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Revealing Secrets for a Balanced and Efficient Life in 2024
Discover the secrets to mastering self-discipline and personal growth in this milestone episode of the Striving Butterfly podcast! My 21-year-old daughter Kyla joins me to share practical strategies we use to stay disciplined even when motivation wanes. We'll reveal the power of to-do lists, the significance of knowing your 'why', and the role a supportive network plays in achieving our goals. Listen in as we open up about our personal experiences, giving you an intimate look into our mother-daughter bond and how we navigate life's ups and downs together.
But that's not all! We also dissect our daily routines and productivity hacks that keep us efficient and balanced. From morning reflections with Google Home to setting time slots for tasks, we'll guide you through a day optimized for success. Plus, gain valuable insights from a seasoned digital marketer who discusses career growth, the importance of workplace diversity, and the unique challenges faced by women and people of color in leadership. Don't miss this enriching conversation packed with actionable advice and heartfelt stories.
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welcome, welcome. I am back for another installment of the striving butterfly, and this is a special episode because we have finally reached one year, one year of podcasting. I don't know how I did it, hi. Oh, I think there's another mic in the house, hello, and look who we have today on this episode Hello, hello, hello. And on this special birthday, I have my very own mini me. I'll let her introduce herself and I'll let her take it away. You don't tell me those introductions, well, on the spot hi, I'm kyla why are you waving I?
Speaker 1:don't know um.
Speaker 3:I'm 21 now. She's old.
Speaker 1:Her birthday's in I don't think we have to give all of those details. Oh okay, yeah, um I just graduated.
Speaker 3:Well, I haven't done my graduation, but I'm finished, so that's good, and now I'm just trying to get a job and figure out life, whilst mom wakes me up early in the morning with her video podcast and work you're doing too much. You're doing too much boys yeah, so I'm asking my mama a load of questions. There's a mix of quite a bit.
Speaker 1:There's 20, so be prepared well, if we don't get it in one episode, I'll break this up into a couple okay.
Speaker 3:The questions are current trends around self-improvement and health, mindfulness and personal growth. They all link to mum's past projects and her instagram page, with her normal one and striving butterfly, and then also my personal relationship with my mother.
Speaker 1:You ready I think so I don't know about personal relationship, I didn't remember. When it's funny, okay, get off. No, we're not gonna do this. We're not gonna do this. You ready?
Speaker 3:yeah, let's get this going okay, the first topic is self-discipline strategies. What are some of your go-to strategies for maintaining self-discipline, especially on days when motivation is low?
Speaker 1:there's a lot of days when motivation is low, um, and a lot of people don't realize because I am always so bright and sunny, posting and sharing on Instagram that it may seem like I am full of motivation, but I really have to start my day right when I am not waking up in the best of moves. I rely heavily, heavily, heavily on to-do lists and tasks and really breaking down what it is that I need to achieve today. I also have to just remind myself of the why. Why am I doing this? Why do I have to get up every day and go to work? Why do why am I doing this podcast? Why am I trying to better myself? What is the end goal?
Speaker 1:It's really important when you wake up and I'm just like, oh, I can't be arsed, and then I have to get a quick rethink, a little shake up and be like no, no, colleen, you've got things to do because you want to reach this end goal having my to-do list, having myself in order, just checking in with where I'm at, where I want to be and it's also important that I check in with friends and family.
Speaker 1:So some days when I'm low and she might not realize it I'll just come and sit on Kyla's bed because she's back home now from uni, or I might put myself in spaces where I'll just call a friend and talk to a friend or go down the road see my mum take my dog out for a walk. So it is really keeping my network close and checking in with them and also letting them know how I feel, but also just seeing what the end goal is, and I don't need to literally physically see it. But I go back to my calendar where I write out my goals, and my planner where I've written out what it is that I want to achieve. Good yeah.
Speaker 3:Good you ready for the next one?
Speaker 1:Why do you want to answer that one? Why would I answer that?
Speaker 3:one. I still haven't figured that one out. Okay, I'll get back to you on that one. Yeah, the to-do list don't work for me. I forget they're there, and then I've already moved on to something else that I should have done before. And then I see another thing that I should have done there. Go do that. And then, yeah, Stopwatch, so like it's a game. Yeah, Someone else try that, and let me stop watch so like it's game. Yeah someone else tried it.
Speaker 1:Let me know how that goes well, you just give yourself a time slot. So I want to achieve this in this amount of time. So, uh, for instance, I'm going to be on my phone for just an hour on tiktok or social media or youtube, that stuff that you do constantly and you set the alarm for one hour. But after the one hour, when the alarm's gone, you're like okay, what's next? Update cv, look for jobs what's next? I'll take the dog out. What's next? I don't know. Do some shopping. Call a friend so you can put timers on and calendar, put them in your calendar. That's where you break it up. Make it fun make it fun.
Speaker 3:Next question daily routines. Can you walk us through your daily routine? How do you structure your day to maximize productivity and well-being?
Speaker 1:well, where do I start? I start very much waking up and now I've connected the home, the google home pod, it's terrible every morning, music, music.
Speaker 3:So hey, google, do this, hey google, hey, google, google. I have alexa as well, alexa listens.
Speaker 1:Alexa doesn't listen. Well, we are a next gen home here, um. But yes, I've started recording my sleep patterns to try and understand how I'm sleeping. So first things in the morning is wake up and check that it's recorded my sleep pattern. That's a new thing. But no, I just take some time to reflect. I take some time and it is very, very important to just pray before I do anything, before I take out my phone and look at how many messages I may have had had before I flick onto social, which is what I usually used to do. Now I just sit still and I just reflect, praising and giving love and really just being in the spirit where I know I've got another day and another opportunity to be great at whatever it is that I need to be great at um. And once I've done that, I usually hit social.
Speaker 1:So after my little morning reflection, prayer and meditation still in bed, I will hit social um and I will literally do a bit of research for about 45 minutes see what's trending, see what's new and it literally just allows me to line up for posting whatever content that I need to post later on in the afternoon. That is really, really important for me to just do the research and on many days I schedule so I'll get all the content ready doesn't mean I've posted it, I'll just get it already scheduled. I'll check YouTube what? What are my stats saying? I'll go over to Instagram, check my profiles, read my stats and analytics to see how they're performing. I'll then go over to TikTok and check TikTok and then, based on what is trending, based on what my mood is, I'll very much be like okay, today I'm going to post this.
Speaker 1:I'll get that ready from between 7 and 8.30 in the morning after I've done my research, and then I get quickly jump up. Some mornings I'll take Sabian for a walk, depending on how I'm feeling, or some mornings, straight into the bathroom and then straight into the desk. As you know, I work from home, so it is a very for short trip. But before I hit the desk, it's really, really, really important for me first to go downstairs. If I haven't taken sabian out, then literally just open the back door but get a hot drink, something to just detox, get some cereal or um breakfast first milk.
