FLIPPED Mindset Podcast
Shaping Your World with a Positive Mindset
Ready to take control of your own mindset? Brace yourselves as we embark on a journey, exploring the power of a positive mindset. We delve deep into the nitty-gritty of how our perspective crafts our reality and how we can use our mindset to shape our world.
We believe that true positivity lies in embracing your emotions, allowing them to guide your understanding and growth. This episode brings to light the significance of internal work. Life isn't a bed of roses - it's a rocky terrain, and the right mindset can transform our perception and experience of it.
Finally, we explore the power of gratitude in fostering a positive mindset. We urge you to surround yourself with likeminded souls and express gratitude for every moment that life presents you. Remember, every experience, good or bad, is an opportunity for growth. Tune in, and let's embark on this journey of embracing a wonderfully weird and brave positive mindset together.
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Ready to take control of your own mindset? Brace yourselves as we embark on a journey, exploring the power of a positive mindset. We delve deep into the nitty-gritty of how our perspective crafts our reality and how we can use our mindset to shape our world.
We believe that true positivity lies in embracing your emotions, allowing them to guide your understanding and growth. This episode brings to light the significance of internal work. Life isn't a bed of roses - it's a rocky terrain, and the right mindset can transform our perception and experience of it.
Finally, we explore the power of gratitude in fostering a positive mindset. We urge you to surround yourself with likeminded souls and express gratitude for every moment that life presents you. Remember, every experience, good or bad, is an opportunity for growth. Tune in, and let's embark on this journey of embracing a wonderfully weird and brave positive mindset together.
email: FlippedMindsetPodcast@gmail.com
Facebook: Flipped Mindset Podcast
Welcome to flipped. This is a little preface before we get into today's episode. I just listened to it. I just want to thank everyone for their patience on our audio. There is a spot around 16 minutes that the audio gets a little bad, but it gets a little better afterwards. So again, thank you for your patience. This is where we're getting started. It does start to get better, I promise. Thanks and enjoy today's episode. Welcome to the flipped mindset podcast. Hi, I'm Janet and I'm Brita, and welcome to our podcast where we're being wonderfully weird and brave.
Speaker 1:All right, today's topic. This is our second episode, if you guys join us. For our intro we were all over the place, so thank you for sticking around. And today's topic is going to be about the positive mindset. So we're going to kind of go into a little bit about why our mindset is so important and what's like what a positive mindset is versus what it's not kind of like, what society thinks a positive mindset is and what we really like, what we think it is and how it works for us. So do you have anything to say before we get started into this topic?
Speaker 2:No, but I do know what I am that when people, when, like society, thinks about positive, like being a positive mindset, you know we're going to talk about it, but it's not what you guys think it is. It's not like everything is fine, everything is rainbows, everything like that. No, that's not what it is. So I think you'll enjoy what we have to say and kind of our twist on it and actually what's been working for us. It makes us the wonderfully weird, brave people that we are Right.
Speaker 1:So let's, before we get into the positive mindset thing, there's a couple of things I wanted to talk about to kind of like kind of set some groundwork before as we start moving into this. And the first thing I want to talk about is, like our perception is everything. Our perception is reality. We hear this all the time, so it's basically what we think is our reality. A lot of people don't really always like agree with that, right, but if you think about it, my favorite analogy on this is think about if you're going to go buy a car and then you go go buy, like I would say, honda Civics, because the new Honda Civics I kind of like those. So, like it's like, okay, I'm going to go buy a new Honda Civic. Next thing I know I see Honda Civics everywhere on the road. Did the amount of Honda Civics on the road change? No, oh, it didn't. It's just now. My brain is now looking at the Honda Civic because that's what I want.
Speaker 1:So that's what it means. This is by your perception as your reality. Does that mean that we get a free pass for life? No, but that also means that we get to choose whether we're going to choose to look at positive things or negative things, because what we look at and what we train our mind to see, that's what we're going to see. So that's why you can also put like people in the same situation have the same, like you know you have a fire or something happens right, and you said you interview everybody. Everybody has a different take on it. They saw something differently because everybody has a different view, because they have a different perception. So that's why mindset and how you set your mindset is so freaking important.
