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Navigating Life's Chaos with Cheez-Its, Friendship, and the "Five Rule" for Positive Living

• Danielle Nicole La Rose

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What unexpected impact could a chat about Cheez-Its and dating have on your well-being? Join me and my best friend, a child development and self-care guru, as we navigate the delightful chaos of our open-tab minds. Amidst laughter and randomness, we offer insights and practical strategies for both kids and adults. From the spontaneity of our conversation to the quirky connections we draw between topics, this episode is a playful exploration of friendship and life's lighter moments. Grab your favorite snack, and let's see where this wild ride takes us!

Our friendship has shaped us in ways we never imagined, and through our candid chats, we highlight how vital it is to have people who make us better. We share the value of finding joy in simplicity, whether it's through indulging in snacks or having genuine conversations. As we revisit the concept of our Pretty Powerful Girl program, we stress the importance of empowering each other while also stepping back to enjoy life's simple pleasures. The challenges of life are relentless, but so is the power of friendship to uplift and motivate us.

Ever pondered if a chatbot could replace your best friend? Our banter takes a humorous twist as we consider the quirks of AI and its cultural impact, drawing inspiration from films like "Inside Out 2." But there's more than just humor here; we introduce the "five rule" for positive living to help manage the overwhelming world of social media. Our lively discussion concludes with an invitation to embrace existence, emphasizing the value of mentorship and community through the Pretty Powerful Girl program. Tune in for a blend of humor, heart, and a few practical life hacks!

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Danielle La Rose:

I hope you're ready to laugh, get awkward and feel like you're just sitting with two of your best friends having the most random conversations, having no idea where the conversation was gonna go, because that's exactly what happened when I was hanging out with my best friend and I said hey, homegirl, do you wanna just hit record and let's just record a podcast? So this is off the cuff. We had no idea what we were gonna talk about, but it ends up her sharing some really really good tips and strategies to help adults and also kids, because she is the guru when it comes to child development and self-care and it's just the most incredible human. So I hope that you enjoyed this conversation. I just wanted to let you know because the sound quality is not the greatest, but, as we always say, we don't have to be perfect to take action and instead of letting this incredible conversation that was so fun, that made me laugh and brought me so much joy, I don't want to just let this sit on my computer and say, well, it's not good enough quality to put out into the world, so I'm putting it out. I hope that it serves you, I hope it brings you some joy to your day. I hope that you will grab a snack and just completely enjoy this conversation and, if you do, we would love to hear from you.

Danielle La Rose:

Oh and, by the way, on future episodes, I always say that I'm going to share, you know, my turnip things, that I'm reading, what I'm listening to, my favorite songs, my books, my quotes, all the things at the end of the podcast, and I've decided, after hearing from some of you that you're searching for these things and trying to figure them out and you're hitting pause trying to do all that. I'm not doing that. I send a Turn Up Tuesday email newsletter every single Tuesday with those things in it. So if you want my favorite tips, tools, strategies, messages, stories to help you turn up even more in your life, with links to all of the things that I suggest and love, then sign up for my Turn Up Tuesday email. I will share it with you here. All right, let's jump into this episode. Okay, are you ready? Can we actually record a podcast? I don't know. Can we? Okay, we'll get it together. We are officially recording.

Devan:

Okay, okay, I'm still not together. I've really been working on that. Oh my gosh.

Danielle La Rose:

Okay, welcome, Turn Up Squad. We're back with another episode and we're here joined with my best friend, so you're in for a special treat of you know, we don't even know yet what we're going to turn up. If we're being honest, we've been talking about lots of things and we can't settle on an official theme of the day. No, we're just going to talk.

Devan:

No but the theme is on brand. For us Having no theme. Yeah, we have like seven different conversations at a time. Literally every app that we can have a conversation, there is something being said. Listen, it's not even the apps.

Danielle La Rose:

When we're in person, we literally will go from talking about Cheez-Its to then we talk about chat, gpt, and then we turn around and talk about our dogs and we talk about dating and then, like literally within five minutes, we talk about seven different things. It's open tabs. Like, literally within five minutes, we talk about seven different things. It's open tabs. As if I don't have enough open tabs.

Devan:

It's just how my brain works and I think is rubbed off on you. Okay, it could be that. But I think that's just a little seasoning added to your life, added to my life, yeah.

