What's Happening To Our Body?

Get ready to laugh, reflect, and have a good ole time on 'Get Out of the Group Chat' podcast! Episode 3 is all about the wild ride of our 30s – from body changes to mind shifts and even the shift we’ve had in our relationship with God! Our Best Friend Forever Barbara Baldwin joins the party to spill the beans on her journey in her 30’s. Tune in for a fun-filled exploration of life in the 30s – it's not your average podcast, it's your favorite group chat! ✈️

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One, two, three, four. Get your friends up out the group chat. Group chat, group chat. Wave your passports in the air. The devil, he don't like it. Stomp that devil, stomp that devil. Oh well, oh well. Woo! Welcome to the group chat. My producer's gonna kill me cause I just, yelled but today. We're excited. I am Tanzania Black. I'm Shavonda Marie. And welcome to Get Out of the Group Chat Podcast. Yay! We're excited because everything we do here is about friendship. Yes. It's about getting you connected into community because we know this, growth happens best in community. Yes it does. Yes it does. And so, um, we are talking everything friendship, what you got in that group chat that you don't want us to see, we talking all about it. And we also have A special guest, our lovely Barbara. She's like, her name is Barbara Baldwin. She just cut her off. I'm here. Yes. I'm sorry. Barbara the Baldwin is in the building and we are so incredibly excited to have her here today. She is a chef connoisseur. If you've never had chef by barb. Did I say that wrong? I said chef by barb. If you have not had food by chef barb, y'all are missing out. She's we live in Houston, Texas. So if you ever come here and you need some private catering, if you live here and you need some meal preps, you got an event, a wedding, a baby shower, whatever it is, you need to call her. She is from Mississippi. And she went to culinary school. So can you imagine the combination of what's happening? You're getting Southern flavorful, flavorful, Cuisine mixed with the expertise of the culinary field. And so we're just excited to have, we're excited to have you. So we're going to get into our topic for today. Topic for the day is what's happening to our bodies. Mm. Is my, I'm the problem. Jesus. Is it the body or is it me, Partially it might be both. It's, it might be mostly me. So let's start off with the physical first. Okay. Um, so how has your body changed in the thirties or what's something you've noticed like this? This is different. Yeah. I'll say. The process of losing weight. Yeah. That's enough. It was so much easier. I can think about, okay, listen, I'm not going to drink any more soda this month. I'm not going to eat this. And I'm talking about would drop like 15 pounds just like that. Now I think it. And I tell myself, okay, I'm not going to drink any sodas, haven't been drinking sodas in alomst a year. Not it's been a year. Not the year. I mean, I drink one once in a while, but I'm not a soda drinker anymore. And we feel like, uh, we're the problem, but right. You know, it's all about body, like you do something. Do something. Do something. At this point, do you want surgery? It don't have to be that for you. They don't like it on the table. Right. Okay? That's how I feel because it's like, it's so hard to lose weight. Yeah. You know, in your thirties. So far. And I'm almost forty. Yeah. I'm thirty five, so yeah. You know what I'm saying? We're getting up there. And my mama used to tell me that. That's the crazy part. Shout out to Mama Lewis. But, like, my mama used to tell me that, like, Okay. 20 is going to be different. You can lose all the way. But once you hit them thirties, it's different. And I'm like, no, like, no, no, no, no lie, bruh. So if you out there in your twenties lose the weight now before you hit that 30, cause it's hard. Cause the truth is I am maintaining. I've been this fat for at least the last year and a half. The fat is maintained. So I'm like, God, at this point, just lose, take the pain, take it away. And then I can keep at that weight. The weight is not fluctuating. It's staying right there. I get that. I mean, you know, I have a slew of children, but my first kid with Addison, like After I had, I had her, I got some pictures. I go back and I just be looking at all of them. I was so skinny and even then you thought you were big sometimes. I did. I was just like, dang girl, you did that? Right. And after that, this boy I just had. You said I breastfed, I did all the things. I did all the things. I lost my hair, I got the so, I don't, I don't know. Yeah, yeah. It's hard. What about the aches? I promise you when I woke up on my birthday when I turned 30, honey, I had a knee ache. The knees wouldn't work. They were giving out. My back, like my husband had to literally rub me to sleep. I had to get, I have to get massages almost every night because I promise you. The body is, is, is aching. So what about this though? Do you think you working the body harder in the thirties though? Cause he rubbed your back, but you had a night too though. Oh yeah. A day. You had a, what were you doing? Catering. I had stayed on my feet from, I think about seven that morning. I was on my feet all morning, all day. And so catering, you know, catering is a lot of people. Let me tell you something about catering. Nice. Okay. Lean in a little bit. Catering is a luxury. Yeah. Yeah. So when people give you a quote, either accept it or decline, don't