Ever wondered why your vision board isn't translating into tangible results? Today, I share my transformative experience attending Mikayla JAI’S first live podcast event in Austin, Texas, where she illuminated the intricate dance between the law of attraction and the necessity of action. Drawing inspiration from Mikayla’s analogy, "You can put the running shoes on, but expect the universe is going to run the mile for you," we explore the importance of actively participating in our dreams. This episode reflects on my personal journey of moving beyond the addiction to self-help content and into a realm where belief meets action.
Discover how you can bridge the gap between consuming self-development material and implementing strategies that work. We'll delve into practical steps for manifesting your goals through proactive actions and effective networking. By attending events, leveraging platforms like Eventbrite, and surrounding ourselves with successful individuals, we uncover paths to personal growth and career advancement. Let’s move beyond theoretical self-help and into the actionable, sharing tips on connecting with like-minded professionals and taking tangible steps toward significant life goals, such as purchasing a home.
In the final chapter, we tackle the ever-present challenge of self-doubt and emphasize the power of consistency and persistence. Using visual tools and writing down goals, I illustrate how breaking down ambitions into manageable steps can transform dreams into reality. Drawing from Mel Robbins' continuous effort toward success, this episode serves as a potent reminder that achievement is a marathon, not a sprint. Wrapping up with heartfelt gratitude to our listeners, join me in celebrating the small wins and gearing up for a wonderful weekend ahead, inspired to chase your dreams fearlessly.
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Ever wondered why your vision board isn't translating into tangible results? Today, I share my transformative experience attending Mikayla JAI’S first live podcast event in Austin, Texas, where she illuminated the intricate dance between the law of attraction and the necessity of action. Drawing inspiration from Mikayla’s analogy, "You can put the running shoes on, but expect the universe is going to run the mile for you," we explore the importance of actively participating in our dreams. This episode reflects on my personal journey of moving beyond the addiction to self-help content and into a realm where belief meets action.
Discover how you can bridge the gap between consuming self-development material and implementing strategies that work. We'll delve into practical steps for manifesting your goals through proactive actions and effective networking. By attending events, leveraging platforms like Eventbrite, and surrounding ourselves with successful individuals, we uncover paths to personal growth and career advancement. Let’s move beyond theoretical self-help and into the actionable, sharing tips on connecting with like-minded professionals and taking tangible steps toward significant life goals, such as purchasing a home.
In the final chapter, we tackle the ever-present challenge of self-doubt and emphasize the power of consistency and persistence. Using visual tools and writing down goals, I illustrate how breaking down ambitions into manageable steps can transform dreams into reality. Drawing from Mel Robbins' continuous effort toward success, this episode serves as a potent reminder that achievement is a marathon, not a sprint. Wrapping up with heartfelt gratitude to our listeners, join me in celebrating the small wins and gearing up for a wonderful weekend ahead, inspired to chase your dreams fearlessly.
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Hey guys, welcome back to Updated AF Collective, the podcast. I am your host, megan Wirth. Welcome back. Another Friday episode, another solo episode, so let's get into it.
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I went to Michaela Jay's first ever live podcast event in Austin, texas, and let me tell you guys, she was amazing and she is a natural speaker let's just put it that way and she has a lot of information that she shared with us just on the law of attraction and manifestation and all this stuff, and she just had so many good things to say that I had a lot of light bulb moments, and some of those light bulb moment ideas are going to be in today's episode. What inspired this episode, though? It wasn't Michaela, but I'm reading this book called Make you Happen by Jordana. I think her last name is Levin or Levin L-E-V-I-N. If you haven't read the book. It is absolutely amazing. But she makes a comment in the book about how, when she first discovered the law of attraction and manifestation and self-development work and stuff like that, how it became almost like an addiction where she would be so addicted to all these books and she's going from one book to the other and she's not implementing anything from the book. It's almost like she just needed that fix. And then, when she would get done with a book, instead of like learning um or doing things that she learned from the book, she's just onto the next one, onto the next one, and I have discovered that I did the same thing for a while and I have slowed down, especially when it comes to like being addicted to self-development and manifestation, all that fun stuff, because, like, I feel like I kind of found my own routine and my own rhythm, that I don't need to keep looking to other people for answers, and we'll get into all of that in today's episode.
