Transform Your Life Through Personal Ownership and Gratitude

Ever wondered how some of the most inspirational figures navigate life's toughest challenges and come out stronger than ever? Join me as we conclude an unforgettable first season of the Own the Outcome podcast! Reflect on the invaluable insights shared by our incredible guests like Harry Mack, Inky Johnson, and Ryan Pineda, who have all exemplified what it means to truly own their outcomes. 

Make sure to stay tuned, share the podcast with your friends, and continue taking charge of your outcomes. The journey doesn’t end here—stay tuned for Season 2 for even more guests, stories, and ownership! 

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:09

All right, aloha and welcome to the Own the Outcome podcast. My name is Tyler Devereaux and today we're going to be wrapping up an eventful season one, man, an amazing season one. You know we've learned from the amazing people man Harry Mack, inky Johnson, ryan Pinedetta, rory Vaden, eddie Wilson Eddie may have had one of my favorite episodes on the whole season Kayla Craft, mikey Taylor, devon Kennard, emily Ford, jay Caverin, jake Steen, venegetic man there's tons, tons. If you haven't listened to all those, go back and listen. They're amazing. And all these people are unbelievable people and they have unbelievable stories because they've overcome challenges. Remember, in the very, very beginning, we talked about what the Own the Outcome podcast is. It's not just talking about the successes, it's about talking about the failures, the struggles, and these people have amazing stories because they've overcome challenges. They haven't avoided challenges, they've overcome challenges. They haven't avoided challenges, they've overcome them, they've owned their own outcome. Once again, podcast is called Own the Outcome and they have shown you how to own your own outcome. And I know you've seen that man. So, first off, it's on my mind.

Speaker 1: 1:19

Huge shout out to all y'all who have left reviews. I love seeing the reviews. It lights me up. A couple that I saw today. Corey Murphy, appreciate your review, man. You said that the podcast is a wealth of knowledge and I appreciate that coming from you. You know Corey was in our office here just a couple of weeks ago at a mastermind that we did and he's a wealth of knowledge man, I'm grateful for you. And then Dr T Karima I'm pretty sure that's how it's pronounced you said that you listened to every single episode, which is humbling, man. I'm very, very grateful for that. So thank you, thank you, thank you, and listen my actionable, my shout out to you leave a review, share the podcast. That's how we grow, but it's also I love getting your feedback on there and knowing what is resonating, and I know that the guests on the podcast come to look and see did their episode resonate with you? I'd love to see which guests are resonating with you, because this podcast is about you and helping you own, once again, your own outcome. So thank you for leaving reviews, sharing, subscribing, listening, all those things I'm very grateful.

Speaker 1: 2:27

So we also started season one talking about the challenges that I'm facing. You know, talking about that, I'm going through some of the biggest challenges that I've seen yet, and that's how life is, man, life is all about growth and I believe that God doesn't bless us with an outcome. I believe God blesses us with the challenge that we need to be strong enough for the outcome that we're pursuing. It's just what I believe, and I refuse to believe anything different, because we're going to have challenges and the whole point is man to run right through them. So some of the things that we've talked about we talked about my partner leaving and it's you know it's been disruptive. You know it's been a disruptive process. Any buyout process is disruptive. But, man, when I started you know the podcast when we started this first of the year, that was the beginning stages of it and I knew that it would be challenging. I don't think that I really knew. I don't think you ever really know. You don't really ever know what's coming down the pipeline or what those challenges are. But I will tell you that every one of those challenges, they are an opportunity for you to level up and grow, and that's what's happened. I've learned more about business, more about myself over the past whatever, however many months it's been 10 months or so than man I ever knew before. I mean multiplied, you know, double whatever I knew before. It's been amazing, you know, move my family here to Orlando which was a challenge in and of itself, you know to move away from Maui, the place that man, my family, is meant to live, that we are meant to live, be here in Orlando, and I love Orlando. Like I'll tell you that, I love Orlando. I love being here in office, I love being with my team members in office. There's so much purpose here for me while I'm here. But I'll also tell you this has been very challenging for my family, because that purpose isn't well the same, right? They're not coming into office every single day. My kids don't. So my biggest challenge is just being with my kids. You know not having their friends here, and how well. I'll give you an example of that.

