Have you ever stood at the crossroads of hardship and triumph, wondering how to navigate the complexities of a life marred by adversity? Join us as Raymar, a resilient soul from Chicago, recounts his explosive life story in our segment "In My Shoes." Through the raw truths of loss, neglect, and the fierce battle for redemption, Raymar's vivid narrative offers a stark reflection of the challenges and resilience faced by those in the throes of inner-city strife.
Peeling back the layers of vulnerability, we confront the stigmas of therapy in communities of color and the hidden wounds of childhood trauma. In a world where pain often begets pain, I take a stand for self-care and personal accountability, advocating for the power of self-talk and reflection to break the cycle. This heart-to-heart is an invitation to embrace strength in the struggle, to see the courage in reaching out for help, and to acknowledge that the road to healing is both a personal responsibility and a profound act of bravery.
Relationships, with all their messiness and moral conundrums, often push us to our ethical limits. In a candid exploration of love, betrayal, and the intricate dance of human connections, we shed light on scenarios that beg the question: What would you do? From the spouse of an affair knocking at your door to the complexities of new love with old ties, we dissect these provocative dilemmas, urging you to reflect and engage. Share your perspectives with us, as we journey through the rough, yet revealing landscape of relationships and the decisions that shape them.
Have you ever stood at the crossroads of hardship and triumph, wondering how to navigate the complexities of a life marred by adversity? Join us as Raymar, a resilient soul from Chicago, recounts his explosive life story in our segment "In My Shoes." Through the raw truths of loss, neglect, and the fierce battle for redemption, Raymar's vivid narrative offers a stark reflection of the challenges and resilience faced by those in the throes of inner-city strife.
Peeling back the layers of vulnerability, we confront the stigmas of therapy in communities of color and the hidden wounds of childhood trauma. In a world where pain often begets pain, I take a stand for self-care and personal accountability, advocating for the power of self-talk and reflection to break the cycle. This heart-to-heart is an invitation to embrace strength in the struggle, to see the courage in reaching out for help, and to acknowledge that the road to healing is both a personal responsibility and a profound act of bravery.
Relationships, with all their messiness and moral conundrums, often push us to our ethical limits. In a candid exploration of love, betrayal, and the intricate dance of human connections, we shed light on scenarios that beg the question: What would you do? From the spouse of an affair knocking at your door to the complexities of new love with old ties, we dissect these provocative dilemmas, urging you to reflect and engage. Share your perspectives with us, as we journey through the rough, yet revealing landscape of relationships and the decisions that shape them.
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Speaker 1:What's going on, family, and welcome to HoodChatter. I'm your host, doc J, and I want to welcome you back to another episode. Thank you so much for joining into this experience. Last week's episode was our premiere and, although I was nervous, I am very happy with the outcome on last week's show. I truly am.
Speaker 1:I received a lot of really good feedback and I'm excited to see how this unfolds as we go forward. So, to my surprise, I had a couple of hundred views of my reels and the show combined over the various platforms. So I received more DMs than I expected, with people sharing their stories and their thoughts and their comments. So I am going to continue to go through those stories and review those stories and see how that works for our future shows. So I'm going to continue to post the questions every week and it's my hope that as we continue to grow, we'll receive more feedback and interaction.
Speaker 1:Ok, so with that, we're back this week with another segment of In my Shoes. This week I will introduce to you a 52-year-old man named Raymar from downtown Chicago. Okay, raymar's story is explosive and necessary in this day and age. Okay, and particularly in our community. Although we might not have the same specific stories. The general takeaway is something that we all have and we've all experienced at some point or another, so I just want you to sit back and enjoy. This is Raymar's testimonial.
Speaker 3:Listen, g-shit, you know, I'm not even a doubt. Well, it's emotion, shit, but you act, so I'm going to do it. But this shit crazy. All right, you want me to tell you everything? Fuck it. My mom died when I was like 12. Me, my brother, my two sisters, was put in foster care with this mean-ass white lady who had like six black kids she was using to get money right. So, except for school lunch, I ate TV dinners for like a year. I never want to see a fucking TV dinner ever again in your world. It was our fucking responsibility to get up for school in the morning, and if we was late or missed school she'd lock us in a room with no food for the whole day.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying. It was fucking torture, yo, for real. I stayed with that bitch for about a year when my pops came and got us after I turned 13. And we told the force to care people about that lady. When my pops came and did us too, and they ended up taking them over kids, because that bitch was nuts. But shit wasn't no better though, my piece of shit ass. Pops moved the three of us into a two bedroom apartment in the hood and this nigga thought he was a general sergeant and ain't never been in nobody's army. This nigga beat us for everything he had us cleaning all the time and if he didn't like it we got beat. If we didn't finish our full, we got beat. Tv too loud Beat. In the bathroom too long Beat. The nigga was crazy, real tall. We were scared of this nigga and I ran away from home at 17 Because between my grades and, you know, acting out, there was no way I was graduating from high school.
