In today’s episode, host Lisa Tarkington discusses the power of overcoming fears. Lisa shares her moments when she confronted her fears head-on and became a stronger and more confident person. With insights from her journey, Lisa shares tips and strategies to empower listeners to conquer their fears and unlock their true potential.
Tune in to learn how to overcome fear and embrace confidence!
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In today’s episode, host Lisa Tarkington discusses the power of overcoming fears. Lisa shares her moments when she confronted her fears head-on and became a stronger and more confident person. With insights from her journey, Lisa shares tips and strategies to empower listeners to conquer their fears and unlock their true potential.
Tune in to learn how to overcome fear and embrace confidence!
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How do we face fear straight on? How do we overcome those feelings that we have internally when they show up for us? How do we then okay, it's in our mind. How do I become self-aware that I might be fearful? How do I overcome that to see some of the greatest things that life can bring us?
Speaker 1:Welcome to the Confident Podcast. I am Lisa Targinton, your host of this podcast. If you found yourself hitting play on this podcast, it means it was meant for you. My goal is to help empower and guide you to become a better version of yourself through conversation, advice and tips that are real, vulnerable and authentic. I am excited to have you join this journey with me. So let's get started.
Speaker 1:Hi everybody, welcome back to the Confident Podcast. I am your host, lisa Targinton, and, as always, thank you so much for showing up for yourself. Thank you so much for showing up for me and just for tuning into this podcast. It's one of my favorite things to do weekly is to bring you so many tools and tips and share my stories of struggle to make sure that you have all of the things that you need to overcome any obstacles that come your way, as well as gaining confidence. It's gonna be a fun episode. Today I'm gonna be talking a lot about some personal things in my life that have really stopped me in my tracks sometimes, but other times, how I overcame a lot of the obstacles that came my way. So let's dive into it.
Speaker 1:Because first, what I wanna share with all of you guys is that I just got back from a two week honeymoon in New Zealand. It was fabulous like highly recommend, if you've never been to New Zealand, to head over there. Now I will say the flight over there was insane. I was exhausted when we landed I think me and my husband both were. We had to fly to Los Angeles and then we had to fly into Auckland, new Zealand, where we started our trip. Now the deal was with me and my husband is that I planned our wedding. That happened in September and he was in charge of our honeymoon and he did such a phenomenal job of planning this honeymoon. So kudos to you, babe. It was just so phenomenal. It was a lot of work, though, like a lot of fun, lots of driving, and one of the things that we really wanted from this trip was to see North Island and South Island, and so we made all of the directions. We drove everywhere. I think we were in the car almost every day for three hours. Some days we got a little better of a break and then some days we were in the car for 10 hours headed to another hike. So it was one trip that I'll never forget. I think I'm still having jet lag A little bit from it, as some of us do after a long trip. But Queenstown I highly recommend. If you've never been or are you looking to go to New Zealand, queenstown was so phenomenal. It was a little mountain town Kind of reminded me of Boulder, Colorado, if you've been there and it was just so homey. Everybody is so nice there. It's a very safe community, I would say all of New Zealand. I felt very safe and during my time. There are just some quick highlights for you guys so that we can dive into today's session. But Queenstown, like I said, was amazing.
Speaker 1:My husband and I decided, instead of renting a car, we were going to rent an RV, and so we actually drove a camper van across the islands of New Zealand and so that gave us the freedom to actually freedom camp or stay at camping places instead of having to always book Airbnbs and hotels, which was such a fun time, and I also was then able to sleep in the back sometimes, and we had the long, long trips. My time with my husband was phenomenal. So we both work full-time jobs, and so sometimes it's not always easy to spend a lot of quality time together as we would like, and so it was such a great time to just really just be me and him. We have two dogs at home and so, whatever it's just even me and him, they're a nuzzle in between us, so it was just fun to be with him. We did a lot of hikes One that I'll be talking about later that I really had to overcome some fear to be able to do that as well, as my husband and I have always wanted to bungee jump. It's something that we both wanted to do before we even met each other, and so we bungee jumped, we did a bungee swing together, and it was a great time.
