Bougie Bayou Witches Podcast
Independent Women
When I first met Egypt, her stories of striking a balance between her fierce independence and the desire for a meaningful partnership immediately struck a chord. Our conversation quickly turned into a treasure trove of insights, where we shared laughter and candid reflections on the journey of self-sufficiency, the interplay of feminine and masculine energies, and the sometimes intimidating nature of independence in the dating scene. As we traverse the landscape of modern love and self-reliance, we promise an unfiltered look into how this dynamic shapes the relationships and personal growth of independent women.
Pull up a chair and join our heartfelt dialogue as we dissect the values that underpin living independently while still nurturing the art of giving within a relationship. We don't shy away from confronting the stigmas that strong, self-reliant women face, and we revel in the joy of simple pleasures over material wealth, sharing our personal experiences with managing finances and finding contentment in modest living. The conversation crescendos as we celebrate the anthems of female empowerment in music, from the soulful melodies of Erykah Badu to the unapologetic verses of Nicki Minaj, encapsulating the multifaceted lives of women who confidently carve their paths, tunes blaring, and heads held high.
When I first met Egypt, her stories of striking a balance between her fierce independence and the desire for a meaningful partnership immediately struck a chord. Our conversation quickly turned into a treasure trove of insights, where we shared laughter and candid reflections on the journey of self-sufficiency, the interplay of feminine and masculine energies, and the sometimes intimidating nature of independence in the dating scene. As we traverse the landscape of modern love and self-reliance, we promise an unfiltered look into how this dynamic shapes the relationships and personal growth of independent women.
Pull up a chair and join our heartfelt dialogue as we dissect the values that underpin living independently while still nurturing the art of giving within a relationship. We don't shy away from confronting the stigmas that strong, self-reliant women face, and we revel in the joy of simple pleasures over material wealth, sharing our personal experiences with managing finances and finding contentment in modest living. The conversation crescendos as we celebrate the anthems of female empowerment in music, from the soulful melodies of Erykah Badu to the unapologetic verses of Nicki Minaj, encapsulating the multifaceted lives of women who confidently carve their paths, tunes blaring, and heads held high.
Hello, thank you for watching bougie by you witches podcast. I am the host, tony, and this is my co-host. Come on, uh, and this is my guest, egypt. All right, today we're gonna be talking about that Woman. Do you know what that means? And so I think to me this is really a big, important topic, so I'm gonna go ahead and get started with. I mean, do you feel and consider yourself an independent?
Speaker 3:woman, absolutely, absolutely. And the reason why I say that and it's not because of, you know, financial Expects is just, you know, I grew up so much over the years, I learned so much. I didn't mature so much over the years to where you know. It made me the woman that I am. You know, today I operate a lot in my feminine energy. I still operated my masculine energy, but mainly I'm on operated feminine energy. So I consider myself to be very independent, very successful, very knowledgeable, very. God is like I'm just very, you know, just very, you know, independent you know about yourself.
Speaker 2:I am very independent and but I don't, I don't thrive in my feminine energy. That's something I had to learn and still learning it now, guys. But my masculine energy is so strong. I'm very independent. I've always been the hustler. I've always been never scared to go get the money, even if it's quote-unquote legal in that matrix, as they like to call it.
Speaker 2:I've always been the time by myself. Every time a major life, like a milestone, hit in my life, I've been alone. From prison to having my daughter incarcerated, I was alone. It was just everything hit me by myself. Even after my mother's death I had to go do time. I had to deal with that alone during the pregnancy. Everything that I've done in every milestone I've done it alone. So I'm very independent and sometimes that misses me in relationships.
Speaker 3:But how do you feel? Like it mess you up, just you know, because I let it know real quick.
Speaker 2:I don't need you, little daddy, you can go.
Speaker 3:okay, I see which is horrible and I would like to be on the yeah okay again.
Speaker 2:That's why now I'm feeding into more of my my feminine energy, you know.
Speaker 1:Well, um me, um, yes, I do feel like I'm an independent woman. Now I am gonna say that when my, my children were younger, that fathers were apart. So I would say I'm independent, but I do co-parent with my children fathers. But now they're grown, so you know, that's a different story. They can talk to them and you know deal with their fathers on their own. So I do consider myself an independent woman.
