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"Stepping Out Of Autopilot"
Navigating through life's unexpected twists and turns, I recently found myself in the throes of autopilot living—a humdrum existence that nearly consumed me. My tale begins with a jarring car accident that spiraled into an avalanche of stress, from untangling insurance claims to managing family drama. Yet, it's in these moments of chaos that I discovered a profound truth: life isn't just happening to us; it's unfolding for us. I'll take you through how I turned things around with affirmations and manifestation, culminating in a victorious moment of acquiring a new car against all odds. This journey is not just about resilience, but also about the transformative power of a positive mindset when all seems lost.
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Navigating through life's unexpected twists and turns, I recently found myself in the throes of autopilot living—a humdrum existence that nearly consumed me. My tale begins with a jarring car accident that spiraled into an avalanche of stress, from untangling insurance claims to managing family drama. Yet, it's in these moments of chaos that I discovered a profound truth: life isn't just happening to us; it's unfolding for us. I'll take you through how I turned things around with affirmations and manifestation, culminating in a victorious moment of acquiring a new car against all odds. This journey is not just about resilience, but also about the transformative power of a positive mindset when all seems lost.
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Hey guys, welcome back to updated AF Collective, the podcast. I am your host, megan Worth, and today's episode is going to be a little bit about something that I feel like I've been personally experiencing the last couple of weeks, and it's a topic that I spoke about in front of like women at like women's conferences and stuff like that too. So when I realized that I was doing what I tell women not to do, which is living your life on autopilot, slipping into you know the just the routine, almost like a little bit of feeling like numb depression, I saw myself like going down that path and I caught myself quick. And then in this episode we're going to talk about recognizing if you feel like you're living your life on autopilot, that you are just going through the motions, like you're so stressed out that you can't see the bigger picture. You have tunnel vision. So the last couple of weeks I've been experiencing that and we'll unpack that and talk about what I did in this episode. Okay, guys, welcome back to updated AF.
Speaker 1:Welcome to the updated AF Collective podcast, where we celebrate the power and resilience of women. Join me as we dive into inspiring stories, engage in meaningful conversations and explore topics that empower women from all walks of life. I believe that every woman has a unique strength within her waiting to be unleashed. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a leader, a creative, a caregiver or simply on your own personal journey, this podcast is for you. Together, we'll share stories of triumph, discuss strategies for success and provide a supportive space for women to connect and grow. Get ready for real, authentic conversations that ignite your inner strength and inspire you to chase after your dreams fearlessly. Welcome to the updated AF Collective. Okay, welcome back.
Speaker 1:So just a little backstory on how the hell I found myself going into a depression and how I caught myself, and luckily I have friends that can kind of bring me back, snap me out of it. So long and short, back in December, right before Christmas, like right before all the holidays, some driver smashed into my SUV when I was stopped at a red light. That's how this whole thing started. Luckily my daughter wasn't in the car. That I am very thankful for. But I mean obviously, like that was my beautiful, beautiful car. I love my SUV, I love my car. It was gorgeous, it was very appreciative of it, like all the things, and so it got completely totaled. That's when I feel like the spiral hit and so I was like, okay, fine, I can handle this. You know, god, the universe or whatever is not going to give me something that I can't handle. And I still do believe that everything happens for a reason. Life is not happening to me, it's happening for me. There's a reason why this is happening and I have to keep reminding myself that.
Speaker 1:And that's what got me through the insurance claims, having to find a lawyer, like all of this stuff, because the backstory is the guy was unlicensed and uninsured, so my insurance company was being difficult. I had to get a lawyer. I had to get I had, you know, rental car, all this stuff. And then I traveled back to Northern California to be with my family during the holidays and that was really stressful because we have a lot of family stuff going on, and so just having the car accident and then driving, driving we drove 27 hours from Texas to Northern California and then having to deal with that just stacked more onto my plate. So I was so stressed out and so overwhelmed being there. And then the drive back was even more stressful because and I'll be like super open and honest with you guys I have great insurance and full coverage and all this stuff and my insurance company was covering up to what I guess they appraised the car to be, which wasn't enough to cover my loan on the car. So I still owed a lot of money and I didn't know.
