Turning Thirty: Sipping on Acceptance with Ashley Kristeen Vega

This heart-to-heart is a dance between the tenderness of self-compassion and the rhythm of daily life's relentless pace. We tackle the art of self-parenting, a concept that intertwines the acknowledgement of our imperfections with the relentless pursuit of our dreams. You'll hear us muse about the equilibrium between granting ourselves leniency during life's storms and steadfastly keeping up with the mundane, like ensuring there's clean laundry. Sprinkled with personal memories, our dialogue is an invitation to nurture trust in oneself through dedicated self-care and to intentionally curate moments of tranquility and delight amidst our bustling existences. Sit back, sip your tea, and allow us to accompany you on this exploration of self-acceptance, with Ashley Kristeen Vega as our guest this week.

Transcript

TJ: 0:11

Hey friends, it's TJ. And you're listening to Tea with TJ, where our love for tea, conversation and self-improvement intersect. So let's take a deeper dive into my cup and let's have a chat. Hey friends, it's TJ. Welcome back to another episode of Tea with TJ, and today we're having a cup of Amber White. It's a white tea, kind of floral, Kind of perfect for this like semi-fall-ish spring day in New York City. But I have a very special guest with me today that I love and adore. Go ahead and introduce yourself.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 0:59

Hello world. My name is Ashley Christine Vega vega. I'm an actress, director, producer person in based in new york city. Tj and I have known each other for um what feels like 18 lifetimes, but is only a few years I really only met you like right before everything. Everything fell to pieces, covid-wise.

TJ: 1:26

I think we met. What right before I went to Disney, like 2019?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 1:31

Yeah, we met briefly before you went to Disney. And then you were gone for a whole long time, and then again we got close in the bubble. Yes, oh my God, the bubble.

TJ: 1:43

Jesus, that's another. Oh my God, the bubble. Jesus, that's another.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 1:48

That's a different kind of trauma, different time. We'll work on that later.

TJ: 1:52

But I'm so excited to have you on the show, on the podcast today Because you are the type of person that I know will speak from your heart and from your soul, and I've always admired that and loved it about you, so I'm excited for our conversation.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 2:11

Don't expect anything profound, we're just having a conversation and sipping some tea. Can I curse on this podcast?

TJ: 2:19

Okay, great, just want to take a look at that. Absolutely, hi, mom.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 2:23

That's going to be fun.

TJ: 2:25

So when I gave you the topics of discussion, you chose acceptance. I sure did, which. I am very intrigued to know what spoke out to you about that topic.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 2:39

So I will say, first and foremost, the reason I chose that, as opposed to the other things that you'd prompted, was because it was the most scary to me okay, and I have always um been a part of the camp. That like, if something scares you, that means that you're on the right path you have to do it so acceptance.

TJ: 3:01

I love it. Yay, I love it. What I mean? Do you, would you, would you mind sharing what scared you about it?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 3:07

or I think I guess we're really getting into it. Let's do it. Um so I think acceptance is a lifelong journey yeah from like. I know that I have always had struggles like accepting who I am and accepting, like, my place in the world or what that is, and I think finally, as I'm very quickly approaching 30 this summer, that Saturn return is real. Yeah, that is absolutely real.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 3:46

But as I have been going through this, it's really just been like accepting where I am, what I have, what I have to offer, and being okay with it.

TJ: 3:58

Yeah.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 3:59

Instead of like fighting it yeah, and I think that's what this whole thing has been is leaning into like I don't have to fight, yeah, if I just let it be just be and what's so strange is that more opportunity has been coming my way ever since I've been like you know what? I accept things as they are. We're good with what we have and whatever happens happens. And then it's been like a magnet and I'm like, okay, well, we'll sleep when we can. But yeah, it's acceptance. I think, yeah, it's a journey.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 4:38

It certainly has been for me and for you as well.

