Episode 19 - Mastering Our Emotions

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In this episode of the Magical Midlife Crisis Podcast, your hosts, Meg and Court, talk all things awareness with emotions & patterns: growth, transformation & emotional maturity. We discuss our own personal experiences with emotional patterns and share how these patterns have affected our lives & relationships. We review our beliefs on the importance of becoming aware of these patterns, separating from emotional responses, and allowing oneself to fully feel and process emotions. Court reviews a method she’s learned and has gained a lot of clarity in using to process emotions. And of course, what episode do we not cover the concept of emotional maturity, the practices of self-love, self-improvement, and the power of positive affirmation, and the transformation & self-discovery experienced through personal growth.

00:00 Introduction and Hosts' Banter (hehehehe)

00:31 Discussing Voice Differences and Dental Issues (A.I. is so cute sometimes)

01:21 Exploring the Role of Cheeks in Speech and Eating (could have deleted this one, but nah)

01:58 Transition to Main Topic: Emotional Processing

03:50 Understanding Emotions and Their Impact

05:14 Techniques for Processing Emotions

08:56 The Power of Emotional Awareness and Expression

09:19 The Importance of Emotional Growth in Relationships

13:17 Breaking Emotional Patterns and Embracing Change

17:07 The Role of Spirituality in Emotional Growth

19:57 The Impact of Personal Change on Relationships

29:53 Emotional Awareness and Children

31:39 The Power of Positive Affirmations

34:40 Conclusion and Farewell

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Transcript

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This is the magical midlife crisis podcast, where your hosts, I'm court, a compassion activist, animal lover, nature, nut and entrepreneur in the mind, body, spirit connections. And I met a free thinker with a passion for non toxic living, a dedicated hockey mom and a multi business owner. We are a couple of friends who met through health and heartache. We discovered through our crisis moments, we all have magic within us. This podcast is about awakening to a different perspective and being the creators of our own reality. Every Sunday, you can expect an abundance of stories from all kinds of kinds in their different layers of awakening. We hope you expand your heart and minds and create the shift with us. So unplug from the matrix and tune in to this magical mystery ride. Beep, beep. Honk honk. when you're in survival mode and you're so, uh, you're so emotional and you're so believing that the emotions are just who you are, like angry or sad or pissed off or confused or stuck. If you like identify as that, you, there's no room for curiosity to explore. Yeah. You have no room for happiness in your thoughts. No. It's like, You're just a slave to your thoughts. Something that Joe says that Dr. Joe says that I love, um, is that our emotions are an artifact of the past. Oh, so it's kind of like, if, you know, when you have a certain emotion, it's, it's kind of like thinking of it as like a cancer cell, do you want to keep feeding that cancer cell all the bad foods or you are like. bad thoughts. Yeah. Or do you want to detach from it and move on? Because when we feel something, it's just bringing up an old emotion and attaching to that. Court and Meg here. The convenient Queens of 2024.. Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? I mean, how many times have you heard that before? I know I've heard it a million times, but I lived it. And so did Courtney. Are you tired of feeling your life is too busy and too hectic and crazy to instill healthy habits into your life? I thought that exact same thing and I'm pretty sure Courtney did too. Oh yeah. Well, let me tell you, we have just the system in place to help you instill healthier habits into your daily hectic life. So this is what worked for us. and it's your discovery, but we have had such an amazing last month with our 30 day solidly living group and If you are ready to try something different because nothing is working for you, this has worked for us for the last, for me, the last five years, for Meg the last, three years. It's all about, as everyone knows, becoming aware, and then you get inspired, and then you get motivated, and then you take action, but then life This gets lifey. So there's a missing link to lasting change. Everyone wants to feel their best health as well. Meg says it all the time. Health as well. Health really as well. If you don't spend the time now to invest into yourself, you're going to spend the time, money and doctor appointments later. So do it now. Do it now. We will help you. we're running another 30 days to healthy living. Right on the backside of this 30 days we just started. So it'll be 60 days for lots of peeps. They're super stoked. We're stoked. We feel amazing. We felt like crap after the holidays. And now We feel amazing. Come on the track with us. The GI track, baby. Choo choo! Beep beep. Welcome back to the Magical Midlife Crisis Podcast. I am court and I am Meg. I'm gonna try to talk differently so you can tell our voices different. Yes, friends have commented that we sound very much alike. This is court talking, so I don't know if we should say our names before we talk. Maybe. That was Meg. Oh, yeah. Meg. Court here. That would be so funny the whole time. Court here. Blah, blah, blah, such a lower, like Yeah, I have a voice than you, and I have a lisp. I, no you don't. I do. Ever