The Magical Midlife Crisis

Episode 13 - Meg's 2023 Reflection

December 31, 2023 Megan Zdeb Season 1 Episode 13
Episode 13 - Meg's 2023 Reflection
The Magical Midlife Crisis
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The Magical Midlife Crisis
Episode 13 - Meg's 2023 Reflection
Dec 31, 2023 Season 1 Episode 13
Megan Zdeb

It's almost 2024! Very grateful to end 2023 with this episode - Meg's 2023 Reflection <3 
She stretched out of her comfy zone, is squashing more and more fears & pressing the "f*ck it" button!

Here are some highlights:

  • recently came to the realization that she is worthy & has value - and reminding us that we all are worthy & valuable
  • craving early in life to know her purpose here on earth
  • connecting back to God
  • 2023 was the year of "compassion" for herself, for family members, for all others, for animals
  • the feeling of coherence
  • her ending of repeating history, generational trauma, detaching from labels of "mental health issues", "depression", "anxiety"
  • processing through her emotions by meditation, affirmations, breathwork
  • her growth in awareness of emotions and what works for her to work through them
  • growing up in the bar life, realizing her future was laid out for her and she walked the path without much creation of her OWN until about 8 years ago
  • her unhealthy relationship with alcohol
  • having compassion AND learning to set boundaries
  • shoutout to her first "mom friend" Amy! Please let it in - you are an angel on earth!
  • realizing a belief of not wanting to let new people in, was actually a resistance to something she didn't know she needed - community!
  • stretching out of her comfort zone in social events
  • showing up for others despite the discomfort/anxiety,  without relying on alcohol
  • asking herself why she never wanted to commit in the past, realizing her love to support others now outweighs her fears of committing 
  • doing "new", squashing fears! doing something weird - a Steel Mace Flow performance coming up!
  • finding her sweet spot in sustainable eating & living supported by a healthy mindset, self-talk, thoughts

It means a lot to utilize this thing called a podcast to connect with you all.  We TRULY want to hear your own reflections that come to mind as you've listened or when you tune back in... with any dark moments in your life where you found a better or more magical outcome - if you're listening on Spotify - comment in the Q&A box under this description. If you're tuning in from apple podcasts - leave your reflections in the reviews. Grateful to connect with you in all the ways!

Click to connect with Meg on facebook here <3
Click to connect with Meg on instagram
here @allthingsme_23


If you feel called to it - please 'follow', rate with some stars & share any episodes to spread the magic! Reviews & reflections can be shared here -> https://tinyurl.com/TheMagicalMidlifeCrisisPage

Listening on Apple Podcasts? scroll to the bottom, tap "write a review"

Tune in to you next time!

Want to have your own discovery on how the mind & body are interconnected? And learn how food can lead to a more sustainable & vibrant life? --> ***
Click here to learn more and/or message us on the 30 Days to Healthier Living! *** <--

Directly connect with Meg: @meg.itate.8itch
Directly connect with Court:
@coco.compassion
Connect to us both: themagicalmidlifecrisis@gmail.com --- Write to us! We'd love to learn about a magical midlife crisis story of your own or someone you know!

Show Notes Transcript

It's almost 2024! Very grateful to end 2023 with this episode - Meg's 2023 Reflection <3 
She stretched out of her comfy zone, is squashing more and more fears & pressing the "f*ck it" button!

Here are some highlights:

  • recently came to the realization that she is worthy & has value - and reminding us that we all are worthy & valuable
  • craving early in life to know her purpose here on earth
  • connecting back to God
  • 2023 was the year of "compassion" for herself, for family members, for all others, for animals
  • the feeling of coherence
  • her ending of repeating history, generational trauma, detaching from labels of "mental health issues", "depression", "anxiety"
  • processing through her emotions by meditation, affirmations, breathwork
  • her growth in awareness of emotions and what works for her to work through them
  • growing up in the bar life, realizing her future was laid out for her and she walked the path without much creation of her OWN until about 8 years ago
  • her unhealthy relationship with alcohol
  • having compassion AND learning to set boundaries
  • shoutout to her first "mom friend" Amy! Please let it in - you are an angel on earth!
  • realizing a belief of not wanting to let new people in, was actually a resistance to something she didn't know she needed - community!
  • stretching out of her comfort zone in social events
  • showing up for others despite the discomfort/anxiety,  without relying on alcohol
  • asking herself why she never wanted to commit in the past, realizing her love to support others now outweighs her fears of committing 
  • doing "new", squashing fears! doing something weird - a Steel Mace Flow performance coming up!
  • finding her sweet spot in sustainable eating & living supported by a healthy mindset, self-talk, thoughts

