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Emily Shurmer's Guide to Transformative Living
Discover how to manifest your dream life with insights from Emily Shurmer, a celebrated manifestation coach and psychic medium. Through her own journey, sparked by Rhonda Byrne's "The Secret," Emily shares transformative techniques that blend spirituality and science to help you achieve personal goals. As we approach a new year, there's no better time to reignite your manifestation journey and embrace the power of intention and open-mindedness.
Explore the profound impact of 2020's global upheaval on personal growth and spiritual awakening. Meditation and crystals emerged as essential tools for calming the mind and fostering self-improvement, with Emily guiding us in choosing the right crystals like labradorite for transformation. Dive into the world of energetic vibrations and the law of attraction to learn how altering your mindset can reshape your reality and relationships.
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Hey guys, welcome back to Updated AF Collective, the podcast.
Speaker 1:I am your host, megan Wirth, back with another incredible interview. You guys, I sat down with Emily Shermer. She is a manifestation coach, psychic medium. She does crystal work. She is absolutely incredible and you guys have to check out this episode. My whole goal with this interview with her was because she was a manifestation coach.
Speaker 1:I wanted to take full advantage of that of having somebody like Emily on the podcast to break it down, to go back to the basics. My theory behind that was you know, january is literally right around the corner and a lot of people are going to be in their goal setting season. It's time to sit down, it's time to plan out 2025. It's time to put those vision boards together, all of the things right. And what I wanted to talk about is like, what are the basics? Going back to the basics, and that's why we sat down and we recorded this interview, because it's so important to go back to the basics. And that's why we sat down and we recorded this interview, because it's so important to go back to the basics. So many people I feel like at least in our community that I've seen on different Facebook groups and stuff like that always make the comment not always, but most people make the comment after a while like, oh, it was working for so long, you know, and everything was going great, I was manifesting my dream life and all this other stuff, and then it just stopped working, like things flatlined. And I wanted to break it down of what, what you need to do in order to kind of get yourself back on track, and so we talk about what are the basics and what we what you should do to get back on track and listening to her story. So you know, of course, she's one of those girlies, just like the rest of us, back in 2020, when she literally had her spiritual awakening and she discovered the secret which I can't. I don't know if, like this podcast has started to turn into something like a cult. It's not a freaking cult, but if you've noticed many times this book gets brought up on updated AF, it is comical Because I'm just thinking like I need to start getting paid. I need, I need to start getting paid. I need to start getting like paid by Rhonda Byrne on how many times I have name dropped this book on my podcast, but I'm not. I'm not getting paid. So, oh my gosh. Yeah, if you guys haven't read the Secret like I can't, I don't know, I don't want to tell you. Go read it. It's life-changing. It has literally changed millions of lives, maybe billions. I'm not that into it, but so, anyway, sit back, grab a cup of coffee or whatever. And you guys, this is Emily Shermer. Hey guys, welcome back to the show.
Speaker 1:Today I have another incredible guest and you guys are going to absolutely love her. I fell in love with her because we've been following each other on Instagram for a while and you know she is this psychic, she's a medium, she's a manifestation coach and she has a huge following. So I knew this girl was legit. So I actually actually gave me a reading and it was by far one of the best readings I've ever had, because not only were you able to kind of like point things out in my life and give me timeframes, but you nailed it without me saying a word of what I've been actively manifesting and trying to accomplish. Girl like you're talented. Because it was crazy. Yeah, her name is Emily Shermer. Sorry, I got, I got too excited. I will mention your name and owner and operator of Radiant Soul Living, emily. Welcome to Updated AF.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much for having me. I'm honored to be on the show.
Speaker 1:I'm so glad you're here. I literally have the chills because, like, and I've been looking forward to this since the, since the reading, when you, you know, when I asked you, at the end of it I was like, yeah, podcast, a hundred percent, I'm so excited that you're here. Okay, before we jump into anything, you guys cause I kind of talked to Emily at the beginning saying that you know, we're so close to January 1st. Since she's a manifestation coach, I wanted to bring it back to the basics of what manifestation is, maybe the spirituality and the science behind it. But before we jump into the meat and potatoes of the whole conversation, who's Emily? Tell me a little bit about your story. How the hell did you end up in this space?
Speaker 2:Yes, I love it. So I began my whole manifestation journey when I went through a breakup, like many of us do. So I went through a breakup and at the same time I was feeling a little bit stagnant in my career. I was working in corporate and I just felt like I wasn't serving people, I wasn't helping anyone. So that was really frustrating me at the time, but also going through the heartbreak as well. One of my best friends gave me the book the Secret, the holy grail of self-help books, and it literally it's a cataclysm, by the way, people.
Speaker 1:Sorry.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, I love it. If you haven haven't read the secret, go read the secret by Rhonda Burns. But it literally changed my life and I didn't realize that I had actually been manifesting my whole life without knowing it. So when I was really, really small, I used to go to Paris because I had family over there for like a few times a year to go visit them, and I fell in love with the city and I was like I, when I was about like six, seven years old, I was like I'm gonna live in Paris. I'm gonna live in Paris one day. That was the first city I ever moved to out of my hometown was Paris. So I manifested it, I literally manifested it.
