Tesla Talks with Tianna

Taryn Neves: A Gentle Warrior's Journey

Tianna Evertsen Season 1 Episode 8

Have you ever questioned the societal norms that surround us and wondered how they shape our lives? I had the privilege of exploring this with Taryn Neves, the phenomenal founder of Gentle Warrior, a transformative women's coaching group. We embarked on an insightful road trip, journeying through Taryn's life experiences, revealing her struggles with societal norms and how her son's defiance of gender norms ignited a transformative process in her life. 

Taryn's enlightening journey took us into her unique perspective on education, revealing her unconventional approach to homeschooling. Not just prioritizing academic excellence, she emphasizes teaching essential life skills often overlooked by the conventional school system. We found common ground in our shared experiences of balancing motherhood with entrepreneurship. Taryn’s authenticity shines through in each story she shares, her passion for healing, empowerment, and self-discovery serving as a beacon of hope and strength for all women.

Our conversation wouldn't be complete without discussing the fantastic work that Taryn is doing with Gentle Warrior. The impact of this program is not just personal; it's transformative, empowering participants to commit fully to their personal growth. We concluded our chat with an uplifting note; a reminder to seize the day and give everything we've got. Join us on this enlightening journey, and you might just find your own spark of empowerment and encouragement for personal growth.

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Speaker 1:

Welcome to Tesla Talks. I'm your host, tiana Tiana, tiana, tiana. I'll be interviewing high achievers, influential leaders and those with powerful stories. Tune in, buckle up. We're about to go 0-100, real quick. Welcome to Tesla Talks. Today, we have an amazing guest. I'm so honored and so excited for this conversation and road trip. Taryn, thank you for being here, thanks for having me. Oh my gosh, this is so fun. It is fun. This is a good time. I know, literally we just started the episode, but we have just been hanging out. It's been fun. Tell me, like, how have you been? How are things going? Good, good.

Speaker 2:

So good. I mean, it was just Thanksgiving, we're getting into the holidays.

Speaker 1:

Oh my gosh, how was that so good?

Speaker 2:

Great Life's, crazy Life's crazy.

Speaker 1:

You need to take a moment to kind of just like pause a little bit and enjoy the moment, right?

Speaker 2:

Oh yeah, totally enjoy the moment. It's all good things, all good things, but it's been a wild ride. 2023 has been wild. Oh my gosh In all the best ways.

Speaker 1:

Oh, I love that. No, I feel like if you're having a lot going on and your life is kind of busy, it is a sign that there's a lot of good coming in and a lot of shifting with the universe for you, and things are just in movement.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Yes, so 100%.

Speaker 2:

I'm just grateful, just grateful to be here.

Speaker 1:

Oh my gosh, I'm grateful that you're here. So for everyone in the back seat on the road trip with us, tell us a little bit about yourself, because I am so excited for them to meet you, oh gosh.

Speaker 2:

Hi, I'm Taryn Nevis. I'm a mom, a wife. I have two kids One biological son, one adopted son. They are gorgeous, they are. They are so beautiful, they are so beautiful. I run a women's coaching group called Gentle Warrior. Yes, so that takes up the majority of my time at home school. You home school, I home school.

Speaker 1:

Holy cow a woman.

Speaker 2:

That's incredible. Thank you, yes, I just don't trust society so.

Speaker 1:

Well, so, yeah, well, these parents are honestly the most impressive. They're such a cool couple. I'm so glad that your children have you to look up to and to learn from. Thank, you.

Speaker 1:

I feel like it's got to be a very specific person or set of parents to take on homeschooling. I feel like the way you're in coaching, you're in so many positions where you're helping people grow. That's how parenting should be. It should be deep mentorship and you're the closest to your kids and they're the ones that are taking so much of what you're doing and they're observing you. Yes, so there's a lot of that learning. There's a lot of like. You know, the smallest percentage of what they learn is what you're telling them. But what you're showing them right now, what you're showing all of us, it's incredible and then like Thank you, so, so impressed with that and I know your kids are just incredible, thank you, they're gonna be just like you guys.

