Have you ever found yourself pondering whether the skeletons in your closet should ever see the light of day, especially in front of your significant other? That's the tightrope we walk in our latest heart-to-heart discussion, where vulnerability meets privacy in the intricate dance of relationship transparency. Together with my co-hosts Toni and Egypt, we peel back the layers on when to hold back and when to lay it all out. While I'm an advocate for baring one's soul to forge unshakeable bonds, Toni counters with a word of caution about the potential fallout from sharing too much. Egypt weighs in, highlighting self-protection and the real fear of our truths turning into weapons in moments of strife.
Navigating the digital age's pitfalls, we delve into the nightmarish scenario of intimate content falling into the wrong hands, a breach that can leave scars well beyond the digital realm. The ripple effects on trust, safety, and the very fabric of personal intimacy become the focal points of a conversation that could reshape your views on privacy and consent. Age dynamics, spiritual sharing, and the quest for personal growth also find their place under our microscope as we dissect what it means to grow both individually and within the sanctity of a relationship. And yes, we go there – discussing the sacred and the profane, and just how far one should go in sharing the deepest corners of your spiritual journey.
In the final act of our candid exchange, we reflect on love's evolution – the love we have for ourselves, for others, and the guiding light of intuition in navigating these waters. I share reflections on the profound transformation from my youth to the present, wondering aloud if sharing past pains serves our current selves. We also chuckle at the universal dance of privacy and boundaries, revealing just how much—or how little—we choose to let others in. So, tune in, and let's traverse this winding path together, because at the end of the day, it's all about staying true to who we are and honoring our journey.
Have you ever found yourself pondering whether the skeletons in your closet should ever see the light of day, especially in front of your significant other? That's the tightrope we walk in our latest heart-to-heart discussion, where vulnerability meets privacy in the intricate dance of relationship transparency. Together with my co-hosts Toni and Egypt, we peel back the layers on when to hold back and when to lay it all out. While I'm an advocate for baring one's soul to forge unshakeable bonds, Toni counters with a word of caution about the potential fallout from sharing too much. Egypt weighs in, highlighting self-protection and the real fear of our truths turning into weapons in moments of strife.
Navigating the digital age's pitfalls, we delve into the nightmarish scenario of intimate content falling into the wrong hands, a breach that can leave scars well beyond the digital realm. The ripple effects on trust, safety, and the very fabric of personal intimacy become the focal points of a conversation that could reshape your views on privacy and consent. Age dynamics, spiritual sharing, and the quest for personal growth also find their place under our microscope as we dissect what it means to grow both individually and within the sanctity of a relationship. And yes, we go there – discussing the sacred and the profane, and just how far one should go in sharing the deepest corners of your spiritual journey.
In the final act of our candid exchange, we reflect on love's evolution – the love we have for ourselves, for others, and the guiding light of intuition in navigating these waters. I share reflections on the profound transformation from my youth to the present, wondering aloud if sharing past pains serves our current selves. We also chuckle at the universal dance of privacy and boundaries, revealing just how much—or how little—we choose to let others in. So, tune in, and let's traverse this winding path together, because at the end of the day, it's all about staying true to who we are and honoring our journey.
Speaker 1:
Hi, welcome to bougie by you witches podcast and Tony, and this is come on to the co-hosts and I'm the host, by the way and this is Egypt again. Okay, today we're gonna be talking about should you tell your mate or significant other Everything. This is a topic that I think is so needed to be discussed, because we want to know should you tell your mate or your significant other Everything? Okay, so I'm gonna go ahead and get started. What about you?
Speaker 2:
I think. So you make everything. Yeah, I want to tell, I want to tell you all my deacus deepest dark. I want to be completely open, vulnerable, because I want that in return. So, yes, I'm talking your ear off at night.
Speaker 3:
Hmm.
Speaker 2:
I'm opening.
Speaker 3:
I have no problem being honest with you. Can you handle my honesty and bluntness? Is the question for me, because I'm be real blunt with you. What you want to know, yeah, she's playing this hardcore.