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Welcome back, guys. Welcome to the Updated AF Collective Podcast, where we celebrate the power and resilience of women. Join me as we dive into inspiring stories, engage in meaningful conversations and explore topics that empower women from all walks of life. I believe that every woman has a unique strength within her waiting to be unleashed. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a leader, a creative, a caregiver or simply on your own personal journey, this podcast is for you. Together, we'll share stories of triumph, discuss strategies for success and provide a supportive space for women to connect and grow. Get ready for real, authentic conversations that ignite your inner strength and inspire you to chase after your dreams fearlessly. Welcome to the Updated AF Collective.
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Okay, if you've ever heard me talk on other people's podcasts, maybe that's how you found me. They always talk about how I got into this and how I got into manifestation the law of attraction and what gave me the confidence and courage to quit my nine to five and leave that old life that wasn't aligning with me beliefs and everything. I was absolutely miserable and what gave me the confidence and everything to make that switch was literally how it all started was the secret, and I know a lot of girls basic bitches across the world are, you know that's their introduction to the law of attraction is through the book the secret, which is a great book. It's a really good starter book to kind of like get you into it a little bit, to kind of like explain it just a little bit, although it doesn't explain it well, because it actually kind of gives you like the wrong idea about how you know we are created. You know from God, the universe and stuff like that. Right, so we are created to have these lives where we also can co-create, co-create with God or the universe or whatever you want to say, your higher power. I'm not here to argue that I definitely know that there is a higher power. I just personally call them God and sometimes I use the universe, but at the end of the day I feel like it's all the same. Well, we're here to kind of co-create our lives and do the things that we want. We are all born with this, like with a gift. Everybody's gift is different and we're supposed to, you know, express our gifts and help each other and you know, all get along and great, all the fun stuff, right.
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But so what the Secret fails to talk about is the action portion and how, yes, we can co-create with God and the universe, but at the same time, what are you doing to help kind of co-create that? Because if you watch the movie and you read the book, you just think it and things can happen for you and that sometimes can work right. We can think about things that we really, really want and not really put a lot of effort into it, and then sometimes that does really happen, but like where things will just kind of manifest on their own. You know cause we think about it so often? But at the same time, the really, really big goals that we have need a game plan. It needs a blueprint, it needs you to take action and then the path will appear. You know, I always like the saying like God helps those who help themselves. Well, it's kind of Cohen, you know, goes in hand in hand with the universe. Like the universe helps those who helps themselves.
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And Michaela J said something at her podcasting event that really just like kind of had a light bulb moment. It's a really good way to kind of explain that Like what is like, how do I, how do I make things manifest and stuff like that too, like how do I, I guess, just how do I make it work for me? And anyway, she made a comment that said, you know, you can put the running shoes on, but the universe isn't going to run the mile for you. Running shoes on, but the universe isn't going to run the mile for you. And I was like, oh my gosh, there's so many things I feel like that I want in my life. And we use the example of like maybe possibly trying to find love again, or like date or whatever. And I'm ready and I feel open, but I'm not doing a single thing to make it happen. I just assume that. Okay, like I'm writing my journal. I'm praying about it, I'm meditating on it, saying that I'm ready for this Like I'm ready for, like, a relationship. We're just using this as an example Cause, again, I don't know and I'm not doing anything to make that happen. I'm not online dating, I'm not going out, I'm not doing anything and it's almost like I just expect the person just to walk in. Yeah, versus if I put the running shoes on and I am running that mile and the path is being created with every single step I take.
