SMALL TOWN BIG MOUTHS PODCAST
7. Yearly Resolutions to Relationship Revelations
Ever set a New Year's resolution only to find yourself breaking it before the first day of February? Well, you're not alone - and we're here to find out why that is. Join us, Amber, Nikki and Misty, as we share our own resolution mishaps, delving into the tantalizing statistics behind these annually set aspirations. From tradition pressures to discipline challenges, we pull back the curtain on why these yearly promises seem more destined to break than make.
Now, let's switch gears and get a bit personal. Relationships - it's a maze of intimacy, trust, and sometimes sheer perplexity. Whether it's Misty's penchant for a certain type of closeness or Mike's daring exploration into the adventurous side, we're candidly exposing our own experiences and experiments. Ever wondered about the emotional connections that transcend physical attraction? Or the importance of setting personally meaningful goals? Then look no further. We're peeling back the layers on relationship intricacies, intimacy, and everything in between. Tune in, have a laugh, and perhaps, you just might feel a little less alone in your own experiences.
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Ever set a New Year's resolution only to find yourself breaking it before the first day of February? Well, you're not alone - and we're here to find out why that is. Join us, Amber, Nikki and Misty, as we share our own resolution mishaps, delving into the tantalizing statistics behind these annually set aspirations. From tradition pressures to discipline challenges, we pull back the curtain on why these yearly promises seem more destined to break than make.
Now, let's switch gears and get a bit personal. Relationships - it's a maze of intimacy, trust, and sometimes sheer perplexity. Whether it's Misty's penchant for a certain type of closeness or Mike's daring exploration into the adventurous side, we're candidly exposing our own experiences and experiments. Ever wondered about the emotional connections that transcend physical attraction? Or the importance of setting personally meaningful goals? Then look no further. We're peeling back the layers on relationship intricacies, intimacy, and everything in between. Tune in, have a laugh, and perhaps, you just might feel a little less alone in your own experiences.
Find us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, TikTok
Follow Nikki @otsbartender, Amber @UnrulyAmber, Misty (AKA Dolce) @Mz_Dolcezza and our Podcast Page @Small_Town_Big_Mouths
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We accept ALL questions and feedback!
Welcome to Small Town, big Mouths podcast, where our three hosts will be unraveling tales about dating and life in general that will have you laughing, nodding your head and even cringing in sympathy. So sit back, buckle up and get ready for the ride.
Speaker 2:Happy New Year. This is Amber.
Speaker 3:You're one and only, and this is Nikki, your resident bartender.
Speaker 4:And this is Misty aka Dolce. So let's get through this, because we are now in 2024. 2024. Cheers, I wish I had one of those blowers Right here. Cheers, cheers, cheers, cheers.
Speaker 3:I'll cheers. Everybody's probably still hung over with my hot tea.
Speaker 4:Everybody had a really good New Years and if you're like most people, you might have done a resolution or said one or, you know, think you're implementing one. But what was so funny? I came across an article and it said that researchers, we never know who they right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, who the researchers are.
Speaker 4:Who are they? Yeah right, they suggested only 9% of Americans will actually complete them. That's so low, that's depressing.
Speaker 3:My question is how many people actually make it? Did you make a New Year's resolution? Did you make a New Year's resolution?
Speaker 4:I usually will say well, I say one kind of every year, I'm like okay.
Speaker 2:I do.
Speaker 4:Now that the holiday is over, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna go to the gym, I'm gonna drink less. Yeah, yeah, well. And I've tried Dry January. How'd that work out? Actually, I tried it with Billiard Boy and we got to day number 15. And I actually completed my MBA program and I was like, fuck, I need to celebrate.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:So we went to a dinner and I ordered like the nice bottle of wine, like $300 bottle, like it was like yeah, and he's like well, there goes Dry January and yeah, pretty much there it went, so I am. So then it says in fact, the research goes on to show that 23% of people quit the resolution by the end of the first week. So I did make it past right.
Speaker 3:Cause it's day 15.
Speaker 4:And it says and 43% quit by the end of January.
Speaker 2:So I was in that 43%, yeah Well, congratulations on your 15 days.
Speaker 4:Right, I did it. I think I'm gonna try it again. I think I am. Yeah, it's the second. So actually, you know, I drank through New Year's, cause that's what we do.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 4:And now like yeah, I mean alcohol never is good for me. I mean I always I'm kind of mad, I do it Right, but I'm fine in the process.
Speaker 3:No, no, shit right, I'm not fun the next day kids.
Speaker 2:You guys do resolutions.
Speaker 3:That's what I was just gonna ask.
Speaker 2:No, I think I've said, oh, I'm in a workout or something, but I think that's like the stupidest one.
Speaker 3:I'm sure you're that Well, you always know those people because when you go to, if you go, to the gym, dude in January. It's ridiculous Everyone's joining, they're all like, and then by the end of January you're like cool, everyone's gone, yay, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. So I'm not really big on the New Year's resolutions.
Speaker 4:Okay, yeah, what about you?
Speaker 1:Life is life.
Speaker 3:I'm gonna do what the fuck I want I don't do them because I feel like I'm lying to myself, Like I know I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do or I'm not gonna do what I'm gonna do you know what I mean. So to me to make a resolution is like I feel like I'm lying to myself and then I'm hard on myself. So if I make a resolution and then I don't follow through, I let myself down, and then I'm just like hard on myself and I don't like that either.
Speaker 4:Yeah, and it does say that there's four reasons why people fell, and that's actually one of the reasons is because it should be not just like a tradition thing, right, it should be something that's like no, this is a goal of mine and I would have started this in November, right, so I'm not gonna be choosing, you know, new Year's resolution, so it should be just something that you want to do and you're motivated, besides the date of a year.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean and really it's like a disciplined thing. I'm not very disciplined, so I've always been rebellious. I am too.
Speaker 4:I'm a rebellious. What are you? I'm more rebellious person. I don't, I'm not a rebellious. I think you're a rule follower. I'm a rule breaker. I'm a rule breaker.
Speaker 3:It depends.
Speaker 2:It really depends on what it is. I'm like spank me, I was a bad girl. I'm like yai, yai, yai.
Speaker 3:I'm like chachinny.
Speaker 2:Woo, happy New Year.
Speaker 3:Yeah, baby, I don't think I'm a rule follower. I mean I try and like walk the line. I'm in the gray area. Do you know what I'm saying? Oh yeah, I'm that girl that's in the gray area. Well, didn't exactly say this, but you know, I think I can get away with this, so that's me.
Speaker 4:Okay, I'm definitely rebellious too. Yeah, I'm in fact like, I like the challenge. You know what I mean. So I'm like whoa, whoa, whoa. You say I can't.
Speaker 2:Oh, you watch me, yeah, yeah, yeah, don't tell me I can't do something, but wait a minute, are?
Speaker 3:you either one of you Catholic, no, okay.
Speaker 2:Cause, you know like the 40 blint.
Speaker 3:Okay, I never understood it. I'm not Catholic so I don't. But I would watch one of the bartenders that I worked with, danny, and he was he, and so as like like to pay homage to Danny. Some of the other bartenders would do it too, like Danny would quit drinking for that 40 days and then Steve would quit drinking soda cause Steve doesn't drink. Well, I'm not really a drinker, so they're like what are you going to give up? And I'm like nothing, I'm not joining this. What are you talking about? I'm not even Catholic.
Speaker 2:So yeah, yeah, but that's a separate I'll give up giving blowjobs.
