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20. Tackling Screen Addiction: Practical Tips for a Digital Age. Part 1.
How do you navigate the maze of screen time management for your kids without feeling like the bad guy? We've got you covered on this heartfelt episode of the Q&A Files, where joy and celebration set the stage for an important discussion every parent faces. Join us as Tony revels in the news of becoming a first-time grandparent, Dr. Jeff shares his home renovation triumph, and Trisha anticipates two new additions to her growing family of eleven grandchildren. Amidst the festivities, we shift gears to address listener Bethany's heartfelt concern about her children's screen time addiction, providing reassurance, empathy, and practical tips to tackle this modern-day challenge.
We dive deep into the practical realities of setting boundaries around screen use for younger children, acknowledging the temptations and ease of resorting to screens. Dr. Jeff offers valuable insights on how screens can be beneficial—especially during consultations—when used mindfully. We discuss the potential pitfalls of inconsistent limits and the art of saying "no" to avoid manipulation and conflict. Learn how to use screens with a clear purpose and how explaining these boundaries to your kids can make a world of difference.
Our conversation doesn't stop there. We tackle the manipulative design elements in children's games, the "dark patterns" that make it hard for kids to disconnect. Discover strategies for promoting outdoor activities and setting examples with technology use that will have your kids begging to go outside. We also touch on the generational gap in tech usage and the importance of teaching self-regulation. With a mix of heartfelt stories, humor, and practical advice, this episode promises to be a lifeline for parents striving to foster healthy digital habits in their children. Tune in and take the first step toward a balanced tech life for your family.
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Hello and welcome to the Q&A Files, the ultimate health and wellness playground. I'm your host, tricia Jamieson, a board-certified functional nutritionist and lifestyle practitioner, ready to lead you through a world of health discoveries. Here we dive into a tapestry of disease prevention, to nutrition, exercise, mental health and building strong relationships, all spiced with diverse perspectives. It's not just a podcast, it's a celebration of health, packed with insights and a twist of fun. Welcome aboard the Q&A Files, where your questions ignite our vibrant discussions and lead to a brighter you.
Speaker 1:Hello, wellness warriors. I'm your host, trisha Jameson, and I have my two fabulous co -hosts with me today. But before we dive into today's episode, I'd like to ask for a quick favor. If you're enjoying our podcast, the Q&A Files, we would love for you to like it and share it with your friends and family. Your support helps us grow this amazing community. Also, if you have any questions about health relationships or anything medical again, please don't hesitate to ask, because we would love to answer your questions, and working together to share our combined expertise and our passion is something we absolutely love to do.
Speaker 1:And if we don't know it, we'll figure it out, that's right, and so I've got Dr Jeff here with me today and Tony Overbay. I'm so delighted to have both of you with me. So let's start our show. As you know, we love to kick things off by sharing our celebrations. Listeners, I want you to also think about what you would say if you were here with us on our show. What celebrations do you have? But I've got Dr Jeff and Tony, so, gentlemen, what celebrations do you have? What's?
Speaker 2:going on in your world. Tony has one, so go ahead and go first.
Speaker 3:I do, and I want to say, whatever episode number we're on, it only took me this many to think about it ahead of time, so I'm very happy about that, and I can't remember the context I was. I was speaking at a men's group recently and we were talking about this and somebody had brought up that they had been a part of a men's group where they, just when they would ask for people to talk about celebrations, it would just be quiet. So then I felt so validated. But then, but this is also my opportunity for growth, so the celebration is actually tomorrow. After we are recording this, I will become a grandpa. My daughter is having a C-section.
Speaker 3:Yeah, cool, congratulations, and I just I am giddy about this thing. The baby already has little rolls of fat and has hair and it's all we've seen all these pictures of it.
Speaker 1:And so I don't know what I don't know. Yeah, it really is.
Speaker 2:It's amazing what you can see now. Yeah, so I'm ready.
Speaker 3:That's tomorrow are we getting a boy or a girl, or do we? It is a boy, we know it's a boy, and then? But they're holding out on the name, um, so I'm sure it's going to be tony jr.
Speaker 2:I'm sure that's the surprise exactly well, if you run out of other names, you can always use.
Speaker 3:You know, dr jeff okay, that's what I like with the doctor in there, that's awesome.
Speaker 1:Or Patrick works too, you know oh okay, awesome. Okay, congratulations. We can't wait to hear more Dr Jeff.
