Double AA club Podcast
Double AA club Podcast
EP: 89 Mastering Mindful Breathing: Transforming Lives and Embracing Generational Values
What if mastering the art of mindful breathing could transform your life in ways you never imagined? Join us on the Double A Club as we explore the profound benefits of deep breathing techniques taught at a Shaolin Temple in Europe. I recount my struggle with shallow breathing and how dedicated practice led to remarkable improvements in my physical and mental well-being. From boosting energy levels to enhancing productivity and goal-setting, these breathing exercises have been a game-changer. Discover how looking inward and finding a method that resonates with you can help overcome procrastination and better structure your life to achieve your dreams.
In this episode, we also reflect on the ever-evolving landscape of parental discipline and values across generations. Through engaging personal anecdotes, we highlight the contrasts between physical and verbal discipline, and how each has played a role in teaching valuable life lessons. We discuss the challenges modern technology poses to today’s parenting and explore different nurturing methods used by our parents. Additionally, we share exciting plans for launching a personal training and mindfulness website, along with a podcast focused on mental health, nutrition, and success stories. Together, we emphasize the importance of continuous self-improvement, expressing gratitude, and sharing personal stories to foster a supportive community.
You are listening to the Double A Club and this is your host, ny Boom, and my co-host, big Daz. We'll be talking about trending topics in healthcare and basically, just as a disclaimer just to let the listeners know that this is just basically on our opinions and speculations and I hope you guys enjoy the show. Let's start off and kick off with our first topic how do we meditate?
Speaker 2:now? People like meditating, some people don't. Some people do it over 10. I think the right meditation could be anything. It could be just a moment of silence. As I said, just 10 minutes of silence, just looking inwards. That's all you need. Some people do it by praying. Some people do it by obviously listening to some sound or listening to music, some type of medication, music that I already use. Sometimes it's just yoga that they're doing.
Speaker 2:Right, in my case, the way I did it was that I realized that for me I don't know if it worked for anyone else, but I started practicing breathing. Now, the reason why I chose to practice breathing is because, well, I realized that the way I was breathing, as I started to notice more and be aware of myself, is that I was breathing shallow. I was not breathing inwards enough for me to feel like I was breathing. Now, no one notices this, and you know how I noticed that I would breathe shallow. It's because I started working on my clients, and you know I also do what's called flexibility training, or flexibility therapy, if you want to call it that. So it's stress therapy, as some other words call it, and when I was doing that, I noticed that some of my clients couldn't tell they were holding tight. They hold their breath when you stretch it Right. And they were holding their breath on top of that. And then, when I would ask them to breathe right, I would say, hey, just take a deep breath. And when they would take a deep breath, it would be short and they wouldn't find a rhythm of their breathing right. It was just right, short and painful, exactly. And so I was like, hey, man, am I breathing like that too? So I started to test myself as well and see if I can breathe and deepen up and exhale. And as I was doing like I said, I started taking my classes from the Shaolin Temple in Europe. There's a method of breathing. So I was like, great, this is all for me. I'm going to see if I can do this. Let me tell you one thing my first class I thought I was going to die the breathing class. Yeah, the breathing class. The breathing class. Yeah, the breathing class, just the breathing class. Yeah, it was a 15-minute breathing class. And boy did I suffer that time. Yeah, it's not that simple. Not at the beginning anyway. But now you know, I spend over 30 minutes breathing and I could feel my lungs so much, but what that does is that it actually not only are you breathing in life, but it gives you life. It actually gives me life.
Speaker 2:Now, I know this is going to sound cliche, but you get the best natural dopamine. I'm talking about, like, if you want to feel high, wow, like, what a natural high, but like it's the same thing. If you ask me, it's not obviously the same thing as smoking pot, right? Yeah, it isn't, because pot is totally different, it's psychedelic. We're talking about the. Yeah, it isn't because pot is totally different, it's psychedelic. We're talking about psychedelic.
