Bougie Bayou Witches Podcast
Natural Women vs Surgery
Ever caught your reflection and wondered if the face staring back should be a little different? This week's episode cuts deep into the heart of natural beauty and the allure of cosmetic surgery, as we share unfiltered stories from our own lives. I (Toni) hold the torch for the au naturel brigade, while Kamona and Shade reveal how their lives have been reshaped, quite literally, by the surgeon's skilled hands. Egypt opens up about her transformative journey with cosmetic procedures and how these choices stir the pot on self-esteem, societal expectations, and authenticity.
The mirror of society reflects a myriad of pressures and stigmas, especially for women navigating the choppy waters of body image. We peel back the curtain on the harsh judgments and unrealistic beauty standards fueled by celebrity culture and social media. Our conversation boldly addresses the need for self-love and the power of personal choice, while also bringing to light the growing trend of men dipping their toes into the world of cosmetic enhancements. Laughter bubbles over as we discuss the candid, and sometimes comical, side of personal pleasure devices, underscoring the importance of supporting each other's choices, even if they come with a buzz.
As we wrap up this season premiere, the spotlight turns to the transformative power of confidence, both inside and out. We muse over how style and self-assurance intertwine, and how embracing who you are can outshine any physical transformation. Our stories affirm that whether it's a slick of lipstick or a full-body makeover, real confidence is skin deep. So let's toast to personal happiness and the art of self-acceptance—because at the end of the day, being comfortable in your own skin is the truest form of beauty. Tune in, subscribe, and join us for more empowering dialogues like this one.
Ever caught your reflection and wondered if the face staring back should be a little different? This week's episode cuts deep into the heart of natural beauty and the allure of cosmetic surgery, as we share unfiltered stories from our own lives. I (Toni) hold the torch for the au naturel brigade, while Kamona and Shade reveal how their lives have been reshaped, quite literally, by the surgeon's skilled hands. Egypt opens up about her transformative journey with cosmetic procedures and how these choices stir the pot on self-esteem, societal expectations, and authenticity.
The mirror of society reflects a myriad of pressures and stigmas, especially for women navigating the choppy waters of body image. We peel back the curtain on the harsh judgments and unrealistic beauty standards fueled by celebrity culture and social media. Our conversation boldly addresses the need for self-love and the power of personal choice, while also bringing to light the growing trend of men dipping their toes into the world of cosmetic enhancements. Laughter bubbles over as we discuss the candid, and sometimes comical, side of personal pleasure devices, underscoring the importance of supporting each other's choices, even if they come with a buzz.
As we wrap up this season premiere, the spotlight turns to the transformative power of confidence, both inside and out. We muse over how style and self-assurance intertwine, and how embracing who you are can outshine any physical transformation. Our stories affirm that whether it's a slick of lipstick or a full-body makeover, real confidence is skin deep. So let's toast to personal happiness and the art of self-acceptance—because at the end of the day, being comfortable in your own skin is the truest form of beauty. Tune in, subscribe, and join us for more empowering dialogues like this one.
Hi, welcome to Boojee Bayou, which is podcast. I'm Tonya, I'm the host, and this is the co-host, kamona, and this is Shade, and also this is I'm Egypt, and these are my two guests that will be on the show for today. And today we're going to be talking about natural women versus surgery, so I'm going to go ahead and get it started out with are you natural? I am natural, I'm all the way natural, baby, I'm all the way. Okay. Who about you, mama? I'm all the way natural.
Speaker 1:Now, I have had a breast reduction surgery and that's it, but I'm all natural, okay. And what about you, mama? I would say I am not. I've had a little. I've had a little nip-suck right here, and that's nothing wrong with it. The basis of it is still a little. It looks great. Thank you, it looks very great. Yes, yes, yes, and anything else? 360, I've had a mini tummy tuck, okay. So that's far, that's all I have.