Speaker 3:
I'm sick of her. So is Tony. But no, I'm not. It's not that it's a hardcore role, it's the. I've already been there, done that, got the t-shirt. I'm trying to go crazy, thinking what this man doing one time. It's good for me, so now I have to be nonchalant. Now I see that that's part of me pulling back into me and letting go and not caring, because if you can handle the truth, I'll give you the truth, but if you can't know, okay.
Speaker 3:
But that's a beautiful thing to be able to pour into somebody like that. Yeah, I'm not saying that's a bad thing. I wish I was that vulnerable, but that's something I have to work on in my femininity, gotcha.
Speaker 2:
I mean, it's like you said, it's not a bad thing, you know it's. Each is own exactly right, you know feel like, hey, no, I can't open up for what reason?
Speaker 3:
and I'm one of those people.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I've been like I said, I've been through all my milestones by myself, I think that I heal over the years is the more you know. I'm so ready to open up and this beautiful yeah as I heal more, I'm able to spill more right.
Speaker 1:
I Me, I would say no, I'm not gonna tell my mate everything I want to get to our son, get other I want to get to know you to the point to where we get married, then it's a different story. Yeah, I will tell you some things, but I ain't gonna say that I'm a hundred percent, but I'll tell you 80%. Why not? Because not everything is for everyone to know. Sometimes you got to take those, those bones, as hiding their closet with you when you go to the grave.
Speaker 2:
I don't want to take no bones. I don't want to take no bones, I want to be able to know everything about me. I don't want to take no bones to the grave with me To ease your zone right, feel like yeah, I'm sorry, I'm just I done that before and um.
Speaker 3:
Yeah because they judge you. If I sit there and tell somebody I'm half demon, what they have, they gonna look at me. But we already been around each other, but that's why.
Speaker 1:
Dealing with deep down and deep, you know, spirit. Yeah, the real shit that we do like we can't just tell them all I see.
Speaker 3:
And you can't. You can't tell them everything that's gonna say. Can you handle the answer?
Speaker 1:
enough and because I have things about me that people never know it'll be going to the grave with me. Because that's just me, it's certain people that I feel, okay, I can't let them know.
Speaker 2:
Exactly but, no, but you can't let your man know, because we're on this.
Speaker 1:
We're probably doing the same thing shit. Yeah, I get, but that man wouldn't stay with that. That's crazy.
Speaker 3:
Well, anyway, that's what I said. But I feel like if you can't take the crazy me, get the fuck.
Speaker 2:
But okay, you just said that he may think you crazy as hell. But what if he just is crazy as you?
Speaker 3:
Oh, he's social.
Speaker 2:
But I'm just like you just never know, without opening up and saying something I agree with your net one, I agree, but you know, still, I'm standing on my ground.
Speaker 3:
I.
Speaker 1:
So what if he?
Speaker 2:
asks you, okay. So what if he asks you baby, tell me everything.
Speaker 3:
Where you want me to start, I can tell you.
Speaker 1:
Everything out the time. You know, man lie, women lie.
Speaker 3:
He's not, we ain't gonna tell you, let's go.
Speaker 2:
But over a period of time. I think if I create that safe space for him, He'll open up a little more.
Speaker 3:
That's that and I don't think that that's talked about enough, because we don't create a safe space for men to talk to us, and then sometimes, a lot of the times, we bring it back up when we're upset and that's where we fall.
Speaker 2:
So I think that's why they don't open up to open up to us for sure they don't so I feel like you don't open up to me, I'm not gonna do that to you.
Speaker 1:
You don't want to always tell everybody everything, because if it doesn't last like that's why I say they got to be my husband and that's, and then anyone get still before they'll get about 80% Exactly if y'all break up, what's a lot of time these folks do. They get mad. They go run back and they tell all your business. And it's because your as a set, then you look vulnerable and you don't open up and told this man everything. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:
Have to be careful.
Speaker 1:
Videos and they sit in. Try to threaten you with it hey, we break the.
Speaker 2:
You know with videos that that's a marriage, like you know. Each is all.
