#2: The Real Reasons Why Your Dog is Annoying & Unpredictable

Your Wife is in Charge of You, but the Dog is in Charge of HER!  LOL The More Yeses You Get; the More Likely Your Dog is a Spoiled Brat that Even Poor Dog Trainers Find it Challenging to Work w. 
Can You Get Your Dog to Shut Up? Is He Overprotective w Dogs or Strangers? Be Honest. Isn't Your Dog Unpredictable?  How About Around Guests?
Newsflash: The root cause of your dog being overprotective, unpredictable, destructive or suffering from major separation anxiety, to even aggression--is because of how you've been babying him all along. 
If your dog isn't aggressive or unpredictable, you are increasing its chances the more you pamper her. Take Zedd's spoiled dog test and unravel the dog parenting misconception that always backfires. Spoiler alert - by showering w love, we might be creating monsters, as we unknowingly spoil our furry friends. Zeddicus shares some intriguing insights into changes we can make in our interactions with our dogs to pave the way for a balanced and harmonious relationship.
Together, we walk through the signs of a spoiled dog - from constant attention-seeking barks to subtler signs like a dependence on stretchy leashes or your presence during meal times. We particularly delve into the paradox of a dog that behaves like an angel with others but turns into a little devil with their owner. Too close to home?
Take out guesswork of the concept of being an "alpha dog". Spoiler alert again - it's not about being "alpha DOG' but being the leader and teacher your dog needs. We also touch on issues like overprotectiveness and separation anxiety, often a result of spoiling our dogs. The takeaway? Understanding your furry friends from their perspective is key to a happy owner-pet relationship. So, join us on this enlightening journey as we strive to approach dog ownership with love, light, and a dose of balanced discipline.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:02

Welcome to Dog Secrets. Dog Secrets Brought to you by Zedekis the Dog Prodigy, king, the Dog Psychology Podcast without the whispering hey, hey, everyone. Thank you so much for tuning in again. Thank you for all the love and support those of you that came from the Boston King Podcast. I really appreciate it.

Speaker 1: 0:33

This episode I'm going to focus on what's the main reason actually your dog has separation anxiety, that your dog is unpredictable, that your dog actually is aggressive or some of you call it protective. He's just being protective, he's very overprotective, right? And some of you may think like, okay, well, I don't know if I can make these changes. If you don't make these changes, I don't care who you work with, I don't care what you read, what you watch. So my cheapest plan is 1900, as of right now. Right, I don't care if you pay me 19,000. I don't care if you pay me 19 million. It will not work if you don't make these changes. And these changes, guys, will make a big difference in your life and their balance and harmony. And the more you say yes so these are questions the more you answer yes to these, the more the dog is spoiled. And the more the dog is spoiled, the more the dog has separation anxiety. The more unpredictable they are, the more, like you said, they're overprotective. And I'll bet you anything, if you're listening to this your dog is spoiled. Your dog is spoiled. I don't care whether you're dog owner, dog groomer, dog sitter, dog walker, your new dog owner, season dog owner, your dog is spoiled, more spoiled than average. Now, if your dog is spoiled and you have a nice dog and the dog is not aggressive or unpredictable, great, you got lucky. But the main reason dogs have separation anxiety, or they're unpredictable or they're fallen aggressive. Trust me, besides malnourishment, besides neglect, besides abuse, the worst thing you can do is to spoil your dog. I repeat besides abuse, besides neglect and malnourishment is if you spoil the dog, you pamper the dog to the extreme. That's the worst thing you can do to your dog and I know you see that love right, but now you're actually totally messing the dog up.

Speaker 1: 2:57

Most dogs have potential. Actually, all dogs have potential as the owner, because in this journey, you become the trainer. I'll be the instructor. Right, it's up to you guys. Your family can change you, but your boyfriend cannot change you. Your husband cannot change you. Your wife can't change you. Your girlfriend cannot change you. Your parents cannot change you. Your best friend cannot change you. I cannot change you, even if you hire me. The change has to come from you. It has to come from you guys. It takes more than love to make a Relationship work right. It takes more than love to raise a kid, and it takes more than love to have a good dog, a dog that knows right from wrong, that's polite, that's respectful, that respects boundaries, respects your wishes, all right. So so think about this. Imagine this is probably how it's going.

Speaker 1: 3:51

What's happening with your dog? Your dog's like this I can bark whenever I want. I'll shut up whenever I want. I jump on you whenever I want. I nip at you whenever I want. I drag you on the leash wherever I want.

