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**Authenticity** involves being true to one's own personality, values, and spirit, regardless of external pressures. It means expressing oneself honestly and transparently, embracing one's true self, and acting in alignment with one's core beliefs and values.
**Why Authenticity is Scary:**
Being authentic can be scary for several reasons
1. **Fear of Rejection
2. **Vulnerability
3. **Judgment
4. **Loss of Relationships
5. **Social Pressure
6. **Fear of Failure
7. **Uncertainty
8. **Personal Growth
9. **Change in Identity
10. **Professional Risks
11. **Fear of Conflict
12. **Exposure of Weaknesses
13. **Breaking Expectations
14. **Cultural or Familial Expectations
15. **Economic or Social Consequences
16. **Self-Doubt
17. **Loss of Control
18. **Fear of Change
19. **Emotional Labor - doing the internal work
20. **Fear of Isolation
21. **Past Trauma
22. **Complex Identity**: or complex trauma
Breaking it down further….
Starting with #1 Fear of rejection
1. **Fear of Rejection:**
- Being authentic means showing others who you truly are, which can lead to the fear that they might not accept or like you. Here's how we avoid it:
1. **People-Pleasing
2. **Masking True Feelings
3. **Withholding Personal Information
4. **Overachieving
5. **Avoiding Intimacy
6. **Self-Sabotage:
7. **Adopting a False Persona:
8. **Excessive Modesty or Humility:
9. **Social Withdrawal
10. **Constantly Seeking Reassurance
11 **tendency towards Perfectionism:
12. **Overthinking
13. **Excessive Apologizing
14. **Inauthentic Agreeableness:....aka lying for appproval**
- Agreeing with others' opinions and choices even when you disagree.
- Suppressing your true preferences and desires to avoid standing out.
15. **Non-Confrontational Behavior:**
Avoiding conflict at all costs
16. **Passive Behavior
17. **Attention-Seeking
18. **Pretending Indifference:
19. **Neglecting Personal Needs
20. **Frequent Humor or Deflection:
These behaviors, while often employed as protective mechanisms, can ultimately hinder authentic self-expression and fulfilling relationships. Identifying and addressing them is key to fostering healthier interactions and a stronger sense of self.
I'd love to hear from you and connect. Send me a text. Let's chat. YOU MATTER
**Authenticity** involves being true to one's own personality, values, and spirit, regardless of external pressures. It means expressing oneself honestly and transparently, embracing one's true self, and acting in alignment with one's core beliefs and values.
**Why Authenticity is Scary:**
Being authentic can be scary for several reasons
1. **Fear of Rejection
2. **Vulnerability
3. **Judgment
4. **Loss of Relationships
5. **Social Pressure
6. **Fear of Failure
7. **Uncertainty
8. **Personal Growth
9. **Change in Identity
10. **Professional Risks
11. **Fear of Conflict
12. **Exposure of Weaknesses
13. **Breaking Expectations
14. **Cultural or Familial Expectations
15. **Economic or Social Consequences
16. **Self-Doubt
17. **Loss of Control
18. **Fear of Change
19. **Emotional Labor - doing the internal work
20. **Fear of Isolation
21. **Past Trauma
22. **Complex Identity**: or complex trauma
Breaking it down further….
Starting with #1 Fear of rejection
1. **Fear of Rejection:**
- Being authentic means showing others who you truly are, which can lead to the fear that they might not accept or like you. Here's how we avoid it:
1. **People-Pleasing
2. **Masking True Feelings
3. **Withholding Personal Information
4. **Overachieving
5. **Avoiding Intimacy
6. **Self-Sabotage:
7. **Adopting a False Persona:
8. **Excessive Modesty or Humility:
9. **Social Withdrawal
10. **Constantly Seeking Reassurance
11 **tendency towards Perfectionism:
12. **Overthinking
13. **Excessive Apologizing
14. **Inauthentic Agreeableness:....aka lying for appproval**
- Agreeing with others' opinions and choices even when you disagree.
- Suppressing your true preferences and desires to avoid standing out.
15. **Non-Confrontational Behavior:**
Avoiding conflict at all costs
16. **Passive Behavior
17. **Attention-Seeking
18. **Pretending Indifference:
19. **Neglecting Personal Needs
20. **Frequent Humor or Deflection:
These behaviors, while often employed as protective mechanisms, can ultimately hinder authentic self-expression and fulfilling relationships. Identifying and addressing them is key to fostering healthier interactions and a stronger sense of self.