In this epic solo episode, Brendan asks you to take a walk to the unknown (unless it's Denny's) . Brendan dives deep and goes all in on:
RESOURCES
Brendan Fitzgibbons
Joe Dispenza on The Unknown Never Letting Him Down
The Wisest Trader Joe's Employee in History
The Hottest Sex Scene According to a Man
In this epic solo episode, Brendan asks you to take a walk to the unknown (unless it's Denny's) . Brendan dives deep and goes all in on:
RESOURCES
Brendan Fitzgibbons
Joe Dispenza on The Unknown Never Letting Him Down
The Wisest Trader Joe's Employee in History
The Hottest Sex Scene According to a Man
Okay, so a lot has been said about the differences between men and women, and I think none are more apparent than when each are describing their idea of a great sex scene. I was recently in a documentary that was tracing, that my friend T. T. Lee made, that's tracing the history of sex scenes in movies, and one woman was like, oh my god.
The hottest sex scene ever is in Atonement. James McAfoy, Keira Knightley, he just takes her into a library, right? And he just pushes her up against books. She's just surrounded by literature. pages of books are just falling. [00:01:00] First bound to leather bound editions.
of literature, these wonderful pages filled with knowledge and romance and he just traipses his hand up her thigh and oh my god the books and the literature you ever ask a guy what his idea of a favorite sex scene is he's like yeah man it was so hot she was breathing Yeah, they were in a, they were in a golden corral, I think?
Or it could have been a dumpster. Either way, it was so hot. Welcome everybody to a brand new episode of Spiritual Asshole. I am your host, so much for joining me. I'm here as always with Willoughby T. Fitzgibbons. He just got all of his vaccines. We went to Petco, where they gave him the Bordetello shot, where they have to shoot something in his mouth.
And it's cool, we had to have three people tie him down, cover a shot in peanut butter, and look like we were putting him in a straitjacket in a mental hospital. I'm fine! I'm fine with it. Thank you as always for being here. Please continue to hit me up on Instagram. And it's at the underscore Brenna Fitzgibbons.
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How about that? We'll see you Thank you so much for being here. I have a lot to share with you. As always, I have a lot of thoughts and my thoughts are have less thoughts. No, I have so much I want to share with you guys because I think I've really found some pretty awesome breakthroughs recently. And I've probably said this in a lot of episodes of this podcast, but these are some very helpful tips and very helpful things to think about.
So it's all coming together as it always does. And I've said before in this podcast, and I'll say again, Your entire life is a mirror to your inner world, period. Whatever is going on inside of you is always [00:03:00] mirrored back to you. For example, today I was like, I'm going to go to this very awesome gas station because the gas is so cheap.
Hell yeah. I go pay for this gas. I'm so jacked. I get a Gatorade. I'm really hot. It's 95 degrees out here. I just leave. Don't use the gas at all circle around someone already used my free gas, and I was like well fuck me This is when I saw inner work starting to work for me because I started spiraling out And then I was like you know what let me rephrase this reframe this I just paid for somebody's gas And that's cool side note if anybody sees a car that looks like it has free gas in it feel free to throw things at That car.
Thank you. Anyways. It's oftentimes. We measure Massive success we measure growth sometimes into whether or not we're succeeding in the areas of our life that we want to grow. I know I do this. I know I do it. Relationships, finances, career. But sometimes it's really those moments that you can really measure growth.
So I want everyone to already think about that. If you're handling things better, if you're [00:04:00] moving and grooving with life, you're not stopping it with resistance and you're accepting what's coming to you. You're in a really good place. So let's get into it. This is exciting because today's guest is me, Brendan Fitzgibbons.
Hi, how are you? And I have so much I want to talk to you guys about. I would also like to do an episode coming up where you guys just ask me questions. So feel free to send me questions. I would love to talk about them. Send them to me on Instagram at the underscore Brendan Fitzgibbons. Okay, I have very much been on the tip that, if you've been following the last couple episodes, that a majority of the reason why people's lives sometimes feel like they're repeating over and over again is because we're letting our subconscious programming take over.
I will speak for myself, for sure, that Specifically lately in my life, I would say the last three or four years, it's often felt like kind of Groundhog Day for me. There's been some amazing moments. I've been very grateful for some really exciting things that happened, but sometimes my life has felt very repetitive and even going back and making same patterns and choices.