Speaker 2:Just to add something on. That is like when police officers are interviewing eyewitnesses for the same thing that everybody saw. They kind of have to take some of that with a grain of salt, because it is that person's perception of what they saw. Same thing like it is yeah.
Speaker 1:Or like watching a movie you know everybody's watching the same movie and you got some people they're like that is the best movie I saw ever and somebody else going God, that was crap Right now and they saw the same movie. Or even like you know they're, they're. Everything is the same, but one person's going to walk away from it differently, because it's all depends on your mindset and where your mindset's at and what you're looking at. You know. So if you're looking at all the negative and like why is life wise? It's happening to me, oh this. You know I'm going to be pessimistic and always look at the bad things and the negative things, then guess what? That's all you're going to see. That's the kind of hot and the civic you're going to see on the road is all the negative crap versus somebody that wants to look more on the positive side of things.
Speaker 1:So when and we'll get into this a little bit more a little bit is like instead of going, why is this happening to me? Go, what am I learning from this? You know this is just. You know everything happens for a reason. Now you're seeing positive. Now I'm going to see all the positive Honda Civic. So it makes a big difference in what you see.
Speaker 1:So I want to like preference that as like our perception is reality and the thing is, is we get to choose what perception we're going to have? That's the thing that I think a lot of people forget is we just think life is just happening to us and we're just got to like kind of deal with whatever's happening. We don't realize that we get to make a choice. Every day we get to make a decision. So, like one of the things I say is like the bad news is nobody's coming to save you I'll say it again because it's really important is nobody's coming to save you.
Speaker 1:But the good news is nobody's coming to save you, which means you can save yourself. You don't have to wait for somebody else. You don't have to wait for the perfect relationship. You don't have to wait for you know, the right friendship. You don't have to wait for the right house. You don't have to wait for the right, everything to fall into the right job, the right. You don't have to wait for any of that stuff because you are what you need to save yourself.
Speaker 2:I love that I love that.
Speaker 1:So I think once we realize that, and then what I mean I know that's been a big thing for me is once I realized, oh, I have control, I can choose and I can make that choice. And a lot of people not realizing they can make that choice, and they, you know, they kind of do the, they kind of like, oh, where was I going with that? I lost my train of thought, so like I got to back up to some of it. So they don't realize that they have a choice in it and they're just kind of like meandering and then they don't make a choice. Well, if you don't make a choice, that's our, that's also a choice, Right.
Speaker 1:But when you give up, when you're like I'm just going to like life, you know what's? The other thing I always say is like you can either happen to life or let life happen to you. You get to choose and no choice is a choice which you give up your power in the choice. So the whole point of the positive mindset and what we're trying to get to is we want everybody to like, start to realize they have the choice. And if anybody can hear that, I don't know if you can, but her guinea pigs are wanting in on this too. See, they agree.
Speaker 2:You have good, positive mindset.
Speaker 1:So anyway, I got to love the guinea pigs. We're trying to get her house this time. Last time was my house, now we're at her house, so we'll see what kind of crazy noises come in.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That might not even hear in the microphone. But yeah, so we want. We want people to like start looking at you, are in control of you. How do you get control of you? And that's kind of where all this is going. In all these episodes and stuff, is your mindset flipping, flipping your mindset, flipping it to be able to look at things in a positive light, a better light? How can I turn this around? How can I do what I need to do? Okay, so now that we've talked about that, do you have anything to add before we jump into what a positive mindset is?
Speaker 2:No, I mean, I think you nailed it. Okay, I think you nailed it Other than losing your train of thought. I think you nailed it Perfect.
Speaker 1:Okay, so she's my hide girl over there.
Speaker 2:You did great, you nailed it.
Speaker 1:This is why I keep her around, absolutely All right. So now let's get into it. Like, what a positive mindset is. And I think a lot of people have this perception that a positive mindset is just I'm just gonna think positive thoughts all the time, like I'm just like no matter what happens to me, it's always like rainbows and unicorns and everything's great. Right, that is actually toxic positive mindset or positive thinking.