Speaker 1: 4:03

I steal things off the counter whenever I want. I Guard things from you. I, you know, get a treat or things whenever you eat. I get it like something, a snack. I take off whenever I want. I come back when I want. I bark and growl and snap and charge and bite Wherever I want.

Speaker 1: 4:21

Everything is the dog's way. I come in whenever I want. I go out, I go and the crate if I want. I go outside if I want. I'll come back in if I want to. I'll stalk you room to room whenever I want. I get a padding massage whenever I want. I get a treat whenever I want.

Speaker 1: 4:36

Everything is the dog's way. Think about it. Everything's the dog's way. That's what I'm saying is, I don't care how great the trainer is, I don't care who you hire. If you don't make these changes, whether you hire me or not, or hire anyone else, it will not work unless you set some boundaries.

Speaker 1: 4:54

And then I'm gonna Shed light on these and ask you a question. You have to be honest now. The more yeses you don't answer doesn't mean you're hopeless. It just shows, like, how much you actually Let the dog run the show, how far it went like my god, I never looked at it that way. Just when you heard that you made you laugh and made you think just what I just mentioned when the dog can bark whenever I want, jump on you whenever I want, take off, bar, growl, snap, you know, everything's the dog's way. It's like, wow, I never looked at it that way, never thought of it that way.

Speaker 1: 5:27

Right, I'm telling you, if your dog has separation anxiety your dogs, I'm predictable or a bit a dog or bit a person or acts like it's gonna bite or nip that someone like Broke the skin and it's gonna get worse, it's not gonna go away, it's gonna stay the same and get worse is because you've made these mistakes. So these things added up little by little guys. It's not like overnight, like boom, it happened. It added up. It took weeks, months, years to develop these behavior and then you know it's like, oh my god, you know now it's a problem, it's really Got an out of hand. So I had one person her name is Nadine. She flew me to Montana to to help her with her dog and she had a rod.

Speaker 1: 6:16

While I never forgot that this dog would bite you whenever you stop petting him. When you stopped petting him, he would bite you. So think about it. The dog like who told you to stop? Usually normal dogs, they nod on your hand, they kind of paw you, they lick you, they kind of keep pushing themselves like hey, why did you stop? You know, keep petting me. This dog would bite you. It's like smacking someone like what are you doing?

Speaker 1: 6:46

So Nadine was really nice, very, very nice person, one of the kindest people I met, and she was gonna hire Cesar Malone and Cesar Malone didn't get back to him or so he was too booked up or whatever. I'm as good as him, don't worry. I just don't have a TV show. I am. I can do whatever Cesar does and I don't get bit like him and I don't skateboard that. Just no skateboarding, no and no. No, I don't get bit like here. He gets bit on national television like that doesn't look good, but it's okay, it makes good TV right, all right. So back to Nadine.

Speaker 1: 7:22

So I helped Nadine with her dog. It worked really well and then she had. She said you don't mind if I pass around my guests and and Everyone that is in here like to, if they have lists of questions, like if you can help help them. I said no, by all means. Like, ask me anything, really any topic. I. You know what's the number one thing everyone wrote, guys. The number one thing everyone wrote was separation anxiety. What do you do about separation anxiety? And I'll tell you why. That is why you have separation anxiety.

Speaker 1: 7:57

Again, it didn't start overnight. You did it little by little and you created a monster where it's running the show. Again, it did not happen overnight and you did it by being loving and genuine and caring to your dog, but you went overboard and this is what happened, okay. So I have them all written down and you know what's funny is most of these things the owner's mindset. If you really narrow it down, they're all emotional, irrational or they're in denial. I repeat their decision, their mindset, the reasoning is emotional, irrational and in denial. Okay, so keep that in mind. There's three things Okay, because they will apply to, if not all three, one of the two, one of the two will apply to you. I promise you that if you have a spoiled dog Again, these are day-to-day actions, the routine that you're doing with your dog that it messed up the dog, like, oh my God, now I know what happened, you know you get a.

Speaker 1: 8:54

It's like kids, guys, you got to have rules, structure boundaries. I always. It's just like kid, the dog running the show, the kids running the show, the kid could burn your house down, eventually, end up in jail, you know, end up turning on. You end up maybe even killing you. I'm not exaggerating. It starts with upbringing of a kid. And the same thing with the dog, right.