Speaker 1:Okay, and for me, you know I go live. You know I had a double chin back when I used to be real big and I had got some life over my chin, and then I saw I got my breast lifted. I go live. They mind though I did. I got them there Because they were looking like dog ears and then I got some life over done because I ain't go live. My stomach was sticking out as far as my butt. So I was just a little what you trying to say. I was just I had boobs, I had boobs, I had boobs, I had boobs, I had boobs, I had boobs, I had boobs, I had boobs, I had boobs too. My stomach was sticking out Where's my butt. So I did go get a so like I pull 360 done and I did get my butt reshaped. It was like a bookshelf, but I had to. What a doctor made it so like a slopey shelf. And then also I had toe and puiscination fat in my hips. I don't know where that went to because my skin is tight, so it just disappeared.
Speaker 1:So after you had the surgery, how did you feel about yourself? Did it change? Like your confidence? Did your confidence increase more after the surgery? Or I'm just saying, like some women, you know if they're used to being, you know, small, right, and then they go to the doctor, say, hey, you know you don't lose his weight, you might be a diabetic, and you know. Basically, that's what I did, because you know, at the end of the day I had the money. You know why not do it. You know there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. You know every to each his own, because you know I even, you know, thought about it. But I just want to continue to try the natural way, first, to see how much I can lose it there. From there I'll, you know, consider maybe having a surgery, because after having two kids via c-section, you have, like that extra stomach, and I got a few of them. You do have six children, yes, yes, age 23 to ages five.
Speaker 1:Okay, and for me it's like this I had this thing, and this thing had a body inside of it and the body had a mind and the mind had a soul and I was getting it over my pants and when I put it on and I put a bikini on, I want to feel sexy, but I did it for me. You know what I mean, you know what I'm saying. That's the main thing. You don't never want to get your body done with a man for the women. That are not knocking you. But I'm just saying, when you do, and if you do get your body done, make sure you get it done for yourself. And I have heard a lot of women you know, say that you know just to boost their confidence. And, like I said, I'm really considering it next year. But you know I want to see how much more I can lose on my own first. But you know, my doctor already told me but because you know I was large when I had my kids I was like over 300 pounds, right that you know.
Speaker 1:After I birthed my second child I was going to have an overlay, which is that extra fupa. So he was like you know, even if you work out box by days a week, it's not gonna go to work because your diet, right when you were having children. And what my doctor told me when I did have my life on 360, he said you're not gonna have that flat stomach unless you come back and have a tummy tuck and I ain't gonna lie, I got a plumbing schedule right now but I'm still debating on it and I'm gonna go through with it. But they said when your diet frame pops up, it's gonna give you that little. You know pooch, that little. You know food for whatever you know. It's women call it and stuff you know many food for me. That's what you have to have a tuck up up under. This foopa is a great. Chalupa is what I like. Everybody loves chalupa.
Speaker 1:My foopa did not come from my kids. I have a 7 year old and I'm almost 30 and I'm done. I say I'm done. Spirits might say something different later on, but I've been. I got small and got big, so it's not like I've been big all my life. I've had thighs and titties all my life. I started developing at the age of like 4th and 5th grade. It was already not nothing hurting and they were like I had to win a bra. The girls was out baby. The girls were shocked, right like a dog.
Speaker 1:But I don't, I'm not gonna go with surgery. I just feel like my weight fluctuates by itself and if you, you don't like me for me, then, baby, I can't do nothing with you. You can go about your day if I'm comfortable with it. I feel like my spouse or my significant other should be comfortable with it because I'm comfortable with you and my not. Everybody comes with flaws. They might not be physical, because you might let them good inside, but the inside look a little bit cold. Come on, man. Come on, man. Everything that glitter ain't going to go. Everything that glitter ain't going to go. So this is my next question for y'all. I'm gonna start with you and we're gonna work our way around.
Speaker 1:Why do you feel men bash women who do go have surgery and women? Men and women. Why do they bash women who have surgery? I feel like the men are not confident in themselves. One and then number two it could, because they came in for surgery and they won Right, okay, and they're not comfortable enough to come out and go like Caesar from Black Ink Crew and go get the abs from the Dominican Republic. That point, it's whatever makes you happy and the other women. Same thing either you don't have the money to do it or you don't have the guts to do it. Right. And then I've seen a lot of women, through PPP, came back and flew back and lived down the street in the two bedroom apartment in Roches.