Speaker 1:
Whoever record, you know it's a pretty nasty time, just say yeah, do that for marriage With each person and they sting. You know you got about five, six, seven, eight, nine men. I got these videos on you and they threaten to put it out if you don't do with. It's hot blackmail, yeah, so Next thing, you know, you, you find out that you won't one of those little sex sites. They don't sit here and wouldn't post your stuff. No, you next next thing.
Speaker 2:
You know, you find out, you borrow.
Speaker 3:
Post it on poor her. It was not, thank God, it was just me up giving what's that stuff called Malaysia, felicia, I was a fucked up about it for sure. So, um, but it got deleted. It got deleted, but anyway. But yeah, you live and you learn.
Speaker 1:
I'm young, I was young, Do happy when we're young and dumb, and then sometimes when we're older.
Speaker 1:
Everybody's different different and you put a couple videos out there. I don't do some things and that's thing you know. You don't want to show this Homeboys. Now they try to hit me up and walk. The same thing happen. I'm like whoa, that is so annoying, like Because like, uh, you gotta say somebody me and should be on the period. Yes, somebody means bitches too, yes because they be pillow talking and keep kidding what they look for guys. And they do and you know, make me try to compare Like you be a card.
Speaker 3:
Baby, I'm not no pokemon card. If you can't catch them all, don't piss me off, because men will be like oh okay, so do you want to focus? Is you just so open? No, you're ugly as fuck. Please step the fuck away Now. What? Now they're like oh, I thought you thought wrong.
Speaker 3:
That's why you don't get paid for thinking baby Sit down several seats. I don't even like you. I hate it. It's so annoying, it's I'm so honest in my stuff, but then people are so childish, like you said, maturity levels is a big difference. I'm 28. I've never talked to somebody my age, I think it was one time, and then we clipped. Very well, he was only when they matched my hustle. But other than that, older man, daddy problems, it is what it is.
Speaker 2:
I don't know and.
Speaker 3:
I do not knock myself, I know my truth. I'm like oh, the man is easier and they teach you something. They do.
Speaker 2:
I need value.
Speaker 3:
I need value added to me once I leave you. I want knowledge added once I leave you.
Speaker 1:
But there's a long time, fuck no.
Speaker 3:
Okay, and I'm not Because I'm sure he'd be upset at the little voodoo on him and don't want him no more. Yeah, anyway, this is a service.
Speaker 1:
No, thank you, and then another thing women would us be in spiritual. Do we tell me everything like safer into some people might go? Get you know um, Um, who services ceremonies and stuff done.
Speaker 3:
Uh-huh.
Speaker 1:
Are you gonna sit there and go tell them all that, because sometimes you can't open your?
Speaker 3:
I still say you can't do that for magic, you can't do that, you cannot do that, you can't go tell him.
Speaker 1:
I mean, so again, now you get where I'm coming from on why I said you cannot tell them everything and you can't okay, I agree, you can't. You gonna ask me.
Speaker 3:
I'm gonna tell you you did voodoo on me, yeah, and I still don't like. Oh no, I'm not gonna.
Speaker 2:
I'm telling it all, I'm not, I'm not holding nothing back, and that's just me manifesting a beautiful relationship like that.
Speaker 3:
And there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with that. But I'm telling it, I'm, you might be mentally prepared and, and, and, and you know, um, mature enough, I'm not, yeah.
Speaker 1:
I'm just not telling it all. I'm sorry, that's just me, that's um. I will tell you majority of the stuff that you need to know. If you asked, I won't answer your question. But if you do not ask, you shall not receive.
Speaker 2:
Y'all heard that.
Speaker 3:
You're not going to receive?
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I was no good. I just I mean, like I said, I stay in her minds. I just I don't mind opening up to you Because I didn't come to a place in my life to where I didn't heal so much, to where I can be vulnerable again.
Speaker 1:
I won't say that. It's not that I haven't healed, it's just lessons learned. You know so if you go and do something and things happen, then you gonna finally say you know what. I ain't gonna continue to do the same thing over and over. I'm gonna learn. I'm not gonna sit here and be no open book and you know, tell them any and everything. You know what I'm saying. Sometimes some things are better left unsaid and I heard that.
