Have you ever felt the pressure to chase an ideal body that seems just out of reach? Let's talk about the "dream body" marketing and recognizing that the pursuit of perfection can lead to an unhealthy obsession with an ever-shifting beauty ideal. By focusing on what's truly attainable—a healthy body for life—we encourage you to love and appreciate the skin you're in, acknowledging that no specific workout or diet is a one-size-fits-all solution.
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Have you ever felt the pressure to chase an ideal body that seems just out of reach? Let's talk about the "dream body" marketing and recognizing that the pursuit of perfection can lead to an unhealthy obsession with an ever-shifting beauty ideal. By focusing on what's truly attainable—a healthy body for life—we encourage you to love and appreciate the skin you're in, acknowledging that no specific workout or diet is a one-size-fits-all solution.
Your voice is essential in this movement of positive reinforcement and collective empowerment. By sharing stories, tagging friends, and contributing to the conversation, we stand together in creating a world where every female can recognize and harness her power. Tune in and become part of a community that supports, celebrates, and paves the way for a future of inclusivity and support for all women.
That is a question that has popped up on my For you page several times over the past couple of days and we got to talk about it because, I mean, you already know my feels about bodies and body image and this push to create the quote unquote perfect body. But I mean, first of all, like, let's just let's be honest. Who would read that question and say, nope, I don't want my dream body? Never, none of us would be like, oh yeah, I mean sure, sign me up, and that's marketing, right? We know that when businesses and entrepreneurs and people are sharing on social media, the goal is always to get people to say yes, right, because when you say yes, it's a psychological effect in our brains that say yes, yes, yes. That makes us want to say yes, yes, I'll buy something. And so I know that these tactics that's why people do this on social media is want to build your dream body for summer. Instantly. They know that our brains are going to go yes, because we have been grown in a society that tells us that our only goal as women should be to have a dream body, to look perfect for the outside world. So duh. But what I really find interesting about this is what to build. I'm literally looking at it right now what to build your dream body. So dream body is all capitalized.
Danielle La Rose:
What is a dream body Like? What is a dream body? Obviously, it's always going to change because society changes and we switch around. What it means to be perfect dream body, whatnot right Like? It always is changing and it depends on which culture you're part of as to what is actually a dream body. Sometimes it's going to be smaller, sometimes it's going to be larger, sometimes it's going to be big hips and sometimes it's going to be big breasts, and sometimes it's going to be smaller, sometimes it's going to be larger, sometimes it's going to be big hips and sometimes it's going to be big breasts, and sometimes it's going to be big hair and sometimes it's going to be. You know, it's always going to change. It's designed that way. So we're always chasing after quote, unquote dream body.
Danielle La Rose:
But let's just imagine for a second your dream body. How would we, how could you possibly create a dream body in two months? Number one like let's just call it out you will never oh, I'm about to go Okay, you will never have your dream body, plain and simple. So you can say yes to this question all day long and they can promise you that they're going to give you your dream body, but they absolutely cannot. You will never achieve it because it is impossible.
Danielle La Rose:
Dream bodies exist, with filters and editing and surgeries. That's how they exist. And then they put them in our world and say this is what you should aspire to, and 99.8 percent of humans can never, ever, ever, even get close. It's unrealistic, it's not attainable. That's how the beauty industry is a 550 billion dollar industry, because they know that, by this focus and force on trying to get everyone to want this dream body, that we humans, especially women, are going to buy the products, buy the surgeries, buy the things in order to create the dream body.
Danielle La Rose:
So your dream this whole thing about you? Want to build your dream body? Even if the answer is yes, even if you tried really, really, really, really hard, it will never, ever happen. It's impossible because the dream body is not a real life thing. It will never be in reality. What I would love for this question to be is is want to build your healthiest body for summer? Let's talk about that. Let's talk about how to build a healthy body that, not just for summer, but for life.
Danielle La Rose:
So that's the first problem with this, right? Well, there's many problems, but one of the problems is that you're never going to be able to attain a dream body and this marketing pool is really not assisting in our body image and us viewing ourselves not as objects but as humans who get to fall in love with the very body that they live in. And even if and again you don't have to love your body, but to at least appreciate it and not feel stressed and overwhelmed and frustrated with your body, right, but when we read these things of want to build your dream body, that instantly pulls the frustration because it's like well, okay, so what's wrong with my body? Right, what's wrong with my body right now? And we can easily pick those things apart, because we've been sold this idea of dream body and we have something in our head and we will never live up to that. Here's the thing I even and the second part that I really struggle with with advertising like this is that you know, it goes on.
Danielle La Rose:
She tells us how to have your dream body and it's all these different workouts and things to do, right, workout, food, cool, like we already know. Right, like how to get healthier. And again, she's not talking about health, she's talking about building your dream body, which, by the way, no one can ever tell you that if a coach, a trainer, a nutrition coach like I'm, a personal trainer, nutrition coach, sociologist, body confidence coach like I, can never, ever, ever, ever tell you that the things that I to do to have your have your dream body right Like that's false advertising we should sue. No, like it just, it's just the reality. I can't tell you that I can help you do the workouts that are going to help your body feel good and and change and build muscle and and right and to have energy, and I can share those things with you. But to say that I can help you and tell you exactly what to do to build your dream body is impossible.