Speaker 2:Okay, I am just grateful, and my celebration today is that I'm excited that our house is getting to a point where we're almost ready to put it on the market. We have really worked hard all of us to get this to a place where the painting looks good. There's new flooring and a new roof and all kinds of things that we've been working on and we're excited to launch it on the market here soon.
Speaker 3:Wow, that's exciting.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you haven't just gone through it, haven't you?
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:And I never want to do it again. Yeah, no.
Speaker 1:I don't blame you at all, and so my celebration is we have two grandchildren coming at the end of the year, so we're excited about that. So we're going to have 11 grandchildren and you're on your first.
Speaker 3:I am. It's funny when you said we have them coming by the end of the year I thought man, that's planning out the vacation pretty long. But I see what you're saying they're literally being delivered by the end of the year, that's right Historic will show up in December. Okay, that makes sense, yep.
Speaker 1:All right, so thank you for your celebrations today. Now let's tackle a question from one of our listeners. This is Bethany, and she writes I have four children 14, 11, 8, and 2. The first two are boys and the last two are girls. All of my kids, all they want to do all day is be on their phones.
Speaker 1:The 14-year-old play video games or use other screens. We restrict, set time limits and have an earning system, but to no avail. They are so addicted. They go to school and that's all the kids talk about. I get so tired and worn down. I constantly feel like I'm a bad mom and that I'm failing them, because that's all they want from their friends and to play with their games. So I'm desperate. Please help me come up with some solutions. So, bethany, I just want you to know that you're definitely not alone in this struggle, but I want you to. I want you to know something. This is so exciting. So guess what? All of those warnings about teenagers and too much screen time total miss. It turns out that letting your teen spend hours glued to their phone, tablet or computer screen is the secret to perfect health and happiness. Don't forget everything you heard about screens ruining sleep.
Speaker 1:Teens can scroll TikTok until 3 am and still wake up feeling like they've had the best sleep of their lives. Worried about mental health, don't be. Hours of Instagram and Snapchat are actually the ultimate mood boosters. Depression and anxiety, nah, not for the screen-loving teen. In fact, the more they use screens, the more they glow with happiness.
Speaker 1:Cognitive development forget books and real world problem solving. Candy Crush and YouTube videos are the real brain trainers. Physical health who needs exercise when Fortnite marathons exist? Sitting for hours hunched over a screen is the new yoga. Teens can snack all day, barely move and still be as fit as a fiddle. So, parents relax, let your teens indulge in endless screen time. And who knew that the path to ultimate well-being was paved with pixels?
Speaker 2:so oh my gosh I was buying it for a second for a second.
Speaker 3:I was like, wait a minute, I've got all this stuff prepared. That is not that. But OK, I guess we're going to get controversial here.
Speaker 1:Well, this is what this is all about, right?
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 1:So, Dr Jeff and Tony, how do you feel about what I just read? Is there truth to any of it?
Speaker 3:You did say that teens and phones in the same sentence, so I guess that's true.
Speaker 1:Okay, awesome. So what I'd like to do today, though? I'd like to split a discussion into two segments. Firstly, let's delve into the topic of younger children and screens, exploring alternative activities to keep them engaged. Then, next week, we'll shift our focus to teenagers and screens, investigating the potential impact of prolonged screen time, including the prevalence of early exposure to pornography, and if that's even a thing. So let's start by addressing strategies for younger children and their screen use. So, gentlemen, what would you like to share about younger children and screens?
Speaker 3:Okay, Can I go first? Is that okay? Because I was preparing, I got, to be honest, a little bit more for, maybe, the teenager piece, because I don't do a lot with kids or kid therapy. But as a therapist I will say and I know we were talking about some of this before the mics were hot, as they say but the concept of differentiation and what do we do with our discomfort? And I do think that one of the challenges and the screens weren't so readily available when my kids were little. So I can't speak from a lot of experience here.
Speaker 3:But then in working with a lot of young parents of that, how easy it is to give a kid a screen to get rid of the parent's discomfort, because it will. It will preoccupy the kid and then the parent can do whatever they need to do. So I know that when I see that in sessions or working with somebody that is coming in for parenting tips or advice, that a lot of that is the okay, it's your opportunity to self-confront why are you giving the kid the screen so much or young? Or then let's say that the kid likes what they see on the screen, which makes sense. And so then when you try to set boundaries or limits and you try to take the screen away and the kid gets really angry. Then it's now the parent's going to alleviate that discomfort by saying, okay, 10 more minutes. But it's interesting because I don't think the kid necessarily hears 10 more minutes, they just think, okay, that worked. So now, after 10 minutes, I'll do it again and again.
