What's happening? What's happening Now? Let me talk to you Now. Sit down and watch us step-by-step, and I mean us step-by-step. I'm Jack, he's Chance Yo, and we're back with another, another and, like DJ County said, another one.
Speaker 2:Yep, another installment. Sorry for the way I sound and nigga been dying for the past few days, but I'ma get right. You know what I'm saying. A little flu Little flu, try to take me out, but you know what I mean. Hey Chance, hey Polo, tank Tank, you sick boo boo and nigga with the iron bro.
Speaker 1:Hey, he said hey. He said he needs some Cambodian titty milk y'all. He said he needs that, he needs that V-Bo live and that's in it.
Speaker 2:Bro, you know it's bad when you got them shivering in the middle of the night like a goddamn Can't get, can't get right, bro. Like a junkie I'm like bro, I know I ain't taking nothing, boy.
Speaker 1:you tell me you over there looking like old boy from New Jack City.
Speaker 2:Come on, man, let me get, let me get.
Speaker 1:Let me get just a piece, that's it.
Speaker 2:Niggah, I was looking like fucking Jamie Foxx in the Ray Charles movie. Oh yeah, I was, I was.
Speaker 1:You were down bad, I was down bad man they got for the cough medicine.
Speaker 2:we ain't gonna say no names cuz niggas ain't sponsoring, but cough syrup got me right.
Speaker 1:That's syrup. Yeah, that's syrup, that's syrup. No sprite, no sprite, no sprite. Straight syrup man. Hey, I had a question for you, chance.
Speaker 2:What's that?
Speaker 1:now I didn't want to know this one thing that I want to know about all people how many y'all actually use them little cups that come with the dorm medicine.
Speaker 2:Because I don't Niggah, I do. I ain't trying to OD. I'll feel like bitch to the top.
Speaker 1:But I use it.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:I don't use no cup.
Speaker 2:I ain't finna hit that bitch straight out the bottle who?
Speaker 1:Why a cow with that bad one man? See, nigga, that is cough medicine. Hey bro, bro, you gotta understand, shoot, I don't. I don't like you over there looking like one ML, two ML. They ain't finna get. You ain't finna get all that medicine that's out the bottom of it, out the brim of it.
Speaker 2:And why you gotta hit it two times. Top, top, top, top, just like that real quick. That shit nasty as fuck. So you hit it real quick man Did you just cuss, you gonna get you gonna get you gonna make my mama fight us, ain't you A's sorry, my dukes, but quick, quick, quick as freak hey but I'm glad to see you here.
Speaker 1:This is what we call survival mode. Yep, and what a lot of people don't realize survival mode kicks in when you got other responsibilities as a grown man to take care of or grown woman, because a lot of times it's not how we feel or what we persist to do to make sure our bills are paid. A lot of times it's like, man, I don't feel like getting up, I don't want to be here, but guess what?
Speaker 1:I got other folks depending on like a lot of times I've been, looking at my kids and I don't want to go to work, but I know I got to keep providing for a roof over y'all's head for sure. Y'all depend on me to make sure I got. Don't go get this bread.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was. I was glad I had no kids cuz I could say footwork for the two days. I was sick, fuck going to work man.
Speaker 1:But in my mind it's like man, I've told people before they tell me something oh, you just want to be at this job, you want to be doing this. No, man, I gotta pay my child support. Yeah, I mean, what's the real?
Speaker 2:They got bills to pay man who I ain't got time for them to spend my license. Georgia, probably should get your ass up and go to work, man Bro, who you said, because I mean shoot.
Speaker 1:I mean like my dad used to tell me ain't no free handouts? No, not at all, man. Like we used to say in the military, sometimes you got to put your boots on and put your big girl panties on and push through. I'm talking about the ones with the frilly and the lace and the see-through hoes Shit.
Speaker 2:Nigga, you definitely know about survival when you fought the Taliban Shit hey, look, look, we ain't gonna say Allah Akbar on this mongrel.
Speaker 1:So, but in my eyes and under distress, man, I know, but my mother used to tell me all the time though, bro, there's always one person depending on you to be at work and looking forward to you being there at work, because it makes their day go by so much easier and they have somebody there that they can actually trust, because a lot of times, when you look at a job, a job really don't care about you. Bro. Nah, they'll replace you in an instant, bro and, but they want you to give two weeks though.