TJ: 4:41

Oh my God, I, I, I, yeah, and for you as well, oh my God. Acceptance is one of those things that I'm still learning how to exist with it. But the journey itself has been eye-opening Everything from accepting my sexuality, accepting my relationship status, accepting my life choices of like being in New York, choosing to be an actor, all of that kind of stuff. But as I've gotten older and I agree that, like as you approach 30, something just happens, something clicks in you that opens the world up in like a whole new, different way. Like I feel, like I cause I celebrated my 30th while I was working at Disney and I would say, like within that first month after being there, my life kind of shifted. Like there were certain things that I was no longer willing to put up with. There were certain things that I was no longer willing to put up with. There were certain things.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 5:46

Yeah, it's like accepting that, like this is who I am, this is what I want, and that's okay. Yeah, like it's accepting that there are truly no rules.

TJ: 5:59

You get to decide your own. Yeah.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 6:01

Everything it's um, it's very freeing.

TJ: 6:05

Is that?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 6:06

too cliche.

TJ: 6:07

No, it's very freeing.

TJ: 6:09

We'll say that I accept that it's very freeing to just be okay with where you are and who you are and what's going on, and choosing to go after what you want but not have to necessarily drive yourself crazy to get it, you just let it be, and I feel like I, on that journey of like turning 30 and being away from home during that time period, this idea of acceptance and this, this new space that I was inhabiting at the time, taught me a lot about self-worth and finally seeing myself and not actually seeing how people saw me, which I think is a big, big, big, big big realization to have. And I think, and I'm hoping, I'm hoping that once you hit 30, you will have this kind of like evolving moment for yourself. But I will tell you, coming from 29 into 30, that 29th year is going to be a little little difficult.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 7:25

It already has been a wild ride.

TJ: 7:28

Yeah.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 7:29

As well. You know it's been a wild ride.

TJ: 7:32

But I promise on the other side it's worth it.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 7:36

And that's the thing. I was very, very or had been up until recently. Actually, I was really concerned not concerned, but like nervous about approaching 30. Because, everyone's like. It's such a big number, it's a big year, but like honey, I've been 30 since I was six years old.

TJ: 7:54

Like I have very much been Same.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 7:56

Like my inner soul is like a 38 year old woman who is just like doing her own thing and living her best life and I'm finally like stepping into that. I love that these grays are coming in and I'm loving them.

TJ: 8:12

They look great on you. Thanks, you're just saying that, no no, I have a question for you.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 8:21

Okay, sips tea, go ahead.

TJ: 8:24

Nothing crazy, I'm just as we're having this discussion about acceptance, what do you think has been now, now that you are on your way to 30 and kind of living a life, so to speak, right, what do you think has been the biggest thing for you to, or what has been the hardest thing, I would say, for you to like, accept about yourself?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 8:46

So just really breezy fun topics on this one huh. Hardest thing to accept about myself I'm a people pleaser. I'm a people pleaser and I know this now and like I can see it coming and I'm accepting keyword of the day. If we made a drinking game of every time we said accepting, acceptance or anything, we would um oh, we'd be completely, yeah, we would be absolutely hammered anyway um I.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 9:20

I accept that part of me but, I'm also accepting that, like I don't have to care about anything that anyone thinks other than myself. Exactly, and that is like a revelation. Like what it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks really, which is again kind of a mind fuck as an actor, because that's kind of all that we want.

TJ: 9:45

You're constantly chasing this, yeah.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 9:49

It's so funny we spend so much time trying to get ourselves out there and trying to get ourselves seen and doing everything that we can to make sure that our career is, you know, put forward in this way, is, you know, put forward in this way? And, uh, I feel like for me personally I won't speak for everyone else, but for me personally I had not put that amount of care into accepting my own self, and so now I don't know if it's the start. Mercury was in retrograde and the saturn is returning, okay, great, but something shifted recently where I was like, oh, where have I been?

TJ: 10:26

for me, like, hmm, and that's a very special place to be and I feel like, especially as an artist, especially as creatives, where so much of our existence is wanting to have approval from people and have people recognize our work and our worth and the work that we do, and we want the metaphoric applause, um, from anything that we do, but in reality it actually doesn't even matter. Right, like the reality.