Speaker 1: 9:20

Again, besides abuse, neglect and malnourishment, guys, the worst thing you can do is to spoil your dog. So what are you trying to housebreak your dog guys? What are you trying to teach it manners? Run guests? What are you trying to teach it not to act up when it sees dogs on walks, or when you have company over or run men, or from your boyfriend or from your husband, because sometimes you get to say, oh, the dog's been protected from him, it's because of these things. Okay, what are you trying to stop from barking, jumping, nipping it all applies to these things, right, all right. So I'm going to ask you these questions. And the more yeses you get, the more the dog is spoiled, the more yes you get again, you got to be honest the more the dog is spoiled.

Speaker 1: 10:03

Okay, one does the dog follow you room to room like it stalks you. Like you cannot, like my God, like I came and pee or poop in peace. The dog has to be staring at me. I can't take a shower because the dog barking, whining, scratching. They lose it, okay, yes or no? The one is do you pet your dog just for being alive? You pet the dog nonstop. One hand is on your phone, one hand on the dog. You pet the dog. You give the dog belly wraps, scratching. You know the scalp, you know, scalp massage. Your poor husband hasn't got a back rub. Your poor wife hasn't, you know, got like a foot massage, but the dog gets it all night for hours. Now I know you may see what's wrong with that. That's good for me too. Again, spoiled dog. The dog is spoiled, okay, so, and I'll go over there like what's balance, what's not.

Speaker 1: 11:03

Next one does your dog have a strong name or human name? So dogs with human names are usually a horror to train. I don't know why. I've trained thousands and thousands of dog guys. I'm not saying this to impress you, it's a fact. You know, I've trained a lot of dogs and I've noticed dogs with strong names or human names are hard to train. So, of course, your dog is human name any human name Dennis, george, Mikey, you know, whatever. Or if the dog has a strong name, like Bear Killer, max, like Max, samson, rambo, capone, rocky, spike, like I had this guy that said like, yeah, I've had shepherds all my life and I named one Prince. That one was King. Like Prince, king, like, imagine, like, like, okay, if he's Prince, that one is King, what are you gonna name the next one? God, those are really strong names, right?

Speaker 1: 11:51

Is your dog allowed on a furniture whenever he wants, uninvited. So you gotta train the dog like okay, pretend the dog is muddy or has poop on its paws, you gotta wipe it. So again, no structure, no boundaries. The dog's allowed on a furniture whenever he wants. Does the dog sleep on a bed with you? That's even worse. When you have a dog sleep on a bed with you, they are always allowed on a furniture. They think they're equal to you. When a dog thinks they're equal to you, guys, they don't listen or respect you. Again, they love you to death. They see you as a stripper. You know you can love a stripper. Like oh, my God, you know she looks hot. Wow, look at those moves. But it's hard to respect a stripper. So the dog sees you as a stripper. Okay, all right. Next one Do you even create the dog?

Speaker 1: 12:40

Do you believe in creating the dog? Oh, you see, that's jail, you know. But creating is good because the dog gets used to create. When you travel, when you take it to the vet, the cratum, to the groomers, they create the dog. It's not a bad thing to create the dog. It's not a bad thing to get the dog used to being created.

Speaker 1: 12:58

Some dogs are destructive. Some dogs Dig, some dogs are not reliable. With the our dog, you know they're like bullying the dog. They chased the cat. Whatever is the reason you got to be able to pull it off for it, I'm gonna put the dog in the crate, where you know. Use any kind of confinement, whereas doggy gate, whereas playpen.

Speaker 1: 13:20

You put the dog in a backyard, you know, can you close the door. Every time the dog bark, scratches wines, you give in. That's a spoiled dog. What do you call that? What do you call that if it's not spoiled? Every time the dog barks, you give in. If that's not spoiling, what is that? Do you cook for the dog? Do you cook for the dog like you actually cook for the dog? Do you give the dog treats just for no reason, just because you love them? Whether the dog sits or not, you give him the treat. That's a spoiled dog. That's the dog. No, shake, roll over, play dead. Any dog that knows roll over, play dead, I'm knows they're spoiled. I don't know why I Mean it's cute, right, a cute trick. Bang, he plays dead. Shake, roll over. You know that the dog is spoiled.

Speaker 1: 14:05

The dog you know is running your life. Did you train it by bribery and I know you may say what he means, that it gets bribery. The trainer said you streets. And then after a while you don't use streets, you know the dog will listen to you forever. Ever after rec really really fell for that. Your dog should sit cuz you said so Because I told you to, kind of like how you raise, why cuz I told you to, because you're not 18 yet Because you live under my roof. Because I told you to, I told you so. That's why you get a set.