Speaker 2:They want you to give them a month notice, but you don't give me no heads up when you about to fire me.
Speaker 1:Hell nah, so why isn't that same energy retroactive, like I'm sorry, not retroactive reciprocated?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm sorry y'all, I'm country. I do be using the wrong words.
Speaker 1:Country. I'm gonna kick you in the dick, but um, it's just like the same energy should be reciprocated on all levels, no matter whether it's in a relationship, no matter whether it's in just in general for a person you give out what you retired um required to give back to you. Yeah, so that energy just revolves in a circle.
Speaker 2:For sure. And then, uh, speaking of like you know, people looking forward to you at the workplace, that's, that's my survival mode being positive in a workplace, cause for one. You work in a certain job. Some people they are content with where they work at and you know how they doing in life. But other people, like I'm just doing this in the meantime to get where I want to be you know what I mean so motherfucking might come in and be like you know, I can't help it listen. It's hard not to cuss bro.
Speaker 1:I understand. I understand, trust me, I'm struggling with it. You know how much I cuss, but in my mind, like what you're saying, that whole aspect of people are just there. Do you know? Like I told somebody the other day, they tell me I want some. Hey, how you? How was your trip in the work? I said honestly, I tried to tell myself I needed to call out three times before I even got out of bed. I tried to find a reason to call out. Yeah, but it's the it's. The fact of the matter is what am I going to do all day if I'm just sitting at home?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I might as well get to the money, man, and that's what I'm saying, like that's a part of other people's survival mode, like I gotta go do this so I can get where I want to be in. The last thing you want is somebody project projecting that out like they don't want to be here. They mad all the time Like bro, we at work don't. Nobody want to hear that shit. So I'm making my you know my thing not to come in to work with. You know everybody got stuff going on. You know outside problems and then the work that we do. If we come in with outside problems it could go real left with certain situations, you know. So coming in with a positive attitude, you know making motherfuckers laugh and kind of like to a degree, you know if you use me for saying it, but bullshitting you know like a man, it's like it make the day go by faster, make you know the work easier and then For the for some people you know I might make work fun like shit man I might.
Speaker 1:I might look forward to working with so and so on this shit, for you know what I mean like cuz a man, because I, if y'all don't know, if y'all've never met us in person, we joke 24 seven. Yep, we joke 24 seven. We don't care, we understand. Business is business. Yeah but when it's serious, it's time to get serious.
Speaker 2:But If you don't understand, we crack jokes all the time and if you can't stand that joke, you won't ask them around and the thing is, I'm the type person if I don't joke with you, I don't really fuck with you.
Speaker 1:So oh yeah, I'm glad if you say just joke with them, I don't speak to you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:I will, I will treat you like you on whole STD. I ain't gonna lie. I say hey, I walk past you and look like you.
Speaker 2:Cuz I mean.
Speaker 1:I mean why? Why fake kick it? Yeah, exactly because my in my mind, in my mind, if I fake kicking it with you, you gonna think I really fool with you. Yeah, because in my mind, man, a man got to play, go over there. No, keep your, keep your, keep your negative, your bad energy. Bro, you need to go got, don't get you some, go get you one of them. Look, got no, with the ones with the tattoos and stuff I don't know what they call, though, but and they be outside in the water with their shoes off and charging their stones and stuff. Why?
Speaker 1:then be one of them, they might change your mood.
Speaker 2:They might change your energy. Thank you, did you just describe a witch?
Speaker 1:I ain't say she put no spells on nobody, I'm just saying no bro. I mean she what, where can we do?
Speaker 1:Yeah because like I mean like, like, that's like my whole, that's like, even if I'm eating a cold sandwich, that might have negative effects on, but if I put down, put that fried bologna. If y'all ain't never had fried bologna shot out to the skillet, but you just can't fry all bologna. Let me tell y'all this this a everybody understands this has ever had a fried bologna sandwich. You always got to go get that bologna with the red string wrapped around it and you pull it off all in one piece. You don't pull it off in pieces, you just pull it off in one piece and you throw that bad boy in there and have your fried bologna sandwich.
