Stethoscopes and Strollers
Welcome to Stethoscopes & Strollers! I'm Dr. Toya, mom of two, OBGYN, and coach for physician moms. Here, we go beyond the hospital halls, into the messy, magical early years of parenting—think diapers, sleepless nights, and figuring out how to deal with all those unexpected twists and turns.
Every episode, I dive into topics like mental health, the ins and outs of postpartum sex, sorting out childcare, and how having little ones changes your marriage. We’ll talk about getting back to work after baby, the real deal with mom guilt thanks to those tough doctor schedules, what pumping at work is really like, and how to keep all the balls in the air without dropping any. We’re here to get real about the hard choices, like deciding to stop breastfeeding, and so much more. This is a space for focusing on taking care of you, because managing scrubs and swaddles takes a village.
You'll figure out how to ask for and actually accept help, because let’s be honest, getting support is crucial for thriving as both a mom and a doctor.
Just a quick heads-up: while we're all about sharing and supporting, remember this isn’t medical advice. We’re here to connect, share experiences, and grow—together, without the medical jargon.
So, grab your coffee or tea, and get ready to dive into those parts of being a physician mom that don't get talked about enough. You're not riding this roller coaster alone, and you definitely deserve all the support you can get.
Tune in to Stethoscopes & Strollers for some real, honest insights and practical tips to make momming a bit easier. It’s time to get the conversation started!
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Stethoscopes and Strollers
2. Rage and Resentment: My Real Postpartum Story Pt 2
In this first episode of *Stethoscopes & Strollers*, I'm diving deep into my own postpartum journey, sharing the raw, real, and unfiltered version of what I experienced as a physician mom. It’s the untold story that inspired me to become a coach for physician moms and help others who are navigating the challenging early years of motherhood.
Key Points Covered:
- Expectations vs. Reality: I talk about how my expectations for my second postpartum journey were upended, even with better support and control over my schedule. Despite my optimism, it was still a challenging time.
- Physical Pain and Breastfeeding Struggles: I detail my intense pain following childbirth, breastfeeding difficulties due to an anatomy mismatch, and how my daughter’s reflux added to the challenges.
- Support System Dynamics: Despite having my mom and husband nearby, their focus on their own experiences made it hard for me to feel fully supported.
- Navigating Marriage and Parenting: My husband and I struggled to divide responsibilities equitably, leading to resentment. A trip to Cabo became a turning point in our relationship after intense conversations and a humorous therapy mishap.
- Finding Community in Friends: My friend Dr. P was a lifeline through it all. Her non-judgmental support validated my feelings and gave me the strength to continue.
- Importance of Self-Care: I learned the value of asking for help and prioritizing my healing through pelvic floor therapy, regular massages, and mental health support.
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