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Just how it happened when I got into real estate. I put in a lot of work. I'm not going to discount that. I had to sell my house. I was scared to death, but as I was taking each step, the path kept appearing and I just kept going and I kept moving forward, not giving myself an option to back out, not giving myself a plan B at all. That's why I left the state of California, because I didn't want to have that backup plan quote, unquote a plan B. So as I kept going and pushing myself and taking the action steps, the path just started appearing and that's what we need to be doing.
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For anybody that is trying to figure out, why is manifestation not working for me. Maybe I just need to find another coach, maybe I need to buy another book. And this is where we go into the hamster wheel cycle of self-development work, where we are scouring the internet for good podcasts, we're trying to find a formula of how to make this work. We're trying to find somebody, a coach. We're paying thousands of dollars for coaching when it's actually so very simple. And don't get me wrong, coaching has its place. I have coaches, I have business coaches, I have law of attraction, manifestation, all the things I mean. I even went to Michaela J's podcasting event because, again, like I love a good coach and there's a place for that.
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But after a few years, you guys, if you are one of those people that cannot stop like, you can't get off the hamster wheel because you're so addicted to self-development work that you're so fixated on finding the formula, you need to jump off the hamster wheel and take a minute and just take action steps. But the first step of anything you want is you need to know what you want and you need to want it bad. You need to want success or love, or a new house, a new car, anything in your world. You have to want it so bad that you, you know it's like, oh my gosh, what's that saying? You ought to want it so bad that it's like you wanting to breathe, or something like that. I heard somebody say that and it was just crazy. It's like you ought to want it that bad, as if it's the air that is going to help you take the next breath. You have to want it bad, and when I got into real estate, that's how bad I wanted it, because I told myself I will never go back to law enforcement, I will never go back and there's no plan B. This is it. This. There's no plan B, this is it. This is the path I'm taking.
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And as I took those steps and I took those action steps, the path appeared. The people around me started to appear. And don't get me wrong, I wasn't sitting on my butt. I was going to networking events. I was going to what's called lunch and learns in the real estate world, where loan officers and title companies put on these big networking events for realtors and loan officers and all that fun stuff. And I was, I was going out and I was meeting everybody and I was traveling to meet people. I'm just saying like, but as I was taking those steps.
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The cool part about it is again the, the paths to started. The path started to appear and there are some aspects of my life. It's like why have I not been able to manifest love? Why have I not been able to like, manifest, like the, my soulmate or whatever you want to call them? And that's when Michaela J made the comment. Like you can't just put on a pair of tennis shoes and make the universe run your mile for you. You have to run the mile. I'm not doing a damn thing, so I must not want it that bad. And you have to ask yourself why am I not manifesting my love of my life or my career? Do you want it that bad? How bad do you want it? And I'm not saying that you don't want it bad enough, so you're not making it happen for yourself, or what. Maybe you do want it bad. Maybe you do, but you don't know what to do and you don't know what the steps are to take.
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If you want to get into a new career, try to go. Try to go find like Facebook groups that you know focus on those types of careers. There's little things that you can do. There's groups that you can go to there's Eventbrite where I use. I started using Eventbrite and to find all of these like networking groups. There's thousands of networking events going on in a career path that you want and you can sign up for all of them on Eventbrite. Some of them are free, most of them are free. Some of them sell tickets to like $12. And I tell everybody, everybody who asked me for any type of like advice on networking because my friends know I network my ass off and they all ask me like what do you use? And I say Eventbrite and I send them the freaking app. So if you guys need that app, I will send it to you too. Just DM me.
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So that is one thing you can do is just trying to put yourself in the room with those people and don't feel overwhelmed. Try not to feel overwhelmed. Don't feel like you don't belong there because those people are intimidating and they're already doing what you want to do. And it can be, it can be really intimidating, but you got to remember it's like there's a lot of people who are succeeding in that career path that you want, that want to help you. Nobody's going to criticize you if they're doing really well and they're happy with their business. It's usually the people around you that either want that thing to or want that career path to, but they're not doing anything about it and they're just kind of sitting back and waiting for life to happen for them and the career to happen for them. They're waiting, you know, to get called, you know called for that spot or that job they're going to. They're the ones that are going to be like what are you doing? Like you don't belong there. You know nobody's going to criticize you if they're doing really, really well.
