Sober Sex & Dating After 40 with Lily Shanks / EP 109

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Sober & Lit Podcast
Sober Sex & Dating After 40 with Lily Shanks / EP 109
Feb 10, 2026 Season 3 Episode 109
Susan Larkin & Ruby Williams

Have you ever wondered...

  • How do you date without liquid courage?
  • What happens when you stop numbing and start feeling?
  • Could connection actually be easier alcohol-free?

In this episode, Ruby and Susan sit down with Lily Shanks — life + relationship coach with 7+ years of sobriety, who went from high-achieving attorney quietly struggling with alcohol… to deeply connected, emotionally sober, and helping others rebuild from the inside out.

We’re talking about:

  • Sober dating + sober sex (yes, the awkward parts too)
  • Learning to trust your intuition again
  • Emotional sobriety & feeling your feelings without numbing
  • Why real intimacy often gets better without alcohol
  • Self-love, boundaries, and authentic connection
  • First dates, nervous systems, laughter, and growth

If you’re navigating love, loneliness, or relationships in sobriety - especially in midife - (or you’re sober-curious and craving deeper connection), this episode is for you.

Press play and let’s explore what it really looks like to live — and love — lit. 💘🔥
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Guest Resources for Lily Shanks at My Internal Weather-
Website: www.myinternalweather.com
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/my-internal-weather/

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