Speaker 2:So that was just one thing which I didn't realize that I did out there, right, um, but after my friend introduced me to the secret, he also introduced me to crystals, crystal healing, and at the time I was super stressed. I was really anxious. I got IBS. I went to the doctor for it. The doctor was prescribing me tablets and everything and after I'd taken the tablets I just realized like it was still there.
Speaker 2:So I turned to like my crystals and I started that practice of mindfulness, using these tools, my body actually, like it was crazy. It just healed. And I was like, wow, I want to show the world what crystals can do. You know, the benefit of mindfulness. And then I was like, okay, this is my purpose, I need to do something with it. And then that's how I kind of got into my business and, yeah, it just stemmed from something that really was such a pivotal time in my life and I wanted to share it with other people and just show them the benefits of manifestation, crystal healing, energy healing. And then, yeah, from then on, I just was obsessed, like many of us are, and just wanted to learn more and more and more and just help as many people as possible.
Speaker 1:Really, that was the goal now I think this is a key like player in this whole thing of your awakening, quote-unquote awakening what year was this? Because I, I mean, I know I snooped you on your website, but what did this whole thing go down?
Speaker 2:I think that's like yeah, 2020, covid, baby everyone yeah, and that's what you know.
Speaker 1:It's crazy, girl, because you're not the only one. I feel like something happened. Obviously, besides COVID, I feel like there was a huge shift, and I've talked about this on other people's platforms too, and we talked about, like, how I got here, and I say there was a huge awakening in the entire world. Whether you decided to fight it, which some people did, they fought. They fought it or they went with it, and I feel like you were one of those people that just went with it. Were you searching for a purpose? Like what? What was it like? What did you feel when you were like, oh my gosh, I know, like I have this book, the secret. Like what were you looking for?
Speaker 2:I was literally just looking for peace of mind. I was so overwhelmed in every area of my life and I don't know if you've ever been there but you're like what the hell? Like this is not how I expected my life. I had a vision of my life. I got to a certain point, especially in my career, where I should have been happy, but I wasn't. I was, yeah, miserable, and although I even had the most amazing team around me I my manager, I loved her to bits, but I just there was something that just was so unfulfilling. I also had multiple relationships as well before that breakup and I just thought, like what is wrong with me? Why can't I, you know, attract a good partner? I was attracting fuck boys all the time, like emotionally unavailable guys. Every single time I was like I need to like do the inner work.
Speaker 1:Something in me is blocking myself freaking, saying the inner work, because everybody, including myself, we all had this. We were looking for something or somebody outside of ourselves where we're just like like we're panicking, almost like it's almost like a panic, and we're just like running around saying somebody needs to fix me, somebody needs to fix this. But like when you started meditating and you have your crystals because I know some people out there don't believe in it but they freaking work. Every single crystal has on a different vibration and it can help you know kind of heal a different part of our body or situation or whatever the case is, with that different level of vibrant um vibration. But going inward with meditation, do you think that's what just started? Calming your nervous system down to where you can think clearly?
Speaker 2:A hundred percent. I honestly I don't think I would be where I am today without meditation. And I'm going to tell you something I do have ADHD. I'm dyslexic as well. So for me to sit still and just not move and just like you know, being being meditation was so difficult for me in the beginning. But I think if you're a beginner especially, start with small like five minute meditation, even two minutes. I literally started with two, two to five minutes meditation and, honestly, it changed and developed and now 30 minutes goes by and I'm like where did that time go?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it gets easier, right, so it's just, it's a practice, right, so you just have to practice your meditation. While you're meditating, what do you do? Do you have a special crystal that calls out to you, just for anybody out there listening, like they're like okay, like I need to get into this. You what do you do?
Speaker 2:sure. So I would. I always say if ever you want to meditate with crystals, go on your intuition. So if there's a crystal calling you, there's probably a reason why I love it when beginners come to me and they're asking me you know what does this crystal mean? And what does that crystal mean? You know what? It doesn't matter. A crystal is calling you for a reason, no matter, like what a label has on it, it's calling you for a reason. You should always trust that. Um. So, yeah, I love to meditate with my crystals.
Speaker 2:If I'm lying down, I love to put one on my third eye. Today I even did one in the morning and I switched the crystal halfway in between my meditation and I literally felt this crystal like burning my third eye and I just felt it open. I was seeing visions and everything. So always go with your intuition. Um, that that would be my main one, although I always um, I always shout out this one crystal that literally changed everything for me. That's the reason why I actually started my business, and it's called labradorite. It is the stone of transformation, the stone of magic. It literally does everything for you. It helps with anxiety, it helps with grounding, it helps to open your third eye. It helps with psychic abilities. So many things. I shout about it, rave about it all the time.
Speaker 1:So this is the crystal to go to for literally anything that would be a good starter crystal, or is that like a little too advanced? Because I almost wonder no, what I know crap out of somebody if they did it and then all of a sudden they're having this like huge awakening, do you think it'd be too?
Speaker 2:much for them? No, absolutely not. I feel like it's so grounding and so connected with the earth, but also spiritual realms. It's like the perfect beginner crystal. Um, I would say if you're a beginner, don don't go to Moldavite.
Speaker 1:No, I'm scared. I actually have a story about Moldavite and it's. I woke up one day and I was listening to a podcast and there was a girl talking about like how Moldavite has like shaken up her life, both for the you know. It started off really bad, but in the end it was all for a higher purpose, and so I was like I'm going to go get some mold of it. This is like a couple of months ago. And so crystal shop in my small little town here in Texas, and I went there and she was like oh my gosh, she's like we just sold the last piece of mold of it and we don't know when we're going to get more because it's so rare, right. And so she was like you know, try, across the street, I think they sell Moldavite too, which is like really weird, cause it's it's like a um, like a, like a a clothing store, but the closing clothing store they had, um, a crystal cart.