TJ: 10:59

The reality is is that one should be in a place where you are creating the work or and I'm and I'm I always speak from an artist point of view, because that's the type of person that I am and, like you know, and so, as an artist, you know, we should, in theory, be proud of whatever we are putting out into the world and hoping that it reaches someone, or hope that it touches someone in whatever kind of way, without the promise of acceptance of it, or applause, or accolades or you know whatever list of things you want to name off.

TJ: 11:37

And so that that mentality, I think, is what shifted in me when it came to like really seeing the world and be like, oh shit, I don't actually, I don't have to care Like I can be proud of what I do, and sure I can. I can be professional in certain situations, line a certain way or you know, whatever it is, I can be OK with just putting it out as it is and not expecting someone to be like, oh, that was actually really good.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 12:17

As long as I'm OK with it and say oh my God, that was such a great show Like wow, I never would have thought of that, which is always great. But, like exactly to your point, I feel like I'm entering this space where, like, I don't need the validation.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 12:34

I'm so happy to just be doing the thing, and that hasn't always been the case. So this shit, like I don't know what, I don't know what shifted, I don't know what stars are talking to each other, or whatever, but like I, and maybe it's like maturity or whatever, I'll give myself credit for that. Actually, I am maturing, sure, but I'm getting to this spot where it's just like I get to do this.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 13:00

And it feels great, like, and some or sometimes it doesn't feel great, but again, that's like this journey of I don't need someone to be like. That was the best thing I've ever seen. I don't care if it's the best thing you've ever seen, it's something I made.

TJ: 13:13

And I'm going to be proud of it Exactly.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 13:16

You know, tj knows.

TJ: 13:20

I mean and truly, though I think that is the space that I have actively made a choice to live out of and operate out of as an artist I mean, and even in my everyday life, of like being in this space of, because I feel like it does kind of equate to self-worth and like knowing your own self-worth and like seriously seeing yourself as the fully fleshed out human being that you are, and not some idea of a person or how people perceive you, cause I feel like there's and I will touch on this subject because, as a Southerner, oh, oh, here we go, you know we, we grow up in this environment, in this community that in this state of mind where, at least for me I don't want to speak for you, because I'm a southern church kid, which is very specific- OK, yeah, they're fairly synonymous, but I grew up very much under the impression that I had to present a certain way

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 14:29

in order to be accepted under the impression that I had to present a certain way in order to be accepted.

TJ: 14:32

Right, yeah, and that there were things that you did and didn't do in public. Right, there were certain titles of people that you had to acknowledge constantly, like I cannot remember the last time that I've said yes ma'am or no ma'am, or yes sir or no sir, and not because not out of a space of like disrespect, sure, but out of, out of this realization that I'm like that's very specific to that region, right, but also this idea of people having to metaphorically curtsy every time you meet someone sure down south.

TJ: 15:10

It makes sense, it works, it's a part of the culture. I get that Living in New York, being in the North in general, I think I realized that like one. I had a very specific situation where I worked with someone and I called her ma'am and she said please don't call me that, Like that was disrespectful to her. Yep, I've experienced that too.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 15:29

And so her ma'am and she said please, don't call me that like that was disrespectful to her. Yeah, and so just and so shifting cultures.

TJ: 15:34

Coming to new york and having that realization and being like, oh yeah, people don't. People just want to be seen as people yeah they don't need titles, in, in, in. You know these things to exist around them. They just want to be seen.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 15:48

For sure. It's interesting that you bring that up and I don't mean to speak for the entire South or the entire North or for anybody other than my own observation Disclaimer here no one can't see me. It's interesting when you say that because I do feel like in the North and I say the North like I've been all around in New York City specifically, particularly in this artist bubble that I feel like I live in, people really value individualism and really value like I am my own person, I'm doing my own thing, this is who I am, whereas again, y'all don't cancel me particularly in the South, I feel like there is that culture of like the yes ma'am, no ma'am, and that is tied to like a community structure and that like there's an interesting dichotomy there of like there's a group of people, a tribe of people that I've found in new york that is completely different than what I had growing up in Texas and it's culturally are so different, but like I do think to your point that that's a big reason why, like it's just clicking for me now.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 17:04

That like I don't have to curtsy to anyone. I don't have to say yes, ma'am, no ma'am. I do, and I will probably when I go back home to Texas to see family and to see those kinds of things, because it's different.