since I got these teeth. Look, teeth. Ever since I got my retainer on the back of my lower teeth, my S's sound different, my, yeah, my T's, and something else, and I can't remember. But it's, it's, it's, I had to get used to it. I was, it was driving me bonkers. You know, this is a question as a hygienist. Do people ever get like parts of their insides of their cheeks removed for like more room? Oh, that's such a great question. You know why? Because my mouth is so small. Like Daniella calls it like I have a Chucky mouth, you know, Chucky the dog. His cute little mouth. She always called me Chucky Mouth because my mouth is so small, but it's filled with cheek in there. Well, the cheeks are supposed to be there. So the cheeks are used to push your food onto your, onto the table of occlusion. So that's where you, your teeth chew. So your cheeks help you formulate words. They help you push food to chew. I don't have enough room to formulate words because it's. You guys, Megan's got a lot of cheek issues over here. That's, that's Megan saying that she, she, yeah. How do we say who we are? I'm Quirt. I'm Meg. It's the thing, like, our voices change with our emotions, and that's a perfect segue. Unplanned, but perfect on the topic for today. Uh, but people have gotten their fat pans removed out of their cheeks. to have like a more sunken in look. It's like it used to be very popular with models. They would get the fat pad. So before I was a hygienist, I was an oral surgery assistant. And sometimes we would do different types of surgeries and we'd cut open the vestibule. So it's like the If you get food caught up between your teeth and your cheek, that's, that's like that, yeah, you know exactly what I'm talking about. You put your tongue there, you got food caught there, you know what I'm talking about. So we would, we would make an incision there, and if it was an untrained assistant, sometimes you would accidentally slurp out the fat pad, which I never did. Um, it almost happened, but luckily the oral surgeon was really good about training me, and he's like, Okay, so that's a fat pad. It's big and yellow, and you don't want to suck it out. Unless people are paying us for that, and we didn't do cosmetic surgery, so that would never happen for us. But, yeah, people would do that. We can make like more of like a cheekbone. Yeah. Sunken in cheeks. Right. Yeah, you know, I just want my words to enunciate better. That's all I don't care what if I have my model look or not. I think we look like our own unique models. Um, yeah, for enunciation. I think I always I talk a little too fast, so it's almost slurred sometimes, I've noticed, when I'm not caring as much, so maybe, I don't know, slow it down a little bit? We all should slow down, right? A little bit? Okay. So, vulnerable moment, um, I don't even remember all the details now because it was a couple weeks ago, but, um, Meg and I had it planned that we would Meet like we normally do every week for our podcast recording, and this is court talking. P. S. P. S. And, uh, yeah, well, I, I get anxious about like the recording and the timing out of it all and then the putting it together and the editing the show notes and you know the whole backlog of stuff that has to happen for a podcast, which actually. It's not a lot, thankfully for awesome technology, but, um, I can hire both super busy people. So there was an afternoon where she wasn't able to make it over to my house. And I, I went through like this emotion of just like fear and disappointment. That's what I located the fear as. And it's like a, it's a pattern for me that. That happens because I don't express my thoughts, and my opinions, and my views, and my hopes, and my dreams. I keep it all stored in my head. The old me. The new me is coming out more and more. So, this is a technique that I want to share that I've learned from my amazing self transformation course. Um, and it's It's helped me so much on feeling through an emotion because what you may have learned, Meg and I have learned this, that emotion is energy in motion. And so a thought is The language of the brain and emotions are a language of the body, um, to, to quote Dr. Joe Dispenza, our favorite. And so emotions are supposed to travel through the body, but so many times we have these unsupported surroundings and environments. Where we we store these emotions inside and for me, it's been a really long overdrawn, well practiced pattern to keep emotions inside of me and not work them through me. So this exercise I practiced. When I found out Meg couldn't come over and we couldn't record like we normally would I like sat in my car I just got home from cleaning teeth and I went through these steps So number one is becoming aware. So like wake up like you We don't really think about what we're going through as far as emotions. We just kind of let them happen and we let them take us over and then we do whatever they want versus separating ourselves from them. So let like becoming aware is number one and number two is identifying and locating. So for me, I felt this. Feeling of just like kind of overwhelmed. That's kind of where my default brain goes to But then I narrowed it down to disappointment and that's another feeling that I I have felt for myself for other people. It's like this just Looming disappointment and then locating it in your body. So for me with that emotion and that day I remember feeling it like in my gut and not really high in my gut kind of like The stomach area if you know anatomy, it's like under your your sternum and Then I just kind of what you do next