Speaker 2:This is a different high, but this high carries on, not just in the head, but it carries on in your organs. It starts to literally and I could say this from my own, from my perspective, because it's happening to me is that my experience from it is that I feel like every cell in my body is becoming healed. If you know what I'm by that. I don't know if you can see it, but it just becomes. It just becomes a healing process and every week it just becomes better and better and I start becoming more aware of what life is in front of me.
Speaker 2:Not only that, but my goal of doing things. I literally because I was one big procrastinator man. If you want to get procrastinated king, that was me. That was me, and I'm getting so much done in a matter of a short time, right that I've done this. I think I've been on this for like three months, no, four months. It's been four months since I started my journey, right With the Shaolin Temple thing, that I could see even further in front of me what my goal would be and how I'm structuring my life so that I could get what I want. In other words, it's a law of attraction, if that's what you want to call it, but that's exactly what I'm doing, and all it took for me was just to breathe, bro. This is just part of it. This is just breathing. I could only imagine the other stuff, like I have been learning how to move, you know, doing the classes, and it comes with Tai Chi, and again, this is just me. This is what my interpretation of changing your life is Right.
Speaker 2:Everybody has a different way of approach to changing their life, but the end goal the end goal is this is that find something that motivates you, that also helps you look inwards, right, because if you don't look inwards. Nothing will happen if you expect it to just come. Nothing, zero. We're constantly going to keep looking at everything outside, external thinking when is it my chance? When is it my chance? And you know what? Days go by, weeks go by, months go by, weeks go by, months go by, years go by, and everybody else is doing something, but you keep thinking the same. You keep saying, oh, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do this until finally you're like shit, I'm too old to do it. And lastly, this last thing that I tell myself that I think too old to do it, and lastly, this last thing that I tell myself that I think really contributes to the whole thing that I'm doing today.
Speaker 2:And I told myself this and it's probably a little bit too extreme for some people, but it works for me I am going to die tomorrow. I am going to die. I don't have enough time. And if I don't have enough time, I have to do everything in my power to live my life every single day like it's my last day. That, in all, is what I think we should always look at. We know how they say you gotta live the life of the superpowers. Yes, oh yeah, exactly so. We're going to die. We don't know what we're gonna do, but in my age because I'm 48 now I don't have that much time, though what. I only have 30 more years, if anything, or maybe 40, 40 years, maybe 35 or 40 years, if Scott Willing, I get it. Yep, good luck to you, but that's it. That's it.
Speaker 2:So my motivation is like I got to keep telling myself I don't have enough time, I don't have enough time, and the more I keep telling myself I don't have enough time, I don't have enough time, and the more I keep telling myself I don't have enough time, no matter how old you are, that motivation just starts to grow, like literally, it just started growing more and more and more and more, and, before you know it now, every day, I do welcome suffering. I do welcome the humbling journey that I continuously go through, because it's humbling and it's a lonely journey. That's another thing that everybody should have said. This is not a oh, everybody's doing it with me. No, this is a lonely journey and you're going to feel alone. You're going to sometimes feel like you don't want to do this anymore. You're going to sometimes feel like man. I just want to put this down. I don't want to do this shit anymore.
Speaker 2:I think that's what makes it most difficult to get through Right, but that is exactly why most people make it on top. Most people make it on top. The reason why people are where they are today, that are super successful, is because all of what they did when they were doing it alone, it just all of a sudden manifests. So the hard work that we go through whether it's internal, physical, whatever you want to call it, spiritual it all pays off. It all pays off when you go through it. If you see a dark tunnel, go through it. If you see that that mountain keeps getting bigger and bigger, keep climbing. Don't ever let anyone tell you that it's different, because I am going through it right now. I'm still going through it, no matter how hard it gets for me, because every day I suffer, every single day I suffer, because every day I suffer, every single day I suffer.
Speaker 3:But if you quit, you know where you're gonna end up in, but if you don't quit, yeah right, you don't do it yeah, yeah, and don't care about the outcome.