TJ: 17:16

There's a different pace.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 17:17

There's a different thing to it all, but that also doesn't compromise who I am as a person and how I move through the world.

TJ: 17:24

I feel like.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 17:24

I'm moving through the world differently.

TJ: 17:26

Yeah, yeah, yeah, who knew? Who knew?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 17:31

My God Also you said yes, ma'am, no ma'am, in this little southern drawl.

TJ: 17:36

And I said oh, it comes back. It comes back pretty quickly, it does.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 17:40

You put some whiskey in this cup. Well, that's a different show.

TJ: 17:42

You'll hear a lot.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 17:43

That's a different show, but I will never lose y'all. Y'all is firmly with me for the rest of my life and I will never correct it and y'all will always live with me.

TJ: 17:55

Oh, of course, what do you think has been the biggest lesson thus far, because I still know that you're going through this journey, but what do you think has been the biggest lesson you've learned thus far when it comes to accepting yourself?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 18:15

Ooh, I think it's that it's hard some things come easily, but a lot of them it's like you're the one who has to show up for yourself every day. You're the one who has to like. Essentially, and again, all journeys are very individual to each person, but for me, recently I've had to like parent myself and almost like bully myself into doing things that I need to be doing Because, like, who else is going to do that? And I have to accept that. Like I woke up this morning and I didn't do my laundry, like I said I was going to do, so now I have to find time to do it again. Part of accepting yourself is accepting your flaws and knowing where you fall short, but then holding yourself accountable.

TJ: 19:16

Yeah.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 19:17

That is the hardest part is holding yourself accountable.

TJ: 19:20

Yeah.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 19:20

Because you can always give yourself slack and you should Like as well. You know we've been working a lot lately. A lot has been happening, so I'm giving myself a little grace, but I'm also like, honey, you gotta watch your clothes like there's.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 19:34

There's a certain point where you have to, um, hold yourself accountable to the things that you said you were going to do yeah because that is not only how you accept yourself, but that's how you build trust in yourself, is showing up for yourself to those goals that you set. Because if you don't like, there are lots of things that can be done for you, and especially if you throw money at the problem, there's lots of things that can be fixed, but there are certain things that can't. No one can work out for you.

TJ: 20:02

Exactly.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 20:02

No one can eat for you, no one can change your mind for you except for you, and there's like a lot of internal work that has to be done, and not all of it's easy.

TJ: 20:15

Yeah, and I think that's that is something that I have been um answering the same question that I just threw to you. I think that has been my lesson in this is that I get to make choices for my life, and the beautiful aspect of this, and the beautiful thing that I have taken away from that space is being like, like you said, we've been working a lot lately, right, and the adult brain part of me is very much like I need to do this, I need to do this, I need to do this, I need to do this. Brain part of me is very much like I need to do this, I need to do this, I need to do this, I need to do this, but then also the the self, that is the parent, if you will, since you, since you use that term moments ago.

TJ: 21:01

Um the parent in me is like but you need to rest. Yeah, you have not rest in months. Sit down, take a nap, do whatever that is and, for me specifically, do something that brings you joy, because you've not had any joy in the past.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 21:23

In a bit. We'll say in a bit.

TJ: 21:26

Six months.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 21:28

No, I hear you. And good on you for parenting yourself to rest, and that, like I parent, is the nice thing in my head. I'm like bullying myself like you dumb bitch. Instead of getting shit done, you actually just laid in bed today, but then I was like getting ready to come over here and was like I think it was wise to rest this morning was like.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 21:50

I think it was wise to rest this morning, because it's about to be super busy until probably the end of June for me, and yeah, and that's good, that's great. I'm very, very thankful and I am practicing gratitude every day, but it's also like you have to take care of yourself too, absolutely, and taking the time not only to rest but exactly what you said, to make sure you feel joy at some point, because at that point, what is it all for?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 22:19

Exactly Like if we're grinding and doing and working towards something incredible. There's a time for that, but then you also have to enjoy the fruits of your labor at a certain point, and if you don't make time for it, it will so easily pass you by.