Speaker 3:So what was the point? And I was done dealing with my pop shit. So I was out. I stayed with some family and a couple of friends Until, one by one, they put me out for different shit and I admit I was doing dumb shit, but I didn't know no better. Ain't nobody ever teaching me about how to be? They just told me to shut up and do what I was told and beat my ass. So I got arrested for the first time when I was 18 for petty larceny, taking clothes and shit from stores. But that was my hustle steal shit from the store and sell it in a hood. That's how I got my money.
Speaker 3:I met this girl when I was 20. I loved that bitch and she played me. Thinking back, I should have shot that bitch for what she did. I was 20 and she was 19, and she lived in the hood Not far from where I was staying, with some people and we started chilling and fucking and I moved into her mom's sectioning apartment. Her mom's was live wire though, so she ain't hear nothing about me staying here. We fucked around for almost two years, right. Then she met these burrhead bitches she started hanging out with when she started going to school and she started acting wild, different. First I'm like whatever, but then this bitch started bugging out like she always got attitude with me Everything's a fucking argument about some dumb shit. Then she stopped giving me the pussy. So I knew something was up.
Speaker 3:I went to dss one day. I come back to the crib, open the door and there's these three niggas sitting in the living room. I walked in and niggas rolled up on me like yo, sir, you don't want you, no more. What I'm like yo, who the fuck y'? And what the fuck is she talking about? I looked around all my cereal ready in bags, won't start me short, I'm black. These ladies jumped me. This bitch was right there and let these ladies jump me in the crib. Now, if this bitch would have said, yo, it's over, or whatever, I would have just bounced. But you got me jumped and packed my shit up, but it's whatever. I got my revenge, though. So fuck him, fuck her and her moms, because that bitch was a shit neater. So I moved in with one of my mans right after that, but this nigga had like the party crib.
Speaker 3:So I started drinking crazy. I'm smoking gallons of shit all the time. Then you know a little V, a little coke, and by the time I was 25, I was smoking crack Like I didn't think of fuck real talk, and I'm not gonna lie. When shit get too crazy, I might take a hit every now and then. But whatever, I ain't gonna lie, though I lost it, but you can't blame me. Motherfucker's been doing me dirty from the beginning. So I was 25 when I got out for the second time and, fam, I ain't gonna lie, that did hot shit. We had a new brother sometimes my nigga. I stole a car, tried to sell it to this white boy at this club this is how I know I was brother, because I should have known he was police. They locked my black ass right the fuck up for carjacking, the sale of the stolen vehicle caught car theft and fraud. So I didn't be able to clear that shit. Listen to it now. That shit do sound crazy, though I ain't gonna lie. All right. So what else?
Speaker 3:I got out, went to the shelter, met this chick on the bus. We started kicking it. She was cool, the person was fire. So I gave PO the address and moved in. When I was broke, we still gave PO the address and moved in, but I was probably still getting high on the side. But she ain't know. I mean, I don't think she knew in the beginning anyway.
Speaker 3:But one night I went out, got smacked, ran up in the store with the hammer trying to get some bread. I wasn't going to hurt nobody, but I was trying to get some paper. I don't even remember how much I got, but I made it happen. Two days later, my dumb ass walking down the same block. I held his store up to see my fucking picture all over the place on the water side. I said, fuck, you already know Knocked again. I'm probably gotten locked for eight years, but that was my last bit. After that I said, fuck that, I'm not going back to the penitentiary again this time.
Speaker 3:When I got out I went to the shelter, got a job at the local church that I kept for 15 years. There was stock in the cleaner for Sister Johnson. I love Sister Johnson. She was very nice, she hooked me up with food and clothes, but fuck that job. Her husband tried to play me a sin and I threatened him so he fired me, motherfucker. So I started cleaning this apartment building but those motherfuckers ain't never gonna pay me right. So I cursed them the fuck out. I ain't gonna let nobody try to play me. Fuck that. I just thought this figure.