Speaker 2:
I mean, I heard that quote.
Speaker 1:
I really feel like. I feel like that.
Speaker 2:
That's just how I feel you know, and a lot of things can change if they say it yeah, yeah again, if I say this is a mom, half a demon, it's me.
Speaker 3:
You're gonna live. You gonna like the light in the light in the dark. So except you for you, I'm a weirdo. I got posters of welcome to wonderland in my room and then Wednesday at them, like I'm aware.
Speaker 1:
I'm aware, though, that's just because in society that we live in.
Speaker 3:
I am aware, though I don't have, um, who the fuck Megan a nicky hanging on all the way around my room.
Speaker 1:
That's what we was teenagers. We put my room, but see that's the thing my room is like my room is like a kid's room.
Speaker 3:
I have posters from anime I like and everything that's my safe space. That's your yeah, that's my inner child and that heals me because in depression, if I'm in my bed, I see colors. I don't see just darkness. That's why I got power puff girl sheets. Judge your mama, not me.
Speaker 1:
I don't care and.
Speaker 3:
I used to be ashamed of that shit. I love my room and that's why I love to be in there, because it is my inner child and you got the jacket on, like watching that cartoon show.
Speaker 1:
I found my happy places whenever my inner child that's all, and that's what it is.
Speaker 3:
I found that balance. I know how to come out my depression. I found out how to use color. It's like numerology, it's like a colorologies. Colors too. You know bright colors in your, in your spaces. That's what you need.
Speaker 1:
That's what helps you yeah, get your mind in a different path of impression. It's not good to have dark colored stuff and it's not that's because I am a dark person, dark you know, we want to brighten it up exactly because I know I used to like a dark room dark. I used to love a dark house.
Speaker 2:
I still have a dark house.
Speaker 3:
But now it's just. It's too pink on the walls now and it just dark stuff on the walls.
Speaker 2:
Now it's pink is color is yeah? Wake up in the morning, the first thing I do is like open them, blouse, come to my house. I'm like mom, why?
Speaker 1:
don't you let me let that light in that thing.
Speaker 3:
I'm gonna shut that, please my eyes. I'm trying to keep the. That's my vampire. Turn this off. Turn this off.
Speaker 2:
I used to be like that, though I used to be like that.
Speaker 1:
I would say that she said you're a vampire, why you like the dark.
Speaker 2:
I gotta have light in what I want.
Speaker 3:
I was born in the dark hold on.
Speaker 2:
You can't die.
Speaker 1:
That can dial and say that there'll be light yeah, exactly, exactly but no, that's, that's okay so why do y'all feel some people would just tell it out, tell all that business is being basically a big open book retaliation?
Speaker 2:
like oh, as far as just you know, as far as somebody trying to get back at you, no, no, no, just um, like you being a relationship you're a mess you tell everybody stop
Speaker 1:
like no, like you know you're not being, you know you've been in a relationship and you telling them everything like why do you feel like some people feel like you know they want to tell you know this significant other, their mate, everything they?
Speaker 2:
just just to be open, you know, because I want to learn him more and I want him to learn yeah, what if you don't remember with? You. I mean, I'm not. We finish. This happened over a period of time. We didn't finish it every night and I'm just. No. There's people that I'm the first, oh no so messy.
Speaker 3:
They keep telling me a name and I feel like we all know a name and it just keeps saying the name in my head. But anyways, I've seen people pour into people the first week of meeting them and y'all to have also so don't do it over, oh no people have done it, but women do it, tony knows one person. Mona knows of one person, but I've seen it?
Speaker 2:
no, we all have no people. I'm not fixing to go meet a guy tomorrow but they do it and you're right they do.
Speaker 1:
They will ask, I feel like, because they're vulnerable.
Speaker 3:
I feel like they feel like they can help fill them up, and they don't know how to self-refill.
Speaker 2:
I used to do that back with in my teenage years when I first started up. Like you know, I wake up, just I mean it. Will I meet somebody? Be just like hey.