Speaker 1:So I mean, sometimes you're doing it for the wrong reasons. You're doing it for the man that still don't want you. It's still gonna come mess with me, yeah, and I ain't got a lick of surgery done and it's been a God on it. So, and it's not to be like oh, haha, but it's good to say they're still gonna mess with the natural woman just as much as a woman was. Exactly. I'm literally spending all this money for her. So, yes, I agree, do it for you if you're gonna do Right, and by all means, okay, what about you mom?
Speaker 1:I second what she said because, at the end of the day, you know, even the guys that I have talked to in my past, they prefer a natural woman. You know whether they know this lady had surgery or not in the beginning, but they prefer somebody that's natural. And you know you have to do it for you. And you know, if I choose to go through my surgery next year, I'm doing it for me, you know. So I can feel better for myself because I know this stomach, everything else is going, but this stomach ain't going nowhere. Yeah, so you know, just do it for you whatever makes you happy at the end of the day, whether you natural or have surgeries, be happy within you. Okay, yeah, well, okay, I feel as though, with the men, men are very visual and they can tell you all day they prefer natural, they prefer whatever gets it erect. Okay, I've seen Halle Berry has been. You know, let's, we can go there, right. So at the end of the day, like you said, it is what makes you feel good.
Speaker 1:When I woke up in the morning and my little fooboo was hanging up you know I already had six children. You know what I'm saying I was like I'm always given to everybody else. I miss. When I looked in the mirror and I saw that snatch weights, I missed that part of me, right. So I was like you know, I'm multifaceted, I'm talented, I'm creative, I'm loving, I'm a great mother, I'm intelligent, I'm willing to learn, I'm willing to work, I want to feel good. So in those instances I feel as though, as long as yourself, a seam is intact, right, right, the limits, the sky, right.
Speaker 1:Don't do this to please anyone else. Your aesthetic inside and outside should be building upon who you are, spiritually, first right, and then you can work on everything else. The men, let's not make this so much for me. It's not about you, because if you don't love me for my inside you ain't gonna love a big ass, flat ass, long titties, big. Okay, I'm biffled. Don't teach. I'm sorry, come on, every man. The men like to feel needed, right? They really only base you on how you make them feel. Anyway, when you look at that it really doesn't even matter how you look to them.
Speaker 1:But when it comes to black women, I will say this because I'm not, I don't know outside of us, like you know, but I will say it's a lot of body shaming. I see public body shaming. If a woman has a little extra pounds on her, they body shaming. She too skinny, she needs to eat more they body shaming she have hips for this is an inside job. When you have to speak on another woman's aesthetic I don't care what she looks like you need to go work on your self esteem, exactly Because we're supposed to be giving each other love and light a thousand times, no matter what we did Right. No matter what size we are, no matter what size we are, no matter what shit you're doing.
Speaker 1:The only thing they started on the women. They used to talk about me when I was smiling. I look at me. Now I got more, you know, ass and titties and everything. I know. It don't matter, but it's just a point. Don't talk about people and try to, you know, make them feel lower just because you're not comfortable with yourself. Yeah, you got a lot of that, and that's usually the next person.
Speaker 1:Miserable. Yeah, that's usually what it is. That's usually my personal personal place. They be so messed up because I'm just, I'm me, so, because I'm comfortable in and out, I have co-teals, thank you, come on, come on, come on, I love you, come there, come there. Um.
Speaker 1:So yeah, I'm just, I'm comfortable within myself and women do not like my frequency a lot of the times because of that, and it's just because I love the strippers and I love women. I love giving the good company. Beautiful, you're beautiful, you know, and I love a woman's aesthetic. But the black rays, we turned down so bad, we did so bad. Yes, sometimes when they give the love, that shit is not real. It's not even real. It's not even real.
