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The Healing Power of Forgiveness with Life Coach Donna Fairhurst
Can forgiveness truly heal the wounds of the soul? Join us as we unlock the transformative power of forgiveness with our special guest, Donna Fairhurst, a life and soul transition coach. Discover how forgiveness serves as a gift to oneself, fostering personal growth and spiritual evolution amidst today’s chaotic world. Donna discusses the intricate challenges of forgiving others and oneself, especially in light of recent societal upheavals like the pandemic and political strife. She shares profound insights on suspending negative emotions and embracing love and empathy, even in the face of perceived wrongs.
Moreover, this episode unravels the vital importance of self-forgiveness and its impact on overall well-being. Listen to Donna's unique approach involving aura imaging and healing modalities, which help individuals recognize and enhance their spiritual and physical health. With tangible methods for intentional living and self-improvement, Donna guides us on a journey towards shedding resentment and anger. Tune in to understand how forgiveness not only mends broken relationships but also paves the way for a more fulfilling and connected life.
Great way to start the day, thinking of all the people that I need to forgive, it's true Start with you.
Speaker 2:Figure out if there's anything that you haven't forgiven in you, you can't forgive it in other people.
Speaker 1:Good evening and welcome to another episode of my Little Health Show podcast. Thanks so much for tuning in, thanks for the follow. I would love a review. If you wouldn't mind, you can write one or you could actually rate this podcast, because that really helps with the algorithm and then more people can listen to it. We talk about a variety of subjects on this program, everything from physical health to mental health, to emotional health, to spiritual health, and we're going to be covering one of those, let's say, spiritual topics, if you will, tonight on the program. Donna Fairhurst joins me. Donna is a life and soul transition coach and the chief evolving officer of Soulful Solutions. She empowers her clients to create powerful pivots through any challenge and live on purpose with creativity and passion, combining psychic abilities or imaging, healing, energy modalities and practical tools for daily living. Tough love in a velvet glove, she says. She empowers her clients in their highest level of awareness, here and now, and we're going to be talking about the power of happiness through forgiveness. Good evening, donna. How are you?
Speaker 2:Good evening, Maureen. I'm just wonderful.
Speaker 1:Thank you, that is fantastic. Forgiveness, such a powerful subject, something that people just cannot do. We seem to move on from people sometimes because we can't forgive what we perceive they may have done to us. Yet I understand. My little understanding about forgiveness is that it's a gift you give to yourself. How is it that? Well, first of all, in your words, what is forgiveness?
Speaker 2:Well, first of all, I'd like to say that I'm coming to you today from the unceded territory of the Silex and Okanagan peoples with gratitude for your lessons and the powerful teachings coming forth. Forgiveness is always a lesson, and this is a challenging time for all peoples on the earth. I'm so grateful for the lessons that we're learning from this and that we're sharing with each other today. Forgiveness is essentially a gift we give ourselves that empowers us and others to see ourselves through our hearts and through creator source. Whatever that is for you eyes, it's a result of suspending judgment, remorse, guilt, shame, blame and fear to live in and from the center of our sacred soul self.
Speaker 1:You said early on in that, and thank you very much for that beautiful definition we're living in tough times. We certainly are living in challenging times. Are living in challenging times Post-pandemic? There's a lot of forgiveness. Perhaps that should have happened there. There's a lot of unhappy people. A lot of people lost their jobs. The economy is experiencing difficult challenges. The prices of food and gas are exorbitant through the roof.
Speaker 1:Politically, we've never been more divided in North America, regardless of what political system, whether we're looking at Canada or the US. You know we just saw a former president indicted on 34 felony counts, which has further divided the American people. It's such a difficult time in the world. And then do we bring that back into our personal lives? And then, of course, we're not really raised with good communication skills or how to deal with things. There's a lot of substance use and abuse that goes on. That, I imagine, comes into play here. I mean, this is a very complex subject when you think about it. When you've gotten your feelings hurt by somebody or you think somebody's done something to you that they haven't, how do we forgive?