number three Or number two is identify and locate so I located it number three is detach So separate yourself from the emotion. You are not the emotion. The emotion is just happening. It is a, um, it's a product of a thought. Uh, and then four, step four is allowing and observing. So our body creates these chemicals within us. And then they actually move through you and it takes about 60 to 90 seconds for these chemicals to run their path through you. So you can literally watch the emotion travel within you. Sometimes it feels like it doesn't really go anywhere. But for me, it like ran through me, like went up to my throat and I felt like this lump that I get when I am going to feel like I'm crying. And I just like, I just let it happen and I just felt through it. And that's what, when Meg and I talk about feeling through your feelings, it's doing something like that. You could try this and if it works great, if it doesn't, then try something else. But I have found so much. Like compassion for myself. Because using my voice is still a very, um, it's still a scary thing. It's still a thing that makes me nervous and makes emotions happen and move through me. And then I got to talk about it with Meg. Like when you have people that match your emotional growth, like you get to share all the things that you're learning and moving through with those people. So I was like, okay, Meg. I literally sent her a voice text. I'm like, I think this would be a perfect topic to share, like, how we actually process through stuff. And we're both trying on a bunch of stuff to see what fits, because that's what I think life is all about, just discovering, exploring, and being curious instead of being so freaking hard on ourselves. Like, I've just been so hard on myself for not using my voice and not expressing how I really feel. And so it kind of feels clunky when I do it. And it, I mean, luckily I can like with Meg and then Joe, my, my boyfriend, I can really like be clunky and be okay with it because they're also on the growth pattern path and looking at their patterns and wanting to stop that generational trauma that. That's how it shows up. It shows up in these patterns. And if we want whoever is young around us to be different and be better, we have to be the example. We can't just expect them to do different. So, um, I have, um, an emotions vocabulary wheel, which I will, um, link in the show notes because it's really helpful to not just, to not just label the emotion but kind of kind of dig a little bit deeper. Like for me, it was it I would say fear was the the like the top feeling and then it can go down to like hurt, humiliated, rejected, submissive, insecure, anxious, scared, and then you can go even deeper. So it's a cool wheel to just Start becoming more aware of just how we are inside and how that's affecting how we come off to other people in ways that we resent even opening our mouths. Well, yeah, and I think this is Meg, by the way. That's too, I mean, me sitting here, I'm learning a lot of this right now, but it's a good way to identify and really kind of become in tune with your emotions. Yeah. You know, cause when I feel emotions, I feel anger. My two ones are, is happy or anger. Like those are the two that I feel. I feel like when I feel love, I feel it like intense and when I feel anger, it's like my whole body. I get that adrenaline, that hot rush and I have to like. Fiery. You're, you're very fiery when you get angry. And then like when you, when I've noticed when you feel love, you feel like bliss. You feel it like really. Beautifully, like really high. Yeah, and then yeah, I I don't know. I mean, I understand you go through anger. Thank god I don't trigger that within you Yeah, so for me to become as tame as I have become, but I'm definitely going to become more aware of my emotions now, because like I've said in the past and other episodes, I've gotten really good at the thought emotion revolving door that I've gotten. A hold up, like, okay, that thought is creating this emotion, but I have to become aware of the emotion. And if it's being stored like that, that is something that I'm really excited to work on now. It's like, it gives you, yeah, it gives you like empowerment and it's all about detaching from it. I've learned this, like we're as humans, we really like to label things and make sense of things. Like that's our job as humans. Like we need to make sense of things. If it doesn't make sense. It's not going to connect and we're not going to do whatever it is or go wherever it is. So labeling it, identifying it. Compartmentalizing it, that's what we do best, so if we could do that with our emotions, because mastering our emotions and mastering our connection to ourself and relationships that we have, people that we love, that end up getting the worst of it, because they constantly either forgive us or, you know, just That's what we do best. I mean, in my past relationships, I just felt stuck, like there was no way out. So, um, but it's like, I don't want to be that person that takes it out on Joe and then, and just be okay with it every time and forgive me. And, and I know I've, I've talked about this front with a lot of people that we, we all do that. We all Take it out on our closest people, our personal punching bags. Yeah. Yeah. Which I think there's a healthy extent to that. You know, be like, Hey, you know what? Like I'll let Joel come home and unleash, he just needs to release. So he doesn't do it on other people and I'm somebody that can handle it and vice versa. But yeah, it's getting to that next level of just