Speaker 1:Well, I'm gonna go ahead and jump in and tell you all the reason I. I got mind done. It wasn't for no man, wasn't for no woman, because of all that they both, but it was basically because it's what I wanted to do and during the whole time when I got my surgery, you know I was single anyway. So I mean it's like who am I pleasing, who am I giving it up? I was myself and you know, I just feel like, uh, I had a lot of people that was kind of like, you know, didn't like the fact that I was doing it. But again, you know, the end of the day I'm sure this is her syndrome, adult I'm gonna do what I want, regardless of you, you, you, you don't like it right. And at the end of the day, when I did get it done, I went through that pain, I was the one crying, fucking, cussing everybody out, you know. But at the end of the day I'm happy and thankful that I did get it done and, like I say, if I do decide to go through with my next surgery, that's all on me, because at the end of the day, if you're not paying any of my bills, I can do whatever I wanted to. That's fine, that's fine. It's just another time, another episode, so your opinion don't matter. Basically Because if a person wants to get their body done or they don't, they will, they won't.
Speaker 1:Now I do see sometimes when some people do start, then they low finances up and they you start always talking about other people who got theirs done. They tend to turn around and say, oh, I think I want to get some work done. Let's think about the fact that it was a time in the 90s where other cultures were able to do this at a right right and we didn't even know anything about it. We didn't have access to this right. But now we move forward, right, we are taking me more advanced and we have access to certain things. We are the people that were purposely made it to have more hits, purposey man, to have more ass hits.
Speaker 1:And now when you see a natural woman, it's a problem. She had to get something done, baby, she had all the impact. This is who we always been. We always been, we always been. I'm not a boss. Oh, this is wrong. This is wrong. It's all a lie to me, exactly.
Speaker 1:And when I scroll on social media and look at the celebrities that have had surgery, even celebrities that have not had surgery, I go into the comments and I see people comment oh, she had surgery, or she had something done. Oh, she's looking to y'all. This was different. I mean it's wrong Because it's been three years. We can't do natural women like us. I saw where one celebrity actually commented back and said no, this is corporate that part. Okay, not all of us have surgery, but you know, I'm not a big old but child, mine is not the tables, my granny do it. I'm assuming it's what we got on Grandma, grandma, grandma, grandma, grandma, grandma, grandma, grandma, grandma, grandma, grandma.
Speaker 1:My thing is like in those conversations I normally try to shy away from it, so I was really taking it back, like to even speak on the topic, because we have found something else to allow us to be distracted from our primary goal as a collective right. Right For giving us the state of consciousness that we need to be at right For us raising our frequency collectively. We found something else to distract us, to keep us divided. Big goal is the goal. That's what they did. They planted that Right. They planted that it's just something else for us to be sandwiched with All beautiful, all beautiful, beautiful, every shape, every size. We don't even have this skin. It doesn't matter. This is a skin. Super, this is grim, thank you.
Speaker 1:This time this is this time it's going to be a whole other rodeo the next round. You going to be like I ain't even black, my mom, you can go get your body done. I'm trying to do it. I'm like, wow, you can go get your bodies done and they're still going to cheat on you with somebody that's probably not even got there. I just said that. You know what I'm saying. It's not about your body being done. It don't matter how you look.
Speaker 1:And then man is community day. He's community day. He don't even have to be community day. He's trying to feel a void within himself and never get spoken on. There's men are not sleeping with five women because the women are giving them something that they don't have within themselves. If they were willing to do the work, okay, but that's the thing do the work. But a lot of people are not willing to do the work. So we are not fixing. No more mama's boys. No, come on now, come to me, fix If I'm fixed and I love myself. Now. I need you to be that way. That's why I can't mess with my child. I wish you the best. I wish you nothing but the best. We get into this competitive energy, but the fixing days are over. Yeah, dundee, I'm not going to compete with another woman over you because of your brokenness. Baby, you, she. If he's ours, then he's yours. You allow him to go do the work with you, because I'm not going to do it, right? Yeah, that's just point like a period. It's not my responsibility. I'm still going to love me. This love is going to be intact. I'm not going to be like what she doesn't know. It's not nothing she has. What doesn't is what he likes. Exactly, that's the thing, exactly.