Speaker 2:Well, it's a necessary plan for the universe, because forgiveness is the cornerstone of the evolution of all levels of human consciousness and it affects every single person, every being on the planet, equally mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Speaker 2:If we're not in a place of forgiveness for ourself and others, we can't see a situation through anyone else's eyes. We have kind of an emotional, a mental, a spiritual and a physical lack of focus, and it gets distorted in ways that we can't even imagine, especially at the levels of hunger and war and chaos that we're having in the world. You mentioned past President Trump and what's going on there, and it's just a sign that we have to change. The world has to change, and to do that we have to forgive each other and bite into the meat of real life, and the meat of real life is to be a human being, and to be human is to be heartful. It's universal, it's memorable, it's allowing for all that is, and it means being present, being now here. I always say now, here and nowhere are spelled exactly the same way. It's where you split the words. You can be now here, and if you're not, you're going to be nowhere, and from a place of nowhere you can do nothing.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. You know you said one word in there distorted. You know our minds go to catastrophic thinking. Naturally we think somebody has wronged us and we're going to blame. We're going to look to the other person. They did this to me. I am a victim. I cannot move on. How does that mindset play into forgiveness?
Speaker 2:Well, true spiritual growth and freedom are attained by embracing forgiveness as an action plan for yourself and for every other being on the planet plan for yourself and for every other being on the planet. We have to just put ourselves into a space of love, no matter how hard that is. It starts with loving ourself and accepting the negative feelings and emotions that we are in generating ourself from our own lack of love, or we are seeing out in the world playing around us. Most people don't see the pathway to love is forgiveness.
Speaker 2:So lack of forgiveness on any level is ego, brain based and even if it feels that our heart might be breaking or hurting because of an action or a thought or a deed by ourselves or others, it's in fact the feeling of a broken heart when we witness chaos around us. It has the power to break our heart unconsciously and consciously. If we don't allow for that and say that's the space we're in, then what do we need to do next? It's the first indication that forgiveness is necessary. When we're hurt, whether we acknowledge it or not, the only way forward is through forgiveness, and that takes a powerful centering, a powerful awareness, a powerful presence of being here, acknowledging what's happening around us, accepting that we can be a power for change, even if it's only within our own heart. Does that?
Speaker 1:make sense it does, and does forgiveness mean that you actually have to speak to the person ever again?
Speaker 2:Sorry, go ahead. Go ahead. Absolutely not. It is not necessary unless you feel driven to do it it, unless you feel you need to have this oral conversation.
Speaker 2:Forgiveness starts with you acknowledging what you're feeling, having a conversation with yourself. Why is this important for me to forgive? What is this doing to me to be in this negative energy space, and how can I change it to positive? You might need to speak. You might need to write a letter. You might need to write a letter. You might need to write it all down. If you write it all down and you're not going to send it, please tear it up, burn it, flush it.
Speaker 2:I don't care what you do with it. Get rid of the negativity. You've put it on paper or you've spoken it out loud. Let it go. If you hang on to it, whether it's to pat yourself on the back that you did it or because you're still holding in you some part of unforgiveness, then it's for nothing. If you don't go and let God, source, creator, whatever that is for you, take the helm, you're nowhere Right it all comes to. Am I present here now, functioning at my highest level physically, mentally and emotionally and spiritually or am I still on the treadmill trying to work it and not feeling where I am.
Speaker 1:How about people who say you have nothing to be to forgive me for, or when there's a herd mentality, you know people who will, people who will stand up for the bully or whatever, and say they did nothing to you. You're crazy. This is all in your head.
Speaker 2:Well, you're not going to change their mind. People that feel that way are not engaged in now. They're not engaged in love for the planet, for all of humanity. They simply have a tunnel vision of where they are and what's happening. You can't change somebody else's vision unless they choose it. All you can do is be the vision and the model for yourself.