Speaker 1:And I asked her. I was like I was told you guys have Moldavite here and she was like, literally yesterday we just sold the last piece. And I I was like I've been going the like it's not for you. She's like if you're finding that like it's not available, she's like whatever. She's like. Who told you to get molded by? I was like a girl on a podcast and she specifically said that to get it and I was like no, she's like, you don't need it.
Speaker 2:Like yeah, you don't need it.
Speaker 1:Obviously, the universe is working itself out for you and it's not for you no, no, but it was crazy because I was like I wanted it so bad, because I was like I could use a little shaken up. But yeah, the universe kept putting me in places where it had just been sold and they said yes, so I missed it by a day. So maybe that's a blessing and a curse, but so do you sell crystals.
Speaker 2:Yes, I do sell crystals on my Instagram page, so I have some crystals there, um, but I don't sell as many as I was before because I'm so focused on my coaching now, but I do have some still available. And also, if um people do sign up for mentorship with me, I send them a whole package of crystals which I intuitively pick for you as well, and I love doing that.
Speaker 1:I love that. That's I mean, that's amazing. That's what makes you special as a coach too. It's like little touches. You do a lot of things that a lot of other coaches don't do Like, and we'll get into that too, because I was just absolutely amazed with, after you gave me my reading, you sent me that email of like a recap and you know, just to kind of reiterate everything in the reading. Everything was so organized and I loved it. You're just like so different.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:You're amazing girl, let's get into it. I have I feel like I need to take advantage of you here because you are a manifestation coach and, like I said, it's it's the end of the year and now everybody's going to be going back to the basics. Let's start off with the simplest question what is the law of attraction?
Speaker 2:law of attraction is whatever you think, whatever feel, whatever you're putting out there, that's what you're getting back to you, simply put as possible.
Speaker 1:Oh, with that in mind. So whatever you're putting out there, so can you give an example? Like I know this, but for anybody that is new to this space, or they just finished the Secret, what do you mean by what? Like putting out there?
Speaker 2:let's talk about that so let's say you are in a really positive mindset and you're like today is going to be a great day. You're putting out into the universe you know today is going to be an amazing day you're vibrating at that energy of positivity and what you're putting out there in the universe you're going to attract it back. If, say, you're in a positivity and what you're putting out there in the universe, you're going to attract it back. If say, you're in a negative space and you're like, oh, it's Monday morning, I can't be bothered, like you're not going to feel good and maybe you're going to attract a delayed train or you know something that's going to frustrate you and put you in that negative vibration.
Speaker 2:Obviously we all have our bad days, but it's realizing and noticing and having self-awareness where your thoughts are coming from, what they are. I think that's the biggest thing is having that self-awareness and for a lot of my life I didn't have that self-awareness and I I raved to everyone to just do the inner work, have that faith in yourself, that self-belief. But what I also want to say on this is 95% of your mind is subconscious and the 5% is conscious. So with the work that I do, it's very focused on the subconscious mind, because you could have grown up with the belief that money doesn't grow on trees or, you know, money is the root of all evil. All of these negative beliefs. Why are limiting beliefs? Exactly why your subconscious mind, and maybe you unconsciously, are attracting lack or scarcity. So what I like to do is really dig deep and change. Change those beliefs and rewire them. There's so many different ways that you can do that, but yeah, I've gone off on a little tangent there, but I love it, we're gonna dive into all of that.
Speaker 1:So it's like almost like your inner world is an exact um projection of your outer world. So, yeah, you are on the inside, whether you have limiting beliefs that you grew up and you were taught by your peers or whatever. You don don't correct those. Those are like your negative thoughts. The world is bad, people are bad. You know, money is hard to get. I can't be successful because of what happened to me in my childhood. Those are all limiting beliefs. It's almost like taking. It's like somebody taking a child and putting a lid on top of their head and saying, like this is what you're going to believe because I'm instilling it into your brain. And then you go on for the rest of your life believing those things because somebody poured their negative energy into you and you help kind of get that out. Because I feel like once somebody has that transformation where they quote, unquote awake and are out into the world and they're starting to see things in a new perspective, their reality changes, right.
Speaker 2:So exactly exactly, but you make quantum leaps when you change your mind. Really, when you change your mind, your energy because it, and your, your spiritual energy as well. Everything is like. You see the world so differently, and also people fall off as well. Have to mention that one as well, because it's only natural, it's only like a universal law when you're at a certain vibration, there's people who are going to fall off at the same time because they are not energetically matched to you anymore let's unpack that.
Speaker 1:What do you mean? Energetically matched?
Speaker 2:Yeah. So say you're vibrating at a really high frequency let's say it's a hundred, but your friend is vibrating at a 50 and she's stuck at the 50 and you're like so you're glowing at a hundred and you know there's some kind of imbalance between the both of you. Sometimes you know that friend isn't there on your hundreds so you can't, they literally cannot match you and you're so high you don't want to come back down to their level. And that can happen through, like, for example, gossip.