Speaker 2:

Oh gosh, I hope they're better than we are. But yeah, thank you. I care a lot about healing. That's why I'm in the coaching space. That's what Gentle Warrior's all about. I'm really passionate about women. I'm really passionate about women empowerment, yes, and so with homeschooling, it was like there are so many things that aren't taught in the school system.

Speaker 2:

Oh, absolutely Even just emotional regulation, how to meditate, how to have a conversation with somebody how to actually do finances, Like so many things entrepreneurship that isn't taught in the school system that I care a lot about.

Speaker 1:

Just things like it, just yeah, kind of everything, I don't know, like everything that matters, like to be an adult, it's like launch pad to adult. And then when you're adult and you're just like, hey, how do I do this, how do I Literally everything, oh, that's like so important. I feel like not everyone should be homeschooling their kids. I don't think everyone's necessarily no, probably not Like maybe equipped to teach them all those things from their personal experience and expertise.

Speaker 2:

But I think oh, I'm not even equipped to teach all that, but I know the right people You're so much further ahead than a lot of people, emotionally and success-wise and business-wise.

Speaker 1:

I feel like that is Thank you. You're incredible. You've got so many things to offer your children and also just the world. And I think I was homeschooled for a little second. While we were, my family moved to Italy and so they pulled us out of school and they got us private teachers, which was a huge blessing. Super grateful for that. But that was some time in my life where I realized, oh my gosh, you would never get this from school or experiences that you can't have if you're in school, and I feel like experiences teach us a lot and so I don't know, I feel like I love that.

Speaker 2:

I feel like you should come over and teach me everything you learned.

Speaker 1:

Oh, my gosh, because I didn't have that experience. Well, I feel like, well, it's so crazy how like, yeah, experiences are the biggest teachers, and sometimes it comes in fun packages, sometimes it's it's what it needs to be to teach us what we want it like, what we need to get from it. But Totally, oh my gosh, so okay, so you're doing all of these amazing things. Take us back to younger Terran. Tell us about her. What does she like? Oh dear, how young.

Speaker 2:

That's kidding. I was raised in a seemingly normal LDS home in Utah. My parents are married they're still married but it was a very hard childhood for myself. Based off of what happened in my childhood, that I created stories around that I wasn't good enough, that I wasn't talented enough, that I was Unlovable and I was hard that's just true. And so I became.

Speaker 2:

I was a very angry, quiet, reserved child and teenager, but I also learned to get very defensive and so, even like childhood through high school, I didn't have a lot of girlfriends. I did not do well with small talk. I did not do well with people pleasing Like if you were bugging me, I would tell you that you were bugging me. Yeah, like I was. Just, it wasn't confrontational, it was just blunt, because I learned that's how I had to be to survive. And I danced my whole life. I played piano my whole life. My whole life was very organized. I always had something to do. Gosh, even in high school I was at dance rehearsal at six AM and then I had dance till 10 o'clock at night.

Speaker 1:

So you were just active. You had a lot of things going on.

Speaker 2:

as a kid I had a lot of things going on. I didn't have a whole lot of time to like, think or process things. I was just busy.

Speaker 1:

And I loved it that way yeah.

Speaker 2:

I loved it that way as I got older. I got married when I was 20, really young.

Speaker 1:

Oh my gosh.

Speaker 2:

That's awesome, so great I met Jeremy. He is the greatest human ever.

Speaker 1:

He is the greatest human church, oh awesome.

Speaker 2:

So his parents moved into my parents ward and I don't know how many people are LDS listeners but I feel like LDS people know their terminology.

Speaker 1:

It's like a congregation.

Speaker 2:

They moved into their congregation and we were both home for Christmas because we were both in college. Yeah, we were home for Christmas and we were sitting next to our families and he kept turning around and staring at me the whole time. I was like um.

Speaker 2:

hi, that's how we met Um, and that's how I met your mother, just kidding, I was 19, so young. And then we got married when I was 20. He was 25. And yeah, I mean, that's younger me. We had a really rough start, I talk a lot about this on social media.