It means a lot to utilize this thing called a podcast to connect with you all.  We TRULY want to hear your own reflections that come to mind as you've listened or when you tune back in... with any dark moments in your life where you found a better or more magical outcome - if you're listening on Spotify - comment in the Q&A box under this description. If you're tuning in from apple podcasts - leave your reflections in the reviews. Grateful to connect with you in all the ways!

Click to connect with Meg on facebook here <3
Click to connect with Meg on instagram
here @allthingsme_23


If you feel called to it - please 'follow', rate with some stars & share any episodes to spread the magic! Reviews & reflections can be shared here -> https://tinyurl.com/TheMagicalMidlifeCrisisPage

Listening on Apple Podcasts? scroll to the bottom, tap "write a review"

Tune in to you next time!

Want to have your own discovery on how the mind & body are interconnected? And learn how food can lead to a more sustainable & vibrant life? --> ***
Click here to learn more and/or message us on the 30 Days to Healthier Living! *** <--

Directly connect with Meg: @meg.itate.8itch
Directly connect with Court:
@coco.compassion
Connect to us both: themagicalmidlifecrisis@gmail.com --- Write to us! We'd love to learn about a magical midlife crisis story of your own or someone you know!

Court and Meg here with the Magical Midlife Crisis. This podcast is intended to inspire and support you on your personal journey towards feeling more magic. Breathe, press play, expect real and raw stories and shifts. Come back with your own stories, shifts, and magical light moments through your darkness in your life. Once we pinpoint The mind to search for the magic, the magic will show up. It's just a matter of time. It could be at any moment in the middle of this magical ride we call life. Enjoying this episode. Grab your seat every Sunday. Expect magic. That was like, definitely gave me an insight on, wow, maybe, maybe I do need a community, you know, and maybe I do need people in my, in my life that I shouldn't just be so gung ho and stuck on the couple really important people that I did have in my life. And I just never wanted to explore that because I don't know if I didn't want to get disappointed in friendships or, I don't know. But. I really started to realize I had to create a normal adult relationships and friendships raising Mason. I mean, him playing hockey and going to school and I was the anti social mom that wouldn't want to participate, wouldn't want to help, would want to just, I'd have sweaty hands in the corner. Like somebody tell me where to go, what to do, like that's not the type of mom I wanted to be. And I have one dear friend. My friend, Amy, who is like, she was, I would say my first real like mom friend and I didn't know how bad I needed her in my life. Like my go to for everything. Hey, hey, magical humans, it's Quirt. Okay. So January is coming and we're very excited every January for the last five years. three for me court. Okay. Yeah. For the last handful of years, we have started January with a food mood program called the 30 days to healthier living. Okay. And we've done it in all different sizes of groups. So this offer is for you and how do you qualify? Um, we're going to give you a backstory on who we were before we started our 30 days, our magical 30 days. So. Maggie, you go first. Okay, so I was living a lifestyle of unhealthy choices, which led me to being 36 and riddled with constant days of joint pain, brain fog, and migraines. My life was extremely unsustainable. The pain I was secretly embodying was literally consuming my mental health in the darkest of dark. so long, I never connected the dots that food creates your mood. Never knew that. I was literally so fed up, tired of being tired. It was time to put change in action. So I started my journey to a healthier me. Why? Because I no longer wanted to do the following, be a product of the healthcare system. Tell my son, I can't play with you. I have a headache. It got real old. I'll tell you, starting fights with my loved ones because I was in such a dark mental state and always on the defense, not wanting to go places. Cause I was so inflamed and wanted to crawl out of my skin. It was awful adapting healthier choices in my day to day life. I now have the energy to be the best version of myself with confidence and love from the inside out. How about you, Court? I was 34, and I had been smoking cigarettes for 17 years. Uh, I drank wine pretty much every night. I was a TV aholic. I thought I was eating healthy with canned soup and wheat bread sandwiches with veggie meat slices. And had no sense of what I was truly doing to my physical or mental health. So, after my brother died, I wanted to change. I had to tell myself the truth and the truth was, I was choosing to not live a life of health. And it wasn't a size or a weight or an outfit that to change. It was the pain in my body that I was going through. And every day it felt like my body was screaming