Speaker 1: 14:37

Now you can give treats, sometimes at the end of training session, right, but if the dog sees or smell the treat or you hold your finger together, you trick in the dog. You're bribing the dog. It's not, it's not training, you've been bribing the dog and bribery, bribery, pauser, reinforcement, whatever you want to call it. Annoyingly you, you're spoiling the dog and he creating a pamper spoiled dog because the dog sees, like man, they giving me, giving me treats just for being alive. That's it. Everything is treat, treat, watch me, treat, said treat, go pee and poop outside. Treat, peeing and pooping. It feels good, man, that's a really good treat for yourself. Like Finally, oh, my god, I've been holding it for hours, oh, oh, finally, yeah, doesn't it feel good like, oh my god, finally. So if the dog peas and poops outside, good, you know, praise it. Good dog, good boy, cuz sometimes the dog fix a peer pooper. They come in front of you, they look at you, they squat so you can give him a treat. Right, all right. Another one Do use a harness.

Speaker 1: 15:42

If use a harness or your leash is stretchy, is you know stretchy leash it gives? The dog is spoiled. I don't know why, like spoiled dog owners always use a harness, they always use a leash that they give the stretches. And that's not safe because if that dog charges or lunges, that goes after a dog, a person you know jumps on him, they'll stretch your leash, you know gives them more Advantage. They have like four or five more inches that they can get to that dog or person. You can yank it back that fast Even if you have a great timing. You cannot. So stretchy leashes are not a worst thing you can have.

Speaker 1: 16:20

Harnesses are designed to pull the dog. So if you use a harness might as well put a skateboard on. You know all the there's weight-pulling competition with dogs. I mean, if he knows they have something similar to harness sled dogs. They use a harness so and I'm not worst thing to have on a dog. Now, the reason you're using a harness because you feel bad, the dog is hacking, gagging, choking for air, but that is because he's not trained to walk on a loose leash. Again, guys, think about it. The reason you're using a harness is because your dog is spoiled and not trained to walk on a loose leash. I'm not saying he needs to be perfect role model right next to you. He can be a front of you. He just should not be pulling, charging or lunging. And he's pulling. And if he doesn't pull, he definitely pulls or charges when he sees a dog, a kid, a cat, a squirrel. Right, I'm sure.

Speaker 1: 17:15

Alright, do you have a small dog you carry with you everywhere? You carry like it's a purse. Do you have the dog in a purse in a carrier? Do you have a stroller for your dog? The more yes you tell me, the more spoiled the dog is. Right.

Speaker 1: 17:31

And another one do you think that the dog will not eat unless you're in a room? The dog will not eat unless you hand feed the dog. The dog is spoiled. I mean, think about guys. That sounds so crazy. They're like oh, you won't eat unless I hand feed them. You won't eat. Really, they can live without food, guys, up to like weeks, two, three weeks they can live without food. You really think the dog will die. That's how good the dog trained you that you really think that you have to hand feed it or be present.

Speaker 1: 18:02

Another thing you can tell guys the dog is worse. The dog is always I mean, the dog is spoiled is the dog is always worse with you. The dog is role model, a sweetheart with others in the family and they care. The dog is not bad with vets, is not bad. The dog is a nightmare with you, a nightmare totally like Kujo with you. That is because the dog thinks like I own her, she's my mom, I can kill that dog, I can kill that guy and mommy will still love me. They get way worse with you.

Speaker 1: 18:36

That means the dog is spoiled, guys, what else would you call it? You know because you can't say well, I don't know. He's been protective. You've never been under no threat whatsoever. Your husband never beat you, your boyfriend never beat you. The neighbor guest never did anything wrong to you. You've never been attacked by a dog, your dog never been attacked by a dog. So it's one thing if a dog mauled you and attacked you and the poor dog acts like tough, like okay, I'm gonna put on a show because my mommy got attacked by a dog once, so I'm gonna do my job. No, so when a dog acts the worst with you another indicator that the dog is spoiled Alright, let's see what else we have. I can download these things. Scare you, guys.

Speaker 1: 19:22

The more you we work on this, where you work with me or someone else or on your own, the more you'll notice like, oh my god, these make sense. If you feed the dog before yourself, you teaching the dog, he's the boss. Yeah, I know you may say, oh, I might as well get out of the way. No, no, you gotta eat first. You're the boss, you're the alpha, if not alpha, you gotta let the dog know. I'm the mommy, the teacher, the one in charge. I'm your daddy, your buddy, and also the one in charge. I'm your teacher. Right, I'm just telling you how dogs think, guys. I'm telling you how dogs think because most of you are great dog lovers.