Speaker 2:

We talked a lot about relationships and building a good marriage. I didn't have a great marriage that I watched growing up, and so I just didn't know what I was doing Right. Um, and honestly, when you're young I don't know about elsewhere in the world, but I feel like a really common thing here in Utah is when you get married, people give you advice. You know, and it was like you're the most advice the advice I heard the most was you only have a certain amount of time to train your husband. It's like train your husband, oh yeah, meaning like put the toilet seat down.

Speaker 1:

Yeah. So you were just kind of told get, get it all set the way you wanted to be for the rest of your marriage because of the expectations. Yes, gotcha.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and like you need to teach your husband. If you want to have a good marriage, he needs to like worship you and you've got to teach him what to do.

Speaker 1:

And I which he should, because you're a goddess, I mean yes.

Speaker 2:

But also no, don't do that. Um, we just came from very different backgrounds, which most people do. Most people can't marry, but there's no like advice other than therapy, or back then there wasn't.

Speaker 1:

I mean right, there's not like a road map that will tell you this is how you navigate this, this is how you should do this. Oh yeah, no, 12 years ago.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, Um, and so we had a rough like we had a rough start to marriage.

Speaker 1:

Like the first year, like the normal first year of it. The first year was pure hell.

Speaker 2:

We actually separated our first year. Yes, and then for a short, for a short time, and then it was kind of just let's like brush it under the rug and like learn how to handle each other better. Um, and it got better, but it still wasn't like a great marriage.

Speaker 1:

It was just kind of like not at where it was, but now it's like better yeah, or maybe just like more manageable.

Speaker 2:

more manageable because we just stuff stuff under the rug, Like if there was a thing it would just like oh it didn't happen.

Speaker 1:

Like, let's just act like it didn't happen. Yes, yeah.

Speaker 2:

You know. So yeah, that was me prior to now. Really, that's what kind of started our healing journey and then miscarriages, I mean so much stuff was in there, but that was younger Taryn Angry.

Speaker 1:

Angsty Aroline yeah.

Speaker 2:

Honestly, it's not a phase.

Speaker 1:

mom, just leave me alone. It's my life.

Speaker 2:

Yes, I was. I was the peacekeeper of my house. I had to be an adult at a young age just because of everything that was going on in my life, and so that was childhood, like it was get it done, like get this done, handle it this way, communicate almost harshly, so yeah, that was me.

Speaker 1:

So when you're um so, up until the point where you got married and everything, you, you, you obviously had a lot that, a lot of emotional, like we all, like we all do. Yes, and like a lot of discovery of self. Like did you feel like you had like a good sense of self and identity at that age, or like when you got married?

Speaker 2:

No, I feel like I thought that I knew who I was based off of, how I was conditioned to believe was good or not. I cared a lot about being a good girl. I cared a lot about pleasing other people and doing what was right, but not to the point of being kind, to the point of like harsh criticism Do you know what I mean.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I feel like a lot of people can relate to that, for sure. Where it's. Almost that's the expectation and yes, and it's kind of like predetermined for you a little bit. Yes.

Speaker 2:

I was really hard on myself.

Speaker 1:

Like like being yourself was, like your identity was how you should be yes and not. I feel like this is me. I feel like this is how I feel about things. Maybe is that correct 100% 100% Do you feel like that was like. What do you think that was attributed to? Like your home life or gosh?

Speaker 2:

home, life, culture, religion, culture. So many things Right.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, so yeah, did you ever come to a point where, like, because I know, I know you now and I know you've done so much work on yourself and so much where you're in a point where you can help other people, which is so admirable and that's such a huge accomplishment but in order to like feel comfortable and ready to help others with that, like, where did your journey with self-discovery and games where you are now start? And I'm guessing that also happened kind of in conjunction with your marriage? And, yeah, because you and your husband are very, seemingly very connected and very on the same page and have a lot of similar goals.

Speaker 2:

Yes, I think it was, um, for sure, all really close. But my marriage and then I had four miscarriages, and then four, four after my first son. So I had Nixon, my oldest, and then I had four miscarriages After that. I had multiple surgeries to see what was wrong. Nothing was wrong, and so it kind of was like, ok, well then this has to be emotional. So that kind of got me on my healing journey. And then, um, our oldest son, nixon as well, he's different, he loves all things girl like, and he came that way Like at one and a half he wanted a mama doll which was a Barbie blonde.