Speaker 1:Yes, my yogurt pot. She has an addiction, guys an addiction. So I don't have any yogurt.
Speaker 3:It's not an addiction I them how many yogurt pots you go for?
Speaker 1:it's not an addiction.
Speaker 3:I have one a day yeah, but how many do you buy?
Speaker 1:enough to last me.
Speaker 3:I think we need to see your no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1:So I didn't used to eat cereal and I'm not really a cereal lover. Yeah, I like Lucky Charms, but I'm not in my teens anymore. Um, I can't be asked to make porridge. I can't be. I don't really like cornflakes and all those cereals, and I still want to make sure that I have the vital meal of the day. So the easiest thing was the yogurt pots, because it's just literally. I take it out of the fridge and off we go she's very specific about the brand yes, I am, because they.
Speaker 1:I've gone and tried a couple of them. But anyway, this is not promotional or ad material, so we're not going there, we're just not going there. But yeah. So once I've got my breakfast, got my vitamins taken, my collagen, ran upstairs, I write out my tasks for the day, um, I check my emails at work. So literally, from nine to five, I'm only doing my nine to five job.
Speaker 1:I stay off social as much as possible. At lunchtime you may see me repost or share something, and that's just to really keep the presence up. Um, but other than that, nine to five, I do my jobs. I'm on calls most of the day, so I don't have time once. Five, five, thirty, six, sometimes seven, or, yeah, sometimes it's late. I've got better. Seven, seven, thirty, yeah. So between the times of seven and seven.30, I've finished my 9 till. Well, it is 9 till 5, but 9 till 7.30. And then, literally, I'll go straight on to my personal projects or any church activities that I'm involved in. I'll definitely, if I didn't take Sabian out in the morning, I'll take him out in the afternoon.
Speaker 3:I take him out.
Speaker 1:Now you're back, you take him out. But I used to take him out. I'll go out because, working from home, you realise that you're indoors all day. So it's really important that I get breaks and just for a share, whether I'm going to the front of the house, the back of the house, whatever it is, other routines include. Previously, before this one came back, I was really good and I was going to the gym.
Speaker 3:She wasn't going to the gym, and now I wasn't going gym, she was going swimming.
Speaker 1:I was going swimming and I used to do spin class when when I used to do spin class three times a week. Yes, I did, okay. Okay, do you want to see my phone?
Speaker 3:we could, we could do that at the end. We could show a clip of your phone at the end. Yeah, okay, fine, you want to see my phone? We could, we could do that at the end. We could show a clip of your phone at the end yeah, okay, fine, you could do that.
Speaker 1:I did go spin class when you used to sleep because you was in manchester, so you didn't actually get on my timeline at those times and I didn't call you because you'd. It's like six o'clock in the morning. Yeah, I'm not awake exactly to go to the gym at 6 00 am, so I prefer going to the gym really early. I went swimming the other day at eight o'clock. Yeah, eight, yeah, about 7, 45, 8 o'clock. Um, it's good to start. So routine is. Before you came back, I used to go to the gym three days a week. I stopped doing swimming for about a year, just over a year, because I locks my hair. Yeah, I'm not really that materialistic, but I just wanted it to work. So am I?
Speaker 3:boring you do? You know what time it is right now. It's 1 30 in the morning, guys, 1 30 in the morning. We spent the last hour setting up. If I did, mom's gonna import a clip of this room right now and it is boiling hot. So what you see isn't actually just set up and go. Yeah, mom does a lot before she sets up and I've clearly realized that yeah, so we're here now and I was talking about my.
Speaker 1:Well, that that is my podcast routine. But, um, yeah, it's really important in my routine to make sure that I am clear about what I'm doing and what days. Um, you know, weekends, sundays is a church day, wednesdays I have, like, early morning prayer, so my schedule changes. Mondays at work is very different to a friday at work, so routine is really really important. It's also important now that you're back as well. I got my mom and dad, who live very, very close, to make sure that I have time with them, because I can get very I did. I'm getting better since 2024. I'm getting better a little. I'm getting better.
Speaker 3:A lot better.
Speaker 1:I isolated myself very much in my office and it was just work, work, work, work, work. I had routine, but I had nine to five work routine where I went from my nine to five to my personal projects. So it's very much changing that and incorporating more of my family and my friends and being a bit more social.
Speaker 3:so I'm doing that I think that was great. I think that was great. Next question growth mindset. In the next five to ten years, how do you hope to grow personally and professionally? What steps are you taking now to ensure that growth?
Speaker 1:first things first. I think I, as I continually every day, I want to deepen my knowledge biblically. I want to strengthen what I already know spiritually and apply it within my personal projects. So in the next five to ten years it's very much taking striving butterfly to a whole another level and it is not just being a podcast. It's being somewhat a community for groups of women and men when we can help. Currently I see it being a household name for women that just want a bit more um and I want to grow it. So I'm doing speaking engagements and I can go to schools, I can go into different communities and I want to make sure that it is not just a UK, it is a global brand.
Speaker 1:Have your affirmation cards and you can basically come alongside me and go through your own self-care journey of how do I be authentic? There's many years that I went through life where I wasn't completely authentic. I hid many parts of me and you lose life like that and you don't realize. You don't realize that you're losing life because you're trying to be something for someone else, thinking that's who they want you to be, when in theory you just need to be yourself, because that's who God's made you to be and, without you realizing, that's who everyone wants to see, you know. So I see striving butterfly going from strength to strength.
Speaker 1:I am literally um, as you know, I am literally working tiktok. So I love instagram, but it's really not working for me. That algorithm is really not doing me no favors. Um youtube, I'm really managing and loving that channel and learning a lot more. And then tiktok is just where I discover and meet new people and it's beautiful. So my aim is very much in the next by next year, I'm hoping um to reach 10 000 followers on on tiktok or youtube tiktok okay, that's where I want to get to.
Speaker 1:I want to get to 10 000 um, and what are we at now?
Speaker 3:oh, yeah, yeah we might as well say the number.
Speaker 1:I'm not there. I'm not there. What's?
Speaker 3:the number, just a couple hundred.
Speaker 1:Is that 300?, 400? No. I'm not even at 400. I'm at 260. 260.
Speaker 3:Yeah, or 300.
Speaker 1:Okay and yeah, but it's all about consistency. When I'm consistent, when I'm posting regularly, then yeah, it's, it's great. So that is personal projects within my career.
Speaker 3:I very much want to separate in work career and striving butterfly yeah, yeah so let's do work career first well, I, I did Strive and Butterfly.