Speaker 1: 20:00

You don't know jack about dog psychology and canine behavior. Do you even take vacations If you don't? Oh, do you feel bad. Oh, my dog will hate me, my dog, I don't want to abandon my dog Because some of you will get a higher you're a higher pet sitter. Right, those of you can afford it, but a lot of you won't do that, not even that. You won't take the dog somewhere I'll go. No, no, blah, blah, blah. I can't do. You know I love him. You'll miss me, blah, blah, blah. Alright, do you? So when you make these changes, your dog will hate it. Because why would your dog give away the throne? Like, the dog is the king and the queen of your castle, like why? I've been running the show, like, okay, that's cute, mommy thinks she's a dog trader. Now, that's really cute. Look at daddy. All sudden he thinks he's a whatever massive dog trader. That's cute. I've been running, you know, this joint, come on now.

Speaker 1: 20:54

But the change starts with you guys. It starts with you. So again, we're not alpha dogs. We can say we're alpha dog, but you can trick a dog. You're a dog. If you want to try it, you know. You can bark back at the dog. You can pee over your dog's pee. You can pee on your dog's bed. You can, you know, throw a treat and then beat the dog through it. You know, eat the treat, eat like the dog you know, I really eat fast and slam your dog on his back by biting it. That's how you can trick your dog for a second Like man.

Speaker 1: 21:26

Mommy turned into a dog. So you should not act like an alpha dog. You should act like your dog's teacher, teacher, leader, mommy. So far you've just been mommy, that's it. You've been the poop cleaner, you've been the treat giver, you've been the belly massager. You're not in charge. That's the reason you're listening to this. That's the reason your dog's unpredictable. That's the reason your dog is protective, or aggressive or bit someone. You see, it's like, oh wow, I never looked at it that way. Like, ah, that makes sense. So he's not being protective. Sorry, he's not being protective at all. He's showing off. You think that Everyone that's been saying that been wrong, been misled. Your dog's not being protective at all.

Speaker 1: 22:14

Alright, so the more guys you think about these things, the more you have to make the think about this. Like, are your decisions and what you've been doing, and is it based on emotional? Of course, you feel bad, right, the dog's your baby. Are you being irrational In your own way it makes sense right In your own mindset, like no, that's my baby, why not? But you're irrational if you think like that's not a big deal, like no, no, it's totally normal. That's what being irrational. And if that's not the case, you're in denial. You really are. You're in denial that the dog is not showing off, the dog's really protecting me, like that's in denial. You really are in denial because you've never been attacked by a dog. You never. Your husband, boyfriend never beat you when you had company over. Nothing bad happened. So you're being in denial really, because I want you really think about this and this is one of those episodes that I sent to a lot of my clients, because almost every one of my client they they need help with the dog being overprotective or the dogs showing off when they have company over, or whether that's the extreme, that extreme where the dog bit someone or not. That's besides the pump.

Speaker 1: 23:35

What I'm saying is what are you trying to housebreak your dog? What are you trying to teach it obedience? That stay down, heel and come? I'm not saying don't spoil the dog, you got to have that bounce. I'm not saying don't let the dog on the couch when you say so if you have the dog sleeping on the bed, that's fine, but you creating separation anxiety because that poor dog, when you leave, he's used to sleeping on the bed with you. So how can a crate beat that? No, crate will beat that, no matter how comfortable you make a crate. So that's why you have to make sure guys like I just got this person that their relationship got run over the dog. The dog was always on the bed.

Speaker 1: 24:15

Even when they're making love, the dogs just loosing, staying at them, and this is not a small dog, as the full boxer named Axel okay, axel just running to show Axel's barking, jumping, getting at the stuff. They can't even have sex. They can't even have sex. You know, it's just like that. These guys really love the chair, but the guy, you know and this is usually women do this the guy refused to reprimand or discipline the dog, like no, no, that's my baby. You know, it was like this. My baby actually such a big boy, he's a big baby, he's a big boy, he's such a big baby, you know. So that's I. Who's a good boy, who's a good boy, you know. So that's how you guys think and operate.

Speaker 1: 25:04

Alright, alright, that's enough for today. Thank you for listening. Please give me a good review, please subscribe, please share the podcast with our dog owners, friends, relative, neighbors, whoever. You will learn a lot you. You will be amazed how much you see things from your point of view and the dog's point of view. And that's my whole mission. Alright, thanks for sticking out, guys. Till next one. Love and light to you guys.