Speaker 1:
I'm this, that, that thing, but you don't want to tell them everything you know I wouldn't be like oh, but then they can become that person that you might want them to become. You don't even know because you don't say here open up and tell this man everything.
Speaker 2:
So sometimes it's not good to you know people conniving it's just, you know my openness don't come, you know, in the first week. It ain't I even come within the first year. It's over up here in the top. It's not often to meet you and just feel my guts out to you know, people don't even know my name unless you know me about two years deep in there, you might never know my real name.
Speaker 3:
All right, don't judge me, because I'm like I know that girl. That is not the name she told me. Y'all did my business, y'all in my business. That's my name too. That day that was my that day, huh yeah however, I feel at the moment. I choose my name, I'm not but yes, but what about you?
Speaker 1:
I mean, how do you feel about a person you know not wanting to tell a significant other everything?
Speaker 3:
I don't have to.
Speaker 1:
Like not just you, but just people in general.
Speaker 3:
I don't have to, because who are you to judge me on my past?
Speaker 1:
But why do you feel other people?
Speaker 3:
I feel like they want closure and judgment and oh you're so. Sometimes people need that attention, Sometimes people need that affirmations or confirmation, and you know they need other people's opinions to therefore try to see where they go in their lives, and I feel like that's just not how I operate. I've always wanted to be in my own dream. Okay, as you should, and so it's just. I've honestly always been like that. I've always been different. So I feel like, no, I don't have to tell you everything, cause you're not gonna accept me for everything.
Speaker 1:
Right right.
Speaker 3:
The person I am now is not the person I was when I was 19. Why do I need to tell you about something when I was 19?
Speaker 2:
So what if you meet your soulmate, twiz white? However you want to look at it and you know, you and him vibing on a really high frequency, Y'all feeling each other, y'all have the passion, y'all have the unconditional love. Would you be open to him if you feel like he opening up to you, telling you things that happened when he was born? Would you show him that same respect that returned? No Dang.
Speaker 3:
There's nothing more.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, it could be a setup.
Speaker 3:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
Can I be honest with you? Can I be?
Speaker 3:
real honest with you. I've never honestly been in love. I've loved a man. Let me see that I think that I have never been in love to where I can't eat, sleep, breathe without you, Right? I have always been able to and that's been one of my flaws. I have a detachment issue.
Speaker 1:
Some people have attachment.
Speaker 3:
I was adopted when I was younger. I have detachment. Okay, I can stay away from you at periods of times. Like I said, I've been to psych wars. Detachment is something I have done from a young age Got you. So that is just something that I'm not gonna tell you, something from when I'm seven.
Speaker 2:
Okay.
Speaker 3:
See what I'm saying. You might look at me different. I'm not gonna tell you something from when I was 22. You might look at me different Main things I'll tell you. If it was that life, I'll drink later on, but before 18, hell no, you don't know nothing.
Speaker 2:
See, I have been in love before, so I had that connection.
Speaker 3:
That's beautiful, though it is beautiful I feel like it's a beautiful thing to really be in love. I have not experienced that yet. It is what it is, I mean.
Speaker 1:
I've been married before. What were you?
Speaker 3:
in love, were you in love, though. You can be married if you ever get in love. You can be married if you ever get in love. Yeah, I've been in relationships and not in love, but I have loved them, I've loved them.
Speaker 1:
I've been in a couple years in here, so yeah.
Speaker 3:
To your board fest.
Speaker 1:
To your board fest. To your board fest. I want to say that I get bored fast, but he just was a little too controlling for me. You know what I'm saying. I didn't like that. So you know I start falling out of love because of the person that he was.
Speaker 2:
So let me ask you that timeframe that you were in love with him, were you able to be open Too?
Speaker 3:
open? No, it was wide open. So did you say he had everything.
Speaker 1:
When I was getting money, he didn't already make plans on what he was going to do with my money. I'm like hold up honey.
Speaker 2:
I mean, I understand we married, but so he called you not to be that open. Again that part.
Speaker 1:
I'm going to tell you my daddy told me.
Speaker 3:
He told him to caution you.
