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Master Emotional Resilience & Boundaries By Leaning Into Your Human Design with Alina
Ever found yourself nodding along to conversations you'd rather not be part of, just to keep the peace? Join us for a transformative dialogue with Alina Grayson, as we discuss the art of setting boundaries and upholding personal standards. We delve deep into the nuanced dance of expressing our limits, sharing how to navigate the holiday chaos with grace and maintain serenity by consciously choosing our surroundings. Together, we dissect the difference between the aspirations we hold for ourselves and the uncompromising boundaries that form the bedrock of our self-respect.
Tackling the sticky situations that arise in relationships, we reveal how a steadfast commitment to our own boundaries can foster respect from others and cultivate emotional resilience. It's a candid look at the trials of enforcing personal limits and weathering public scrutiny.
Alina and I share our own journeys, demonstrating that while relationships might waver, a steadfast commitment to self-care and integrity must remain unshakeable.
Prepare to be inspired, as we illuminate the ways in which human design and emotional intelligence can revolutionize your interactions and emotional well-being. You'll learn about the powerful influence of emotional centers and their impact on our processing of experiences. Plus, Alina will offer a sneak peek into the "Self Mastery #BadassMode" program, designed to empower entrepreneurs with the tools needed for both personal and professional triumph. Our heartfelt conversation supports the belief that respecting and understanding our emotional landscape paves the way for truly mastering the self.
Right like a lot of like turmoil to not go projected on other people, and then for us, we're open. If we're naturally supposed to be Zen, calm, we can actually have a still mind and be calm. It's an understanding that, like when we're not feeling good, it's because we've surrounded ourselves with the wrong people, people that if they behave this way, speak this way or treat me this way, that I actually exit the relationship for good or exit the environment. And then you have to communicate that and that's something we have to communicate and then we also have to uphold.
Speaker 2:I think I wanted to go to the standards and boundaries here a little bit, if you don't mind. Especially, the holidays are coming and I think a lot of us are like man, so much triggers coming. You know the family and like stress and everything. Let's go there. How do you define that for us, like? Can you define like standards and boundaries? I think you did such a great job in the program as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so there's the difference, right? There's standards and then there's boundaries. Our standards are like our, the best that could be in a moment, right, like if your standard is like I walk into my family's Christmas house on Christmas day and everybody's happy and peaceful.
Speaker 1:That's the standard. Like. That's like what we want at the peak right. The boundary is like the line in the sand, sorry, where we don't cross. It's like this is what I will not tolerate, right. So in relationships, my standards are very high. I want to be treated very well. Obviously I'm reciprocating that. But the boundary but even if the standards are low and I'm not having the high of like all affection, whatever it is, the boundary is like there is no name calling, there is no abuse, there is no like, none of that. Like you know, I'm the kind of woman that's just like you call me a certain thing like the relationship is going to be done If there's any violence or anything like that. Like it's a, it's a the land, like the line in the sand, it's over, right.
Speaker 1:So when it comes to families, I think it's important, before we get together with our family, to share our boundaries and what is acceptable and what's not. And if there's certain topics that you wish not to discuss, because I think that's where things kind of get all riled up in family environments or situations, it's just like having those conversations like, hey, I'm going to come over, I want to have an amazing time. I want to be here with you guys intentionally. I want to look you in the eyes. It would be the goddess right. We're in there, we're so intentional. But the boundaries are like, let's say, maybe you're going through something with the next. I don't want to speak about this and I don't want to go here about this right and sharing that and then also sharing like my boundaries are like no name calling or anything like that, like those are extreme things but they're your line in the sand. If this gets crossed, I exit the space. You know, and I'm willing to work on a relationship, but these are the boundaries and having like, for instance, like you and I know, like in your reflector, talk a little bit about human design.