Speaker 1:It's okay to be thinking like you know, like positive mindset is knowing, like no matter what you go through, knowing that it's gonna be better on the other side. And Knowing, and also as a positive mindset set, is knowing like, hey, I can't run away from my feelings, I can't run away from my, my emotions. I'm, you know it's like being the brave buffalo that we talked about in the last episode is, I'm gonna face this, I'm gonna feel my feelings, I'm gonna validate myself, I'm gonna love myself and do what I need to for myself. And if that means that I have to feel like crap, I feel like crap. I feel like crap. I allow myself to feel like crap because I know there's where the positive came. I know it's gonna get better.
Speaker 1:Right as one thing it's always gonna change, right, the one positive, or the one thing we know, the one consistent in life we know, is that life is, it's always gonna change. So, even though I feel shitty right now, I can't run away from it. If I run away from it, then it's gonna catch up with me Right, we talked about this before. It's gonna catch up with you, and then it's gonna be bring his friends shame and guilt and resentment and all his little buddies and it's gonna, you know, beat you up. Yeah, but a positive mindset is like okay, we're gonna, we're gonna set here, we're gonna deal with this, we're going to allow us to feel what we need to feel. Knowing that that, you know, this is just another lesson, this is just something else for me to learn, and I'm grateful that I get to be here and feel this, and then I'll get to the other side and be better.
Speaker 2:So that's in my mind what a positive mindset is and you know we're not saying that we're against Like daily affirmations, absolutely a hundred percent. You need those. But the biggest thing is that when she was talking, toxic positive is like you're having a negative emotion and you just covered up with everything fine, everything's fine. Everything's fine because it won't like it will break through that False positive air that you put around. It'll break through. So I mean absolutely, I just kind of want to have that, but I think you can't hit them with that center. Yes, life is gonna get you.
Speaker 1:It's gonna get you hard sometimes and you can't you can't just sit and pretend like life's not gonna happen, like you can't pretend like all this crappy stuff's not happening. Yeah, it's like we were talking about earlier.
Speaker 1:Like the ostriches, it's just been there head in the sand going oh it's, I'm just not gonna deal with this, you know, I'm just gonna ignore it. I always say the same thing is like if you have like a cut that that's infected on your arm and you're just going Band-Aids over it, oh, it's gonna be okay, it's gonna be okay, it's not gonna be okay. Positive mindset it's like okay, let's go in there, clean it out, mm-hmm, take away all the bad things, deal with it and then let it heal. And that's what a positive mindset knowing once you do the hard Work, it's gonna be better.
Speaker 2:I love that and you're just gonna, and then it heals better, and you know, and that's the Debried meant that in the medical field that's what we call it we debrid that one because it needs to heal and it's gonna suck for a it is gonna hurt and suck, but knowing that I'm gonna put the work in and I'm gonna get there.
Speaker 1:And then you get to where We'll talk about this later too Like it's more of the internal and loving yourself and feeding yourself. That every time that life, when the external stuff happens to you, your internal doesn't become a Disarray. You know you're like, okay, I can handle the external because my internals good, yeah. And then I can be like, okay, life sucks, that's. You know, yeah, I have this really shitty thing that just is, you know, happening to me. Okay, I can choose, like right now I have something I'm going through that is really shitty and I feel really bad about you know, and I kind of was trying to, you know, Trying to beat myself up and like I'm so stupid and oh yeah, I have a hard time saying those words, but you know, like I feel dumb, I feel stupid, but it's like, okay, but my internal is not in a disarray because I know, no matter what happens on the external, I'm gonna be okay. I'm gonna have to feel this, I'm gonna have to forgive myself. I have to have those conversations which we'll get to, like the ego stuff. That'll be in two more episodes before I get to the ego stuff. So I'm gonna keep teasing you guys with the ego work, because the ego work is amazing and I, you know this is all prophesying getting us ready for talking about the ego. So, but that's that's the thing. Like you know, even, like so, even though I got this crazy thing that's happening to me, that that's really bothering me, I'm not letting it destroy me because I know, no matter what, I can overcome this.