Speaker 3:So when okay, when we talk about independent women's, like what are some of the things that you can say that makes you so independent?
Speaker 1:I would say that I pay my own bills. Okay, I got my own house, I have all job or business, whatever the grease and yeah, you know been to college and so I just feel like I don't depend on anyone.
Speaker 1:I do what I can to provide for myself for my children, and if I have to sometimes help out family members and stuff from time to time, I will, but for the most part I do what I can to take care of me and my family and I don't depend on anyone to come in and help Out. Now I go, like I do from time to time, at the higher maintenance guy to help out with building stuff Because I'm gonna like be like, okay, who gonna build this? Cuz I'm not, I broke the fridge ready.
Speaker 2:I used to build stuff. I'm a car, that girl. What do you mean?
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 3:So with you opera okay, so with you doing a lot of stuff by yourself. Do you think that interferes with your dating life and you know your relationships?
Speaker 1:um, I don't feel like it. It interfered, I feel like. Um, when I did date, the man knows I'm independent with my stuff and they gonna ask how long you've been single-blinded. Blah, blah, blah, you know, I tell them. So I feel like.
Speaker 2:You said that real face, baby. I'm talking about you.
Speaker 1:Fine, okay, okay. So I guess I feel what might interfere is not the fact that I'm independent. It could be that too, because I'm not really dependent on a man. Like, if you come, I feel like that's a bonus as a plus. But if you, you know who don't end up being together, then it's like okay, cool, you know.
Speaker 2:Next it doesn't make you like you.
Speaker 1:Right, it don't make a break, but I feel like sometimes some man can get intimidated by your independence.
Speaker 1:Say that word again If you really got yourself put together and you really got you on your grind, you on your stuff, and they don't feel like they. You know they sometimes might shy away from me and be like I think I really have somebody. This gonna be, you know, a little bit more Dependent, but I don't. I feel like I can be dependent on them when it comes to just having someone to communicate and talk to and when it comes to love, and you know all that other communication.
Speaker 2:I agree the love I draw on that but I can talk to you all day.
Speaker 1:Right and I just want that tension. For that time I'm not gonna lie to you.
Speaker 2:I'm guilty of that.
Speaker 1:I mean, I feel like a little tix being independent sometime super independent or too independent it can hurt you because sometimes you come in that mindset where you know if the guy imagine this and that or whatever, Shoot you easily, you know kick him to the side because you know If you're a half a million woman.
Speaker 2:You're not gonna go talk to a $20,000 worth man, so stop playing with me.
Speaker 3:You're gonna have to come to the same. Play yourself like that for what?
Speaker 2:Why would I do that? So I disagree because no, what? What do you mean? I'm touching the million baby. You got to touch a million of your own. If so, you're gonna start close to it because you know why? Because now you're getting into the deeper facts of they might never have shit. Here comes, with the thieving, the jealousy. The jealousy, the envy.
Speaker 2:Here come the, the deception, because now he's having to deceive you to make you think he's on your side and he over there trying to fuck up on the back end what you got going on in the front end and still have you in that Little haze and you not even notice and you having to warn yourself down to be on his level.
Speaker 1:Because I don't just settle. You know, I know and I know you know I love myself throughout the years of me. You know practice and important to myself and doing the self-love and stuff. So it's kind of like what I did years and years ago back in my 30s. Now that my point is, I'm not doing that, you know. So it's kind of like it's gonna be harder for me because I'm not selling. Now don't get it twisted. The money part I understand that. Okay, a lot of times some women are gonna make more than the men. I'm not tripping on that. Longest you are able to take care of home and you're making pretty close to six figures, I'm gonna go with that.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying, you're not overshadowing Pretty close to six figures Go more, elaborate more on that.
Speaker 1:At least 70, 75,000 a year. Okay, codemil, I didn't say 750,000.
Speaker 2:I said to me this for me, do you, do you? I'm not, I'm done selling for you, for you under 500,000? Ass niggas.
Speaker 1:I feel like when men start making, you know, over a certain amount of money, they got all some their attitudes and stuff changed, because I've talked to guys who made over six figures and they had the most shi ass attitude. And I was just like hold up, just because you make some, they feel entitled to you.