negotiate with these people put on that paper. There is no negotiation. Cause we are slaving for at least two to three days. Like we're like planning from, you know, and preparation and all that. Pay what these people tell you to pay, cause it's well worth it. Cause you feel it, huh? Oh, we feel it. I feel it right now. Yeah. Yeah. So it's a lot, but the aches and the pains, ooh chow. Yeah, it's too much. It's very intense. Yeah, it's the working out like I had to I was with Joseph yesterday I had to walk up three flights of stairs and i'm just like Oxygen, where are you? Yeah, is my lungs tired? Right? Do they feel old? Because i'm not breathing right Yeah. I am. Why I gotta sound like I wet? You know you're supposed to like breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth. Cause it's supposed to help regulate your breathing. Cause if you're walking or exercising, you're breathing in through your mouth, you're, that's a lot of air. She giving these tips from her husband. Yeah. Who's a personal trainer. It'll make you hyperventilate. Just think about it. You're breathing. Trying to walk. Praying God. It, it is, it's like a lot of exertion right there. So breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth. So what, so we're talking about the physical aspect, but what do y'all think like the difference is from like our twenties and thirties with the spiritual aspect? What do you like the difference, I guess you would say? Yeah, before we got started, Barbara would say something really good. I can remember, especially when I was in college, um, I left high school on fire for Jesus. Okay. Uh, so I had been filled with the Holy Ghost for the first time, you know what I'm saying? Slaying demons. We're doing all the things right. But I would leave church and go home and I would rest, but then I'd get back up and I'd be praying and studying like on Saturday nights. My whole Saturday was devoted to being in the presence of God. Wow. That's crazy. I mean the whole Saturday. So like don't be trying to get me to go out past noon. Wow. Because I'm going home to prepare, I would literally stay up and walk the floor at night. Like that was my routine. I did, I fasted every Saturday night from like starting at 6 p. m. I didn't eat anything. I didn't drink anything. It was just, it was, it was intense. That's that first fire, like God just hit me and changed my life kind of experience. Yeah. And so now I'm, I'm in my thirties. Now I have a husband and I have four children at home. Just the four. So now on Saturday nights, like we're, we're surviving, you know, we're trying to get everybody in the bed, get everybody prepared for Sunday. And so having to be more intentional about my time that I spend with the Lord, especially preparing for Sunday, like, okay, y'all go to bed so that I can at least pray and I can study. Um, just being more intentional throughout the week too will help. But on that Saturday night, I could tell the, it's a drastic, drastic difference. I want to get back to that place. Yeah. I'll just have to. You know, get a straight schedule. You know what I was thinking about? I think when you're in your 20s, being on fire for God looks like what you described, but I don't know if we equate putting the child to bed, cooking for them as fire. And so we feel like we're not as passionate or on fire for God because we're not directly in the presence of God. We're not, we're not listening to the worship music, we're not praying, but God considers our life worship. Yeah. So that fire looks different. It may even feel different, but you are literally. on fire for God. Every day you decide to take care of your family. Every day you decide to do the thing he's called you to do, which was to be a mother, to be a wife, to be an entrepreneur, like all of that. You are on fire for God. Your fire is just different. Because my first man, my first ministry is my family. And that's what a lot of people don't realize. My husband and my children. I can't remember where it is in the Bible. It's like a man that doesn't take care of his children is infidel, which is say that again to some of the men. Cause the man didn't hear that. I don't know if they watch it, but we don't want to hit the mic. A man that doesn't take care of his family is considering an infidel and the infidel is someone that doesn't know God, doesn't believe in God, like, you know, like an atheist. Wow. Denies the power of God. So that's how God sees you when you don't take care of your family. Wow. Take care of your kids. Please. To the best of your ability. And your wife. Yes. And your husband. Right. Be intentional about those things. Because God sees it. It's worship. And when you don't, when you're not active in worship. Mmm. That's good. So yeah, so the fire looks different, you know, it looks different. I mean, I'm sure we would all just, I just remember those like worship sets we used to have for like hours, hours at a time, God just, I love you God, he's like I love you back. Oh! Ow! 30 more minutes. But now I'm just thinking about in your 30s. You talking about worshiping hours and hours and hours? When we had our service, what was that, the, um Oh, Open Heaven. Open Heaven. Tired, baby. Oh, yeah. Body wore out, taking naps. I had to go in the media room, let me just close my eyes for a moment. Like the old folks, let me just But I think it goes back to now life hits us at the twenties, you get more time to play around, do stuff. But now it's like life, you got a real job, you