Speaker 2:Forget the outcome or the unknown. Don't fear the unknown. Why would you fear the unknown? That is exactly why you should keep going. If you don't know, keep going until you find out. And if it wasn't for you, max, but at least you tried, you gave it all you had.
Speaker 2:I don't know what's going to happen tomorrow, but I keep trying and stay in my perspective. What is my goal? What is my goal? And if my goal is to give the love and compassion I have to others and service in many other ways, in the way I do it, the way you do it, then so be it.
Speaker 2:I now know what my purpose is in life, and it isn't about me finding a purpose to be happy. My purpose is to be a living being, to continue to inspire others to do the same thing so that we all could be better living beings here. If we don't keep doing that, we're going to tear ourselves apart. I'm not doing this. We will tear ourselves apart, and hopefully I get to see some of that before I go, because I can feel that I'm not the only one working on myself. There's a lot of people suffering out there and if they can continue to do the same path not the same path I took but in their own way to be of service to life rather than taking. The world will be a better place.
Speaker 3:I agree. External is so short. Exactly, yeah, a lot of Americans are suffering from it. We can clearly see it with a lot of these incidents that happen, with people being shot in schools and in events in public places. So yeah, yeah, people are just crazy everywhere. I mean in public places.
Speaker 2:So yeah, yeah, people are just crazy everywhere. I mean, you name it, we could just go online and it's just nothing but a barrage of nothing but negative stuff. I mean don't get me wrong Like some people just get caught up in that stuff, and I get it. We all go through that rabbit hole. I have not done it myself. And there was a point where I was like, well, we all go through that rabbit hole, I have done it myself.
Speaker 2:And there was a point where I was like, well, if I want to change, I have to live a different perspective, I have to look at life in a different way. And if I'm not doing good for me, if I'm not wishing me a better life, of course I'm not going to wish anybody else a better life, right? Because then I'll just be pointing the finger at the world. I keep saying that they're the ones that do it, they, they, they. And I'm like who's they? I don't know who's they.
Speaker 2:So the only thing I can say is like the only reason why I suffer, excuse me, is it's me. I'm the one suffering because I'm the one taking on the burden on somebody else's suffering. I'm the one taking on the burden on somebody else's suffering. So in a way, yeah, I guess I'm a little selfish, but not in a bad way. You have to be selfish if you want to love yourself, if you want to be content, if you want to be happy, if you want to pursue your life in a better you know, in a better way, or you have a goal in mind that you want to sort of commit to, and then you want to make it happen for yourself, then do it. But you can't keep pointing the finger at others in order for you to feel like it's not you. That's the way I saw it for myself. I had to stop saying it was others or it was they. I had to start saying which is hard start telling myself it's me. That's what's happening.
Speaker 3:It is me. And then I just I don't know, it starts to happen, man, it starts to happen. Yeah, I think the biggest problem is that a lot of people don't know how to continue to fight out of it. You know what I'm saying. Like when I was in my home, I didn't know at first and eventually, you know, I was like I'm tired of shit. Man, just fuck up. You know what I'm saying. And I eventually got out of the hole.
Speaker 2:Exactly that's exactly, you know. So I was tired. I agree with you on the tired, and we have to grow up and some of us will have to look at ourselves as sentient beings and we have to realize that the cause of the root of all evil, as they say right, it's coming from us. It's not coming from others. Yes, it's coming from them if we look at it externally, but they're also suffering, so that's just part of the suffering. And so if we are also doing the same by pointing the finger, then when is it going to get better? Yes, so when will it get better? It will never get better if we continue to keep pointing the fingers at the other end of the aisle. It's just, it's inevitable, it's just going to continue to be a divided world where we constantly keep saying that to ourselves, and it will never be an end to it.