Speaker 4:That's an easy one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's a super easy one.
Speaker 3:You guys, you don't she. So she already told me she doesn't like that. I like that.
Speaker 4:I love a blowjob. If I'm so fucking into you Like You're going to make me want to do it. No, if I'm into you, your shit's like candy in my mouth. But no, I'm serious.
Speaker 3:I swear to God, I'm like a blowpop.
Speaker 4:But why would you be giving a blowjob to someone you weren't into Well, because you know, I think when you're kind of in situationships or whatever, you know, the intimacy is there and there's that expectation and they kind of like want to push it down and you're like, okay, I'll fucking do it, but I'm not into it. Yeah, I'm not, I'm not swallowing. Well, no, definitely not that no, but if I'm into you, Uh-oh.
Speaker 2:I am, I am going we're the rule breakers, we're the rule breakers, but she's in the gray area.
Speaker 3:So what are you doing In the gray? What do you mean? What am I doing?
Speaker 4:She likes it, I like it. Do you swallow I, I, I she's like-.
Speaker 3:When we have a sip of my tea kids.
Speaker 4:She's all drink yeah.
Speaker 3:I love the drink. If you could only see my face right now. Yeah, how does it feel, feels good.
Speaker 4:I guess I've never like as she swallows her tea. I've never like given a blowjob to someone. You think Sunshine will listen to this podcast.
Speaker 3:Sunshine. Yeah, oh, mr Bartender.
Speaker 4:Mr Bartender, oh, that's right, he will not.
Speaker 3:He does not he will not.
Speaker 4:I like my name better.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because he likes Sunshine, yeah Sunshine. Because he knows what About the podcast.
Speaker 3:He knows he won't. He's not, that's not his thing. You know what I mean. He just like he's really busy, so I just don't expect him to. So like-. Do you not?
Speaker 4:like, say, about swallowing or what you do in case like people are listening, or do you not? You're like no fuck that I'll tell you.
Speaker 3:No, I don't care. No, I'll swallow, I don't care, fuck it whatever. And she swallowed it.
Speaker 4:And she swallowed it but because she tried to take a drink and we got it out of her.
Speaker 3:The thing is is I've never given a blow job to someone that I wasn't into.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, absolutely so. That's why.
Speaker 3:And what? Yeah, no, I gave it in your younger years.
Speaker 2:No, what, yeah, you guys, I mean you gotta be special if I'm putting my mouth on it but they can fuck you all they want.
Speaker 4:Fuck yeah, I like to be fucked. Okay, this is so crazy because I get what you're saying.
Speaker 2:I hope my family's not listening.
Speaker 4:It is more intimate for my mouth to be on a dick than that dick to be in my vagina. Isn't that weird? Yeah, why it's wait? Say that again. It is more intimate.
Speaker 3:It's more of an intimate thing for her to give a blow job than for him to have sex with me.
Speaker 4:I would agree with you. Oh, yeah, yeah, okay, but do you find?
Speaker 3:But a lot of women.
Speaker 4:They're like no, I'm not having sex with them, they'll blow him.
Speaker 2:Okay, but you know what I'm saying Where's his dick been? Well, yes, all those things, but do you find? But yet you let that go in your vagina.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's fine. I'm real weird about what goes in there. But like, do you find, are you making out with them? Do you find kissing to be intimate, Like if you're not?
Speaker 4:intimate I love kissing Me too. I do love kissing, but, okay, I like kissing. Now I'm only. Oh my God, I miss you a lot. Oh my God, this is off the charts, okay. But listen like I love kissing so much, Like I'm like a kissing bandit.
Speaker 3:Yes, you are.
Speaker 2:I have seen it.
Speaker 4:Oh shit, you kiss girls too.
Speaker 3:I do, I'm a lover, I'm a lover, I'm another sip of my tea.
Speaker 4:I'm a lover, not a hater, not a fighter. I'm drinking, I'm talking about the love. I be kissy, kissy everywhere. You're a little hippy. I am, I'm a hippy, hence my name is Misty. But like, okay, this is crazy, when I'm really really into you, like I'll suck your tongue, is that weird? No, oh yeah yeah, I don't think it's weird. I love it Like I would like oh.
Speaker 2:Like I, just like I wanna eat you.
Speaker 4:I just wanna eat. I do and I'll bite. Oh, I'm a biter. Oh, my see, that means you're on another level.
Speaker 2:That means you're Mr.
Speaker 4:Love's dick right now. Yeah, what that means. You've upped a notch. You know what I'm saying If I'm doing all of that stuff with you. Like you've made it into Misty's, like in her, like fun bank.
Speaker 3:Because you feel like the other part is just like a requirement. Yeah, like Everything else over, that is gonna be like I really am into you.
Speaker 4:Yes, yes, and I can't even like contain myself. You know what I mean.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you know, I get it.
Speaker 2:I think if you can be really intimate with somebody and open yourself up 110% it's way better. But it takes somebody special to get you there, like I.
Speaker 3:Oh, for sure.
Speaker 2:I've been talking to a girl who's been single for 10 years.
Speaker 3:I mean, I mean cause I'm like, I'm with somebody.
Speaker 1:I love, I wanna do anything and everything with.
Speaker 3:I don't care because I trust you and I love you, right, right.
Speaker 2:So yeah.
Speaker 3:I don't know about everything. Okay, maybe not everything, but damn near there's some things that just don't happen, mike.
Speaker 2:where's the handcuff? Sir?
Speaker 3:Okay, I'm not talking about that.
Speaker 2:I'm talking about something else. Yeah, I know what you're talking about.
Speaker 3:That's for exit only, exit only.
Speaker 4:I love it. Sex is great, it is.
Speaker 1:She's never blushing.
Speaker 4:Just I love it all. I just love like Experiment, I think that went over her head.
Speaker 2:Wait what it did what?
Speaker 3:It's for exit only.
Speaker 2:And you said I love it. Yeah, amel.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I'll do it All right what.
Speaker 2:Good for you. She's like I love it, I love it, I love it all.
Speaker 4:Okay.
Speaker 3:I love it all. I don't love that.
Speaker 4:Yeah, if I'm into you, like it's fucking fair, everything's fair game. I'm open to suggestions.
Speaker 2:Let's have fun with it.
Speaker 4:I'm like let's have fun with it. I don't like anything that will really hurt me, though.
Speaker 3:No, I'm not into, like that really hurts me though.
Speaker 4:S and M shit, you know. Enough lube, enough alcohol. It's good, it's good yeah. I mean, let's sure like fucking John Holmes dickers. No, fuck that, but you know what I mean. Like a normal size it could work.
Speaker 3:Yeah, a normal size penis. Yeah, yeah, what's normal size?
Speaker 2:I mean that is according to the internet yeah, what Wait.
Speaker 4:Yeah, what did the internet say?
Speaker 2:I think it's like four inches. What Stop it?
Speaker 3:Google it.
Speaker 2:Google it. I have to.
Speaker 3:Google it Because I really want to know, because if average size penis. I think they have all of a sudden she's going to have all this spam for like porn on her phone. I know like the average size is like six inches, between six and seven, 5.1.
Speaker 4:I mean, that came up fast too yeah.
Speaker 3:It must be gilded a lot that.
Speaker 2:OK, but it's not necessarily the length. That's the girth too.
Speaker 4:Average size for a flaccid penis is 3.5 inches. So when it's like not Not erect, yeah, and then an erect is at 5.1. So that's that, and then the ellipses. Look at girth.