TJ: 22:38

Is there a moment in time that you can remember where you had this thought, this idea of acceptance, like earlier on in your life?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 22:52

Oh, yes, Gosh. Let me tell you a very embarrassing story, and this will lead to the acceptance of it. Picture it Tiny little Ashley was in second grade, I believe, back in Frisco, Texas. My mom was a teacher at the elementary school that I was going to and there was a talent show. I don't know if I've told you this story.

TJ: 23:24

No, I've not heard this story there was a talent show.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 23:26

I was so excited. I was like I'm'm gonna do it because I'm a singer now had I ever been a singer no never, um. But I was like I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna sing in front of the entire school because, it was a um.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 23:43

There's a talent show in front of the entire um student body assembly, so it was um. Stakes are high. In second grade I was ready for it, um, and of course I chose to sing britney spears's. I know right, hold on, wait for the title. I'm not a girl, not yet a woman wow yeah okay, all right again.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 24:09

I thought I was 35 when I was in second grade and I was ready, I was prepared. I had been like really ramping myself up for this. I said I can do this, I can do this. And then the time comes, it's just me standing on stage with a microphone. I had missed my cue, which is any performer knows the second that that happens. You're like I have to recover. I have to recover, but this is my first time ever like being on stage singing a solo by myself, without anybody, and I started Weeping and I was like holding this microphone and just crying and crying and the music was still playing. I was like trying to say words. Nothing was coming out, nothing was coming. So then my dear mother ran out on stage and she just like held me and was like humming with me and I was still just crying and they eventually just turned off the music and everyone just like I guess, great. And so I was like, oh no, like mom, I messed up, it was so bad. And she was like you're fine, you're fine.

TJ: 25:19

I love it.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 25:21

And I said how am I fine? That was so embarrassing Like even now I'm just like, oh my, I'm getting hot just thinking about it. But she was like you're fine, accept the loss.

TJ: 25:30

Come on, mom, just thinking about it. But she was like you're fine, accept the loss.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 25:34

Come on, I love it. It's like okay, if this is what acceptance feels like like letting go hmm, yeah, yeah.

TJ: 25:42

Also, moms always know exactly what to say in the right moment. To like bring you, I'm going to say it, bring you back to one.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 25:51

Back to one.

TJ: 25:52

You know, I love that.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 25:54

And to any of those kids who saw that performance. You're welcome.

TJ: 25:59

You're welcome.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 26:00

Look, it was entertaining. I won't say it was good, but it was entertaining, I'm sure.

TJ: 26:04

Oh, wow, yeah, I wish.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 26:05

I could have been there was good, but it was entertaining, I'm sure.

TJ: 26:07

Oh wow, yeah, I wish I could have been there, no, you don't no, you don't no. Oh, my God.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 26:13

But yeah, I accepted that like.

TJ: 26:17

Yeah, yeah.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 26:18

That at that point, there's truly nothing you can do. There's truly, truly, truly nothing you can do. And you just say thank you and move on truly nothing you can do and you just say thank you and move on and and like you've been in auditions where you're like I biffed that I'm so sorry to waste your time. Thank you so much. I'll see myself out. Yeah, and it's like yeah, okay yeah okay, because again none of it matters exactly.

TJ: 26:41

None of it matters, none of it, none of it matters, so it yeah, gosh matters.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 26:45

So yeah, oh my gosh I think that is truly like.