Speaker 3:And the parent it's so funny when you put it in this framework but the parent then will alleviate their discomfort by saying this is the last time. There, you know, I put my foot down but the kid doesn't internalize that. This is the last time they internalize. I got to use the screen more. So I think there's a couple of those things to look at. There is a parent trying to just alleviate discomfort by putting kid on screen and I know that that would be, it has to be so tempting. And then are they afraid to set a boundary, or or how difficult is it to set that boundary? Cause I and my last little point here is, I know, as a parent of adult kids now I joke about this, but it's true where I now realize, oh, I absolutely have a difficult time telling my kids no with anything, because I just I like saying yes, it sure is a lot easier.
Speaker 1:You want to be the favorite? I do, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:And I know it. Can you know, let me go lay on my couch and I'll tell you about my childhood here for a second. But so I know I'm trying to make up for that or correct that. But so for my chair, I know I'm trying to make up for that or correct that, so for my chair, I look at that. All from that, what do we do with our discomfort?
Speaker 2:And I just think it's really fascinating. Well, I like that.
Speaker 1:I think those are some key points there. So, dr Jeff, what are some thoughts that you have as well?
Speaker 2:Yeah, Well, first of all, I see this a lot, especially when people are coming in to see me. If they are parents and they bring their small children with them and they want to have some time with talking to the doctor, all of a sudden their phone comes out or a tablet or something like that, and they put their kids in front of that and then they can talk to me. You know, in that particular instance I kind of appreciate it. Talk to me, you know, in that particular instance I kind of appreciate it. You know, I kind of want to be able to talk to them and not have the child interrupt every two seconds and ask mom for a snack or whatever they want, and so I appreciate that they do that. But what I worry about is that they're doing that in every situation where they want to kind of let the tablet babysit them so they can do whatever they want, which may include scrolling themselves.
Speaker 2:So I think a couple of guidelines that we probably should use when it comes to screens in younger children is, first of all, have a purpose. Now, if you're going to the doctor and you need to have some alone time but you have to bring your children with you, then using it and telling the child what you're doing and why you're doing it, and that it's only during this time, then they can at least understand a little bit more about what's happening. So if you're just throwing them in front of them and don't, and there's no explanation prior to or that there will be an end to it, then they do get angry and they do get upset, like they want to just keep watching or playing their game or doing whatever they're doing. So having an understanding of what the purpose is, I like that, yeah.
Speaker 2:And then, secondly, I think that screens can be really good for the kids that are from three to 10 when you're doing something educational, but it needs to have some education in mind and you really need to do it with them. If you're a parent and you want to make sure that your child has some learning opportunities, that there's so many of them on tablets and phones and so on, fine, do it for a set period of time and have a goal in mind. Don't just say here, go do this, tell me when you're done, do it with them, help them through it, help them learn the pitfalls and things that can be good or bad by it. And then my other point on this is that I find that there are kids that use their screens as a way to connect with other kids, which can be a good thing, but it also can be a bad thing. So parents need to make sure that they speak to their children about what the purpose of the phone or the tablet is in connecting with another friend. And it's interesting because girls usually connect a little better with others online than boys do, kind of like, in real life, but they're also more susceptible to bullying and coercion through those means as well. So you have to be very careful on both boys and girls, but girls especially if you start allowing them to connect with other people on social media and whatever.
Speaker 2:And lastly, it's a return to going back to make sure that a child has a purpose for their screen use. If they have a screen time set aside, that it's a certain amount of time and that they're doing it for some educational purpose, then they aren't going to be surprised when, okay, your time is up and maybe give them a five-minute warning so they don't feel to be surprised when, okay, your time is up and maybe give them a five-minute warning so they don't feel like you just pulled their half-eaten plate of dinner out from under them and say, sorry, your time's up, but you want to make sure that they have a little bit of warning so that they know that they've got a little bit of time left to go. So those are a couple of thoughts I have yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 3:Dr Jeff, what I like is kind of going back to that.