Speaker 2:And I think there's people who thrive. I'm back. You know you said it yourself earlier and I would say you have a point about what you mentioned earlier, and I think you spoke about this off topic that you know there are people that have a lot, a lot, a lot of wealth and they use it for their own. You know greed. They use it and their greed and the way they kind of maintain that greediness of themselves. But again, that doesn't mean that we all can't change that by also raising our children a certain way about teaching them values that well, I imagine I grew up with no values whatsoever because my parents didn't really think and sat down by themselves and spoke about values. I had to literally look at myself and think of my own values and where I want to be and how I want to teach my kid how to be in life. Yeah, because not a lot of these kids are growing up with just iPads and machines. Ai is another thing that you have to think about.
Speaker 3:Oh, I mean when I was growing up, I mean initially, my mom did not teach me and Aldo values. Initially, initially, my mom did not teach me and Aldo values, but when values came up, she made sure that she smacked the shit. Yeah, and pa-pa-pa-pa value 5, 6, 7, 8.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Learn those. That's different. Different generation, right? Different generation. Yeah, now we'll get. I mean, man Al, I think, if we look back at our upbringing, right, you and I both I agree with you that our values were taught physically, Not verbally, Not verbally, right?
Speaker 3:No, because we knew because our parents knew that if they spoke to us it'd go in one ear and out the other. So my mom specifically, if she told you something, let's say, for example, you know she's walking with me and she's on my left-hand side, right, and she told me something from my left side, she smacked the shit out of me on the right side so it wouldn't come out. You got that right, you got that, I'm like yeah, I got it, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Thank you, I didn't need that. I didn't need that for the thought, but thank you, thank you. Yeah, thank you, I didn't need that.
Speaker 2:I didn't need that. Thank you yeah.
Speaker 3:Exactly that, that. That was sure that it stays in there.
Speaker 2:You know I didn't. I can't say I got, I got.
Speaker 3:I can't say I got beat all the time. No, no, Me and Alvin got beat Well.
Speaker 2:I? Yeah, I mean, you know, are you okay with me? I mean you could take this off. I could hear you upstairs, remember, you look above me, right, when I move to the third floor. I used to live in the fifth floor in the building and then that's when I finally moved to the third floor. When I moved to the third floor, yeah, I could hear you both get your whippings.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you could hear the ass whippings my mom's ass whippings ringed around the whole building. I heard people from the other side of the building, from the first floor, and, mind you, I live in the fourth floor, the building from the first floor, and, mind you, I live in the fourth floor, the fourth floor and I lived in D. So the person in G heard me in the first floor and when they came to me they were like are you okay? I heard your ass whooping.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, I don't know if you heard me when I was at my little B.
Speaker 3:I think I only heard you once or twice. You know your parents. If your father didn't really hit you like that much, my no, my parents.
Speaker 2:Can we you know what they were? They were very incognito. That's the reason why you never heard, right?
Speaker 3:I think there was, is more than anybody what happened? I think Deborah.
Speaker 2:I think Deborah is more than your parents Probably. I don't even remember, but I know that there were times when my dad kind of roughed me up and shit, oh, my mom roughed me up as well. My mom not so much, my dad did. He was more of a Superman guyman guy. So yeah, definitely, I would say. But I guess it's just like I said, it was more of them. It was a very quiet way of them doing it, so that obviously you know what he knew that they were. Actually you were getting a working help.
Speaker 3:You know what was so funny? Your mom is like the sweetest little fucking midget in the world. Right, I could see her. I could see her trying to discipline me. She'd walk in there with her glasses and she'd look at you like this yeah, like a fucking kid.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, okay, oh man, yeah, no.
Speaker 3:My dad would be the one throwing things. Yeah, yeah, yeah, your mom. My dad would be the one throwing things.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah your mom would be the one throwing stuff at us, like she'll grab a sneaker and just throw it at me.
Speaker 3:Yeah, your mom would just think about what you did wrong.
Speaker 2:Let's discuss it. Yeah, no, that guy's kind of.
Speaker 3:I guess your mom would just do the same thing to you.
Speaker 2:She still is man, she still is a nice individual. No, she's always been pleasant. She's always been a pleasant lady. I'm not just saying that she had her moments, she had her moments, but yeah, she's always been a great nurturing mother and your father.