Speaker 1:
My daddy said never tell a man everything.
Speaker 2:
I said why you say that.
Speaker 1:
This is for the. You know be my husband. At the time we were engaged, so I'm going to tell him everything you know. And once I got divorced I realized what he meant.
Speaker 3:
Yeah. So, yeah, they going to throw it back in your face, just like a woman would get upset.
Speaker 1:
Just be careful.
Speaker 3:
I mean, you can tell if you want to tell your husband whatever you want to tell him, you can, but you know just.
Speaker 1:
You know from past experiences I learned my lesson. So you know I'm not going to tell him everything, but I tell him enough. They need to know.
Speaker 3:
So yeah, I agree enough, I tell you you ask.
Speaker 1:
I'll answer the question.
Speaker 3:
I'm not going to sit here and just I'm not going to feel bad about how you feel about it, though they feel like sometimes you should feel guilty because they don't like the answer that you get If you don't ask me, then I'm not going to sit here and just bother you. I don't know, and that's what I don't like.
Speaker 1:
Don't ask me something that you're not ready for to answer, because I want you to know, but if I don't tell you and you don't ask, then you don't need to know. Obviously you know, I mean, that's just how I feel.
Speaker 3:
A lot of people know of me. They don't know me. Yeah, that part.
Speaker 2:
And that is so true. That's how I feel sometimes. A lot of people know of me, but they don't know me. They don't really know the real you.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, you know, and a lot of people won't and a lot of people don't know me, but you really don't know me, but you really don't know me.
Speaker 2:
A lot of people don't even know me. No, I'm scared to be sure. That's the sad part about it. A lot of people don't even care to get to know me.
Speaker 1:
They don't. They don't want to get to know me, they don't care to get to know me. It's just what you think? For them Exactly, and this and that, and they're going on. What the kid they get from you? That's it, that's it, that's it.
Speaker 2:
That's it, that's it, that's it.
Speaker 3:
This is what I suck it all out of. Suck it all out Drain your dry, drain your dry Drain me dry, that's it. I guess I think you talk about draining financially. I guess you talk about some matter, yeah.
Speaker 1:
Wow, I'm a drain to finances too, don't worry, I'm going to get them too. Oh my goodness, as far as them exposing your business, they was to tell somebody else, you know.
Speaker 3:
Yeah, cuz you just said you went through that with your divorce to go back on that. How did you bounce back from that after that?
Speaker 1:
I didn't tell no guy everything you know I did, I did some things, I just kept to myself.
Speaker 3:
You had to heal from that. Did it not hurt oh?
Speaker 1:
Getting the voices, stuff like that. Yeah, not even just the divorce, but him judging you.
Speaker 3:
Yeah, yeah, from you telling everything in the sense, because I'm pretty sure sorry stuff came up that you trusted with them.
Speaker 1:
You know that's me, and when they want to get back at you, they go they gonna pick some stuff that they know about you and throw it in your face and stuff. So you know.
Speaker 3:
But it takes time and you.
Speaker 1:
Regret anything, I went through cuz it made me. I am today ever you know what I'm saying, so I'll never say I regret to get married and nothing cuz I don't. But it taught me to just be more cautious and pay attention to things and just be careful. Yeah well, you know what comes out on my hand? I mean every thing, not even all you make. Yeah.
Speaker 3:
That's another story for another day.
Speaker 1:
But yeah, so um, I mean, that's just my opinion. You know what I'm saying. You know everybody's different, but that's just how I am.
Speaker 3:
So what would advice would you give the women that sit there and share everything on the first day?
Speaker 1:
What are you not gonna?
Speaker 2:
miss money to wait on the first day.
Speaker 1:
We all know them.
Speaker 3:
Like I said, we don't know somebody like they do talk a lot.
Speaker 1:
Exactly, just be careful with what you say because, think about it, if you and him don't make it to the next level, would you be okay, knowing that your business might be disclosed? All this?