Speaker 1: 4:28

One of the things that probably broke my heart the most this year is Paxton just acting a certain way you know that. You know you know not how he should act and taking having the perspective instead of just getting angry with him and frustrated with him which you know, I would like to say never happens, but it does To just have the perspective of maybe there's something bigger going on in their life, in his life, and then taking the time to just ask him about it, and so I'll tell you how that situation went. But I'll also tell you maybe do the same thing in your life, somebody that is frustrating you, not acting the way that you want them to act. Maybe there's something bigger going on in their life that we don't know about yet, and if you just take the time to ask them about it, maybe they'll finally be able to open up about it. Right? Paxton was just, you know, acting up and you know being disrespectful and doing things that he shouldn't do. And so I went into his room and I just asked him like what's going on? And he starts telling me all about Marley and all the things Marley's doing. I was like, bro, those are things that Marley does every day. Some, like you, don't get this angry every day. Like what, what is it really? And he pauses and he says that Brittany asked him who.

Speaker 1: 5:46

He said that mom asked me. He said we're going to go to Universal Studios this weekend and asked me what friends I would want to bring. And then he starts to cry and he says but I don't have any friends here. All my friends are in Maui. And dude, my heart freaking shattered because that's my little dude man and he's here supporting me and, you know, supporting, helping, support the company and everything that we do, and just feeling like that. One question that Britt asked him caused him so much stress because he just didn't have an answer to it but also didn't want to say I don't have any friends, because he wants to say that.

Speaker 1: 6:17

It's been a challenge, man, to overcome that. But I will tell you that as a family, we've grown closer together. As a company we've grown closer together and I'm so grateful for that. You know we also are in a, you know I'm in the multifamily real estate investing space and it's a tough space right now. Lots of changes, lots of market factors Headwinds is what we call them. Market factors, headwinds is what we call them. It's been a tough environment and navigating that tough environment with, I mean, you know, the main person who has been underwriting, buying and running this portfolio gone has been challenging.

Speaker 1: 6:50

But listen, I'm still here, man, I'm still here and I'm grateful for that too. And I want to give you today, as we wrap up season one, I want to help you understand the secret of how the fuck I'm still here, because if you know anything about what's going on in the backgrounds. There's lots of shit going on in the background. That's kind of the question, and I can't tell you how many times I've been asked that like why are you still here? Or how are you still here, or how do you still have the energy? And I believe it's because of the framework that I follow, the framework that I've spoken about from time to time. But I want to make sure that I drilled in this framework, which I call it the ownership framework, and this podcast is called Own the Outcome, and if you really listen to the framework and you actually not just listen but actually apply the framework, it'll be a blessing in your life and that's a fact.

Speaker 1: 7:37

So let's go through this. If you are sitting down and you have the ability to write and take some notes, take some notes. Okay, I'm going to go through seven different quick steps to help you own your own outcome. The ownership framework Number one is to identify your values.

Speaker 1: 7:53

Identify your values Like that's one thing that I just believe has been a key component for me in my life is identifying what's most important to me, my values, my beliefs, my goals, those things that truly drive the vision and the decision. It's a guide from your life right. It'll help you create a clear vision of your life and guide you in your decision-making processes. And I'm going to tell you something the level of confidence that comes by making decisions in line with those values is unmatched. It's unmatched In a life of uncertainty, in a life when there's lots of stuff that is well uncertain. It's really hard to get confused, it's really hard to make sure, like to feel like it's cloudy, it's really hard to lack confidence and decision-making. But when you know what your values are and you're making decisions in line with those values, you're making the right decisions. Now, every decision is not an end-all be-all. It comes with more decisions that open up past that. But if you identify your values and make decisions in line with those values, man, your confidence level will be massively high.