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If anything, what I found is everybody wanted to help me because I was always putting myself in rooms with high producing real estate agents and I was asking them questions and I was going to their events and making so many friends. So don't be afraid to just put yourself in rooms with people that are already doing what you want to do. If you're looking for an action, step into another career. That's the best thing that you can do. Maybe even take a class, I'm not sure. Whatever you want to do. And same thing for anything that you're trying to manifest.
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I have like, for example, like what I'm trying to do is I want to buy a house in July. So I have been house touring for myself and getting a checklist from my loan officer of all the things I'm going to need in order to get the exact amount, the loan that I want for my house. So I'm out looking at houses at the same time and I am getting, like I said, a checklist of what is it going to take to get the loan that I want. What is it going to take to be able to live in the specific town that I want? Is it because it's very expensive? And I'm taking those action steps.
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So again, as I am putting myself out there in running my mile, the path is appearing and it makes it less scary because now it's less unknown. Because I mean, that's what fear is right. It's just the fear of the unknown. It's because we've never done that thing, we've never been there, we've never experienced it, so it's scary. It's supposed to be scary. If it wasn't scary, I feel like that's something. Then you just don't care enough. It is supposed to scare the shit out of you is what I've learned because it's a place or it's a job or it's something that you've never done before. It's uncharted territory. It is supposed to be scary. So, kind of going back to the book that I've been reading. Eventually you're going to have to put the books down. You're going to have to implement things that you have learned, that resonate with you, that feel right, and see what you know like. Figure out who you are and what works for you.
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I feel like for the longest time I kind of lost myself for a few years trying to figure out what works for me and what kind of like person I was, because I was reading so many self-development books that I was trying to be like the author and I was trying to be like them and I was trying to write my book the way that they would write their book and try to live my life the way they would live their life. And I'm like writing down their morning routines and I all of a sudden I have 12 different authors morning routines and I'm like I don't know any. I was losing myself. I'm like I don't know who I am Because I'm trying to be the person on the podcast or my business coach or whatever. But eventually I had to slow down and put a pin in it and I stopped listening to a lot of podcasts, not because I was not mad at them or whatever. It's just because I needed to take a break to figure out what works for me and actually implement what they have taught me and pick and choose the things that work and the things that don't for me, because it's not a one-size-fits-all. We are so unique here on earth and we're so different that eventually you're going to have to come up with your own routines and you're going to have to be brave enough to take action steps. You're the one that's going to have to put a plan together and go inward versus outward, because books, podcasts, self-development coaches all that fun stuff that's an outward thing. And if we can just kind of figure out our own blueprint, I feel like things would go a lot easier for all of us, especially when it came to manifestation and the law of attraction and stuff like that, because we are the ones that know what we want and, like I said, there is a place for business coaching and there's a place for books and everything else.
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If you are somebody who's just freshly getting into self-development and you don't know much about it, but you are interested and you're trying to kind of heal your wounds childhood trauma you don't know where to start. You need some ideas. You need some fresh ideas because you feel stuck, you feel stagnant. Yeah, absolutely, pick up a couple books. Talk to some coaches. There's so many courses out there. I've taken a couple courses and it's given me these incredible different ideas. But don't get stuck on that hamster wheel for too long. It's time again to remind yourself like, okay, that was a great book, that was a great podcast.