Like why do I still [00:05:00] sometimes buy cereal and milk when I'm not a 12 year old and I know it's going to make me sick and I'll just stand in my corner of my kitchen and eat 12 boxes and call it a night. Why do I do that? Why do I continue to look back in my relationships? Why am I doing this? Why am I not able to sustain a consistent pattern of abundance?
so ask these questions for yourself if you want to find out some growth. So if you're continually making the same choices over and over again, despite what you might want, I would argue that it's because your subconscious programming is taking over. There's nothing wrong with you. You're not doing anything wrong.
It's literally there to protect you because it is safe, right? So let's break this down into the known and the unknown, and I'll get to why it is known that the choices you have made in the past have kept you safe so far. You're alive. And by safe, I mean, alive, that's the literal. definition of how I'm saying safety.
I don't mean rich, I certainly don't mean happy, and I don't [00:06:00] mean healthy necessarily. Alive. That's all the only stipulation for how your brain sees these, sees these things. You're alive. So according to your brain, it's safer for you to continue to make these choices because you're alive. You are in the known, and that's 95 percent of your life.
But here's where the really good news starts coming in. If you're able to separate yourself out from that state, separate yourself out from the state of continually habituating patterns and subconscious programming, and you do that by meditating, you do that by expressing a lot of positive affirmations, gratitude, and gratitude.
Dancing, creativity, doing new things, and traveling. Okay, think about this. Let's use this as a really good example. You guys have all probably traveled, right? For the most part, it's safe to say, especially when you're in a foreign country, because I know I've felt this a lot, whenever you're in a foreign country, don't you feel a little bit more open than you normally do?
Don't you feel a little bit more [00:07:00] cool with what's going on? Don't you feel that just a little bit, right? Well, the reason is, is because your subconscious programming is not taking over. You are now in a state of embracing the unknown. When I was in Vienna for five and a half months, everything was unknown.
I had no patterns. I couldn't understand people. Everybody was speaking German. Everybody was smoking cigarettes inside. It's a lovely place. know your country's awesome when you're smoking cigarettes in the ICU.
so, for me, when I'm in or vacation mode. When people are in vacation mode, we're always like, why is this so fun? Yes, you don't have responsibilities, but I would argue that it's deeper than responsibilities. It's your programming is not taking over. You're in the unknown, okay? So, the Joe Dispense the Breathing Technique, which I've been doing a lot lately, has been Literally, he says in the middle of it, like, don't let your body be your mind.
and free yourself from the chains of the past. Okay, so now let's get into that. The reason why you are in your [00:08:00] subconscious programming is because you are thinking of the past, because that's what kept you safe up until this point. And of course, as I'm thinking all of this, I see, boom, a video pop up on my YouTube.
It's Joe Dispenza talking to Rainn Wilson, and it said, The unknown has never let me down. So here's Joe Dispenza explaining why the unknown has never let him down. The only thing I can assure you of is this, the unknown has never let me down. I also want to say that I really love the quote that says, When you are in the sweet spot of the generous present moment.
So how do those two things tie into the work that you're doing? here's a simple example. Um, most people, you know, the brain is a record of the past. It's an artifact of everything we've learned and experienced to this moment. And so memories are primarily the storehouse of what the neocortex holds, right?
So, um, Most people wake up in the morning and the first thing they do is they think about their problems. Yeah. And those problems are memories that are etched in the brain that are connected to certain [00:09:00] people and certain things and certain times and places. So theoretically, the moment they remember their problems, they're thinking in the past.
Memory is the past, right? And since every one of those problems has an emotion associated with it, The moment they feel unhappy, the moment they feel frustrated, the moment they feel resentful, the moment they feel fear, now the body's in the past. Thoughts are the language of the brain, feelings are the language of the body.
Thought and feeling, image and an emotion, stimulus and response, and you're literally unconsciously conditioning the body to become the mind of that emotion. The body will memorize that emotion, right? So, that is the familiar past, that's the known. And so then, the body's so objective, as we said earlier, when it's living by that emotional state, it does not know the difference between the real life experience that created that emotion, and the real life experience of that emotion.
And the emotion that person's fabricating by memory alone. For that person, their body's in the past. Their body's literally in the past and it's going to cause them to feel certain emotions from the [00:10:00] past, to habituate and behave like they're in the past, and to remember and think that they're in the past.
Okay, so that's the known. And so then, if you can't think greater than how you feel or feelings have become the means of thinking you're thinking in the past, don't expect your life to change. Get up and run through a series of routine behaviors. Get out of bed on the same side, stretch the same way, go down to the toilet, use it the same way, go to the coffee maker, then go to the shower, then get dressed, and then eat breakfast in the same seat, then drive to work and do the same things.
you do that for five years now, your body is on autopilot, and it's taking you into that predictable future. A predictable future is the known, right? You can, you can predict a person's day by watching their last day, right? So, so now we lose that free will to a set of programs, and that predictable future is Is also the known.