Speaker 2:I don't know what I make. Oh, entitled to the Gucci Entitled to your time, entitled to a pay time, because what? You mean Answer when you can't talk.
Speaker 3:Me too. Now you're gonna get my permission for me to answer before you call. You guys don't just tell me to answer.
Speaker 2:Or they'll be like oh, when you're ready for something real, hit me up.
Speaker 1:Get the f*** out my face. Like the attitude is like when they start getting their money they change. But one thing about me it don't matter how much I make, I'm gonna still remain the same humble Tony. I'm not gonna let no money change me. I'm sorry, I just can't. I see it change so many people and it's sad, but it do. Now I understand that you don't want to be around the same people that you kind of like came up with. You're gonna change your friends. You want to get like my different stuff.
Speaker 2:They're not supposed to be, some of the people you're not supposed to take with all the way to the time Right, right.
Speaker 1:So I respect that understanding. So what I mean by changing me is me sitting here thinking that I'm better than the next person, and my nose is way up in the air.
Speaker 2:I'm looking down at them like you're nothing you know.
Speaker 1:like no, I can never be no star or anything.
Speaker 2:That means you still on the rim with them, because why are they even a part of your mindset or thinking process? Exactly Right, who are they?
Speaker 1:Exactly so. Do you have to like being an independent woman? Do you feel like it's a negative Egypt? Absolutely not Not in my opinion at all. Whoo, I want to hear this answer.
Speaker 2:It's not negative to me, but it does you you. A lot of men told me I was not approachable. They were scared to sometimes because if I don't have that goofy smile on my, face. I'm watching you. That's the whole other side I'm observing. So some people feel intimidated. Intimidated by a strong, independent woman, especially if you're black. So they understand that you know your path, for you know your worth.
Speaker 1:Men shy away from that Because they know that you ain't going to put it with no.
Speaker 2:BS and you're not.
Speaker 1:Other women that are dependent that say the meaning times on, men will put up and tolerate more versus a woman that's independent, because by Felicia, then taking care of herself before she met you and can continue taking care of herself without you Without you, because I'm not a Rory can't say who this for?
Speaker 2:Bye, I ain't got nothing for you, boogey. Who this for? Who is this for? Well, let me say who is this for Somebody? Tell me, not for me. No no, no, no. I've been there, done that, got the t-shirt, got the key that I promised I would never do that, wrote a book about it, did they? Do you understand me?
Speaker 1:Got the key saying that-. So what about you, mauna? How do you feel? Do you feel being independent, being an independent woman is a negative thing?
Speaker 3:Absolutely not, because, you know, being the person and the woman that I am today, you know, I look back on all the things that I have accomplished this far and I'm very proud of myself. Right, you know, I'm proud of all the struggles. I'm proud of, you know, all the things that I went through to get me here. So, no, I don't feel that it's negative at all. I'm just very humble and grateful for it.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:No, that's not negative at all.
Speaker 1:I would say I don't feel like it's negative, but I feel like society, social media, they put a very negative thing like, if you're an independent woman, then something's wrong with you. You're going to forever be single. Got to die, you never know. Some of you might just enjoy being by themselves. I'm just saying because.
Speaker 2:I love it.
Speaker 1:I take the peace over being frustrated, miserable upset, but I would rather be a person.
Speaker 2:Driving yourself crazy, thinking about what they doing.
Speaker 3:Yes, a lot of women are still in relationship and still independent, because you got that right.
Speaker 1:They are Because what you?
Speaker 2:doing, doing half, oh right, I feel about independence and it going half on bills. Miss independent women, miss Mono, it's it's, it's not, I don't know.
Speaker 1:I mean, like I say, my bills, oh I mean. Can you keep up?
Speaker 3:baby boy.
Speaker 1:Because this is my favorite Okay right now.
Speaker 3:No, seriously, but yeah seriously. But now I don't. I mean, if you're in a relationship and you, you know, still having to pay half on the bills, I mean I don't see a problem with that you know what you see, that's a roommate. I mean, that's exactly what it is. Yeah, it's, it's a roommate situation If you haven't to pay half on the bills Now, do I get going to a relationship or a marriage expecting that person to pay all the bills?