Speaker 3:What's measuring this shit anyway, men, men.
Speaker 4:Men, men, men. Yeah, but OK, every man knows her size. How are it?
Speaker 3:I don't even want to know.
Speaker 2:I know I always while I used to ask I don't. I guess it's been a long time.
Speaker 3:I don't really, I don't ask, See, because I guess my thing is is like I don't really care how big it is, it's how you write the pencil Exactly. Yeah, do you know how to use it? Ok, you ready? Yes, OK, so basically 4.1, that is a little Amber and I are over here like with our hands measuring.
Speaker 4:No, I know 4.59 inches Wide Girth, erect Girth. So yeah, we need a tape measure. That's like that seems a little big, that seems large 4.59 going around. No, look at it If you go around. Oh, you're talking the circumference that's girth.
Speaker 3:I'm talking from here to here. You're talking all the way around, babe. That's girth, girth. Is this way Right?
Speaker 4:This is round way.
Speaker 2:as you guys round, I'm going to have my sewing measuring tape and be like you need the sewing one you need the sewing.
Speaker 3:I have one and then, if you like me to bust it out, hold on, I might need it later.
Speaker 4:Yes, Can you get it Continue? This I actually am very, I'm very wanting to see this. I've never done this before, and so we did length, and length is 5.16. And then your girth, which is so weird. Right, the girth is almost as much average as much as the length, 4.59.
Speaker 2:That doesn't make any sense.
Speaker 4:That would be like just a big old bottle of mush.
Speaker 2:I just want to feel it at least, like when you put it in.
Speaker 4:I'm like oh my God, you know what that's. What's nice about being a little girl? I'm 5'2 and I had vaginal deliveries with my babies. But because I'm little, I'm tight.
Speaker 2:That's what he said, yeah.
Speaker 4:OK, let's do this All right. So I love this.
Speaker 3:This is what I wish. We recorded our video. So you said 4.59.
Speaker 2:Just do 4 and 1 half.
Speaker 3:Oh, that's little. I guess that is pretty little.
Speaker 4:Oh god.
Speaker 3:There's no way. Are you trying to show us what you like? Because?
Speaker 2:Okay, like at least six.
Speaker 4:Lord, what the hell that's about? Right, okay, you got that's not average. No, okay, you guys do the length, do like the length is not having it.
Speaker 3:five point one, hold on, I happen to bring two tape measures.
Speaker 4:For the four audience. Ever's putting it up towards her crotch. How it lays on their thigh, yeah so three point six, one if you're just like in the shower, how long that? Three points, that's not long at all. No, that's about. That's about, right, that's what I see, guys in the shower.
Speaker 2:If you're in the shower with a guy and his dick is it hard. We have a serious problem.
Speaker 4:No, you're seeing them getting in and out, oh.
Speaker 2:I thought you're like in the shower with the guy yeah, you're better shit. She's talking about as she's watching them shower.
Speaker 3:Sorry.
Speaker 4:No, they're in there. I'm getting a wrong kind of stamina.
Speaker 3:So that brings us to our next topic, our next topic. So why don't we? Uh, so, you guys, we have written down some topics and we've put them in a bowl so we can pull one out Because our audience gave us a bunch of topics and we chose from those. Yes, and so, uh, amber, why don't you do the honors of pulling one out, pulling?
Speaker 4:one out. Pull one of those. Pull one of those five point one inches out.
Speaker 2:Let's just flow All right, balancing work, dating and personal life. Oh, that's a good one, balancing work, dating and personal life. I just juggle. Honestly I'm like where's my calendar? If I really like you, I'll fit you into my oh, you know, I mean, remember, she's the planner right.
Speaker 4:So you calendar everything.
Speaker 2:I have to. You know, I only started doing that after my husband passed away.
Speaker 3:Okay, I only started doing that when I met amber.
Speaker 4:Like I literally almost spit out my wife. I know.
Speaker 2:Is that a good thing?
Speaker 3:It is because now I have like all this stuff on my, because before I would forget.
Speaker 4:Look at her.
Speaker 3:She's the only one with her.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I got my calendar out. I got shit on my phone.
Speaker 3:I'm just like ready to go.
Speaker 2:I showed up here because I didn't bring my laptop. I didn't bring nothing. I don't?
Speaker 3:she came unorganized today I was. I was a little like what the fuck is going on in this town right now.
Speaker 2:I don't know.
Speaker 3:Yeah, mr Love, you got her all fucked up. She came without her shit.
Speaker 4:I will say, mr Love, he put a little candy in your dish because you have a little pep in your step, you do it's you're different.
Speaker 1:You got a little smile tonight.
Speaker 4:Then last podcast, for sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, I was single and ready to mingle last podcast.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I mean, you were kind of like or two podcasts ago.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you're kind of like a little frumpy. I was like well, it was like you know, it's the holidays the holidays, it was the anniversary of her husband.
Speaker 4:That's true. Yeah, you're posting a lot of that, yeah.
Speaker 2:So and I wasn't really looking for this, it was somebody that's been on my facebook for a few months and we talked and. I think timing, everything's based on timing right really, and if it works out I mean I hope it works out. If it doesn't like, I think he'd still be a great friend.
Speaker 4:So right so now you have to add so what was that?
Speaker 3:that was balancing, balancing work dating and your personal life, yeah.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 3:So I mean now he's gonna take place of dating obviously right, I'll write your dating so, but he's also going to be integrated into our personal life.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah and he's got children he has children.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he has a daughter, that's 10 and a son that's in college, yeah, so I mean he's willing to put in the effort, yeah, and he works long days and that you just.
Speaker 3:That's the key right there effort.
Speaker 1:Right, but we're all willing to put in the effort.
Speaker 3:I need to feel it, yeah, but it's hard to meet someone who was willing to put in the effort. Misty and I and you probably before mr Love we spent a lot of time on dating websites. And you meet these dudes and in their thing it says, oh, I'm looking for a relationship. And then you start talking to them and maybe you go out with them, and then all of a sudden you find out they're not fucking looking for a relationship.
Speaker 3:They're not ready for one? Yeah, not, they're not, they're not ready, they're just like, literally they are, they're they. They don't want one.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 4:I found that a lot yeah you know, and, and there's a guy you know what's so sad is that I read this are actually several articles that as we grow older, we're sure that the men, they die earlier than us. We all know that, and they are very lonely in their old age as when they're not in a relationship, whereas women, we actually, we die later than them, but we thrive in old age. Right, we're okay, we're not alone. I could see that. Yeah, we find our girlfriends, we find family, we find our children. We really do. We integrate ourselves so much easier, like as we age.
Speaker 2:Yeah, more female time, honestly.
Speaker 4:Yeah, and it's really sad that men don't Like figure that out. Like how are you not figuring that out that you're getting older? You're not getting any younger? Like don't you want to like hang out and take care of somebody and let them take care of you Like be a partnership?
Speaker 3:I don't think it's that they don't. You know what I think it is. I think I feel like they're just waiting for the next best, or someone younger, or someone prettier, or someone. That's how.
Speaker 4:I feel, but it's, it is, at the end of the day, it's about connection. Yeah, it really is.
Speaker 3:And I, I agree with you. Yeah, but from a male standpoint, I think that they're just so busy looking for the next. Yeah, you know, cutie patootie or hot mama or whatever it is, who may have no substance and maybe it isn't anything. Yeah, maybe is a total dipshit, but she's cute. You know what I mean? I don't know.
