Ever feel like a walking time bomb, teetering on the edge of a volcanic eruption of anger? We've all been there, and in our latest episode, we're spilling the secrets to defusing the anger ticking away inside us. From the deep-seated roots of rage to the explosion of tempers that can shake our world, we dissect the emotion that's as natural as breathing but as dangerous as fire when left unchecked. With tips on recognizing triggers and strategies for cooling down, we guarantee you'll walk away with the tools to tamp down the flames of fury and transform them into a force for positive change.
Navigating the stormy seas of anger is an art, and our episode is the compass you need to steer toward calmer waters. Discover how exercise can be your ally in the battle against stress and how positive thinking can shield you and your relationships from the fallout of unchecked emotions. Whether it's through meditation, relaxation, or seeking professional guidance, we delve into the techniques that can reshape your responses to anger-inducing scenarios. So join us, and let's master the art of staying cool under pressure, turning potential destruction into powerful motivation.
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Ever feel like a walking time bomb, teetering on the edge of a volcanic eruption of anger? We've all been there, and in our latest episode, we're spilling the secrets to defusing the anger ticking away inside us. From the deep-seated roots of rage to the explosion of tempers that can shake our world, we dissect the emotion that's as natural as breathing but as dangerous as fire when left unchecked. With tips on recognizing triggers and strategies for cooling down, we guarantee you'll walk away with the tools to tamp down the flames of fury and transform them into a force for positive change.
Navigating the stormy seas of anger is an art, and our episode is the compass you need to steer toward calmer waters. Discover how exercise can be your ally in the battle against stress and how positive thinking can shield you and your relationships from the fallout of unchecked emotions. Whether it's through meditation, relaxation, or seeking professional guidance, we delve into the techniques that can reshape your responses to anger-inducing scenarios. So join us, and let's master the art of staying cool under pressure, turning potential destruction into powerful motivation.
Thanks for listening and for being one of our valued subscribers! Our GiveAway Contest Is Running For Another 30 Days - you gotta keep those entries ticking up if you want a shot at the MacBook Air. You can enter here
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Help. My anger is out of control. How often have you said these words to yourself? It can be difficult dealing with many circumstances these days, but it's still important to learn how to control your temper. The main thing to remember here is that you're always in control. You should never find yourself in a situation that you can't control. By allowing yourself to even think that your temper is out of control, you're just making an excuse for yourself.
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To a certain point, anger is a healthy response. It allows you to vent your frustrations and feelings, but it should not get the better of you. If you find that you're turning violent when angry, then you have a major problem, one that might even necessitate anger management counseling. There's one difference that you should be aware of. It's not how you you should be aware of. It's not how you're feeling. That's wrong. It's what you do with your feelings that becomes the issue. If you allow yourself to throw a tantrum and fling your arms around, shouting wildly, this is obviously not a good sign. You're liable to hurt other people's feelings as well as possibly causing them physical harm.
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When you let your temper get the better of you, it can have serious consequences. This includes being bad for your mental health. It can damage your physical health, stress and heart attacks. It could ruin your career or damage relationships with friends, family and co-workers. Your first step is to seek out help and learn to manage your temper in a more effective way. This can include group therapy or it can consist of you learning how to manage your anger by yourself.
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Learning to control your temper will take time and effort. One of the first things you should do is try to determine what the root cause of your anger is. Did you grow up in an angry household? Have you experienced a traumatic event? Sometimes the root cause of anger can be hidden deep inside. It's only with a lot of soul-searching and meditating that the answers will be revealed. Find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed and start making a list of all the things that make you angry. Then put them in order of importance. Which one lights your fuse first? Once you know what your root cause is, it can be dealt with Again. This will take time and effort, but at least you know why you feel so angry. Cool that anger down. Have you ever had someone tell you to cool your temper? Most people have at some point in their life. While these words are easy to say. It's not always easy to learn how to cool that anger down. Let's look at how you can do just this and diffuse a situation before it gets out of control.
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1. Count to 10. This is very easy for anyone to do, child or adult. It provides you with enough time to think about what you are planning on doing. It provides you with enough time to think about what you are planning on doing.
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2. Consider the consequences. Take a few moments to think about what the results of your actions will be. If you strike out at a fellow worker, you may end up losing your job. Is it worth it? 3. Deep breathing this really works, as it helps to reduce the tension buildup in your body. You may even want to use this technique as your first course of action. 4. Relax. Take a few seconds and picture yourself in a different place, somewhere calm and soothing. This might be standing at the edge of the ocean or walking in a park. You may want to imagine that you're listening to soothing music. Relaxation techniques are extremely helpful when it comes to managing your anger. 5. Massage you can use self-massage on areas like your neck and shoulders to help reduce those feelings of anger. Do things like rolling your neck and performing shoulder shrugs. You'll feel the tension leaving your body, helping you to calm down.