and throwing red flags at me to change. Like I was heavily addicted to sugar. I would reward myself with whatever sweet treats were hanging out in the dental office. I relied on coffee like three to four cups a day. I had constant gas and bloating and constipation that my gastro doctors told me was hereditary IBS. I had migraines almost every week. I had back acne, back knee, if you know what I'm talking about. I was always irritable, had acid reflux, post nasal drip, I had that weird tightness feeling in my legs I talked about on another episode, and the most extreme moments of insecurity, worry, and anxiety that I always talked about as tornado thoughts. So, for us, we started tweaking meals, getting clean protein in, we learned how gut health works and how it matters, but most of all, We found the community and support that would love us when we struggle to love ourselves. Like when we didn't, quote, feel like it, or we were so busy, or we were always exhausted. Those are the words we would all use, and I know you probably have said them too. So accountability, cleaner food swaps, and the 80 20 lifestyle was the vehicle. That changed the game for us today. We believe how healthier food choices have changed what we see on the outside, but on the inside, we feel like our truest, most beautiful selves. So if you want to jump on board our magical 30 days to healthier living train. On January 8th, 2024, click on the link in our show notes to sign up or send us questions or message us for a consult with us, Megan Kort. Choo choo. Choo choo. Hello, all you beautiful humans. It's Meg here. I am flying solo on this episode. I'm going to go over my 2023 and my journey and just give some insight on what I've learned over the year and some of my struggles and, um, kind of just go into deeper detail on some of the things that were talked about in the podcast. Um, some things about my life and get a little bit more deeper in explaining things and um, yeah, but first and foremost, I can't thank all of you enough who take time out of your day to click play and listen to what me and Courtney have to say. Um, it's very scary putting yourself out there, um, sharing your stories in hopes that you don't offend anybody because, you know, you're speaking from life experiences. And we're all entitled to our perspective and to share our perspective. But when you put it on a public platform, you could be offending people which you're not trying to offend. And I'm trying my best to not put names and not to, not to purposely offend anybody. But it's just a reminder that this is my life, my perspective, my reality. And I have every right to share my story. And, yeah. And for me, it's healing. And for me, it has helped me to listen to other people share their stories. And to feel not alone. Um, so, yeah, that's just where I say fuck it. Um, but yeah, it's taken, to really realize that I have value within myself and I am worthy of great things because most of my life I didn't feel worthy. I definitely did not believe that I had value to give to other people. Um, but I find value in so many things. That I share and I'm just grateful to have reached a point where I've awakened in that sense that I feel worthy and I feel value and we all have that within us and we, we live in this structured system where we are not meant to feel value or worthy or confident. We are meant, we're not meant to, but they want us to feel bad about that. Bad about ourselves and not in tune with our higher consciousness and know that we are capable of such amazing fucking things. And it's taken me 38 years to break away from the system. And it took me a while. It took me jumping down different rabbit holes and to see what I aligned with. And, um, really just knowing my purpose here and. I have memories of me being a little girl and I remember being so spiritually connected and God, I could remember me just like wanting to know my purpose here. I had it been maybe four or five years old. I remember just wanting to know my purpose. Like, what am I here for? Like, I'm here for something. And, and then you forget about all those things and then you become an adult. And I truly believe that we are here to experience all types of emotions. We are meant to live through experiences and to learn from all these lessons and to manipulate energy and it's Mind boggling how none of that is taught. I guess it's really not mind boggling. But it is not taught in schools. And it's not taught in a lot of homes either. Unless you have parents or, you know, people you're surrounded by, your community that speak about God, the source, the universe, the creator, whatever, whatever lines with you, but we are stripped away from all those beliefs and I'm just grateful to be so fucking awake. So, um, but yeah, I would, I would say 2023 was probably the year of compassion for me. Um, really learning to have compassion for myself. First and foremost, because at the end of the day, it's me, myself, and I, so I had to find compassion for myself, for all my wrongdoings I've done in