Speaker 1:Because of that, like because I still owed a lot of money on my SUV, I was like great, like am I gonna get approved for another car loan, like two car loans? How is this gonna work? I was so stressed out and I got the news of all of that, about all that money that I was gonna owe, on my drive back from California to Texas and I pulled over to the side of the road and I just started sobbing because all of a sudden, I was just seeing money flying out of my freaking bank account Like I could just visualize it, which is stupid Cause again. Like I kept telling myself, like okay, there's this, this will get fixed. So I calm myself down and I kept telling myself like this is gonna get fixed, like there's a reason why this is happening. I don't know what that reason is, but I need to just calm down and I need to push forward.
Speaker 1:So I get back on the road, we make it all the way back home and that's when, like, of course, like the lawsuit, I did end up getting another car. I got another brand new, smaller, midsize SUV. It's not at all like my last SUV, but you know what, like it's a brand new car, it's beautiful, it's great and I'm grateful. At the end of the day, you know, that's just what I could afford, and so I did get that car. I don't know how I got it, I don't know how I got approved for a second car loan, but I did. And I feel like I kind of manifested that because it wasn't even hard. It was like a seamless thing.
Speaker 1:Like I walked into Ford and told them what happened. I picked out a car and then they were like, yeah, you're fine, here it is, here's the keys. I was like, oh my gosh, I was so stressed out, so freaking stressed out, and I just remember writing in my journal like this is gonna be an easy transaction, this is gonna be an easy. They're just gonna give me a car. And I'm telling you, like everything that I wrote, I wrote that straight. I wrote that for two weeks, because I had my rental car for two weeks and I waited until like the last minute to go to Ford to buy a new car, because I was that stressed out, I was so afraid of what was gonna happen, even though I shouldn't have been Cause in my journal I kept trying to write like over and over again, like this is gonna be so easy, they're just gonna give me the car, no problem, no loan issues. And that's exactly what happened and, like I said, like that was just a freaking miracle.
Speaker 1:So again, like things are good to get, on figuring it out, I'm figuring out the money situation. Obviously, now I have two car loans cause I owe on the other car and I keep thinking like, okay, I need to manifest, like I would be happy if I could manifest $15,000. Just random, I don't care where it comes from, I don't care who it comes from, but I need 15 grand and that would kind of like fix my car situation. And so writing that down in my journal again like doing my manifestation practice and just like trying to call in more money. It's slowly started happening. I got four clients in like less than like maybe like three days, I like right off the bat, like four people wanting to buy a house, bam, bam, bam. Like everybody's under contract, like, okay, great, okay. So let's keep that going. Let's keep that momentum going.
Speaker 1:So, but what you know, during those times where I was like touring with clients and stuff like that too, it was just so, so stressful and I didn't take a day off. I wasn't practicing self-care, I was constantly with my clients, like touring excessive amounts of houses and stuff like that, which, again, that's part of the process, but when I already had other stressors outside of work stacking on top, like it was just a lot to handle and a lot to deal with. So I saw myself like living on autopilot. I wasn't working out, I wasn't taking care of myself. I would literally wake up in the morning, get my baby dressed out the door at school and then I would rush back home, change over and then get out the door and tour all day with clients like different houses and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:So this went on for like two or three weeks and I just my mental health like declined. I was not taking care of myself and I was living with like numbness, like I just felt like I couldn't feel anything. I knew like the stress was like bottling up, cause I could feel it and I knew I was living on autopilot. So I was like I ended up calling one of my best friends on the phone, coming back from one of the house tours and just crying and I told her I was like I think I am depressed, like I think this is depression and you know, of course, like God I love her Like she's trying to calm me down by like saying, oh, like okay, let's meet up, let's do this, let's do that, but I just like I just felt so dead inside, so freaking dead, and I realized like I stopped doing everything that was like keeping me saying like when, as soon as the whole car accident happened, I felt like that's when my habits, of my self care habits, stopped.