Speaker 1:I think one of the coolest things that I learned about myself throughout that trip was some like I always tell people to take breaks, and so I'll take breaks every now and then, because I have to practice what I preach. I'm really big on that, but I think having two weeks away really helped not only my team probably be able to manage some expectations for themselves, me be able to continue to trust and have that responsibility on others, to be able to manage things without me being there, as well as me being able to take a break to really refresh. I didn't really take much of a break in December, during the Christmas, the holiday season, and so it was a really big aha for me that how important those breaks are for me. Now I'm really big on taking some time off and things, but I don't ever take that big of a chunk of time, and so it was really refreshing to really just kind of get re-energized for work. I remember Sunday night getting ready to go back into the office, really excited Honestly, I was the first one into the office just really excited to get back into it, and so, yeah, that's really what I've been up to. I had an amazing honeymoon, an amazing time which really brought me into what I wanted to chat with you guys about today, because it had me thinking a lot of things that I had to overcome while I was on my honeymoon, which was fear.
Speaker 1:So fear a lot of times can really take over our minds. It can really stop us in our tracks and, honestly, sometimes for me, fear makes my body actually shake a little bit. So fear has two meanings is forget everything and run, or it's face everything and rise. And so when we think about fear, we can think about it as forget everything and run, or we can think about face everything and rise. And so the biggest piece of this is it's your choice. It's your choice if you wanna face it head on and rise or if you wanna run away from something. And so that's what we're gonna be talking about today is how do we face fear Straight on. How do we overcome those feelings that we have Internally when they show up for us? How do we then okay, it's in our mind how do I become self-aware that I might be fearful, but how do I overcome that to see some of the greatest things that life can bring us For me?
Speaker 1:Fear has overtaken a lot of aspects of my life, probably since I was little. Actually, it has been since I was little. Fear stopped me from Continuing to play specific sports. Fear has stopped me in my dating life over the course of the years before I met my husband. It stopped me from going after what I wanted in my career for very long time and overall, it stopped me dead in my tracks. Sometimes I would make excuses. I would make excuses about why I wasn't doing something, but if I was really being honest with myself, it was because I was scared. I was allowing the fear of the unknown really take over and sometimes my body reacted to that right like my heart would race. I would shake a little bit, maybe have some sleepless nights over it, but other times I just didn't want to get uncomfortable and what I've had to learn a lot about fear is that, again, it's a choice, right. I get to choose if I run from it or I get to choose if I face it forward and rise with it.
Speaker 1:In 2016, fearless was the word, my word of the year and literally I had a shirt had fearless written down the side of it. It was my year to be fearless. I'll never forget that it was. It was my year that I was going to just do whatever I wanted and be fearless. And looking back at that moment in my life when I was I was 20 26 at the time, so that was seven years ago. When I was 26 years old I don't really think I knew what fearless meant. I would say that I played Fear a little safe. Now, don't be wrong, I did some, some really awesome things that I'll share here in a little bit, but I but, looking back, I still played it safe, right, like I had some goals that I had for myself, but I still made sure, like I had that safety net to kind of catch me, just to make sure that if I failed or if something got or if I got scared, but I had that safety net to fall back on. Now, in some aspects of our lives, that's okay, right. But if I'm really going to be honest with myself, that can't, that wasn't my, that shouldn't have been my word of the year If I wasn't allowing myself to be fearless in everything that I wanted in my life. And when I, when I think about the moments in my life that I really was fearless, I had opportunities that I only dreamed of.
Speaker 1:When I finally got over the stories that I was telling myself in my head, the, the thoughts of okay, how am I going to move forward with this? The doors open for me, right, I think, and I think a lot of the fear for me also came from what will people think Right. So when I'm thinking about some things for my career dating, um, not doing well at a sport or something in my life it always had to do with other people. It never was down to well. Lisa, is this really what you want? And hope? The answer Was always yes, right, like I always wanted certain things, but I allowed all the stories to kind of take over, or allowed fear to take over. So I thought what I would do for you guys is kind of go down memory lane, taking us back to when I was 18 years old, um, and really Um, when fear moments came up in my life and how I overcame them. Now disclaimer, I will probably share in some of these things that fear still trickled up, but I had to overcome it. There will also be moments that, when you hear some of these things, there are going to be moments in my life where fear did take over. Fear completely took over and I didn't follow through on certain things, and so, looking back now, I just wish I would have pushed myself a little bit more and not played it safe.