Speaker 1:Okay, you've already done Strive and.
Speaker 3:Butterfly. So what's your work career goal?
Speaker 1:Work career is to. So I've got a team amazing team and I have a mixed team and they are beautiful and unique and very skillful, so I'm there to empower them and get the best out of them, and I am also there to deepen my knowledge even further in digital marketing. So I've been doing it for over 18 years even maybe even longer 18 years. I've been doing marketing Last 15,. I've been very much doing digital, but I want to get a lot more into performance. Um, performance is where it's thank you, yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, performance is about optimization, is about conversions, is about studying behaviors. It's including like customer journeys. So I've sort of transitioned in my role, sort of transitioned into that, in about last two years. Um, and I've sort of transitioned in my role, sort of transitioned into that, in about last two years, and I've done a lot of research, a lot of reading, a lot of learning, a lot of online courses, and it's been seven years, but it works. It works. She's happy, it works. I, I work from home full time. You know I work with some great people. You know, as you know, everyone has highs and lows in offices. You know it's never personal, but you sometimes rub shoulders in this friction because everyone has an agenda. But it's a good workplace to work for. I've met them. They're all lovely.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's a good place.
Speaker 1:So it's never personal. It's just skills, knowledge and some people being in positions they shouldn't be in and some people being in positions they shouldn't be in and some people being in positions are not comfortable enough to share their expertise and dim their light.
Speaker 3:So it's hard for women moving up the ladder when a lot across the board is all men hmm, it's even harder when there's not many of your color sitting on the board so yeah, that's what I focus on in my studies on it's hard. Ready for the next question yeah, what about you? Me yeah, 10 years yeah.
Speaker 1:Jeez, please, no kids.
Speaker 3:I'll be in five years, I'll be 26. That's a good time to have kids. Yeah, maybe it's a good time to have kids. I don't. I don't know if I want to stay in the country, but I've always said that, when I was younger as well, because I I've always I think I get it from my mother, but I always think I get it from my mother. But I always like exploring and also it's countries. It can be something else sometimes, but personally I'm still trying to figure out music and where I'm going with that, because it's not easy and I don't know where I'm going. That because it's not easy and I don't know where I'm going if that makes sense.
Speaker 3:I've done it for so long and uni kind of dried me like I'm like just just plain just.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but that's with everything in life. You've got to find that sweet spot of why you fell in love with it in the first place. Like you, go to uni to learn things that you already know, but to deepen your knowledge and your understanding. And it's not there to tell you to love this subject even more. It's there to give you all the tools to say I know this, I can do this. Now how am I gonna apply this when I leave? Uni never sets you up to get a job, never does it. Doesn't give you the tools to create your cv and in some if, unless you do it, you don't even get the experience. Yeah, so it can very much drain you, but I went to uni, I did the business side of fashion. Yeah, I work for a financial company right now.
Speaker 3:At the moment it's very much. Do I keep doing music just to keep me happy whilst doing something else that makes me money? It's what, it's what my dad does, what you do, you have a job and then you do what makes you happy. So maybe I keep keep trying to find my happiness in music, like I always have. Try make music again, because after first year of uni that just went. But my main focus at the moment is my studio. I want to get that up and running. I want to isolate it and put in whatever security I need to make you happy.
Speaker 3:In the next 10 years I want to at least do two tours, three tours, globally. When you say tours, what do you mean? Sound engineering tours? I want to at least be. I have monitors of one house monitors. Is that what you don't see? So whatever the musicians have in their ears and then front of house is what everyone else is, by the way, um, but I want to at least be able to say I've done that and I'm also looking into what. What was the cost and the labor and everything of owning a big studio like abbey, for example, abbey roads or, yeah, a private one where people come and can be themselves but also get that luxury of life, because I feel like a lot of studios right now are just you book it, you go. There's no real experience unless you're going to some big studio. But why can't everyone get that experience In a?
Speaker 1:smaller studio.
Speaker 3:No, a big studio with a small studio as well. Yeah, that's the plan so far. Career-wise, personal, I don't know. That's a hard one At the moment. Tomorrow's my anniversary for three years with my partner and that's going really well, so I do hope to see where that goes in the future, and recently had a conversation with someone about getting baptized, so that's also something I'm thinking about.
Speaker 1:Whoa, you're just gonna throw that in there like, oh my gosh you are.
Speaker 3:So I answered so yeah. So there's a lot that I need to figure out. Maybe next, next year, we ask the same question and the answer might be a bit more in depth on what's going on that was in depth oh, okay that was very in depth, because you already have a plan.
Speaker 1:You just got to apply yourself to the plan. So how are you going to do the tours? How are you going to get there?
Speaker 1:yeah let's see right that that's the plan. If that's, if that's your goal and you want to do that over a course of five to ten years, work all the way back. How do you get there? You want to run a studio and you want to build an experience, whatever the size it is. How do you start? You start small. You've got to have certain skills in regards to um business, yeah, financial, you need equity. You need some savings. You need you might need some sponsors still thinking about the app well, that's something else.
Speaker 1:But yeah, you've got a plan. It's now how do you execute it? Don't take your age for granted. Don't take your age for granted. There's lots of schemes, initiatives that will actually pour money into you and invest in.
Speaker 1:You See what opportunities you can gain out of that, because you start in something very simple can definitely explode into something big, like, for instance, um patty box. Patty box was started during the pandemic. Just someone who wanted a patty couldn't get a patty because it was. Everything was locked down, so started at home. You know, now there's a squad, now the family are supporting it. There's a little trailer. You've gone from small, small festivals to big festivals. Now, um, and we did something yesterday met someone who actually provides stock for asda. Oh wow, so you just being somewhere? Yeah, so you got to be somewhere, you got to take the step, you got to believe in it and, as you know, you know patty box owner and founder, sarah davis. You know she still has her full-time job and she's still doing that side hustle to grow this business on the side. So it is definitely, definitely something that you can do.
Speaker 1:Just don't sit letting it tick, tick, tick, tick, tick, thinking that you don't have everything. Oh, I don't have this, so I can't do it. Oh, I don't have that, so I can't do it. Oh, I don't have that. Oh no, oh, maybe next year. I don't know how to plan, I'm not really good at that. You know, like you just start, you fall, you get back up, you go again. Oh, okay, okay, ready. Yeah, okay, ready. Yeah, that was deep. Yeah, it's all about, as you know, it's all about your goals and what you put down and what you speak out and what you want to get out of it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, next one self-improvement habits. It's kind of linked to the last one. Let's make it short and snappy. What are some specific habits or practices you've recently adapted that have made a significant difference in your life?
