The Flynn Skidmore Podcast

Diary of Someone with a Pattern of Avoidance and Withdrawl

June 19, 2024 Flynn Skidmore Episode 47
Diary of Someone with a Pattern of Avoidance and Withdrawl
The Flynn Skidmore Podcast
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The Flynn Skidmore Podcast
Diary of Someone with a Pattern of Avoidance and Withdrawl
Jun 19, 2024 Episode 47
Flynn Skidmore

In today’s episode of the Flynn Skidmore podcast, I discuss a personal pattern that has challenged and defined a part of who I am in relationships. I discuss the times I've walked away from relationships, leaving others feeling hurt due to my lack of communication. However, it’s not a simple story of complete avoidance; it's a pattern that doesn’t define all my relationships, as many have grown stronger and deeper over the years. However, the pattern of withdrawal absolutely exists for me, and I want to share my insights with you.

Here’s what we’ll unpack today:

  • I've been on a journey of introspection over the last few months, during which I've confronted this pattern directly, striving to understand the dynamics at play.
  • The balance of conditional and unconditional love in relationships, and how I've historically used love perhaps more as a tool for change rather than as pure affection.
  • How this reflection led to a broader understanding of my interactions and how I've begun reaching out to repair past relationships, transforming feelings of guilt and avoidance into opportunities for growth and honesty.
  • The discussion will then expand into a broader philosophical exploration of love, growth, and personal responsibility in relationships.


Join me as I reveal my struggles with closeness, value, and the desire to not just be, but to be better—and how this quest shapes the way I connect with others. This is about transforming personal insights into actionable wisdom that fosters deeper, more real, and honest relationships.

Connect with Flynn:


Submit your written reviews to THIS form to be entered into a giveaway to win a 30 min session with me! We'll pull 1 winner at the end of the month.

Here are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Online Community
  2. Small Group Coaching
  3. 1:1 Mentorship


Show Notes

In today’s episode of the Flynn Skidmore podcast, I discuss a personal pattern that has challenged and defined a part of who I am in relationships. I discuss the times I've walked away from relationships, leaving others feeling hurt due to my lack of communication. However, it’s not a simple story of complete avoidance; it's a pattern that doesn’t define all my relationships, as many have grown stronger and deeper over the years. However, the pattern of withdrawal absolutely exists for me, and I want to share my insights with you.

Here’s what we’ll unpack today:

  • I've been on a journey of introspection over the last few months, during which I've confronted this pattern directly, striving to understand the dynamics at play.
  • The balance of conditional and unconditional love in relationships, and how I've historically used love perhaps more as a tool for change rather than as pure affection.
  • How this reflection led to a broader understanding of my interactions and how I've begun reaching out to repair past relationships, transforming feelings of guilt and avoidance into opportunities for growth and honesty.
  • The discussion will then expand into a broader philosophical exploration of love, growth, and personal responsibility in relationships.


Join me as I reveal my struggles with closeness, value, and the desire to not just be, but to be better—and how this quest shapes the way I connect with others. This is about transforming personal insights into actionable wisdom that fosters deeper, more real, and honest relationships.

Connect with Flynn:


Submit your written reviews to THIS form to be entered into a giveaway to win a 30 min session with me! We'll pull 1 winner at the end of the month.

Here are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Online Community
  2. Small Group Coaching
  3. 1:1 Mentorship