Speaker 1:So when I was 18 years old, I was graduating from high school. I went to a small town, or I was small high school in the thumb of michigan, which I know that people don't always talk about. The thumb of michigan that's a michigan thing, but it was a small town in michigan and I had to move away to go to college. I got into a school in chicago. I got. I got into a school in grand rapids and I applied to a school in east lansing, michigan. So if you've ever heard of michigan state, that is one of the schools that I applied for and for years my dream was to live in the city, go to chicago for school and really build out a broadcasting degree and a career, and I remember that time of my life going with my mom to check it out and I just let fear take over. I really did. And then I was gonna go to Grand Rapids. I was gonna go to a school out there for broadcasting and then, at fear, I allowed to take over again because I was gonna be away from the boyfriend that I had at the time. It was three hours or two and a half hours from home, and so what I did is, instead I went to Michigan State. I lived in the dorms with my best friend. I didn't even get a new roommate. That was someone that I didn't know.
Speaker 1:Now, in retrospect, I will say that I had the best time at Michigan State University. It was the best time. I have still my best friend, who is my roommate in college. We're still best friends. She was just my maid of honor in my wedding. So those were some really great moments.
Speaker 1:But I think back to that moment of I stopped myself from really going after what I wanted in that moment, and had I followed through with that, I wonder what my life would have been like Now. Again, I don't regret anything. It's just a moment in my life where fear kind of took over for me a little bit. But it was also the first time that I was moving away from home, and so I'm proud of myself that I didn't let fear of leaving home take over. I will tell you, michigan State was a complete culture shock for me. The way that we dressed to go to parties, the way that people interacted, was completely different for a girl that grew up in a country, home country school. My hometown was very small, and so it really opened my eyes to a lot of opportunities. So I will say I'm very proud of myself that fear did not come over, overcome that. So I would say I think that's like 50% overcoming the fear a little bit in that goal.
Speaker 1:The next one is making like a work decision for myself. So this is where I'm really proud of myself that I did not let fear take over. So I got a job right out of college in a corporate company and within the first six months of working for them, I heard some of the bosses talking about an opportunity that was coming up in Philadelphia and they needed someone to go out there and live for the next three months. And I just happened to say I'll go. And everybody looked at me like are you sure I'm? Like, yeah, I'll go. And so they came back to me a couple of days later and they said to me like, is this something that you'd really want? And I said yes, I will do this. And they said, okay, pack your bags, you're leaving in a couple of days.
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Speaker 1:And I remember walking back to my office thinking what did I just do? I don't know anything about Philadelphia. I've never lived anywhere else out of the state of Michigan. How am I going to do this? And had I let fear take over, I never would have lived in a different city to start my journey of really loving traveling. I never would have really been on my own away from people that I know. I will tell you, philadelphia was some of the best times of my life. While it was short, it was awesome, and so that led to the next opportunity for me, where I moved to Houston and had a phenomenal time. I will say that that was an amazing time of my life, one that I'll never forget. I actually still travel back to Houston because I have found so many amazing friends from living there.
Speaker 1:And then there was a moment where I had to make a decision. I remember getting a phone call from someone saying hey, lisa, there's an opportunity for you back in Michigan. You can either stay in your role that you have in Texas or you can move back. And I think I allowed fear to take over a little bit there. Now again, everything worked out how it needed to be, but I will say in that moment I said yes to moving back to Michigan because I knew it was safe. I knew it was safe to come back home, and I found myself moving back, and that's why I still go back to Houston, because I absolutely love Texas, and so that was a really interesting moment for me of I said yes to a lot of things, but then I allowed fear to overcome one other aspect of my career, and so that's just a note for myself of noticing when that's creeping in. What do I need to do about it?
Speaker 1:Other decisions that I really made in my life were I did a lot of mission work where I flew to Haiti by myself. I went to Africa with a group, but I didn't know anybody. I did a solo retreat in Ecuador by myself with 14 other women where I learned to surf. I would fly across the United States to different places to hike by myself, and had I let fear of being alone take over, I never would have enjoyed all of those moments. I had a lot of people during that time say like, how are you doing this alone? How are you making this happen? And I just knew that these are the things that I've wanted to do for a long time, so I'm not going to get scared over it. Now, don't get me wrong. I shouldn't say that. I should say I did get scared, but I allowed myself to say these are opportunities in my life that I may never have again. I need to move forward with them. So that was a really great opportunity for me, because I didn't allow fear to take over.