Danielle La Rose:

Like that's like the best friend. Yeah, like sprinkle. Yeah, okay.

Devan:

What did I sprinkle into?

Danielle La Rose:

your life. You made me a better human. I wasn't always nice. Look at us getting emotional. I made you a better human. So that's the test. Maybe that's the turn up is how to find a friend that makes you a better friend and then one that makes you open up 70 million different tabs. Yeah, and I remind you to smile. And let's be clear here as women, we do not have to smile.

Devan:

No, but we also. Well, I'll leave that in my brain. We have to smile sometimes. Well, yes, I enjoy smiling. We have really strong resting faces.

Danielle La Rose:

Yes, they are very strong, if I don't smile, I look like I'm mad and I am never mad. No, I shouldn't say never. I mean I get mad, but that's the thing it's like. If we don't smile, people automatically will assume that we hate the world.

Devan:

Yes, just because of how our faces look. That's not fair. Every 10, within a 10 10 minute cycle in my brain. You tell yourself to smile. It like pops up to the top of the to-do list. Now smile.

Danielle La Rose:

I love that for you. Anyways. So, um, yeah, we're excited to be here on the podcast today. Um, so, devin, let's just be honest with our friends here, okay, really Okay. So like, let's say, the goal of this podcast today is that you just get a sneak peek behind the scenes of like friendship and we hope that you laugh and just, you know life is is rough for a lot of people. You know like life is life and sometimes, sometimes well, like a lot of times, life, life's every day, life gives no breaks.

Danielle La Rose:

It gives zero, zero x.

Devan:

There's no dance break and no, in the life it's not like here. Let's have a little fun.

Danielle La Rose:

Yeah, it's like life is always turning up and not the ways that we're trying to turn up on this podcast, but just like turning up.

Devan:

Yeah, no, the moments where it's just steady and like calm, those are the scariest moments sometimes, because you're like what's happening next? When is it coming?

Danielle La Rose:

back? No, but I do think, like so many people are feeling like the life is lifing. So I hope that sometimes, like it's great to learn and it's great to get motivated and it's great to have all those things which is obviously what we do with, like our Pretty Powerful Girl program oh, absolutely things which is obviously what we do with, like our pretty powerful girl program oh, absolutely, like is that's the goal? Is like we want to help girls and women like truly love who they are and like step into their power and be confident, all of those things and like. But I also think that there's also a time where you just need a break from even the motivational stuff and you just need to be like girlfriend, we just need to have a real life conversation to just let loose, talk about random stuff like our cheez-its and chat gbd and just laugh and just have snacks and have a sit on the couch and just be. Why are you telling what we're doing right now?

Devan:

the reason why I said cheese is love snacks right now, we just killed wax I know that's literally.

Danielle La Rose:

I keep saying cheez-its because it's still staring at me. I think there's like six crackers, I know, and it's it's. I feel bad, like why we left them behind.

Devan:

Oh, I was going to say I don't feel bad for eating them, but, yeah, leaving them behind in the box, yeah, I feel bad for the ones that are left Like.

Danielle La Rose:

So I feel like they're screaming at me right now we can, we can, we can totally well. Yeah, cause like they're screaming at me right now, but we're're. We are just chilling on the couch and having this conversation and I just gotta share because I feel sometimes, you know, I'm getting older. I'm not old by any means. I still feel like I'm 21 sometimes, but like you, sometimes, like you're eight years younger than me, but you allow me to feel cool still, thanks, because I'm ahead of you and a lot of the technology stuff.

Devan:

You are. You are way ahead of me, and it makes me feel so good Y'all.

Danielle La Rose:

I was just sharing with her that about chat GPT. If you haven't used chat GPT or any like, so scared it doesn't, why are you scared? It doesn't make sense. Scared of what?

Devan:

What if it knows me better than I know myself?