Speaker 1: 8:59

Number two is to set goals, man. When the target is clear, success is near. So set goals along those lines. Like, once you've identified what those values are, you set clear goals that align with those values. And let me give you an example of that. Some people will say that their value is they want time with family, time with family, time with family, but their goal is to make a whole bunch of money, or to be super successful or to grow a huge business. Well, man, that's challenging because those values and those goals will contradict each other sometimes. Sometimes you're going to have to lean into what your goals are. Sometimes you're going to lean into what the why is behind those goals. But listen, if you set clear goals, I'm going to give an example of this Good buddy of mine.

Speaker 1: 9:46

His name is Sam Spurrier. I sat down with Sam Spurrier Sam, if you're listening to this, I love you, bro, always love the opportunity that I have to sit down and chat with you. And Sam is an amazing dad like damn an amazing dad. He has five kids and he has five amazing kids, which is, you know, there's something to be said about that. You have five kids. There's a great chance one of them's an asshole. I don't think any of them are an asshole At least, I've never seen him be an asshole which means they're probably just an asshole at home to you, sam. So God bless you for weathering the storm by yourself, but I love those kids and so does he.

Speaker 1: 10:17

And he tells me he's in my office and we're setting goals and we're breaking down goals, which is another thing, by the way, I would tell you to set the goal and then break those goals down into manageable steps to help you achieve them. Well, his goal was time with family. I want to spend as much time as possible with family. I was like well, what does that look like, though, bro? Like, what does that? How do you know if you've achieved it? And he says well, okay, that's a good point. You know, I want to be at every single game and I go every single. You have five kids, bro. Every game? Is that even possible? Like, do they sometimes play games, have games at the like, sporting events at the same time? He's like well, yeah, I'm like, so you're, you're setting yourself up for failure. You can you actually be every single game? He's like well, no, I'm like, okay, so what else? Okay, you know what?

Speaker 1: 11:05

Man, one of the times I feel like I connect with them the most is when I put them to bed. I'll put them, I'm going to. Okay, my goal, I'm going to put them to bed every night. You're going to put five kids to bed. No, you're not dude Five kids to bed every single night. What you're going to do is you're going to rush every single one of them. You're going to rush five every? No, you're not. What about what if you had you have five kids? What if each day of the week weekdays was designated to one of your kids?

Speaker 1: 11:34

Soraya Tiank, each kid had a day and you put them to bed that day. And it was this clear, achievable goal. And now that's what he does. He sets each kid has a day and he puts those kids to bed and he spends time with them as they wrap up their day. Every day he is connecting at a deep level. Listen, that's a clear, achievable goal that makes it way more. That's in line with your values, but it's also attainable and achievable and doesn't cause turmoil in your mind.

Speaker 1: 12:07

So, number one identify your values. Number two set goals in line with those valuables and then break those goals down into manageable steps and create a plan to achieve them. Number three is to take responsibility for your choices and your actions. Dude, stop blaming other people. Stop blaming external circumstances for your problems, for your failures, for your whatever the hell you're blaming them for. Instead, just focus on what you can control and take action on the outcomes that you want.

Speaker 1: 12:33

If you and I promise you I fall into this, like anybody and everybody. We're human beings where we fall into this, because that's the thing, there are outside forces. There are outside forces that are trying to knock you off baseline and that do knock you off baseline. They're like that fucking outside force that I can't control just knocked me off baseline. That's why. But if you just own your, your outcome, which is taking responsibility, then you can shift your perspective, which is the next one we'll talk about Now. You shift back to baseline and what you've realized is now you've become stronger, more equipped and your baseline has shifted. Your baseline has shifted because you were strong enough to get back to baseline. Just remember that, man, focus on the controllables. That's the whole point of owning your outcome.

Speaker 1: 13:19

And then number four is to shift your perspective. Just perspective drives performance. Man, like there's good, there's bad, and taking ownership is shifting your perspective to reframe the bad into the good, the challenging into the good. You know mistakes, you're gonna mess up. Just prepare for it. Failure if you're not failing at anything, that means you're not growing at anything. Attack failure using an opportunity to learn and to grow and then dude, reflecting what went wrong. Identify what you can do differently in the future. That's powerful man.