Speaker 1:

Barbie, Like I want a mama doll.

Speaker 2:

I want a mama doll. He loved to play dress up, he loved all things princesses, everything was Elsa forever, which was just different, and we talked to a lot of people that are like, oh, my daughter's like really into sports. It's like girls being tomboy is way more accepted than boys being into girl things, right, right, um. And so a combination of all of those things were just like, you know, like what do we believe? Like who are we? Um, how do I parent this kid to love himself? Because we tried taking it away, putting him around all boy things. It didn't work. It made him hate us, and so that's really what was the catalyst for us to get on this healing journey and fix our relationship and ourselves really so yeah, wow, because, yeah, I could see how the the shoulds and like well, what do we?

Speaker 1:

I can see that in your position you're just like okay, so we have, like, what we thought we need to do in a situation.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, people who are probably interjecting, having their opinions about things, and so yeah, I feel like with anything, I feel like I think it's so important to understand why you do what you do and be so intentional because, like we say a lot on the podcast, like, are you on autopilot? Yeah, are you doing things because you're programmed to do that? Yeah, culturally, emotionally, um, uh, from either your, your upbringing or religion, or, yeah, people in school, people in your friend group, like we are so programmed to to think a certain way, right, wrong, just we. It doesn't really. It doesn't really, um, your subconscious doesn't know what is real and what is true or right or wrong when it's programmed in your early years.

Speaker 1:

And so you have to do a lot of unlearning and a lot of relearning.

Speaker 2:

Yes.

Speaker 1:

Yes, and so much I think it's so important that you guys sat down and imagining this situation that, um, you had to kind of like reevaluate and to see what you believe on so many levels I imagine, yes, you know, emotionally, um your marriage probably, I mean, I think, yeah, I feel like every level every level Sexually, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically.

Speaker 2:

Like it was like, oh, okay, when am I at? What do I believe here? All of it, right, yeah, it blew up everything. It was like, okay, we have to re if we want to make this work and not just me and my husband but like if I want to live a happy life like I got to figure this out, yeah, so yeah, do you feel like that was like, did it get harder before it got easier and more clear?

Speaker 1:

Yes, 100%. Like to hear life kind of fall apart, or was it like okay, well, let's just like make our life a little bit like an IKEA set, like a tape, like you know, just all in pieces first, and just reevaluate and then rebuild it.

Speaker 2:

Um, no, I mean, if I'm being truly honest, I do think things have to get to a breaking point before you can truly rebuild. Um, there's a saying that we want God to come in and paint our walls white, but God wants to come in and fix the entire foundation. Ooh, and I truly believe that. I truly believe that we think we have things figured out and, in order for us to actually be learning, we have to remove everything. Remove everything, and that does require a breaking point. Well, truly.

Speaker 1:

And do you feel like, obviously, everyone's on their journey and we're always growing, we're always rebuilding a little bit of ourselves. But do you feel like now is like, do you feel like you're at your destination, of where you wanted to be when you want, like you kind of reevaluated at that point? I do feel like there's still a lot to go.

Speaker 2:

Oh my gosh, there's so much to go. I am so beyond grateful and happy with where I'm at in my life and what I've accomplished and who I've become, and I have so much more than I'm chasing. Yeah, like there's so much more, so much more. I really don't believe in. Well, how do I phrase this? I don't like associating with people who think they know it all, because if you know it all, there's nothing more to learn. That's so true. I constantly want to be learning and uncovering.

Speaker 1:

I love that Right Mm-hmm.

Speaker 2:

And even when I'm teaching my clients, I never, ever, teach from a space of like I know this. It's always like we're learning this, like we're in this together. I love that and that's truly what I believe.