Speaker 3:I think you know what my dad? I don't want people no, not at all your father was a great guy. He was awesome. He was an amazing guy. He was a man. He was a man's man. That's what he was. That's point blank right.
Speaker 1:That's the only way he was, I guess that's point blank, right, that's the only way he was being a father right?
Speaker 3:Yeah, he was. No, he was being the fucking man. He was the fucking man in that fucking apartment. Yeah, well, he worked his ass off. Nobody gave a shit to him, not even fucking nobody.
Speaker 2:If you walked in on him, I can't say shit. You don't remember that dude.
Speaker 3:Oh, my God.
Speaker 2:I can't believe you still remember that yes.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, are you saying something wrong? Get the fuck out of the house now.
Speaker 2:Yeah, my dad was definitely the guy that if you came over, anybody that came over, and always there was always somebody at the house. There was never an empty time at the house. I think everybody ate there, I think everybody went there, but it was always that if your dad, if my dad was home, yeah, it was one of those things where, like you had to make sure that everybody would get it. You'd be like sitting straight, straight. Alright, you don't do shit.
Speaker 3:And if you didn't Exactly, if you didn't act like an asshole, he was a great guy, he was cool shit, he don't care. As long as you drink in here and I walk you upstairs, I don't give a fuck. You're going home, I'm locking you up.
Speaker 2:He's still like that Not Not as bad as it used to be, though that's for sure he's. He's calmed down a little bit more. He's not as crazy and strict anymore, but yeah, he's very, yeah, I guess. So Right. And what's funny is that I see sometimes, when I do go visit, I see that there was a lot of people that know him in the neighborhood, a lot of people that I got a lot of people I'm like Damn, are you there? And he's definitely a guy that has lived his life to with a lot, of, lot of torment and he's come a long way. I thank God that at least I got to speak to him. How important. Not too long ago I actually met man and I had to just tell him how thankful I was for a lot of things that he has done. That has also gotten me here, ryan, today, where you know otherwise I wouldn't be here in the way.
Speaker 3:And yes, yes, yep, they keep and keep the deal. To be honest, you keep reminding him because the be honest you, I mean, he was one of the very few people who grew up with both parents. I'm other than, yeah, john, thomas and Jean, like Eddie, exactly. I didn't have time if he didn't.
Speaker 2:Yeah, right, no, I saw one nice, oh, my father. He only got rich by his father. Yeah, okay, mom was moved out. So yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 3:Steve didn't have one. Yeah, who can't leave. All none of us really had. Like you was was really Wow, like really you need to tell him. Send him blessings, man, because I mean, yes, especially in this new generation, a lot of people don't have two parents.
Speaker 2:Well, you know what you might get a chance Sorry to cut you off you might get a chance. You might get a chance to tell him yourself as well.
Speaker 3:What he's walking in the house now.
Speaker 2:No, no, not right now. No, no, no. I mean, you might end up seeing him out in Orlando.
Speaker 3:Oh, get out of here, greg, yeah, yeah, yeah, that'd be nice Between you and.
Speaker 2:I, I think I could. Yeah, if anything, if God willing, you and I could meet. If that so happens, I would love to man. I think One thing that I appreciate is sometimes our lives and our paths and life. It can sometimes change the way we spend time with good friends, and I am thankful and grateful that I have gotten in touch with you, which is one of just a few people that I continue to keep in touch with as far as long-time friends right that we grew up together and I hope this continues, really because I appreciate you as a person, alberto.
Speaker 3:I think I'm always here for you, brother, and I'm here.
Speaker 2:Yeah, man, I think we've gone through some of these processes in life and I think it's a privilege to be able to not just speak to you and be able to be part of your podcast, but also I'm greatly appreciated the fact that you allowed me to speak my mind as best to my knowledge at least and be able to express myself in a way. I've expressed myself and then, hopefully, this comes out to be not just once but many other times where I can continuously stress my gratitude towards you or the front man.