know, 20, you got them little fake jobs. They didn't bring no money. And so it's like, but it's like, you, you, you just play around a little bit. And then when that 30 hit, it's like, Yeah. You want more stability. You, you know what I mean? And so it's like. You got people to take care of. Yeah. You're just more serious about life. Yeah. So I think that's the, so it's like, how do we fix that part? Like what do we do? Do we make it intentional like she said or like. I think you have your perspective changes and you do got to be intentional too. Yeah. So like, she do still need to read the Bible. She do still need to pray and spend time with the Lord. It just looks different and it requires intentionality. I feel like that's like the theme of this episode. Intentionality just requires you being intentional with God to stay, stay where you need to be spiritually. And I think a schedule helps too. Yeah. I'm not a person that like to write anything down. Me neither. And so, since I started substitute teaching, I've been writing, writing, uh, things down. So putting it all in my planner for the month. And so being able to look back at it, and it's like my husband, he tells me this all the time because he likes to write everything and post it on the wall but that's not my thing. I'm a digital girl. I like to put it in my, my, my iPad and iPhone, so to write it down and to be able to look back at it and write. Mm. Mm. You didn't do that like you need to be more intentional this week You didn't do that. So make sure you add it on to this week because we have to get those things done So just writing things down and stuff. It's like the look back Because I can write the things down, but looking back to be like, woman of God, you missed these three major things. And I'd have been a came up with a whole new idea, but you didn't do the three things that you were supposed to. So looking back, that's good. Yeah. So putting it all out there. So doing it for the month has helped me for the whole month. So I can see like It's the fourth, it's the fourth week. We still got two things for the first week, I ain't even been scratched off, like, you need to tighten up. You ain't even worked out yet. I ain't worked out. I worked out, me and Kierra worked out one time. I saw. That one time we posted that shade, cause people know when you finna start your workout journey again, cause you got that one clip and then it don't show up until you work out again. I don't care, I'll do it again. Remember you said you would get that out the group chat, so let's get that one out. I'm getting it. One, one thing that has helped me though, I got an Apple watch, right? She love the Apple watch. I mean, I've been wanting an Apple watch for like, years, right, but I finally got one. But to look and see that like already my, my steps, like the first ring is already closed is so. Okay. Like motivated, like, okay, let me see if I can do it again. So like increasing my steps every day. I got a Fitbit at one point and used it at church. And I used to intentionally try to shout so I can get my Ah, you did! Jump on down, jog and play! Yes Lord! Yes, you did it! She did. We doing it? Okay, okay. Gotta meet them goals. Yeah. Absolutely. I love that. So what do you think, like, how do you think differently like now from the, from the 20s? Yeah, in the 30s now. I really didn't have too many cares and worries then. Right. So, I mean, what was the most I was worried about? Paying your cell phone bill? I mean, that's it, you know. You know, it was going to class all the time and all those things or, you know, trying to graduate and trying, and actually I was in my early 20s, you know, I became a mom too. So, And even then, I can see now that I was still very young with a baby. Yeah. Shout out to Addie pooh my, my pooh okay. But, I was a, I was a kid with a baby, right? So now, I'm working, right? But my momma's helping. There's a lot of people helping and take care of her. And so, I still, it's different now. Oh. Then they're my sole responsibility, you know what I'm saying? Um, shout out to my momma. Thank you, girl. Hey. And my little baby and my sister. The moms of the world are amazing. Yeah. To the, to the grandmas that still grandma, cause I heard they don't be grandmas anymore. Now she's, she's kind of slipping on out of her grandma. She said she's too far, she's too far right now. She's trying to reclaim her time. I'm trying to come down here cause she's like, I don't know. You know, so, I think just, I didn't have a whole lot of worries. Um. Now it's just a lot of more responsibility. So a lot of things to think through a lot. At that time I hadn't experienced much. Right? Yeah. So now I've gone through life's traumas and drama and things. So now having to fight through all those things mentally. Um, I've, I've come, you know, I've had some challenges, um, mentally in my thirties. Yeah. That I didn't have in my twenties. So do you feel like your mind is stronger or is it more tired? Tired. Gotcha. Cause I'm thinking like some things, things were happening, but I was like a little bit more resilient in my twenties. Now, life has just kind of whooped me a bit, right? So I'm struggling to get. Get up. So, you know, life's had its challenges. I'm just, I'm just trying to maneuver through it all. And then I'm just doing the work because things happen to you in the twenties, in your twenties. Now you're in your thirties. Yeah. Work through them things like dang that affected me in that way. That's