How Do Your Evaluate Your Trauma And Discover New Ways To Heal?
Have you ever wondered how your past traumas are shaping your present reality? Demetria Nickens, an expert in mental health first aid and trauma recovery coaching, joins us on the Dove's Inner B.E.A.U.T.Y. Podcast to illuminate the often overlooked influence of emotional trauma on our lives. With her extensive experience, Demetria unravels the complex threads of her clients' narratives, revealing the hidden traumas that hinder their personal growth and emotional well-being. She shares her non-judgmental approach to therapy, focusing not on the past but on the present obstacles that one's experiences have constructed.
Throughout our conversation, Demetria emphasizes the art of listening and the power of asking challenging questions that lead to transformative realizations. Her technique avoids re-traumatization by only working with what clients are ready to discuss, creating a respectful and secure space for self-discovery and recovery. By gently pulling at the threads of a person's life story, Demetria helps to expose and understand the deep-seated issues that block the path to emotional freedom. Join us to gain insight into her compassionate method and learn how to foster a journey toward greater emotional awareness and healing.
How Do Your Evaluate Your Trauma And Discover New Ways To Heal?
Have you ever wondered how your past traumas are shaping your present reality? Demetria Nickens, an expert in mental health first aid and trauma recovery coaching, joins us on the Dove's Inner B.E.A.U.T.Y. Podcast to illuminate the often overlooked influence of emotional trauma on our lives. With her extensive experience, Demetria unravels the complex threads of her clients' narratives, revealing the hidden traumas that hinder their personal growth and emotional well-being. She shares her non-judgmental approach to therapy, focusing not on the past but on the present obstacles that one's experiences have constructed.
Throughout our conversation, Demetria emphasizes the art of listening and the power of asking challenging questions that lead to transformative realizations. Her technique avoids re-traumatization by only working with what clients are ready to discuss, creating a respectful and secure space for self-discovery and recovery. By gently pulling at the threads of a person's life story, Demetria helps to expose and understand the deep-seated issues that block the path to emotional freedom. Join us to gain insight into her compassionate method and learn how to foster a journey toward greater emotional awareness and healing.
Welcome to the Dove's Inner Beauty Podcast, where we foster emotional awareness, one individual at a time. Leading the way is Demetria Nickens, a certified mental health first aid instructor and trauma recovery coach with over two decades of experience in fostering emotional awareness in others by engaging their mental health.
Speaker 2:
Are you ready to explore deep healing and personal transformation? Join us for an insightful interview with the owner of Doves Inner Beauty as we discuss how to evaluate trauma and discover innovative ways to heal. So welcome back everyone. Michelle Icantre, your co-host, slash producer, back in the studio with Demetria and Megan Demetria, how are you doing today?
Speaker 3:
I'm doing pretty good. How are you? I'm great.
Speaker 2:
So, demetria, how do you evaluate trauma and discover new ways of healing?
Speaker 3:
Ooh, such a weighted question, right, but I love it. Okay, ooh, such a weighted question, right, but I love it. I think I think one like evaluate trauma isn't for me to do, right? I I'm not. I don't consider myself what's called like a judge or jury or anything like that over your trauma, right? I cannot tell anyone what is traumatic for them any more than they could tell me what is traumatic for them, anymore than they could tell me what's traumatic for them. You know what I mean, or what's traumatic for me, right? And so I don't look at it in that way of evaluating trauma, right? I want to more evaluate the present and how trauma has impacted that present, if that makes sense. So I evaluate. The things that I evaluate are what's going on currently, so I evaluate your barriers, right? So I'm not really evaluating the trauma, right? I'm evaluating the barriers.
Speaker 3:
I evaluate by being able to listen to your story of what's stopping you from moving forward. I evaluate by being able to listen to what you feel like is holding you back, like why you feel like you came to me in the first place, right, this idea of like, where do you feel like you're stuck when it comes to emotion, right. Where do you feel like you? You feel like you can't move forward because X, y and Z. And what happens is when you start to dig into some of that and you get answers to some of those questions and you start to think about what is your life story? You know, just tell me what your life story is. Right, you had to write your life story. What is that right? When you start digging into things like that for people, what you find is a lot of trauma. There's a lot of trauma that's sitting in that life story and what I like to do is to be able to help identify for people hey, you know, so this thing that happened right here, right, that, right, there is probably what's stopping you from doing X, y and Z. That's your thing. Can we dig into that? Right, and then connect the dots for people and how it's impacting them? So, taking what they told me already, what they're willing to tell me because I don't ask what they don't already give, because I never want to ever re-traumatize someone. So it's about whatever you're willing to tell me is what I'm willing to work with and then be able to say, hey, I can pull out from the things that they did and say, hey, this thing, right there, let's look further into that, right? And I dig into those things.
Speaker 3:
I like to call it. I like to call it pulling the thread. I pull the thread on what is it called? What do I want to call it? I don't want to say issues, right, I don't like that word. Pull the thread on their life story, right, the thing that they tell me is going on and I just continue to pull that thread. And when you pull the thread, trauma comes out of it.
Speaker 3:
That is a lot of how I do the work is I ask hard questions from the things that they tell me and then, from those hard questions, they get aha moments. Right, people get beautiful aha moments about their life and that's the part that I think is the most wonderful about it is that when someone else gets the aha moment about their life and they're like, huh, that's it. That is the secret sauce, right? The being able to help people find their aha moment and being able to say, all right, so let's work through that, right, that's the thing we need to work through, and sometimes that's pulling in a therapist that needs to diagnose something very specific going on with them, because I don't diagnose Right. This isn't something that I do. I know I don't want to diagnose people. I never have Right. I think diagnosis help people trying. You know, some people like a diagnosis. They just want to feel like that's it. They feel like that's an answer for them.
Speaker 2:
Right.
Speaker 3:
I'm not the person to come to for a diagnosis, right? I don't. I don't want to diagnose you. I'm the person to come to when you feel like you don't want a diagnosis, but you want to figure out what's wrong. You feel like you don't want a diagnosis, but you need to figure out what's wrong. That's me right, because this is what I do.
Speaker 3:
I help people pull the thread on those things that is stopping them, on the goals that they're trying to accomplish, on the issues that they can't quite figure out, why they hadn't put the pieces together. I feel like I'm that puzzle piece. They hadn't put the pieces together. I feel like I'm that puzzle piece, like that connector of those puzzles, and so I help to like I'm able to look at the view from like a thousand foot view, right, sometimes, from where they can't see it, and be like, oh, that's the shape it's making. Let me show you what the shape is right, and then pull back and say here's the shape, right? This is what it really is. It's not a square, it's a star, right, right, and help people figure that out. I mean, so that's you know. I like to say I'm the catalyst, right? That I catalyst for change, for people to help them thrive and live a better life? Absolutely.
Speaker 2:
And we love it, tanika, and we really, really hope that you have a wonderful rest of your day and we will see you in our next episode.
Speaker 1:
Thank you so much. Thank you for tuning in to the Dove's Inner Beauty Podcast, where we foster emotional awareness, one individual at a time. For a complimentary consultation, visit dovesinnerbeautycom or reach out to us via email at innerbeauty.