Speaker 3:Thank you so much well, you know, I want to say I said the same thank you to you and I appreciate that you came into the podcast and actually opened up and, you know, showed your vulnerable side, because I know that, again, that also can be quite challenging for us to do, and that's one of the reasons for this format. You know what I'm saying. There's one reason why I'm doing this to bring out our vulnerabilities, to share our stories, to help other people who probably going through the same thing or something similar. You know, that's one thing.
Speaker 3:When I was in my deep hole, I did not have, I did not have guidance, I did not have information, I did not have anybody who went through it who could have told me anything. I had to go through it the hard way, like like I'm talking like hard way, like Rocky versus Apollo Creed getting knocked down, and he's like oh, it's not obvious, that's what you get out of that. That's what you get out of that, that type of shit. You know what I'm saying. So it's like I want this to get out there, because we can't stop anybody from going through these processes or these paths that they're going through, because they're going to go through these paths, but at least we can guide you to where it's not self-destructive.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly, I wouldn't agree, any more than what you just said. I ditto that to where we should continuously grow our perspectives and you're not alone, as whoever is listening to is not alone. Continuously, just bring back yourself wherever you are and look inside and continue to just be battling one day after the other, because it just becomes easier and easier, as long as you create habits that are good for you, that maintain your goal in mind, of course and goal could be. So, yeah, I agree, alberto. I think it would be great that people should continuously not just listen to your podcast, but listen to any other podcast that will help them continuously get their mental health in check, their physical health or their, when it comes to just the emotional and spiritual health, whatever it may be. I hope that they can take this as a means of guidance.
Speaker 3:That's what he said. Yes, so do you have any social media platforms that maybe people could follow? I know you're not using social media.
Speaker 2:Exactly right. So here we are when it's 2024. Yeah, exactly right. So here we are when it's 2024 and I am working on two projects. I'm actually working on finishing out my website, which will be launched, probably by the end of the summer, because I'm working on two projects myself. It's going to be called EliPro Performance, which is basically a personal training online service with more of a mindfulness, mental health direction that would include nutrition as well. And then the next. The next, the next project will be obviously will be uh to start. Uh, a live podcast which will be definitely on the works. Uh, that will be.
Speaker 2:Still haven't had the time to put a name on it, but I don't want to say too much because I'm still working on it, I'm still building it, I'm still building it, I'm still putting it together and, with the help of some resources, then I will be putting together where I think it's more of a direction of food how to feed your body, how to cook, how to get a better relationship with food and have some guests over that can speak their intellect about awareness of mental health again, and also success, because with mental health and all of that, that kind of contributes to the ability of staying healthy and motivated also comes success. At the end. There's always successful stories that always keep motivating others, and if I could have some of these people coming through, then I think it'll also be another way to getting you on the practice as well. Definitely, I would love to. You're more than welcome to join me and enjoy some food. You think people are going to be ready for my mental health story Shit, and welcome to join me and be enjoying some food.
Speaker 3:You think you think people gonna be ready for my mental health story.
Speaker 2:Shit, it's alright man, we're all, we're all. I have not divulged too much today but um, like I said, in the future I will definitely be giving more info definitely, we're definitely doing more of that.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we're definitely going to do another one.
Speaker 2:I have more of that.
Speaker 3:Yeah, okay, we're definitely going to add this yeah, I'd love to, I'd love to, and then you know, and then later in the future, when you get those projects up and running, we'll share it with the people, the audience. Okay, absolutely, it was a pleasure having you here, bro.
Speaker 2:That's always great, thank you so much, alberto.
Speaker 3:It's a pleasure myself, man, you have a good one, my brother, keep in touch.
Speaker 2:Thank you. Thank you, we'll keep in touch.
Speaker 1:Thanks for listening to our show. This concludes our episode. And listen up to the next episode to follow up on what continuing topics and trends we have going on, and just to continue to listen to your boy, ny boom and co-host big doz, and listen to our points of views and and maybe you can add on to it if you want. But we'll catch you on the next one. All right, have a good one. Peace out, fellas.