Speaker 2:This nigga is giving real survival tips, but when you, when you um, you know you, you really struggling cuz, believe it or not, I've never had a fried bologna sandwich for real. I Bro, you ain't never had no straight struggle, struggle Let me tell you so.
Speaker 1:Now, you never had no struggle me without bro, hey hey, look for our bologna.
Speaker 2:Really, truly, it's probably cuz my dudes ain't eat bologna, so she never.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's probably why you know I'm saying bro, let me tell you what I had the other day. You ready for this? So remind y'all, I'm still recovering from surgery. I had shoulder surgery and and, bro, I Went and found these two trays in Kroger, had shrimp and Lobster meat in it, right?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Bro, I brought it back to the house. My uncle was over here, he was taking care of me while I've been out. Shot of the um. But, bro, I chopped up them doing Shrimp and lobster, put that in the pot with some oodles and noodles, putting that shrimp season and that chicken season in that man with that bad boy. Oh, do a little extra season a little pepper in that bad boy. Bye, bye. I think I made ran off that the crib. Why should I was over here slump.
Speaker 2:Me.
Speaker 1:Make it ten minutes into the movie.
Speaker 2:Oh, both y'all was knocked out, yeah, but but yeah, man.
Speaker 1:But I had no shit like that before. I got a question for you. What's happening? What do you think? People's survival mode turns on and turns off.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think so, because people Get discouraged. So it's kind of like they say fuck it, i'ma just Like I'm just gonna coast. Yeah, I'm just gonna coast. But people that that's on survival mode 100% Most of the time they they, they got a goal at the end of the road that they trying to reach.
Speaker 1:That's why they, you know, in that mindset, on that mode in the first place, because my man I'm like I feel like, like like I tell people all the time the way I look at it is it's. I'm like a shark. Yeah, I can tell when blood's in the water, because oh bro. I'm hungry all the time, because like I mean, like if, if, if I want a certain goal or we have a certain deadline to meet, I'm I'm trying to pound this bad boy.
Speaker 1:Yeah because in my mind it's like this is not gonna be given. I want it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so who else is gonna push me?
Speaker 1:Yeah, because it's like and if I don't encourage the people around me, like because, like I said, I'm big on reciprocation, I want you to apply that pressure back to me and inspire me to do more than what I'm doing right now. Yeah because what a lot of people fail to realize is a lot of people are happy being stagnant. They're happy being in their comfort zone.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they cool being in the box right, but.
Speaker 1:But. But this is my thing, though. I like if I can encourage you or you. You got doubts. Why you doubting yourself, man? You know what it did, you know the job, you know what's expected of you. So press yourself. Yeah, I said you ain't. You ain't never been told no, you ain't never tried to holler at somebody. They tell you no. Yeah. So what's wrong with no? No is just another lesson, another way that you can come at something and learn from it.
Speaker 2:Let me try it at a different angle, right for sure.
Speaker 1:But I, like, I tell people all the time, like with me, it's like riding a bike You're gonna fall, you're gonna get your dick knocked in the dirt. Well, what do you do?
Speaker 2:You got to get back up, man, so I single you swam, you're gonna drown, you gonna sing. Yeah, I feel. I feel like that's when people turn a survival mode off, when they get that no, or when they get rejected. You know, they hear something that they didn't want to hear, or it didn't go as planned, so they kind of like fuck it.
Speaker 1:But but let me ask you a question this Do you think every millionaire that made a millionaire was told yes, all the time? Oh, hell, no Do you think they were in survival mode all the time.
Speaker 2:For sure, for sure, especially when, when you trying to get it out the mud when it's when it's um, for example I could use Steve Jobs as an example that nigga? He was in the garage.
Speaker 2:You know, like you look you getting out the mud. Don't, nobody know you. Nobody know, uh, your idea or see the vision that you see you. You might not even have the credentials to back up what you're saying, but you know your heart is in it, your mind is in it, so you know, yeah because I mean like with me, and I mean I refer to my kids a lot.
Speaker 1:I mean because they, they inspire me to do more and be a better man every day Than what I was the day before.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. So that's your. That's why your survival mode is always on. You know you, you got, you definitely got people depending on you.
Speaker 1:So you don't have no choice. Well, let me ask your question what? What turns on your survival mode? What activates it?