Speaker 1:I think significant difference in my life has very much been changing my pattern on social. So before I'd wake up, I'm on social, just sitting there until it's time for me to get up, get ready for work. Um, I think it's really important before and after to journal. So I journal in the mornings where I could be at my desk, but it's very important. I wake up, I recalibrate, I meditate, I pray. I get up, I think about what's going on for the day and then at the end of the day I just decompress, um, before it'd be, work, work, work, work, work. Get in the bed, go to sleep now it's very much get in bed, decompress and just go through the day, um, journaling, reflecting how can I do better, what did I do wrong, and yep, and then we move. So journaling, prayer and not making technology and social um the be all and end all okay, next one overcoming regret.
Speaker 3:Is there anything you regret not doing sooner in your journey? How have you turned that regret into a learning experience? There's another question after, by the way oh, you got two.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think one of my regrets is putting everything into my nine to five and not starting my personal projects earlier, which is why I said to you like start, I've always had goals as far back um. I've just always put it off. Like swimming, I put it off, I put it off, I put it off. Creatively minded was birthed out of the pandemic where I was journaling.
Speaker 1:I'm always designing something I'm always putting something together and I my end goal is very much to have an app and have stationary, proper stationary love stationary, if we could show you the drawers so it's very much not putting all my focus into my nine to five that's my regret and leaving it late to get started.
Speaker 1:I definitely, definitely, definitely will encourage anybody. If you have a vision, if you have a dream, if you have a passion, if you have a desire, do not put it off. Do not, do not say to yourself I got a bit more time because I'm still young, but I'm also older, um and there I could have been a lot further ahead if I started some of my goals and my plans earlier.
Speaker 3:Do you think you could have done this podcast earlier though? With where you were no no no, no, no, no so there's a time and a place.
Speaker 1:There definitely is a time and there definitely is a place. But if it's doable do it. Yes, the reason why and I, since I've done the podcast, a lot of people ask me how did you start your podcast? You know you're really brave like I didn't never wanted to chat my business never very much, still has that mindset I never wanted all of my business to be out there, yeah, um, which is why I don't.
Speaker 1:Oh, I promote it now because you know I speak to friends and they're like, why don't you promote it more? Um, my net, my intentions was never to have a podcast. My intention has been very much to do stationary um. But now I find my purpose in not just doing stationary tie it in by. You know my reflection pieces so you know you can very much listen to this podcast here. You know what actually I want to reflect and do something different. Like I've got a reflection journal. You know that ties in. You know the little handouts that I do after every single podcast. It all ties back in and starts building that stationary catalog of digital products okay.
Speaker 3:Next question, which links and? Is there any personal regrets that you wish you could warn your younger self? I didn't give. I didn't give. Mom had some of these questions prior. However, some questions were implemented after thinking stages, so go again, okay. And is there any personal regrets? You wish you could have warned yourself at a younger age?
Speaker 1:do you know what? Don't be so hard on yourself. I think I was very, very hard on myself as a young. I think I was very, very hard on myself as a young girl. I always felt like I had to prove something because I've made a hiccup, I don't have that many friends, or I've fallen out with someone, or my mum and dad are no longer together. You know, I've got to prove to my mum now that I can get through uni. I had a teen pregnancy, so I've got to prove to my dad and my parents now that I can get through uni. I had a teen pregnancy so I got approved to my dad and my parents. Now that I'm gonna make it through school, when I'm gonna be able to get all my GCSEs and my A-levels. You know my mum and dad weren't together and then it was very much. I'm gonna prove that I can still, you know, get and work through everything that I need to, you know. And then I, and then I have you. I had you when I was 21 and it's very much. I'm going to prove, and even though I'm not with your dad, that I can raise you to be the best person and you still have your dad be present in your life.
Speaker 1:So I think if I was younger, I would most probably be like stop trying to prove a point and I've done it, I said it on one of my podcasts stop trying to prove to the outside world who's really not interested, um, that you have to do this and you have to live this way and you have to do these things because I think I would have been a lot easier on myself and not as like, I don't regret being adventurous because I've had a great life. I have. I've met some great people. I've experienced within reason like cause, people can take this and go, but within reason, I've. I've experienced things. I've tried things and you know what I've been burnt, but I've also had. I've tried things, and you know what I've been burnt, but I've also had some good times. I've been in relationships and they haven't worked out, but I've had some great moments in them.
Speaker 1:So I wouldn't say, oh, I want to turn the clock back and I don't want those things to happen, because, yeah, those things happen because it made me who I am. Yeah, those things happen because it made me who I am and I'm able to sit here and guide you and instruct you on how to be better and do things better, and it's not about you making the mistakes that I made. It's preparing you that the mistakes that you do make, because we all make mistakes you know how to manage yourself through the mistake. There's no point saying, oh, you're going to be perfect and nothing I'm not going to be like. Oh, you're going to be perfect and nothing.
Speaker 1:I'm not going to be like my mum, I'm not going to be like my dad. I'm not going to do that Like. You've got tendencies of both of us. So, whether you like it or not, you're going to be both of us. It's just you know when you're acting like your mum and those are not the best parts of your mom how do I improve this? So you know it doesn't have an impact on my other relationships that was good digital detox.
Speaker 3:How do you manage screen time and social media consumption to ensure it doesn't interfere with your mental health or productivity?
Speaker 1:ah well, this is um you can get so consumed.
Speaker 3:I answered this before yeah, yeah, I thought so.
Speaker 1:I didn't expect her to answer that question so soon no it, it did you, if you just want to call it out. Digital detox for me is social discipline. Like everything is news. There's news. You can get news everywhere.
Speaker 1:I don't read in the newspaper, because it's just not every news is good news and there's a lot of trash on social. Yeah, a lot of forwards, a lot of bad news, a lot of misery, a lot of and it sounds silly, but it's a lot of fake relationships, whether it's female to female, um friendships, or female and male. You know there's this whole pretense of this is how life is. Life is so great. I'm amazing like you can get caught up thinking this is the life that I want, but that's not me. So social detox is very much.
Speaker 1:I wake up in the morning and I reflect on who I want to be. Social detox is being at my nine to five and knowing I don't need to be on social media. Social detox is last thing. At night I can have a browse, but I'm not going to sit here for four hours, like most probably sit there for about an hour as I go through cat's memes and everything that she's forwarded me. Um, which is a great time. I have a great time catching up on that. But it's like sometimes I'm very quiet and it's not just social, sometimes it's whatsapp as well groups, chats, everything and people might be like, oh, why are you so quiet, or where you gone or where you been, and it's like I've got to discipline myself to make sure that I don't get lost you'd never really liked whatsapp anyway.