Speaker 1:

I love that about you because I agree, if we're not growing, then we don't need other people. We're not the worst thing. I think the worst thing that can happen is that you're not a better person a year from now, or you're not. To not reach your potential. That is my Roman Empire slash nightmare. Yes, if I am not the person that I even close to, if I'm not even trying to become the person that I was supposed to be or get closer to my potential, oh that keeps me up at night. Does that not like scare?

Speaker 2:

you Totally Like. I definitely use a fear, right, mm-hmm, like I know that I'll never be there, though that is one thing I do know, because I care a lot about growing and you care a lot about growing, so what? Is Don't let that keep you up at night.

Speaker 1:

No, totally Right? No, no, but it's a motivator. I feel like it's 100% a motivator. It's when you're not doing those things that you should be maybe like you get that like growing feeling, but if you're constantly moving, I feel like you can give 100% effort and be confident in your efforts and what you're doing, because you're never going to be perfect, not to be confused with perfection.

Speaker 1:

Exactly, you're not going to attain perfection, but I feel like, as long as you're constantly in a space in the mindset where you're wanting to grow, I feel like you're in a good place.

Speaker 2:

Oh 100%.

Speaker 1:

It's when you're stagnant and you wonder why you're not where you want to be or you don't want to. You know you're not open to being molded and being changed.

Speaker 2:

I love the fact that you use the word open, because it is all about letting in the journey of life, which does come with ups and downs, and riding that roller coaster and finding the beauty in it. That's what helped you grow Right so often, and I can't tell you how many entrepreneurs I know really, really successful people that are chasing the money or chasing the fame or the success or the perceived whatever it is, and they're avoiding the lows or they're avoiding the blind spots. If their home life is crappy, then they're working really hard to like make more money.

Speaker 1:

Like to compensate for that. Compensate for it right.

Speaker 2:

And it really is about looking at where things are falling apart and taking accountability for them and taking ownership for them. Oh, yes, and looking at it and working at it. It's not like hustling through to make it go away, if that makes sense.

Speaker 1:

To make it kind of a little bit more, not like not manageable, but just so it's more comfortable. Yes, and sweeping it under the rug, like you said, yes.

Speaker 2:

Can't sweep things under the rug.

Speaker 1:

It doesn't work. It doesn't work.

Speaker 2:

I agree.

Speaker 1:

You have to be brutally honest with yourself. Have you ever heard of that one story or the analogy about the buffaloes and the storm?

Speaker 2:

Yes, where the buffaloes go toward the storm and the cows run away.

Speaker 1:

They run straight towards the storm. Eagles do the same thing. They go straight towards the storm. And where the cows do the cows, they're running from it but they're never going to outrun it because it's just right behind it. Yeah, but you have to look your insecurities and the hardships of your life and where you're not, the inconsistencies of your life and where you're not, maybe at your optimal level, brutally honestly.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Because I believe that if you don't fix certain things in your life or you don't learn a specific lesson, it's going to keep coming back to you and it's going to come back until you learn it.

Speaker 2:

Oh yeah, and it's going to be louder and louder and louder and harder Until you realize what it is. Yeah, exactly, all right.

Speaker 1:

All right, it's kind of like a kid, exactly as a mother. You understand this where it's like mom, like and I don't know if they're hungry or they have something they need you to know like, and it's getting more and more urgent. Like mom, I'm really hungry, I have a snack and we may be busy. I don't know.

Speaker 1:

I'm sure you're a gentle parent, but just like some parents, are like I'm busy, like hey, and like it's kind of like you know you're a lot of ways to describe that but like analogies but the universe has a funny way of like mom, I'm hungry, like I need this now, and you probably get a major blowout and you're like okay not down. Yes, and like the universe will be like. Listen. And you're like I'm, listening.

Speaker 1:

Sometimes, like you said, gets down to the bottom of everything and you have your breaking point where you're like all right, I'm listening, yes, I'm listening. Okay, you got my attention, but sometimes that teaches you and teaches me where I'm like okay, be aware of the early signs and that comes with being open.

Speaker 2:

It comes with being open and aware, Exactly so you know, you know how to do it.