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Next, there are some simple questions that you can ask yourself. One how important is this situation to me? Two is it worth continuing on this path and risking consequences? Three am I ready to risk ruining my entire day for this? Four what is my best course of action? Five am I about to respond in the correct way? You will now have two choices of action to make a point and let people know that you're angry and why, or you can decide that it's time to diffuse the situation by walking away or just ending the conversation. If you decide to stay and fight, then do so in a way that's healthy and productive. Don't allow yourself to get out of control. Explain why you're angry, what caused this and how the situation can be resolved. If you do this, then both you and the other person will have dealt with a potentially explosive situation in an adult manner. How to reduce your anger levels.
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When it comes to anger issues, you can often be your own worst enemy. There are many forms of anger, each one with their own traits. If you suffer from frequent outbursts of anger, then it can help to identify what type of anger you're displaying and then look for ways to deal with it. Explosive anger this is the type of anger when you suddenly find yourself lashing out at someone. This might be at your kids for leaving their toys on the ground, or at someone at work for leaving their jacket on your chair. Self-abusive anger this is where you always blame yourself for the situation. You may find yourself saying and thinking things such as I'm a bad wife or husband, or it's my fault that this happened. If you have this type of anger, then you also have self-esteem and self-confidence issues. Working on these things will help you deal with your anger.
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Avoidance anger this is when you always say that things are fine when they're not. Instead of dealing with any issue, you try to look the other way and pretend that nothing's happening. You need to learn that it's okay to let people know that they've upset you or made you mad. This form of anger often stems from growing up in an abusive or troubled home. Sarcastic anger this is when you belittle people with sarcastic remarks. This makes them feel terrible and you're damaging relationships at the same time. You may actually think that what you're saying is a joke, but it doesn't come over that way at all. People with this type of anger have often been taught to hide their emotions as a child.
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Not healthy at all Irritated anger. With this type of anger, you often use words such as I'm sick of you doing this or that all the time. This is normally a result of not being happy with certain aspects of your life. You may be unhappy or even jealous of someone or something else. Instead of expressing your fears and concerns, you hide them by almost becoming nasty to people instead. Once you can identify which type of anger you have, it can be easier to find ways to deal with it. It may be helpful to speak to a professional for advice. Just remember that the words you say, along with your actions, can really hurt and damage any type of relationship.
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Easy tips for reducing anger. Do you find that you let your anger get the better of you? You notice that your boiling point is easily reached, more now than ever before. If so, it's time to take steps to get your anger under control. You don't want to let it have the upper hand, so to speak. Use the following tips to help reduce your anger and improve the quality of your life. Always think before you speak. This tip is one that you've probably given to your own children, so why not practice it yourself? Take a few moments to think about what you're going to say and think about the impact it may have If it's something that you know you'll regret later. Try to remain silent or count to 10 before responding in a different way.
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Exercise can help. Quite often you feel angry because you're stressed out can help. Quite often you feel angry because you're stressed out. Try getting into the habit of making time for exercise. This may just be parking at the back of the parking lot at work and walking to the building, or you may find that going for a walk at lunchtime helps. Running or taking up something more energetic, such as CrossFit, can be helpful at helping you rid those angry feelings.
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Why are you angry? Try to identify the cause of your anger. What is it that makes you feel this way? Is it a messy home that you can't keep up with, or are you taking on too much at work? Or possibly you may just not be feeling appreciated. Identify the root of your anger and then figure out a way to improve the situation.
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Meditation and relaxation skills Both of these can help you reduce your stress and anger. Meditating allows you to drive those angry feelings away. By learning relaxation skills, you'll find that you can deal with tricky situations in a much better way Expressing your anger. What we mean here is to express your anger in a positive way. Don't just jump to conclusions and let your frustrations loose on the closest person. Think about why you're angry and then express this in an adult and positive manner. If someone's making you feel this way, tell them, without hurting their feelings or making them mad in return. By using these five tips on a regular basis, you can learn how to effectively reduce your anger.
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While most people like to say they can control their temper, it's still easy to allow your temper to get the better of you. Use the following suggestions to help get your anger under control for good. How many times have you blamed others for your outbursts of temper? Frequently? No doubt A better recourse would be to start taking responsibility for your own actions. You were the one that allowed the outburst to happen, so don't blame another party. Instead, evaluating the situation can also help you learn to control your temper. For example, if you didn't get that job promotion and are mad as hell about it, stop thinking about it and start evaluating the situation. Why is it that you didn't get the promotion? Write down your answers and then look at what actionable steps you can take to have a better chance next time around.