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I love what she had to say. There's so many amazing girls that have these incredible freaking podcasts and I can't get enough. Especially there's this one and I'm a part of her book club and I just feel like I can't get enough of her. And I think it's because she also not only talks about the law of attraction and manifestation. She talks about her life and her kids and she's a single mom and and I just feel like I'm addicted to her because she's so relatable and I mean I love the stuff that she has to say. And the good thing about some of these podcasts too, it's like they make it seem like they're so like just like regular people trying to live their best lives and that they have this like formula down that you know they're manifesting their dream careers, their successful business coaches, life coaches, they have top 10 podcasts on Apple and all the things. But because they had to slow down themselves and find out what works for them. And then, once they did find out what works for them, guess what it actually worked and they became successful.
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I don't think that I'm going to be successful if I can't figure out my own kind of equation and the way things work for me. I've noticed, because I'm a very visual person, I feel like I'm my best and I manifest at my best when I'm writing things down and I can visualize it. But that's not going to work for everybody, cause not everybody's a visual. I'm a very visual person, even when I do my mediumship readings. When I give somebody a reading, sometimes I have to, like keep my eyes closed for a while because, like I like to see the person that I'm talking to, I like to see spirit and again, they know Spirit even knows I'm a visual person, so when they appear, I like to be able to see them. So I have to see who I'm talking to.
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So find out what works for you and you will be successful at anything that you actually want, and you have to want it bad enough, and what I suggest that you do is you write a list of maybe three to five things that you really, really, really want out of this life. It doesn't matter what it is it could be a family, it could be a career, it could be just a sports car, it can be travel, it can be just career, it could be just a sports car, it can be travel, it can be just anything. But you need to write it in a list, especially like a priority list. Maybe put like the things that are a little bit easier on the you know for number one and then go down to number five and make those things the hard, hard stuff, the more difficult things, the things that are going to take more work, they're going to take more miles, they're going to take a bigger game plan. They're going to stretch you so far out of your comfort zone that it's going to be scary as shit. But once you start accomplishing the little things, the bigger things just seem a little bit easier because you have the tolerance, you have the patience for them. You're going to be a little less scared. Going and starting off small all the way to the bigger things, it's going to make things a little bit easier for you Also what I when I think about perception and sometimes things seem like they're too big of a stretch.
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For example, I'll use the podcast right, and I know how rare it is for a podcast to become very, very successful and my goal. Mel Robbins is one of my absolute podcasters of all time and I would love if my podcast was like hers, where I get to interview people from all over the world, all walks of life, in all different types of career fields and stuff like that, and all we get to do is just talk about their story. I would, I would just die of happiness and the thought of that used to overwhelm me. It used to scare the crap out of me because I'm like, I'm not Mel Robbins, nor do I talk like her. I don't have the same interviewing style, I don't know what I'm doing half the time and I have to remind myself that at one point she didn't either. And as long as I keep recording and being consistent and running my mile step-by-step, that the path will eventually kind of be laid out for me.
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And again, like the, the perception of it is like she makes it look easy, but I know that it wasn't easy, but it is easy and I have to remind myself like it's easy, anybody can do anything. It's is easy. And I have to remind myself it's easy, anybody can do anything. It's that easy. We just have to actually do it and not give up. When things get super stressful and you just want to throw in the towel and stuff like that. That's when you have to keep going, because that's what they did. Nobody just becomes successful overnight, unless you're a Kardashian, but for the rest of us quote unquote normal people it's consistency that gets these people to where they're at there's so many times. I'm sure Mel Robbins didn't think it was going to happen for her and she wanted to be a big podcaster and she was already in her 40s and she thought nobody was going to listen to her and she didn't know what she was doing and stuff like that. Well, she made it work and again I feel like it is that easy.
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I want to show you how your perception is your reality. And God, that used to be my. I used to hate when people said that it's like a big military saying is like perception is reality, so don't look like you're doing something If it's going to get you kind of thing. It just used to irritate me, cause, like I used to say, like perception is not reality, but it actually is. Like your perception of the world is what is going to be your reality. So, if you can see your biggest goals and you know it's going to stretch you out of your comfort zone, you're so overwhelmed because you know it's going to take a lot of work, but just keep telling yourself like it's going to be easy for me, and it's like you have to convince yourself that it's going to be fine, it's going to be easy and things are going to work out for you.