Okay. So if the familiar past is the known and the predictable future is the known, there's only one place where the unknown exists. And that's the sweet spot of the generous present moment, right? And so to labor [00:11:00] See how he did that? He brought it all together. Look at that. To labor for the present moment.
Takes an enormous amount of awareness or consciousness. In other words, not going unconscious. Right. An enormous amount of energy when your body wants to get up. And you have to work in training the animal, right? So that, that unknown happens to be when we see the greatest amount of changes that take place in the brain.
The brain reboots. And it gets highly coherent. And the energy builds in the brain. Right. And the person is dissociated from anything known in their life, any person, any object, anything, any place. And we call that moment the sweet spot because that's the moment you're nobody. You don't even know where that you have a body.
You're no one, you're not, you're not your identity, you're not your personality, you're not, you're not thinking of anybody in your, any person in your life, you're not thinking of your cell phone, your car, you're, you're nothing, you're in nowhere, you're in no time, that, that is when you're pure consciousness, and that is kind of the door out of this three dimensional reality, that is the door to the unknown, that's where you [00:12:00] are.
all possibilities. You know, the eternal present moment. There's so many biological effects that take place when a person's in that state between their heart and their brain, between the energy that the cell emits. I could go on. the person for the first time is not afraid of the unknown.
You know, when we're living in stress and living in survival, the unknown, you run from it. Better chances of survival. That's kind of, that's kind of programmed into our biology. So now you're in the unknown and nothing dangerous happens to you. Right? And you labor for that present moment, and what happens is the person can actually relax into the present moment in that unknown, and when nothing happens, they kind of broaden their, their, their prison to be more present, and it's a skill.
That the more you practice it, the better you get at it. So why is that important? Because you know when someone's present with you in your life because they're paying attention to you. You know when your 19 year old kid is not present with you because he's not paying attention to you. Okay, well, if you're really going to create something new, you cannot [00:13:00] create from the known.
You got to get in the unknown. You got to be able to be comfortable there without a name, without a face, without a weight, without a diet, without a profession. You got to linger. as pure consciousness, and we all have that ability. That door, then, is where infinite possibilities exist. That's when people start creating, right, right in that moment. Holy turkey! Holy Toledo! Holy shit! That was so good, okay? So it's like this insane juxtaposition of your brain where it's both trying to keep you from the unknown, But the unknown is the thing that is ultimately going to lead you to the most mental freedom, and expansion, right?
So, think about this. Whenever somebody has depression, and I think I said this last week, or they're sad, what do they say? It seems like nothing's changing, it seems like my life feels like Groundhog Day. How many times have you run into people and they say, Same shit, different day, or nothing new. Uh, same shit.
People always say same shit. The only reason why they're saying same shit, different day is because they're a disgruntled 55 year old father in a steel mill in [00:14:00] Staten Island. No, it's because they're thinking of the past in order for your day to keep repeating. You have to continually be thinking about the past and you have to continually be letting your subconscious programming run the show.
So this all ties in together so amazingly. So what Bruce Lipton said when I saw him is like, One way to not do that, to bypass your subconscious programming, is to fall in love. And think about what happens when you fall in love, right? Everything in your life becomes richer. Everything. Food. Restaurants.
Hootie and the Blowfish. Parking tickets. You're like, that's cute. Things that would normally piss you off, you don't care about anymore. I have experienced this a few times in my life. It's so profoundly true. And all of these walls, and all of these things that are holding us back, or saying that we can't do it because it's unsafe, they dissipate, and then just love flows in.
Okay? So what [00:15:00] changed? Not your circumstances, your perspective, and what you're focusing on. Changed and love is the most powerful frequency. So you might say, well, Brendan, I can't fall in love. I have a husband. I hate And I would say you can fall in love with life and let me talk to you about Kristen Helmstetter who is amazing and She wrote coffee self talk.
She's been on this podcast and she was really struggling I literally told Kristen this in a voice memo recently. I was like I think that you started thriving because you fell in love with life. And she did. She literally brainwashed herself with positive affirmations, causing her to fall in life, fall in love with life, causing her to go into the unknown.