Speaker 2:Uh, I, I'll, I'll be, I'll be 100. It's, it's really my, my uh upbringing, you know uh, so so See before you get all into your upbringing.
Speaker 1:Do you feel that it's always Calm product of my environment that dictates your upbringing? Or do you feel like it's the the, the impressions of those around us that tell us that this is our, this is where we're coming from, this is how we're coming because of what we got going on?
Speaker 2:Um so, being a product of your environment, um, does it detect the rest of your life? Yes and no. It can, if you allow it to, because I'd have been around some people. That that's the excuse. Oh man, I'm just a product of my environment. But myself I've grown up in a number of places. So I'm from Miami, right, but I spent my childhood in Atlanta and I spent some of my time up North in Maine, which is a completely different world in itself, and then in my teenage years, you know, really matured. I was back in Miami, you know what I'm saying. So I was in a number of different I'll say negative environments and positive environments, but in both those areas I see people being content. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:So yes and no. Do you feel like being content means stagnant? Yeah, why?
Speaker 2:Because, like, if you content with how life is going for you and it's not in a positive way, that's when it's a negative, you know what I mean. If you got what you consider to yourself success, success and you there and you content with that, oh, then then you good.
Speaker 1:But the question is defined success.
Speaker 2:That's up to yourself, man, because some people take success as oh, I'm financially stable, I'm rich. You know what I mean. Some people take it as, or think of it as oh, I got my house, I got my car.
Speaker 2:I got my trophy wife, I got my you know, my good job. That's giving me a good salary. But then some people take success as being a own boss. I'm running things for myself, so it really depends on the person. But for me, like I said, I was raising different environments. My upbringing is what really always has my survival mode on go. Because I just watch my parents you know what I mean and then what they taught me.
Speaker 2:My pops was a truck driver, so that nigga's survival mode was always on go. You gotta get back on the road to get the bread. My dude, she did a number of things but she's always had the mindset of being an entrepreneur. So that's why I feel like she is still the hustle in me, like, especially because she, like I said pops, is on the road a lot. So she's really holding down the fort.
Speaker 2:And you got two boys, I got an older brother. So you telling two men, you always got a hustle. You can't be no bum. You know what I mean. Living off of other people, I'm not even gonna say because some dudes they might live off a female. I ain't even gonna say that my dudes just told us living off other people ain't an option. Now somebody might step in and help, but that's not gonna be it. You know what I mean they there to help, they not there to take care of. So that's why my survival mode is always on for sure. My upbringing is my number one. Thing Two, my mindset for myself. You gotta want it for yourself, because nobody gonna support you like you.
Speaker 2:So, you gotta do the work, you gotta you know what I'm saying. So funny like Kevin Hart said, everybody wanna be famous, but nobody wanna put the work in. That's facts, so you gotta put the work in. So if it's not in yourself, you not doing nothing.
Speaker 1:So yeah, Because, like with me, like like my mom, my mom was always there. So my mom is my best friend and my worst enemy. Love her to death, but my mom gonna tell me what I need to heal and not what I wanna heal.
Speaker 1:But she gonna tell me her old ways of thinking and don't understand what all I'm going through. Like, why'd you do this, John? Because I ain't had no choice, mom. But at the same time my mama used to tell me all the time I'm not staying up late worrying about whether you safe or not, Because at one point in time in my life, see what I was moving wonky. Yeah, I was moving reckless.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I mean you had to call myself on to find out where I was. Do you think that was?
Speaker 2:you being a product in your environment.
Speaker 1:No, it was the fact of the matter is saw how much money I was making. I wasn't making ends meet. I still had to pay child support, but I had to do certain things and move a certain way to make more money, to move where I was comfortable. Because the thing is I have to survive. A dollar's, a dollar $20, is $20. Because, at the end of the day, shit, my kids ain't gonna see no failure. My only thing my kids gonna see is my daddy did what he had to do to survive. Because, at the end of the day, what else do I have? Because, like I tell my kids all the time, y'all are my legacy. I'm only here temporarily Because once I pass the knowledge that I've gained from myself and my upbringing, because I don't want y'all to go through all the trials and tribulations because of a man was not there to tell me how to be a man.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:But my mama instilled in me what was right and what was wrong. But she told me on a graces like, on a skim or the surface, what she portrayed as a man. But I had to learn the hard way of what it takes to be a man.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I can definitely agree with that, because think about it.