Speaker 1:

T, you got this. Yeah, t, t, oh my gosh. So like there are so many fascinating things about you that I honestly feel like we need to reroute this trip and maybe make it a longer road trip or just go another one, because there's so many facets to you which I find just so cool. Thank you, describe where you're at now. So we know that you're doing, gentle Warrior, describe where you're at now and give us an idea of what you're aiming for, cause you said that you have a lot bigger goals. Yeah, current Terran is just killing it. We, I'm killing it. I'm just like I'm always watching what you're posting and what you're doing and I'm just like you go, sister, like I'm so proud of you, I'm just rooting you on, oh you're so sweet, I love everyone Like what you.

Speaker 1:

You're so sweet. Where's Terran at? Where's she going?

Speaker 2:

So Gentle Warrior is my women's coaching group. I have 60 women, two groups, 60? 60.

Speaker 1:

Yes, oh my gosh, yes, and you're homeschooling and I'm homeschooling. I have a houseplant Terran. I'm actually not very good at houseplants.

Speaker 2:

Oh my gosh, really. I can have kids, I can run women, but houseplants, that's a whole new era and well half of mine are fake, I'm so sorry to admit.

Speaker 1:

So you can imagine my just admiration here.

Speaker 2:

Well don't judge your ability to care for things off of a houseplant.

Speaker 1:

Sometimes I forget to charge my car, my phone. And these are living beings and yeah, but that is in court they matter.

Speaker 2:

I know that. I know that I mean some of the plants, but a range of things right, we can hide the plants.

Speaker 1:

You can't get away with not feeding your kids. Exactly, I'm hopeful. I'm hopeful for someday. Oh, you've got this, you've got this, but that's so incredible, like how you're able to do that, and I'm sure, like they say, like it's a day by day.

Speaker 2:

Oh, it's 100% a day by day, was it?

Speaker 1:

60 out the gate? Or was that like you have groups that started a little bit smaller and then you grew them?

Speaker 2:

I. So the way it runs is I launch a group and then I typically open that same group a month after because women will see wait, I wanna be a part of this and then I'll add them in, but it's a year long commitment and so I don't add any women to that group anymore. It's a family. This really is about creating belonging, because there is healing and belonging and the content that I take them through, the teaching that we take them through. If I added somebody four months in, they just wouldn't be ready for where they're at.

Speaker 1:

Oh, just with the way that the program goes with their journey process.

Speaker 2:

Yes, exactly, and these women are family. So I actually I launched last January and it was very successful. My first launch was very successful oh my gosh, I think I had just from being very authentic on my social media and sharing my truth. People were attracted to that and the authenticity that came with that, and so I launched January of 2023. My launch weekend, I sold over $100,000 in coaching, so it's been very successful, oh my gosh, it's been very successful, that's amazing, you treat yourself right, I say that again.

Speaker 2:

How did you celebrate? I did buy myself a Chanel bag. Let's go. Yes, yes, I, yes, my husband and I created an incentive.

Speaker 1:

That's how I operate and send her a great great, you know, and I love my Chanel. And it has a story behind it.

Speaker 2:

Now no, oh my gosh, I love that which makes it so much better. Yeah, it does. But so, yeah, I have 37 women in my first group and 23 in my second group. Oh my gosh, my second group I launched in August. I had actually over 60 women apply for my group too, but I got pickier. I do an interview process. I want them to be at a specific place. I want them to be ready to learn. I want them to be ready to dive in, because we go deep, like we do really deep work.

Speaker 1:

I've seen some of the videos, like at the retreats there's breath work. I've done breath work. Oh my gosh, I'm thinking like I'm just going to sit here, like clearly not understanding breath work. Yeah, like I'm just going to relax and just be really present because maybe I just not need, I just I'm not only about my phone.

Speaker 1:

I'm just picturing this scenario and let me tell you the breath work breath is life, and I'm sure you know this and where you're holding different things in your body. Yes, we can dive into that, but for another episode we just have to do that. But, oh my gosh, it's so good. I was sobbing, taryn. I was like what's happening to me? I came in here just like life is amazing. It is. But I was like but why am I crying? Like why? And maybe it was like inner child or just stored emotions and did a lot of that happen? Did people experience something like that? Oh my gosh, am I the only one that like that happened to? Please say that.