Speaker 3:The boundary thing, you know, is if you aren't done, then I will take it from you, or you know not the okay you need to get off the device, because that's an ultimatum. If you don't, then and so I do think if I had to go back in the time machine and do some of that parenting stuff over again, I was pretty flimsy with my boundaries and so I like so much of what you're. It sounds like I'm saying I like some of what you're saying, I like all of what you're saying, but I think I liked it. For me it brought up this feeling of gosh. I know that a kid is going to, they're going to push boundaries because that's their job, and then it's my opportunity to hold a boundary and then still show love or care, and and so I. But I really liked that if you're doing it more intentionally and with purpose and doing that with them and an educational, but then they're still probably going to ask for more time and and that's your opportunity to be uncomfortable, but then hold that boundary.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I think that those are really good.
Speaker 2:The other thing that's interesting that the data is still kind of forthcoming on, and that's what impact on child development do these screens have and is it positive, is it negative and what are those things? It's still a little bit unknown because this whole process is continually evolving and what we had five years ago, as far as our screen ability, is now completely different. So being able to take five-year-old data and have it somehow apply to current is not very effective to current is not very effective, and so having this evolving conversation is really important, and what parents need to do is talk to each other and then talk to their healthcare providers and see, if they're having a problem, what opportunities you might have to encourage better screen time use and to make sure that it's done in a healthy way.
Speaker 1:So I'm actually going to disagree with you a little bit, because there's like 20 years now of data and it's becoming more and more clear of what is happening to our children's brains. And there's actually and it's interesting too because children want to mimic their parents, and so whatever the parent is doing, that's what the children want to do. And so when we find ourselves and we all do it we are on our phones and potentially passively scrolling or watching videos or whatever it is. We're on social media. What do our children want to do? Well, they want to do the same thing, and so then it's really difficult, as you know, how difficult is it as a child to be told no, you can't do all these things when the parent, that's what they do and you know whether or not and I.
Speaker 1:One of the things that I try to do with our son and Jeff brought this up too, which I really appreciated and that is I try to let him know I'm sending an email to a client, I'm whether it's I'm listening to a podcast on this particular subject. So he knows that I'm just not, you know, that's not my focus, but I try to still take my earbuds out and pay attention to him when he walks in the door and ask him questions and be present, and I think that's where a lot of our we're frustrated with our children, but how present are we as parents?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I like that we find ourselves sitting on a couch and we're scrolling and doing all the things.
Speaker 2:Even a virtual couch, exactly.
Speaker 3:Exactly.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but they get in trouble if they are on their phones too much or if they're doing too much of whatever it may be, and we just have to be more cognizant of what it is that we are doing as parents and setting that example. So I want to also talk about. There's a doctor her name is Katie Davis and she's out of the University of Washington. A doctor, her name is Katie Davis and she's out of the University of Washington. She was actually giving a talk and it was a Harvard reporter who was asking her these questions. But she talks about and I actually really appreciated some of the things that you brought up, jeff, because she talks about two key things that she looks for with technology, and number one is that technology is self-directed, allowing the child to be in control. What she's looking for is can a child be working on something, whether it's a paint app or something that they can still interact with the parent and they don't get frustrated? And that is fostering independence and creativity and they're actually able to direct their own activities and they learn to have the power to make their own choices. So that's going to be a really important piece, and she brings up a lot of different apps that you can use. There's something called like Pepper's Paint Box and Taco Baco. These are for like drawing, painting, designing and letting children explore their own creativity at their own pace Super important. And then the second question she asked is the technology community supported, meaning it is engaged with others during or around its use. So that part is really important. And again, jeff brought that up as well, and that is how, when a child is on their device, how is their social interaction, collaboration, communication, how are they enhancing this learning and experience around them? And children develop more important social skills. So I think that that's going to be super important and just even things like FaceTime and Zoom calls or something like that. Children can be more interactive with grandparents or friends if they've moved or whatnot. So those interactions are going to be particularly valuable and they can, like I said, maintain connections with distant family members and friends as well.