Speaker 3:The other nine percent is some slick shit and trying to blame God. I'm sick of motherfuckers. Yo People ain't shit. They can't be trusted. I'm team me, fuck that. Ain't nobody helping this shit for me. So what makes me think that shit going to change now? I tried to help this dude out not too long ago and let this motherfucker move from my crib, and this nigga didn't want to give me no bread to stay there. I ended up having to fuck him up too, like come on, yo, doc. I'm 52 and at this stage of my life I'm tired of being angry. I'm tired of being unhappy. I'm just fucking tired. Like what the fuck? When is shit ever going to get better for me? Like yo for real.
Speaker 1:One. Okay, raymar, first of all. First of all, I want to thank you for sharing your truth and being vulnerable and man enough to know and say I'm not happy and I need help. Okay, because although that's hard, there's nothing wrong with asking for help. Okay, and then making yourself open to receiving that help. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Everybody needs help sometimes. Real talk. Everybody needs help sometimes.
Speaker 1:So, thank you, because it's my hope that other men can tap into the benefits of self-care, and I don't mean a beauty regimen, but I'm talking about getting closer to yourself and stepping out of trauma and into triumph. So now, I know that there is a stigma with therapy in the black and brown community, but would you consider counseling or coaching of some sort, not being put on medication or anything, but just to have somebody to talk to that's objective and doesn't know you and doesn't have any reason to try to play you whatsoever? Something so simple as having an outlet to process whatever it is that you're feeling can make all the difference. And if you're interested, message me please and I'll be more than happy to refer you to counseling or coaching in your area. Okay, and let me tell you something In the words of Mike Tyson, you have two choices in life run scared or stay and fight. Now, I believe run scared is relinquishing your power to something or someone, and staying and fighting means choosing yourself. At all costs okay. As long as you have life, you have time to make your dreams come true. I truly believe that.
Speaker 1:Now I will say this Everybody wants to be loved and a child deserves that. Okay, but unfortunately not everybody has the cosby show upbringing and it's unfortunate. I understand everybody's family dynamic is different and I can say I can definitely agree in saying that your childhood was rough, shitty by most standards, right, and it's definitely not the idea of what we have growing up. So I apologize for that. Okay, growing up, the people that were responsible for you did not meet your basic needs. Okay, and you didn't deserve that. Let me say that and although my apology might not be what you need, I think someone needs to apologize to you so that you know there are people that care and understand and that, essentially, some of these things that you've been through have been fucked up, to say the least. We understand that. However, at this stage of your life, you're tired of being tired and angry and you want your change to come. If you were 25 and telling this story, I would agree with you, right? However, at 52, that narrative sounds a little different out loud. Now let me tell you what that sounds like out loud.
Speaker 1:My father was messed up so I went to foster care. But when my father got me out of foster care, he was messed up so I dropped out of school. And because I dropped out of school and my father was messed up, I ran away. And because I ran away, I got arrested. And because I got arrested, the girl got me jumped when I got out. And then I started getting high. Because the girl got me jumped and because I was getting high, I got arrested. And because I was getting high, I got arrested. And now I'm angry, I'm fired from different jobs and I'm having fights with random people at the age of 52.
Speaker 1:Right, I can't stress enough the benefits of self-care and checking in with yourself. Right, you might not have been here, but if you were here, remember last week I mentioned the benefits of checking in with yourself and taking stock to see what you need for yourself and from yourself. Ok, because hurt people hurt people and it's so much easier to cause pain than to deal with what you're going with inside, and we often push our pain on other people and we bottle things up until they fester and boil over. Bottle things up until they fester and boil over, and that causes us to make poor decisions or to react in a manner that's not necessarily becoming of who you are. Okay, not dealing with unresolved issues can cause anxiety and depression and mood swings and violence and even suicide. So let me say this right here, since I put that in there If anybody out there is experiencing any kind of mental health issues or bouts with feeling like suicide, you can dial 988. It is a national crisis hotline available 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and there will be somebody there that can assist you and talk to you at any given time.