Speaker 1:I got three boys. I got three boys and two little girls. I got five kids.
Speaker 2:Boy, you got a full house over there what you talking about.
Speaker 1:But guess what? They know that daddy got me. Yeah for sure. And you can talk to any one of my kids and understand hey, this is the situation, this, what's going on, what's up? Don't worry about it, I'll make sure it happens. I don't care how it gotta happen.
Speaker 1:You just gotta, they just gotta, go to school and Right but you gotta understand there's expectations on the other side For sure, because, like I tell them all the time, they tell me, like a people ask me all the time am I gonna force my kids to go to the military? Absolutely not. I said I want that to be an option on the table, but that's not your first option. I want you to go out here and get an education, because that's why I beat up my body, because to make sure you didn't have to do the same thing. I had to yeah.
Speaker 1:But, as in my eyes, that's what it takes to be a man, and not these little ass boys sitting at home while they, old lady out working.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what I'm saying, bro, like that's what I mean by my upbringing, like saying thing for you, you know, I feel like after what you're saying, part of your upbringing is why your survival mode is on 100. So it's like, being a man, your survival mode has to be on a certain level because you are a man. Now, not saying females they don't gotta be on survival mode, they gotta be on survival mode too. But as a man, it's kind of like already expected that you, bro.
Speaker 1:But I don't know, bro. You know what I'm saying. I don't know Now, because there's some men out here that ain't got it, bro.
Speaker 2:Nah, for sure, for sure.
Speaker 1:Because I look at them like bro what?
Speaker 2:Nah? It's a nigga right now. What time is it? It's almost midday. It's a nigga right now At his old lady crib Drinking smoking with his partners. They all on the game. His old lady at work Clocked in making things happen. He coolin man. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I got. I got the keys to my old lady spot. I got the keys to to my old lady.
Speaker 2:Will you know what I'm saying, but but you know some niggas something, he just might be off of work and he just got that. You know, I'm saying but it's, it's her niggas who they not going to work tomorrow, they not going to work the day after that. They didn't go to work yesterday, they could just Live it, bro. That's the old on zero bro.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, if I'm on zero, what do you have to offer? Dick in a poor time, hey.
Speaker 2:Hey, but let's, let's keep it a hundred. Though, let's keep it a hundred.
Speaker 1:Ladies, I feel like man. Sometimes, sometimes, that's all y'all want man, bullshit man, there's no, there's no way.
Speaker 2:You can't tell me the the nigga that I just described, his old lady Don't know that he on that, or his girl Don't know that that's the way he move or was moving before she got with him, like you, when that nigga, when you met that nigga, his survival mode was on zero percent.
Speaker 1:But but they show that those, they show those red flags ahead of time for sure, but so my whole thing is. But this is my problem. You want that. This is my problem. To me to hear another man is doing that, bro, he ain't shit, he'll leech for sure. I understand. If you are trapping, I a I can respect that's a different story.
Speaker 2:But if you are trapping you, your survival mode is on a whole another level. Because You're entrepreneurial, your business. Yeah, you're trapping, that's, that's your way of Providing provided that's your you took that way.
Speaker 2:You felt yourself that that was okay. This is my avenue on how I'm gonna get the money. And then to me, cuz I said it before, I Could never trap for one. I'm too scared to go to jail to I'm bad at math. I ain't trying to get killed, so I Respect somebody different that can do that that's not scared to go to jail. So if you trapping, your survival mode is definitely on a whole another level. But don't, don't take that as as being a bum. We talking about the nigga, that's a leech that like a leech like I said, he ain't trapping he.
Speaker 1:he the one buying the weed, he just man, I a bro, I know dudes that ain't worked all year, but as soon as they all let you get the income tax, they, they looking for half. But what you want to go do with it? Oh, I'm about to go buy me some shoes. I'm about.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm saying. As a man, your Survival mode automatically has to be at a certain level, because you a man. You know what I mean. Again, say it again. So, ladies, don't kill me. And in the comment, y'all I.
Speaker 1:Feel like.
Speaker 2:But as a man, you got on?