Speaker 1:But you know, I have some open spots too and it's just important for me, like I'm here to be really optimistic. I'm really here to elevate consciousness. I have a big, big, big vision in the world. I want to make a big impact. But in the world that we're in right now, there's a lot happening, there's a lot of wobbliness, there's a lot of also, I feel like fear being projected in the news. It's a bunch of lies Like these are my opinions. So in my family my boundaries are that when you're in my space we are not discussing certain things that's happening in the world or certain things, because I have a very strong stance about that, because I will get affected about it too. Right, if everybody's in pending doom, the world's gloomy and you should know your reflector, it's like, oh my God, and you take that on right.
Speaker 1:So in my relationships people know my standards, not just the way I'm treated, but also kind of conversations that I'm in. I'm not about having lack. You know the world's ending, every human's horrible, like those are just not the conversations. So I have conversations, I thought my family, so that we can have a present, amazing family time. That's about us and what's happening in this house and not what's happening in the outside world. Right, but having those conversations before you get in those environments or everything, because if people don't know your boundaries, how can they honor them? That's another thing we do. We just think that we expect people to know but we don't actually tell them. Or a lot of women have a lot of issues where, like, these are my boundaries, da-da-da-da. But then they happen and they don't enforce them because they're afraid to be the mean one or the not nice one, and so that's something else we have to work on.
Speaker 1:But boundaries are important and you've got to sit down and know what are your boundaries, how are you willing to be treated and what's the line in the sand where you would leave a relationship. You would leave an environment Like I think in Goddus Code we talked about even racism. Like I'm not even okay with racist jokes, because I believe that's how the subconscious paradigm of racism keeps getting circulated collectively is that we still think that some of this stuff is like funny, even if it's a joke. My friends and my family know my boundaries. Even if it's a joke, I will exit the environment and if you continue to be this way, we will not be friends, because I do not believe in that, I don't want to hear jokes, I don't want to think anything about that is funny, and so I have strict boundaries like that. Same with my friendships. I have boundaries with my own friends. We don't talk about other friends. That's like a no-no, because really, like if you talk about other friends, I know you talk about me.
Speaker 1:So it's just you have to know as a person what's my standard, what is the best that I could feel and be treated like. That's like the golden gate, but then it's like what's the line in the sand? Where am I going to communicate to people that if they behave this way, speak this way or treat me this way, that I actually exit the relationship for good or exit the environment? And then you have to communicate that and that's something we have to communicate and then we also have to uphold, and then people will respect you. This is how I've gotten so much respect in my life is because I know what they are. I'm very vocal, I communicate them and then I will enforce them if anything happens. But at this point people don't even cross my boundaries ever.
Speaker 1:I think when you get to a place where you hold high standards, you treat people well, you're very effective at communicating your boundaries.
Speaker 1:It's like people don't even cross them anymore and this reflects us. When you treat you like not good, people think that's okay to treat you that way, and then they don't care about your standards. This is why we talk a lot about and God has quit about being a woman of high standards and how we communicate, how we treat ourselves, because how we treat ourselves shows other people how to treat us, and if you treat yourself last, you're mean to yourself. You don't practice self-care. You always put yourself last. People do not feel bad about giving you crumbs and they do not feel bad about crossing your boundaries because they're like I watch you do it to you. So why would I honor that Right? So very important. What's your boundaries? What are your ideal? High like energetic standards, and then communicate them with people. And when they happen, you have to have the courage and the bravery to actually enforce them, to actually step outside of the house so that people know you are the real deal serious here, and that's how that respect will be earned as well.
Speaker 2:I love that, and I was taking notes as you were speaking and I was like I'm still getting down with myself to do this like define your boundaries for the holidays with the fam. Because I feel like it's almost like, you know, you stop into a bear trap and like shit, I didn't know that was a bear trap there, you know. It's like that's how it feels, kind of like if you don't communicate what it's like a no for you, like oh, I was gonna talk about this topics and that topics like hey, can you respect that? If not, I'm gonna exit. You know I'm gonna leave, I'm not gonna be here and then really, like you said, enforcing them and I think for me, especially with families right and boundaries, the last time things got heated, I actually stood up and left.