Speaker 2:Mr Love, right, like I'm single, I can do whatever I want. But he made it a point to say I only want to talk to you and my response was like okay. He's like, are you good with that? And I was like I can agree to that. I think there's something good there that if you really want to focus on what is between you and I, then I can do that too. Yeah, you know, but I've never made that effort before.
Speaker 3:Why? Because she picks man of heart.
Speaker 2:Yes, I'm very mean. I have like this exterior when I feel like I have to be strong and I'm, you know? I just so you're not vulnerable. No, I'm afraid of being hurt and for whatever reason. Yeah, this time is different. I don't know why.
Speaker 4:I mean that's a good thing. I mean maybe because he's a good man.
Speaker 2:I don't know, only time will tell. The only time will tell but he took the initiative to say hey, you know, if this is going to be anything because that's what we both want Then we need to focus on only each other.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I mean, we can't explain sometimes why things happen, right?
Speaker 4:or why people come together or the timing of stuff. But I honestly think that, at the end of the day, if this is evolving, like the universe is taking it in that way For you like me, looking at you and knowing that you have a rough edge Go with this, like let the universe flow, because when you don't, that's when chaos happens in your life. Let it become organic. Yeah, yeah, like just go with it. It's flowing and there's a reason why. And don't question it Just and don't force it either.
Speaker 2:Yeah, just go with it. No, I agree with that, and I have to tell myself, like I don't have to be tough, I don't have to, I could be vulnerable, but like you have to do that with the right person right, yeah, that person has to be willing to receive it.
Speaker 4:Right, I'm actually a very vulnerable person, but I, nikki, said a keyword like don't force it. I have found through my background now I've been in therapy for a while that I do force a lot of stuff. Um, but it's because I've had like no control in my life, right, and so it's my way of like protecting myself and trying to control Exactly, and it's something that you have control over and I'm but, but I don't right.
Speaker 3:No, you absolutely don't let you think that you do. Yeah, because I can't.
Speaker 4:I can't make somebody Care, make somebody put effort and make somebody love me. Like it's just got to happen and Like when I'm into you and I want you so bad, like I'm like why don't you see it? Why don't you see it? Like I want to fix it, I want you know, I want to be there.
Speaker 3:But I also want you to want me the way I want you. Yes.
Speaker 4:So I have so learned Like if it's going to happen, it's gonna just it. Like, especially even like the past. You let go of the past. If it's meant to be, it comes back Right. Or like if you stop talking to somebody, if there's something there, if even it's a small something, they reach out. And so I've now like learned this method and it's actually so much more peaceful because my controlling ways are just me, like, like being in fear. You know what I mean and and exactly an abandonment.
Speaker 4:Yes, you know, I lost my parents. I lost Ken. I had so much abandonment. I don't want to lose so I try so hard to hold on. Yeah, yeah, do you do that? You sound like you're.
Speaker 3:You do that, I do, and I know I just like. Uh, mr Sunshine, I was going to mr Sunshine yes we're calling. Well, we switched it switched his name to sunshine and I because he's definitely not a bartender.
Speaker 3:Yeah, okay so how I met him is I was meeting my friend Alice for dinner. She owns a bar here in town and we went to go have dinner and I was meeting her at Campania and I walked in. I didn't, I had been at Campania in years. So I walked in like the side bar door and I came along and I thought I saw her, which it was her, and I put my back, I'm hand on her back, and I like, I'm like hey, and she turned out. She's like oh, hi, and then all of a sudden some fucking dude comes up and he's like and there she's sitting on the corner of the bar, and on the other corner of the bar is this Big, handsome, bald headed, like my type.
Speaker 3:But I didn't see him because this dude comes over. He's like hey, have you met my friend blah blah blah? Yeah, he's ahead of blah blah this, and he's trying to like and his, the guy's sitting at the bar, just like, looking at me, and I'm like he goes, his name's blah blah, and I'm like, yeah, and he kept going. It's like, yeah, he's a trainer. He's, he goes, I'm his trainer. Can't you see my muscles? Look at his muscles. This guy just kept going on and on about him.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and I'm just like okay, and I go, um, guy, I said I actually know him. And then the guy looks at me, mr Sunshine, he goes, you know me? And I said I know your brother, I know his wife. I used to be friends with her. Yeah, it's just like turned into this. And then he was like that's cool.
Speaker 3:Yeah, where do you know me from? I told him, you know we went, you know I met you here. And then he's like what do you do now? And I said well, I work at old town. I've been there 23 years. And he goes well, what days do you work? And I said I work Wednesday, thursday, friday, saturday. And he's like well, I'll have to come in and see you. And then, like a fucking bumbling idiot, when we went to our table, I said okay, I said well, hopefully you can come into the bar sometime when we can have a conversation. The fuck, who the fuck says that? And so then we get to our table and Alice is like that was a nice looking guy. And I'm like I know. I said he's really nice looking on. And she's like yeah, and then she goes you want to go back and sit at the bar? And I'm like no. And here's where the Well, because here's where the part, where.
Speaker 2:I would be like yeah.
Speaker 3:Here's where the part where fitting your friendships comes in. I was there to have dinner with Alice. I wasn't there to meet someone, so to me I told Alice, no, I'm here to have dinner with you, I'm not here to sit at the bar. And for it was someone. So we had our dinner and I thought if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Well, I happened to know that he had an instance. He told me. I said I've seen you on facebook and he said I'm off facebook now, but I have an instagram account. Well, knowing his last name, I found him on instagram and I requested.
Speaker 4:I followed him. I told her yes, she did. He started following me and then he made it wait because would you have had the balls to do it?
Speaker 2:Maybe, Okay, but he went back all the way to old ass pictures and started liking him.
Speaker 4:Oh he be looking.
Speaker 3:Yes, right.
Speaker 2:He went back to like and I'm like you can look, but you don't like.
Speaker 4:Well guys, they're not the smartest I know, yeah. But you know what Men they stalk, just like women. They really do. I've learned that. Oh yeah, yeah, they're just like not talking about it. They're like I mean oh, my God.
Speaker 3:They don't talk to their dudes for just about an hour. Yeah, it'll hurt their ego. Yeah, I know what are you doing hunting down that girl.
Speaker 4:You know what I mean? Oh yeah, he looks like a weirdo, yeah yeah, yeah, which you don't guys.
Speaker 3:You don't look like a weirdo.
Speaker 4:You don't, because everybody does it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, how else are you gonna learn things about people? You know what I mean.
Speaker 4:Yeah, and I mean if there's, you know, curiosity or there's feelings like you wanna know, but we're in such a technology age that they you can.
Speaker 3:that is out there for you to look at. It is like social media. It's in the public. You can see it. It's there. Yeah, yeah, I posted it, you know. Yeah, I might have posted it in 2018, but I posted it. It's still there. I didn't erase it. You can look at it. I did erase some pictures of my ex husband on there, though I was like, oh, let's get those off there.
Speaker 4:I thought my ex and I were cool and I went to a friend request and me declined it. Bob, no, no no, not my kid's dad Okay.
Speaker 3:No, but we're not supposed to say names. We've already said his name.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. So how would you handle dating Mr Sunshine if it goes that direction? And your personal life, yeah, your balance.
Speaker 4:Oh, because now.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to balance something. And your work schedule is kind of crazy, okay, but here's the thing that Mr Sunshine said.