Danielle La Rose:

Well then, that's your job to figure out yourself, but eventually, eventually, okay. So like, let's be honest though, chad GPT, a lot of this is just like social media we can choose how we let it affect us. Social media we can choose, like, how we receive stuff, who we follow, how we have it in our environment. Yeah, chad GPT can be used for bad, but it's also. It also can be used for a lot of good stuff. I've just never used it. I know I just get. Look well, not here. I just gave you 10. She literally didn't believe me about how smart it is and I said homegirl, it is smart. And so I said she had said give me top motivational songs that are like relevant. And then it popped out all these songs and she's like I haven't even heard that one. Well, you're welcome. Yeah, thank you thank you, megan but yeah, I mean I just.

Danielle La Rose:

But again, I think chat GPT it's just like everything else, like you have to use it in a positive way, in a way that will support your life, like it doesn't have to overcome your life, it doesn't have to be this dramatic thing, like it can be super helpful and positive. It could replace you and you just said it's gonna be smarter than you and know you better than you, so like let it replace you, no, no, no, it could replace you for me.

Danielle La Rose:

Wait, excuse me exactly wait, so you don't need me as your friend anymore, if that's working really really hard.

Devan:

What if it replaces me for?

Danielle La Rose:

you. You think I'm just gonna sit on my computer like you're my best friend. You might be. So now you think I'm a weirdo. I'm just gonna sit and my computer, like you're my best friend you might hate. So now you think I'm a weirdo. I'm just going to sit there. Chat GPT is my best friend. Chat GPT can't eat Cheez-Its Yet. The power of yet I mean the power of yet You're right.

Devan:

I saw something the other day where they were talking about having um AIs carry babies. Have you seen that? No, yeah, so women can just continue to go to work. They don't even have to carry their babies anymore. They're thinking that that technology will be ready in six years how does that work exactly?

Danielle La Rose:

how does that work? Well, this right here, what I'm showing you, is just pulling from the internet. It's not creating a baby. I'm scared. Well, you need to suck it up. There's nothing to be. We are trying to be fearless, not more scared. What are you scared about? This is going to help you. Anyways, use it at your own discretion Scared.

Devan:

Have you watched Inside Out 2 yet? No, you need to. I know it's on my to-do list, you need to. I, it's on my to-do list, you need to. I cried. They introduced anxiety. I was like same, oh geez, and there's um boredom. I, I think his name's on re, I don't know. It was very cool. Cool, it was cool. Yeah, just bored with everything in life. It's like meh, that, that meh.

Danielle La Rose:

I'm excited to watch it Me too. It's on my list. We're going to watch it. I just haven't gotten a chance to yet. Anyway, do you want to share more with my um?

Devan:

like I didn't even I'm just like this is my best friend. And now let's talk about cheating. That's all that matters. That's all that matters.

Danielle La Rose:

No that's all that matters. Like I mean, don't, you don't have to be like do you?

Devan:

Yeah, well, no, I'm about to put you on the spot to be very careful, okay, see, you see what I mean. Like, how, how do you describe me? And don't flip the question and say, well, how do you describe me? I ask you first Well, now I'm like, now I don't even know, see but I probably that's how I feel when people are like tell me about yourself. Yeah, that's why I didn't want to ask that whole story. Isn't that annoying? Where do you want me to start?

Danielle La Rose:

Like what do you want me to start? Do you just want the positive? Okay, so why don't I just ask you fun, random questions instead of like tell me more about yourself?

Devan:

you know, Like because you don't want to answer that question. No, I don't.

Danielle La Rose:

And also every time you ask someone what's the most interesting view and also the way. Hire me because there's an opening people say like oh, tell me something interesting about yourself. Like almost 99% of people say there's nothing interesting about me. Yeah, I start asking people like tell me the like most basic thing about you.

Devan:

I brush my teeth every morning I'm very proud of you and every night look at that and I floss three times a day.

Danielle La Rose:

That is very impressive thank you you're welcome, does your? Does your dentist tell you to do that? He loves me? I'm not. I mean, send your daughter a pretty powerful girl program because we'll teach them good dental hygiene? Yeah, well, I will, but dad will. Great, what a great answer to that. No, but I think when people introduce, like when they ask me about you, I'm just like she's the nicest, funnest human with the biggest hunger.

Devan:

That's probably what I said. That's probably what you say. I mean, I'm pretty sure that's like what I said.

Danielle La Rose:

I mean, I know that's not like groundbreaking but like I think it is. You think it?

Devan:

is that's deep?

