Sober & Lit Podcast
Sober Sex & Dating After 40 with Lily Shanks / EP 109
Feb 10, 2026
Season 3
Episode 109
Susan Larkin & Ruby Williams
Have you ever wondered...
- How do you date without liquid courage?
- What happens when you stop numbing and start feeling?
- Could connection actually be easier alcohol-free?
In this episode, Ruby and Susan sit down with Lily Shanks — life + relationship coach with 7+ years of sobriety, who went from high-achieving attorney quietly struggling with alcohol… to deeply connected, emotionally sober, and helping others rebuild from the inside out.
We’re talking about:
- Sober dating + sober sex (yes, the awkward parts too)
- Learning to trust your intuition again
- Emotional sobriety & feeling your feelings without numbing
- Why real intimacy often gets better without alcohol
- Self-love, boundaries, and authentic connection
- First dates, nervous systems, laughter, and growth
If you’re navigating love, loneliness, or relationships in sobriety - especially in midife - (or you’re sober-curious and craving deeper connection), this episode is for you.
Press play and let’s explore what it really looks like to live — and love — lit. 💘🔥
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Guest Resources for Lily Shanks at My Internal Weather-
Website: www.myinternalweather.com
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/my-internal-weather/
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