Speaker 3:It was crazy. He goes. I have kind of my free days are kind of crazy, and I said what are your free days? And he said Sunday, monday, tuesday.
Speaker 4:That was like the stars aligned.
Speaker 3:Those are my days off.
Speaker 4:The stars aligned. Yeah, who has those fucking days off? Right? It's nobody, those are not his days off.
Speaker 3:He does work Monday through Friday, but Monday night and Tuesday night are the nights that he doesn't have like side gigs and other things to do. Oh, okay, so he doesn't have his grandkids on Sunday. He doesn't have anything to do Monday and Tuesday night, which is perfect, because, if anyone knows me, I sleep half the day away on Monday and Tuesday. So I was like what? And then, like he goes to the gym every day. He's bald, he's built. I'm just like hello, god, were you answering my prayers today, I mean?
Speaker 4:but it wasn't like I was looking for it either I walked in there to have dinner with my friend. Alex, it's always when you least expect. Exactly, it really is.
Speaker 2:So Misty, get off the dating sites. Yeah, why? Because you're looking for it.
Speaker 4:Yeah, well, you have to though, but I'm putting myself out there and there's like no other way, because I'm not going to meet some guy in a bar, I'm not going to like meet somebody in a grocery store, but I think the problem with Misty and I is we have lived in this small town all our lives.
Speaker 3:I mean, I didn't move away for a brief stint, but you are from another, you live someplace else.
Speaker 2:Thank you for fucking gone.
Speaker 3:Right. So Misty and I both share the same we don't really want to date someone from here.
Speaker 4:We know a lot of people I know Like a lot.
Speaker 3:And I don't want to date someone that someone I know has dated. I really don't.
Speaker 4:Yeah, no, it's really tough. I mean I was fortunate because I had one person after Ken. Ken was from Texas, he wasn't from here, he knew nobody. Then when he passed, I did one person and he was in a marriage for a long, long time, actually knew of his ex-wife, but we weren't friends, we just like knew each other through kid stuff, but he runs in a different circle than I do, so that was really nice because it was a separation there. And then when we didn't work out like I don't have to run into him all the time because he's doing his own thing, right, because, typical, we go to the same damn places, you're running into the same people and I hate that. So I'm trying to just be open-minded. Plus, I can move, my kids are older and I've got freedom and flexibility. So I'm just trying to be open to outside of the area. But I'm not always on the sites. I literally will get on for a week and then I'll get off for a fucking month and then I'll, it's a boredom buster yes, exactly Same for me.
Speaker 2:Boredom buster, right, yeah, but I did delete all my stuff.
Speaker 4:Well, Anne, what's crazy is your guy? You met you, but you did meet from Facebook, that's a social media site.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I thought he was cute, so I rented him.
Speaker 4:Right, so that's very similar to a dating site the way you did that, because you're finding them online.
Speaker 3:You're dealing with the intention of that. You thought he was cute, yeah.
Speaker 2:And you saw he was single.
Speaker 4:You requested him.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I like making new friends anyways.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But we talked for a little bit and then he fell off and he got back on the horse, I guess.
Speaker 4:Yeah, and then that's nice. You met, happened to meet him out at a restaurant. That's nice.
Speaker 3:And what's crazy is we had a conversation. We'll see. We had a conversation and for me it's always hard for me to tell someone that I've been married twice. Ok, I don't know about you, but for me it's like, well, I was married once.
Speaker 1:Oh.
Speaker 3:OK.
Speaker 4:I'm sorry, it's me.
Speaker 3:I thought you were married to Bob.
Speaker 4:I was, but I don't consider Ken as a married twice because I didn't end that. Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3:Right, oh gotcha.
Speaker 4:Like he was taken from me and I was very happily married, so I didn't have two divorces under my belt. Right that part.
Speaker 3:I do understand One divorce under my belt, but technically you were married twice, but I have been divorced twice, so that is like so in your mind.
Speaker 4:two failed. It's like a scarlet letter.
Speaker 3:Like dude, let me just wear a big fucking red D on my fucking sleeve so you can see that I have been divorced twice. Let me wear two Ds, so you know. You know what also, though, tells me oh, I'm sorry, but let me finish. So we're talking and he said something. And then he said my first wife. And I was like what? And then I go, you've been married twice. And he goes, yes, and then I was like, oh, my god, ok me too.
Speaker 4:I do think the older we get though that's more going to be there.
Speaker 1:The older we get.
Speaker 4:But also what it does show me is you're hopeless romantic. Yes, and I've learned that just because you're married multiple times, because you're, you know what You're seeing in the glass half full, you're going to give it again a shot. You're trying, so it didn't work out.
Speaker 3:I'm definitely a hopeless romantic. Yeah, definitely. I definitely see it in the glass half full.
Speaker 4:And that's OK. I rather you be that person than the bitter fucking person that never wants to remarry again. Yeah, no, never To be honest, I like this. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:How do you balance your work life relationships? Well, I don't even know I don't sleep.
Speaker 3:The question that I want to ask to about everyone is how do you balance other friendships? I have lost so many friends over. They started dating someone and then all of a sudden they're like booed up and they don't even talk to you.
Speaker 4:I hate that. Yeah, I don't like that. I freaking hate that. I'm not that girl. I'm not that girl either we could grab a lunch real quick.
Speaker 2:We you know what I mean, I think.
Speaker 4:OK, so we're all not that girl. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I don't want to. I don't want to be that girl. Let's all go in. High five guys, high five guys.
Speaker 4:Don't beat that fucking girl. I don't like that. I'm dealing with one. Right now, in particular, I'm dealing with her. I'm not going to say her name, I'm not going to call you out girl?
Speaker 3:Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 4:But she's now in my A because she found a guy.
Speaker 2:Your life doesn't read you had a life before.
Speaker 4:As soon as they have some issues, she'll be like what are you doing this weekend? Yeah, so, but I don't understand why you can't have.
Speaker 3:When that happens, what do you do? Do you answer her calls?
Speaker 4:I'm always the cool, I'm always cool. I've got so many friends and I'm always like, oh, we're going to go here. Yeah, you should meet up. I'm so sorry that happened. See, I'm a bitch.
Speaker 3:I'm, like you know what. Too bad, so sad for you.
Speaker 2:I'm the nice fucking person, so I better be nice to Nick, you know, or I mean, I better still go lunch with her.
Speaker 4:I'm just a nice person. Yeah, I'm actually the one I will say. Through the years, a lot of girls have divorced, broken up. They reach out to Miss D, reach out to Miss D, I'm that girl, they're trying to get back on the train. Yeah, and I'm on the train, always on the train. You know what I mean. I've always been that person on there, even when I was married to Ken. Ken was just with me on the train, right.
Speaker 3:You know what I mean.
Speaker 4:See, that's how I am with my dudes, yeah.
Speaker 3:Like, if I'm married, if I'm dating someone, like the last guy I dated last year, like my daughter invited me over you want to come, you're coming with me, you want to hang out with me? Then you're coming.
Speaker 1:That's just how it was, you're coming with me.
Speaker 3:If you want to be with me, this is what I'm doing. You want to go? We're going to see the zoo lights. Ok, you want to come? I'm buying you a ticket, but like that's what I but these girls are just like they crawl up this guy's ass and then you never fucking hear from them again, and then it's like you know, until something happens, and then I just don't.
Speaker 4:Well, women that do that, something's always going to happen.
Speaker 3:Something is always going to happen.