Danielle La Rose:
Because, also, she gives this list of like workouts and things to do. If all of us, if you and I, did the same exact thing, guess what? Our bodies would never look the same. My body is my body and your body is your body, and they will never be the exact same, no matter if we do the same workout, eat the same food. We are different. That's the beauty of the world. If we were all supposed to have this dream body and look the same, we wouldn't have the beautiful world that we have. That has different types of humans in it. And so if you I guess my point with that was if you see trainers and coaches and gurus and stuff saying here's a list of things to do to get your dream body run away, hey, that's a good workout. Go, run, run away. I don't run, but run away, run away as fast as you can, because they're promising you something that you will never get. And they're also in the mindset that these list of things will create the quote unquote perfect body, and that's not factual. They cannot promise you that that will never happen. And also, that's not based on health. It's not based on your goals. It's not based on the lifestyle that you want.
Danielle La Rose:
You know, it wasn't long ago, when I was actually in a space where I was my top priority was focusing on my body and I worked out really, really hard. It was still only 30 minutes a day, but I ended up getting up to 45 minutes. But I worked out every day and I ate like the healthiest way I possibly could for my body, and I got to a point to where I had like a four pack, almost a six pack, but it stayed at four. I mean, six is kind of overdoing it. But so I had. You know I was, I had muscles and I did have energy and I was confident and I felt good and all of those things.
Danielle La Rose:
And then it hit me and I realized I was missing out on life because I was so structured and so obsessed with my eating plan, with my workouts, that I said no to life. I said no to going out to dinner with friends, I said no to going on trips, I said no to doing certain things because I couldn't miss a workout, I couldn't eat off of my meal plan. And that was such, again, my body was healthy. I felt good, like it wasn't a diet, it wasn't, you know, extreme, it was just very. I guess I shouldn't say it wasn't extreme. I was extreme.
Danielle La Rose:
But and I realized in that moment that this isn't what success and health means to me. This isn't what health means to me. This isn't what health means to me. This isn't what wellness means to me. For me, health and wellness is about living a great life with lots of energy, with confidence and joy, and food and fitness are simply tools to help me live that great life. And so when I had that shift in my mindset, I was like hold the phone, I can miss a workout, I can go and enjoy dinners, I can go and relax and still enjoy food and be healthy. That's what health and success, or that's what success means to me with health and wellness. It is not building this quote unquote dream body. And so if I were to follow their list of expectations to create the dream body and I wanted to get close to a quote unquote dream body I would not be living a great life, right, because that's not what success means to me my health and wellness journey.
Danielle La Rose:
So I bring this to you because number one, it irritates me, so I want to talk about it and you're my humans, and also because I want us to just like be aware that not just are we seeing this, but the little girls in our lives are seeing these things. They're seeing how to build a dream body. That's why a lot like 70% of 17 year old girls have issues with their bodies. That's why 70 to 85% of women don't do life activities, because they're so they don't have a positive body image that they don't want to go do life. And so we're seeing this, little girls are seeing this and they're trying to figure out how can I create this dream body? Do I just do these workouts?
Danielle La Rose:
And so we have to be very aware aware that we're going to see these things and have to have these conversations and have to ask ourselves okay, do I really want my dream body? Do I really or do I really want to be healthy? Do I want a combination of both? Do I understand that having a dream body isn't actually real and that's not going to happen? And what are my actual goals? And so we get to come back to that place of asking ourselves what's really important to me, how do I want to feel? What would make me proud?
Danielle La Rose:
And reminding ourselves that this is all a marketing ploy from trainers and coaches and people in the industry that know that when they ask us these questions, we're going to say yes and we're going to buy in, because they know that we are so insecure in our bodies that we will do anything to change them, to make them quote unquote perfect, and we will never reach that. That's why we have 70 and 80 year old women who are still struggling with wearing tank tops or wearing shorts or right Like, they still struggle with their body image because they never figured out how to deal with that. They followed the diets, they did the workouts, they did those things, but they never shifted their mindset around their body, around food, around fitness, and they probably saw things like this in magazines, on TV, and tried their whole lives to have that quote unquote perfect body for summer, and they never achieved it. And they still don't feel confident in their bodies to this day, and that is something that I am not okay with and it's my mission to change this. So we have to call these things out when we see them and be aware that we see them, and make sure that our eyes are open and we ask those important questions of ourselves, of what's really important to me.
Danielle La Rose:
How do I want to feel?
Danielle La Rose:
What would bring me joy? What would make me proud? What does health mean to me? What does bring me joy? What would make me proud? How, like? What does health mean to me? What does success and health mean? Do I have a positive relationship with food and fitness in my body?
Danielle La Rose:
And if you struggle with those things and you're looking for support, hello, I'm here to support you. Or please go find someone who has this sort of mindset of I won't help you create the perfect body for summer, but I will help you figure out how to have a healthy relationship with your body, with your food, with your fitness, to create healthy habits that help you live the life that you want to live. If that's their message, I support them. I support you going and working with them, because that is how we create confidence and joy and health in this world. So that's my spiel of the day.
Danielle La Rose:
I'd love to hear your thoughts. If you're like, oh, I really needed this in my life. I'm seeing these things places, please feel free to share this, tag me, give me your thoughts, tell a friend all the things. The more that we can support and empower other girls and women in our lives, the absolute better. So thank you for tuning in today, thank you for listening to this. I can't wait to hear your feedback and I will talk to you on the next episode. Bye, friend.