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And if, if they can do it, I can do it. Because for me, if I can see something and I know it exists, like I would love a big house on the Hill, like the huge backyard, like I would, I love it. I love those types of houses, right, like I'm very, very bougie, so I can see those houses. I see them all the time working in real estate. So if I know they exist, I know I can have it. And you should be thinking the same thing. If what you can see exists, you can have it. Go test drive the car, go, go look at those big ass houses, go talk to people in the career field that you want to be in, whatever it is. If it exists or I can't talk tonight, if it exists you can have it.
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So I want to do a little perception exercise with you. If you are not driving or you're, you're in a position where you can like stop for just a second. I want you to close your eyes and I want you to picture a balance beam in front of you on the floor, one of those like old school gymnastics balance beams. You can just picture a plank of wood, a long plank of wood in front of you where you have to take, you know, step-by-step, one foot in front of the other, kind of balance beam. But the balance beam is on the floor. Easy, right, you're taking steps, step-by-step, going slow. You're doing just fine, you're not scared because it's on the floor right Now.
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I want you to imagine that balance beam is high, like maybe about 20 feet off the ground, and you're a little, a little more nervous, right? Because now you're high, you just. But you just did that, right? You just, you just took those little steps when the balance beam was on the floor. But now, because the the balance beam is higher, it gets a little scary, but you're doing exactly the same thing, but now the perception looks harder because you're elevated and it's like you know what you need to do, but you're scared, but you need to just do the same thing as if the balance beam was on the floor. So, whatever, I guess what I'm trying to say is that the perception of what you want is always going to be scary, but if you keep being consistent and you keep doing those things and you keep taking those action steps and you keep putting yourself in those rooms with people who are already doing what you're doing, it's going to get laid out for you. The path will appear. You just have to keep going, and sometimes it's going to look like the path isn't appearing and you feel stuck or you're at a crossroads and you don't know what to do.
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It's but make a decision. That's my best advice to you. I'm one of those people that, like, I'll think about it maybe for 20 minutes and then I'm making a decision. I make a decision quick and I'm doing the decision Like I'm. That's it Like final decision. There's no turning back, because I I trust myself to know that if it's the wrong decision, I'll figure it out. I'll figure it out. If I, if I effed it up and I went down the wrong road and I have to backtrack a little bit, that's fine, I'll figure it out. But you need to make a decision. Your indecision is causing you to stay put where you're at, to stay stuck. Make a decision. So, like I said, the next time that you're scared to make a decision or to make those action steps into something that you really really want, think about the balance beam, one foot in front of the other. It doesn't matter if the balance beam is on the floor or it's elevated. You already know what to do.
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All right, guys, that's the episode. Thank you so so much for listening to me rant on. It is late. If it sounds like I can't talk, it's because my daughter is on summer break and I can't record in the mornings and I can't record at school because she's not in school. So now I have to wait till it's like close to 10 o'clock at night, and now I'm going to be one of those podcasters that has to record when it's so late that I can't even like put a sentence together.
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I can't promise these solo episodes are going to be good this summer, but the fact that you guys are reaching out and saying hi and telling me that you like the podcast on my DMs and I see that I get tagged in like Facebook groups now. Thank you so much. You have no idea how much I love that and how much it makes me want to keep going. You have no idea. So if you guys could please leave me a review, rate me all the stars, honest review, dm me. I'll follow you back on Instagram. Just let me know that you found me through the podcast and I'll definitely give you a follow back. I just appreciate you guys so, so much and I hope you guys have a beautiful, wonderful weekend. I will be at a water park my personal hell with my six-year-old daughter because it's her heaven, but I am not a water park person, but of course, I have to do things that make my daughter happy. Okay, guys, I love you so so much and I will see you next Friday.