Cause when you're in these heightened states of love, joy, compassion, you're stepping out of your programming, you're stepping out of Groundhog Day. I'd also say another way to do this is by doing a courageous thing. Or doing things that you're not used to doing. Please see the Truman Show. [00:16:00] The only way that Truman is ever able to leave the Truman Show is because he faces his fear of the water.
And he literally busts down a fucking door. God bless that movie a thousand times. I love you. Okay, right, so, if you're able to do that, more and more and more, every single day, you're gonna start to see that the subconscious limitations of your own brain are not real, and they never needed to be there in the first place.
This is not necessarily easy and I'm not saying it is, but this is like totally flipped my perspective on self help and wellness. Like. I used to be a big manifestation guy, and I still think there's value to it. Or a big like technique guy. And I still think there's value to it. But the truth is all you need to do is to find coherence between your subconscious mind and your conscious mind.
So you can step out into the unknown or into what Bruce Lifton calls the creation zone stepped into this beautiful place that. Anything is possible, specifically if you want to go into the quantum field. If you want to get real [00:17:00] technical about it, the field is where all things are happening. It's real.
It's the realest thing in the world. It's how anything happens in the world. And you can do this by visualization. You can do this by stepping in, like all of the other things that I've talked about in this podcast, living in the end, quantum jumping, there are just all ways to get you into this new creative state.
Like if you walked around all day and you're like, I'm the best author in the world. What I would say is eventually you're going to take yourself into the creation zone, especially if you're practicing every day and you're stepping out of the shitty subconscious programming, not all subconscious programming is shitty, by the way.
I mean, fuck, Efron. I'm sure his programming is like, God, I'm fucking hot. Why is my chest always covered in grease? as much as like, I want to improve things in my life, I have a lot of good things that are going really well on autopilot.
I recently asked a group of kids that I was teaching how old they thought, they all said 28, I was like, God bless you. I love you kids. Thank you so much. Anyways, So, why is this important? Why is it important to step into the creative zone? More and more and more and more. [00:18:00] It's because you're able to take the focus off of you.
So this all ties in so fucking good. Because this also coincides with what David Behrs talks about being in a primal state. I forgot the other one, or it's like creative state. Okay, so it's two things. So primal state is like, you're in full fight or flight mode. It describes almost everybody in New York City on the R train.
You're literally like, running around, scurrying like a rat, I'm late to this, I'm late to that. You're monkey minding it. And what happens when you do that, is your whole life is passing by you. And instead of focusing on creation. Which is expansion. By the way, when you fall in love and you're in this creative zone, you're fucking open, man.
You are wide open to everything, because you're not being held back by anything. You are so wide open that so many things are possible, you can see it all. But when you're in fight or flight or freeze, it's like you can only see three [00:19:00] inches in front of your face. And dude, I'm telling you, from the hardest core experience.
And I could still get there. I catch myself now doing it. Like when I fucking go into fight or flight, I do all of these shitty habits that I hate that I do. and like, I'm embarrassed to even say them, like, eating shitty food, texting, like, women, worrying about money non stop until, like, I'm spinning out completely.
Things that I don't really want to be doing, drinking, because I'm so, like, fuck, I just have to survive, right? But the truth is, I'm fine. But my energy system does not think I'm fine. So we have to leave that state. And the worst part of it is in that state, you don't have access to the creative ideas that will actually spring you to the next level.
Anyways, it will, you don't have access to like, The love that you can share to a stranger that if you felt so full like people want to know why I love mushrooms It's [00:20:00] because I feel all of this on mushrooms It feels like so expansive and all I want to do is love people so if the byproduct the side effects of a drug is Love everyone I told you guys this story You got to go back but Mushrooms with andrea for the first time like a year and a half ago Dude, I went up to a barista, I stared at him, and I just go, You're so good at your job.
And it like, shot through him like a bullet. And the thing is, is like, I already think these things, but because my programming, if it's in fight or flight, that dude doesn't even exist. In that moment because I'm so obsessed with myself and I don't know about you I am fucking tired of thinking about myself And if you're like, well, you should be a father or whatever.
It's because you have this career I would argue then a lot of people are just transferring all that worry fight or flight onto those things So that's also not cool either, but I've been doing this more sober I've been doing it more expansive, and I believe that you can do it with this Joe [00:21:00] Dispenza technique because I have been doing it, which is completely sober.
what am I telling you guys? I'm telling you to run out and immediately fall in love with the first person you see. I don't give a shit if it's a bus driver in Staten Island. A lot of New York references today. So, if you don't believe me, or if this is still a confusing thing, And if you still want to evidence that all of life is a mirror, I'm thinking all of these thoughts.
