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Navigating Spiritual Leadership Through Family Challenges

W. Austin Gardner Season 1 Episode 45

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What happens when spiritual leadership falters within a family? Join us as we investigate the life of Abram, whose reliance on half-truths and misplaced blame on God led to significant spiritual and familial challenges. We'll discuss how Abram’s decision to let Sarah take the spiritual reins affected his household, and the consequences of choosing human solutions over divine promises. Witness how Abram’s agreement to Sarah’s suggestion to take Hagar as a second wife reveals the depth of his leadership failure and its lasting impact on their union.

Sarah's role in these struggles adds another layer of complexity. By offering Hagar to Abram, Sarah not only gave poor counsel but also ushered in further complications in their marriage. We’ll draw parallels to modern scenarios, emphasizing how mutual spiritual support and clear communication are crucial for thriving marital relationships. Tune in for a compelling discussion on the lessons we can learn from these ancient missteps to better protect and nurture our own relationships in faith.

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W. Austin Gardner:

Another way that Abram made a marriage mistake or failed was that he failed to be a spiritual leader. He failed to be a spiritual leader. That's one of the biggest mistakes that many of us make. Many men, in the United States of America at least, have delegated to their wife all spiritual leadership and responsibility in the family. It'll be the wife who makes sure they go to church, it's the wife that prays for the kids. It's the wife that keeps up with what's going on with them. And so in Abram's life we see he told half truths. Well, she's my sister, so he didn't tell the full truth. And then you know, another thing that he ends up doing is he blames God for his problems. He says in Genesis, chapter 20 and verse 13, came to pass when God caused me to wander from my father's house. So as a spiritual leader he is now, instead of obeying God and honoring God, he's blaming God, he's doubting God, he's using people and taking advantage of them. He is attempting to accomplish his spiritual goals in the flesh.

W. Austin Gardner:

If you recall, abraham and Sarah will have a discussion and Sarah will say why don't you take my handmaiden Hagar, and you can do with her? You know, you can treat her like a wife and the baby will be born and we'll call that our baby. I am pretty certain, because I know women well I've been married almost 50 years. I'm pretty sure Sarah wanted him to look at her and say, oh, don't be crazy, honey, you're worth more to me than a thousand children. I would never do that. But instead Abraham said, well, okay, that's a good idea. Glad you came up with it. That makes it easier for me to do it and I'll just go out and do that. And he took Hagar as his wife and they had relations and a baby will be born. So there's a problem there that he is not the spiritual leader in his home. He is failing to walk with God and do things God's way. Sarah also is failing to be a good spiritual motivator or spiritual challenge.

W. Austin Gardner:

She gave him bad advice when she told him to go in with Hagar. I personally think she might've been hoping he wouldn't take her up on the advice. I know, you know, it's like when Betty and I get ready to go somewhere to eat. I'll say, well, where do you want to eat? She said it doesn't matter. And I said, okay, we'll go to Waffle House or McDonald's. And then she says, well, I won't go there. So she really does know where she wants to go but she won't tell me. And you know, sometimes it's that man and woman conversation thing that goes on there and it's kind of hard.

W. Austin Gardner:

But she gave bad advice and she should have been motivating him to honor God and serve God but she wasn't. She opened the marriage doors for another woman to come into their marriage and that's a horrible thing to consider having happened. But she did. She opened the doors, let Hagar in and she gave her to her husband, abram, to be his wife Genesis 16, 3. That's a horrible thing to do. Every one of us ought to protect our marriage and protect our relationship with our spouse so that there's never any of that that goes on with anyone else.