Speaker 2:You know that was the first time I walked off on the fam, because I was just like I'm not gonna be sitting here listening to you talk about me in a way that I don't like yes, and I'm just I'm. I just stood up and I left and that was the first time I experienced my anger rising in me. I'm like, oh cool, I had this emotion too and it's not dangerous. Awesome, I'm not gonna die from it, yes, but then. But then after that I was like, okay, so that's a clear no, and Going into the family holidays, I'm gonna make a phone call and just put the line in the sand and say, hey, if this is how you're gonna speak to me, I'm not going to tolerate that again. I'm gonna walk off in you again to see it happened before. So I'm just saying to you so you know right, and so I love that it's so important to define that for yourself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's. It's such a beautiful message, right, because we're not even in December, guys. We're like two days away and now's the time to really get clear. Okay, and this could be a great way to set up your new year too. Start right now. I believe momentum starts right now.
Speaker 1:So if you sat down and been like, okay, how do I, how am I gonna treat myself, what are my boundaries? And then call those people up if you know that you've had a hard time with certain family members, call them up and be like, hey, hey, we're getting together in a couple weeks. I wanted to set some precedents and context here. This is how I feel these are my boundaries and what are your boundaries, and let's honor them. And then I'm so happy that you walked out and that your family knows that now you're someone to take seriously, right, because a lot of people do this.
Speaker 1:This is where women have a lot of issues. They have the boundaries, but they do not enforce them. They won't get up because they're afraid of, like, everybody hating them. All the fears, and so it's like you got to also Enforce them. And you know, I think you mentioned something about bumping into things, or maybe I did, but, like you know, a lot of our boundaries. We don't find them out until we bump into stuff. We didn't even know we needed a boundary somewhere and in business we learned that the hard way.
Speaker 1:It's like, oh okay, this is why you should redo my terms here. This is why I know how this conversation right, because sometimes it is about trial and error and and sometimes things will happen and you'll be like, okay, this is the boundary, but then once you know, you got to go and communicate it to people and then Hold it and hold that standard. And I promise you, the more you are someone who holds your boundaries and you raise your standards For how you treat yourself and other people, people will respect you and I'm on those people. I'm like I don't like care people to admire me. I want to be someone who is respected. Whether, like I know this woman, I would never blah, blah, blah, because I respect her and because I reciprocate.
Speaker 2:I treat myself so well, I also treat people so well and that's, like you know, is that reciprocation there like you said, when you have, you know, difficult situation where people are saying shit about you online or whatever you know, something comes up, some trigger and some projections. We have to come in terms of the fact that not everyone will like you and even if it's your own family and I think it's just, I got me. You know I'm still here, you know I love myself, I can treat myself, I can be my own mom and dad at the same time. But like coming in terms of not fearing a relationship to be Lost in a way, because I know I got myself at the same time. And Also, if people don't respect me or love me enough to care about me, to respect boundaries, then it doesn't matter. Really, it's not worth it for me to keep that relationship going.
Speaker 1:No, and your families are tough right. I will say I have someone in my family that is going through a bit of a psychosis, drug related, and you know we in my family tried to do an intervention. I'll just tell you a little bit. And now it's a lot of projection on to me. Just we're trying to help where I'm being slander all over the internet and you know you mean, and people are like sending me stuff and they're like you're not bothered by this. And the reason I don't get bothered is because it's a projection. It's something that someone has to work within themselves or not ready, and I mirror that back to people. And so then they project that it's really your fault and this is the reason when we know it's not, and so I don't get offended.
Speaker 1:I have become so strong, especially in this industry, almost five years, that like, literally like, and I will say like the only people that project on me are people who like don't know me, people who just Misunderstand me. But it's never been a from a client or someone in my world, it's just someone from the outside right, and a lot of projections are literally me just being like this is what you should work on. And then it's like and so you got to be okay with it and it's okay. But I find a lot of people get really triggered. They go do the work and then they end up coming back and things will be okay. But it's okay, it's gonna come with it.