Speaker 1:The next one is buying my first home. So when I was 26 years old, I decided I was done with apartments and I was going to buy my first home. Now, fear really could have taken over here, because I had to find a down payment right. I had to do all this paperwork that no one talks about when you're trying to buy your first house. I had to learn so many things and then, on top of that, then I had to pay a mortgage, right. Like that, this was mine now, and I remember in those moments being like, is this what I want to do, right? Like, am I sure this is going to plant roots here? And had I let fear overtake in that, we would not have the house that we have right now. So me and my husband actually live in the house that I bought when I was 26 years old and it's been my home for the last seven years and it's seen so many great things and it's a pretty phenomenal moment for me.
Speaker 1:The next one is buying my dog, and I'm laughing at that because I think people probably think it's silly that I even had fear over this. But I remember when I I'm sorry I had a dog growing up. His name was, his name was Webster, and he was a lab and he was my best friend. And when I graduated from college, I wanted a lab. That was the one thing that I wanted, and my parents bought me a stuffed animal lab because they were like you're going to travel all over, there's no way that this is going to happen, that you're going to be able to take care of a dog. So when I was 26 years old actually it wasn't 26, I was 28 at the time, because my dog will be six this year is that I decided, okay, this is the year that I am going to. And I remember calling my dad.
Speaker 1:So I played this a little like fearful a little bit, but I called my dad and I was like okay, so if I travel because I was traveling a lot for work at the time will you like watch my dog? And he offered that. He said yes, that he would, and so I started to go on a search for dogs and I found this dog that I was in love with. But I was like, okay, I got to think about it a little bit. And later that day the owner called me and he said, hey, the dogs are basically getting sold pretty quickly, the dog that you want some people have asked for. Do you want to move forward with this or not? And I remember sitting at Trivia with a bunch of friends. My heart is racing and I'm like, okay, I now have to make this decision. Like, do I want a dog? And mind you like I shouldn't have been scared or anything. But this was another moment in my life where now I have to take care of something, right. And so I said yes. And had I not, I wouldn't have the best dog in the world. His name's Denver. I've probably talked about him multiple times on this podcast. He's all over my social media. I love him dearly. And again, had I let fear take over, I wouldn't have gotten the dog that I wanted.
Speaker 1:Other areas in my life that fear really started to creep in but I overcame them was leaving my corporate job and to do what I do now, which is run a nonprofit called Self Love Beauty, as well as coaching and speaking. Had I stayed in that role and stayed where I was, I wouldn't be where I am today. Now, don't get me wrong. The year after was scary. Right Like I made less money, my flexibility was not there. I had to learn a ton.
Speaker 1:It was a really, really hard transition for me, but the coolest thing about it and one of the things I'm proud of myself for the most is I didn't give up on myself. I chose to face it head on and rise versus running away from it. Don't get me wrong there are still days where that nine to five working in corporate sounded amazing, mainly because of the security and because I loved what I did. But I was meant to do something else, and so I'm really glad that I listened to my heart on that. And then there was my first speaking engagement and then there was my first coaching client, and those two monumental moments for me were huge, because this is a space that I've wanted and desired to be in for a very long time, and I've been doing it for years now almost a decade and it's been really cool to see my growth. But it's also really cool to know that I'm utilizing my strengths.
Speaker 1:But had I let fear take over, if not stepping on that first stage or taking that first client, I wouldn't be where I am today and the other pieces. So when my husband and I got engaged, I really got scared. I remember crying a lot our first year of being engaged, not because I did not love my husband he's the best thing in the world but more because I was scared of the unknown. I was changing my last name, I was putting my identity in a new hat, and I knew that this is what I wanted. And had I let fear take over, oh my goodness, I would not have the best man in the whole wide world to be married to. And so had I not said yes to our first date which honestly I almost bailed on, I'm not gonna lie but I called a friend and she was talking to me like Lisa, like you're being ridiculous, like you need to go out on this first date, had I let fear take over all of those moments, I wouldn't be married to the best man in the world. And then recently. So these are two things that really like brought me to where I am today about like.