Speaker 1:And so one of the things that she did bring up and I thought that this was really fascinating and I'm trying to look at it real quick, but it's something like dark patterns and what that is is when a child is trying to exit the game, there'll be like a little emoji of the character crying, the game. There'll be like a little emoji of the character crying, and so what happens is the child feels bad for this character because they don't want this character to be crying, and so it makes them want to continue playing. It makes them feel guilty or bad, and so these are some of the dark patterns that these users use to entice children to continue playing, and a lot of times even like when they are getting rewarded with tokens or something like that, you know, they just want more and more and more, and so that's a dark pattern that she talks about. So one of the things that I was thinking about what can you do instead? And a couple of things that came to mind were first of all, we've got to set a better example for our children, and the more we emulate good behaviors for our technology, then the more our children will as well, because they're coming down more and more equipped with hey, I want a device in my hand, you know. So I think we need to really pay attention to this. We're creating this as parents, and if you enjoy outdoor activities, they will want to join in with you, so try to pay attention to that, and it's create a regular, established time for outdoor. So we're talking about outdoor use. So this could be a daily walk after dinner, weekend hikes or scheduled play dates at the park. So that's going to get kids away from the computer, away from, you know, staying inside, getting them outside, fresh air. It's beautiful outside now and fresh air, sunlight does wonderful things for a child and for us as parents as well. Provide the right equipment, so that's having access to bikes, scooters, balls or other outdoor toys can make outdoor activities so much more appealing.
Speaker 1:Plan outdoor adventures, make outdoor time exiting. You know, like as you leave the house, focus on how much fun you can have outside. Planning special activities like camping trips, picnics, nature scavenger hunts, discover local parks Our kids love taking their kids to the park and that's been really fun on trails, nature reserves, anything like that and encourage social play. Organize play dates with friends or neighbors, and children are often more motivated to play outside when they have peers to interact with.
Speaker 1:Incorporate learning Turn outdoor time into learning experience. Active activities like gardening, birdwatching or exploring different plant and animal species can be both educational fun and then you know if you want to look it up on your phone and say, hey, this is this kind of plant or this kind of animal and then you can read about it. So that is the engaging that Jeff was talking about, for focusing on making these technology experiences more of a learning experience and then limiting time use on your computer screen. So it's important and I know, just like we talked about, it gets exhausting. They won't stop asking, but if they know that you're going to hold tight to a boundary, they will not try to cross that boundary. No, they may try, but you're going to stay tight to that boundary. So using apps or built-in device settings to manage a monitor screen usage is so critical and we're going to talk more about that next week as well.
Speaker 2:I think it's also really important to make sure you have something else in mind. So if you, say okay, we're not going to do this anymore. It's time for you to stop using the screen.
Speaker 1:And now, we're going to do this. Yes, yes, have something else planned.
Speaker 2:Yeah, have a plan. And if you don't have a plan and just say so you can't do this anymore. And then they're just sitting there with a scowl on their face, without their phone in their hand, nothing else to do, then you've just shot yourself in the foot by making it, you know, kind of the reverse of the dog thing. So if you're going to have a problem with the child every time you get that, they're just going to be holding on to it even further.
Speaker 3:Hey, I want to throw in just a couple of things there because I like where we're going. First of all, I want to acknowledge that none of us as old as we are just said the kids shouldn't have phones get off my lawn. Because I do think that there's a little bit of acceptance and I know that I think about a decade ago, when we were having phones and the kids were, I really still was in this point of where and I know it's almost immature and embarrassing to think this but I almost felt like when this phone fad passes, you know, then we'll get back to a good old hanging out and talking to each other, right? It's so funny to think that that's the case, because I know that there's an acceptance that technology is here. And I still remember a church leader one time.
Speaker 3:I really liked him, but he got up on the pulpit and let the youth know that they needed to not send him texts or anything like that, that they needed to call him on a landline and that was the way to get ahold of him.
Speaker 3:And he, I know he felt like he was really holding his ground but all he was doing was saying hey, I can't relate to you guys and you need to try to find time to relate to me and and I just don't think that that's, I'm confident that's not the case now or the way that it works. So I do think that we may think that, well, I didn't have a phone when I was a kid, but kids these days don't. Quite frankly, they don't care, not in a dismissive way, but so they can't relate. And I've got a whole lot of stuff on parenting over on the virtual couch podcast where it's when we were kids we could relate more to our parents, and I sometimes call it like they might be talking records and we would be talking CDs, but now that we're, we're talking rotary dial-up phones and they don't and they don't care. So it's, it is a different ball game when it comes to that.
Speaker 1:I do love it, though, when you asked your you know your kids hey, even grandkids have you ever seen this before? And it could be like a rotary phone. And they're like what is that? What does it even? Do you know? And you know that, okay, we are past the age of yeah.