Speaker 1:oh no, bro, cuz my mama my mama was was on team Because they did what they had to do to provide for a household. So they took the role of a man, yeah, but never got a twisted they, they weren't amen.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, for sure, for sure. That's that's why, like, like, I say man, I tell like, if I go on a date or something, you know I'm trying to get to know people, I'll tell them like I was, uh, I was raised around women but I Was taught to be a man kind of yeah, like you said, on on your side, I had to learn how to be a man myself, because you know, they'll say like, oh, like my mom used to be, like, oh, don't, don't, don't, get no girl if you can't take care of, which is facts. But at the same time, I don't want no girl that just want me to take care of you.
Speaker 1:So I'm gonna take her. Yeah, like that, just. But I call those gimmies. Can you give me this, can you give me that, can you give me that? But?
Speaker 2:but my whole thing is like like that's how I feel about though not rich it. That's how I feel about those type of females, because once you do that, you already at a certain status in my mind. Yeah, I ain't gonna know further with you.
Speaker 1:You just you know I'm gonna do her good with you, but my whole thing is like, like we've talked all the time, like I don't feel like any relationship should be 50-50, if, if, we in this together, we in this together. Yeah we in struggle mode together for sure.
Speaker 2:We in luxury mode, together, for sure if you can't eat Poggan beans in sausage with a bit, and she still love you 100% If you always got to have a crab boy with this big.
Speaker 1:But that's what that's like we were talking about it the other day, bro, how do you expect a dude to take you to rule frisk on your first date?
Speaker 2:Yeah, some, some, some people. They try to do it to impress now.
Speaker 1:No, because I feel is bro, if I impress, you just offer that you gonna think that's the same. That's the standard and that's not ever that. To me, those are special occasions.
Speaker 2:Those are, yeah, those are like congratulatory Meals, yeah if you got it like that to where your pockets is hitting on roof, chris Fogel, the child, you know I'm saying you, you you can move like that, they a bro, more like that. But if you were average Joe, regular degular and you trying to do that, that's kind of misleading. And then my whole thing is listen, if we go on the first date and I take you somewhere out like that, it's most likely your birthday.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm taking you out cuz you, like you said, we celebrate something you achieved and this just so happened to be our first date. But off the rip, I'm not trying to break the bank. So to get to know you, because why? I'm a break the bank and I don't even know you. I might not even want to go on the second date with you, but now I'm $300 and in the hole or not in the hole, but just you know.
Speaker 1:So, but this is my question though If I'm a drop of $300 meal on you, how am I knowing that this is a worthy investment into our situation? But you might have six more other guys lined up in the roster. What? Why should I drop a bag on you if you got six more guys on the rocks? But in the retrospect, why should she treat us the same way if we got plethora, plethora females on the roster for show?
Speaker 2:For sure you know what I'm saying. That's why I never. That's why I don't like now some people might take this like oh, you might be jealous, it's not me being jealous, it's. That has nothing to do with what's going on between me. For some reason, bro, I don't know if it's because females get comfortable with me on how I talk to them, or you know just how I approach them, or some shit but they always tell me what the next man doing for me, or what, as soon as you, bro, or something along that line, as soon as you bring up another man in our conversation.
Speaker 1:That's my execute.
Speaker 2:Yeah, bro, I don't. I don't because I'm not gonna tell you, because if you try to make me compete with another man.
Speaker 1:I don't need to be here.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you not gonna hear what another female like, okay, you might have, like you said, you might have four, five niggas on your roster. I might have four or five females on my roster, but I'm dealing with you. I'm not finna tell you what the other four or five doing.
Speaker 1:Thank you For me.
Speaker 2:So why are you telling me what the other four or five are doing for you? That's dumb. I mean number three on your roster that nigga might take you to Fogo the Child on your first date.
Speaker 1:That ain't me.
Speaker 2:That ain't me, I might. I might wanna say hey, let's go to the park, I'm gonna get a little you know what I'm saying Slot the public, little Sam of the Sun. We do a little picnic vibe or whatever.
Speaker 1:But the way I look at it, but my whole thing, like I tell people all the time, why don't we just go grab beer and wings and we just kick back and chill and get to know each other?