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Learning helpful relaxation techniques is another way to control your feelings. Get into the habit of counting to 10 and taking deep breaths before reacting in any way positive or negative. Determine what the consequences will be for your actions. Then decide if you're willing to risk it by an impulsive outburst or reaction. Your parents probably told you to think before you speak when you were a child. Important words to heed when it comes to anger issues. Confiding in one person can also be a good way to deal with your anger. Instead of letting everyone in the office know that you're mad about something, share this information with just one person that you can trust. This way, your feelings are not common knowledge and you're not likely to damage your relationship with your co-workers.
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Exercising can also help you get your temper under control. If you really feel pent up and angry, then try some form of aggressive sport. Boxing, martial arts and even strenuous exercises such as running and crossfit can be helpful. They can help reduce stress and tension in your body and calm your mind. If you still can't pinpoint the source of your anger or are having difficulty coping, then it may be time to seek professional help. Sometimes a childhood event can be the root cause and is hidden deep within your subconscious. Once it's uncovered, you'll have the tools to learn how to deal with it and your anger successfully.
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Anger Pros and Cons. Everyone out there has experienced anger at one time. Quite often getting angry is a negative experience, but that doesn't mean it always is Just like most things in life. Anger isn't all negative or all positive. It occupies the gray area between each extreme.
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The negative effects of anger are well known. To rehash, some of the main problems with getting angry are 1. It can actually make you sick. Getting angry sets off many of the same effects as stress. When you're angry, your stress hormone, cortisol, is activated and some experts claim this hormone is linked to all sorts of negative outcomes. Duke University researcher Redford Williams has found that anger can even negatively affect your cardiovascular system.
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Two, it can ruin your relationships. No one wants to spend time with someone who's angry too often. If you have an anger issue, it'll become an issue in your social life. Friends will be less willing to spend time with you. If your anger problem isn't dealt with, your friends and family could even come to fear you. Three it can impair your judgment.
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When you're angry, you may not make good decisions. A high level of emotion might lead you to making wrong and potentially dangerous choices. The positive effects of anger aren't quite as apparent. We don't often associate anger with good outcomes. That said, there are a couple of benefits of anger that stand out. One anger can mobilize you. Sometimes, a little bit of anger is all we need to get off our butt and do something.
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Many important events in history were ignited by anger. A more personal example have you ever worked extra hard at something just to prove your doubters wrong? That is anger in action. You are angry. They would doubt you, so you're motivated to prove them wrong. Anger is a clear expression. When you're angry, then people know it. This is a good thing. It can actually lead you to finding a solution to the problem that angered you in the first place. When you direct your anger towards someone, they now know there is an issue and, quite likely, what that issue is, you can then work on dealing with it.
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There's research showing that hiding anger in relationships can actually be detrimental. If people are making you angry and they don't know it, they will likely continue the behavior. Don't get it twisted the negative effects of anger probably outweigh the positive ones. That doesn't mean there's no place for anger in our lives. The key is to make sure that your anger isn't negatively affecting you or your social circle. Reducing anger in your life.
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Sometimes the cause of your anger can be staring you right in the face. As much as you hate to admit it, you're not happy with your current state of affairs and it's time to make some changes. Living with huge amounts of anger is not healthy and can lead to a variety of mental and physical issues. This can include stress, heart attacks, anxiety and depression, which, of course, can affect all members of your family too. Are you and your spouse having issues? This is often a root cause of anger in couples. If you find that you tend to fight or argue at night when discussing almost any issue, then try moving your discussion times to the morning. If problems are just not getting resolved, then it may be time to face the fact that your relationship just isn't working anymore. Maybe you need a change of environment, or it could be time to put an end to the relationship. Living in a bad relationship is not healthy for any of the parties involved. Your anger may stem from having a huge mortgage. It may be better to think about moving and downsizing to a smaller home or moving to a different location where housing prices are cheaper.
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You may hate the fact that some of the things your children are doing are making you boil. For example, their messy rooms may drive you mad every time you walk by them. Instead of letting it get to you, try closing the door so you don't see the mess. You don't really want to explode on your kids, do you? Other lifestyle issues that can increase your anger level are that of job-related stress. You work all day and then you know you have to come home to a busy house at night. The minute you walk through the front door, your kids bombard you with requests and then there's a dinner waiting to be cooked. Try this solution Tell your kids that the first 10 minutes when you come home is yours. You're not to be bothered unless it's for a total emergency. This 10 minutes allows you to get your thoughts in order, make a tea and just regroup after the stresses of work. Take a look at your lifestyle and see if you can identify what's triggering your anger, then look for ways to simplify it. Can you get help with making dinner, or is it time to sell your home and move to a new location?
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The trigger signs of anger Are you ever truly aware of what makes you burst into anger? One minute you're fine and the next you feel like you want to explode. Makes you burst into anger? One minute you're fine and the next you feel like you want to explode. There are actually warning signs which signal that you are feeling angry. Once you're aware of these, you can take steps to control and reduce your anger accordingly.