Speaker 4:Because men can feel that yes. They feel that they are all you got Right, and that's when they step out, and that's when they start getting controlling, that's when they start thinking they're the shit. It may not be in the beginning, but it eventually evolves.
Speaker 3:Because it's always like a little fairy tale at the beginning.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, of course, yeah.
Speaker 2:But I think men should have, because some guys are like that too. Yes, oh, absolutely, and I think it's healthy for you to go have a poker night or me to go have a bunco night or whatever it is. Separately, it is totally OK If I can't trust you to go out on your own.
Speaker 4:We do not belong together. So wait, I have a question because I dealt with this. So what if you're dealing with a dude that Monday night he's got this league, tuesday night he's got this league. Oh, thursday night it's this league, and you already worked these other three nights or whatever. So I had that issue and I'm like, ok, this sucks, because actually I would love to do these things with you, but you're so much better at them in these leagues or whatever, that I can't even compare. So you're on this level and you're joined in this group. Is he not inviting you to these things? No, to watch, because I can't.
Speaker 3:You want to be a participant?
Speaker 4:Well, yeah, but I'm not on that level. So I would go and I watch, but how boring is that for me to sit there and have a beer and watch you for three hours?
Speaker 3:You know what I?
Speaker 1:mean.
Speaker 4:And I just felt like that was really self-centered For right. It's selfish, yeah, ok.
Speaker 2:I'm glad you guys are talking about this, yeah, yeah, if a man I mean but did you express that to him, oh, numerous times.
Speaker 3:Ok, so he wasn't making the effort, and so he gets the map, ok, and if you express it to him and he wasn't making the effort, he just didn't give a fuck, no, he's like.
Speaker 4:And then it came down. I was like well, you can have me two nights of the week.
Speaker 2:Motherfucker you're mine every night.
Speaker 3:The minute someone says that to me, I'd be like, well, you could have me zero nights of the week because watch my ass fuck out the door. That might really hurt my feelings.
Speaker 4:Yeah, no, I'm who says stuff like that. I went, that's a person.
Speaker 3:That's a person.
Speaker 4:yeah, no, it really hurt my feelings and it really like brought me down a whole yeah.
Speaker 2:So here's my thing communication, compromise and commitment. Yeah, if you can't communicate to me doesn't mean you're right or wrong or vice versa, but you need to hear me and if you love me and wanna be with me, you're gonna probably try to compromise some things, but then that tells me that he didn't love me and wanna be with me Exactly, there was no effort. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Effort goes a long way yeah where's the commitment?
Speaker 2:No commitment, yeah that's why communication communication compromise and commitment.
Speaker 3:Communication compromise and commitment.
Speaker 4:The three C's. The three C's oh.
Speaker 3:Communication.
Speaker 4:Do we merge that no?
Speaker 3:Is this somewhere? You've already did you find this somewhere? Is this an amber Hashtag? Is this an amberism?
Speaker 2:Amberism I should look it up.
Speaker 3:Maybe you should I as you should Before we start using that.
Speaker 4:So one thing you did ask me is how I balance? Yes, because I do have a lot going on. Yes, so I work full time, so I have a career, I have grown children, I do this podcast, I have a social life, I have a property manager, airbnbs. So what I try to do is and you know this might be off-putting to people, but this is literally where it's at for me is, my kids will always be where my love is is first okay, so I'll make time for that. And then, secondary is it's how does the hand feed the mouth? So I prioritize my businesses first. It's all about the money flow.
Speaker 4:For me, it's about building my empire. I'm very like, ambitious and driven, but because I lost my parents at a young age and I had to do everything on my own since I was 12, and I want to set up this nest egg, maybe I can retire early, but even if I don't, I don't want my kids to have to go through what I went through. So that's always my first Now, when I have all that in place and I do use a calendar, but I'm pretty much like a routine person. So like once I lock in my Airbnbs, like I have them on a lease, like I know when I gotta go clean. You know I do that because I clean my own properties and I don't do like short term where it's like over the weekends.
Speaker 4:I do more of like short term, long term, you know. Working nurses yeah yeah, they have 13 week contracts. That's like my main, so I try to keep everything. Like you know, this is manageable. I can do this, but I'll tell you that my saving grace is how I do juggle. All of it is I work remotely. Working remotely has been the game changer and a lifesaver, because I have flexibility to be able to do shit during the day and then pick up slack at other hours.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying. Right, I feel yeah, yeah, same here when you have to actually go physically be somewhere.
Speaker 4:It is tough and I know you guys both deal with that.
Speaker 2:So I'm based. I have a lot of flexibility. Okay, that's good.
Speaker 3:So when you do, you can have more on your plate you know, I don't know that I have flexibility, but I work at night when most people are going to bed.
Speaker 2:So yeah, you do have the flex. I mean it's easier for you to do things during the day if you have a doctor's appointment. You're like I don't know how I used to work full time, be a wife and a mother and take care of myself and have friends, like I don't even know how I did it, but we did it, we did it and now I work part time two kids podcast, a Raiders group, a freaking you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Single mother. Single mom and I have a life, so I don't know how I do it.
Speaker 4:I think it's just where our priorities lie. We give that the priority. You know what I mean. Like what we find important, it becomes the top of our list, yeah, and we work it in. And for me, obviously, it's like the family and the money. Those are the two top for me. And I find this interesting because when you go and apply for jobs, they'll be like why do you want this job? And you're supposed to say the politically, the fucking PC thing of everything, bullshit. I want this job because it makes more money. That's the only reason I'm taking this damn job. You know what I mean, please. And I'm really glad that California has become more transparent in the salaries. We can actually talk about it. Remember, we used to not talk about salaries at all, and I'm so glad you can actually blatantly ask me how much you make in the workplace. Yeah, and they can tell you.
Speaker 4:You should not be that way.
Speaker 3:Fucking hallelujah that you could do that. We don't discuss that in my job. Why I just don't, I just don't, I don't? You asked me and I told you, but I wouldn't tell other people.
Speaker 2:It's none of their business. I don't think it's anybody's business either.
Speaker 4:I don't give a shit because here's the deal you tell me and I'll be like fuck, maybe I need to do that. You know what I'm serious. I'm about to switch careers too. No, it's like it's, you know, when you care about people and they're just inquiring within, it's helpful for individuals.
Speaker 3:You just said it, though, right there because you care about people, because you care about me and we're friends. You ask me. But some Joe blow off the side of the street or some dude in the bar that's asking me how much money I make. It's none of his business, because the minute I tell him how much money I make, he'll stop tipping me. He'll stop leaving what he leaves. He may leave me nothing because he thinks I make enough. Yeah, no, no, no, that's, that's where that comes from.
Speaker 4:That's why bartenders don't discuss that.
Speaker 3:Exactly. But there are some people out there, it doesn't matter what kind of and this is, it's becoming more and more because of. Places like that are now you know, everywhere you fucking go, they try and ask you to leave a tip. What the fuck did you do for me? You bagged my fucking groceries or you put my shit in a box.
Speaker 4:Oh no, my the biggest pep eve is when you go up and have the like the swipe card right. And they literally just grab something from the ice Right, a Pepsi, and they gave it to you, right? They flip the screen around and it's like 10, 15, 20. I'm like you just picked it out of the ice. Yeah, no.
Speaker 3:That's what I say. Where's the zero on here? That is ruining tipping culture right there. And a lot of these kids are. They're fed up with feeling like they have to tip everyone.