life, um, all the people I've hurt, and for my younger self, I had to do a lot of digging, and a lot of it was hard for me to relive. But through all that work and me forgiving my younger self and remembering that I'm a human being and I was a child and that little girl deserves compassion, compassion for what she was thinking and she was feeling and to have compassion for my older self that was going through hard times and. not dealing with it properly and living a party lifestyle, not being the best daughter. To my mom, or to my dad, or to my stepdad, or sibling. But I have compassion for her now because I was broken, and I didn't know better, but now I do. And so I'm able to not let that feeling of shame and embarrassment and guilt live with me any longer. Because I'm not that person anymore. And that's the magic of creating your own reality. You don't have to be that person that you were. And does it happen overnight? Of course not. But that's the beauty in it, is going through all of it. I mean, I had, I had to relive a lot of things. And it sucks, but it's fucking amazing. You know? It's just crazy. Our, our minds and our hearts and how disconnected they can get. And then once you connect the two, it's It's a beautiful thing when you're coherent. And once you really tap into that, you don't want to live any other way. And I visit times where I'm not so coherent, but I don't stay there because I prefer to be coherent and to have my heart and brain connection aligned with each other. So I'm really feeling my best and can do better for myself and for other people. And when it comes to compassion, I've really have learned to have compassion for other people. You know, I always had, I've always had compassion for people and their stories, but it's so much deeper, deeper now. I really am so intrigued by human beings. I'm so intrigued by how people got where they are. And we all have our stories and we are all have trauma, not all the same trauma, but we all have it. Whether it's just you being yelled at by somebody as a little kid and, or it could be way worse than that or whatever it may be. We all have it and we all store it. And I feel like a lot of the older generations haven't healed from their trauma. And so that's how generational trauma just continues. But I truly believe we are in a huge spiritual awakening right now and a lot of people are done repeating history and I am one of them. I don't want to be attached to so many of the identities that I had of mental health issues, depression, anxiety. Um, I, and I still battle, I still battle a lot of that today, but I have a way tighter grip on it. But, um, It's hard. You can't, can't be 5D 24 7. I can't. I am, I absorb other people's energy. I absorb energy in my home. Um, I, I work on it and I get better. I get better at it every day through meditation and positive affirmations. The way I speak to myself on a daily basis. So. Even if you take two steps forward and three steps back, it's okay. You're not everything. It's going to be linear and everything is going to be what it is. As long as you're doing the work and you believe that you're capable of certain things, then you're going to be better and do better. And that's. The path that I'm on. Um, and like I've said before, I'm far from perfect. I'm not here as a guru who can, who's like magically fixed. No, I still have that temperamentality inside of me. And that's one thing about me is When I feel emotions, whether it's love, hate, anger, I wouldn't say I have hate. I don't have hate as an emotion. I don't even think hate is an emotion, but when I experience love, sadness, anger, I experience them to a great depth. Like when I am like feeling euphoric and in love, I mean, I am vibrating love energy and it it's very euphoric. It's It's quite, quite eccentric, to be honest with you, the extent that I, I could feel that way. Um, and I'll tell you when I am. When I am angry, I instantly get that warm adrenaline rush through my body and I want to snap. And when my body starts to go through those emotions, and if I'm not trying to calm myself down, I instantly can feel my younger self come back in. And the joy of becoming aware of this is amazing. When I'm able, when I start to feel that come on, I listened to my body and I'm like, okay, obviously my body's heating up for a reason. Obviously my adrenaline is fired up. I now know how to, I isolate myself. I, Do my breathing exercises and I am able to work through it. And for me that's huge. That's huge because even into my adult life, instantly, if somebody pissed me off I would react right away. So now I'm able to have the mindset to work through that emotion. But, sorry, I'm drinking my, drinking my greens and gonna take a big sip. So good with the mushroom powder. Tasty, tasty. I often, I often sit back and reflect. I reflect a lot of my life as of lately. Um, the things that I've manifested, how my life just seems so pure and, and real. Um, I never really envisioned myself with a family or I just never really dreamt of the future. I just