Speaker 1:I think when you're vibrating, you don't want to gossip on completely two different vibrational levels. When you're at 100 and somebody else is well below you, I feel like, yeah, you're not attracting that person into your life anymore. I feel like that's how people grow apart, and it can happen either way. Whether you have a friend that's vibrating at a higher level than you or vice versa, eventually you are going to grow apart and I feel like that's how and why people grow apart is because, like, we're not an energetic match.
Speaker 2:Think of magnets, exactly yeah, exactly, and what I want to say as well because I see it a lot with my clients too when they're going through a spiritual awakening because a lot of people come to me when they're at the beginning stage or it's been a year or so in their spiritual awakening and they do find it really lonely because they're in that space of friends, are falling apart relationships. You know they've broken up with someone or it's just it feels like your world is crashing down sometimes when you're going through this spiritual awakening. But this is amazing, like what you're doing on your podcast as well bringing people together. Community this is a space where people need to come and find like-minded people, and I wish I had that in the beginning as well. I wish I had a like-minded people and I wish I had that in the beginning as well. I wish I had a like-minded community around me, because I honestly thought I was going crazy, and a lot of people do. When they're going through a spiritual awakening, they're like.
Speaker 2:I remember, even just before my spiritual awakening, I was seeing 11, 11 everywhere and I was like what the hell is going on? I keep seeing this number and I kept telling my colleagues I keep seeing 11, 11, like what does this mean? But it's so important to find community when you're in that space, because I know how lonely, lonely it is. I know people do find it really a lonely place to be in when they're going through it. But I just want you to know, for you listening, it's amazing that you're already here and know that you're not alone and know that there are people out there to support you.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. It's going to get messy. Spiritual awakenings are supposed to be messy. It is stripping away who you are so that you can grow into who you were always, always supposed to be become. Sorry, hopefully that made sense, because it needs. Your friends are going to leave you some. You might even lose some family members. You are growing into who you've always become when you start awakening, and sometimes it means a job loss that was never meant for you so that you can have a job that was always meant for you. Doors are going to close just because another door is going to open. But what is so hard about that? Because we are human beings, we like being comfortable and we like predictability.
Speaker 1:And for me, I could only hold on so tight to my older self, my older version of myself, because I mean I was crying a lot going through this awakening. I mean I was. I thought I was depressed because I'm watching everything change and I'm like what is going on? My life is crumbling. But as soon as I surrendered, a whole nother world opened up and I just went with it. I was like you know what, if this is where I'm supposed to be, so be it.
Speaker 1:And I followed the path. I surrendered. Don't get me wrong, I was scared. I did it scared and that's why I want everybody to understand, if you're listening to this and you are going through your spiritual awakening, surrender. I literally had a tarot card that was given to me. Um, which was crazy. I think I look at it as like a kind of like a gift from God or the universe, whoever source, and it said surrender and um, I'm unpacking Otherwise I would show it to you because it's still in one of these boxes but it says surrender and I still have it on my bulletin board because it's a reminder of like, when you surrender, you surrender to faith and it's going to always lead you to where you were always meant to be.
Speaker 2:It's like your GPS compass you it's, it's like your gps compass 100. I love that. Surrender is such a key part and a lot of my clients as well struggle with that part. The most is the surrender. It's the trust, it's the letting go, but it's a must it's the ego and we can't help it.
Speaker 1:We were given this ego gift. It is a gift. At the end of the day, it's meant to keep us alive but it doesn't serve us. When you have your limiting beliefs telling you life is hard, money's hard, you can't do that career. You went to school for this. Who do you think you are when you break those down, you get yourself an amazing coach like Emily who can help you deteriorate those limiting beliefs. Amazing coach like Emily who can help you deteriorate those limiting beliefs. Your world opens up and surrendering eventually becomes a hell of a lot easier. It does. I can honestly say that for somebody who threw themselves into this space, it got easier. It wasn't. It wasn't um. It wasn't easy in the beginning, but eventually it easier. It does. It does so. Do you have um like a favorite? So I know there's like so many different laws of the universe. I have my favorite. What is your favorite law when it comes to this whole law of attraction, manifestation, space? Is there one that you go?
Speaker 2:by. Like you, I want to give you an unexpected one, one that you know a lot of coaches don't give you. Yeah, um, it's the first one that came to mind, you know. So I feel like this one is the one that everyone needs to hear today, and it's the law of repetition. I don't know if you've heard of this one before that's a good one.
Speaker 1:I've never yeah, you say that when I'm okay.
Speaker 2:Well, I'll give you a couple of examples on this one. So it's when something keeps repeatingly happen. So when, for example, like I said in the beginning, when I kept attracting toxic men into my life, it was a repeated pattern. Another one that I had was I kept repeating going into jobs that weren't fulfilling. Another one was for me, which was crazy, because I used to drink a lot of alcohol, grew up in the UK it's alcohol culture here, like you know, going out all the time. Oh my God, like when I went to university, I was drinking so much it was not good at all. And then the last few relationships that I've been in, each one of them didn't drink alcohol.
Speaker 2:I was like this is the law of repetition, like the universe is literally telling me, like I don't need to drink alcohol, I literally just stopped, like because it was just so normal not to drink and my health got so much better, my skin got so much better, I was feeling more energized. So I want you to think about where in my life do I keep repeating patterns? This is the law of repetition, right, because the universe is literally. It could be a lesson that you need to learn, a lesson that keeps coming through and you're like, oh why, why does this keep happening to me? And instead ask yourself why is this happening for me? What do I need to change?