Speaker 1:So what would y'all suggest to ladies that's out there thinking about heaven surgery, okay, have it. It don't matter what nobody say, have it, that's what you want to do. It ain't your man or no woman pushing you to do it, cause man has surgery too. Let's speak on it. I know somebody who wouldn't have LIPOP 360. So if that's what you want to do, then do it. Hold on a second.
Speaker 1:Men and women. You know a man that had a LIPOP 360? Oh, wow, that's a little crazy. That's a little crazy. I've never heard of it. I'm not saying that it's not possible, but I know, oh and that's not the only thing man having surgery on the milk whites down there too, they can act stronger and they want to do it, they want to do it thicker. I have nothing to say about that, cause I heard about it. Well, I'm not sure you done. Well, well, I'm not gonna do it. I heard, I heard, I heard. So I'm just saying Don't think that it's only you know, we only talking about women, we're talking about men too. So do I need to include that in my dating questions? Have you had surgery? I'm just like, let me know, cause it's not what it is, for real Men are so comfortable with asking that it's like a sick in nature.
Speaker 1:You don't ask them that I don't ask. Let me tell you something. And the thing is but they surely do. They really don't care. They'll tell they really don't care, it doesn't matter to them. They'll ask surgery. They'll hump you. Okay, they don't care whether you had it or not, they want to hump you. They put all that. I want him. No, you don't. You want to hump me, and it's okay, cause I don't want you to. Yeah, it's okay, it's okay, it's okay. It's okay, it's okay, it's okay. It's okay, it's okay, it's okay For sure, let's get you home for me. Do what makes you happy, though. That's it.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying, but not at the risk of your health. If you know that it's not an option, let's be honest. Your heart is having issues. You know. Let's not take that route, right? You know, strap it up. Love yourself first, somebody gonna love you. It's like I might not meet on the other side.
Speaker 1:If you know that, get a rose. You don't even need a man, get a rose. You really don't Get a rose. It's gross, oh my gosh, it's spoil. Shoes, though You're not allowed, I might have to.
Speaker 1:Rose is my best friend. I need the hands. I need the hands. Rose be down, I need the hands. I didn't think I needed the rose, but now, but I really. I needed the rose, but I need the hands. I need to have it. If the rose had hands that were squeezed here, you know, there's my friend who had hands to squeeze you. Ooh, you know what I'm saying. I need the rose, a rose with hands to put hands on my mouth, a adjustable hand. You can pull it out. I'm gonna put my hands on yours Well. Well, I already had that created.
Speaker 1:Ok, she said a rose, she's sorry. She's sorry. Put your hands. The hands coming, they coming, make her hands coming. That's gonna be an attachment. You want to get a hand. You want to get a hand. I'm gonna go patting that tomorrow. They didn't go just like this. I don't cry to you about boozing by you and me, boozing by you and me. I'm gonna pat you with my hands. My hands are attached. I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go.
Speaker 1:The rose is good, but don't lie though. Sometimes don't you need your head to hit something? Booze, let's not talk about them. I need my hands, I need a hand back. Bang my hand a little bit. I said bring me back. Ok, bring me back.
Speaker 1:How's she doing? I'm dizzy as hell, like I'm. You mean like this. You're whining about me. I'm sure I still heard. Let me know, let me feel it. Am I alive? Let me know I'm alive. I'm a man handling, I'm already dominant. So I need my hands down. They hurt a bit. The rose can't choke you, girl. The rose can't get swallowed. That one, that one coming up next that one, that one, that one, that one coming up next that one, the rose is attached to the rose. That one, the rose is touched. That one I need choked. And that's when it's done and it's grown, choked me.
Speaker 1:It gotta be able to say what's up, let's shoot you and talk to the house. I got you was good, oh, big 2. Oh, my God, I got the one. Wait a minute, I'm stressed out. There. Ain't a kid actually talk to me. That's good, because they can actually talk to you.