Speaker 1:Ok, with that, I want to go into the next segment of the show, and today's topic of the show is nobody owes you anything, and I want to bring that up because I think sometimes we get so wrapped up in ourselves. We think that everybody around us is supposed to conform to what it is that we need or what it is that we're going through. When we're going through Right, when we're at work. We expect our job to be emotionally intelligent or care about our feelings. Right, when I started working, nobody gave a damn about our feelings. Right, when I started working, nobody gave a damn about your feelings. You can believe that, okay, and if you don't work, you don't get paid. If you don't go to school and you don't participate, you don't turn in your assignments, then you don't pass.
Speaker 1:Right, and sometimes I think we get so wrapped up in self and being so self-absorbed and self-centered that sometimes we really believe that the outside world owes us something and that if we don't get it, then we have an attitude and we take that out in some way, shape or form. Right, it's the same thing with your family. Your family is charged to love you, not to like you. Okay, and that doesn't always happen, and let me say this too. So to us, not everything is the fault of the white man. Sometimes we got to take responsibility for our own shit, put in the work, pull ourself up by our bootstraps and make it happen. It's 2024. We can't blame everybody else for anything that's necessarily going on with us. Right, because in every situation there's a part that we have to play and we have to put in work, right.
Speaker 1:Things don't necessarily get better on their own. It takes work, and things don't get better with you sitting in place and complaining or at home, getting turned up and numbing the pain. It takes work and it's not going to be easy. It's not going to be easy. It's not going to be easy. It's going to be hard work, because if it was easy, everybody would be whole and sane and at peace.
Speaker 1:Okay, so if you want things to start to turn around for you and I'm not just talking to Raymond, I'm talking to all of us now If you want things to turn around for you, you have to start to take active steps to make that happen. Okay, if you want better, you have to believe better, because you deserve better. Right, you're worth it and no matter what has happened to you or what you've been through, everybody wants to be and deserves love and happiness. So start speaking better to yourself and stop replaying yesterday. And you have to surround yourself around different people. Okay, you can't expect different results from the same circle. Most importantly, and the one that probably you don't want to hear the most, but you have to and now I'm talking to Raymar in this situation don't want to hear the most. But you have to and now I'm talking to Raymar.
Speaker 1:In this situation, I just want to run back.
Speaker 1:You have to stop getting high.
Speaker 1:Real talk Like you got.
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Speaker 1:Stop getting high Because and you don't need for me to say that but this pattern that getting high is doing, you see where that has left you, right?
Speaker 1:So let me also say this to you and to all of us Nobody owes you anything. It's good to have people in your corner and it's good to have support, but if we don't believe in ourselves and support ourselves and encourage ourselves, wanting better is never going to manifest itself, right? Raymar? I want to thank you again because your testimony was fire okay and I wanted to share this story in hopes of helping someone see more clearly and begin to reshape the narrative for their life and set themselves up to be better and make better decisions. That's why I said in the beginning you might not necessarily be able to resonate with the incarceration piece, but you know, everybody wants to be better, but we don't necessarily put in the work to get where we need to be right, and if we keep reliving our yesterdays, then we miss today and we don't plan for tomorrow. So live today because we play with it, but tomorrow really isn't promised right. We'll be right back.
Speaker 2:We'll come on to talk to you. Need someone to listen, Looking for clarity and strategy? Reach out to the Turnaround Project. Our life coaches are here to help you on your journey to getting better, doing better and being better. Turnaround Project Helping individuals learn to help themselves. Yeah, we on to the next one.
Speaker 1:All right, we are to the next one, right? So I submitted this article some time ago to a few sources and for publication, but for some reason, whatever, that did not come to fruition. So this is something that needs to be heard. Let me tell you that this is something that needs to be heard, and I use this in many of my coaching sessions for clients and it's proven extremely beneficial, and the feedback that I've received from my clients is nothing but positive when applying this to your everyday life. So I want you to clear your mind right now and listen carefully, because I'm coming directly up your street with this one. Okay, this is a piece that I titled the Power of Shut the Fuck Up, right? So this is a tool geared to help be the best you every day, regardless of what you're going through or what's going on around you. Okay, here we go.
Speaker 1:When someone is pissing you off, what do you think? Shut the fuck up? Sometimes you might even say it out loud. Okay, when someone's being obnoxious at the doctor's office or the movies, or that drunk friend or relative that gets way too excited, you think shut the fuck up Again, sometimes you might say it out loud. Okay, believe it or not, our brains do some of the same things to ourselves, and oftentimes our thoughts can be obnoxious and annoying and toxic and the ultimate source of what's pissing us off. So the question becomes how often do we tell ourselves to shut the fuck up? When is a good time to exercise tough love on yourself? Our negative thoughts or inability to stop our brain from rambling can cause sleepless nights, stress, anxiety and foul moods. What if our problem is ourself? How many believe that words and thoughts have power? And if that's the case, what are some of the things that you're saying to yourself? I'm talking about the things you say concerning you.