Speaker 1:And that was the effect. Like I have to remember, excuse me, I have to do those little things for myself every single freaking day. It's, it's just a micro habit to keep me on my path for healthy mental health. Just like you wouldn't just stop brushing your teeth because after a while your teeth are going to, like, get full of cavities or get gross, you have to do that every single day. Your self care has to be done every single day.
Speaker 1:And so, realizing that today I broke that, I guess, like that um, autopilot behavior, and I got up this morning and I was like you know what? Like I'm going to work from home, of course, like I have my phone and I have my laptop and stuff like that, but the morning is going to be mine from 8am to 12. I was going to focus on me and I had to do something that was going to cheer me up Because, again, like feeling, if you are one of those people that get up and do the same thing every single day, don't take care of yourself, you're just doing everything for everybody else, you go to bed, wake up the next day and then repeat that leads to depression. It really does. So what I needed to do is, um, break it, break out of that routine, and I was like, when's the last time I actually like have fun or laughed? It had been a long time and I could not remember the last time I just like had fun and I was like, okay, I downloaded this app called class pass and it had like a free month trial. It's an app. Another podcaster that I listened to actually talked about it because she utilizes it, and so that gave me the idea is like you get to try dance classes, um, fitness classes, and like, do all like you can try a ton of stuff and it's all in this app. You could just sign up for it and go.
Speaker 1:Well, I ended up going to my gym, I did yoga in the morning, which I have not done yoga in years, and I sucked at it Like sucked, but I just didn't care. There was a girl like she was like to my right of me and she was so good, but I was like I could, I could like sense a little bit of like oh, I suck at this, like she's so good. Everybody's probably staring at me. And then I was like wait, no, nobody cares, nobody cares that I suck in here. And it's again like I was. Like I tell women all the time like, don't compare your chapter one to somebody's chapter 20. Clearly, that girl over there who's like bending and like doing all the things is on her chapter 20. And so I stopped, I stopped it and I cleared my mind and I went back to meditating and like focusing on my breath and stopped focusing on everybody else around me. Literally, I just don't. I don't know why. I don't know why I started thinking like that. So, anyway, I got done with that.
Speaker 1:I went to Zumba. I have never taken a Zumba class in my life. But you know what, like I, and I was so bad at it, like so bad, it was so intense. If you've never taken a Zumba class, you have to try, just try it. It's crazy and the girls that do this religiously are so freaking good. But the thing is like everybody's having so much fun, Everybody's laughing, nobody's judging, nobody's like pointing you out because you suck at Zumba, nothing like that it's. It was actually so much fun and I laughed so hard. There was a couple of girls at the front of the class that were so freaking good and they were so cute. Oh my gosh. Like one girl had like pigtails and she was like she was like my age and you could tell she's a mom, but like she just goes to laugh and to move her body.
Speaker 1:And that's what I was thinking in Zumba when I was like doing this, I was like I just need to move my freaking body. I've been a robot since the car accident. I just feel like I've been on like like a robotic mode or something like that. Like I said, like when you're doing the same freaking thing every single day, like you are brushing your teeth the same way, making your breakfast, the same way, driving to where you need to be, the same way, like every single thing, you're not moving your body. You need to move and I just needed to just shake out all that stagnant energy, that stress, because stress stays stuck in your body, physically in your body, and that's what causes, like all those health issues and there's I mean this sounds a little like woo, woo, but it's there's science behind it and there's so many studies that show body aches and I mean some diseases and stuff like that too. They say like if you don't heal your trauma, like your past trauma, stuff like that, it can manifest itself into certain cancers, health problems, sore muscles, inflammation, all that stuff. Like you have to shake it out, you have to, you have to move your body. Our bodies were made to move. If you're not moving your body, you're you can sink into a deeper depression.
Speaker 1:So I did that. Sorry, my freaking neighbor's dogs, if you can hear that. They have been barking Nonstop for like two hours and I don't know what to do, I don't know. So if you can hear that, I'm sorry. I should probably go check on my neighbors. Anyway.