Speaker 1:I don't want that AI voice. I need a real eat, just out. But boys are the best. Oh my God, I need that. That's the one thing you can't do. Don't be a good man. You just say it like that. Oh my God, that'll make so basically, ladies. Oh yeah, this is so basically ladies. So do y'all feel like it's basically our free will? Yes, if we want to to have surgery, it's all your free will, baby.
Speaker 1:Do what makes you happy. Like Sinez said, do what makes you happy at the end of the day, because you go to sleep at night. You gotta sleep with yourself. If you're happy with yourself, whether you have surgery or not, then that's all that matters. Do what makes you happy, right? I totally agree. I totally agree. I hope that takeaway at least one of the takeaways is if you get the opportunity today, love on another black woman. The more you do that, the more you love her. Comment on her posts you are beautiful.
Speaker 1:Last year I made it a point cause you know, scroll on social media. I made it a point to comment and tell a black woman she's beautiful every single day or every time that I was on social media. Yes, I made it a point to comment. I made it a point to point at me and I very much. That's beautiful, but let me see you Like you. I didn't know you from a can of pain. I said you are beautiful and I meant can, right, I meant that same.
Speaker 1:I can't do social media because a lot of people troll me because I'm very widely known and it's just because I know how to gross people right back. And I stopped. Now that my journey is at the place that it is, so I feel like that. That was my good morning, beautiful, you know, grand rising, right. Right, I stopped applying, I stopped feeding in. That's why I said I commented earlier. I don't even read comments anymore Cause, baby, I can take you to the pub. Carl's in there, you're right, okay, yeah, cause sometimes people need to be humbled. But now I'm balanced out, I'm balanced out, you can humble yourself. I'm not gonna help you do it, because now I look like a fool cause I fit into you, that's right. You know what your frequency is, I have control over my frequency and, again, that's why people do not let me and I just be like okay, and that's fine, be blessed, be great.
Speaker 1:Another thing I wanted to touch on is that see, some women that have surgery have true self-esteem issues. You don't know what this woman went through as a child, if she was abused, why she feels Bigger, bigger. So the thing is we don't, we don't need to take opportunities to tear other women down. You don't know if she has tried all she can to fix the inside by fixing the outside right and it hasn't worked. And the one comment sends her over and this lady commits suicide, exactly, seriously. That's why I stopped.
Speaker 1:I never had that habit, that I know, but I swear this one and that's the baseless one that's. It exists, you know, and people are so. One thing I've noticed about social media that's why I don't really like to be on it is people don't like positive stuff. They don't say I'm so, I'm just gonna get one last notion. They like no negativity.
Speaker 1:I was viral, being busy, roasted. Yes, they love talking about people down in there, making them down All the time. If you ain't talking about nothing negative no tea then you ain't getting no views. But once you start being negative and talking about some tea, something they wanna hear gossip, mess, drama, you know. Oh, you got everybody's attention, everybody's attention, everybody's attention. You got it, you got it. I just like that. I just shake my head because, but I continue to. I choose to continue to be positive. I like to be positive. Yeah, continue to be positive. Miss me with that mess. That drama. Measuring loves company and I see it do, yeah, yeah, it does All the time. No, that right, there was very good Because you're right.
Speaker 1:You can post something positive and get zero likes, but the moment you post cussing somebody out, everybody's a body. See all these views. You got all these views. Baby, I'm giving you no fuel for your fight. I'm not, because I'm gonna end up in that fight with you. Is that what you're fighting? I'm a downfall. I like to see you doing bad. That's what they're happy and that's when they really watching you. But social media if you, everybody posts their happy moments. You know we all human, we all go through. You know our ups and downs, yeah, and you know social media it's just a cover for a lot of people. You know it's just a cover up, but we have a whole bunch of isolated introverts. That's it. Okay, up here, taking a moment to shine Instead of just being an authentic version of yourself consistently, and I feel like that's why I don't even social media to me is a science experiment.