another thing You're honestly recovering from the 20s and 30s while living in the 30s and trying to traumatize you To prepare you for the 40s, right, but i'm still i'm still working through the 20s in the 30s, right? But you know what I am Looking forward to my 40s because my sister when she turned 40 years old, she became so much vibrant. She was going on trips and you know, changing her hair and wearing makeup and all this in her 40s. But do, but do we think that 30s is supposed to be that? Because I've heard a lot of people. I would like for it to be. I mean I would, I would. I'm not saying. I'm, I'm not saying it, but I just think that's what they put it. Like, ooh, 30, you're supposed to be bababababa. You supposed, you know what I mean? I wanna be ba Yeah, you wanna be. So, I mean, but I, I think we put so much pressure on ourselves and that's the, I think that's the problem. Absolutely. That's why I'm a little free will pressure applied I want the trips. I want the Baba. Bye I, it, I do, and I strive it. I may not get it. I'm 39.9, but So that kind of goes to what, like. Did you expect your thirties to be this? Like, you know what I mean? I actually never thought about it. Really? I did. I'm going to be honest. The only reason why I think I'm excited about my, I feel like my forties is because they say sex is great for women and then you probably have more money, but I never really considered the thirties. I'm still shocked to this day that I'm 32. No, I How buddy? No, no. Seriously. Yeah. How I woke up the morning. How hang? I'm 36 years old. I was just 18. Yeah. What is we doing? Yeah. What is happening? speeding up the time I swear. No gotta, I didn't think life for me would be. This way. I don't think I, you know, like you, how you think sometimes like, Oh, you just gonna, you know, graduate from college, you know, get married at, you know, all that back then it was like 25, you get married and you know, life will be established by you by 30. I didn't expect this. I mean, I'm a little bit disappointed. I ain't gonna lie. I feel like, um, I lost the years, I think. That's how I feel. It's like I lost years. But you don't feel like you've gained anything that will help make the latter part of your 30s I have. Yeah, now I'm in the season of like, okay, I know what I want. I can go get it and everything like that. But I just, I'm 35, so I waste, you know what I mean? Like, I feel like I wasted some time. So, yeah. I get it. This is all Now I was going to have a baby, but I had a failed marriage. I got married and divorced in my twenties. So it was definitely different. Like my expectations for my thirties were definitely different. So we're ready for another little part of our episode. It's called friendship stories. All right. So. Hopefully she's going to read some crazy. Story about somebody that it happened in their life. And then we want to just get your advice. Do you think they need to get out of the group chat, stay in the group chat or reevaluate themselves or the situation? So when you say get, get out of the group chat. They need to stop being friends with you. Okay. All right. They all told me they had canceled their plans to go to a lake over the weekend. I found out they actually went and had replaced me with someone else through their snap stories. Mm. Give me your thoughts on that. So they cancelled the plans, went on and did the plans, and the only reason this person knows that they did another plan is because they went on Snapchat. Okay, so what I've realized is When people put stuff on Snapchat, they want you sneaky. Really? I'm new to Snapchat. I just got one the other day. I know you're not. But a lot of people put sneaky stuff on Snapchat. So is that like a sneaky app? It is a sneaky app. People have whole relationships on Snapchat. Wow. I've learned this over the years. But that's the sneaky app. It disappears. You know, it's like Okay. You know, it's, it's just. They didn't think she was going to find out probably. Correct. And then possibly it was somebody that wasn't even one of the friends, you know, it's just like. It just show, yeah, yeah. Somebody else randomly. So, the fact that it was on Snap and not on Instagram and not on Facebook is already like just some shady stuff. So, sis. Get up out the group chat. Get out the group chat. I agree. You heard it. Get out the group chat, they weren't your friends. It don't have to be ugly, you know, you saw what you saw. Yep. If somebody asks you like what's going on, you're acting different, tell what you, you know, what you saw. Yeah, yeah. And that's it. Go on about your business. They not ready. They say when somebody show you who they are, believe them. You better believe them. Yep, believe them, so. For sure. Thank you, Barbara. Thank you, Barbara. For joining us. Yes. On Get Out of the Group Chat. We're excited to have you. You're amazing. Thank you for being our friend. Thank you. And for showing up. Y'all, go to her Instagram page. Tell them where to find you. I have two pages, but you can go chef underscore barb underscore n uh, underscore co. Or, you know, go to mrs underscore Barb underscore B, both of those. Okay. Follow me on both of those. Follow her. Get all the food. Get all the things. It's going to be, it's going to blow your mind. Everything. Yes. And then follow us on YouTube by liking, subscribing, all that good stuff, all the things, and we will see you next time. Thank you so much for joining us. Get out the group chat. Why does she say that every time?