Speaker 1:So I did Zumba for an hour right after yoga and it was just so fun and I actually laughed, not just like that little like haha, now I freaking laughed my ass off. It was just so good. So I walked out of there, definitely embarrassed but feeling lighter, like I just took all that stagnant, stuck energy inside of me and just like started. It just started leaving my body. It was, it was. It was an awesome, it was great, it was a good experience.
Speaker 1:Will I do it again? Hell, yeah, I'll do it again, but again it's one of those things like your small habits, the things that you do for yourself, add up, take care of your mental health the same way you take care of your hair, your skin, your nails, your teeth. You don't I mean, I don't know about you, but like I can't let myself go. But what's the first thing that we all let go of or we just ignore when everybody else needs stuff from us, is our freaking mental health. And that can't happen anymore, because I was on a really slippery downward slope and if you know anything about manifestation, you cannot manifest from a very stressed out state of mind, trying to figure out next steps for stuff, like going through the motions, being in fear of everything, being overwhelmed, you can't, you're not going to manifest anything good, you're actually going to manifest what you don't want, and I'll tell you a story on that, because that just made my life a hell of a lot worse.
Speaker 1:Being in that state of mind and long story short, I, when I got my car, I put down $1,000. And it pretty much bought my interest rate down, so I was saving money on my payments. So I wrote them a check, which was fine, and I get a call five days later that the check didn't go through. Mind you, I didn't want to give the $1,000. I really didn't. And in the back of my mind I was like I could just again, like with the lawsuit, with the amount of money I have been paying people to do things for me because of this whole car accident, I really didn't want to give another $1,000. So, but I did, I wrote the check and I was like, just freaking, take it.
Speaker 1:But in the back of my mind I was dreading it, and so the check bounced, which it shouldn't have, but it did, and I don't know why it did, because there's money in my account, I just think because the checks are old, or maybe it was attached to an older checking account that I no longer had, which I was. I'm thinking like that's what happened. And so I was like, oh my gosh, like I apologize profusely, like I felt so bad. I was like let me write you know. He's like well, technically we can't accept a second handwritten check, but you can do like a cashier's check or a money order. And I was like perfect, I'm going to the, I'm going to the bank right now and I'm going to get a cashier's check. He's like perfect, so I get to the bank and it's not my bank, so my personal bank I use like a military bank, so we don't have an actual freaking bank.
Speaker 1:I had to go to like like another bank that wasn't even mine and they wouldn't give me a cashier's check because I don't belong to that bank, which I found weird. So, anyway, I went to our grocery store, went to HB and I went to the service counter. I was like okay, can I get a money order for $1,000? And it wouldn't go through, like my card wouldn't go through my due, there's money in my account, and the card wasn't going through. It turns out the chip on my card was broken and I was like what the hell? Why is all of these just money things happening to me? Why? And I was so frustrated and so we tried to swipe it and it still it wouldn't work. And so I called my bank and I was like what's going on? I need a thousand dollar money order so I can pay the down payment on my freaking car. And I'm like borderline tears and she's like I don't know, like try swiping it again and nothing, it wasn't working. And then she was like, oh, I'm sorry, it's because your chip isn't working. Your chip needs to work in order for you to get a money order. Yeah, doesn't make sense, but anyway. So, long story short, I couldn't get the money order. I had to call my bank again and order a new card with a working chip. That, oh my God, that was crazy. And it's in. Then it gets so funnier. And this is how I figured out I was manifesting this Because again, I didn't want to release the money.
Speaker 1:I wanted to hold on to it so tight, but I know it had to. I had to go to Ford, but again because I was like dreading that thousand dollars being taken out of my account and so funny thing is they FedExed it, which it was only going to take 48 hours for the card to get to my house and the FedEx driver. Something happened to the truck. There was a delay I don't know if it was like a weather delay, but there was a delay and it took what was supposed to only take two days took seven days to get a new card. I felt so bad. I mean I was personally texting the loan officer at the Ford dealership, like the finance guy, like on his personal phone, giving him screenshots of like the FedEx issue, and then at one point they didn't like it went from like your card will be here on Wednesday to Thursday in front of two like we don't know. It literally was just like it'll be there when it's there. It was like pending and I was like I'm doing this.