always was kind of like. Oh, okay. I never really had dreams. I really didn't come to think of it. Like, I remember I, I was 12, 13 when my mom and my stepdad bought the bar and I was like, Oh, okay. I'm going to work there when I'm older and one day I'll own it. And I kind of always had that mindset was like, okay, I had like an easy way out. Okay. I'll just work there and work my way up. And I never applied myself to anything else. I, Went to school to do hair, not my passion at all. I wasn't into it. It just.Did not feel my fire. And I never even finished doing that. And then I kind of was just like, all right, I'll continue the bar life. And it is a really hard industry to grow up in. It truly is. Um, it's. As I'm reflecting back, I know I say in a lot of episodes, I own a bar, I talk like that. So in response to me saying that, which I listened to it, I'm like, okay, that sounds kind of weird, but here's, here's an explanation on that. So I was about 13. Yeah, I was in seventh grade when my, when my mom and my stepdad bought the bar and then I started working there. When I was like 14, 15, helping out and then 16, 17, waitressing. So I was around that adult environment, um, and the way that people speak in a bar. Um, you've got to have that personality of if you can dish it, you can take it. And you've got to have a spitfire mouth. And you don't have to, but I mean, it's better to have it. From my experience. Um, but yeah, I mean, I have dealt with since a young age inappropriate conversations. Um, vulgar language, um, yeah, so I kind of just got accustomed to speaking like that and just rolling with the punches. So when I say, I own a bar, I talk like that. It's just kind of become like part of me. And it was a part of me that I actually had a lot of difficulty in other social settings All my social settings were always consisted of being at the bar. That was pretty much the consumption of my life. I never really had a life separate from the bar till probably of the last eight years I created, started to create a separate life for me that wasn't attached to my mom's dream, my dad's dream of the Monina business. And, you know, it was just me carrying on her dream and. As much as I love it, it wasn't my dream and not that I even, I honestly don't even know what my dream is, but my dream now is just to be successful at it and be a great leader and. Help people and hurt people can help people, but hurt people have to heal themselves first to help people, but so anyways Yeah, it was really difficult for me to grow up in that type of environment It created me to have a very unhealthy relationship with alcohol. I would wouldn't say that I was ever an alcoholic But I definitely had a very unhealthy relationship with alcohol. Alcohol was my, alcohol was my anxiety medicine. Alcohol was my I'm only, I can only have fun if I'm drunk, and I'm a better time if I'm drunk, but I never knew how to slow down my drinking, I never knew to cut myself off, I never knew how to limit myself, and I ruined relationships that I was in. Cause I was a very bad drunk. Um, for many years I'd get very angry. I'd black out, get very angry drunk. Um, embarrassed the shit out of myself. Um, say things. I'd wake up the next day with that terrible guilt feeling. Like, what did I say? What did I do? And who did I offend? And believe me. I did all of those things on multiple times. Um, then eventually I just got into the pattern of, I'm gonna drink after work and then wake up the next day and I wouldn't, I'd feel like shit and then I would eat terrible food and I'd eat terrible food to soak up the alcohol. And then. By the end of the night, I would want to start drinking again to make myself feel better. I mean, granted, I didn't do that every time, but, um, it became a pattern and that pattern resulted in me having a severely inflamed gallbladder that had to get removed. Um, and me going through very long process of fueling my body with proper nutrients and foods and how I had to do that journey on my own because I A lot of that wasn't taught to me from my doctors. And, yeah, it's just crazy when I look back at the whole, my whole span of life at that time. Just how delusional I was. Delusional. Just numbing everything. But, like I said, there's room for growth. But yeah, so I have compassion for that, for that version of me. And I have compassion for anybody that's struggling. You know, it's It's really hard for me sometimes being in the industry that I'm in running a bar and having to Will get customers that come in and I feel bad I feel bad for some of these people but I have to like not let them come back in Like i've compassion for you. I know you're I know you're broken. I know you're whatever but my bar is not in the business of Fixing your problems. I know like it's just it's it's hard because in my Life outside of the bar. It's what I wanna do. But it gets very conflicting when it happens with, with customers. And um, you know, you get people that come in by themselves all the time and they're very lonely and you feel