Speaker 3:Well, and I will say from technology, I honestly can't remember very well how I used to find places without GPS device on my phone.
Speaker 2:I know I used to. We had this weird thing called maps.
Speaker 3:And you would call the restaurant and somebody like who can give?
Speaker 1:me directions, and then you had to write them down.
Speaker 3:It's so wild. That is, I'd get on my horse and buggy and I you know we'd go that's where I can't think of it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's so true. Well, and it's funny too, cause we've been, as we're packing, we're getting rid of all the CDs and VHSs, and it's like sad. We've spent a lot of money investing in tons of CDs and DVDs and it's crazy to think that those are obsolete really, and wow, I don't know, but pretty crazy. So just a couple other things. You can have a reward system Could be really helpful, and that is children earn points or rewards for spending time outdoors and engaging in non-screen activities. So it's kind of like during the games they get rewarded. Well, you can do that outside too, and that could you know, see how that goes. But also, enrolling your kids in outdoor programs, especially as summer comes nature camps, team sports, outdoor clubs, anything like that can be really, really helpful. They can make new friends and engage with their peers as well and just make it a family affair. This could be a-.
Speaker 2:This is really great information, patricia. I appreciate you giving those examples. One of the things I was thinking about too, though, is that there are parents with neurodivergent children people on the ADHD and autism spectrums that all of the things we just talked about somehow don't apply, and so, in dealing with children that have these issues, they are even more uniquely attracted to these devices.
Speaker 2:And so I just caution that when you're working with them, make sure that they have a purpose and make sure that you have a time set on it, and often these children don't understand time, so you'll need to give them plenty of warning before it's time to stop, Otherwise you may run into an increase in anger and irritability by changing directions.
Speaker 1:And one thing that I thought was really fascinating too, that Dr Davis brought up, is she said you don't want a child to learn how to end a game at the end of the game. You want them to be able to walk away at the middle, because then you are the one that has control. I thought that was really great because we talked about.
Speaker 1:I got to wait till the end of the game. I have to wait till the end of the movie. And she said, nope, we need to teach our kids that at any moment they can turn something off, because then they have control of the game, of the situation of the movie.
Speaker 2:I love that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it's not them being controlled by it. So I really appreciated that and you know, I mean, how often do we like I got to wait till the end of this or the end of that and she said we are teaching the wrong concept to our kids, so they have to be able to turn things off at any moment and be able to walk away.
Speaker 2:And if they can and that's an important part of self-regulation and helping them regulate themselves.
Speaker 1:And if they can learn how to do that, then they literally. That sets them up for so many great directions in life.
Speaker 3:To be fair, though, I will start the diet on Monday, Like that's still okay, though, right.
Speaker 1:Okay, so for our listeners, this is so rude and you didn't see this but, we experienced it. So my biggest vice in the whole entire world are warm chocolate chip cookies. So my biggest vice in the whole entire world are warm chocolate chip cookies. And so Tony just mentioned that, hey, I just ordered some yummy warm chocolate chip cookies and I hope they come anytime. And on the call what happens is he shows us these warm, wonderful chocolate chip cookies, you know. Okay, but to be fair what?
Speaker 3:what you hear is the the amazingly nice and sweet trisha jameson, who then, when the mics were off, I believe she said that she hoped I burned my lips on the chocolate I said I hope, I hope you burn your tongue, because what were? You, there you go you're like I was waving in front of the camera, but I was just showing you, that's all oh, I, oh, I heard you, I heard you.
Speaker 1:No, I hope you enjoyed every bite.
Speaker 3:Well, I'm staring down the barrel of the second one, I don't know. Yeah, I think I need to just hurry up and eat it before I get full, I mean.
Speaker 2:I'm starting to have to go get one now. I need to go find one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we'll have to do that at lunchtime.
Speaker 2:It's getting close to lunchtime, we got to go.
Speaker 1:Okay. Well, this was a great call today and so at this time, I just wanted to wrap things up and I wanted to just thank Bethany. This was a great question and, again, we're going to continue this question on to next week. We're going to talk about teens and screens and it's going to be really powerful. So we love hearing from you and we promise to answer your questions. So continue to send in your questions. These are so fantastic. Don't forget to share your thoughts and remember. Please like and share with your friends and your family so our community can grow. So stay tuned for more engaging conversations in our next episode. Take care everyone. Have a great week.
Speaker 2:Thanks everybody, See you later.
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