he had to have yeast in. My babies were in the nikyu. I got to go like see them sometimes, but I was like freaking attached to this IV all day long and then I had like a blood transfusion. It was like this whole thing.
Speaker 1:So I was like very close to being on put like medicine for postpartum. But I went to my doctor To my six week and she was like how are you feeling? And I like told her I was kind of just like Going through the motions, like this really sucks, like yeah, so, and I like aren't like on the same page, we're like fighting a lot because we're so tired, like we're miserable, like, and she's like okay, well, I want you to like come back in two weeks, work on it if you don't think you really need it now. Because I not that I didn't want to be on medicine, but I was just like I want to. I don't want to Just jump on it. Like I like I'm not having like suicide. I think if you're having like suicidal thoughts or like thoughts of hurting your children, like you should probably have medicine because it would probably help. But I wasn't having. I was like I'm not having those thoughts, I'm just having like I'm just miserable, like this just sucks right now. And she's like, okay, well, come back in two weeks and then like we'll do the same like evaluation and if it's the same, I'll put you on something like right away.
Speaker 1:And so I went like two weeks and like the twins started like sleeping a little bit more and it got better and like, but she was so good at like. I came back and I told her like it still isn't perfect, obviously, but like I don't think. I think I'm okay, like I'm gonna be, I'm gonna be good, but like she's like three follow-ups like after that, well, but it was like that's really nice, yeah, but I think some doctors are just like they're not gonna do that, like they're not gonna be, like, oh, come back. I'm like, okay, it's been six weeks. You really look good, like bye, like there, are you good? Yeah, and then it's like that.
Speaker 1:So I think all of that long-out story to say like I think you just have to Do the For real, like research, who your provider is, because the way that they handle it is gonna also translate into, like the way that you handle it. Because if you're going to your doctor and they're like no, you're fine, or you don't really sound like you need this, like they don't care enough to look into it, then what if you really do need it? And they like don't? I feel like some doctors Realize it's a thing and then others Don't Believe it's really that big of a thing. And I realized that she knew it was a real thing. They, my doctor, she didn't, I don't know, she didn't really ask about it. I mean she asked if I was okay, um, and I was like I mean yeah, I mean I'm fine. I was really embarrassed about it. But they said all that they gave me was a pamphlet, um, and they offered a class. So no, I'm not coming to your class number one I came to.
Speaker 1:I lived in canton at the time, which was like an hour and 30 minutes from here, but I had Jameson here. My obdyn was here in gainsville, so, um, I drew up no, I'm not coming to your class, an hour and a half away, I have to work. I have a big, a new baby, like you know about Exactly, and so after, like she didn't really say anything else about it, I think literally the only thing that truly, truly got me through it was Jesus Christ and I mean my support system around me, like my mom and my stepdad and my friends, like I. Those truly were really it. And you know, michael, of course he had a lot to do it. He was like, yeah, he had a lot to do that, but he also, like, being honest, it was also difficult because and I had to work through that too because there was also kind of like a little bit of like A resentment there because, like you get to say in school and I don't and we did this together, bro, you know like it's not just on me and you, that was a part of it too Like I have to change my whole life yeah, and you know you do too, but you also still get to do what you know, but only but like men also, never. It's not the same impact, it's a completely different experience for them. I agree, no matter what, and even if they're the best dad ever and they do all the things, like they still didn't go through nine months of this shit. They don't push it out of there. Yeah, yeah, no, you know, I'm completely yeah. And they don't have to like try to figure out breastfeeding. I think like breastfeeding is a whole another topic, because they're hormones. Don't go freaking everywhere. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's just not. They can like be very helpful, but they'll never experience.
Speaker 1:I think the best thing that Michael did for me during that time was go, are you okay? What do you need? And I'm like I need to go be with my mom, I really need to go stay there, and he was like, okay, you know, like he and I mean it was his baby too. He just had a child too, but for me, that's what I needed. I needed to be around, I needed help, and I and Michael didn't know what the heck he was doing, neither did I, so I I actually could sleep when I was with my mom and stepdad and but they're their love and their you know, grace, and you know all of that towards me, I think, helped so much because they, they truly were, and that's the only the support system behind it Is what truly got me through it. Yeah, because I didn't.
Speaker 1:You know, look like I said, there's such a huge stigma on it. Yeah, with postpartum depression and the older I get, there's not as much because I've met so many people that are like holy cow, you know you're not prepared for this, but yeah, you got a burping in. No, I was gonna say, but like we, I haven't told a lot of people. I haven't like gotten social media, what I will, because I share a lot of my life on tech talk, but like we're moving in with Tristan's parents and I, there's this like Part of me that's like I don't know if I want to share, because I feel like people are gonna think, like we're, we're doing it because we're struggling, but we're not. The interest rates are ridiculous to buy it it's.