Speaker 2:Now I'm not saying see, see, some females out there man them niggas broke. Them niggas broke. I'm not saying that. I just would rather, on the first link, get to know you. You know what I'm saying? I don't wanna, I wanna get to know you. I don't want you to get to know me pocket.
Speaker 1:You should get me tight, because my pocket well, because my pocket can change at any point in time, at any point in time, Bitch, I might hit the lotto we might.
Speaker 2:On the first date, we might have to go with four for four.
Speaker 1:Thank you.
Speaker 2:But I might hit the lotto. But now we in the you know, what I'm saying. Yeah, I might.
Speaker 1:Because you never know my situation, but, like because a lot of people don't understand, like what you see on the outside or you might see me moving everything. You don't know my story, that's behind me or what I'm wearing in my book bag, because a lot of people just see the surface and never get to know you or never get to know the trials and tribulations that you're actually going through, because they just wanna know what quick can you do for me? Instead of like this this is the thing.
Speaker 1:This is the thing, though. I heard this the other day, which made absolute sense. This is to go back on that, that percentile, right? If you're given an individual, if an individual wants to come in and give you 50% of themselves, that means they're giving you a part of them, right? That means that they wanna take 50% of that stress off of you, Because, at that same point, they're trying to take off your mental stress and trying to be like, hey, I'm here to support you, I'm here to talk it out with you, I'm here to help you de-stress without you having to crash out. And in my mind it's like when do with you giving me that 50%? Why isn't it not enough? Because, if you look at men and women a lot of men we have dumbed down our requirements for women and we're okay to take some of the things that are as a loss versus the 50 requirements that a female has.
Speaker 2:What you mean dumbed down.
Speaker 1:Explain that. I mean, it's like we just want y'all to respect us, be loyal to us, have our backs.
Speaker 2:That's stuff that's been requirements for generations, though I don't think that's been dumbed down.
Speaker 1:No, but I'm saying but we have consolidated it into certain things. But when you look at our requirements, we're looking like, oh, she can't cook. Oh, I can work with that.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, I get what you mean, Cause I mean well, granted though, granted, though a lot of females say a lot of women, it ain't the 50s or it ain't back in the day. You right, Nobody asking you to-.
Speaker 1:But the thing is hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. But the thing is, you hear a lot of these females talking about some I wanna be back like in the olden times, but you want me to do all these things like we're back in the olden times. But it's not the olden times, it's new age and you cannot, bro. I cannot portray to you how many times I've heard that and seen where a lot of these places where me and you have to live take two incomes yeah, and they want you to make four times or whatever we're making yeah. So I need you to help me out and help you out so we're not over here like, yeah, babe, where we gonna live at.
Speaker 2:So what you're saying is some people, some women, they want you to be old fashioned. Right, but you know what, bro? They don't want you to be old fashioned, you know what hold up.
Speaker 1:Let me stop. Let me stop right there, because a lot of men want women to be old fashioned too, but they don't have the examples or the ideals to what it means to be old fashioned. Because I don't want an old fashioned relationship, I want a partner. I want somebody to have my back, I want somebody to be like babe, don't worry about it, I got you. Not like saying like, oh, they gonna take care of me. Like I don't know how to. I don't know babe, I don't know how I'm gonna do this. Da, da da. Look, as long as we got each other, that's what we can make this happen. Yeah, we'll figure it out, like we'll figure it out, but I don't wanna be like well, I don't know what we gonna do.
Speaker 2:No, I need you to understand.
Speaker 1:This is like on being like a seesaw. I got your back the same way you got mine. For sure, because, at the end of the day, who else do we have to count on?
Speaker 2:Yeah, if you can't count on your old lady man, shit, I don't even know why you with her man.
Speaker 1:And there's some people that there's some people like Hold on, not just an old lady, old man too.
Speaker 2:Let me say that. Let me correct myself. If you can't count on your significant other, there you go, there you go, your partner, you know your little boo thing. Like how some people say Mookie, if you can't count on Mookie, what you went on fire?
Speaker 1:Thank you. Why was it time?
Speaker 2:Yeah, what you doing Cause you know what I mean At some point is gonna have to go.
Speaker 1:Just looking up, Okay, but it's like when do we call it quits, what you mean when we put a lame in terms how do you? Why do people decide to do what they do, Instead of saying you know what, this ain't gonna work, Ba-ba-ba-bla. And in other words, you're saying you know what? Hey man, you hey, it's in this on a good note. You go your way, I go my way and ba-ba-boop.