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Anger is a physical response that is perfectly normal and healthy. Everyone, at some point, experiences anger. What differs is the way each person responds to these feelings. Anger is known as one of the fight-or-flight responses. Your body goes into overdrive and you experience the feelings of either running from a situation or you may have the tendency to stay and fight it out. Each person will experience different triggers, and below are some of the most common ones that knotty feeling in the pit of your stomach, the onset of headaches, jaw clenching or hand clenching, rapid breathing, the need to start pacing around a tense body or sweating.
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As soon as you start experiencing any of these triggers, it's time to act on them in a good way. It's important to understand what triggered these emotions. Many times, it's what you think and not what really happened that's the cause of your feelings. Have you ever found yourself saying things like you never consider my feelings or it's not what I wanted? You may actually be jumping to conclusions. So our first word of advice is to not act instinctively. Instead, assess the situation and think before acting and speaking.
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Another cause of anger triggers can be found in your daily routine. Do you hate that commute to work each day? Do you find you always get angry while sitting with a certain group of people or a person? If so, look for ways to reduce these triggers. Can you carpool a couple of times a week so you aren't doing the driving all the time? Find other people to sit with at lunchtime, if possible, or go for a walk to reduce the amount of time spent with them. The next time you start experiencing any of these trigger signs of anger, know them for what they really are. Your body is triggering a natural response, so look for a healthy way to deal with the situation. Maybe walking away is better than staying to fight your body language and your anger.
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Did you know that your body language can often display your anger before you do so verbally? While you may know this, it's a fact that's often overlooked by many, which is why it's important to understand what nonverbal communication is and how it can affect your relationships. How many times have you stopped speaking to someone because they ticked you off? Lots, probably. This is a classic sign of nonverbal communication. Other signs of nonverbal communication include the amount of eye contact you make with someone, your gestures, how you sit or stand, how close you position yourself to someone and how loud you speak. Have you ever been accused of sending mixed signals to someone? This is when what you say and your actions just do not match, so the person on the other end is totally confused and are unsure of how you really feel. Plus, this can also lead to people not trusting you, as you never mean what you say.
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If you tend to be more of an angry person, then you may often make sharp gestures, talk loudly and prefer to sit alone. If you're in a relationship, this is only going to send negative vibes to the other person. You need to learn how to reduce your non-verbal communication by improving your actions first. This can be done by learning to speak in a softer tone of voice, by sitting closer to your partner and making eye contact. Learn to control your gestures by not flinging your arms around or talking with your hands. Many people are guilty of this without even realizing it. You may want to practice in front of a mirror. Then you can see if you tend to shift from leg to leg or if your arms move around like crazy. Maybe you always look down at the ground when speaking. These are all items that can be improved on with a little practice. Once you have this under control, you'll not come across as an angry person all the time. You may find that you even feel less angry yourself. It's amazing that you can feel angry just because you know people perceive you in this way. Keep in mind that showing your anger is not always done with words, but by your body language as well. Improving your body language will ultimately help you feel less likely to speak out in anger unnecessarily.
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Use positive thinking to reduce anger. Feeling angry is actually a healthy and natural response to certain events. These events can be ones that are caused by your surroundings, such as missing your bus or flight, or they can be ones that are caused by your surroundings, such as missing your bus or flight, or they can be caused by events that have happened to you at an earlier date or by events that are happening in your personal life. Your body goes through a whole slew of changes when you become angry. Your blood levels rise, your heart rate increases, as do your hormone and adrenaline levels. Demonstrating anger at certain times is appropriate and has been inbred in humans as a survival instinct.
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When you or your family are threatened, you react out of anger. Who isn't going to defend themselves when necessary? Problems occur in the way that you react to certain situations? If your child is hurt, then your reaction is going to be more severe than when arguing with a co-worker. If your child is hurt, then your reaction is going to be more severe than when arguing with a co-worker. Unfortunately, these extremes or responses are not always appropriate. You may find that you totally lose it with a co-worker instead of attempting to just talk things out. When this happens, then you know you have an anger management issue and should take steps to rectify it.
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One way to do this is by using positive thinking. Try to look at what you can learn from a situation and how to handle it in a better way. If a particular person is making you angry, try to think about them in a more positive light. Don't just focus on what it is that makes your anger boil. Look for their good points instead. Maybe they're great with a software program, even though they have a bad attitude problem.
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One way to improve the way you think is to start using positive affirmations on a daily basis. Quite often, it's the way you view a situation that is the cause of your anger, and not the actual situation itself. You may just be feeling stressed out and tired, and this brings out your bad side. Make a point of making some personal time for yourself. This can include scheduling in exercise time, time for meditation or for taking a relaxing bath at nighttime. The next time you react in an angry manner, take a deep breath and think before you act. Ask yourself if your reaction is justified or not. Then look for a way to handle the situation in a more positive way.