Speaker 2:No, I'm not going to say no, yeah, yeah, I'm not going to say no. Now, that's, that's common sense by half and half I mean, yeah, that's, that's a roommate. So what if you're dating someone? And well, actually no, because you're in a relationship, but still.
Speaker 3:But still, what you going to say, what you going to get? I'm not going to say I don't need stuff.
Speaker 2:I pay for a little haircut. Is that tricking how y'all feel about spending money on significant others, then?
Speaker 1:No problem with it, I have no problem with it. You spent on me, I spent on you. We spoiled each other. I don't have no problem with it, and that's just how that's going to sound. I don't feel like, oh, you need to spoil and do only for me, I ain't going to do nothing. No, I ain't, I ain't. I wouldn't raise like that. But pay attention to what I like. I wouldn't raise.
Speaker 2:Just don't give me no bullshit. Don't give me 12 roses every February and you think that you getting some kuchi, because that's what I like. I want you to watch and see what do I really like, what do I really Study me.
Speaker 3:Study me Really learn me. I feel like if a person really loves you.
Speaker 2:they're going to do that. They're going to take you in, they're going to watch you. They're going to observe you Absolutely.
Speaker 3:I do agree with that.
Speaker 2:So why?
Speaker 3:do y'all think that you know society and you know people look at independent women in a negative to light Because I feel like they feel like we're in this masculine energy.
Speaker 1:We're a bit or, and you know we're, you know, like me. I feel like I'm a realist. I don't feel like I'm a better person. I feel like me being independent is by choice, because, yes, I could go be with anybody. I don't want to say I could be with anybody, but I can go be with someone and just accept them versus being with someone that I feel you know, that is worthy of me and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying, yeah.
Speaker 1:So I mean, anybody can go be in a relationship. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Because you can settle just like the rest of these things Right.
Speaker 1:You want to make sure that you're getting into something where you're going to feel happy and you know want to be in it. And so then I'll just continue to be independent, I have no problem with it. You know, I don't feel like it is a bad thing being independent, you know despite what anybody's saying and what I hear. Like this man these other podcasts talk about, you know.
Speaker 3:I am who I am. I think. I think that what a lot of people, how people look at it in a negative way is when you independent but still kind of stuck up and booze you with it. You know it's not grounded with the title independent. I think that's where a lot of people get confused about it?
Speaker 1:Yeah, because some of them they are but knowing your worth to get real confused with cocky. Exactly, yeah, that too.
Speaker 2:It's a thin line, but you don't know your values. You have to know your values. You have to know your values.
Speaker 1:You think you are there and it's not really that.
Speaker 2:Cause baby. I'll eat some noodles in there. I'll have 10,000 in the bank account.
Speaker 1:Right that far Play with your mama I'll do that now.
Speaker 3:I'll wake up in the morning and eat noodles for breakfast.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to go play 4500 for a Gucci bag For what part For what?
Speaker 1:I'm not, I'm not.
Speaker 2:And I've seen 60,000 at one time. Don't play with me, I'm not going to do it. It's not for me.
Speaker 1:I would rather put that money up in the bank account and invest it. So another business or something.
Speaker 3:Say it again, say it again. I'm ready for the bank account.
Speaker 1:I'm ready for the bank account, I'm ready for the little C class I got and the C class. I'm happy with that and, yes, I could have an S class.
Speaker 2:I ain't got no C class.
Speaker 1:I don't care about all that as long as I got something you know what I'm saying at the end of the day that I like, I'm good with that. I don't have to go spend all my money on all that and I'm so happy. Thanks to this person that came to my life and taught me how to be frugal. Thank God, Because I'm going to lie I was mismanaging my money and spending, but then I started paying attention and watching her and seeing how happy she was with just the little things. I started realizing-.
Speaker 3:It's the little things. It's the little things.
Speaker 1:You don't have to have all that big fancy name brand clothes, da da da, da. Da Give me some passion over Hello.
Speaker 2:I'm a rocker.
Speaker 1:I'm a rocker, I'm happy with that, and I can't care less what anybody else is doing.