Speaker 1:I've been in psychology since I was young, especially dark psychology. You said that it's just what I want you too. You too, yeah, I love you, I love you, I love you. But no, it's a social experiment for me. I don't take it seriously. I don't even have my real name on social media. Oh, who are you to tell me what I am, who I am, by what I choose to post? Come on, I'm just going to open to the app store. What does it say? Entertainment, not my life true story and TV story. That might. No, I wish a lot of people understand that, what you just said.
Speaker 1:And then you're pouring it to a place where people sit there and cipher and just suck on your leeches to your energy. If you're going to be just as low as dim and it's just going to be a revolving door, you're going to be stuck in. I've seen people literally wake up and get on social media. Yeah, yeah, how you do it. Let me tell you I know so many people on social media, so much family and everything Big deal.
Speaker 1:And I'm a career woman, right, I'm a professional and I'm in the business of like you say as a case manager, that I'm in the business of transforming lives. Right, I'm not coming into your life to leave you the way you came and this is. It can be very taxing on my energy. It can be very expensive on my time as it relates to my time, but I have so many wins and it's so fulfilling. It's just not something that I feel is for public consumption. Big up, right. I don't need to share my successes with you Because you're not gonna send me enough energy that I'm a friend to the people who I need to try to transform their life Right. None that is actually positive, none whatsoever. You can feel the evil energy coming back towards you. Yes, every night you can feel it.
Speaker 1:This cup has to be full. It has to be full Because I need to be able to pour it in you, pour it in, you, pour it in you, and I learned that. I learned it the hard way, but I learned to stop pouring from an empty cup. Yeah, also, too, just bringing into the cup. As women and mothers, we have so many straws in this one cup. People just sit, from the kids to the daddies, to the grandma and siphoning. You gotta cut them off, not the kids, but sometimes you have to let them bump your ears tomorrow. Yep, you know you have to surely let go. You have talked them this much and this far. Let them utilize it for yourself. Take them straws out. You can pour it into the cup, why not? What? Put the straw right there. You know, I need to hear that. You know it's so funny how boys resonate at this table, at the round table. I need to hear that. It's the black tank. Come on, it's the black tank. All right, did you say the black tank? I love it. I love it Collectively.
Speaker 1:We gotta give more to our staff and we have the world. We got our family, we got the whole world pulling from us. Who is part of this? It's your, us, all your employees, even your employees, from the coworkers to the people, from your vendors. Come on, okay, to the simplest, to the biggest, absolutely, here we go, because sometimes we got an issue that needs to be scratched. You know this me grow over here. He's stuck into. I'm sick of it. Come on, I'm sick of it. Everybody just shook it from a straw. You have to learn to be feeling it. You got to by yourself and take them straws out. I had to learn that last year. That's why I came up in 2024 with Miss Tony. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, but it's been great ever since.
Speaker 1:She's such a light, she's so much amazing, beautiful images. She is bright, right Right. She's not measuring you. She's loving on you. She's giving to you, giving to you her light, right, right, you might give it to you raw, but don't get mad at me, that's just my personality. But don't know, behind me I had to learn the whole way. I love you Because if I didn't care about you, I would let you just go do what you want to do. Just let you fall. Just let you fall. And, with that being said, you have to appreciate people that you have in your life like that, because a lot of people will let you fall and then get behind your back and talk about you why you are falling, why you fall, why they don't, when I'm even helping you. Exactly, right, exactly. You have to appreciate people like that in your life. You do no, this conversation on the black table was really good today.
Speaker 1:Let me ask the guys in the audience would you date a woman if she got her body done? Are you like natural body or you like the surgeon bodies? He just like the body. Look at him. He just like the body. He just like the body. I got him, he just like the body, it don't matter. So what? Oh, we said what is this? You feel like you're looking good. Okay, man's a very visual. I'm like, look, I met guys and they're like it's only natural. You know, yeah, you might have wanted to have some surgery done or whatever, but only natural. But I mean, I feel like, long as you're not really adding a lot to it, then it's still kind of like natural. You just got a little surgery to enhance it. You know, yeah. But the same guys that say that please go down to social media, please go check the group of them in, you understand me. Please go check the women. They ain't got no time Because I'm telling you, a lot of them want you to be homely, so that you stay home as homely as you can get.