Danielle La Rose:

Oh yeah, I mean I'm very. I mean I'm very serious about my friendship choosing. So I'm very, I mean I'm very serious about my friendship choosing.

Devan:

So like I wouldn't oh I know I wouldn't choose you if I didn't, if you didn't add value to my life, I still can't believe that we've been friends as long as we have. Yeah.

Danielle La Rose:

And don't ask me how long I don't know, but yeah, sure. Anyways, are you going to introduce yourself to my friends, to my community? I thought you were going to ask me questions. Oh, yeah, okay.

Devan:

I didn't come prepared for this. That's what I'm saying.

Danielle La Rose:

So I brush my teeth. Okay, so you brush your teeth. That's great. If you could give one 10-year-old girl a piece of advice, what would it be?

Devan:

I feel like everyone always says be yourself, but I don't even know what that means. Um, because I think that we all kind of morph depending on who we're around. Like, yeah, it's undeniable, everyone does it. Um, um. So if I had to give advice to a 10 year old girl, the biggest piece of advice. So I learned the five, the five rule. Have you heard the five rule? I didn't know the five, it's just the five rule. No, I didn't learn this until I was in college and one of my mentors in college I had this. It was this whole thing, this whole situation that we're not going to talk about. Okay, um, but she asked me. She said will this affect you in five seconds? I was like, absolutely, will this affect you in five minutes, five months, five years? If it's not going to affect you in five months or five years, that's not really a big deal.

Danielle La Rose:

Look at that mic drop of the moment.

Devan:

So that's my biggest takeaway, because when you're younger, I mean, everything affects you and I think, as adults, like, we look at situations that are shared with us sometimes and we're like it's not a big deal, but it could be a really big deal for her in the moment. Yeah, but five months from now you'll probably have other friends. Yeah, five years from now you're definitely going to be in a different place. So, true, so that's a good piece of advice. The five rule I so. True, so that's a good piece of advice. I would teach the five rule I like that that's a good.

Danielle La Rose:

That's a good rule and I think it's really important what you just said, because, especially when it comes to social media, I hear so many like parents that are like it's not a big deal, don't worry about it, and it's like social media is like their whole world. Yes, when they're getting a phone and getting on social media like that is their whole world, like, so to tell them like, oh, it's not a big deal, like actually in their life and their little brains that's like the biggest deal ever and I don't have any kids, but I would again that five rule is so important because what they post now is going to come back in five years and in five months.

Devan:

So I would also teach it through the lens of social media. Do you want to have that come back? That's good, because we can act maliciously on social media. It's very easy to do because you're behind a screen, but if that's not the reflection of who you actually are or want to be, you probably shouldn't go there so let's, let's take a little pause, a little break here.

Danielle La Rose:

Then, like, if moms are listening and you do have little ones in your life, like this five, the five rule would be something for you to use and teach and help them with, like right now, today. And, let's also honest like we also need this as adults. Like I asked you about a 10 year old, but like the same advice you just gave is good advice for me, like the five rule. That's so cool.

Devan:

When I've seen stuff on social media that like really ticks me off, even if it's something that I didn't post, but it's a comment made under someone else's post. You take five minutes, you write down all of your feelings in your notes section and then you take five deep breaths as you delete it. Look at you with all these fives. Five, the best check five. That's a good one. Just the five roll.

Danielle La Rose:

Just the five roll I like that a lot. I feel like now our podcast can be done like we got tips, we got a little laugh, like all the things like what, what?

Danielle La Rose:

else do you want from us? No, but I mean, and we can be done, like we got tips, we got a little laugh, like all the things. Like what else do you want from us? No, but I mean, and we can be done, because we want to keep these short and sweet, to the point, so that way humans can like get on with their lives. But I do think that's like if you can turn up one thing today, it's using that five method. I think is our big takeaway. Now, we came here with that intention of sharing that, of like this was all planned.

Devan:

Oh, sharing that of like this was all planned.

Danielle La Rose:

Oh, absolutely. That's exactly. I hope you know more about me now. Okay, but you said you didn't have kids. But you do have. You do have a child and he's crying right now.

Devan:

Yeah. A hundred pound German shepherd. I do, I do he's, he's great. He's up there taking deep breaths, yeah, like he's been up there for five hours.