Speaker 3:I'd rather pour it back into my kids and their educators. I'd rather pour it into them and make sure that we have proper insurance burial insurance, life insurance. I have property.
Speaker 2:I just want to pour it into those things.
Speaker 3:I'm very fortunate I just recently invested in more property.
Speaker 1:I'm just very fortunate.
Speaker 3:I'm very fortunate with what I heard. I can't give back, so it's just like I look at things like that stocks and bonds.
Speaker 2:I can add on. All right.
Speaker 3:You know, these purses and stuff like that do on me another Louis bag, ain't gonna lie, I mean.
Speaker 1:I ain't got a boat one.
Speaker 2:I'm just like I'm doing my year one, but it's gonna be neat.
Speaker 3:It's okay to spoil yourself sometimes you know now you're wearing clothes, don't defy me Because. I can have a Louis baton shirt on. And nobody will still have a broken heart on his side.
Speaker 1:It's still be messed up.
Speaker 3:Be, disgusted on his side, yeah, facts. So I just rather, you know, just pour back and give to my kids and make sure they're comfortable.
Speaker 1:You know. So, like me, I'm planning on doing stuff for the community, so like also just giving back to the community and stuff.
Speaker 3:Give your time. Why would I think you're gonna go waste this?
Speaker 1:on something. That's what I can say here and help somebody else.
Speaker 2:Take my V&E, you know, and I don't mean I'll blow my phone up and be like yo, tony, I need this, definitely blow my phone up Fucking. The text is right after this show, let me know if you are in me.
Speaker 1:You are in me. Get back to the get a computer.
Speaker 2:Okay, get back to my phone.
Speaker 3:Get back as a month because you know when you are blessed in life to be able to manifest. You know certain amounts of money, give it back. You know you have to balance in the life skills.
Speaker 2:People don't understand. You have a real balance of skills. That's not just something that you see on a Zodiac symbol or something that you see on the dollar with the little scales of judgment or justice. There's real life balancing skills. When you do bad or you do certain things For example, in the matrix I do certain things We'll be looked at as illegal. So I have to use the illegal money to wash into good money and do something good from it. It's not always about, you know, just take it, take it, take it and you have to give back. You have to find a balance. You have to pour into your children, pour into spirit. You have to give back to spirit because they are the ones giving you these things to let you obtain this money and this knowledge. Give back to them, put money on their altars, buy them things, find out what they want. It's not just giving back to community. You know them too, because they led you to this. Yeah, and you know some people we forget about that stuff.
Speaker 1:Yeah, never get what you come from Never get what you come from, but also ladies, what are some challenges that you feel like independent women face?
Speaker 2:you know being independent we ain't gonna make it seem like it's easy. It's not easy, it's not easy.
Speaker 1:It's not easy, it's not easy, it's not easy, it's not easy.
Speaker 2:I can tell you like from crying in the shower Okay, didn't know this meal my child was gonna eat or give you.
Speaker 1:And then, when it came, to a job I was always over-clawed by because I had a master's.
Speaker 2:Oh God, I had to start lying, it's not only at a bachelor.
Speaker 1:You know, so it's like you know you don't understand and know what people have been through.
Speaker 2:So what about you? What are some of your?
Speaker 1:challenges of you being an independent woman.
Speaker 2:People always view me as a strong friend. I'm always the listener, I'm always the one that they come to. They always see me flourish because if I need to revamp and come back, I do it alone. So they always see that I'm just a strong side, and that gets old.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Now I'm tired of people always putting the strong in your cup. When you're the strong one, independent woman, right, they feel like, oh, you can take it and I can. It's the fact of the matter of I can also use this energy somewhere else that is actually needed, you know. So I feel like that's one thing, and then, being men, are intimidated by me.
Speaker 1:They are not associated with me.
Speaker 2:I'll have to make some jokes first, because if I'm just looking at you, they're going to be like yeah, you look, mean I am, I can be, but you know what?
Speaker 3:I'm saying, I can tell it too, oh yeah.