releasing like everything. That's when it's. Too far. And that's how I used to treat Joel. Like when I had a problem or an emotion, I never see, I was kind of the opposite from you. You know, I would just, the only way I can communicate was by yelling or screaming. Like, I felt like the more we would fight like in one argument, the louder I got, the more my point was coming across. But now I've learned that like, no, at this point, we're just both motherfucking each other. We're both adding fire, you know, fuel to the fire. And, um, yeah, for me, I have learned just to process like my thoughts and just be like, you know what I don't like I can verbalize slowly and methodically like what I'm feeling and what I'm thinking and like for our relationship that has been huge. And what another thing that's really helped me. But sometimes. We're not aware like we're all on autopilot. It's all Megan. I've talked about this the modern day world Programs us and like dr. Joe says it's not bad to be programmed again. That's being human We are pro we're like computers. We are programmed and it's like what programs do you want to run? So for me literally going into my self transformation course I was like these patterns have been running with every single relationship And it's, it's not the other person and I just wanted to keep blaming them, but I'm like I, I need to do something about this for me because they're not thinking the same thoughts I am. Maybe they're having a similar reaction to what I'm displaying as far as my emotions or lack of displaying, and then it all just kind of festering inside of me and then blowing up into a panic attack. Because that's a lot of the time what anxiety is. It's just all of these emotions being stored inside of us. No understanding of how to actually detach from the feelings, notice them, and then regulate the whole system, regulate the body, which is not a machine. We are not machines. We are conscious beings. And connecting to this body, the spirit connecting to the body is. Is like the coolest evolution that you could reach as far as emotional maturity. Yeah, it's like because then life is just It's a fucking map that you just get to discover and explore versus the world is out to kill me, slowly. That's how I used to think before. Yeah, that reality is not a, that's not a fun reality to live in. No! No, not at all. Been there. But you don't know anything else until you invest in your own well being, your wellness. And for us, it started with Like taking care of the vessel, the body with food and then that affecting our mood and then that opening up spirituality and that it's like such a cool, just one door after another and everybody opens up a door at a different door. Yeah, you know, everybody's on a different journey of discovering different things at different times. So it's super cool and like. It's amazing. It is. Yeah. And that's part of the exploration. Yes. But like when you're in survival mode and you're so, uh, you're so emotional and you're so believing that the emotions are just who you are, like angry or sad or pissed off or confused or stuck. If you like identify as that, you, there's no room for curiosity to explore. Yeah. You have no room for happiness in your thoughts. No. It's like, You're just a slave to your thoughts. Something that Joe says that Dr. Joe says that I love, um, is that our emotions are an artifact of the past. Oh, so it's kind of like, if, you know, when you have a certain emotion, it's, it's kind of like thinking of it as like a cancer cell, do you want to keep feeding that cancer cell all the bad foods or you are like. bad thoughts. Yeah. Or do you want to detach from it and move on? Because when we feel something, it's just bringing up an old emotion and attaching to that. Yeah. So detaching from that is what can give you emotional freedom. Yeah. Cause that's what he says. Emotions are literally just an artifact in the past. Yeah. Because yes. And the pattern is, is just, it's a program running. Right? Like, Oh, that feeling is familiar and it brings up an old thing that happened in the past. Your brain might not register what that exact moment is, but it's that emotion is attaching or that thought is attaching to that. So that brings up one of the. Biggest reasons why I took the course that I did because I felt alone in every single relationship. I don't know that I've talked about this on the podcast yet, but I felt alone in every single relationship. And the relationship with Joe is like the best, not Dr. Joe. Okay. My Joe, this is core. If anybody's dating Dr. Joe around here, it's going to be me, Meg. I got a man crush on Dr. Joe. But my relationship with Joe is just the best, the absolute best, capital B E S T, best. And yet, I had this, I didn't know to call it a pattern or a program until I got into this course, but I had this pattern running of just this feeling of aloneness, even, even like sitting right next to him. It's like, it was so hard to explain, but it really was. It was because I wasn't connected to myself on a, on an emotional level. And like, I mean, I was eating good food. I was giving respect to my body. I was hanging around more in high impact people, but something was, there was something missing. And it was like, it was really just old patterns running. And I had to be like, Oh, I don't have to run that old pattern anymore. Because I have this and this and this reason, but it was running because I felt so alone, like Megan, I talked about since I was a kid, but it's like, you don't realize that you're running these patterns and these