Speaker 1:I realized I was like I'm freaking doing this, like I'm manifesting all of these money problems because I wanted to hold on to that money. Well, guess what? The universe was finding ways for me to hold on to this money and it was so embarrassing. Luckily the guy was so nice. He's like don't worry about it, you know, we're just glad that you're communicating with us. You're like not disappearing and I was like look, I have the money and I'm trying to give it to you. I just don't know why all of these things are happening and, of course, like I realized it, it was my subconscious listening to what I actually wanted to do, which was to hold on to the money. So my new card came today and I was able to drop off the money at the dealership. Like the money order, everything is fine, and I put two houses under contract. Today, as of literally two hours ago, I have two clients that are now under contract with home. So it's like as soon as I released the money, money was already finding its way back to me.
Speaker 1:So I need to learn to relax and remind myself that, like again, like things are happening for me, they're not happening to me. There's a reason why my life is just feeling chaotic, because usually, when my life just like feels like it's falling apart, it's actually falling into place. There's always something big waiting on the other side of like the chaos, cause I go through these maybe like once or twice a year of just like redirection and once I think that I have everything in control and we are smooth sailing and everything is like going really well, things start to fall apart, but they're not falling apart. I feel like they're just like redirecting me somewhere or I'm supposed to be, you know, maybe being a little too comfortable and live it on autopilot or whatever, whatever the heck I was doing. Like, again, like I get tunnel vision and I stopped seeing the bigger picture. And when you get tunnel vision, that's when you can lose the actual direction you're supposed to be going, if that makes sense. So, again, like, be careful with stress and worry and stuff like that and just try to just surrender and let go, because you don't know what's waiting on the other side. I don't know what's waiting on the other side of this chaos, but I have a feeling that it's gonna be something that's going to work out for me and it's going to benefit me. I don't know what it is, but I, you know, I will share the story of whatever the hell happens, I will share it and I'll let you guys know. And another podcast that I listened to. I'm gonna share it on here because it helps me a lot. And, of course, like I'm going to share a good podcast, even if it's like my competition, it doesn't matter, it's not really my competition, but like Paul's, the resilient mind podcast.
Speaker 1:And if you are a big fan of like Jim Rown, les Brown, I think there's Bob Proctor, I think they had like Tony Robbins, like it's just a collection of these like of like the top world speakers, speeches and stuff like that and like keynote stuff, and what this person did is they took all of these different speakers and just put their stuff in one place and so, obviously, like I'm a huge Les Brown fan, like I love him, I love his talks. I think he does such a good job of storytelling and then having like there's, you know, you learn something from it, from all of his stories, and then he has that comedic tone. So he makes things very, very interesting and that's how he captioned, or captioned captures audiences. I feel like, because he's so entertaining, he could just command a room and one of my favorite sayings and I don't know if he came up with this saying, cause I've heard Rachel Hollis say it, I've heard Tony Robbins say it, maybe Joe Dispenza, like I've heard people say this before but Les Brown has been speaking a lot longer than these speakers and the talk that he said on this morning's episode at the Resilient Mind podcast was a speech that he gave back in the 80s, so maybe he was like the creator of this, but I love this saying is like too many people die at 30 and are buried at 80. And I love that saying and that's where I like that's like kind of the topic that I talk about.
Speaker 1:Like the living on autopilot thing is like living just in like this routine and stuff like that, cause you're just like, you're just so dead inside. You don't have any motivation or spark or any. You're like no goals or anything like that. You're just, you're not. You're living a life that you don't like A lot of people are. You hate your job, you feel stuck, you're fearful that if you actually do what you want to do, like start that business, write that book or whatever you might be afraid of failing. And we all know what fear is. It's an acronym and it's on one of my slides for like my when, when I do my speaking engagements and stuff like that for women conferences, false evidence appearing real, and I I talk a lot about. That is like living in fear. You're only fearful of things that you don't know anything about.