Speaker 1:On any given day, we're bombarded by our addiction to technology and social media, work, television, family, you know, etc. And all of these people and places and things pour into us, but they take from us simultaneously. And society tells women to be perfect with long hair and an hourglass figure, while men are supposed to be millionaires and six feet tall and well-endowed right. So here we are at the end of the day in our moment of reflection, and instead of speaking positivity, we attack ourselves. I'm fat, I'm lonely, I can't. What if, if only? And this becomes cyclical, day in, day out, worldly stress, family, work obligations and self-abuse.
Speaker 1:No wonder so many of us suffer from depressions and feeling of inadequacy and self-doubt. Right, it's very rare. Most of us are good to ourselves. We often blame others for our situations and circumstances, when sometimes we are our own worst enemy and the most toxic person in our life. We are on a never-ending grind, with little to no family time, no rest and relaxation and loads of self-deprecation. We see people in different areas of life talking to themselves and most times we think they got mental health issues.
Speaker 1:However, if more of us had frequent conversations with ourselves, we might be more equipped to handle the things that life throws at us. I don't mean ask yourself what's for dinner aloud okay, don't do that but ask yourself the tough questions that force you to be brutally honest. Is this necessary? Is this helping me? Am I to blame? And then process the responses and the feelings that follow. Okay. Anything or anyone in life that is not lifting you up, pouring into you, encouraging and supporting you, should experience tough love by the way of shut the fuck up, okay. If you won't let someone else waste your time, then don't waste your own time.
Speaker 1:Your comments don't always have to be positive but truthful, and the goal is to identify what happiness looks like for you. Then embrace it and live in it. Speak positivity and encourage yourself, your day, your space, yourself, your day, your space and your life. Declare that life is mine, peace is mine, success is mine, and watch your brain begin to activate the endorphins that will bring about positive feelings, positive interactions and that internal peace that life tries to rob from you daily. The thought process will not happen overnight. Okay, we're all conditioned to be critical and judgmental and self-deprecating, so this will take time. Okay, I'm not naive to that, and it's going to take time and dedication, but guess what? You're worth it. The more positivity you speak inward, the more your outward voice will project positivity back to you and display itself in other areas of your life.
Speaker 1:Now, I'm not naive, okay, and I know that we have a petty and reactive side that sometimes jumps out knowingly and unknowingly, so in hopes of preventing chaos. Here's a little last minute advice it might not be a good idea to tell your boss to shut the fuck up, but when someone is hating on your joy, your love, your peace, your happiness, your time, look at them and say, or not say, shut the fuck up, I'm worth it, okay. So what is the narrative that you're telling yourself? What are you beating yourself up about?
Speaker 1:Negative thoughts and comments encourage negative emotions and can manifest itself into physical ailments. We are sometimes our own worst enemy and we have to learn to start speaking sweetly to ourselves. There is no need to keep kicking yourself and reliving the past. We must learn from our mistakes and then keep living. Time that we spend internalizing negative narratives is time that we're not spending living. And what a horrible thing it is to miss out on life because you can't get out of your own way, right?
Speaker 1:There's a popular gospel song that I love, and the words are in small look in the mirror and encourage yourself, pat yourself on the back and tell yourself you can make it. And these words are so true. Okay, there's always something going on and we need a little extra something, something to get us through. So I'm going to say this call on whatever or whoever it is that you believe in, and pray on that thing and meditate and then listen for clarity, but in the meantime, encourage yourself, because words have power and we can find the words to support and encourage others, but oftentimes we have a hard time internalizing those same words to uplift ourselves. The co-founder of the Huffington Post, arianna Huffington, says accurately and I love this so much failure is part of success, not opposite.