Speaker 1:This is why, like, emotional intelligence is everything. Hold the pressure, hold the tension, the more you can do that and Still lead yourself like a leader even when you're angry. And you have the right to write someone to be slamming you all over the place. You have the right to be angry, but is it worth it? Is it worth compromising everything you've built and who you are as a person for that one moment where you are really angry and it's clouding your judgment and your wisdom? And this is why I'm like is it worth it compromising this? No, it's not. And then you just take space and you understand. People come and go. Some people stay for it with us for a lifetime, some people come for seasons and it's all beautiful and it's all flowy, but my heart goes out to you and I think you're gonna be okay.
Speaker 2:I'm fine, I'm okay, I'm good. But thank you so much for that. And yeah, I understand how you feel and I'm sorry to hear that, but I think you, you know you're, you're strong enough to handle that and you're just given just as much as you can handle as well.
Speaker 2:I believe that you know so of course you can handle this, you know, of course you're gonna be okay and you know projections or not. I think what's most important is to and I learned this a long time ago Like my peace is so, so important to me, like I'm not giving that away. Like, as long as I'm happy in Zen and peace, people trying to mess with that, like no, thank you. Like you, you guys, you know we need to just stay out of this. Right, that's how I feel, really.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's so important. You're a space and your happiness and your peace, that's it. At the end of the day, we're all sovereign humans, right, and we just got to be happy alone and know that, like we can't have attachments to people, we just can't. Some people go and come and flow back and you just got to trust people's own life pattern, but not make it mean anything about you. That's the thing we do is we take a projection. We think, oh my god, is it me that I do this? And it's like no right, like this is somebody else that you're mirroring back to what they need to work on, and you just got to trust their path and that's it I.
Speaker 2:Think, but especially me, like being reflector and we can go to do human design surgeries.
Speaker 1:But I'm like people project for me, you for everything, baby Yep yep, yep, and I'm a 6'2", so the two line is a projection field too, right, and I've known that my whole life, because it'll be just like literally. So I'm blaming me that the fact that the cat died, like 20 years ago, I was like 10, I don't even know, like you know just silly stuff sometimes, but you know very well too as being a reflector, like if you reflect back the environment, like the community, right. So in your family you're reflecting back things that your family has to work on, but then they're projecting it back onto you, right, because you're literally taking in everything. And so, as a reflector, if anybody has an open emotional sore plexus, that's in like human design, like we take in people's emotions and we amplify them, right, and then sometimes we make it mean that there's something wrong with us, but it's like no, if you just took space for you, and you know this right, as soon as you get out of a space that was making you feel really bad, it's like the emotions go away. But it's crazy how you can be near people's auras and all of a sudden feel everything and it's so like strong and it makes you feel like there's something wrong with you. We actually get even more angry than the person that's angry that we're taking on that energy, which is so wild, right. So that's why I love even teaching human design now and understanding that half the world is walking around projecting, broadcasting 20 for seven, their emotions, and then half of us open one and you're open and I'm open, we're taking it in and we're amplifying it.
Speaker 1:And so, for the people that have open emotional soil, it's so crucial you have space to be completely alone and know when you're emotional that has nothing to do with you. We're actually supposed to be cool cucumbers when we're in Zen, right. That's actually our natural alignment. It's the moment that we're very manic, anxiety, Like it's, because we just walked into an aura of someone that's defined, that's projecting, broadcasting their energy, and we're taking it in. In my house we have four people that are open and then two kids that are defined, and I will tell you, as soon as they're going through something, they walk in a room and all of a sudden, like I, get angry. It's the wildest thing, and I know like some people are not open to human design yet, but it's been pretty much of a game changer in my family too to understand like, okay, now people who would define emotional soil plexus. We're broadcasting their waves all the time, 24.
