Entry Level Mom Episode 26: Psychology & Parenting with Peace Burks

Summary
In this episode, I am joined by my friend Peace. We discuss the topic of Parenting and Psychology. Peace went to school for psychology and has a passion for understanding the mind and behaviors. She is the perfect person for this topic because I watched her understand my children's behavior once during a playdate in a gentle, intentional and effective way.

We discuss starting our families (baby fever), labor and delivery, and speak in great detail about labor pain. Fun fact: we would like to thank Fidel Pages, a Spanish military surgeon, who in 1921 first used the epidural.  "Epidural anaesthesia causes a loss of sensation, including pain, by blocking the transmission of signals through nerve fibres in or near the spinal cord." We discuss how much we loved our epidural experiences.

*Trigger Warning: PTSD from childbirth, Peace shares in detail how shocked she was over the pain of labor. https://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd-following-childbirth/

We also discuss childhoods, through the lens of psychology. We share how the first 5 years build our subconscious beliefs. Also, how kids' behavior is consistent and the importance of mutual respect and communication in parenting. 

We also discuss the wise lesson that reality will never exactly match expectations.
 
I hope you enjoy!

Takeaways

• Motherhood is a journey of wonder and learning, as parents watch their children explore and discover the world around them.
• Bonding and communication with children can be enhanced by responding to their babbling and engaging in eye contact, creating a deeper connection.
• Teaching children how to respond to difficult situations and setting boundaries is an important lesson for their emotional growth.
• Understanding and accepting one's partner and oneself is crucial for building strong relationships and creating a loving environment for children.
• Therapy can be a powerful tool for personal growth and healing, helping individuals overcome self-destructive behaviors and find peace and grace for themselves.

Chapters

00:00
The Wonder of Learning

01:00
Bonding and Communication

03:23
Teaching Kids to Respond

06:20
Understanding and Accepting

08:30
Balancing Expectations

09:24
Setting Boundaries and Communication

10:23
Modeling Behavior for Children

11:02
Advice to Younger Self

13:28
Raising a Loved Child

15:00
The Healing Power of Therapy

17:08
Facing Broken Parts

18:34
Debunking Therapy Stigma

20:29
Grace and Forgiveness