Speaker 1:It's not even that like we're, we have our own house that we continue to rent and be in, but like it's solely for me, like for the number of hands that we're gonna, I wish that we Could have lived with them when we had Easton and when the twins were a newborn and I would have stayed with them until we're out of all the baby's newborn phases and then I would have moved out and got my own house Because I think having that like we with Easton they took them every single weekend what the twins has been harder because they don't want to take three kids every weekend. So like we've, we have felt it more with the twins because we don't have as much help, because we have so many kids, I'm like so excited to move in with them because, like we're still like we're paying them money to live with, like we're not living there for free. So like we're not, it's not even about for us, it's not even about the money. It's about, like the help there's gonna be like other people with doing dinner and like doing breakfast and like changing diapers and helping with that time and laying babies down, because they're gonna want, naturally they're gonna be there and naturally they're gonna want to help.
Speaker 1:And it's not like we're gonna have three extra people like to help with Easton when we have the babies and and so like I'm I'm so excited about it and I like I tell some people and they're like oh my god, are you like nervous? Like is that gonna be horrible? And I'm like no, because literally like, if I have to run out somewhere, like I don't have to think, like, like they, they'll be there. If I need to run to the store, I need to run, like little things like that that you don't think about unless you have kids. It's like now I don't have to load up three kids to go get some shit. I don't have to like yeah, I can run out and I could go for a run in the evening because they'll be with the kids and they're not gonna mind me running for 30 minutes like they're.
Speaker 1:It's like the little, little things that I think are gonna make Life so much better. I'm like I'm I'm so excited about yeah, there's many people that are like oh my god, you're gonna live with your in-laws. But like they, they are awesome and they're super helpful. But it's not even like people like, oh, it's because it's so hard, it's literally not even about the money, it's just like I'm so excited for eastern to experience that because he freaking loves them, loves them like he's gonna think it's a freaking slumber party all the time. Yeah, and he he's just gonna have so much more attention when we have to attend to babies that need us more than he does.
Speaker 1:And I'm like now he doesn't have to feel like oh, and by myself, like all the time, like, oh, I have uncle Dylan and I have my, I have grandma and grandpa, and like I don't have to have yeah, so like I'm, I'm, but yeah, I tell people on the first and every time they're like Are you okay, are you gonna, is that gonna be good? And I'm like I don't, like we're probably gonna fight, like living with people is hard, but like, but just knowing hey, guys, you're here, I need to go do this. And they're the type of people that are like, yeah, fine, go. And like it's just gonna take so much pressure off. I'm like I don't care, like I'm ready, but I just haven't shared on social media because we haven't moved yet. But like I'm just ready for the comments to be like, oh my God.
Speaker 1:Like, but for us, like I'm, like I don't feel like I'm moving backwards by moving in with that, like, I feel like it's gonna be such a relief that, like when the twins are Easton's age and Easton's Jamison's age older, like it's gonna be so much easier. So much easier I will say this too because we lived with Michael's dad for a little while, because he is not married, and so we lived with him before we bought our house. And the relationship, though, like living with him, like we're still like we're still super close to him and we're so grateful, and you know, obviously everybody has their spats and stuff, but we still it really was not bad at all. It was not bad, but the relationship between Jamison and Mike, his grandpa, is, I feel like they grew so much because of that, because he woke up and there he was. He came home and there he was.
Speaker 1:We did dinner together, we did everything together, and so I think it's like our culture in America that like we should all be on our own and we should all and like when I see other people in other countries and it's becoming a thing here now too, because it's so, I think it's been said by a house like I have clients that are like my parents are gonna live with me and like we're excited about it and they're gonna be there for dinner, like that's normal in other countries, where you do things with your family, that's like not your immediate family. But your family Like that's like because of my dad. Like my dad plans on retiring and moving. Well, he's already retired once, retiring a second time and he wants to move here. Like he's already decided he's gonna come here because he wants to be close to the grandkids and he loves Georgia. They were telling us that at the they moved into. Yeah, like that's what they wanna do and I wish, like if they were doing it sooner than later, I would live with them too.
Speaker 1:Like it's like I think, and I think as you get older too, it's like your parents are only getting older and it's like I would rather have as many dinners and like fun nights. Like, obviously, if you get along with people, those people but like we get along with them and we love to like hang out with them. So it's like I would rather have Eastern around them as much as he can be, because I feel like the older we get, they get we're gonna regret not being together as much as we can be. But I just think like our culture is like oh my God, you're living with so and so. This is so bad and I'm like no, it's actually very normal thing. Another person's in school and there's a lot of people that don't have family like that. That would kill like to do that. So I'm super, I'm so excited. But I'm just wait. I'm like okay, because I like to make like vlogs and stuff and I'm like I'm gonna make a video of us moving out and like moving in with them.