Speaker 1:Talking about fear is when we were in New Zealand. We were on a mountain hiking and we ran into someone that lives in New Zealand and she's like oh, like, what are you guys doing on your trip and my husband goes oh, we're going to do Mount Teri Naki tomorrow, which is a big summit, and her eyes got so big and she said what you're gonna do that one I haven't even done that. And she was pretty athletic and she's like there's no way, absolutely not, like that's very dangerous. She said if you guys go, you need to make sure that you tell someone that you're doing it, because a lot of people have to be rescued from that summit. And I just my body just like kind of like melted a little bit and as we're walking down the hike that we were doing, I said to my husband. I said I don't know if we're gonna do that. We need to look that one up. I don't wanna like get us into a bad position. He's like, yup, I totally understand, but you could tell like he planned the trip because he really wanted to do that mountain.
Speaker 1:And so in the morning we both talked about it and we said let's go to the mountain. If at any point we feel scared, we feel that it's not safe, we will turn around. And we did it. We did the hike. I am so glad we did. That was my favorite hike of the entire trip and I was so scared in the beginning Like I am not gonna lie Like the fear definitely creeped in there. But I'm so glad that I said okay and we made a pack in the beginning for safety. And I remember we got to a point on the summit where we were only a little bit from the top and my husband just said like I don't know, it doesn't feel really safe. And we both just agreed like okay, we made it to this point like let's turn around. And the whole way back our legs were pretty shaky because it was like a really tough hike. But how do we listen to someone else's fear and the stories that they were telling us? We never would have enjoyed the best hike we had on that trip.
Speaker 1:And so, while fear creeped in because of someone else's story, I had to choose in that moment and so did my husband to trust ourselves to make that decision. And then the other thing we did is so we both have bucket list things. We learned how to surf before we met, skydive before we met. We both very much love adventure and so one of the things we wanted to do was bungee jump, and I shared that again in the beginning when I was talking about my trip. But I knew that when I was in the States, before we headed over there, anytime I talked about bungee jumping, my heart, or my stomach, just kind of dropped a little bit. I was really nervous because I didn't know what I was giving myself into.
Speaker 1:A little bit of fear came in and then when we got to New Zealand no worries, I was like we got this. And the minute they put me in this cart to go across the track, I looked down and I saw how far I was gonna be bungee jumping down. I can't even remember the meters, but I will say that that was one of the scariest moments for me. I'm just like hanging on and shaking and we get up there and the guys are like, just like talking to me about it and my legs are shaking and I give my husband a kiss and I was like okay, I'm going first, because I don't think if I could have watched him, I would have done it. And I'm on the edge and I'm holding onto the guy behind me and I'm like please, don't let go, please don't let go, because I'm shaking him on this little area and he's like girl, I have to let you go, because if you don't let me go, I'm going to go with you and I was like, okay. And then I stood by myself Now, mind you, I have no balance, so highly recommend doing yoga or balance classes before you do this stuff and just shaking and I was like, okay, let's do this. And I jumped and I am so glad I did not let fear take over, because it was the best experience and it was something that I have wanted to do my whole life and in that moment I could have chose to run from it or face it and rise, and I'm so glad that I faced it and rise.
Speaker 1:So these are moments in my life that have really been captured in my mind as moments where I am so glad that I didn't let fear overtake some really great opportunities for my life. Now there are many other moments in my life and probably what I would say the most to everybody is if you haven't thought about when you've overcame fear, I really recommend reflecting on this because for me, the minute that I've overcame fear once, it made it easier to do it again right and to trust myself and do it again, and so I'm not going to lie. There are moments where I probably still played it safe, right Averse, taking the risk. But at the same time, I am proud of myself for the moments that I did, overcome it, and I know that those are monumental moments that will shift me into making those decisions, moving forward and being able to overcome fear. So you don't have to make the crazy decisions like I did.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying right now like go be fearless and go bungee jump. I'm not saying that. I am saying that if there's something that's been holding you back or that fear has been holding you back from I want you to give yourself a chance. It doesn't have to be crazy if you don't want to do some of the things that I said, that I've been doing, but make your own list, choose your own way that you want to overcome fear and rise. Maybe that's just making a new friend, maybe that's going to see the movie that you've wanted to see, that no one has wanted to go with you, that you do it by yourself, whatever that looks like for you. I really want you to reflect and think about how do you overcome that fear so that you can meet your goals and be your true self and reach that full potential. So here are some key things that I just wanted to share with you guys to consider when you are thinking about overcoming fear.