Speaker 1:Seven need to be more radically responsible with themselves and take space, especially if they're going in a highway right, like a lot of like turmoil, to not go projected on other people. And then for us, we're open. If we're naturally supposed to be Zen calm, we can actually have a still mind and be calm. It's an understanding that, like, when we're not feeling good, it's because we've surrounded ourselves with the wrong people. You, as a reflector, you know you're in alignment when your environments make you feel happy and at peaceful and at Zen, you know when you're out of alignment, when you're depressed, despair, think that there's something wrong, and that's the same thing for me. And it's just an understanding like, oh my God, I was just totally absorbing someone's stuff, let me go take space alone. And so it comes back.
Speaker 1:All of us again need emotional, emotional intelligence. Whether you know you're human designer or not. We're all either broadcasting, projecting our emotions on to people, or we are taking them and thinking that there's something wrong and it's like that doesn't work. Everybody needs to take space. I, as a six two, I'm like here really showing people like, take space for yourself. It's okay to be alone, it's okay to be a hermit, it's okay Like, and that will make you so healthy and more consciously aware of just who you are and how you're supposed to naturally feel. And that's such a big thing to like, actually focus on.
Speaker 2:Imagine if everyone knew like they're human designs and always know emotional intelligence and be like. I can see a world where they're like okay, sorry, I tend to project a lot. So if you are reflecting, okay cool. So if you take that, it's not about you, just like letting you know. Okay, like, imagine if that would be our world.
Speaker 1:I laugh, right. I laugh because like it's so woo. But if my story, if you guys know like I came from the corporate world, so it was really weird. When I first started talking about manifesting, you know, I was like corporate world to this and now I'm like teaching human design, but it's so funny. I have like a bunch of clients who are watching with like their corporate husbands and their doctors and they're like this is better than like the Myers-Burr and like personality, this is better. They're like holy crap, right. Especially the ones who have the defined emotions. So like this is why I'm always emotional.
Speaker 1:I'm like, yeah, people, if you ever look at human design, people who have like that emotional story flexes, defined, like those people will never not have emotions. They go through waves all day long. They're the ones that think that they literally are bipolar. I feel like those are people that end up being the most medicated, but they're literally going through waves. You would have to look at your gates to see what gates. But they're walking around constantly, Like from one moment they're happy for no reason, another moment they're super sad and despair and they're just like this, like in a storm, right, and so just understanding. That is so, my God, like it's changed. Like my teenagers will both have like an. Am I defined one, like they're understanding that. They're like oh my God, is this why I always thought I had bipolar or something.
Speaker 1:I'm like you know bipolar, and then I teach them the tools. It just means take space, You're in a high. It's cynical, it's temporary, it's gonna go in. This is why all the teaching goddess code, they work for people who are open and they work for people who are defined, because it's like okay, what do I need to do to process this? And what do I need to do to make sure I'm radically responsible with the fact that I'm going through a huge terminal, like huge wave to maybe I shouldn't walk in the aura. People are open and broadcast that for everybody to take on Right and then vice versa. It's like if you're open and you know you're not feeling good and you know, dominic, if you're not feeling good, it's like I need to take space out of the auras of everybody around me and then I will realign with how I'm supposed to feel right now. So that's been really game taking tail.
Speaker 1:So my like I have four spots that are open on my chart. So the emotional solar plexus and then my head and my mind, and it's so funny, so this is why I forget. But actually we're actually really wise because we're so open to universal knowledge. Like I was just doing a training on this, I'm like people hate that they have an open mind and an open head. They're like, okay, so this is why I struggled in school, because I just can't memorize things. I'm like, yes, but the thing is, is actually you're an open channel to all universal knowledge?
Speaker 1:As people who are defined, they think one way. So I have a people that surround me. They think one way. They see through one filter, through one lens. You and I oh my gosh, it doesn't matter where we go, we have inflow of like oh, this is the one way to do it. This is another perspective, and in the world it's like there is not one way to do something, not one way to look at something, and so I.