bad. But sometimes these people get really fucking weird, like really fucking weird. And it's like, I feel so bad. I feel so bad, but I'm learning to have boundaries. I have fucking boundaries and I don't let both my worlds connect all the time. So it makes me sad for people, but I just hope that they can find their light and their darkness. And it's, it's all I can do on, on that level. But, um, yeah, so 2023, well, what a year I've really have, um, I've been working on my connection with people, and for so long, I was like, anti letting new people into my life, um, where I was like, I don't need new friends, I already have my couple best friends that I grew up with, I don't need new people in my life. And that was a really, that was really sad, lonely way of thinking, you know, like there's, I just wasn't, for a long time, I wasn't attracting the right people in my life. So I kind of got stuck on that. thought process where I don't need new people in my life. Well, when I reached out to Courtney for some health advice, That was like, definitely gave me an insight on, wow, maybe, maybe I do need a community, you know, and maybe I do need people in my, in my life that I shouldn't just be so gung ho and stuck on the couple really important people that I did have in my life. And I just never wanted to explore that because I don't know if I didn't want to get disappointed in friendships or, I don't know. But I really started to realize I had to create a normal adult relationships and friendships raising Mason. I mean, him playing hockey and going to school and I was the anti social mom that wouldn't want to participate, wouldn't want to help, would want to just, I'd have sweaty hands in the corner. Like somebody tell me where to go, what to do, like that's not the type of mom I wanted to be. And I have one dear friend. My friend, Amy, who is like, she was, I would say my first real like mom friend and I didn't know how bad I needed her in my life. Like my go to for everything. And I honestly think the first time we, me and her really had a conversation, I think I just unloaded all my personal information. I was like, fuck it. If I'm going to have a mom friend, this lady is going to know how fucked up I am. And me and her are. amazing friends to this day and I, I really have her to thank, thank to for accepting me and that really kind of shed some light on like, okay, okay, I can, I can allow people into my, into my life and open up and then yeah, so then that's when I started my health journey with Courtney and, um, yeah, I discovered a community that I desperately needed. and it's amazing. I have Beautiful souls in my life and friendships that we pick up right where we left off and no pressure. It's just easy and it's the type of community and people where we just want to help each other, you know, and lift each other up when we're down and give good advice and no judgment. Um, and so I've been really focusing a lot of my year on being intentional and showing up for others. You know, I never was one to throw parties, never to host anything. I never would do events. Um, I just never did that kind of stuff. Like I said, I wasn't a social butterfly. I was better at being at home, being by myself. And once I started becoming more social and doing more social things and hosting events, I finally got to be on the other spectrum of needing and wanting people to show up for me. And support. I never knew. How important that was to people and many times I did not show up for people when I should have whether it was me not feeling good or me having anxiety and not being able to deal with large social events and um, my mind consuming way too much of my heart. And, yeah, I finally got, got to know what it feels like when people show up for you. And I really made that a goal in 2023 to show up for myself and to show up for other people and to commit. I used to always say, Oh, I don't, I don't commit to things. I don't commit to things. To me, that's like, it's so ignorant. Like. I feel it's ignorant on my end, like, why can't I commit, like, I want to support you, I want to be there, I want to be there for you, because now I know what that feels like, and it's important to show up for people and to show support, um, just what we all, all need from people is just love and support and whatever it may be, but yeah, so I'm just trying to be more intentional and have love. A lot more intent on showing the fuck up. And I definitely still get caught in my head sometimes, like, Oh, can I get out of this? And then I just know that that's just like my old self kicking in. And it's like, no Meg, we don't roll like that anymore. So, but yeah, so, Kind of weird just sitting here, talking solo. So if you keep hearing me pause, I'm drinking my greens. And I tend to just let my thoughts wander. And then I'm like, oh, maybe I'll talk about this because usually I'm used to having Courtney ask me questions and certain things, but it's just me. And yeah, squashing fears, which is what I do. And that's another thing too, for the year, I