Speaker 2:If I'm not smiling a joke with people who are as a problem, maybe I am on cloud 48, honey, I'm not even paying attention to you, to you, exactly Right. It's just people always feel like that. You out there, you think that they're better than them, and it's not. It's because you know you're frequenting and you're not about to lower yourself to certain frequencies because that's what you just came from. We're not bad people. You keep, you stay in the past. You're going to stay in the past. Exactly, you got to get in the present that you don't see the future. So I feel like those are the main struggles.
Speaker 3:My main struggle is what you just said. You know people thinking that you are better than them because I'm not fixing to lower my frequency to match your low, low vibrational energy. So that don't make me better than you. That just makes me different, different from you. So maybe in another thing, you know, guys are very intimidated by me because you know I don't smile often. But when I do smile and open up, they be like oh you cool as hell.
Speaker 3:You know, me too yeah but I'm going to sit back and I have to observe. First I got to get a feel of your energy.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, projects, just welcome myself to you, but no like a lot of guys, are very intimidated. But I was smiling. Telling me serenading my late night hometown gave me was smiling and I like it because I do love to smile.
Speaker 1:She be serenading. I'm trying to tell you, I guess for me were times I didn't know who was going to watch my children, to go get my uncle to come basically live with me and watch my sons for me so I can, you know, be able to work, because you know when you're a manager they don't give a dog about what time this day is, whenever they make your schedule.
Speaker 2:You come in at that time. It ends a bunch of time.
Speaker 1:They want to hear nobody on babysitter. Yes, you have to do what you have to do and sometimes you will be at work wrong with it and what you are supposed to do Because the virus boys don't show up. Yes, so it's kind of like oh, I went to bed, it was hard, it's hard for him it was just you know it was times that I had let my youngest go stay with his father, and so I got myself situated and stuff.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to lie and I felt bad about doing it, but then I realized I'd rather my son be with his father than me sit here and just think I could do it all myself, so I'm going to have to set that pride to the side and let your child be with him.
Speaker 2:It takes two to make a baby, especially if he willing to help you out. It takes two to make a baby. Put that pride to the side. You have such a beautiful point of that, because I'm quick, maybe come be there, be there. You want to work with your baby, with her dad. I didn't lay by myself. Yeah, I don't feel bad for that.
Speaker 1:We can't be there and keep the kids going.
Speaker 3:They are safe and not as safe when it comes to just physically, you know it.
Speaker 2:just, emotionally and just, you know safe, they're not being touched on. You know they're not being starved Long as you know they're safe. You know what I'm saying and you know that they're arriving, they're reachable from all the devices and they got the truck around.
Speaker 1:Anyway, you know what I had. So, yeah, bye, go today. Yeah, and I would sometimes relieve some of that stress and stuff. I hit the close-ups, you know, soon, as work was over. Look, we don't shut down the stove, y'all ready to go? Hit that club. I ain't gonna lie, hit the club. This thing not gonna be back to work, you know. I mean we're no-transcript Well.
Speaker 3:I'm gonna go over here. Why are you?
Speaker 1:guys so crazy.
Speaker 2:Why are you guys so regretting going up to the house After hours to work?
Speaker 3:I thought I was a fucking dutist Right. Who told you to do this?
Speaker 1:Damn.
Speaker 3:It's not what you really know about it.
Speaker 2:I swear on. Yeah, that's exactly what it is. You're going up in the office and get work Two to five. Now you're working six hours. I'm already in my burger party Like come on try to get some of the lunch.
Speaker 1:You guys here you go open up the stuff, because you got the breakfast. People that you guys see here ain't gonna make food for Be happy Countails baby, here you go, ok.
Speaker 3:You should tell me why did I stay out to buy some food? And look, she said you ain't gonna never do it again.
Speaker 1:To be right back in the next week.
Speaker 2:Hey, what they say was someone walking Suki in red? What's extra red? What now?
Speaker 1:And they said what?
Speaker 2:was it Someone walking with her twi in the next morning? Baby, she was hanging out the window the night before. Do you understand? Ok, this is part of the mom's dream. But one thing I love about me.
Speaker 1:I can go party, but it don't matter what, I'll just take it on business.
Speaker 2:I'm still gonna be at work If I don't have to.
Speaker 1:I will too. While I sleep, I'm still right back. They'll tell you I ain't never been fired. I don't even know what the word M-I-R-E-D is.
Speaker 2:Hadn't been laid off.