Speaker 1:What I've loved about the human design program is I'm giving people the gifts of the spots, that where they're open and they think there's something wrong with them, and it's like you're, you have access to the God portal, like divine channel to come through you with all the wisdom through time and space. I don't know if you have any feelings of like. Sometimes you feel like you can see in the future, in the past, but you are completely open. So you are literally a vessel through where all knowledge comes through. And so I like, I give, like people who are like, struggling in school. I'm like my God, 70% of the world is open head, but we have a system that defines our self worth and our intelligence based on memorization through school. I wonder why people either burnt out, become overachievers or they literally think that they're so dumb and not made for the system that they have low self worth and completely quit.
Speaker 1:And so I've been teaching this lately and people are like oh my God, this makes so much sense, but there's gifts, there's pain in your open center, but there's so much wisdom and there's so much gifts and you're not stuck, you're fluid, we're fluid baby, like like info, the way we process things, the way we feel, and it's just gotta like no, the more consciously aware that we are of ourselves and of other people. I swear it's been a game changer for me and my relationships too. It's just like oh, this is why I'm thinking this way. Oh, this is why I'm feeling this way. This is not me, but it's awareness, awareness. Awareness Instead of like what we talked about in Goddess Code is like, when you're feeling really bad, what do we tend to do?
Speaker 1:There's something wrong. So let me like tap into my impending do mind that creates scenarios that aren't even like real. And then we get in that state of panic and we start manifesting things we don't want. But it's like, no, I'm feeling something really off. This is not me. All I need to do is, at some point today, take space for myself and realign with who I am and just understand. Not feeling good, but I'm gonna hold this pressure and tension in my body until I get space to kind of process it and not make it mean anything. Don't make your emotions mean anything. You're not your emotions. They're constant, they're fluid. If you take space, you'll get back in alignment.
Speaker 2:I love that and I wanted to add here when you said about open head and how open we are to like everything and all, I go so deep to topics that I start contradicting myself so I can never really settle on, like is this the universal truth? And I'm like, nope, it's not. Because I'm digging and I'm like shit, I find evidence of the opposite and I'm like, oh wait, so it's never really stopping.
Speaker 1:No, and this is why, like, everything's apparent, everything's duality, everything is duality. There is not one way, right, like so, there's duality and everything. That's just understanding that, and I know what you mean, because sometimes I'm like, wait a minute, but there is this, this is also possible, right, but you live by your real truths, right there. It doesn't mean that open heads and defined open and I just can't have fixed beliefs, because I do, like I'm very well aware that we create everything. We are the creators of our life, we are responsible for happiness. Like, there are things that I Stand by, and then other places I'm totally open, and when I learned something and I'm like, oh, this works better, then that's perfect, right, and then I'm open for something else and then I'll change it and that's okay too.
Speaker 1:I was telling people in coach academy, like my clients, that I teach to be coaches. I'm like never online say you're definite in things you know, like, where you're. Like you should never do a free sales call because, truthfully, if you're starting, those are great to do, consultation, so you can get like a, a Testimonial to share, right. So we don't want to say that, because I have a lot of people end up being like I used to say that now I actually believe in this and I've changed my mind. World, we're allowed to change your mind. You have your truths, I have my truths, and then I'm always open to different ways of looking at something, because there's not one person that's the same. That's why defined heads if there's 30% of them, if the world's philosophy is calm your mind, that doesn't work for them and we make them feel like there's something wrong with them. So see what I mean? So there's not even.
Speaker 1:I wrote a post a couple weeks ago Like this is so brilliant because people are like I wrote about how there's not one size fits all solution Philosophy to anything. And what I say to people is that even if you don't take on my truth, you'll learn yours through contrast, because this is how we learn either learn for validation I I agree, alina, that's totally true with me or you believe the opposite, which is you learn through contrast, but either way you learn your truth. And so, even on my programs, I say take what you like, leave the rest, but either way you're going to learn through me. They're through validation or contrast, and but whether it's contrast or not, you're going to learn what your truth is, and that's what we want. We want to know what really is true for us and what works for us, and keeping that open and we get to change your mind. That's fine.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I love that and I agree with you. There are certain things that I believe as well, like, like you said, we are responsible For our life and happiness and all of that. But of course, there are certain areas when I'm open-minded, I'm like, okay, that's true, and that's also true. But I also can see sometimes both sides, and I'm like in the middle as an observer. I'm like okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah, keyword keyword. Is that something I was telling everybody? I'm like, even if you're defined heads, be the observer of your thoughts and just witness them. Never be like. This is the true, this is what it's supposed to be but just really observe them, because if you're open-headed and I'm an open-headed or anybody else is listening to this that understands human design you're going to take in people's thoughts and ideas and actually think they're your own.