Speaker 1:If you can wear a sweater dress with a bag on the bottom, with some of them boots and a big old wet them Pharrell hats on it. But if you have glasses, baby, don't you want to make up on girls, I like it natural. You better wear the after. I'm telling you they don't want your body, else they don't. They want you natural because they feel like you do. They don't want nobody else looking at you. If you want some makeup, or if you do get your body done, somebody else is going to be looking at you. They love it.
Speaker 1:If you look like you're wearing a bag to call you, it goes back to calling you Him, feeling his voice, because if your voice is filled, you're not concerned with what I got on my eyes. You are not. You are not. You love me for him. You love me, but when you got too many expectations on me and you want me to fill your void, that is when you don't want me to dress like this and you don't want me to walk like this. But see, this is my light and I shine it and you shine it and you shine it. Shine your light, honey, because you should. I swear I've been asking about you nonstop. For real, she has. I'm going to ask you. So let me ask you Do you feel like your confidence level is even more higher now that you got it or do you feel it's still the same?
Speaker 1:I feel like, honestly, it's still the same, because I did that. So when I put my dresses on, I'm patty. Okay, I did that. So when I put my dresses on. I'm patty, okay, I did that. So when I put my dresses on, it's like that when I'm in the mirror, but because of where I am spiritually and I'm attracted to people from the inside, I still haven't found my husband, right. You know what I'm saying. But I'm a baby mama and you a snack. So she let y'all know that she's a baby mama and she available, available, available Me too. I like the way she threw that, me too. She threw it to me too.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying it's still the same, but it does show me more how other people are so bound to your aesthetic, right? It kind of opens up the gateway because people that were comfortable with you once are no longer comfortable Simply because of inner-state Pressure. You bring in pressure, right, and I'm gonna apply that. I've always been applying pressure. You better ask about me, google it. I've always applied that pressure, right, you've always applied that pressure. But, yeah, not Google me. I would say this I love it.
Speaker 1:It didn't change substantially. You know what I'm saying and I wasn't looking for that so much, right, I was just looking to feel comfortable. So I want to continue to build in a space where this is higher, where this is higher. Yeah, yeah, this is what builds my confidence Me knowing who I am as a black woman, me being able to build success from the dirt. You know, I always feel like I'm a rose from the concrete. And I am right, because it was rough, baby. It was rough, you feel me. So I'm a rose from the concrete, yeah, baby. Yeah, not substantially, but I'm very happy and pleased with who I am in here and that's what I'm saying. So that works out All right.
Speaker 1:What about you, mama? For myself, I second what she just said. I'm very happy with who I am. I lost a lot of weight over the years and I had extra skin, but I just started pouring it into me more, loving me more. So I'm just happy.
Speaker 1:And what about you? It was about to wrap it up. What's the question? Oh, just if you were to have surgery, do you feel like it would change a system? I know you said you was and so I don't even really need to ask you Because you already said it.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry. I'm sorry, don't worry. I know About five years should be like you know what, tony? I thought I'm ready to go ahead. I don't see it. I don't see it. That's the thing. I don't see it. I'm funny. I have my way to some stuff. Right, we're in quarantine, I'm sorry. If you make a man live, I promise you can get in the drawers. I'm living the truth right now. That's true. That's true because they love the energy as well. So I'm a robber, I'm OK. But, yeah, I don't think it'll change my confidence. But again, I don't know nobody else. It's whatever you want to do, baby, it's your skin too. That's it All right. And as far as my confidence do, I feel like it changed. No, I'm still me. Yeah. So, with that being said, y'all, thank you all so much for tuning into season two, episode one. And again, you can like share, subscribe, drop by your feet, comment below, back below, follow us. Let's talk about it. Share, I mean it. I better share. All right, until the next episode. Bye-bye, bye.