Speaker 1:the, the fact that you brought especially like the job and the men. That is two big things. I feel like a lot of women in the world are asking like why? Like is it me? Am I the common denominator? You know, like I've heard these things being said, I've even said it where you know you're just attracting shit relationship after shit relationship and you're wondering, like why? But if you look back, all of the men are kind of similar. You know what I mean. All have this type that in our mind. We think we want, but it's not serving us. We have what. I think it's just a bad habit that you break.
Speaker 2:Yeah for sure. I realized that my bad habit was giving more than I needed to. In relationship, I would literally like do everything for them and I wasn't giving to myself, I wasn't giving myself self-love, and I think that was like the biggest lesson, and each time I would say I'm gonna do that again. And then I went and did it again until now I'm like I need to work on me. I need to give myself what I need, and I think I grew up with the belief that I need to do that. That was like literally like a belief. I mean, it's not a bad one to have I'm a giving person but it's also putting in boundaries. It's also, you know, there's so much to it that I was attracting the wrong thing and you know, I think a lot of people go through these lessons. But it's really recognizing.
Speaker 2:Okay, what is this reflecting back to me? What do I need to change? What do I need to do? I think it's so easy to blame the person if you're in a relationship. Oh, they were like this or they were like that, but turn the perspective on you. Okay, where do I need to grow? What is this lesson trying to tell me? What do I want actually in my next relationship.
Speaker 1:How did you break the cycle? What did you do? Did you journal? Did you get a coach? What happened?
Speaker 2:I did get a coach, but I was also in a toxic relationship at that time and for me it was identifying okay, looking at my childhood and looking at what were my beliefs growing up around being loved, and I was so anxiously attached in every relationship and then I realized like what made you anxiously attached.
Speaker 1:Can are you? Can you open up to that? Just because yeah, of course, when you said that, I got the chill.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I my parents, amazing like they were, they're loving everything. I can't fault them, but I felt so anxiously attached I. The main thing for me was my mum had postnatal depression when I was growing up, so there was a distance there and I didn't feel like I could really go to her for, for emotional support really, and especially when I was younger, if I went for a breakup. I remember when I went through my first breakup and she was like oh, get over it, you know you'll be fine. It was like just brush it aside. She's also from the Philippines and they're very like just be strong, come on, pull yourself together.
Speaker 1:Cultural. Take a bun, everything's gonna be fine. Yeah, exactly don't cry.
Speaker 2:You know, very like this mentality independent women girl, yeah, um, and then my dad was super busy working all the time. Um, we also looked after my grandmother because she lived with us. She was disabled, so we had to take care of her, so a lot of the time and effort went into caring for her. Also, my dad was trying to, you know, pay the bills and everything. So I didn't feel like I had that emotional support growing up. And then I saw that, as you know, when I was in relationships, that's something that I really was so attached to and I was like, oh my god, like if they don't message me then they don't love me. You know things like this and I would get so anxious. And for me, meditation really helped, um, just to calm my nervous system, but also having the awareness first that I had it. I didn't even realize I had this anxious attachment either doing the work the pattern, like you have to notice the pattern first.
Speaker 1:The law of repetition you have, yes yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2:And also again coming back to surrender, surrender, letting go, because I was chasing, like we don't chase, we attract right. So I was doing all the chasing, like come on, I'll cook for you, I'll do this for you, but no, like, what are you gonna do for yeah?
Speaker 1:And that's what it is Like when you chase anything and this, this can be not just a relationship but a career, a job. You know something you're trying to manifest, like for me, I'm trying to manifest, you know, my book deal and all that fun stuff. But like I'm not, I'm not coming at it with messy energy of desperation. Desperation is a repellent and that goes for relationships, it goes for the law of attraction, like everything. When you are desperate, when you are like, look I will, if I don't get this thing, I'm going to die, which is very dramatic.
Speaker 1:But some people go after things like that, especially in the law of attraction space, where they're like I don't know why it's not working, like I should have A, b and C and like I'm doing all of the things and it's like, well, when, when have you? When was like you calmed yourself down with meditation, you calmed your nervous system down and you stopped coming at it at a desperation vibrational level? Because that's what it is. It's a low level, I think, like desperation, jealousy, those are super low vibrational frequencies and you're dragging yourself down. You are only attracting other low vibrational frequencies when you are that low.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly. And a big one, especially in relationships, is ask yourself do you actually believe that you're worth it? A huge one for me, like in the beginning I didn't actually believe I was worthy. It's so basic and I feel like just wiring that into your subconscious that you are worthy, you're worthy of love, you're worthy of the wealth, you're worthy of your dream job. Having that worthiness it's gonna change your life. Yeah, because you won't. You're not gonna put up with shit. You're not gonna put up with, you know, a guy treating you like shit. You're not going to stay in a job that's unaligned. You're going to be asking for pay rises because you know your worth. Yeah, worthiness is such a key to this.
Speaker 1:But I feel like I don't know. Girl, I'm almost 40. So like I can contest to this. And you look like you're like 21.
Speaker 2:So like I can contest to this and you look like you're like 21.