Speaker 2:If you come from that space of love and forgiveness for everything and everyone, you're experiencing freedom. Let's break down forgiveness, the energetic impact of forgive. To forgive is to create freedom, is to create optimism, is to renew and be regret-free. It's a gift that you're giving to yourself with generosity, to everything and everyone around you. It's very intentional, it has value, it has verification and it creates a new vision for yourself and others to be. And when you do that you can escape from the lower energies of hate and despair and disunity. You can elevate your own energies and from that you will continue to evolve into a higher level of human being. And that's a gift that you give yourself and, hopefully, that others see, accept and model.
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Speaker 1:I truly appreciate it. And how do you know that lack of forgiving somebody who has, in your mind, wronged you? How do you know that's affecting your life? What does it do to you?
Speaker 2:Well, you get stuck in a memory. You can forgive without forgetting the lesson you learned in the process. And if you don't, it's stuck. And just remember that forgiveness is an inside job. When we stay stuck in unforgiveness, lack of love, we're dwelling in drama. Everything around lack of forgiveness is drama driven. Whether it's our thoughts, whether it's our deeds, it all comes together. It's all about you. It's not about the person, the place, the thing or situation that we find ourselves judging, because all lack of forgiveness comes from judgment of ourself, of others. You know, this is my tough love part. Get over it, get on with it.
Speaker 2:If you're dealing with trauma, deal with it. Take the steps, get on with it. If you're dealing with trauma, deal with it. Take the steps, access the resources available to you, get the counseling you need and or find a coach or teacher that resonates with you and your energy to help you. Staying put means staying stuck. Don't let judgment ground you. We're human beings. We're born to fly with our energy. Forgiveness strengthens our spiritual soul, our mental being, our physical being, and we can know more, we can grow more, we can flow more, we can glow more. That's my motto Know, grow, flow, glow.
Speaker 1:When you flow from that energy, amazing, go ahead.
Speaker 2:When you get through that, to know yourself, to grow from what you know, to flow with a new sense of being, that you're in the driver's seat. If you're not in the driver's seat of your life, choosing consciously what you're doing, who is? Are you in the backseat, willy-nilly, driving anywhere that somebody else takes you, or are you the captain of your ship? When we know and grow and flow, we emit a light. Our human light, our soul, lights up our be dark and it will be attracting lower level energies and darkness and the very things you want to rid yourself of.
Speaker 2:repeat and repeat until you get the lesson and you grow from it and then your light shines and you attract a higher level of light to you. You can change your life with your thoughts.
Speaker 1:Yes, you certainly can. Now some people you know might be listening to this and they think you know the trauma that I experienced as a child, or you know that person who violated me or raped me, or the you know witnessing my grandfather being shot at point blank range. You know these are severe traumas to get over, if they ever can. Does forgiveness play a role there? Because oftentimes we see people who, whether they've had even a mild issue or traumatic event in their lives, you know they might turn to substance use and abuse or other negative behaviors and get stuck in that. Is forgiveness powerful for those people who've experienced such severe trauma?
Speaker 2:Absolutely. It is the first and most necessary step. And if you're stuck and you're cycling through this over and over and over again and the situation and the place of judgment that is keeping you stuck starts with you, and if you can't get there yourself, that's when you have to acknowledge look, I'm stuck here. I'm repeating over and over this is affecting my life mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I can't get off the wheel that I'm running around with this painful experience and I need to get help and then seek help.
Speaker 2:The unfortunate thing is, you know, we're not used to asking for help. When we grow up and leave our teenage years behind, we tend to think that we have to do it all, an adult, all the time. And the truth is, when we're in a place of trauma, we're the wounded child and we need to be led to a place of peace and health and joy and back to love. And if we can't do that for ourselves, we can't do that for others. So the first step is to acknowledge where you are and get the help you need, even if it just means reaching out to a friend and saying, hey, I'm stuck, can I talk to you? And then listening to the counsel that you get.