Speaker 2:I tip everyone. Well, for the most parts, if I ordered food on the phone and I go to pick it up and I just I had to walk in and grab it and they, there's a tipping like I won't tip it because I'm like what did you do?
Speaker 4:You drove there.
Speaker 2:I drove there, went in.
Speaker 4:No.
Speaker 3:But See, it really depends for me because, like, if I was going to a restaurant to pick something up, I leave them a tip because actually getting to get, and if they put together my to go order, box it up, put my potato the sides, they put everything in a box. They give me napkins, they give me silverware, they put it in a bag. It's a lot of work for a server, so for me.
Speaker 2:I would tip. That is a different perspective, so okay, but I guess I'm not tipping the people a fucking Taco Bell.
Speaker 4:You know what I mean? No, but that's less work than if they served your table, so I don't think it should be a 20% 25%.
Speaker 3:It's not 20%, but I'm still leaving them at it, but they're expecting a 20%.
Speaker 4:Yes, it is more work. You put it in the cardboard, you bag, bag, bag. But when you're at a restaurant and they're coming and going and filling up your water Checking on, you Check it Really Like. I'm not going to give the bagger the same tip as this. No, and I don't expect.
Speaker 3:I would never expect.
Speaker 4:But there is an expectation there on to go though.
Speaker 3:I still leave them a tip. But see, the problem is that a lot of places where that happens that person is not picking up any fucking tables for that night. They are doing to go, only shit. So that's where I get it, because I'm in this industry. Like when you go to Tahoe Joe's that person she's only doing to go orders that day, but maybe the next day she picks up tables. So that's got to even out for her which sucks for her and that's not my fault. But I still leave.
Speaker 1:I leave them something and I'm not downing you for that.
Speaker 3:But like no, I go to Taco Bell, the drive-thru, which I rarely do because I don't eat fast food. But if I do go get something for someone, or Chick-fil-A or whatever it is, I'm not tipping that person, I'm not.
Speaker 2:So I shouldn't tip at Dutch.
Speaker 3:I actually do tip at Dutch, because I do a dollar.
Speaker 2:It's just generated, it's a dollar.
Speaker 3:What do you mean? It's generated.
Speaker 2:Or like I pay on automatic tipping. I just do a dollar.
Speaker 4:I pay at cash yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm like with coffee.
Speaker 3:I'm a dollar, dollar, dollar, but you know what Do you notice when you tip at Dutch? They're very fucking thankful they are. I don't know about yours, but the ones right here, right by my house on Aspen and Willow Dutch is just good in general, yes, but they're all like.
Speaker 2:They probably don't get tipped?
Speaker 3:They really I don't think they do, because sometimes I'll give them and she goes oh, you gave me a dollar too much. I'm like that's for you. So she's like oh my god, thank you.
Speaker 2:They're always so thankful for it.
Speaker 3:We don't get tipped around here, right, I don't know. And as many cars as drive-thru Dutch, if everyone just left a buck. My god, you know what I mean Like it's still and it's what is it to you? You're already buying a fucking $7 coffee, jesus, and everything's been a price increase.
Speaker 2:So Well, ladies, should we wrap it up.
Speaker 3:We should probably wrap this up.
Speaker 4:Let's do it so heat and wave you guys.
Speaker 3:You go ahead. You started out, man.
Speaker 4:OK, heat Damn, Because so people know we prerecord, obviously.
Speaker 1:I will have gotten through.
Speaker 4:Actually, I know what my heat probably will be. My expectation always for New Year's is never to be in town. I do not stay in the Fresno area for New Year's Eve. Like is your tube oozy. No, it's just you're such a bitch, what a bitch asshole. And yet I come here with no makeup. I love you.
Speaker 2:Whoa, you don't have any makeup on None. She says eyelash.
Speaker 3:I have no makeup on, ok, no, I have no makeup, zero makeup.
Speaker 4:I have a little headband, little piggy tails. No, I'm not, but because I'm born and raised here.
Speaker 4:You want to leave. Yeah, I do, because I hear all through the other holidays Halloween, and so I'm like New Year's, let's get out, let's go. And so right now, because it's not New Year's yet, my expectation was to go to Tahoe, but that's kind of falling through. So now my expectation is I'll be in town, but at least I'll be with, so my heat is probably not leaving out of town for New Year's this year, which is going to be fucking weird, and I love being out of town for New Year's. It's so fun because I'm ringing it in. It's just different, but the wave will be that a bestie is throwing a party and so I got the invite. I love Facebook events. Yeah, it's so great. Right, I know she probably would not mind if you guys came, if you guys were in town. By the way, I'm working. Speaking of my friend.
Speaker 3:Oh, Sunshine no.
Speaker 4:Oh, another one.
Speaker 3:I asked you if you knew him.
Speaker 4:Oh, the other friend.
Speaker 3:He, all his women are squirters because he's so great. Oh, oh, because he's so great. Yeah, he likes to tell me how big his dick is, and I'm just like I really don't want to hear that, so it must be more than 5.1 seconds.
Speaker 4:Yes, more like a 7.8.
Speaker 3:I've heard from other girls what it is. Oh, woo the girth, girthy and lengthy.
Speaker 2:Oh, ok. So I'm going to say my OK. I'm going to say, even though this is prerecorded, my heat is going to be that I don't get to spend New Year's with my new boo. Oh, because it's got the kids. He's going to Disneyland, they're going to be in Disneyland. And you want to get a New Year's kiss. Hopefully he'll FaceTime me.
Speaker 4:Yeah, you can kiss your phone. I fucking have done that. Come to the bar, I'll give you a kiss. Oh my god. So I'm going to make out with my phone.
Speaker 2:I'm going to go to my best friends for New Year's. I'll be in the Bay Area. I'll leave Love it On my way home. I'll drop Maya off at my dad's or at my best friend. She'll stay there and then I'll go back for New Year's.
Speaker 4:Love it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh, roger wants to say hi, yeah.
Speaker 3:So what's your heat? Wave Nip. Ok, so my heat is going to be probably the same one I have every New Year's. I have to motherfucking work.
Speaker 4:It does suck.
Speaker 2:Need more baby. There has to be a way out of this.
Speaker 4:Can Sunshine come to your place and put a hat on him and give him some champagne?
Speaker 3:No, he absolutely could. But does he want?
Speaker 4:to.
Speaker 3:The thing of it is is I am so balls to the wall busy on New Year's Eve that I just don't have time.
Speaker 4:He'd just be sitting there. Yeah, we barely get to. He can bring a friend, he could. And he could buy a pool.
Speaker 3:We have the pool tables closed On.
Speaker 4:New Year's Eve. It's closed.
Speaker 3:When we're busy, the pool table's closed. I didn't know that, yeah.
Speaker 2:Somebody might get hit up by the head there.
Speaker 3:That's the problem. They think they're throwing the balls to the wall, can you?
Speaker 2:imagine getting hit in the head with a ball.
Speaker 4:No, no oh my god.
Speaker 2:OK, go ahead and test your seat. I have something to share.
Speaker 3:She has a sexual story. No, I don't, it's not sexual, but you already know about it. That's my heat. That's my heat is that I always have to work on New Year's. We're not even normally open on Sundays, and so the boss of Sun was like we're not going to be open. I'm like it's fucking New Year's Eve. Of course we're going to be open. We're open New Year's, no matter what day it falls upon.
Speaker 4:It's like it sucks.
Speaker 3:It does, I do.
Speaker 4:And you're busy and we're busy. Really, we sell People stay in town.