Speaker 1:And that was a little tip, joss, but like I've never been fired, so no matter what, no matter how hard I party. I'm still gonna be at work the next day.
Speaker 2:I've been fired up enough for that. A little money laundering, it's like this is different.
Speaker 1:Sorry, six flags Actually. That's not why I got fired.
Speaker 2:This lady. I had switched my name tag and I turned the screen off because they thought they were being sleep, because six flags has cameras and they like to caucasian people privileged. I take pictures of it and you have to buy it. You can't do it. And she was trying to be slick and I turned off the screen and I had somebody else name them and so they fired me for that, because that was like the second time I've been happy, but oh well, I still don't like you, amber.
Speaker 1:Oh Lord, okay next. We love you, Amber. She forgive you for everything.
Speaker 2:I forgive you, but this lady is, she's like forgot that. That's right.
Speaker 1:All right. So what about these songs and stuff that they, you know they put out for women to try to lift our spirits? Like you know, two pock if you had a, also with Bootsy Webby, with the, you know, independent woman?
Speaker 2:It's crazy. They didn't name any actual recent songs because they don't look just anymore. They got sookies and sexy and they eat me ass and that's how they see. Yes, I really haven't heard anymore. Now I ain't a lot of other women.
Speaker 1:I can also say a lot of the women are starting to say women you know. In other words, know your self, work, Don't be accepting them Now. I ain't a lot of me bashing nobody that might make less of money than you, Because at the end of the day, some people can't help it. You know, some people that's all they can, Long as they working and they trying to provide them with they can't cool.
Speaker 2:Now I ain't gonna lie about them bashing somebody I know you don't need a brook.
Speaker 1:They don't understand that because at the end of the day, people can't help what they make.
Speaker 3:You know, I'm like there's a lot of artists out there that still uplift women's, that you know have very classical music for women, so you know they might be smoking too, but oh, the latest one.
Speaker 1:Oh, I'm trying to thank, Thank you.
Speaker 2:Tony Jones oh my gosh, yeah, you know, oh no.
Speaker 1:I'm saying oh okay, Well, look, party B money, why Money? I didn't say no, why I? Said oh sorry, y'all talking about more of like you know, not asking you know, but everybody's like who, who, who?
Speaker 3:who, who, who? You just Tony Jones. You don't know who Tony Jones is, Neal something Neal, so I was. I'm, I'm, I'm exactly, I'm gonna put you on to her.
Speaker 2:You gonna just send him to me. Oh, she's very very uplifting.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we can't forget Erica, but I was just like, oh, erica's mother been around. That's my, that's my, she's, yeah, that's my latest, um, I would say maybe a Cardi Nikki. Nikki Minaj, you got a song about women loving themselves and stuff like that, so you know she's probably a king of the world, Guys.
Speaker 3:So off that show, yeah. So oh, wait a minute. Her, and what's up with her? I was like there's a lot of them. Hold on it's a. Sza. Hold on, let me ask you, let me ask you about guys SZA. What about what? About that song that's uplifting women, Ain't none the last one your body buys the.
Speaker 1:oh, I'm sorry, but that was like 12, 13.
Speaker 3:Baby oh baby, I was mad baby there's.
Speaker 2:There's still a lot of female artists that has very uplifting songs, but no, I didn't say there wasn't, but I'm just saying not as much as back into that.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but I'm trying to other than oh, you're a good artist, they already are from back in the days. So what is love and feelings?
Speaker 2:That was about love and feelings that was not popping up broken broken, oh yeah there you go.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, trying to poison her, just to get her to.
Speaker 2:Get her to puke you.
Speaker 1:Right, it's like what's up with this? Putting pills and Baby, that would be a catapion.
Speaker 2:these are live right, you know what?
Speaker 1:who wants some drunk puke? And if you want that it's sad you gotta stick down on that love of the city. Or get a woman messed over just to get this.
Speaker 2:There's a certain ring for what y'all trying to let so our local artists out there.
Speaker 3:We want to hear more of lifting music. Some more music for women. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's the answer.
Speaker 1:You got it, we're gonna get the pimps.
Speaker 2:We are best customers. We gonna spend the money. Get the f*** out of here.