Speaker 3:Uh, next one judging, that was not judging, juggling, juggling. What are you doing? Juggling responsibilities? How do you balance the demands of life, personal life, work and passion projects without feeling overwhelmed? So it's focusing on overwhelming yourself how do I start feeling overwhelmed?
Speaker 1:yeah, just going for a walk, getting in the car. Um randomly going to nana's and just sitting on the couch and going to sleep. Um going to church on sundays, um being around my network, being around people that lift me up, you know. Um demanding yourself. Yeah, it's very much. Just don't be too hard on yourself, because you can next one stress management.
Speaker 3:What are your favorite techniques for managing stress, especially during busy or challenging here?
Speaker 1:um, but yeah, I'm in the bible and it's very much doing research and study. I think early morning prayer keeps me in line with prayer as well when I have to do and lead prayer what about for someone who isn't within that life?
Speaker 3:what advice would you give them for?
Speaker 1:someone that doesn't pray. Yeah, it's very much journal, okay, write your thoughts and write your feelings and express exactly it is. Sometimes you just actually just feel like you want to scream and you're like what am I screaming for, um, and you're not in a place where you can scream. You're not in a place where you can just be like um, and sometimes you want to have a go at people because people don't treat you right and sometimes people don't appreciate you, and you know this can be in any type of relationship, even even family, and you're like so I journal. If you one thing, I do have paper galore and I journal with my phone, so if you.
Speaker 1:If you don't like write in like type type relentlessly on your phone, if you feel like you want to have a rant and you feel like I'm just lost and confused, write it. Write exactly how it is and then read it back. And sometimes people are like, oh, maybe I should send it to someone. Not everything needs to be sent, but get it out. Don't keep it in because you keeping it in and bottling it in, you just suppress it. You just suppress it, meaning like a fizzy drink that you drop on the floor and or you shake up. As soon as you open it and you get to that boiling point, you're gonna burst and you're gonna explode and you're gonna bleed on someone else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, um, without realizing someone who you didn't need to drench in all of your madness and all of your lost and confusion is now like, what did I done? What the hell? So write journal if you're not into praying and you don't know how to pray, if you don't know how to study the bible and we had this conversation early like there's so many others and I've got it here like there's so many ways and guides and stuff that can teach you cover to cover bible study. Like, um, I was just showing.
Speaker 1:That's what I was showing there we go um, like sometimes when you don't know where to start, literally just literally find a character that you you because sometimes I'm like I want to know about hannah I'll just go on google, I'll see what resources are available, I'll see if it's what I was looking for and then, when I got a little background, I then go to my bible, because usually online you can see what references it will tell you what scriptures to look at. You know where to go and I've got different bibles and it's really important to have different bibles. I've studied bibles.
Speaker 1:I have bibles for women, um, and a character like hannah will be really good in my women bible because, they'll give a nice synopsis and overview and description of who she is, why, where she came from and how she could have an impact, just as a character, on your life. Is there a Hannah in you, for instance, you know? So it's really important to find your outlet, but not an outlet where you're just prodding and poking at people and I, you know, not everyone can, because not everyone feels comfortable, because I was been there but a counsellor, having a counsellor, very expensive, but you know you don't play with your health. Yeah.
Speaker 3:Okay, let's go for fitness and health, miss Echo. She's been in class every three days, whatever.
Speaker 1:Why are you judging?
Speaker 3:me. I didn't say anything, anyway. Okay, how do you stay active, physically active, and healthy? Do you have a fitness routine that you swear by?
Speaker 1:Chasing you around the house no, sometimes I chase sabian yes, she does in the garden. No, walking, I love walking. I love walking, um, and it's really important. I tried well, now you're it, but I've got to get back in. I just do 30 to 40 minutes a day of walking. That's really important. That's good for my mental state. And then gym I really just want to do gym three times a week, yeah, and swimming minimum. Once I used to do it twice, but once with gym three times a week is good for me. It's good just getting in the pool, um, so my routine is very much keeping fit, but most of it right now is walking, walking and the bike, getting the bike out. Absolutely, that was fun. Um, back on my bike. I am so and I was so out of breath.
Speaker 3:Can we insert clips?
Speaker 1:I was so out of breath. That hill was steep Again. It's consistency. Yeah. Yeah, whatever you're consistently doing, and when you are consistent, you just improve and get better.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I used to love pool day which is back and biceps. I think you will like pool day. It makes your back look really good. Oh, muscly.
Speaker 1:Oh, you're going back to the gym. I'll let you know how we get on.
Speaker 3:Yeah, hopefully next video there'll be videos of the gym. What are you doing Next, embracing change how do you handle major life changes? Can you share a recent example where you successfully navigated a big shift?
Speaker 1:um. A big shift, I would say recently is failed relationships having a massive impact and still having to go. Heartbreak is serious, and heartbreak at an older age is even more serious, like what is going on, like hello, um, and how did I get through? It is very much my faith and my network. Uh, I got some key people that just kept poking and podding and checking are you okay? Are you okay, what are you doing? Blah, blah, blah. And different friends from different networks, so they give you a different perspective and a different view and yourself, like it's so motivating. You get on my damn nerves being back home because you're so messy, but you motivate me. You motivate me to still see what the purpose is in life. Um, you motivate me to know you.
Speaker 1:You may not realize that I'm so proud of you, so proud of you getting free uni, because uni is not easy as you know, I've studied more than once, more than twice, more than three times, um, so having a degree and getting it behind you and just starting again and getting out, and everyone's like are you got a job yet? Are you working yet? Where you working, what are you doing? You're like can you give me a break? Yes, so I'm proud of you being strong enough to come back home to like, just start again, leave your life in manchester and come back to london, uk, or you in the UK anyway, but come back down to Surrey and start again. Like it's massive. It's huge.
Speaker 1:So that's a drive for me, as a drive for me to make sure that, you know, let me support you because I know exactly what it's like and it wasn't easy. So let me support you through that transition and, without you realizing you being here, you've supported me through my transition. So we are, you know, gaining strength from each other without even realizing you know. So that's a huge motivation. Mom and dad, my mom and dad are huge motivation. They frustrate the life out of me, um, but it's so motivating to see my parents proud of what I've done and, even though I'm like, I don't feel I'm at the point yet where I want my parents to be like yeah, she's made it.
Speaker 1:um, I'm still working to be like yeah, but I know they're proud at how far I've come, so it motivates me to just keep going for them.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you having to deal with all my late-night calls of. Mum I don't know what I'm doing. Why am I doing this? I should just drop out. That was first year. Second year was Mum. I don't know what I'm doing. Why did I do this? Why? Third year was mom. I've written this essay and it doesn't make any sense.
Speaker 1:Yeah yeah, yeah, and driving to Manchester to rewrite it. Yeah, literally.
Speaker 3:That was planned with like one night. You read the essay and was like yeah, I'm coming down.