Speaker 1:That's the positive mindset. Yes, you know, it's the letting myself breathe, letting myself feel it, letting myself Feel the pain. That's the other thing. We try to run away from the pain, right, like we don't want to feel pain. And the thing is is we're in a duality world. You, we have to have the good and the bad. So we decide like I don't want to feel the pain and I don't want to feel the sad. Then you're never gonna feel the joys, you're never gonna feel the high joys. Right, if I never feel the lows, I can't feel the highs. So so what we do a lot of is we numb That'll be a whole nother episode in, like the different ways we can numb ourselves because we don't want to fill the lows. Well, then you become numb because you're not gonna feel the highs. So, Coming at us with the positive mindset, flipping things around, changing our energy, knowing that we can make a choice, and sometimes it feels devastating, like there's times when life hits us really, really hard.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. So, um, and this happened pretty recently, but you know kind of, you know my history my husband, you know, committed suicide last year in front of me and anyway, so, um, with us working together, you know, changing my Mindset. But pretty recently I went to bed and I like just felt all of my traumas through the whole my whole life. It felt like all of my traumas just hit me at once and I cried and cried and cried and cried. There was a small part of me that said, okay, you just need to give up now, because my internal said this is tough, this is bad, but you're going to get through it.
Speaker 2:And at the end, after I was all cried out, I had a really good night's sleep. I woke up and I was grateful for that. That that happened. And so, yeah, it sucked having all of that trauma hit me all at once, even though I've been dealing with it a little bit at a time. But I'm grateful that that happened and I kept a positive mindset. It's hard for some people to wrap their mind around, but, but it's not going the whole time, like you know, everything's great, everything's wonderful.
Speaker 1:It's like, no, at times you got to go. Life sucks. Right now it really sucks and I validate, I validate myself and I go. It's unfair. It's unfair, brad, that you had to feel all that at once. It's unfair of what happened to you with your husband. It's unfair the way our childhood was. When you know, it's like it's acknowledging, instead of us trying to pretend it's not there and then we try to like oh, I'm just going to numb it with alcohol or I'm going to go party, I'm going to think about other things, I'm not going to go watch my favorite TV show. I'm not going to feel this, it's no, we're going to feel this, we're going to be. That's how we did breathe that one Yep.
Speaker 1:We have to look at it.
Speaker 2:Yes, we have to look at it.
Speaker 1:We have to be that brave buffalo, run towards the storm and it sucks, but actually, if you think about it like it's the least amount of painful, it's going to be. Yes, if you can look at it and go, this is I'm going to feel this. It sucks. I'm going to sit on my back porch and cry.
Speaker 2:That's what I you know.
Speaker 1:I'll do that. You know it. Allowing myself that's been the biggest thing is allowing myself to feel my emotions. Now I can be like my highs or higher because I feel my lows and I validate my lows and then, and I'm grateful, I'm actually grateful. So, like here's, another thing that we talk about is we feel we are spiritual beings living a physical body.
Speaker 2:Existence yes.
Speaker 1:Existence, physical existence, right. So our souls are here and if you look at any religion, it's kind of all the same thing, right, like Our souls are here to learn lessons.
Speaker 1:We're here to learn and grow and figure out things. So In this sorry, so in this as we go is is if we can realize that we're having this human experience. So think about it like the real person gains, right. You know we're having this real person experience. I'm here feeling this emotion right now. I am so grateful that I get to feel this emotion. I get to feel this beautiful hurt Because I know when I get over this hurt it's common to have even more joy and I get to enjoy the joy.
Speaker 1:So, that's a whole. Another thing, too, is let it allowing ourselves to enjoy the joy. Sometimes we don't let ourselves enjoy the joy. We're like oh, we finally everything's, oh, we finally get that little bit. You guys dispense her to turn those things off. It's going to make us debut and all those.