Speaker 1:So courage. So it takes courage to overcome fear and be fearless. So it's about confronting the things that are in front of us, not backing down and being able to take those risks and facing our fears head first. The other one is confidence. I'm ironic that this is the confident podcast, but the confidence one is all about believing in yourself. A lot of the things that, like taking on a new job opportunity or taking on new things, I had to believe in myself, right, like I had to believe in my abilities and my skills to do these things. So confidence all is about believing in one's ability and their skills, and so you have to believe that you can do it and you can right, so you can overcome and tackle your obstacles and pursue the goals that you wanna achieve.
Speaker 1:The next one is resilience. Now, many times when you are being fearless, things aren't always gonna go the way that you might want them to, but it's about if something pushes you back, how are you going to move forward. Another is embracing change and challenges. So, when you are embracing the challenges that come with fear. It is about how am I gonna learn from this, how am I gonna grow from this, instead of just avoiding it? Right, like how many challenges in our lives we're like I'm just gonna avoid that and not worry about that. And so it's really about embracing the challenge and rising above it.
Speaker 1:Next one is I think I talk about this all the time, but it's positive mindset. You have to get yourself in a good, positive, healthy mindset to be able to overcome fear. Same thing when it comes with self-awareness. Self-awareness is one of the key, essential skills that I teach to all of the coaching clients that I work with, because it is a game changer, because it helps you understand your strengths, your weaknesses, what's gonna trigger you to cultivate that fearlessness. It's going to help you be able to embody what you need to to be able to overcome the fears that are kind of growing inside of us.
Speaker 1:Another one is support system. So for me, a lot of the decisions I made, while I might have made them for myself or scared a little bit, I did have good support systems, right Like I think early on in my life I had my family and some friends, but as I've gotten older, I've had a lot more people in my life that have really helped support me, and I'm not gonna call that a crotch, I'm actually gonna call that like kind of the momentum that I need sometimes to become more fearless. And learning and growing is all about, is really important when it comes to also overcoming your fears. It's about understanding that when you are fearless, you are more open to learning and new opportunities. It helps you embrace a growth mindset and the more that you can challenge yourself to get comfortable with the uncomfortable, it is a game changer. And then it's all about taking an action. Okay, so we've talked about all of these things, but now it's about taking that action one step at a time, and I'm gonna use the bungee jumping thing for this.
Speaker 1:If I wouldn't have taken one step at a time when I was on that board, I actually don't know if I would have continued. I had to make small steps to become fearless, and when you are thinking about your confidence, when you are thinking about the person that you want to be fearless is really about overcoming the challenges, taking the risk to help you meet your goals and to believe in yourself. Like I said in the beginning, you get to choose if you run from fear or you get to choose if you want to rise, and I hope that all of you guys want to rise. After this podcast and listening to it, I know that fear is still gonna creep up in my life and I know that it probably will still creep up in your life. That's just part of one of the emotions that we're gonna feel, just like how we feel really happy and excited and sad and all of those different emotions.
Speaker 1:But it's about understanding how do I use this as an opportunity to overcome maybe an obstacle in my life, to reach my full potential. So my action for all of you guys listening and because I love giving action to my clients and so you are all getting one today is that I want you to think about something that you've wanted to do for a long time but fear has been holding you back from, and I want you to think about how do I get out of my own way to have that growth mindset, to overcome that limiting belief, to really meet that goal. Because I will tell you, as someone who has overcame a lot of fear, the other side is beautiful. It's like standing on top of that mountain looking out, being like I did this and I want each of you to be proud of that. So thank you so much for tuning into this podcast today.
Speaker 1:As I always say, continue to spread love and kindness to everybody that you meet, thank you. Thank you for tuning into the Confident Podcast. If you enjoyed today's episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, follow the Confident Podcast on Instagram and TikTok and share it with those who might benefit. Also, if you are looking to work one-on-one with me, message and follow me on Instagram at Lisa Tarkington official. Stay confident, stay inspired and until next time, keep striving to be the best version of yourself. Take care.