Speaker 1:So this is again, why take space and as a hermit, I literally teach people. I'm like it's so good to be alone. If you really want to know what you're thinking, how you really feel, what's your truth, you've got to be alone. You've got to be at everybody's auras and tap into what is your truth here. But we're supposed to be open Because, like I said, I can only teach open heads how to meditate calmly.
Speaker 1:But a defined head needs a meditation that actually stimulates our mind, because our mind will never be quiet. So if you are a defined head, you got to make peace with the philosophy that, like no, I will never quiet my mind because it's an act of mind that's going going going versus an open head where, like, we can actually be zen and calm and observe our thoughts and just be quiet and listen to meditations, but you can't say the same thing to a defined head. This is why I love bringing a little more human design into my work, because it's actually helped people like, okay, what works for me is not going to work for you, but I have another solution. So what's great about you being a reflector is that, like you're going to be attracting clients, whether they know they're human design or not. You're going to know that some people are going to need this philosophy and some people are going to need this philosophy. But what's great about us is that because we can actually mind read. If you're an open head open a haja, I know so cool so you can read minds, you can read energy, you know very well what your client's going to need. So even if it's like you're telling one client right now about something that's helpful, the next client can be completely defined and you tell them something else that's helpful for them.
Speaker 1:That's what makes us great spiritual leaders and great mentors, in my opinion, is because we know that no two people are the same. So me saying one thing to one person is not going to be accurate for the next person, and even in my teachings in goddess code, there are some things I teach I don't do for myself anymore, but I know a lot of my clients still love blah, blah, blah. And here's like breath work, for instance. I don't practice that much breath work, but I brought in a facilitator into that program, right. But again, so it's for you. It's like, don't get in your head being like, oh, now I'm conflicting. No, it's an understanding.
Speaker 1:Every human is different, so you can't teach one thing that's going to apply to every single person, but there's universal wisdom, right. Emotions are high intelligence though. They are those universal truths, and I think, if you trust yourself I always say to myself too, I will always tap into universal truth. I always pray God, universe, thank you for this human, this soul, this client that I'm about to talk to. Let what needs to come through, come through for them and be the thing that makes them better than they came to me, and that's kind of how I trust it. Being open is good. You'll know exactly what your client needs, because you won't be able to think of an idea unless you're absorbing it from them, and then you'll be like, oh okay, well, let me decode this here, actually, because I can actually read your mind.
Speaker 2:It's so true. It's so true and I think it makes us also to pick up on like non-verbal cues that they are not even saying, like I had this conversation with one of my friends. She's not even client, but she was like you should be a therapist and I'm like you're a dentist. I hear this all the time.
Speaker 2:But thank you, I mean it's just because I'm very observant of like their issues and their problems and I can really ask good questions back and they're like, oh my God, like I can't believe that you're seeing it so clearly. I'm like, okay, you know it's just You're reflecting, you're really reflecting.
Speaker 1:It's so my, so, my open head and open aegin. I literally picks up their thoughts and the way they're processing something. Plus I open shoulder, plus is the why it's actually good for a coach to have this pick up their emotions. I know what they're feeling, I have empathy and I know what they're thinking and then I tap into my universal truth and I have it's like the wisdom comes through and that's something for you Like never, ever feel your contradicting yourself. It's just the fact that you're hearing different things and it's being like okay, this is for this client and this is for this client. But you literally tap into their thoughts, their energies, their feelings, their intuition and you reflect the back to them. That's why what's therapist up?