And three days ago, my friend Natasha sends me the following video on social media. Here is a Trader Joe's employee on a podcast talking about the one thing he noticed about human beings. Is there a common thread that you have found among both the customers and your coworkers? Yeah. Do you want to tell me what that is?
The faster you're moving, the more you're in fear. And the more you're in fear, the more you're thinking about yourself. And the more you're thinking about yourself, the less compassion and kindness you have for others. So if you want, there's no, there's no, there's no love and hurried and stressed, and the more that you're hurrying and the more that you're stressing, the more that you're missing the [00:22:00] magic.
There's nowhere to go we got a we got a meat car you can go left you can go right you can go forward you can Go backwards, but your DNA is gonna tap out between 80 and 120 years And while you're here on earth in this body, you got nowhere to go chill out and fucking love your moments So, what did you eat before?
Yeah, I Had that thing I told you about the chana mosello with the rice cake out of them Sprinkle a little something extra in there. There's no I'm just completely We're high on life, baby. Okay, I just love that he also plugged the Trader Joe's item. He's like, no, nothing, man. I just have these delicious Trader Jose tacos.
But do you see what I'm saying? And also, like, isn't that the best person to ask that question to? I would say people are pretty nice in Trader Joe's, but maybe somebody at, like, the DMV. But that guy sees humanity at, like, its corest form. And I think about how many times in New York I ran around like a chicken with its head cut off because I felt like I had to take care of my SHIT.
Meanwhile, your whole life is passing by in front [00:23:00] of you. But it's it's not your fault, and it's all good. And it's just because, like I said, it's like you put on people talk about beer goggles, right? You're putting on stress goggles. You're saying that I am in this state of stress, so everything around me that I see is going to be stressed out.
But if you were to zoom out a little bit, even today, I was supposed to meet the lovely Sierra Payton to get our camera equipment for our shoot. I was 20 minutes late, and I found myself being like, I can't be 20 minutes late. I can't be. That's 20 minutes. I can't. And then I was like, hold on, does this fucking matter?
Will you ever think about this again? This is something I think I've thought about a lot when I start freaking out about something. Will you ever think about this again? The answer is never. I do not remember a single time I was late to anything in my life and I have been fucking late. Okay? Okay, that's not true.
I was late to one Dave Matthews concert. My friend Murph was so pissed at me. Sorry, bro. Under the Table and Dreaming Forever, great album. But I hope that this is helpful for you. That what I basically [00:24:00] all I'm saying is like getting into a relaxed state Where you're able to settle into appreciation. It benefits everyone.
Okay, and here's another great thing I heard that I like to share with you guys That's very helpful because I talk a lot on this podcast about limiting beliefs how it's driving your whole life better for worse I've been doing a great super conscious five day challenge with Chris Duncan. He's kick ass.
He's Australian. He's got red hair He seems like a jolly good time. Everybody in Australia is either a jolly good time or a raging alcoholic Sometimes they're both and I love I love both of them. I love both Chris said the following thing You He goes, okay, because he's all about tapping into your super conscious mind, reprogramming, but he's also doing it in like a really cool, different way.
And he was debunking some myths about self help. He said the following thing, okay? This was so inspiring. Raise your hand if you sometimes forget the phone number to one of your friends. Raise your hand if you're at a party, you meet someone, and you immediately forget their name. Raise your hand if you forget the lyrics to a song.
And he goes, great. If your brain can forget [00:25:00] those things, it can forget your limiting beliefs. Boom! Some of the best news I've ever heard in my entire life. So today's big message for everybody is to step out a little bit into the unknown. And if you're dragging your feet on anything, which we all are to some degree at times, I certainly have.
Just know, it's your subconscious programming saying that the unknown is not safe. But just keep remembering and saying this to yourself, the unknown has never let me down. I had to do like three sort of courageous phone calls today that I didn't want to do. And I felt better after every one I did.
The unknown has never let me down. Step into that place that you are not familiar with. Step outside of all of these lines and boundaries that you have set for yourself or the world has set for you. And it's okay. Because on the other side of that is just bliss and expansion. Which seems pretty good. I hope you guys have a fantastic week.
We'll be back with a guest next [00:26:00] week. She's fantastic. She'll be talking about parts work therapy, which I really like to talk about. hit me up with any guest recommendations as well. I believe all your dreams can come true. I believe there's so much love here for you. I believe on the other side of the known is the greatest opportunity for your life.
Have the best week.