Speaker 1:For example, like when you are like when you're fearful, when I was fearful when I had to pull off to the side of the road because I was told that insurance was only going to cover up to a certain amount on my totaled vehicle and I had to figure out, okay, like how am I going to pay that off? How am I going to buy a new car? Like how, how, like the what-ifs, everything running through my head and I'm like panicking, having a panic attack. It's only because, like, I don't know what my options are. And I and I was panicking because your brain, when you have a problem it could be any problem, right, small problem, big problem, anything your brain automatically goes into problem-solving mode and it will scare the shit out of you if your brain can't figure out what the next steps are or how to fix this. And I don't know, I didn't know how to fix that problem.
Speaker 1:And so people who Want to better their lives, or they want to quit their job, they want to move to a new state, and you country like start over or whatever. They just don't know what their options are. It's so easy to stay where you're at because it's predictable and you already know what to expect. You know what your options are. You can live your life in a job you hate, get a steady paycheck. You're gonna know what your paychecks are because it's the same every two weeks. You already know you get health coverage. It's predictable, but you hate it.
Speaker 1:So If you educate yourself and this is what I talk about too like you don't need motivation, you don't need that. That's motivation is garbage. You need to be educated. You have to educate yourself first. We don't need more motivated idiots running around this world, which I feel like we have a lot of those. I mean, you can Listen to some influencers on Instagram and stuff like that and half the time I'm like what the hell are you talking about? You need, we need more motivated, educated influencers and To show us the way, to kind of say like, hey, if I can do it, you can do it.
Speaker 1:And that's why I wanted to get so so much into like speaking, because I have to live up to what I Preach. I guess that's the best way to say it. I have to live up to that and if I'm living on autopilot and I'm going down the road of depression, I I who the hell am I my hypocrite? I can't go tell these other women like, change your life, change your mindset, don't live on autopilot. And then there I was.
Speaker 1:Luckily, I snapped out of it after I realized what the hell was going on and I started learning about the process of what needs to happen Right now in my life between the car accident, my finances, my career, my daughter, everything. I Needed answers, and so I just started asking questions to the right people. I got a lawyer, I talked more with my insurance company, I talked to people who have dealt with things like this. I needed answers, and the more answers I got, the more I felt better, and so the next thing I needed to do after I started feeling a little bit better, was to shake out that Negative, stagnant energy that was still stuck in me. I Found a lot of like, a lot of times, like when I was talking about the accident, if somebody wanted to To ask me what happened, like I I would cry because it's still stuck there. It's definitely a form of trauma and I still felt it stuck in there.
Speaker 1:And now, like I said, like I feel like it just like shook it all out. I got it all out Between yoga, zumba, stepping out of my freakin comfort zone. I don't care, I just needed to shake it out and have fun. Okay, if you need to break out of a routine that is leading you down the path of depression. Find something to interrupt that, that that negative Every day routine that is leading you nowhere. Find something to interrupt it.
Speaker 1:For me, it was definitely yoga and Zumba. Um, I'm gonna actually make that part of like my weekly routine, just to move my body. Move my body, just get rid of it. So, yeah, I hope that, like, you got something out of this.
Speaker 1:Hopefully it made it made a little sense and yeah, like it just it's been a crazy past few months, but I Feel like I'm back on track and I won't allow myself to Just stop and forget about my mental health. And you wouldn't forget about the other things. Girls like their hair or makeup and stuff like that. We're not gonna let ourselves go. Why are we letting go of our mental health? Don't do it. Anyway, thank you guys so much for listening. I appreciate you. It looks like you guys really enjoyed our last episode with summer and Because that episode like blew up. So, thank you so much for listening. If you guys are getting anything out of it, please leave a review, rate me the stars, like, follow me on Instagram. Yeah, just let me know you're listening. Okay, I appreciate you guys so much. Thank you so much for listening and I will see you next Friday.