was just like, oh, I always said that I don't do that. So I'm going to fucking do that. So I've made it a year of fuck it buttons. I forgot who was on our podcast who said fuck it button, but I love it. And I I'm using that term a lot. So yeah, excited for our steel mace flow recital that we've got in January. That is something that I thought I would never do. And that's something that I did to show up for somebody. But also for myself, you know, it fueled her heart and then mine at the same time. And it's trying something new and it's fun and it's creative and yeah, and we got to get up on a stage in front of a bunch of dancers and strangers and swing around a steel mace pole with a globe weight. This is going to be. weird and exciting. And this is what I'm just doing now. I'm anything that I normally, normally or typically wouldn't do out of fear. I'm doing it., I'm just, I'm excited for a 2024 of great. Greatness, really, I'm just going to manifest the fucking shit out of things. I've been really intentional about my journaling, um, just writing out things that I want and what I'm envisioning, and I just want it to be a great, healthy year. And no better way to kick off the year with a gut reset, which I cannot wait to do because I am in dire need to flush this gut out from all of my festive eatings and leftovers and snacking on cookies. But yeah, that's the glory of learning how to live with an 80 20 lifestyle, you know, is, okay, you can, you can indulge a little bit here, you can indulge a little bit there. And to learn how to kind of cut it off, you know, I used to be like, Oh, well, I already ate bad today. I'm not going to work out. So I would just start down that like negative pattern. Oh, well then I'll just, and then I eat something and then I'm craving more of it. So then I just continue that repetition cycle of fueling my body with not the proper thoughts and foods. And yeah, and I went through the struggle of I'm only eating a hundred percent clean. And honestly, that made me quite miserable. Um, I was not joyful to be around. And then I almost kind of felt myself, like, not realizing, but judging, like, ugh, you're gonna eat that? Like, who the fuck am I telling other people what to eat or what not? But that was part of my journey and me figuring out how to live a clean, sustainable lifestyle. And it can be very challenging. Cause, you don't want to feel guilty if you're not eating clean. Because feeling guilty about it is just bad, if not worse, than what you just ate. So it's trying to find a happy medium. And I feel like I finally have mastered a happy medium, with my, with my nutrition and with what I eat. And it's just being more mindful. And it's another thing too, I'm not vegan, but I am definitely having more compassion. way more compassion for animal foods than I used to be. Um, I kind of used to not care at all, but I care a lot more now than I used to. So I, for health benefits, but I definitely try to stay away from certain, certain foods and certain things, but, and plus I don't like to support that, but yeah, so I'm getting there with my compassion for animals. And God bless all the amazing vegans out there who are so, so compassionate. Love it. Um, but yeah, I'm just super excited to have more in 2024. More goals, more fears to squash, and just keep living my authentic self. It's, it's very scary to Let people see who you truly are and I truly genuinely like who I am I can actually say that now I genuinely actually like who I am. I like the way I talk. I like the way I think and I'm definitely not everybody's cup of tea It's just who the fuck I am. If you don't like it go fuck yourself So yeah, it's just been a great year of 2023 And I'm excited for more growth and more challenges and and I'm just grateful for all of you to be a part of the journey and listening and if you are struggling and you need consistency and healthier habits or healthier mindset, please listen to our episodes, click the link in the show notes as we talk about our 30 days to healthy living and how you can implement. Healthier habits into your life, which creates a healthier mindset because believe me, it works if you do the work and it is beyond magical to give your body the attention that it needs and to love it and to work through it and to create new habits to create a new better version of you. So if you want to know more about it, click on the link in the show notes. And let's fucking do 2024 be the best fucking versions of ourselves that we can be. And once again, thank you so much for tuning in and hearing me just talk more about me and my journey and my story. And I truly appreciate you listening. And if you feel there's anybody that could benefit from listening to this podcast, please, please share. And happy fucking new year. Toodles! Beep beep! If you made it to the end of this episode, that means you either just appreciate our messy, awkward life experiences, or you're truly up for finding more magic in your life like we are. 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