Speaker 3:Yeah there's a lot of Everybody I couldn't wait viral for that yeah, Okay go buy the CD though.
Speaker 2:Okay, go buy it.
Speaker 3:And drop out in the comments some artists that you know we can listen to. That's uplifting for us. Yeah, let's be real loud. Let him hear the song first, tony.
Speaker 2:Johnson Braxton.
Speaker 1:No, no, it's Tony Johnson. Them two them two.
Speaker 2:I'll mess her name up. I'm sorry I'm gonna miss Jones.
Speaker 1:She's a real, she's a real, she's a real.
Speaker 2:I believe her. I just never heard of her. I'm a listener.
Speaker 1:But it's a couple of other artists too that I just can't think of their names right now, but I like their music when they come on, I know their voices, I like them. I'm all about memorizing their voice, so I might not be bad with names. I go like I'll butcher your name, but I'll know your voice.
Speaker 2:I'll butcher your name. She's good at marketing.
Speaker 1:Tony, I tried to spell your name the best way I've seen other people night. Nice fail. Oh, I can't help it. Look at her. Can we edit that out, please? Just bleep it like it's a cuss word. Bleep, you're an upper guy, I can't tell government, not to she high.
Speaker 2:Oh my God.
Speaker 3:So what would you say to the women out there that? Carried that independent status and people viewed it negatively, in a negative light. What would you say to them? I would say keep doing you.
Speaker 1:You know, at the end of the day, you don't ever want to get to the point where you're dependent on someone, to where you'll deal and put up with ABS. Continue being a strong black woman. Continue to be independent. It's nothing wrong with it. But at the same time, if you don't get in a relationship, be a little submissive.
Speaker 3:Yes, tony, are you going to be submissive? Boy Boy, you bet that's my answer. I was very submissive.
Speaker 1:I was yeah, I heard cricket, you said that I say everybody did. I was saying everybody did, he knows submissive. I was saying everybody did. I was saying everybody did, he knows submissive.
Speaker 3:Where are you?
Speaker 1:talking.
Speaker 2:When she was drunk.
Speaker 1:That's it. I was y'all. I ain't going to say all the time, but I was majority of the time, majority of the time, yeah, yeah, because even my parents, my dad, would never say oh, that man got to at least show you Because I'd be like, well, I got to go in. You know, my ex was a woman being in certain times so yeah, I was. I was sad, that's the respect though, too. That's the submissive, you know they laughed at me.
Speaker 1:I laughed at me, but it's cool though, because at the end of the day you know he's the man he runs it. I don't know why I'm not listening, but at the same time, I feel like you just run me over.
Speaker 3:Exactly Never, not even a little bit, not even a little bit, not even a little bit, so what? Was the reaction again.
Speaker 2:What was something for the independent women to do.
Speaker 1:You know, yeah, what was the wisdom?
Speaker 3:for the women. Oh, okay, be yourself, you know. Continue to be independent. Continue, you know, be yourself. You know, continue loving on yourself. You know, forget what other people have to say. You know they don't live your life or walk in the shoes that you walk in every day. So just be yourself. Be your authentic, true self.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and what you said is authentic. Yes, be authentic, true self, yeah.
Speaker 1:What other people say yes.
Speaker 2:I don't care.
Speaker 3:I just don't.
Speaker 2:But when you get to that level.
Speaker 3:That's a powerful level. It's a powerful level. But you don't care, it's a lonely ride to that level, baby it is.
Speaker 2:And I will tell you right now. I got about three people. I take some of the databases Right and it is what it is. You got three. Really Okay, I'm like you know what. 2.2. 2.2. You doing good, baby, but yeah, I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 2:I think two people. I take some of the databases. Other than that, it's a lonely ride up there. But you also have to understand it's a lonely, it's lonely at the top it is. You're not supposed to take everybody that you interact with. Yeah, you use the sources of people, also negative. Cut it off baby.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a negative nonsense. You can't let them dictate, you Not control, that's control, block them out.
Speaker 3:What a quickness. I know it's a quickness. Got a man With the quickness. What a quickness. Let it go I, if they not serving any purpose in your life.
Speaker 2:Let it go like any girl. Right.
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