Speaker 1:So like back in, like the early nineties and I think this, this kind of like, stems from a little bit of what was pounded into our heads is like there was a certain look If you didn't look like the stick model on the Victoria's secret magazine, like you weren't worthy If you didn't look a certain way, if you didn't have a social status of like you know, if you didn't come from money.
Speaker 1:And also it was of like conceited was a huge word. I remember being in elementary school and if I commented or complimented myself like I was like you guys, look at my shoes, like they're so cute, everybody would spill around the word conceited, like it was shameful to be proud of yourself, to love yourself and to like show off, quote, unquote, show off. It was pounded in my head at a really young age, that one I was never good enough, I was not allowed to compliment myself because I was considered conceited, which, looking back, is so freaking, toxic and disgusting. I feel like a lot of women in my generation is like that is our limiting belief, is we weren't allowed to believe that we were worth anything so true, so true do you have that experience too?
Speaker 1:I know we have like almost like 10 years between us, but like did you grow up because I don't know what it's like over, for example, like in the UK? Um, yeah, there's probably a lot of similarities, let's be real. But did you grow up in that really toxic culture of like just judging each other and like, yes, yeah, always had that at school and I always felt at school that I was the odd one out.
Speaker 2:I didn't really have you know, people have like their set group. I was such a floater. I didn't. I felt like I didn't fit in anywhere, to be honest, because I was. I wasn't one of the popular ones, I wasn't like a jock, how you'd say. Like you know, I really felt like I was a floater and I also felt like I couldn't wait to leave school. To be honest, when I was young, because I hated bitchiness. I grew up with two brothers and I would just be like, let's just fight it out. You know, if you're gonna like say something, say it to my face. I, I can't stand bitchiness, um, but yeah, we definitely had that for sure, and it's still going on.
Speaker 1:You know, people still act this way and put each other down and I hate that yeah, which is crazy because, like, since I've come into this space, I don't attract those people into my life anymore, like at all. Yeah, even my podcast I don't think I've ever had like a hater. Um, I occasionally will get a nasty comment on my Instagram. Like it's so rare, like once a year, somebody will say something super nasty, but I'm just like and it doesn't even bother me. I feel like I'm at a point where I'm like I feel sorry for them. If anything I love and I block them because I don't have low vibrational energy. Exactly, yes, it's so contagious. Just stay away from those freaking people because it's going to ruin your life.
Speaker 2:Definitely.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh. So besides the law of repetition, is there any others that do you feel like are so pertinent, so important to know when getting into this space?
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay. So the law of action, because you need to be taking aligned action. I also was confused in the beginning because when I read the, the secret, it's all about saying it out loud, thinking it, and she doesn't really say about doing the action, taking the aligned action. So for me, that one is a big one because but I don't want you to get confused also because I feel like you need to have a balance. There's a balance of taking action, but also sitting back and well, it's meeting the universe halfway. You're gonna do everything that you can, but you need to have that element of okay universe. You do your part, please, and I'll do my part. And then meeting.
Speaker 2:I've got a really great exercise, really quick, for this one, which I love to do. So you're going to draw a table and on one side, you're going to write down your to-dos let's say it's your 2025 goals, what do you need to do to achieve these manifestations or these goals that you have? Write them all down on the left side and then, on the right side, you're going to put universes to do's and then list all the things that you need the universe to do for you and literally just focus on your part and let the universe do the other part of your to do's. And it's amazing, when you're going to look back and you'll look at your manifestations, how much the universe did for you, and it's important to be specific about this as well, just like how it's important when you're doing your vision boards and all of that, to be specific. Get specific on your to-dos and the universe's to-dos. I love this tip.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna totally do that. I almost yeah. For people who are just now getting into this, I almost feel like one. It identifies an avenue of approach that the universe can take in order to get you to that thing, because I feel like there's so many different ways that we can all accomplish what we're trying to manifest, or our goal. There's so many different ways, but if we're so fixated on how am I going to do this, what am I going to do? It has to come in through this way, it has to be this way, or it's not going to work or whatever.
Speaker 1:But when you write those avenues of approach, you are able to identify them of like, oh my gosh, this is what I've been trying to manifest and I can take that aligned action. Because you can identify the avenue that you need to take, because I think that's where we all get caught up is like well, what is aligned action? Like, how do I know? It's my intuition and it's not like my old self telling me to take a repeated path. You know like, but no, when you write it down, you can easily identify it. And that's why you said like you need to be very, very specific, because when you are willy nilly. Like you're going to get willy nilly.
Speaker 2:Exactly what you ask you're going be given. So that's why, when you're asking for that special person you want in your life, get specific about them please.
Speaker 1:I'm the absolute when it comes to like meta relationships, like I think we kind of talked about this but like I've been single for years and I but I'm willy-nilly when it comes to love. When it comes to anything else, oh my gosh girl, I am like a crazy manifester, like I can be anything except for a relationship. But, looking back, like one day I'll wake up and be like I'm ready for a relationship. The next, like in an hour or two, I'm like, nah, not really gross, and I'm literally confusing the F out of the universe because I'm just like one minute I want it the next, I'm not the next, you know, I have like a completely different thought. It's crazy. So, of course, like the universe is like wait, what? Okay, yeah, what do you want? What?
Speaker 2:do you want? It's like um in the notebook. What do you want?