emotional rollercoasters. Until you separate yourself from it and you realize, like, that's not how I am anymore. By starting to create new patterns. And you can literally, like, with, with time, and with, like, going through different things, different exercises and, um, methods, you can literally take off the label of feeling whatever it is you don't want. Mm hmm. Like, for me, alone. And I really do believe that it was this, like, disconnect from Like what a lot of people talk about and I didn't know anything about it, but my higher self, like the, the spirit within me, because it's separate, like the spirit, it's connected to my body and to my mind, this spirit, this high higher self is, I believe, a direct connection to the highest intelligence, which I like to call God, didn't always have a relationship with God, didn't always, I mean, I was raised Catholic, but I felt very disconnected from the religion that I was brought up in. But it's like, oh my gosh. I would rather believe and have faith and have no idea, but have this knowing that my heart is beating because of something so much bigger than me. And the old me felt really small with that thought. Like, who am I in this, like, massive world, driven by this You know, God that everyone talks about, like, what the fuck does that matter, really? But now it's like, oh my gosh, I was chosen, I was chosen to be this, this human and this body and, but it took time for me to transform into, from that shit belief to this higher self belief. And to process it, cause once you awake to that, like, realization of like, how we're plugged in and like, plugged to the source, like it's, Mind boggling. It really is. Like, I, especially when I'm working out, like, when I'm at times of wanting to quit, I remember that I am in a simulation. I picture myself, I swear to God, I do this on the treadmill and because I remember mind over matter, like, you know, and I literally envisioned myself with a cord and my higher self up in the universe has a controller, has a controller. And like, I'm just a computer program. Like that's what gets me through times that I want to quit. And obviously I listen to affirmations. I have to all day, every day. To keep me motivated, but I have to like when times of quitting or certain things I have to remember like Megan, you're just your higher consciousness is your remote control kind of like playing a video game, you know, and I'm like, okay, like you can keep going like, well, and we're talking quantum mechanics right now for any quantum freaks out there. The first module in my course was all about quantum mechanics and it blew my mind. Mind. I love biology and I love physiology and I love learning how the physical body works, but quantum mechanics is all about the mind and the power, the limitless power of the mind and obviously this amazing universe that we live in and how we literally are, are all connected, which I said before, but I never really got the. expansiveness of how the, how we really are. Right. Like. Like, like, like, like, like, like, like. We say like a lot. I'm Meg, by the way. And I'm Court. Like, like, like, like, like. Yeah, The Matrix is a movie that I can't. Oh, it's, it's a documentary. Yes. If you're confused about how we're connected to The Matrix and, and how you can unplug from it, definitely watch that movie. It's. Yeah. Mind blowing. And get empowered. Get empowered. And if you want, like if you don't, yeah, hey, like I'm all about people living with free choice to do what they want as long as they're not harming me and everyone that I love. Do it. Do you. I also, you, you are also connected to me, so I also want you to live your best life, live your truest life. I saw this the other day. It's not about living your best life, it's about living your truest life, which is your best life, your authentic life. Yes. And I loved it. I'm like, yes. Yeah, true me is my goal. Truer and truer? And, and again, feedback. Like if you don't know if something is like. a pattern that, you know, is negative for you. Look at, look at what makes you anxious. Look at the fight that you keep having with your partner. That was dead giveaway for me. I'm like, why do we keep having the same talk over and over? And me blaming versus taking some ownership and responsibility. I'm like, what can I, what can I do here to make a change? And then when I changed and I elevated my relationship, changed and elevated the, the goal of mine to have a. A deeper relationship with my boyfriend's son started to change and elevate like everything that I wanted to change. I had to change and it's like, duh, but it's, it's just so empowering. It is, you can, it's pretty powerful to know once you capture it in your life, and you even the smallest action you get the biggest belief. And once you have your beliefs, like, oh my god, if I was able to do that, like, I could reprogram the way that I think and the way that I operate and yeah, and I mean, having again, friends, we are friends. This is court having friends that are on doesn't have to be the same growth path. Luckily, ours is very similar. It's different because we're different people. It's supposed to be different. But that get it in a way that is open and expansive and. It really helps you let go of control because I have been trying to control a lot of things around me because I felt so out of control in my mind. But then when you start really connecting to what's happening within your thoughts and your emotions, then everything outside of you starts to just shift. And that's the whole idea behind your outer world