Speaker 1:People are gonna be like, did you lose your job? Like are you good? And Michael and I we've already talked about we're so excited to have the kids that weekend. We're so excited, yeah, like I just. And then y'all are gonna and I feel like too, like, cause we have good communication with them, I'm like y'all know if we're like so we're paying them basically like rent to live there, because and I think it's another thing too is like a respect thing of like we're using your house, like we're living with you, taking up space and we're gonna be using your electricity, and you're like we're gonna pay like I don't know expecting to get a free ride off anyone. It's more like it's gonna be just so nice to like have help and be around and be around. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:So we tell them all the time I was like, yeah, I'm gonna, and they're just so. They're just also like very nice. Like they're like yeah, here's this room you can have for your office. Like they're very supportive, oh, that's so nice, yeah, so I'm like excited to like it's gonna feel like obviously we're living with them, but they're giving us like a whole floor for ourselves and then like an office for me and like basement to hang out in and a yard for the kids, and I'm like I'm too me chilling. You're moving away. Guess what. We're never moving out. No, but literally they're like how long are you all staying? Cause you can stay forever. And I'm like I'm like, no, I love y'all, but I'm eventually gonna want my own house. But it's like it just takes a lot of pressure off. Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1:And but we tell them all the time. We're like, yeah, but we're gonna want, like our friends to come over and I like yesterday Michael's, like I can't wait to see Tristan's dad again. I'm like, literally you can come over whenever, because they're so good about like this is your house too. So like, if you want people to come over, like we have the basement, we have like all these different like, so it will be fun to be able to do that. And then like them, like me, the people we hang out with and like, have that relationship too, it'll be fun. And his parents are just like super, super chill and they're fun. So I guess if they weren't cool, we'd be like, but I'm excited, but yeah, I was just, that was random. So two, yeah, two weeks, yeah, they close next, they close this Friday and y'all are moving in the next, yeah, and then we have our house. Well, technically, we have to be out of our house by the 13th, but we're gonna move in.
Speaker 1:I think we're gonna try to get a lot of our stuff out before that. I don't even know what our plan is, I don't know, but we have enough help where I think we'll be good, cause, like Tristan's parents are gonna help us, his brother is gonna help us and, honestly, we don't have a lot Like we, I've gotten rid of so much shit. Good for you, cause I'm so I need to do that so bad, I'm so tired of it. I'm like the only things we really use are the things in our rooms, which is like our beds, our clothes, toys and then, other than that, it's like they're gonna have their kitchen set up. So we're just planning on like packing all of our like essentials that they already have and we're just gonna store them until we move out. Yeah, cause I'm like we don't need like four sets of forks and things, and like we don't need glasses, so we're just gonna pack all that up.
Speaker 1:And then, essentially, I'm like all we really need is we're gonna get rid of our couch Because we don't need it. We could store it at their house, but I'm like, well, it's probably just we never know where we're gonna end up, so the couch might not even work somewhere else. I'm like we're just gonna get rid of it, cause I'm like this is gonna be so nice to just cause. It's like, if you really think about it, the only things that you need and I've been thinking about this so much I'm throwing out. I've gotten rid of so many clothes not yet, but I've like taken them out of my closet and like the big effing pile of clothes, and I'm like I have literally no you need to have a yard cell. No, I know, but like in our neighborhood, I feel like it would be so sketch, like we just got some sketchy neighbors the other day. I feel like, though, your neighborhood actually would be a good place to have a neighborhood. Yeah, we could. We could do one together.
Speaker 1:I need to get rid of crap too. We could. Yeah, we need to, cause I need. I just want to get rid of everything. I'm like because I know that in a couple of years like if we stay with them for even just a year and we, like they're, I'm gonna have a different stuff, I'm gonna want different stuff. I'm like so, let me just get rid of all this and not keep it in their garage and then, just like I'm gonna be, I'm gonna save money and when we buy we'll be good, like you know. So I don't know, we'll figure it out.
Speaker 1:But yeah, I'm getting rid of that fucking couch. It is a nice couch, but I love it. It's so cozy, it's a good cat, like. Literally. It was like, cause we bought it and we thought the Ottoman thing was like like with it, and they're like oh no, that's an extra like thousand bucks. I'm like Jesus.
Speaker 1:At that point I was like you want that, like you don't not want that. It's effing expensive. But no, we're gonna we're definitely gonna get rid of it, cause I'm like I don't want to move that bitch. So you're gonna have to figure out how to get it. We actually Tristan and Michael are gonna help, tristan's gonna help. Well, I'm like we'll probably run to you all to move, so maybe we could just bring it here. I don't know, we'll figure it out. But yeah, we are getting rid of it Cause I just like the point of storing it and then getting another house and it might not even work. It's like why would we keep it for years? And then like, no, yeah, I agree. Yeah, so anyways, I feel a good match too. Yeah, really well, yeah.