Speaker 1: 13:54

Every single night, what we talk about at dinner every night, if you've ever been at dinner at my house or dinner with me. Period, we talk about wins, things that went great, and learns things that didn't go so great. But how could you shift your perspective, learn from it, become stronger because of it, and those are some of the most powerful lessons that you know we're able to have with our kids. So you parents out there, I would challenge you to you know, adopt that Wins and learns every evening of what those things are, and then find the positive within any negative man, like one of the biggest parts for me personally in shifting my perspective.

Speaker 1: 14:29

When shit is just being thrown at me left and right, challenges left and right, the question that I ask, the better question that I ask, is how is God's hand in this? How is God's hand in this for me? Like, how is this what's best for me? And you know what? It helps me turn something that I viewed as a negative into a positive, because I'm an unrealistic optimist. I will tell you that I just believe God is with me all the time. I believe that. Call me crazy, but I believe God wants what's best for me as well. I just believe it. So if something's going on, I don't blame God. I look to God like, okay, what is this supposed to teach me? What is this challenge supposed to teach me? I mean it's preparation. You know Inky Johnson, one of the interviews that I did on here he said it's not punishment, it's preparation for a bigger, better future. I love Inc as well and I love that perspective that he has.

Speaker 1: 15:28

Number five is to be proactive. Quit waiting for shit to happen. Man, be proactive, take action, create the life that you want Like, identify the things that are holding you back and develop a plan to overcome those things. Be proactive. Number six is to take care of yourself. You know, taking ownership of your life also means taking care of yourself. Brittany was telling me well, we've talked about this regularly, but Britt has mentioned to me multiple times through this whole journey, this whole journey of the last 10 months, like it's been a pretty crazy 10 months, and she's, like man, you've been blessed with energy and it's because, well, number one, I believe God has blessed me with energy.

Speaker 1: 16:06

But, number two, I also believe it's because I default to healthy habits, to exercise, to meditation, to spending time with those that I love, those who you know I pull energy from which will take me to the next one here in a second, but your mental and your physical health are essential for achieving anything noteworthy. So what are you doing? What are you doing to take care of yourself? See, when times of challenge, times of struggle, times of struggle, times when you're knocked off baseline sometimes you forget about all that shit and you're just reactive to the other shit you will not be in a mental position or a physical health position or mental to even see past the current situation that you're in, if you don't just take a second to take care of yourself. When my life seems out of disarray, I default to exercise meditation.

Speaker 1: 17:00

I take care of myself, man, take care of yourself and then number seven surround yourself with achievers, surround yourself with people who support you, who encourage you, and get rid of and avoid man, negative influences that bring you down or hold you back. Get them the fuck out of your life, dude man. Sometimes I've kept those people in my life for way too long. My superpower is I see the greatness in people. My weakness, well shit. Sometimes I only see the greatness in people, and sometimes you just gotta call a spade a spade. Some people don't belong in your life. Don't allow them to be in your life. Don't be the victim of that. Surround yourself with people who actually want to see you succeed. Surround yourself with people who pull the best out of you. They're gonna keep you motivated, focused towards achieving your goals and becoming your best self. Y'all those are the seven-step framework to owning well, taking ownership for your life, man. Identify your values, set goals in line with those values, take responsibility for the outcome, own the outcome, shift your perspective, be proactive, take care of yourself, you handsome son of a bitch. Surround yourself with achievers who aren't little bitches. And then make sure that you also step eight.

Speaker 1: 18:16

A little bonus tune in for season two, because season two is going to be bitching and I cannot wait to show you what's in store on season two, and I want to thank you for tuning in to season one. Man, I'm very grateful for all y'all who, you know, joined me on this journey and supported the guests that we have on here. We me on this journey and support the guests that we have on here. We just have amazing guests. I want to thank all the guests that have been on here. Man, I love and appreciate y'all. I've been so grateful to learn from you. So you're Actionables. Tune in for season two, go leave a review, share this with a friend and own your outcome. My friend, nothing but love, respect and gratitude, aloha.