Speaker 3:We pre-sell tickets. Ok, they're like 10 to 15. They're $10, I think ahead of time they might be 15 this year and then like $5 more at the door the night of we sell out. So yes, it will be busy. I think at the beginning, when I first started working there, I was, my phone was recording everything for a time.
Speaker 4:Oh my god. Oh my god. You know what you have on a mic. Yeah, oh my god.
Speaker 3:I got to delete, delete, delete. At the beginning I had a couple of New Year's off. I would go to LA because I dated a guy that lived there. But that doesn't happen anymore because I am the bartender the terminator. I am the bartender, the terminator of bartenders.
Speaker 4:Oh my god, have you seen the Arnold Schwarzenegger documentary?
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 4:It's new, it's out, it's good On Netflix. Yeah, ok, I have to watch it. You got to watch it.
Speaker 3:And my wave is coming off. The holidays, I think. Like we said, this is prerecorded. I am going to be spending. I'm sorry, hold on. I'm going to be spending Christmas with my daughter and her family and this is going to be there. They adopted a little boy and it's his first. He's three years old, but this is his first actual Christmas, because they were living. How.
Speaker 1:Three years old. They were homeless, oh shit.
Speaker 3:She adopted him from not it was part of her family, but the kid. They were living on the streets. Basically they were homeless and I guess they had an apartment that they stayed in, but there was like 20 people in this apartment. So he doesn't know anything about get down, Roger doesn't know anything about personal space.
Speaker 4:Roger loves me.
Speaker 3:He loves everyone. Right now I don't know what he wants. No, anyway, he just loves me. It's fuck. I'm going to. I'm going to Give that to me. I'm going to be seeing Christmas through a kid's eyes who has never experienced a Christmas tree, santa Claus, the presents.
Speaker 2:Three years old is a great.
Speaker 3:Exactly Dude, and when, like as it is now, when I see him with stuff, his eyes light up, like on his birthday. He just like all these presents were for him and he was just like dude, it was like you know, and he put one down and then someone would like pick it. He's like that's mine and we're like we know, baby, we know Like he's very, because he he didn't have anything that belonged to him. So now it's you know, but he's learning to share and it's really it's like so, if you've never experienced something like that, it is like heartfelt.
Speaker 3:It's very joyful, it is very joyful and it is very heartfelt in the most extreme sense of the word, to watch a child just be lit up by those things.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I love it. I love that too. That's amazing.
Speaker 3:That's the Spirtle holidays, so let's hear what's your ball story over here.
Speaker 2:No, it just made me think about something. So remember, a few episodes ago I talked about Randy's donuts, and now like oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, you remember that. It was in LA.
Speaker 4:Oh, it was LA thing. Yeah, it was in gold. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Guess what's coming to Fresno.
Speaker 4:What Randy's donuts? Yes, how are they going to make it If fucking cream? What was that Krispy?
Speaker 3:Kreme.
Speaker 4:They, they could have make it. They're still open on Dude. They're like barely.
Speaker 3:I think they don't make it.
Speaker 2:There's always a line.
Speaker 3:Their donuts are just plain it.
Speaker 4:Like, but Randy's is like specialty donuts, right, yeah, oh, so it's Judy's, Judy's, yeah, judy's. I have Judy's out on Madera Ranchos.
Speaker 2:So it's right there. Shout out Palm Avenue and Bullard. Ok, In the little shopping center where the car wash is Wait.
Speaker 3:Palm and Bullard Palm. Oh, right by my favorite place Little Leaf.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's right across the street I love Little Leaf. Shout out Little Leaf, oh my god.
Speaker 4:Do you have their tea cocktails.
Speaker 3:Yes, have you been? She's never been, and I'm taking her and we'll invite you.
Speaker 4:Oh my god, you're such a bitch we're taking her.
Speaker 3:I'm like what do you mean? We're getting by you we have, yeah, why don't you?
Speaker 4:hang out at that bar. We're going to go. I like it, tea cocktails. When we go, I'll invite you Tea cock.
Speaker 3:Tea cock, but he makes cocktails out of tea Cock.
Speaker 4:But I really, really like it when George is bartending.
Speaker 3:Yeah, he's the owner, I know, but we went one night and it was like he wasn't there and it was like two girls and, yeah, it wasn't as good.
Speaker 4:We don't, let's not down play. I'm not, we up play, george, but I love George.
Speaker 3:George makes the best tea cocktails, so Little Leaf, palm and Bullard yeah, it's gonna be right next to Randy's donuts let's go, we're gonna go. And I'm not waiting for Randy's donuts to open. We're gonna go before I'm gonna. I'm putting this on calendar before Christmas that I am taking you to Little.
Speaker 4:Leaf. Why are they oh so good? Why I've never had them? Oh, she is advertising something she's never had what the fuck?
Speaker 2:When they open, I'm bringing you donuts.
Speaker 4:You better pinch. So, speaking of, and then we'll wrap it up, did you guys watch the Golden Bachelor?
Speaker 3:No, but I heard somebody's like a total prick. I heard he was. I heard he was just trying, he was a gold digger.
Speaker 4:No, I heard the ladies had his own thing going on.
Speaker 3:I heard the lady that he was choosing Theresa. I had money.
Speaker 4:She does well for herself, but no, they were a better fit than the other one. I can see him with Theresa. So anyways, I just wanted to ask, cause that was the whole Golden Bachelor thing. Yeah, and I watched it and I will say I hope from here on out, if you guys are Bachelor nation like I am, I am so down with no more fucking young people, guess what you guys have all the time in the world Go out there date.
Speaker 3:I have been saying this for years that they should have a Bachelor. R age.
Speaker 4:It needs to be divorces, it needs to be widowers, it needs to be people that are Gone through a bullshit, bullshit. When you're young, you can probably, and they're appreciate, like your person, nothing's young, fucking people that are like drama queens.
Speaker 3:But here's my other question. To not continue on, but here's my other question. I like I would totally be down to go on there. Okay, Totally down. No, here's the thing yes, yes, yes, yes no here's the thing my work would not let me be gone for that long.
Speaker 2:Married at first sight. No, no, no, nikki.
Speaker 4:Get no my baby.
Speaker 2:Roger's saying Roger likes me, you want to?
Speaker 4:Roger, that Roger's like. She squirts, she squirts.
Speaker 2:Just like Nikki spits out her tea instead of swallowing it, roger happens to be.
Speaker 4:Nikki's dog I swallowed it?
Speaker 3:No, I don't know.
Speaker 4:She swallowed. No, but listen, rewind, rewind. If you were, let's say, I put you on there and you get on there, yeah. Nikki, you don't ever have to be a bartender again. Girl, this podcast would take the fuck off. That's true, honey, you've got a you've got honey, why could you?
Speaker 3:have me on it.
Speaker 4:We can we're widowed, can you? He was a widowed.
Speaker 2:I have kids, young kids. I can't do that.
Speaker 1:I would do married at first sight.
Speaker 4:No, they do it.
Speaker 2:You would do married at first sight, I would so do married at first sight, I mean hopefully, I'm like attracted to him, but like, if they're supposed to match us, it should be good, right, I like love is blind Cause love, fucking is blind.
Speaker 4:Love, have you watched? Love is blind.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we're watch the first episode.
Speaker 4:Yeah, okay, amber's got a P. You're gonna wrap this up.
Speaker 2:You gotta wrap this up, I'll be here clenching it. All right, roger, that, roger, that daddy.
Speaker 3:Roger that.