Speaker 1:And then offloading can also be a very helpful strategy as well. Sometimes people don't have the highest self-esteem, they don't think a lot of themselves, they may use substances and a lot of bad things happen because of those things. Those are sort of simple ways people are navigating this life. They're doing it in a numb fashion, and so they might say things that are mean and nasty and might lose their temper and say things out of anger, and you know it adds up to a lot of people needing to forgive, especially if it's a significant person in your life. How do we get back to humanity? How do we get back to that, donna, of being kind and compassionate? Where does that begin?
Speaker 2:It begins with forgiving ourselves, forgiving what's happened in our life. I've been suicidal in my life, I've been a bitch, I've been everything that you can imagine. I've been untruthful with myself and others, I've been stuck in dead energy. And when you are in that place of deadness you're really not aware You're not functioning at a level that you can even help yourself. And hopefully that's when there's somebody around you that's going to say hey, you need help and I'll help you get the help you need. And if that's not there, then hopefully you'll come to the realization of yourself that you're on this you know, never ending wheel of pain and doubt and lack of love for yourself and then somehow get the help. I just go back, go back, go back, ask for what you need. People can help you. If you don't ask, if you don't ask, it means you're not ready to excuse me for whatever reason, and you'll stay stuck. And it's an unfortunate fact and truth in life that many, many people stay stuck whether it's.
Speaker 2:They do.
Speaker 1:No, no, I was just going to say they certainly do Go ahead.
Speaker 2:They do. No, no, I was just going to say they certainly do. Go ahead, you know, if you acknowledge that harboring lack of forgiveness and resentment blocks the flow of love for yourself and you forgive just one person, and especially if that one person is yourself. Whatever the situation, I forgive myself for the drugs, I forgive myself for the meanness, I forgive myself for the way I've hurt other people. Forgiving yourself is the first step. You have to allow for your human beingness, and we can be good or we can be bad, and we can be everything in between. It's acknowledging where we are right now that starts us on the road to forgiveness and evolution, so that we can create hope and joy and love and grace and freedom for ourselves. Forgiveness is the most freeing thing that you can do. Of all of the rules of life, rules and laws of spirit, forgiveness is the number one thing that most people need to work on, in my humble estimation.
Speaker 1:I agree with you, and it's, you know, it's the ability, then to be able to move on after that and actually perhaps have a much better life. And you know, oftentimes we have toxic people in our lives, and you know, you know you notice certain ways about it, and it's just like you know what forgive and move on, as you say. Don't forget, though, and I don't want to forget to ask you what is the best way for people to get in touch with you?
Speaker 2:Oh, it's very simple, donnafairhurstcom.
Speaker 1:And you help people through forgiveness or how to attain forgiveness, and what are some of the other services that you provide?
Speaker 2:I do our imaging, which is photography of your energy system, and it can show you all of the levels of your physical being and your spiritual being, and in a photograph actually, it's very, very powerful. I often do a before or image and then do a healing modality that I think that they most need. It could be auto-linguistic programming, it could be intentional living, it could be Reiki, it could be any number of healing modalities that I work with, whatever resonates the most with that person's being. We'll do a 30-minute session of that and then I'll have them go back and take an after picture. You know they say a picture's worth a thousand words. So if you see a before you do the work picture, you do 30 minutes of the work, you take another picture and you see the change that just 30 minutes of intentional living, intentional being, does for you. It's a hugely powerful moment.
Speaker 1:That is amazing. Yeah, I'd love to get you back and talk a little bit further about, or imaging, perhaps send you a picture of myself.
Speaker 2:Oh, that would be wonderful.
Speaker 1:Let's do it. Let's do it All, right, Donna? Thank you so much for joining the program this evening. I really appreciate it.
Speaker 2:Thank you, maureen, it's been my very, very great pleasure.
Speaker 1:Wonderful. That is Donna Fairhurst. She is a life and soul transition coach and the chief evolving officer of Soulful Solutions. Her website is donnafairhurstcom. And I am Maureen McGrath, and thank you for listening to this episode of my Little Health Podcast.