Speaker 1:
time it will be disclosed and it's friends and stuff like that. So just be careful what you disclose and what you say, what you put out there, because remember, not everybody Is um, not messy and stuff like that. A lot of people they like drama and messing, like to start stuff and you know, and they like to screen, record your conversations and your video face times.
Speaker 3:
Cuz you are some people who pets because screen-challenge.
Speaker 1:
Okay, I'm just be careful because I'm sure stuff in the past and might have been into stuff you know, so you just got to be careful because not everybody is to be trusted now. Everybody to come to you is For you, and I'm talking about men, women.
Speaker 1:
Friends, social business partner family so funny and so they see you and they want to get to know you because of your aura and just that energy they want to know how to be like you and so they'll sit here and portray and pretend to be Like they really funny, your friend and associate, quite whatever, and they're snaking the grass.
Speaker 2:
That's it. Don't forget your family members.
Speaker 1:
Family. Be the man. Those are the worst ones. They suck you.
Speaker 3:
They feel like it was successful somewhere.
Speaker 2:
They Park Spiritual trust your intuition.
Speaker 1:
Listen, listen, listen. Don't second guess yourself, cuz when you second guess yourself, your morning I swear it was so much easier.
Speaker 3:
Hush up and don't talk it, don't.
Speaker 2:
You know, spill your business there. Don't do that. But if you are in a safe space and I don't care to open up to that person, then you know, just trust your intuition.
Speaker 1:
Now, if you gonna be your husband and you feel like, okay, we finna get married, so I might as well tell them everything to do you.
Speaker 3:
What about don't get married then? Who do I do it to?
Speaker 1:
Just go talk to your answers, to your spirit and I do everything and I do, because guess what I'm gonna come back and tell your business? They don't. They might just sit here and give you some signs and stuff like that. Don't do that.
Speaker 3:
I know my ancestors all around. He's looking me. I know little them thought off couple of them. They gotta be cuz I, baby, I ain't got the sense to.
Speaker 3:
God gave me whatever the creative that you wanna call me they ain't got the sense, ain't got the sense they gave me, but, yeah, I know some of my ancestors be like Jesus, why did we get this child? But I lay down and shout out to them yes, but yeah, I had to start trusting my intuition. I had to start listening to you know that subtle voice and it was my spirits and ancestors, spirit, gods and I have to listen I.
Speaker 3:
I exactly. I had to get into with my higher self, and every since then it's been nothing, but, you know, uphill, even a couple of couple of detours, but nothing but uphill. Right for sense, then. So my advice to anybody is always listen to your intuition. I'll wait. Stop trying to always listen to everybody has to say yeah.
Speaker 3:
Stop second guessing, because once you start second guessing yourself, that's one of them. Comments you start reading get to you. You can say ABC, but that stills in the back of your mind. Yeah, stop that shit, let it go be true to yourself, be true to yourself, yes.
Speaker 1:
Yes, yes, yes, yes. So we're gonna get ready to wrap this up in a few, but what do you have for people when it comes to them telling a significant other they made everything? What do?
Speaker 2:
you want to leave the deal with? Trust your intuition. If you feel comfortable, do it.
Speaker 3:
If you don't, don't do it Just don't Like you, just don't like you said. People gonna look at you regardless, but again, they can't accept you for now, for who you are leaving be. If there's so worried about your past, okay, they should have been in it, so therefore that's where you gonna have to put them, and then you move on.
Speaker 1:
Do some examples and things that you went through in life. Sure you can, but let that pass stay in the past. Yeah, for sure. When it's buried, it's buried, buried, it's in the past Bam.
Speaker 3:
But in the John Berry it's gone.
Speaker 1:
Okay, what you Vanito well, me. Basically, you know, like I say, at the end of the day we can't tell you what to do because we're just giving you our opinions. But definitely, if that's what you want to do, you know, tell a person any and everything you're more than welcome to. But I, tony, I'm not you would get about 80%, and if that, alright, haha, you like 20 years.
Speaker 3:
You can't even know my name, baby. No, I'm your time.
Speaker 1:
Well, you, you already know my name, so you know I did.
Speaker 3:
Like my slave name Okay a name is me. You.
Speaker 1:
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