Speaker 2:Some people will try to make it work. Maybe they'll change. You know, maybe, maybe, if I do this, maybe they'll see me and then they'll, you know, see my example and then change. But if a person show you who they are, that's who they are. You can't, you're not gonna change that, you're right. You're right, like like we was saying a few minutes ago, before you got what that do? You see? Ain't got no job. You see, ain't you staying with a mama? So why you had a baby from now?
Speaker 2:he had chose by Mouchin moochin leeching, so ain't a count dragon and then vice versa with a man use you you. You heard what she said when y'all got together. You know what I mean. You already knew she was Trying to just see what you had to offer, what, what you're trying to offer me. You know what? What can you do for me?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you see how she was moving so. What if they're in survival mode already? Chance?
Speaker 2:I'm gonna be real with you. I'm gonna be real with you.
Speaker 1:Hey y'all. If y'all didn't know, that's DJ P in the back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, shout out to P man, he, he, he behind the scenes handling handling.
Speaker 1:All the.
Speaker 2:Clicking in in the queue and all that shit shout out to P, but If they already in survival mode, if you already in survival mode and you struggling, you got to get your priority straight.
Speaker 1:But a lot of a lot of folks don't know how to get out of survival mode or how to dig that out, the guts.
Speaker 2:It's. It's a difference, okay, if okay, are we talking about? Okay, survival mode? I'm trying to reach something or I'm struggling, because Struggling.
Speaker 1:You got a. You got a. Look. Sit back and look at reflect on yourself.
Speaker 2:You can't bring somebody else into the struggle that ain't that ain't gonna do nothing. Just became create terminal two people that's both struggling. That's not coming up with something to. Help each other out to get out of that struggle, y'all Pointless. You got to get your priority straight, man. Yeah not ain't nothing wrong with all man. I want some company. You know I want to. I like this person. You know, maybe when I get where I need to be this is my role.
Speaker 1:I choose the way I look at it is if we're in, if we're in a situation, ship or relationship together. If I can't encourage you to grow on, waste of my time, but show because we should start. We should start progressing to bet to to higher levels From when we started. Yeah, yeah then then where we're at now, because if you're moving backwards or you're still stagnant, stagnant water has no life. Nobody want to go fishing in stagnant water. Yeah, I gotta have some type of motion, yeah, I gotta have some type of current.
Speaker 2:I gotta say some type of flow. Y'all listen to the episode Last week. We just talking about that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, motion, motion, yeah, all motion gotta have motion man.
Speaker 2:But I had some type of motion.
Speaker 1:Because I feel like every time that I'm involved with somebody, I don't give. I don't care if it's a friend. I'm in a relationship, I'm engaged, I'm married, whatever, I want you to around me to encourage me to be that better person than I was the day before. Because if, if only thing we doing is sitting around asking, oh bro, what's what? You want some weed, you want to smoke, but and but, on the flip side, you, we ain't talking about no business, are we doing something wrong?
Speaker 1:Yeah, because, women, if you don't know, a lot of times, if your man is business oriented, a lot of his conversations would be strictly about business and helping somebody grow. Um, because it inspires that individual to do better, to know better and to better themselves. So, hey guys, men and women, let me tell you something Go get your LLC or your s-corp, because you can go out to eat. Oh, this free game, by the way, you can go out to eat, have the smallest conversation about a business. Put on your business credit card. Now, you just got a tax write off, but anyway.
Speaker 1:Snake it up, pull the trunk but A lot of people don't get like that. Even with these guys, the next show stacks of money. My name is Jack, I'm a brand, nike's a brand. Make money off of that. So if you're, if you're out just worrying about girl, I gotta reach in my pocket and pay my lashes or dudes you out here worrying about bro, I gotta got no one get. These new pair of jays are coming out and you ain't putting that towards your business right off. You're moving backwards, because you could have got that money back on the back end instead of the front end, because there's a lot more things to having a business than these folks want to tell you.
Speaker 2:And Chance, that's all I got to say man, hey, sit down and let the step of stuff.
Speaker 1:We out, we out, peace Doosie.