Speaker 1:But you'd be surprised, though, because I didn't realise I was going to be helping you. So so much through uni, but I think it's we have a good relationship anyway. Yeah, uni definitely expanded that. Yeah, yeah, I think it really strengthened it and um to see different dynamics of how we can support and help each other yeah and we had some good laughs yeah definitely, definitely, yeah, and every time you came you bought something new anyway, let's get back to the questions next question inspirational books outside of the bible.
Speaker 3:Can you recommend a book that has profoundly influenced your perspective on life or self-improvement, and then a fiction book that you just love?
Speaker 1:um dare to lead by brené brown. Do you have it?
Speaker 3:here, might be good to show it. Is it a recent read or is it a recent read? Is that?
Speaker 1:my book Surrounded by Idiots yeah, that's your book. So this one, really really good book, it's just where I am right now. I go back to it and reference it. It's all about leading, how to lead, how to bring out the best in yourself. Um, in group settings, in small settings you know I want to do speaking engagements, and so really really good book. Um, and you want me to be quite honest, um, another I really, really, really loved, um becoming by michelle obama.
Speaker 3:That was just it's hiding right now. That's why she's not getting it. It's long to move.
Speaker 1:It's hiding just now um, I just love reading. As you know, I love absolutely love reading so I've got books galore um my different versions of the bible, um my women's Bible is. I love it.
Speaker 3:Absolutely love it. I did say outside of the Bible. Oh well, okay.
Speaker 1:Outside of the Bible. Yeah. Non-fictional book. I would have to say I used to love, love Roald Dahl books. Yeah. Love Roald Dahl books. Yeah, love Roald Dahl Bibliography. I'd go for Becoming or I would do Finding Me. Yeah, those two were really really good. My childhood was Roald Dahl and also the Magic Fireway Tree. Absolutely loved that book.
Speaker 3:That book is a good book. I only know that book because she used to read it to me every night. It's so big, it's that big and those stories it does ignite imagination 100%.
Speaker 1:That's a book for every child that should read yes, if, if, like we lost, like everything's digital, so no one writes. Yeah, there's no real creativity like getting lost, getting lost in a really really good book and thinking imagine if that was me in the book, just running and running and running down the alley, you know, and there's all these trees and bushes and everything, and then I appear and there's this amazing white castle with food just dripping off it. What do you remember it so well? Um, so, yeah, that'd be me. I could go on, but those books come to mind wow, I think.
Speaker 3:I think that's a good collection. Should we also quickly do movies? Because I don't know this isn't if I don't know if they can see it, but right here there's a very, very, very minuscule amount of movies here. Yet in the attic there is most probably two full big clear boxes of just dvds, which I was most probably way too young to read. Some of them, watch some of them, but my mum was out at work. Those were the best things to watch. So let's do two of your favorite movies.
Speaker 1:Oh no, you can't do. Can't do two, all right, we do three, three, three goonies. Absolutely love the goonies. Yeah, I absolutely love. Um, uh, greece, dirty dancing, pretty woman you've gone over three mom, well, you, you just can't. And then I've got my whole catalog um brown sugar, um like breaking absolutely.
Speaker 3:Love it mannequin, absolutely love it all right, all right, let's.
Speaker 1:Let's stop there, our last one, oh, the long kiss. Good night, amazing samuel jackson, amazing, amazing, amazing you done one more three best albums nope there's no three best albums. I anyone who knows me will know I listen to music every day, all day. Music is playing all the time um. I listen to an array of genres right now you're you.
Speaker 3:You have on repeat the tiny desk, the fox, is it that what they call it? The locks. Yeah, on repeat.
Speaker 1:That's what I've heard um, yeah, that was a good one. Um, but no, albums is not albums I've got. There's some so many good arties. If you're from the 80s and the 90s, oh my gosh, like black street, jodeci cut clothes, escape swv h town mint condition. Okay, okay, I get the point, mom.
Speaker 3:Okay, I get the point from ensign christina aguilera.
Speaker 1:All right, gosh to see tlc. Oh my god, mic, check what are we in the house this is.
Speaker 3:This is what I have to deal with, guys yeah, I couldn't do a favorite book I? I'm currently obsessed with my kindle. I got for my last birthday, yes, yeah, and some of those books on that. Yeah, you did. You got that one for me with the with the air frow oh, yeah, yeah, yeah um.
Speaker 1:Some of those books aren't exactly pg, so I won't name those um I don't even know what that means, but you're like reading like a meals and booze what the hell is. Meals and booze.
Speaker 3:What the hell is that? I don't know what that one is. I've never heard of that one. Is that a term? Or is that actually like a book? It's a book, okay. No, I don't know what that one is. I've never heard of that one. Is that a term? Or is that actually like a book? It's a book, okay. No, I don't know that book. Um, I'm currently reading a book that is like fairy tales. So like like um, it's not. It's like werewolves and vampires. You know, I've always loved that sort of foolishness. She calls it um no, I like vampiresness.
Speaker 1:She calls it yeah, as for movies.
Speaker 3:I don't think I could even try why. I like, yeah, I was thinking to, I like to. I like, yeah, twilight's always been a classic for me, or Disney, or any, any, any disney movie. Right now I'm addicted to lilo and stitch, I don't know why, and I couldn't go for albums, um, but I definitely number top one would have to be journals. Justin bieber, of course, any justin bieber album yeah, let's move on. Anything, justin ruber she's so tired of it, guys. Um, let's go for financial discipline oh interesting how do, how do you practice financial discipline?
Speaker 3:are there any money management tips you found particularly helpful, and this is a separate one what do you find incredibly hard to not buy?
Speaker 1:um so incredibly hard. You said that.
Speaker 3:So I think that ties into self-discipline, are you?
Speaker 3:talking about the sweets. Yes, we're on a diet. We're on a diet. You don't even have one in it. You're so lucky there's a box there. It's these boxes. From where is it? What's it called? Again, home bargains and, it's sure, relations. She's had the same addiction since I was probably born. Yeah, but I wasn't actually talking about laces. I was just saying, in general, what is something that you find hard to not buy Like? For me, it's constantly looking at music equipment and wanting to buy stuff that I don't need but want.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay. So me Okay. First of all, managing money Like I'm whack. Respect the honesty. I'm better, all right, I don't know if your dad would say that, but um, no, I'm better. I think I came very much from the bottom up in my career, so I came like starting out. Remember I finished uni. You was three at the time, so you still in sounds free when I so you still needed support, all the after-school clubs, everything.
Speaker 1:So money was gone, dead, dry out, like once you paid for your bills. Everything is gone. So over the years, as my career has grown and strengthened and my salary has changed and my jobs have changed, there's a little bit more uh expenditure that's been available. So when I became disciplined and planned towards, the house stopped taking trips became very disciplined.