Speaker 2:

Oh no, we all have emotion, even if it's not from something specific, like I could have felt sad last week and I didn't allow myself to process it, and then it'll come out and breath work right.

Speaker 2:

So it doesn't always have to be the big thing, but it usually is. When we start healing it's like, ok, this is inner child stuff, this is like, yeah, old stuff. But yeah, we do breath work and we've got, I mean, my last retreat. Statistically, I have a lot of women that have been raped, molested. Just because one in three women have that are recorded, oh, my gosh.

Speaker 2:

In our last retreat we had women just screaming at the top of their lungs at their abusers during breath work, which was just. I was in tears because I wasn't doing the breath work, I was helping facilitate and was holding the space, and I was just in tears because it's so beautiful to watch these women take their power back from things that have happened.

Speaker 1:

So, yeah, no, just watching the videos, I was like I need to lock myself in the closet. Oh my gosh, that's pretty cool. But I was like this is incredible, and was there ever a moment where you were maybe on the fence about doing this, or was this something that you really wanted to do and you fully were determined to do this?

Speaker 2:

So I'm a non-specific manifestor. I don't know if you've gotten to the human design at all. And which is really funny when you learn, because everything out there right now, prior to human design, was manifesting that. Get really specific, get your vision board, and I was like this does not work for me.

Speaker 1:

You're not like the scrapbook? Put the pictures on the wall. If I would do that it would not happen Really.

Speaker 2:

Oh yeah, no.

Speaker 1:

I'm the very opposite. Which?

Speaker 2:

I love.

Speaker 1:

I have that all over my, which one's different. I love that for you, but tell me about how you do it.

Speaker 2:

The way that I am is I know what I want, I know my purpose and I have a general idea of where I'm going, but God has a way better plan for what it's gonna look like than I could ever create myself. And so it's just I'm just doing the work and I'm focusing on who I am and who I'm becoming and what I need to look at, and I'm trusting. In fact, even this year I did ayahuasca For the second time. I went to Costa Regan, did ayahuasca earlier this year.

Speaker 1:

Oh, really and.

Speaker 2:

I know so much about plant medicine, but the plant medicine it's essentially a spirit from the Amazon and it speaks to you. It's kind of like talking to God. And the medicine was like, actually, this year you're not allowed to listen to any podcasts, you're not allowed to read any books, because I'm focused on teaching you what your messaging is, not what other people's messaging is. And it was interesting because that's when I launched my program and so everything in my program I wrote it wasn't and it was directly from God, through me, to who I'm teaching. And I do teach from that space, I do meditate and I focus on who I'm dealing with and who's in front of me. And so sometimes I'm coaching, I'm like I have no idea what I'm gonna teach right now and God's like, okay, let's go. And I'm like all right, and then it's great. I have a lot of thoughts, but yeah, it's been a journey for sure.

Speaker 1:

And. I'm just like picturing, like younger Teran, who the sources that you looked for those directional cues, and now like where you get your power and where you take your direction, that that was so powerful to hear you say that from this place and this space because you're open and you're allowing something greater to kind of direct you in your life. Yeah, oh, that's what it's all about. Do you guys have chills? I?

Speaker 1:

do that was so powerful because, I mean, I was telling you earlier that I came out of a five month coma and obviously I am here for a purpose yeah.

Speaker 1:

And those purposes were way greater than I could probably come up with. But I've had experiences where God's really opened up my mind a little bit at a time and prepared me for a bigger piece of it and a bigger understanding, while those are through experiences or people or just pure downloading of the bigger view of it. But and I hope that it's to make a massive impact too yeah, I'm here for a reason and everyone is.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Everyone's here. I'm here to go through the experience of being in a coma, but God has something so incredible for you and it's crazy how little we're able to actually like.

Speaker 2:

Understand or even comprehend.

Speaker 1:

Like, comprehend, yes, and like what do you want your legacy to be? I'm so curious because I know you're making an amazing and deeply profound impact on those that you are directly teaching and coaching, but I know that it's even beyond the group that you're doing for Gentle Warrior. What is your mission, your hope of a legacy, what do you want to leave?