Speaker 1:So anyway, like that, that we kill our own joy sometimes, right, so we do this where things will finally start to like, we do this whole thing. We're like, oh, it'll be great when, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, and finally we get to say more like everything's calm, everything kind of meets this point where we're at, then we can start. Then we just draw our joy, like we almost don't trust the joy. We're like, oh, everything's good, what's going to happen next, you know? And we kind of versus going, hey, guess what Life, everything's gonna change, guess what? There's gonna be something that's not long, that's gonna destroy the joy. Let it destroy the joy. Let's not stop it before it happens. Let's not just go oh, I feel joy up, we're gonna stop that.
Speaker 1:Because again, if you start capping the top and capping the bottom, you're not gonna be able to experience and feel all these emotions. It's actually it's not always easy. No, yeah, that's the thing. It's not easy. None of this stuff's easy. That's one thing we get to do is like, if this is not easy, none of this work is easy yeah, it's not.
Speaker 1:But that puts us into the hard right. Everything's hard, right. Pick your heart, pick your heart. So here's another thing as, like, everything is hard, everything in life is hard. So some of the examples that we say is like getting in shape and being fit is hard. Being overweight is hard. Pick your heart right. Being in a marriage and being in a relationship is hard. Being divorced and being single is hard. Pick your heart, pick what you're gonna do. No matter what you pick, it's gonna be hard. You can pick to be in a mindset that is like life's just happening to me and this is how it is and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Right and being that. That's hard, it's hard. You're not doing any of the work, but it's hard Because you're living a life that you don't wanna live. But then choosing to live in a positive mindset and a positive side of thing is hard. It's hard to do the work.
Speaker 2:The guineas are drinking water, so you're probably picking that up, or not, just more.
Speaker 1:You're laughing, you're just laughing out of no reason, but anyway. So yeah, we're not gonna be able to do this here, so anyway. But so it's picking like picking that positive mindset and that whole like I was saying, like coming to where you're setting in your like those hard emotions. When I'm feeling these hard emotions and be like having to breathe it in and be like I have to set with this. I have to let myself cry, I have to let myself feel this, validate myself in this negative feeling and not trying to stop myself. It's hard, but I tell you what I'd rather do that than the other way, where I'm gonna say, wonder, why is my life not what I want it to be? And I'm gonna be like you know, doing some marinating and like doing this.
Speaker 2:Even though you think that you're numbing them or you're just suppressing them, you're just marinating them. So what we do is we feel them, we stop, we allow ourselves to feel them, be in the moment, feel them. It sucks, it sucks, but on the other side of that.
Speaker 1:It doesn't. It's not hard for long. It's very positive On the other side, it is very positive.
Speaker 2:And yeah, it's not hard for long yeah.
Speaker 1:So that's what this is all about is flipping that mindset, flipping the way you think. You know, we get told stories that this is just the way it is the way it's supposed to be, but it's not right, it's not, you know. So this is what this is all about. I think we talked about everything. Was there anything else that we needed to? So we're well, I think we've covered it. So this is, like I said, one of the stepping stones to get to where the real work that I, you know, talking about the ego work. This is all things that we're gonna talk about as we start opening up the dialogue to all these different topics in life.
Speaker 2:Well, I don't know if you wanna just touch on, kind of like holding the spiky ball, okay, no, that'll be for later. That's a later conversation. There's no relationship.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I know there's a trap in little things in here, but yeah, I think this is the basics.
Speaker 1:So, kari, in a summary, of a positive mindset is not. Is not always just looking at oh, it's rainbows and butterflies, everything's wonderful, life's great, everything's fine, it's no, it's looking at life through a lens where you're trying to see things more in a positive way, healing, like looking at things and like what am I learning? Instead of why is life doing this? To me, it's asking what's the lesson I need to learn? What do I need to learn so I can get through this? This is why we end up having like the same relationship. It's like like you know, like for me, right is I kept having the same relationship with the same guy. They just had different faces because there was a lesson I wasn't learning.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:And so. So then it's like okay, what is the lesson I need to learn so I can stop this, so I can stop these cycles, I can stop these things. So that's what a positive mindset is is okay. I'm gonna now take accountability for myself, my emotions, my thoughts, my mindset. I have control and I'm gonna control it. I can't control what happens to me external. I can't control what life throws at me, but I can control my reaction to it. I can control how much control it's gonna have over me. I can control what my decisions are. I can control my mindset, what I'm gonna look for, what I'm gonna do afterwards. That's a positive mindset. Okay, I think that's it right. I think that was a good. Was there anything you had to add? No, I saw my soapbox today.