Speaker 1:And I know that when I was considering going for my doctorate, I was so wracked with emotions of the possibility of failure and the fear of success because that's something too. But it took me three years before I even applied and I had to get to a point where I was like Jamel, shut the fuck up, like really, what are you doing? And when I started to encourage myself and lean on my faith, of course, I started to be able to envision better for myself and the idea of failure became less crippling and it allowed me to move on really. So I hope this helps somebody in some way, because because I want you to understand that nobody owes us anything and we have the power to make the change that we need and that we seek in our lives. So I will say if you believe in something, pray on that thing, but encourage yourself and then do the work because you're worth it and you can do it. Yeah, we ought to do the work because you're worth it and you can do it. Yeah, we all do the next one.
Speaker 1:So this is our last segment for today, everybody, and we're back to our table talk. So here's one of my crazy questions, just for the fun of it. So I want you to throw this up in the air. Last week, I said don't have this conversation with your spouse. A lot of you did that anyway, so I'm going to leave it up to you and let the chips fall where they may Like to hear it. Here we go. This is this week's question.
Speaker 1:The spouse of the person you're cheating with shows up at your door crying. What do you do? I'm going to say that again. The spouse of the person you're cheating with shows up at your door crying. What do you do? Do you comfort them? Okay, now, bear in mind, you can't lie. I know that's the first reaction. You can't lie. They already know whoever it is that you're sleeping with, okay, so you can't deny it. That's not an option here. Let's go for that, because normally these are confrontation situations that often end really bad. Okay, like did you ask your man? Okay, how am I supposed to help you and what are you expecting? Like, come on in and I'll make you some tea. Like this is my take on it. Like, really, um, like, if you don't get out of my face with that nonsense, um, that's really what I thought. So put it in the comments, throw it around in your social circles. I'm gonna give it to you one more time. The spouse of the person you're cheating with shows up at your door crying what do you do? Okay, so let me give you a couple more before I go right.
Speaker 1:Would you date someone with kids? Why or why not? Now, me personally, I say it depends on how many kids you got, and it depends on the kids. You know, I don't see anything wrong with dating someone with kids, but I think too, before you get completely invested in that, you got to meet them kids, because baby, if they baby, I don't know if that's what you really want to do, because that might be a little more than you want to handle. And you've got to check out the baby mother too, because don't nobody want to get into a relationship, you know, and have some baby mother issues, and you know how that happens. You get roped in in the beginning because everything is the honeymoon phase, and then you wake up and you're dealing with somebody that got a couple of kids. You know dudes, you know how it is the baby daddy and you got all the baby daddy drama and sometimes that's really unnecessary, so I'm going to throw that out there. Would you date someone with kids? Would you get involved in a relationship with someone with kids? Right, relationship with someone with kids, right?
Speaker 1:My next question is how would you react if you found out that your best friend was dating your ex? I'm talking about your right hand. How would you feel if your right hand said listen me and such and such got together and now we're an item Bro, like I don't know, your crew, mine ain't having it, not having it at all, like that's just that's, that's crazy. Now let me say this I'm not talking about your jump off or your sneaky link, and even that could be a problem because it depends on the duration and this, that and the third. So even that could be a problem. So let me not say that. If it's in your circle, as as far as I'm concerned, once they smash, leave it alone. Like it's just completely off limits, like that's, that's just too messy, it's entirely too messy. I'm gonna leave you with one more. This is how we do it.
Speaker 1:How do you end a casual relationship. Do you ghost them? Do you just come out and be like, yeah, what's done, like it's a wrap's a wrap, I'm not putting up with this anymore, whatever it is, I don't want to be bothered or do you just kind of slowly taper off and fade out one not answered phone call at a time, or one too many I'm busy or I got to work late, or something like that? How do you fade off from a situation that you're in something like that? How do you fade off from a situation that you're in? I know me, and in the past I was number C of the last couple of responses I just gave you. I was kind of the taper off, just kind of fall back, leave it alone, because I didn't really want to deal with the in-between in the conversation. You know, I just kind of fell back from it altogether and that's how I worked my situations and it worked for me. So let me ask you that put that out there.
Speaker 1:How do you taper off from situations? Okay, that's it for me today, family, I had such a good time and I hope you receive some gems today that can really help you on your journey to becoming the best you possible. Really, that's all I want and I'll see you next Thursday. Remember to tell a friend, to tell a friend and follow me on social media at the hood chatter. That's the hood chatter. You can search hood chatter all your streaming platforms and I'll come up. Just look for this nice little red logo right here. Watch and listen, subscribe. Thank you for being here and I'm going to leave you with this. Don't be upset with the results you don't get from the work you don't put in. Susan Hyatt. See you next week, guys.