follows your inner world. Not to say mine's like fucking cake. No, it's, you know, there's definite, I look at hard things that happen as opportunities all the time. Now it's amazing. Like really hard things are happening around me and I just, I, yeah, I want to look at it more like my, like you said, where it's just like my higher, higher consciousness has the controller and my little SIM Courtney body is just. Going through the motions of, of elevated choices. So something that I am becoming aware of in my home life is once I started making changes, how it. Changed the dynamic in the house, you know, like by just by me working on Myself has made joel a bit more calm because if i'm not reacting Then he can't react You know, and yeah, you broke the pattern. Yeah. I mean, I'm not saying I do that every time. Sure. Yeah, but there's definitely sometimes we just have to go at each other unleash. Yeah, we're really good at it, but we only do it every once in a while. But yeah, and like emotions and children. It's something really confusing for them. And Sometimes, like, if Mason is upset or going through an emotion, like, I've never told him not to feel a certain way. I said, you're allowed to experience what you're feeling. And, like, Joel being a man, sometimes you'd be like, oh, you don't cry over that or this and that. And, um, but no, I tell Mason, like, it's okay what you're feeling. Try to, like, why, it's, whatever's making you feel that way. Feel it, cry, get mad, get angry, and release it. You know, and I think a lot of parents Don't communicate with their kids why, why they're upset, why they're crying or why they're angry or mad or don't let them go through that emotion. Well, because it's a pattern that they heard from their parents and it's almost like these unwritten rules that we just pass along, like even, I mean, one of somebody I was working with, like just saying, don't worry all the time. Like telling everyone, don't worry, don't worry. Even that, like we're telling people, like we don't even know we're telling people how to feel. Don't worry. Don't do that. Don't be sad. Don't be, and I used to, I used to preface, like, saying something to Joe, don't be mad. Don't hate me. And now I don't, I try really hard to break that pattern and not say those things. Cause I'm like, look, you, you might be angry about this. You might not. It's for you to decide. And who am I to make someone decide how they're going to feel? Sometimes whatever I'm going to say, literally brings no anger at all in someone else. But I have this fear because it's a pattern. It's a fear that I'm gonna upset or annoy or, you know, irritate somebody. Yeah. You're just creating that story. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think just learning how we use our words and how we talk to people and makes a huge difference even, you know. And all of this stuff. When I first started learning about it, it was overwhelming. It was just like, holy shit, there's like a whole level of life that I am very unaware of. And so, it's like, but learning about it, it just made me feel less alone. And I feel like, the way the world works now is, learning is, it's supposed to be just a natural part of life. But the way it's done now is You get rewarded if you learn. So then, you know, like, I think I heard, it's now five seconds. It used to be nine seconds to like, get someone's attention, and now it's like, you have five seconds. Well, now everybody's getting awards for, even for not winning. Yeah. Nobody leaves award, nobody gets, wait, nobody leaves awardless. Yeah, that's right. But it's like, to learn, it's, I, you know, I wish that it was, For me, I don't need to earn anything to learn. I really enjoy it. I feel alive. I feel less stuck. I feel, it feels really good for me to learn. But I know when you're in a stuck pattern, it's sometimes hard to learn something very different than your everyday. Yeah, it could be overwhelming. Yeah. Yeah, and again, it's really nice to have other people around that you can talk about this newer stuff with because if you if you don't explore it if you don't explore the newer stuff and you try on The exercise and you don't talk about it with anybody. It's just gonna fade away because like dr Joe says we get good at anything we practice. So if we practice Becoming more emotionally mature and aware, aware before mature, maybe together, mature and aware. If we practice, we get really good at it. If we practice our old patterns and our old programs, we're already experts at them. Already experts. There's really no, there's no, no better way. And they're always there. Yeah. They don't go away. They just don't run as powerful as the new software you're creating. Yeah. So you just don't want to get into that, like, pattern of thinking negative. The default. Mm hmm. The default. Yeah. Well, this has been Great. So great. So great. Such a, such a tiny word. But it really has. This has been great. Yeah. I love talking about this stuff. It helps me, like, solidify thoughts and whatever the word is where you connect neurons. Synapse? I think it is. Synapse the neurons or the science girl, honey. Yeah, I just tell myself I am powerful. I am strong. I am love. I am light. I'm energy. I'm beautiful. I am kind. I am giving. I'm abundant. Just got to work on telling yourself that and with gratitude and just over time. Just got to keep elevating. Yeah. And expanding and exploring and discovering and transforming and evolving everlasting. Infinite. Limitless. Forever and ever and ever. 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