Speaker 1:Um stopped certain luxuries. But one thing that I have been doing for years, before I even thought about buying the house, is a spreadsheet and it's just in excel and I load it up into the cloud and I literally just track every single item that hits my account. Now there's a really really good app called emma. Really really good financial app is similar um, where it just tracks every. You link all your accounts to it and it just tracks and lets you know when direct debits are going to leave your account um.
Speaker 3:Monzo does that, by the way monzo does that.
Speaker 1:Emma's really good because it just brings everything together, but most banks have it. Emma's quite powerful, though, and it's secure, um, very, very secure. So I track in a spreadsheet. I am able to see what I have left over. It doesn't help if I get a parking ticket, um, um, but yeah, I am a lot better than how I used to be, but being financially disciplined in this time where we have, uh, economic crisis and people being underpaid and doing double triple, doing their hustle on the side, is hard because you're taking your earnings that you make from your nine to five and pouring them into your projects yeah, so there's nothing left um.
Speaker 1:You still want your luxury. So, yes, I still go on holidays um because I like those um. One thing that I wish just never existed was amazon yeah, I'm linked to that account and I see everything amazon is the enemy. So now I just very much um, because I study behaviors. I couldn't I I understand how you know to get discounts for stuff. You know on many, many shops.
Speaker 3:Those informations to me, apparently, but yeah on many of many shops.
Speaker 1:I'm not. It's very, very rare I'm buying something full price. Forget it. Forget it unless it's designer, because I'm just. It's very hard to get a discount for gucci or louis vuitton yeah no shops, that's full whack price. But anything else I am definitely getting a discount on, but amazon just needs to be out of my life. And but what I've started to do, and very honestly? For instance, I cleared all my credit cards, everything, cleared them, paid them all off, and then I removed all of them from apple pay okay and I took them out of my wallet.
Speaker 1:Well um, but amazon, for some reason still has them on there it's for some reason for some reason um. So discipline for me is just cutting off what I don't need and only using for emergencies. But the finer things is that I can't outside of suites is a little item of clothing or technology asos I don't use asos like I used to. I don't I don't zara, I can't go in zara yeah, you can't go in zara I can't even go in tesco. I'm the worst person In the supermarket. Do you know what?
Speaker 3:Zara was good and this would be a good shout For people, the one near your workplace. What Zara was that Where's?
Speaker 1:Near my workplace. Yeah, oh that's a good Zara.
Speaker 3:That's a good Zara. What's it?
Speaker 1:Where's the area You're talking? New Exchange, yeah that.
Speaker 3:If you want a good Zara, go there, go there. That, if you want a good zara, go there. They got some good, even work outfits, the new battersea I haven't been there.
Speaker 2:Have you been to new battersea? Yeah, it's cool, been there a couple of times when did you go to new battersea?
Speaker 3:when a? Couple of times when you was in manchester studying. Oh, do you see this? I wanted to go to new battersea.
Speaker 1:No, no, invite see not even he wasn't here, he wasn't in, he wasn't in london oh well, okay, all right.
Speaker 3:Next question future vision. Should I ask this question at the end? I'm gonna. I'm gonna ask this question at the end because it links to this lessons from failure. Can you share an experience where you failed but gained a valuable lesson from it? How do you, did you shape it for current approach in life? I kind of answered this.
Speaker 1:Answer this question before um, failure for me is not being consistent. Um, I think if I was a little for my social stuff is. You know, I plan out social for about a month and if the weather is not going great or if I feel like I want to hibernate, I don't post and it just throws everything out of alignment. Okay, and then I notice if I don't post all everything that I've grown, I literally feel like I'm starting all over again consistency it's hard to regain.
Speaker 3:Next question community building. How important is community for you? What steps did you take to nurture your online and offline communities?
Speaker 1:uh, community is everything to me and I don't think I would have realized that before. I think striving butterfly is really striving butterfly and you, being at uni has really shown me about community also heartbreak, loss, relationships. So, you know, I have my church community, I have my friendships and then I have my family. But I think it's really important to give everything that you're receiving. So it's really important to not just take, take, take, take, take, because some people really feed and pour into you without you realizing and you can just be in your own world of, oh poor me, everything's going bad for me, and just absorb, absorb, absorb, absorb and you're not giving anything back out. So after a while it's like, without you realising, you could think I'm a really good friend because I'm always on the other end of the line and they're thinking, oh my gosh, this person just always takes, takes, takes, takes, takes. So community is important to give as well as receive and it is really important that you do give because then it opens up whoever it is within that network to also feel like they're comfortable and safe. Your community needs to feel safe and there's a few people in my network small network that I feel safe with, meaning I can tell them things and they'll take it, they'll hold it, they will advise, they will guide and that's it. No judgment.
Speaker 1:I may get told off because I did something wrong and I didn't listen, but it's more of just don't do that, because you're not going to gain, it's not going to help you. I'm just doing this out of love. And community is important because when you've got real good community, there's no jealousy, there's no. I'm doing this for a gain. It means I'm doing this because if you win, we all win. Yeah, all in, yeah. From the time I knuckle down to buy my house and I think, all the way up to maybe you go into uni, I don't think I really truly appreciated my community. I had really close friends and relationships, but I didn't really tap into my community as best as I could have.
Speaker 3:So knowing that, learning that, seeing that now like community is everything for me next question dealing with self-doubt how do you handle self doubt or imposter syndrome, especially when you're stepping out of your comfort zone?
Speaker 1:uh, this goes. This is linked to community. I is very much my network, my people, um being able to have a couple safe people to hold me accountable. And when I am in doubt and unsure, you know, like starting the podcast, for instance, um, I was in doubt, I was unsure and it was just having friends, people who would be like what are you doing? Why haven't you done this, why haven't you started?
Speaker 3:and respecting why they are pushing me yeah, yeah, okay, last question, guys, you ready, I am. Legacy and impact. What kind of a legacy do you want to leave behind? How are you working towards making that impact now?
Speaker 1:now faith, resilience, empowerment. I want to encourage people to trust, believe and know there's a god. I know they can lean on him. Resilience, um, that through it all, you can get through. It, doesn't matter how life and what life throws at you. Um, there is a purpose for your life. There's a purpose for your life and even if you do not see it, even if you do not know, even if you're in doubt, don't, don't give up. So I want to be able to empower and leave a legacy of empowerment where people are feeling empowered and be like oh my gosh, you know what? I changed my life because I heard something from the striving butterfly I received something from the striving butterfly.
Speaker 1:I heard someone talk from the striving butterfly.