Speaker 1:Therapist is usually asking you questions like oh, so what you're telling me is this, and so when I'm hearing this, and why is therapy so powerful? Because it's someone reflecting back to what you're thinking. I always say this like sometimes you don't need anybody to talk to. If you were just to go talk to a tree and actually speak out your mind, you would get the guidance you need. But it is helpful when you have someone who listens, reflects back and then can tap into some universal wisdom to like, oh my God, wow, but really they're feeling healed because you're literally saying what they're already thinking, but now they're saying it out loud and you're like reflecting it back to them, so it's such a powerful gift. That's why, Dominica, you're a powerful mentor and coach. For people Like you know exactly what you're doing.
Speaker 2:And so you are, and so you are.
Speaker 1:So you know how, like everybody's always like, oh hey, being so open and all this, but no, so much wisdom, it's part of your purpose. Look what you're doing with the world. You work with clients. Of course, you have these gifts to reflect everything back on them, but also you have the boundaries, where you know like there's someone that does not make you feel good. This might be a not aligned relationship.
Speaker 2:Okay, so what are you doing for 2024? I'm so excited and curious because I know we can go forever talk about you. I know there's so much to talk about, but I just want to wrap it up and just see where you're headed in your life business.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. So you guys will see, I'm going to be launching a masterclass. I'm supposed to launch it this week Just a lot of things happening but there will be a final masterclass and it's going I have the best cool name for it, but you guys will see but it's really geared towards entrepreneurs or people who are ready to take power back in their life. The things that I'm seeing in the world is people complaining that they don't have the resources and the money. All the stuff when, again, I feel like victimhood doesn't help us get out of that. I believe that we have the power to create anything. I believe that as long as you're learning skills this is why Dominique and I love to learn. The more skills you learn, the more valuable you are. Even coaches, like there are skills coaches If you can teach people how to build a TikTok video, are reals. Do a VA work. It's not about being the smartest. It's about understanding that I have the power to make money and create anything that I want if I actually have the courage to go learn. So I'm going to be talking a lot about really tapping back into our personal power, learning that, the fact that if I want to be a valuable person or people want to pay me. I need to go learn skills. So let me take the courage to go learn skills, just like school. We all got educated but for some reason now we're like I don't want to learn anymore From a coach who can teach me how to do social media, how to sell, how to build a business, how to monetize my passion. So it's going to be a lot about monetizing passions, how to build out your social media, because it is one of the greatest platforms in the world. It's free. We're globally connected. We need to be grateful. Unless you're using it like a consumer, it's the only reason people hate social media. But if you use it as a creator, I believe that people can create generational wealth free their life, design a whole lifestyle based on their passion. I am very passionate about this. So you guys are going to love this. It will be open to anybody. If you're an entrepreneur, you'll love this, because we'll talk a lot about strategies in social media and energetics, and then I will be opening up in January.
Speaker 1:My first program is self mastery hashtag badass mode and this is the program for everybody who doesn't have the discipline and the personal power. This is all about emotional intelligence too, but more about, like, getting you to do the things you said you were going to do. At the end of the day, we have the goddess she's in charge of the emotions, but we need the badass which does the things. You can't just think about things, we need to become them, we need to do them, we need to show up on social media to build it so the people can come. And so there will be that program and there will be a social media program and a sales program, a lot of entrepreneur stuff.
Speaker 1:And then the badass self master is going to be really for people who have a hard time honoring their words. So if you have a hard time and you're still the same person every year with the same resolutions, I can tell you the reason you still have resolutions in New Year is because you don't have the discipline. So that will be the program. But stay tuned, you guys will love this master class. It's going to be kind of all but everything we've talked about, but more geared to taking our power back and using social media how to build a life and the business that we really want, in an organic way, of course, love it.
Speaker 2:I love it. Thank you so much, amina, for sharing on the Winston here again I was. Every time you come back I'm like, oh girl, I love our conversations. I love our conversations too. I love it. It's just we are flowing so well together. So thank you so much. I'm so excited for your programs and yeah.