Danielle La Rose:

And what, what, yeah, anything else you want to share with us. I mean, okay, so Devin will be a regular on the podcast because, if you don't know, her and I have co-founded the pretty powerful girl program which is our. We'll have a virtual program with quarterly empowerment boxes that come with fun, challenges and stuff, um, and support for moms. And then we also have our live in-person events that are local, here where we are, that we do our self-love soar away. We can't really share anything else, but we have two other events. I almost was about to say like, but they are, but like, but like. I love that. We are like we have long to do list, but like we literally have our events for next year like planned already.

Devan:

Yeah, they're done, they are completely done. Our spaces are reserved. It's great, it's so wonderful, we're so excited.

Danielle La Rose:

So, yeah, so we well, we were friends, we became friends through the health and fitness world and then I don't really know, I think one time I was like Devin, I have this idea and you were like I'm on board, let's do that. And now it's been two years since we've had the pre-pup for us. We just keep doing, just keep doing it and but we keep growing and having different ideas and shifting and changing based on, like, what people need, which is a lot of fun. Yeah, so I don't know, get you a depth that I always that's how I feel. I feel like people need a demon in their life, not mine, you can't have mine, but like, well, she has other friends that I allow. You know, there's like a couple that I'm like, okay, you can be friends with them, but like no more you're not allowed to have any more friends.

Danielle La Rose:

I need you all to know that sounds very controlling. Don't have a friend like that. I feel this way. Do not choose a friend that's like you can only be my friend. That's terrible, I'm joking. I'm joking, but yeah, so no, I just think that it's really cool how our friendship has evolved, and I just think it's really cool and I appreciate that.

Devan:

I mean, you know, it's kind of business though, like just life.

Danielle La Rose:

Well, yeah, we do all life, all the friends stuff.

Danielle La Rose:

All the friends stuff, but also it's hard to find friends that want to do friend stuff and also who are supportive of, like your crazy goals and dreams and all the things that are like I'll jump on board and like support that Most of the time, if someone shares that they're going to start a new business or do something like their friends are the first ones who are like I'm not going to help with that, I'm not interested. Oh my God, I can't believe she's doing that, you know. So I just yeah, you're one in a million. Look at that. I'm taking it way too far. This is getting awkward. Okay, your head is getting too big. Now it's getting a little big. So, anyways, the point is that, um, we'll be back for regular friend talk, and I didn't even play on the whole turn up playlist, vibe, I didn't do any of that. Okay, what's your?

Devan:

so let's end it with. Let's end it with this.

Danielle La Rose:

What is your um, your turn up song? Like what's the one song you go to? That's like your hype song. If you have to get motivated and energized, you're like that's the one.

Devan:

Oh crap, you don't have one. I don't what I don't. Have I not taught you anything? No, listen you all of the music. But you also know how my brain works. Yeah, my brain shifts. So I could be in the best mood ever and she will walk into my house and there will be like classical music playing in the background. Yeah, or I could have like a really sad song on and be in a great mood. I Okay.

Danielle La Rose:

So this was the wrong question to ask. Because I was just thinking like okay, what are you turning up for yourself recently, like, what are the thoughts or the things that you're doing for yourself to help you turn up to be the best version of you?

Devan:

Um, self-care. Ooh, what's your favorite thing to do for self-care? I go and get a facial once a month shout out to our girls. I love this so much. Um, I also have allowed myself like 10 minutes to just like be, because I feel like my to-do list is so long and there's always 500 things to do. So just like 10 minutes to exist. 10 minutes to exist yeah well, that was good.

Danielle La Rose:

Thank you for sharing. Devon, you're welcome. And, um, yeah, so I guess we will wrap it up now. And, um, if you are so, again, full transparency. Like we co-created the Pretty Purple Girl program, but Devin is the guru with all things kids and girls and mindsets and child development and all the things like multiple degrees and all of this stuff that blows my mind of all the things she knows. So if you are someone that's like, oh my gosh, I have a daughter and she needs to have some sort of mentorship or support or involvement with a community that would provide her tips and resources and all the things, and like Devin is your homegirl and we would love to chat with you about the Pretty Powerful Girl program. So there is that. So turn up this week the volume on your five, what's it called the five method, the five rule, the five rule, and go live your best life. Turn it up. Bye, friends.