Speaker 2:Don't know her name, but the person who said what they said and executed left a lasting mark on my life.
Speaker 1:So it's not this striving butterfly is not about me. It's about me helping everyone out there to be the best version that they can. I've had a I've had not a bad life. I'm not like, oh my gosh, I've had a misery story. That's why I started this. No, I've had a story that's stretched me, pulled me and really challenged me. But it challenged me to be able to be the best version of myself, without doubt, and appreciate all that I am, because I'm not the same as anybody else. So I want everyone to know that you're not meant to be the same as somebody else. You're meant to be you. So if I can empower you to be yourself and own who you are, then that is everything.
Speaker 3:Wow, yeah, I think that's it we did it.
Speaker 1:We did it like my first, first, first guest, oh no, my first guest.
Speaker 3:I don't know why you're trying to act like you guys. Mom has a fear of these flying spider looking like it's been in it all the time and now everyone has entered the room it's been in there the whole time.
Speaker 1:I've been recording the line, I've been watching it.
Speaker 3:It just sat on the door. It sat on the door the whole time. Yeah, you didn't want to panic me, did you?
Speaker 1:No, I didn't, because we had to get to the end. So what's the plan Right now? There's a fly in the room. You know those dragonflies there's a dragonfly. I don't know what it is.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we did it, but Nice one.
Speaker 1:We got to the very first episode where I have a host and my co-host is kyla um, my mini me, and I'll be so keen to know what your thoughts are on my guest co-host. I'm sure she's going to be coming back to ask me some more questions and maybe sit down and have a conversation that is somewhat different and share with us how her journey is going. If this is your first time listening to A Striving Butterfly, I would encourage you to go back to all the other episodes and listen. Get up to speed. Why are we here?
Speaker 3:Let me ask one more question as well. Oh, now you ask, this isn't for you.
Speaker 1:Oh, you want to answer a question.
Speaker 3:No, no, I'm asking them a question. Oh, go, go go. You can ask me a question. If you've got a question, you got one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay. What did you take from this? I've got two questions.
Speaker 3:You've got two yes um nurturing community naturally community. Yeah, I would say that's what I took from it, because oh, jesus, wait, just wait, just wait. I don't know if mommy just included this or not, but the flying thing came towards us, yeah I hear it, but it flew somewhere.
Speaker 3:Now we don't know where it is. So she's in panic mode. But I was saying, yeah, um, community, uh, nurturing your community, because I can tend to be quite isolating with people and forget what's if they're not right in front of me. So I say I need to work on that and appreciate who I do have.
Speaker 1:And what are your thoughts on Striving Butterfly, Because there's a lot that I brought that no one knew including yourself.
Speaker 3:I'm not really prepared for that question. I'm saying that shag and butterfly is a support, is progressing, it's becoming its own identity. And what? Why? Why did you look behind my head? Is it it behind my head? No, oh, okay, it's recovered its own identity and it's got a long way to go 100%, but I'm proud of you for bringing it as far as you have so far.
Speaker 3:It just started off as this little group chat and a couple messages and one logo was it two? And then she's like pick the logo, I don't want logos, pick the logo. And now we're looking at a new logo and you're every day it's like okay, I'm just gonna be on my iPad and I'm typing, typing. You got doing it. They know about the. No, okay, I can't. Yeah, they know, they know you, sure, okay.
Speaker 3:Well, she's currently working on her affirmation cards. I think you did mention it earlier. Actually, that has taken up a lot of her time. She has a whole book here. It's not even here anymore, but a book with different types of cards, which I didn't even know was a thing.
Speaker 3:Um, but yeah, I couldn't be more proud of where it's becoming and I've even shared it with a couple of my own friends and they've taken their own experience from it. I think from the first episode it was something different because, though I couldn't exactly experience what you went through, there's parts of it that I have gone through myself and I was able to take that part away from it, and it helped me understand no one is ever alone, even your own parents. You never know what they've gone through. You never know what happened before you or what sort of things they don't tell you and what you can learn from that yourself and what path you could have gone on if it wasn't for what they've gone through and what their parents went through. So yeah, will you come back. Yeah, I'll come If all the lighting's this good and you're going to share your story.
Speaker 3:Yeah, give me like two years. No, no, okay. No. No, no, okay, so maybe I do my own little episode just by myself. Yeah, yeah, well, yeah, you guys have to say whether you'd like that or not.
Speaker 1:That would be very, very, very, very opening of me. Yeah, but I do have a question.
Speaker 3:Guys, I do have a question for you guys for them.
Speaker 3:Oh yes, what would you like to see more from my mother? What's a video you would like her to talk about? What's a topic that you think is not mentioned enough? And it doesn't have to be bible related. It could just be about life, or it could be bible related and she could do an episode on three of her favorite books from the bible. I don't know, but definitely put in the comments. What would you like to see and subscribe? I guess there was this poke. I don't do all of this stuff, I just say subscribe, guys yeah, but no, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1:Thank you, kyla. Thank you, my first guest, um, we crammed into my small, small, small office and we made it happen. We've gone through all sorts in this period of time that we have recorded. What did you see it?
Speaker 3:I have a question um. Do you haven't, have you done a topic on conversation?
Speaker 1:with men. What do you mean?
Speaker 3:conversation with men Like ask men questions outside of it and bring it inside. Do you think maybe they would like to see that they?
Speaker 1:can ask and they can comment, do you guys?
Speaker 3:want an episode with a gentleman.
Speaker 1:What male perspective.
Speaker 3:Yeah, striving Butterfly male perspective. Yeah, striving butterfly male perspective or questions women can ask men to understand more, or a perspective men can bring to women that they may need to understand more of.
Speaker 1:It's not just a women's podcast, guys right it is not just a women's podcast, but is very much geared towards women but, meaning that guests can be male or female and perspectives can be male or female yeah, so that's just one more thing, and the next guest oh, let's see.
Speaker 1:Let's see and just to let you know, so this has been one year, a lot has happened and a lot of things are coming. We've launched a new logo um, I say we, I've launched a new logo and that you will see. And there is also a whatsapp community that I have set up and it's very much closed community group where you can have authentic conversations with like-minded people and ask questions. I'm building this community so women can come together, talk, share, empower and just build up so they know that they're not alone. You can have friends, but sometimes you want someone else's perspective and this is what this community is for to help you in a time of need.
Speaker 3:And until next time, stay focused, stay encouraged, stay striving and stay tuned for the next episode of a striving butterfly peace, wait, wait, it's peace out guys bye.
Speaker 1:Yeah, sabian has been here all the time. He's been pretty good, he's been good.
Speaker 3:No barking, did you eat? He never barks, did you?
Speaker 1:eat the fly. Did you eat it? Say bye, sabian, bye.