Speaker 2:I know it was good, it was good, okay, so we hope you enjoyed it. Thank you for joining us, and what I always say be brave, be you.
Speaker 1:And for me stay wonderfully weird. Yes, Until next time.
Speaker 1:Thank you, all right, we're back on episode two. So first of all, thank you for your patience with our audio and I know there's a few little spots in there that's a little rough. I hope you made it through and it made sense. The other thing there's a few things I wanted to talk about real fast, and one of them is I had gotten some feedback and sometimes I use some generalizations, maybe saying like everybody has a story or everybody or all, and I just want to let you guys know this is coming from my point of view and coming from my experiences, and people that I've talked to interacted with my conclusions. So if it's not all inclusive, I want to apologize. I want this to be inclusive and if you have stories or you have things that might relate but be different, I would love to hear them. You can put them in the comments in the Facebook or you can email them to me. I will put all the places you can find me in the notes, so I would really like to hear those. Again, I didn't want to go back and record any of these. I want it to be authentic and be as we did it, but as I get the feedback and stuff. I will let you guys know when, going forward, I'm going to work on making sure that I don't make all those in generalization that everybody has these experiences. That's not my intent and so if it comes off that way, I apologize. The other thing is I say you know and write a lot, and does that make sense? This is something I'm working on a lot. When I re-listen to these a few months ago, there's something. So in the newer ones I do start to try to correct that a little bit more. That was more. That's like an ego thing on me and something that I've been working on because it's me wanting a little bit of like the validation or making sure that my point's getting across, and I'm working on it. So thank you for the patience as I work through that.
Speaker 1:And then a little recap on a positive mindset. I did post it in the Facebook and I did get a really great response on what does a positive mindset mean to you? And so one of the things that I wanted to recap is having gratitude is very, very important. Having gratitude, like as we talk about, it's not about. It's about accepting what is happening, validating your feelings and having gratitude. I think I talk about it, but I wanted to bring that up again too is having gratitude gratitude for being able to learn these lessons or getting going through this part. So gratitude is a big thing. So the other thing is I lost my train of thought. I tend to do that sometimes.
Speaker 1:It's a way of life. Positive mindset is a way of life. It's a way we choose to live our lives. It's the way we choose of how we're going to navigate our lives. So it is a choice and it's a life. It's kind of a way of life. Again, this is the way that we see it and this is how it works for us. We kind of say that at the beginning and then we start using some generalizations that it's what everybody does or this is what it is. So this is what it means to us and how we perceive a positive mindset and how we live a positive mindset.
Speaker 1:The other thing that was mentioned in the comment that I really liked was about surrounding yourself with people that are doing the same thing. We hear that a lot and that's very, very important to have. We have other people that around. Gravitating to positive mindset is always a good thing or it's a good thing. There I am with the always.
Speaker 1:The last thing on this is when you have these things that happen in life, that are you know, there's not always great things that happen in life. There are good things and then there's not good things, and one is like you know, we have a choice and we can come up with a solution to make a change, and if we can't make the change, then accepting it that's the other thing was the acceptance. Sometimes we have to accept that this is the way it is or accept certain aspects of it. It can't be changed and sometimes, by accepting it and having gratitude, we can move through it and make it work for us. So I'll probably have spanned on that a little bit more. This is the afterthoughts and I'm running over my time, but I'm really glad you're here. Please check out the Facebook like follow if you want to. I'm glad you're here and I look forward to sharing more with you.