TJ: 26:48

That is a mantra that I have had to live with now of like none of it actually matters. Nothing matters, except for the things that I want to matter.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 26:58

And the people that you want to matter. There should be people in your life whose opinions you value deeply and who you can go to and be like, hey, give me your honest opinion, yeah. And those are the people who will hold you accountable and those are the people who will lift you up yeah, because if you don't have those people, you end up being a sissy, bad, yeah, or a serial killer or something else. And friends are important. A community is important yeah, but you should feel the freedom to be an individual within your community.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 27:36

Exactly, which is a hard thing to find.

TJ: 27:38

It is.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 27:38

Which is again why it's a journey. We should add journey to the take a sip every time we say it, because people will be plastered.

TJ: 27:48

So we are at time? Nuh-uh, we are no way we are. We've hit our mark.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 27:55

Well, you've got some good secrets out of me. Oh my gosh, I have not ever told anyone that story of me in second grade.

TJ: 28:04

It is profoundly embarrassing. So you're welcome. World DJ got it out for you. Yeah, and I'm sure they're going to love it.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 28:12

We'll see.

TJ: 28:14

But before we go you know this because you listen to the show.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 28:18

I do. I'm a big fan. I have three questions for you. I'm very scared of these questions, specifically, Don't be afraid.

TJ: 28:24

Unrelated to the topic, just to share with our folks listening a little nugget of knowledge, that's all.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 28:31

All right Nuggets of knowledge. We can do that.

TJ: 28:35

What do you value the most?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 28:37

What do I value the most? Ooh, the first thing that came to mind was compassion.

TJ: 28:46

Yes.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 28:51

Absolutely. It's a hard world out there and if you don't feel for other people, you're gonna have a really lonely, really hard time.

TJ: 28:56

Yeah, yeah yeah, I love that yeah, I'm like that one. Okay, um, where do you feel your heart lives?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 29:10

TJ, you and these golly. Where do I feel my heart lives? Where it is nurtured.

TJ: 29:23

I love that. That's a good answer.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 29:29

That changes. I mean, and there are times where the place that your heart was, that it was nurtured, sometimes you need to take a step away from that Absolutely, because the flavors change for a minute, yeah, and you go do something else, find somewhere else where your heart is nurtured, and then you can always go back.

TJ: 29:47

You can always go back Exactly.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 29:49

But yeah, I think which also ties into compassion like you really have to accept give and accept love freely. Because, that's the most important thing to me, I agree.

TJ: 30:11

And then final question who inspires you the most?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 30:17

These very, very deep questions, I'm probably going to say my mom, she is just a wonderful woman. I think moms in general are gorgeous, profound creatures who are again full of compassion, full of love, truly are nurturing people, and I think being able to give people safety, to be able to be vulnerable like that is a gift that my mom gave me a long time ago. I love that, yeah.

TJ: 30:56

Yay, yay, we did it.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 30:59

We did it and I didn't say fuck more than once.

TJ: 31:02

Well, that's all right. You can say it as many times as you want.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 31:05

Buggety, buggety, buggety, bug, there you go. Thank you, thank you.

TJ: 31:08

Thank you for doing this.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 31:10

Happy to Thank you for having me, and thank you for the tea. This was actually really good.

TJ: 31:13

Thank you. I try to pick. You know, I have a little recipe that I follow when I pick out teas for people, but this is amazing. I love you. I adore you, um, and this will not be your last time on the show, okay, so you're aware, I will definitely have you back I will be here anytime.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 31:37

I also live six blocks away from you yeah, exactly easy, easy um.

TJ: 31:44

Where can the folks find?

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 31:44

you. You can find me the best is on the Instagram at Ashley Christine Vega, k-r-i-s-t-e-e-n. Because we like to keep it spicy. I have a show coming up soon. It's called Pluto is Listening by David James Parr at Under St Mark's in May, on the 16th. No six set. It's in may, okay, link in bio great, there we go. Perfect numbers aren't for me um, yeah, but I'm around awesome and I'm also just a big fan of the show, yes, and of you as a person and as an artist, thank you.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 32:27

Thank you for having me.

TJ: 32:28

Of course, anytime, anytime.

Ashley Kristeen Vega : 32:30

OK, you say that, but and tomorrow on Tea with TJ.

TJ: 32:35

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