Speaker 2:

Well, you know, my purpose statement is I inspire millions of women around the world to find and live into their Gentle Warrior selves by putting God, myself and my family first in my life. That's my purpose statement and I believe I'm accomplishing that.

Speaker 1:

I think you're right Pertaining to my legacy.

Speaker 2:

I truly don't believe that I'll be remembered to generations from now, but I hope the impact that I make is that I'm teaching other people and leading by example, that you have everything that you need within you. You are the medicine, not only for yourself, but for the people in your life and that's it, that's enough. That's what I hope that it is.

Speaker 1:

I'm just blown away by you. I really think that you are living that right now. Just go follow Teran, you'll know what I mean. It's incredible. You can tell that you are in your power. You're in this place in your life where everything you post is so inspiring, just conversations with you. You are leaving a legacy. You are leaving something beautiful for this world. I like to ask this question because I like to get to know a good general idea of where you've been, who you are and just you as a person. But what would you tell younger Teran from this place?

Speaker 2:

here now. Oh gosh, what would I tell younger Teran? That's such a good question.

Speaker 1:

You got this babe, I know there are a lot of people listening to this podcast who have been where you've been and are currently trying to figure out what they believe in, who they are, where they're going. What is advice that you would give them?

Speaker 2:

My advice is to silence the noise, get off social media, stop listening to your parents and your friends. We'll get out in nature and listen, because you already know the answer. This life isn't about learning. This life is about remembering, and you already knew everything prior to coming here. You just have to listen and remember. That's what I would say.

Speaker 1:

Teran, you're such a beautiful human in your spirit. If you can feel what I'm feeling and I hope that you can feel the chills right now oh my gosh, so good. Oh my gosh, we can go on forever. Honestly, I could talk for hours. I'm a talker. Oh, I'm a talker too. Thank you so much. Are you a cancer, by the way? Yes, I knew it. We're both tea, by the way.

Speaker 2:

Tea cancers.

Speaker 1:

Let's go, oh my gosh. I try not to be very scripted with this podcast. I've very minimally looked at any notes or anything, just to be completely transparent with everyone listening and with you, teran. I believe that there is a purpose for this podcast and I have never done podcasting before and I just felt very pushed to do this show for the purpose of helping other people become their best selves, and I'm on my growing journey as well. I'm not perfect or where I think my potential is capped at all. I'm imperfectly showing up and I just want people to know with this podcast and I know that you believe this as well that just get started.

Speaker 1:

You have amazing potential and you have been designed to do incredible and inspiring things. You are not ordinary, you are extraordinary and you have so many amazing things. I don't care what your circumstances are, I don't care who raised you, I don't care what people have told you in the past, I don't care what your friends think of you. I don't care what you think about you in the regard that it could be negative self-believes or negative self-talk. I don't care about any of that. Listen to me right now. You are extraordinary and you have a purpose and you have something incredible to do with your life. Please re-listen to that and know that there is everything inside of you, like Karen said, to do what you feel your journey is. You have everything inside of you to accomplish what you need and what you're designed and created to do.

Speaker 1:

And if you don't know what that is yet, sit with yourself and really just be calm and quiet. God, the universe and your spirit will tell you Just be calm, just be quiet, and I'm here for you. We're on this road trip together. We're on this journey together and our destination is beautiful. Yes, there's different stop signs for exits, detours, u-turns, but just know that you got this. It's so much beautiful, it's so beautiful where you're going, and I just want you to know that you got this and you're amazing. And please follow Teran. She has so many amazing things that she's sharing. She's making a beautiful impact on the world and I'm so glad we got to do this. Thank you so much for having me.

Speaker 2:

Oh, it was so fun. You're so awesome.

Speaker 1:

You're so awesome and please follow this podcast. Follow Teran, follow Gentle Warrior If it is speaking to you, please apply. If you're ready to make that change, to fully commit to your growth, please check out Gentle Warrior and have an amazing day week. Give everything you got. Talk to you guys next week.