Speaker 1:in the notebook. What do you want? I don't know like, but that's literally I feel so bad for, like God's source universes like this girl I I mean you believe in like spirit teams and I do believe like our guides and our and our guardian angels and everything are also. They help us get you know all of our things that we want and and help us achieve our goals by putting us on the right path. But I'm pretty sure they're so fed up with my crap when it comes to like relationships that they're just like girl, get your shit together, hey, but that's a limiting belief.
Speaker 2:you've got to rewire.
Speaker 1:But it's just like I'm so happy and then like my limiting belief is some man is going to come in and take my piece away. Like take everything that I've built and take it away, and then, like put a divide between me and my daughter and like break us apart and burn my house down, destroy my life. So that's like a deep rooted belief that I have is like a man will come. We need to change this.
Speaker 2:We should do a session and change it.
Speaker 1:Deep rooted belief need to change this. We will, we could. We should do a session and change it be rooted believe.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's. It's crazy because a lot, a lot of my clients they do come to me for, for example, like business needs or wanting to manifest money, and then it goes into relationships and we're actually healing something from a past life or generational. It's's insane, yeah.
Speaker 1:For me it's generational. I don't think I had like a positive male influence in my life at all, like and it's, and I and I've looked at the men in my family Like I love them, like I love everybody, right, but but like I just I'm like ew, I don't want any of that. I seen, I've seen women in my family have to put up with, and then I even I have some friends. I don't want any of that. I've seen women in my family have to put up with and then even I have some friends. I have some girlfriends that are just in like really toxic marriages and I'm like I don't want any of that you don't want to be one of them.
Speaker 1:I get to wake up stress-free, nobody's cheating on me, nobody's bothering me, nobody's starting a fight with me at 3 am and I'm so happy. But I have to remind myself like that's not normal.
Speaker 2:And there are good men out there, you know there are, it's and it's just putting that into your subconscious and then you'll be ready. Then you'll be like, okay, I'm ready, you know so is that how you?
Speaker 1:are you in a relationship right now like, yes, I am tell me, yeah, a lot to talk about him, like how, this is the one, oh, this is the one okay and okay it's so.
Speaker 2:It's so crazy. So we used to work together and we were just really good friends before we he was actually married before we didn't have an affair or anything like that. I was also in a relationship the toxic one of the toxic ones and but we just were really really good friends. Anyways, last year, have you ever seen that image where um, I'm sorry I'm going off on one again, but you know where God has a little teddy bear well, a big teddy bear behind his back, but a little girl has a small one, and he's like give me the small bear and she can't see behind, you know, god's back. This is literally. It felt like what happened to me last year.
Speaker 2:So I was in a really toxic relationship. I found out he cheated and I I knew like it was. It was inevitable we were going to break up at some point. I was ready. You know I kind of clocked out months and months ago and then I decided because I was living in Belgium at the time I decided to move back to the UK to be with my family and you know I hadn't lived in the UK for so long and it was just time for me to come back and then I said to my friend, my boyfriend. Now I was like, oh, let's meet up, I'm gonna move back to the UK. And then he confessed his love for me. Like literally within weeks we were dating. I am not the one to be like you know, jump from one relationship to the other. I would literally was I'm gonna be single for years to come. But I think, because I let go of that toxic relationship, the universe was like here you go, emily, you deserve it. This is it yeah it.
Speaker 1:Do you feel like because at the time you said you had a coach and you were working on your it? Do you feel like because at the time you said you had a coach and you were working on your vibration? Do you feel like, yeah, your vibration was so high that you were able to attract somebody like him. It's because he has a high vibration and then. So you guys attracted each other.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's so funny because I felt like we were at a similar stage. Well, he broke up with his ex-wife like a couple of years before we got together and I thought he was, like you know, happy dating anyways during that period. But I definitely feel like I've helped him in terms of his own awakening. He was very, let's say, one of those like skeptics and now since he's been with me, I feel like I've been part of his purpose in terms of like coming to. He's had to come to my vibration for us to be an energetic match. I don't think we were necessarily there before.
Speaker 2:Obviously, we had things in common and our energies were aligned Otherwise it would never have happened but in terms of timing, everything it just really worked out. But we're doing long distance at the moment. But it's also a learning for me because of me being so anxious anxious especially being cheated on again. It's been so such a lesson for me in terms of dealing with that, healing it and actually being in a secure relationship. So where is he? So? Yeah, so he's in Belgium, he lives in Belgium, but hopefully 2025, we're going to not do long distance anymore.
Speaker 1:We're ready.
Speaker 2:We're ready.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just put it out there. I love the fact that he was open minded enough to be able to like come to your level, because that's huge. Not a lot of people are. They want to stay stuck. They want to be open minded. They don't believe in like any of this. They think it's like so woo, woo, even though it is science backed especially, this is coming out with more and more information and these neuroscience scientists and telling us about, you know, the science backed behind all of these things, which is great, because I'm I love science, love it. My more logical brain is like I need to know how and why it works. And he was open enough. It's almost like you know he had to be in a place, in a position where the universe can put you two together and be like okay, go, keep ready. This is going to be great, so yeah exactly.
Speaker 2:Well, I'm and it's so crazy how many things like we have in common in terms of like our numerology, our human like, our human design. You have like compatibility and everything and we're like great, like it's insane yeah, that's great.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh. So rooting for you guys. Besides, thank you and be with each other forever.
Speaker 2:What are you manifesting in 2025? 2025? I am manifesting. I think my biggest one is for us to find a home together, like where we're going to really be happy, because we don't know where we're gonna end up whether it's the UK or another country, we have no idea. So it's really exciting, but it's also like, oh my gosh, like I'm just like okay, universe, please do your thing, show us where we need to be. Yeah, so that's probably the biggest thing. I'll keep you posted on that one. What's yours?
Speaker 1:I want to know oh, my gosh, oh, and it's so crazy because we just had our zoom call. So like I feel like you already know, so like I definitely am trying to manifest my book deal. Everybody my podcast knows. I've been writing this book now for like a year and a half and it's just been. It's been crazy like this book has been so hard to write because it's a book about my last 10 years in law enforcement, so just writing about that has been so depressing. But I wanted to kind of manifest my book deal this year the podcast, hopefully finding a network, like a little home you know, place my podcasting in. And a baby, because I, you know, we talked about that. Yeah, I looked into, you know, uh, getting artificially inseminated, yeah, yeah, like I don't, I don't need a man in 2025, but if you have one for me, I I'll take it.
Speaker 2:So excited for you. No, it's going to happen, it's got to.
Speaker 1:Okay, I want to bring up a super manifesto. Oh yeah, girl, I call things in when it comes to life, stuff besides a relationship. When it comes to anything else, I call it in so easily, so effortlessly, but it's because I surrender, like your word. I wish I can, like I'm going to get like a neon sign and just I love that word. I love surrender because it's it's I, that's the secret surrender it is literally you guys like it is it is like what do I do?
Speaker 1:Nothing's working for me. I'm journaling, I'm writing it down 50 times a day and I'm like are you surrendering? Yeah, own 50 times a day. And I'm like are you surrendering? Yeah, so um. But I want to talk about another manifest manifestation that you said you had is a podcast yes, so coming in 2025?
Speaker 2:definitely the podcast, and I'm going to be talking about all things like spiritual, being a soulpreneur. It's going to be one of those podcasts, kind of like yours, where you want to like inspire, motivate people. So it's coming out soon, that's all I'm gonna say, but definitely like that's another big manifestation. I've been wanting to do it, but you know, when you're like now's not the time, but now I feel like so ready to to get out there and launch.
Speaker 1:So and take that action.
Speaker 2:You just know, yeah, exactly and I've been getting so many different ideas on topics, so I'm really can't wait and make sure you write them down, like I did.
Speaker 1:Yes, think of not writing all the ideas that I had down. Now I carry around a notepad because when you come, up with an idea, write it down.
Speaker 2:Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1:So I want everybody to go follow you on social media, especially your Instagram. You have a beautiful Instagram, by the way, thank you. I want everybody to go follow you there and then just to stand by and stay tuned for your up and coming podcast, and I definitely want to have you back on my podcast to talk about love too. And um, how can we find you on social media, girly?
Speaker 2:yeah, sure. So you can find me on instagram at radiant soulliving, so I would love you to join me there and join in with the community and send me a DM If you've got any questions around manifestation or mindset, spirituality, crystals all of that good stuff.
Speaker 1:And we've talked about coaches here on the on my podcast, on my solo episodes the importance of look, it is lonely at the top when you are being broken down and you're going through your spiritual, spiritual awakening and you do feel alone because we've all been there. You might not have a physical tribe or people around you that are trying to lift you up on that higher vibration, but what I always say is buy your tribe. For me, what helped is getting it on a course and going on those live mastermind calls with the other girls in your community, Because the girls that I've met in these types of courses and these masterminds I still talk to them to this day. We still have our virtual Zoom happy hour where we all have a call. We just inspire each other and lift each other up.
Speaker 1:Anybody that's looking for a manifestation coach or even just to buy their tribe girl, I hope people are listening and they just attach themselves to you and they come to you for their guidance. You are not only you're just like you're such a beautiful person, but like you're beautiful inside and out and you're extremely gifted because, like I said, we did my reading. It was so detailed that, like I'm say, I saved everything that you sent me on my email regarding our reading, and that way I can review it multiple times.
Speaker 2:I'm so grateful, I'm appreciative of you, thank you so much, and that's I. I love to do that too, because I feel like when you have that physical, you know notes, you can go and look back at that during the year, and I do that with my quantum leap sessions as well. So, whatever comes through energy wise and you know the things that we work on on your subconscious I always give everyone an overview and some tips and specific to do's which are aligned with them. So, yeah, I love to do that. But thank you so, so much. I'm so, so grateful for you and keep what you're doing. I love this. You're such a natural.
Speaker 1:I'm just, I have ADHD. Yeah, thank you so much for being excuse me. On the podcast, I will have your social media, your website, everything linked in the notes for anybody that wants to reach out to podcast. I will have your social media, your website, everything linked in the notes for anybody that wants to reach out. To Emily, I highly recommend you do, especially now because she is doing year long reading. So you will have, if you, if you get on a zoom call with her, she will break down every single month, from January to December, of what to expect, what to look forward to. Also, you know what, what you can kind of focus on for that month, like the theme of that month. So you guys book a session with her. She's great and, emily, I love you. Girly, I will have, I love you yes, 100%.
Speaker 2:I feel like I could talk about it, so much. I know so many details I could just you know waffle waffle all day long about these topics. So anytime let me know I'd be more than happy to and, as I said before, I'm so honored to be on your podcast and I love you so much.
Speaker 1:I love you, girl, thank you.
